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She Was Mine, a Child, Lost in Time…

She was mine, a child, lost in time, and time has, its, death-grip around her throat, slowly, suffocating her, choking her, into that slow death.

She was mine, a child, lost in time, the one who’d, never had the chance of being “formed”, and yet, I still, loved (in the past), love (in the present tense!) her so very much, simply because, she was, mine, and there need not be, any other reasons.

She was mine, a child, lost in time, and, she’d, drowned slowly, in the river of time, and, there was, nothing I could do, but to, kneel by the riverbeds, and cried all my tears, and my tears, in turn, formed another, grander river, then the river of time, my child had been, drowned to death in.

She was mine, a child, lost in time, the one who’d, never made it, the one who’d been dead, way before her time! And, there was still, NOTHING I could’ve done, or can do about this death that I’d been carrying, since 2008………

She was mine, a child, lost in time, and, in lost time’s embrace, I know, she’ll, grow up safe and sound, and besides, it’s better, that my daughter stays DEAD, because this world is so full of FUCKING shit, and I surely as HELL wouldn’t want what had happened to me, to happen to her too!

She was mine, a child, lost in time, and, time shall, keep her safe and sound, untouched, and, she wouldn’t lose her innocence as I did, when I was, a very young child myself………

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Trump Stated that the School Teachers Should Start Carrying Guns, the Parents Were Angered by His Statements

The PRESIDENT of the U-N-I-T-E-D S-T-A-T-E-S, had BLURTED something OUT, without having the THOUGHT run through his HEAD again, I’m afraid!!! And he still couldn’t, make UP his mind of which side to STAND at!!! With MY opinions on the matter inputted, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

In the seventeen deaths middle school shooting in Florida on the fourteenth, President Trump saw about forty students, teachers and parents on the twenty-first, including the six survivors of the shooting. They’d begged Trump to “Do something about it”, to prevent similar cases from happening repeatedly in school, Trump promised to have the stricter background checks for gun purchases, and even brought up the thought, of having the school teachers armed, to have the teachers also carry guns in the classes, but last year, a parent of the student who’d died in the Florida middle school shooting rebutted, “How many students need to die under a gun?”

gettng questioned on the policies he set up for gun control, photo from online…

In this nearly one-hour long meeting, Trump was focused in listening to the demands of the students and parents saying how the security needs to be reinforced in the schools, how there needs to be more drills, and to up the age of buying the weapons too. But Trump replied as he had before, that he was for owning a gun, to protect the people themselves, to SHOOT the shooters first.

The student who’d died in the shooting, Pollack’s father, Drew told Trump, that his daughter got shot NINE times then died on the day, “That is why I’m here”, he’d asked Trump, “How many schools, how many students need to be under attack? This needs to stop now. If there’s no change, I won’t ever stop.”

Trump stressed, in the future, “We will do a very strict background check, and focus on the gun purchasers’ state of mind,” he’d also mentioned, that it’s needed, for some of the school teachers, to train to use a gun, to scare off the possible shooters.

Trump said, “If the school teachers have the licenses to carry the concealed weapons, then, they will be trained, especially, and there wouldn’t be a gun-free zone in the schools.” Trump believed, that banning all guns from the schools will only worsen the matter, he said, “the gun prohibited zones means, ‘let’s go in and shoot everybody inside’.”

查看來源圖片here’s one, have a LAUGH, everybody, found online…

Trump said, take for instance, the Florida middle school shooting, “if there was a teacher trained to use gun, then, it’s easy, to disarm the shooter quickly.” But Trump also admitted, that it’s debatable, the thought, of having the school teachers bear arms.

And so, here, you can see, how this is all, the American President’s one-man-SHOW, he’d stated an idea, and, someone from the audience (a parent whose child had died) challenged his thought, Trump fended for his idea, and, then agreed, with the parents’ views on how it wouldn’t be SOUND, having the school instructors armed. And from this, we can see??? How easily businessmen change their minds, and, how AWFUL it’s gonna get, for the LAND of the FREE, to live under, “King TRUMP”!!!

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Using Religion as an Excuse, Pulled His Wife Along, with His Arms Around His “Spare”, They’d Gone on a Trip Together

This man has the BALLS, I’ll give you that!  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Lu had an affair, he’d even set up so that his wife, and his spare, Hsu and he went together, on a worshipping trip; he’d lied to his wife, that Hsu was a coworker, and lied to Hsu about how his wife was his ex-wife, and, he was able to, get away.  Later on, Lu started becoming suspicious, and, his wife checked his cell, and found, that her husband was having an ongoing affair, and the other woman was pregnant, she sued her husband and Hsu for adultery.

As the Taipei District Attorney’s Office was investigating the details of the cases, Lu paid his wife, and she’d dropped the case against him, and, Hsu was found, to not known about Lu was already married, and yesterday, both of them got the charges dropped against them.

Lu who works in the transportation industry has a son with his wife, during 2013, he’d met Hsu, who was two years older than he, they became a couple; because of Lu’s job, he’d often taken Hsu out on trips, and, because they are both very religious, they’d gone to the temples.

At the start of last year, Lu took his wife and Hsu on a worshipping group trip, Lu lied to his wife about Hsu being his coworker, and his wife believed him, but, after that trip the three of them took together, Lu had found an assortment of excuses, to go to work early and to come home late, his wife realized that something wasn’t quite right, started zooming in on her husband’s whereabouts.

Last August, Lu’s wife snuck into her husband’s text message to his own mother, and it was about how he admitted to having a “spare wheel”, and she’d found another text of Hsu’s words of anger to her husband after they had a fight, it’d mentioned, “These two children are my pains forever, you wouldn’t know”, that, was when Lu’s wife realized, that the “coworker” her husband talks about was actually his whore.

As the D.A. prosecuted the case, Hsu admitted to having sex with Lu, but claimed that she didn’t know he was already married; Lu also told, that he didn’t tell Hsu that he was already married, and so, the D.A. believed, that there was no proof, of Hsu knowing, that Lu was already married.

Yeah, uh, you’ve GOT to be shitting me, right?  What the F***?  And this man still hid behind the BIG shield called “religion”, wow!  And, this still just shows, how BAD they can behave, IF we don’t keep them in check!

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Giving Them a False Alibi

You might think you’re helping them, by covering their asses, but, you’re not!

Giving them a false alibi, so they can all, get away, from committing their crimes.  Giving them a false alibi, you might think, that you’re just, doing what’s best for them, and, for the time being, it MIGHT seem that way, but, for the long run, you’re actions bear consequences you can’t even begin to imagine.

Giving them a false alibi, they’d already had their last strikes, and, you think, that you’re helping them, but, you’re actually HARMING them, by taking the RESPONSIBILITIES that they need to learn to shoulder up on their own.  Giving them a false alibi, you hoped, that it will help them behave better, that they’d learned, to NOT disappoint someone who cared so much about them, too much, that she was willing, to perjure oneself, to save them, but, you’re DEAD wrong!

Giving them a false alibi, you’re NOT only, NOT helping them, you’re actually HARMING them, more than you can imagine, what, do you think you’re teaching them, by covering them, giving them a false alibi?  You’re teaching them, that it’s okay to lie, to find holes in the system, to squeeze into, to get out, of being punished, and, in the long run, you’d hurt them, too much………

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Too Scared to Tell…

We were, too scared to tell the truth, because NOBODY’s gonna take our words over theirs, after all, they’re, respected, by the community, and, we’re, just nobodies…and besides, who’s gonna believe us?  They’d probably say, that we’re just, looking for attention is all, but, we really aren’t, it REALLY happened.

Too scared to tell, because he was in a position of power, and, he’d used that against her, he’d manipulated her into believing what’d happened, was ALL her fault, when he was, actually the one to blame.

Too scared to tell, that, was how she grew up, and, even though, she’s no longer threatened now, she still chose, to keep her lips sealed, because nobody’d believed her before, why should they start to believe her now?  Too scared to tell, it’s NO use, nobody CAN help her out, and so, she must, weather through the abuse from someone she trusted, with her life, and, the betrayals are not just from him to her, but also, from her, to herself as well…

Too scared to tell, as nobody had ever believed anything she told, from that very first time when her daddy came into her bedroom when she was in her younger years, she DID tell her mama, and, her mama didn’t believe her, and, when she’d told her mama again, her mama got real mad, and that, was how alone she’d felt growing up, and now, she’s all grown up, she’s still being victimized, as she’d learned, to become, helpless.

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She’d Murdered Her Own Mother, Gotten High on Drugs, in a Daze for Five Hours…Then, Turned Herself in, to the Police

From the Front Page Sections, a tragedy of a family, translated…

She was displeased at her mother’s words, “You had dragged me and your younger sister down with you”, after she’d murdered her mother, she’d told her younger sister, “You’re finally free”, her younger sister told, “We had a very unhappy childhood…”

A thirty-one year-old woman Pan in Kaohsiung, because she hadn’t gotten along with her own mother for long period of time, two afternoons, she’d bought a fruit knife, gone to her mother’s place, to confront her, Pan started stabbing her mother using the fruit knife twice on the right side of her mother’s neck, the fifty-three year-old mother died, had her throat slit.

After Pan had murdered her mother, she’d started using ketamine, and fell into a daze next to her mother’s corpse, and five hours later, she’d told her younger sister what she’d done, told her younger sister, “You’re now, delivered from pain”, and was accompanied by her sister, to turn herself in.  After the D.A.s interrogated her, they’d asked her to be taken into custody, which was approved.

The police investigated, that Pan had medical history of being diagnosed with bipolar, is currently unemployed, and got into a drug habit, lived with her mother, who has a mildly mental illness manual, also diagnosed with bipolar mother, and the two of them would argue a lot, over the smallest matters.  A week ago, after Pan had a verbal altercation with her mother, her mother kicked her out of the house, and changed the lock on the door, and so, Pan could only move in with her younger sister.

When the police interrogated her, Pan told them, that lately, her mother had come to her younger sister’s place to harass her, she’d gotten more and more furious, as she thought about it, two afternoons ago at five in the afternoon, she’d gone to the marketplace, bought a fruit knife, at close to six in the evening, she ran back to her mother’s house, after the mother opened the door, they’d started fighting again shortly; the mother just kept putting her down over, and over, and over, and cussed at her, “You are the one who was dragging both me and your younger sister down!”, in a moment of heated anger, she took out the knife, SLASHED her mother on the right side of her neck twice hard, her mother fell, and, blood came pouring out of her neck.

In the process of hacking up her own mother, she’d accidentally cut herself on the left side of her own palm, she’d dressed her own wound, and washed the knife off, sat on the chair next to her mother’s dead body, started using ketamine; she left, at around a little past ten in the evening, rode her motorcycle to her younger sister’s, she’d accompanied her mother’s corpse for almost five hours after she’d killed her.

The moment Pan saw her younger sister, she’d told her, “I’d saved you from your miseries!”, the sister became confused at what she meant, and, after she’d forced the truth out of her sister, she’d learned that her older sister had murdered her mother; after the younger sister consoled with her for an hour, Pan finally turned herself in to the police in the early morning hours.

The police investigated, that Pan had two prior records of domestic violence, four years ago, she’d injured her own mother with a knife, after the police were called, they’d reported the incident to the Department of Social Services; last year in September, Pan became verbally abusive toward her mother, the mother notified the police, but never got a restraining order.

The man in charge of the local borough said, that Pan’s parents were divorced when she was young, eleven years ago, her mother moved into the borough with her, and back then, Pan still had a job, but five years ago, she got fired, and took to drug abuse, and, that, was when everything started going south; because neither the mother and her had work, they’d lived off of the mother’s handicap payments by the government, as well as her younger sister’s support, and the two of them would often argue about money, and, every time when the mother was unhappy, she’d kicked her daughter out.

The police disclosed, that because Pan didn’t have any money, she’d often starved, in the first half of March, she’d once taken a knife, to rob a super convenience store, called, “I’m going to ROB you!”, begged the cashiers to call it in, because she wanted to be on the “free meal plans of jail”.

After the incident, Pan’s younger sister didn’t blame her, and, toward the inquiries of the outside, she’d started crying, told, that her mother had been emotionally unstable for long term, would kick the doors down, and use verbal insults on the two of them a lot, that they had a very unhappy childhood, “Nobody would kill her/his mother without reasons at all.”, this was all too painful, for her older sister too.

The coroner examined, that the cause of Pan’s mother’s death was from the loss of too much blood of the severing of her right carotid, as well as her windpipes.

And so, she finally CRACKED, and, this, is still a BUILD-UP over time, and, because the woman was high on drugs, she’d become impulsive, and, unable to judge her own behaviors, and this, could’ve been avoided, had someone STEP in earlier, but, it wasn’t, because this had gone on, for WAY too long, and this time, the woman finally CRACKED!!!

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The Rent-a-Pet Program

Let me put on my “salesman” outfit here, wait for it…wait for it…okay, now I’m dressed for the “occasion”…

The Rent-a-Pet program, you’re allowed to, get a firsthand experience of what it would be like, to have a pet around your house, with NO need to commit, until they (the pets) die.

And, I have a feel, that this, would be a program that’ll gain widened popularity in the world, as the modern man’s souls become more and more empty, and, people more often than not are returning home, to an empty house, with absolutely NO source of life there, now, imagine, for one bit, if, you can have someone (fine, it’s a some THING), eager for you to come home, something that’ll welcome you, maybe, even bring you your slippers, why not, but, you’re still NOT sure, if this, is the sort of a long-term commitment that you want to have?  That’s fine too, our program allows you to take a pet home, on a trial basis, and, you don’t even have to pay, for the first two weeks, just provide the food for the pets, and, if, at the end of those two weeks you’re still not wanting to keep the pets we’d lent to you, you can then, bring ‘em all back in, and, we’ll “dispose” of them for ya!

Uh, you’ve GOT to be SHITTING me, right, and, don’t TELL me, that some of you out there are actually, BUYING into THIS sort of shit, and yet, in order to fit to the needs of modern day man, some countries (still NOT naming names here though…) are offering SUCH a BULLSHITTING service to its citizens, can you believe it???

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Legalizing the Abandonment of Newborn Infants

You DO realize, now, this, is THE BIGGEST “HOLE” in the government systems, that allows those god DAMN parents, to abandon their young with absolutely NO legal consequences, right???  And tell that you don’t think this, is too MESSED UP!!!  From Yahoo!.com

Washington (AFP) – It could easily be mistaken for a mailbox, except that one side of it is riddled with air holes.

It’s a “baby box” — for parents who wish to anonymously give up their newborns.

About a dozen European countries, as well as China, Japan, Malaysia and South Korea already use similar systems.

Indiana could be the first US state to install them, but the plan is facing stiff opposition from those who say it could keep the mother from receiving needed medical care.

“No shame, no blame, no names,” said Monica Kelsey, a firefighter and medic who heads Safe Haven Baby Boxes.

Indiana already has a Safe Haven law allowing parents to anonymously leave their children at a hospital, fire station or police station.

But state representative Casey Cox, who drafted baby box legislation that was passed by the Indiana House of Representatives and awaits a vote in the state Senate, noted that parents were sometimes “unaware” of the safe havens.

“The sheer anxiety of the face-to-face interaction required by an existing safe haven may cause some troubled parents to refuse to utilize the program,” said Cox, a Republican.

Kelsey, who worked with Cox on the bill, sees the boxes as an “extension” of the Safe Haven law. Her mother, a rape victim, abandoned her at a hospital.

The law’s proponents promise that the boxes will be climate-controlled, and be equipped with an alarm system so that the abandoned baby can quickly receive care.

Cox also said that his proposed baby boxes are an “alternative to abandonment and abortion,” fiercely opposed by conservatives.

But others say the legislation would create an unsettling precedent.

– Reinforced ‘shame’ –

“Baby boxes remove the chance for a mother to be offered medical care and supportive services,” said Dawn Geras, the president of Save Abandoned Babies, which is based in neighboring Illinois

“About 25 percent of parents who come to a safe haven, initially planning to use the Safe Haven law, when given the opportunity to talk about options, chose to either make an adoption or parenting plan.”

According to Geras, “safe haven” laws passed across the country since 1999 have helped save some 2,866 babies, including 1,324 that were abandoned.

By leaving their child in a box, the parents also lack the comfort of placing the baby in someone’s arms.

“Instead, the idea that what she is doing is ‘bad’ and something that she should feel ashamed about is reinforced,” Geras added, referring to any mother who leaves her child.

– Historical precedent –

The practice of abandoning the youngest children was common during the Middle Ages in Europe. It largely disappeared in the 19th century, but resurfaced in Germany in 1999, after babies were found frozen to death.

In France, where abandoning children is illegal, women can give birth anonymously and surrender the baby to the state.

Laury Oaks, who chairs the Department of Feminist Studies at the University of California Santa Barbara, says instead of heralding baby boxes as a solution, governments should attack the underlying problems.

“It is our political and social responsibility to reveal and eliminate the social injustices that coerce some women and girls to relinquish the right to raise their newborns or to ever have future contact with them,” Oaks, author of the upcoming book “Giving Up Baby,” wrote in a blog post.

Oaks said by trumpeting baby boxes as a step forward, the “underlying anti-abortion and pro-adoption views held by vocal safe haven advocates” are downplayed.

She suggested that one should “critically question the safe haven assumption that a good mother relinquishes her newborn anonymously as an act of maternal love.”

The United Nations has also expressed concern over the baby box practice, and asserted a child’s right to know its origins.

This, is just another way of giving those “two consenting ADULTS” who’d FUCKED, to have the reasons, to NOT take the FULL responsibilities for their own FUCKED up behaviors, and, I do NOT care, IF you think, that this will eliminate the number of fetuses getting ABORTED, or that it could appease to the Catholics, or whatever, this will BE an excuse, for those IRRESPONSIBLE parents, to keep popping ‘em out, like how rabbits DO it, and that, is just, WRONG, if you ask me, but hey, WHO asked me, right???  Uh-huh, uh-huh (looking DOWN at my watch, uh, yeah, as IF I’m wearing one!!!), oopsy, that’s ALL the time “we” have right now, feel free to SCHEDULE ANOTHER session with my secretaries outside (my big office???), you DO know them (my secretaries???), right?  Ms. B(eelzebub), Ms. S(atan), and, Ms. L(ucifer), and, currently, they’re taking EIGHT hour shifts sitting OUTSIDE this “office” of mine, and, I still don’t NEED to PAY any of those “ladies”, “they” work for me, for F-R-E-E!!!

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You Shouldn’t Have Any Romanticisms Toward Alzheimer’s Disease

From the Front Page Sections, translated…

Forget all the pains, to restart again in life?

The film, “I Miss Myself”, because the actress won the best actress of Oscar, it’d left a huge impact and after effect, a lot of older men and women headed off into the theatres to watch, causing the sales of this movie to continue to rise, and, Alzheimer’s Disease also got its widened recognition by the societies.

The average age of man keeps on increasing, with the aging of the societies, Alzheimer’s Disease (or dementia) became the hot topic of discussion, and, there are, more and more elderly persons who are being diagnosed.

Awhile ago, someone mentioned, that although having Alzheimer’s Disease is tough, but at least, one can forget about the pains and sufferings of one’s own pasts, like life’s being redealt again, and that the patients have another chance to live all over again, so, they wouldn’t reject the onset of this illness, they’d  even, welcomed it.  The writer believes, however, that this sort of dreamy romanticism had overly beautified and bubble-wrapped Alzheimer’s Disease, and ignored the realities of having Alzheimer’s Disease.

This condition is due to illness of the brain, in the latter stage, the brain will clearly shrink in size, and the brains, due to the changes in the proteins, will cause an originally intelligent person to have alters in her/his personalities, to the point of becoming mentally retarded, to problems with speech and language, losing control over one’s bowel movements, to the point when one becomes completely, vegetative.  The patients in the end, would forget who they are, their families and loved ones, forget the world, although the pains of one’s past will be gone with the wind, but, the inability of taking care of one’s own daily needs would bring more troubles to the family and oneself, and, the society will be paying a huge price too.

“The spring brings about the bloom of the different flowers, the autumn has the moon, the gentle breezes graced the summers, the snows in the winter seasons”, there are bound, to be ups and downs in life, it’s not at all, easy, to forget the bad things that one’s been put through, but, one can start by forgiving others, and thus, release oneself, and one can easily find the mercies and the wisdoms of life in that.  And, there’s an exciting news, Professor Snowden who wrote, Aging Gracefully, used his longitudinal study of seventy-eight nuns, and found, that wisdom, clarity, and helping others can make the older adults live longer, healthier, and have more meaningful lives.

And so, you still didn’t JUST hear this from me, and, unless, you ARE a family member of someone who’s been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, and had DEALT with the issues surrounding this illness of old age firsthand, you are still, just on the outside, looking in, which gives you NO clue, OR right to say that oh, Alzheimer’s is great, because you get to forget about everything that made you upset…

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Fraternity Crackdown: Universities are Clamping Down Hard, But Do the Bans Work?

I really want to say, that this, is on organized activities (or rather, CRIMES!!!), but, I’m afraid of gettin’ SHOT at, so, from NBCNEWS.com, by: J. Schuppe…

In February 2002, a 21-year-old junior at Alfred University in upstate New York was found dead in a creek after taking a beating from his fraternity brothers at Zeta Beta Tau.

Although authorities couldn’t prove the blows caused the young man’s death, the circumstances prompted school officials to conclude, after years of trying to reform Greek culture on campus, that frats weren’t worth saving. “The Greek system is beyond repair,” the chairman of the school’s board said at the time.

The decision to ban fraternities came during a period of heightened scrutiny on university campuses across the country, in which a number of colleges eliminated school-sanctioned Greek life in response to allegations of binge drinking, hazing and sex assault. Alfred was on the vanguard of a movement that has been gaining momentum ever since, leading to a new wave of crackdowns that have grabbed the nation’s attention, driven by growing sensitivity to campus violence and discrimination, pressure from authorities on sexual assault, liability issues and the power of social media.

The latest example occurred last weekend at Oklahoma University, where officials shut down the Sigma Alpha Epsilon fraternity after members were caught on video chanting a racial slur. The school joins John Hopkins University, MIT, Duke and Texas Tech among many universities that took action in recent months against individual fraternities in response to allegations of rape or hazing.

“I truly believe that prevention of hazing and other problematic behavior is possible … But it takes a concentrated effort, a strategic plan, resources and institutional will for that to occur.”

But even those were minor disciplinary matters in comparison to what happened last year at University of Virginia, University of West Virginia, Clemson University, Emory University and Amherst College — all of which curtailed or completely suspended Greek activities. And those moves followed attempts by Wesleyan University, Trinity College and several other small schools in the Northeast to force fraternities to accept women in an effort to water down testosterone-fueled problems.

“If students are showing dangerous behavior or taking different types of risks, it’s up to us to step in to try to grab their attention and say, ‘This is unacceptable,'” said Corey Farris, dean of students at West Virginia University, which lifted its suspension in January after working with the fraternities to improve their codes of conduct. “I also think there’s a cultural shift where society and parents are less tolerant of it. And people are more willing to step up and speak out.”

A 2007 study found that fraternity members are three times more likely to commit rape than non-members. A 2009 study by NASPA, a national association representing student affairs administrators, found that 86 percent of fraternity house residents binge-drank, as opposed to 45 percent of non-fraternity men. A recent analysis by Bloomberg News revealed more than 60 deaths related to fraternity activities since 2005, and many more injuries and sex assaults.

Last spring, the Obama Administration released the names of 55 colleges and universities that were under investigation by the U.S. Department of Education for their handling of sexual abuse complaints, a way to pressure schools to implement reforms.

The fraternities, whose membership continues to grow — there are now an estimated 350,000 campus members nationwide — have also spoken out. Its lobbying group, the North-American Intrafraternity Conference, has challenged efforts to end Greek life on many campuses. In many instances, the group has helped roll back proposed bans. Among its arguments is that bans inhibit freedoms of expression and association. Another is that bans do nothing to encourage cooperative efforts to improve campus life.

“NIC is against the unilateral suspension of fraternal organizations because it’s not the right way to address the issues the community is facing,” Pete Smithhisler, the group’s president, said. “Suspensions of groups is just putting band-aids on the situation.”

The small liberal arts schools that were among the earliest to ban fraternities from their campuses — Williams College, Alfred University, Bowdoin College, Middlebury College, Colby College, Santa Clara College — express little regret about their decisions. In some cases, underground off-campus fraternities sprouted up, but many of them say that they see less misconduct and more tolerant and inclusive attitudes.

Norm Pollard, dean of students at Alfred University, said the school recognized a lot of the positive guidance fraternities provided young men. But it found that co-education clubs, activities, leadership development opportunities and social outlets more than made up for the loss of Greek life.

Pollard acknowledged that it was difficult to measure whether the 2002 ban had a direct effect on students’ behavior. But he sees many positive signs. The local police say they don’t respond to as many raging parties. And there’s been a decrease in substance abuse violations.

“I truly believe that prevention of hazing and other problematic behavior is possible,” Pollard said. “But it takes a concentrated effort, a strategic plan, resources and institutional will for that to occur.”

All of these stats about fraternities exists, due to how there’s still, that need for acceptance by those newly initiated members, because it would be their FIRST year in school, and, they desperately needed a place to belong to, someone who watches out for them, and, that, is why fraternities and sororities appealed very much to those freshmen, and, if you think about it, it’s actually gang like, because what OTHER organizations have “initiations”, gangs, that, is all I can think of, and, fraternity is correlated to the organized CRIMES, after all, in order, to be accepted as a “brother” or a “sister”, a person would be willing to do, JUST about ANY and EVERYTHING, to get in, to become, a part of the group, because, NOBODY wanted to become an OUTCAST, someone who’s AT the bottom of the FOOD CHAINS…

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