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A Letter Written by His Daughter, the Father Who’s Sexist Was Mandated to Divorce

Sexism, in practice, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A woman, Huang, accused her husband for playing favorites with their seven-year-old son, and not loved their sixteen-year-old daughter equally, she couldn’t put up with it, asked for a divorce.  The judge based the letter written by the daughter that stated, “You’d never put your heart on me…you’d told me, that there are a lot of other relatives who looked out for me, that you didn’t need to take care of me anymore…”, and, on the stands, she’d stated that “the verbal exchanges my father had with my younger brother is MORE than the number of words he’d exchanged with me my whole life”, believed, that Huang’s accusations are valid, and, allowed for the divorce.

Huang accused, after her daughter was born, her husband didn’t show ANY care or concerns, and refused to pay for the daughter’s schooling or living expenses, that all the related costs were paid for, by her side of the family, the two had lived together, separately now; the husband said, “you owe me a son”, she’d immediately gotten impregnated by him, but, after her son was born, her husband started playing favorites with her son, it’d hurt her daughter so.  She said, that because of the pressures of her marriage, she’d put her heart and soul into religion, last year, after her daughter went to Canada to study, she’d decided to move out, and made her mind up on divorce.

Huang’s husband rebutted, he’s just not really comfortable at showing care and concern, but, in his daughter’s growing up, he’d accompanied her, and had given her a cell phone, as well as a laptop as presents, and that after the son was born, he’d become better off economically, that, was why he’d started providing for his own son’s education.

The judge called on their daughter to the stand, the daughter showed a letter she’d written to her father last August, “You’d probably not known how I’d dated a younger boy back in middle school, because I’d longed to be loved by a guy, after I’d broken up with him, I’d cried for so long, because I actually thought, that no guy can ever love me, you’d once told me, that there are, a lot of other people who loved me already, that your love would not be necessary, it’s really shocking, that parents would think, that they’d given too much love to their own children…”

The daughter took the stand, and confirmed, that since she was growing up, her father never talked to her in depth more than five times, when her classmates came over, her father would stay in his room, and wouldn’t come out to meet them, but he’d accompanied her younger brother every single day, given a ton of toys to her younger brother, “The verbal exchanges my father had with my younger brother is MORE than the verbal exchanges he’d had with me”.

The judge believed, that Huang’s accusations were valid, that it did, cause their marriage to break up, and the two had slept in separate rooms for a very long time, granted the divorce.  The daughter clearly stated that she wanted to live with her mother, and her husband had no objections, and so, the custody of the teenager went to the mother.  From the social workers’ home visit notes, Huang would often gone abroad to attend functions of religious matter, couldn’t accompany the seven-year-old son long-term, and so, the custody of their son was given to her husband.

So, this, is how FAR favoritism got!  And, the man did it, too obviously, I mean, yeah you are excited to have a son, but, you still should NOT ignore your daughter completely, you’d shown a lack of care AND concern toward her, and, what kind of a father ARE you, to play favorites like that!

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Holding You Close, Traveling Back in Time

This one is about regrets, I’m afraid, translated…

Based off of Chinese traditions, during the month of recovery after birth, women aren’t supposed to go outside.  And, I’d finally waited until my daughter was one month old, I couldn’t wait, to sneak out; but, my daughter was fast asleep in my arms, I couldn’t leave her home alone by herself, so, I’d gotten a thought, “why not just leave her in the car seat.”

My excitement had totally caused me to neglect the traditional beliefs of “the Heat in June is Going to Burn”.  As I’d started the car, I’d driven into the city.  “Hey!  When did this furniture shop get set up here?”  In order to make sure that daughter has a nicely shaped head, as well as good skin, I’d parked the car by the side of the road, and turned off the ignitions, lightly shut the door, I wasn’t going to be long anyways.

When I’d opened up the car again, it was, half an hour later, and I saw my daughter, SCREAMING, CRYING at the top of her lungs, her face had turned purple, it’d shocked me, a first time mom, had I returned a few more minutes later, I may have lost my child.

I’d wanted to drive backwards, to twenty-two years ago, and wipe away this heart wrenching moment, hold you close to me tightly, so, you, the newborn, won’t have any fears, and I would’ve not let you out of my sight for even a few moments in time.

And so, this, is the mistakes of a first time mother, she’d been locked up for too long, and, she’d wanted to get some air, and so, she snuck out of the house with her daughter, and, left her infant child in the car, because she didn’t think that she’ll take too long, but, by the time, she’d come back, her baby was SCREAMING, and that, made her realize, how fragile a young life is, and, that, is a lesson learned, the HARD way, rookie mothers………

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A Small Arm Extended from a Trash Bag…the Abandoned Infant Almost Died, Having Been Soaked Under Water from the Rain

A child, tossed away, like TRASH, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A newborn baby boy who was placed inside a shopping bag, early yesterday morning, was found abandoned by the economics department’s mineral center, the shopping bag, because of the previous night’s rain, was already filled up, and the baby boy was soaked completely, almost covered with water, gladly, someone found him just in time, notified the police, and he was taken to the hospital, and was fine now.

While the baby was taken to the hospital, although he was weakened, but he still had a pulse, and there were no external injuries on him, his vital signs are stable.

This infant boy was very weak, as he was taken to the Memorial Hospital of the Chinese God of War, but, he was found, to have NO external injuries, vital signs are stable, about just ten days old, with only a very thin baby suit on him, the hospital already placed him in the incubators to keep him warm.

The woman who’d found the baby was a janitor for the Mineral Protection Unit, Shi, early yesterday morning at eight, when she walked from her house to cross the street to the Mineral Center, saw that there were two plastic bags by the car parked by the side of the road, she thought that it was litter from the public; about thirty minutes later, when she was about to go home after she’d done her janitorial duties, she’d wanted to use her feet, to get the bag, to toss it away in the trash, she’d found that the bag was really heavy, and, at the opening, there seemed to be the hand of a young child, she was so scared that her legs went limp.

Shi quickly told her husband to report it to the police, the officers from the Sanxia Subprecinct rushed to the scene, found that the infant boy was still warm, immediately carried him to the doorway of the Mineral Center, and, the neighbors from all around also gone up to help, some brought towels, some hot water, to help the officers to clean off the infant boy, and, the paramedics arrived after being called, they’d rushed the infant boy to the En Chu Gong Hospital.

The police discovered two plastic bags at the scene, one was where the infant boy was placed, the other had formulas, a bottle, and a towel.  The woman, Shi said, that early yesterday morning at around three, there was a downpour, and when the baby was discovered, the water almost drowned him, and as she’d held him up, he was, drenched, and he didn’t cry, it’d made her heart wrench to see, gladly, he is still alive, she hoped that the little boy will be reunited with his family soon.

The police reviewed the surveillance footages, and found, that at around eleven two nights ago, a young woman dropped off two bags from Anxi Road to the Mineral Center, suspected, that she was the woman who’d abandoned the child, they’re going to track her down.

And so, this is the story, of how an abandoned infant boy almost died.  Can you imagine, someone who is so cruel, so awful, to drop a child off, and, had the woman not discovered him, he would’ve been dead by now, but gladly, the child was found, with NO serious injuries.

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Working Hard, to Gain Their Fathers’ Approvals

Call it, a bildungsroman if you want to…

Working hard, to gain their fathers’ approvals, and, that was ALL they’d ever wanted, to have their fathers’ proud looks as they’d talked about their children, but, that never came.

Working hard, to gain their fathers’ approvals, they’d done that, and yet, in the very end, they still, didn’t quite, measure up, because their fathers had, set that god DAMN bar too high, because their own fathers too, set those bars too high.

Working hard, to gain their fathers’ approvals, and, as they’d become fathers themselves, they’d become exact COPIES of their own fathers too, making it hard, for their own offspring, to gain their approval.

Working hard, to gain their fathers’ approvals, because as children, we ALL need to see that reflection of pride, in our parents’ eyes, but, that, is something we will NEVER see, reflected, back at us, all we will EVER see is, that hint of disappointment, knowing, that we didn’t do well enough, and, we’re belittled, by our own fathers, just as, they were, belittled by their fathers before them…

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Holding Her Fractured World Together, with Her Tiny Hands

Holding her fractured world together, with her tiny hands, although she wasn’t the one who broke it, but, it’d become, her responsibility to hold the world that is fractured, with her tiny hands.

Holding her fractured world together, with her tiny hands, she doesn’t know what she was doing, as the adults in her life, just handed her, a fractured world to hold onto.  Holding her fractured world together, with her tiny hands, and, as she grew, the fractured pieces of that world got big too, and, soon, they’d become, too heavy for her.

But, because she’d once promised someone, that that, is what she’ll do, she’d still kept doing it, until, she’d had her own child, and, gave the fractured world that was given to her, to her own offspring too.

Holding her fractured world together, with her tiny hands, she felt the broken shards, cutting into her skin, she saw herself, bleed, and yet, she didn’t, and couldn’t let go, because that, was a promise, she intended to keep, even IF it meant losing her own life…

Holding her fractured world together, with her tiny hands, but, how can she, she can barely stand up right, and yet, so much burdens were, placed upon her two tiny shoulders, whether or not she likes it, and, although she felt that it was, an imposition, what, can she do???

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Giving Them a False Alibi

You might think you’re helping them, by covering their asses, but, you’re not!

Giving them a false alibi, so they can all, get away, from committing their crimes.  Giving them a false alibi, you might think, that you’re just, doing what’s best for them, and, for the time being, it MIGHT seem that way, but, for the long run, you’re actions bear consequences you can’t even begin to imagine.

Giving them a false alibi, they’d already had their last strikes, and, you think, that you’re helping them, but, you’re actually HARMING them, by taking the RESPONSIBILITIES that they need to learn to shoulder up on their own.  Giving them a false alibi, you hoped, that it will help them behave better, that they’d learned, to NOT disappoint someone who cared so much about them, too much, that she was willing, to perjure oneself, to save them, but, you’re DEAD wrong!

Giving them a false alibi, you’re NOT only, NOT helping them, you’re actually HARMING them, more than you can imagine, what, do you think you’re teaching them, by covering them, giving them a false alibi?  You’re teaching them, that it’s okay to lie, to find holes in the system, to squeeze into, to get out, of being punished, and, in the long run, you’d hurt them, too much………

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Guns as “Toys” for Children…

You DO realize, how this would constitute as NEGLECT, right???

Parents are leaving those guns, UNLOCKED, outside of those combination safes, and across the kitchen counter, I’m thinkin’…

Guns as “toys” for children, this, is what’s happening, in the homes across America, because, we are ALL Second Amendment or NRA (National Rifle Association???) supporters, right?

Guns as “toys” for children, this, is really dangerous, because that two, three, four, five, OR six year old child doesn’t KNOW that the guns are loaded, and, tragedies like that little third-grade boy, shooting his little ten-year-old girl classmate is bound to repeat itself, and all of this still happens because?  Oh yeah, you GOD DAMN F***ING stupid PARENTS are way too CARELESS!

Guns as “toys” for children why don’t you just hand that kid who’s BORED out of her/his bones a grenade, with the safety pin pulled out?

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