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A One-Year-Old Infant Accidentally Ingested Heroin, the Mother Charged, Sentenced to Five Months

NEGLIGENCE HOMICIDE is what THIS was!  Because this young child had been in contact with the illegal substances way before this man moved in to the residence, that’s why he got away, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The dealer, Cho, a little over three years ago, was found to have illegal substances inside his home when he was serving time, his wife, Wang provided the drugs to a friend, Hsiao, and had him look after her own young daughter, but, the child of only a little over a year old ingested some heroin, died in a horrid manner, the courts found from the forensic reports, that since the child was only six months old, she’d been in contact with the illegal substances, and charged the mother with manslaughter, sentenced her to five months, and she could pay the money to skip her prison time, Hsiao had the charges dropped, this can still be appealed.

In the midnight hours of July 9th, 2017, a one-year-five-months-old young girl in Taichung was found to be in a comatose, rushed to the hospital, the paramedics found that her coma was caused by her mistakenly ingesting heroin and other substances, and because she was poisoned too much, they’d treated her until the 28th of the same month, when she died.

The district attorneys found, that the father of the child was arrested on June 2nd on drug charges, left his stash of heroin, amphetamine, and other controlled substances that weren’t discovered by the police raids, that the young daughter mistakenly ingested the substances, and died, because the father of the child had already been taken into custody, he wasn’t charged for her death, but he was sentenced to ten years for trafficking and selling drugs, is currently serving in prison.

After the child’s father was taken into police custody, his wife, Wang (age 37), in order for her husband to make bail, she’d given the heroin left by her husband at home to a man, the thirty-eight year-old Hsiao to abuse, hoping that he can testify, that her husband had nothing to do with the substances, so he could make bail.

In order to get the substances and not pay for them, Hsiao agreed to head over to Wang’s residence, and helped her look after her young children.  At the midnight hour of July 9th, after Hsiao injected himself with heroin, he’d placed the needle where the young girl can reach, and Wang also left a bag of drugs in the room, causing the child to mistakenly ingest the drugs, as Hsiao found, he’d waken Wang up and rushed the young child to the E.R., but in the end, the child still, died.  The district attorneys charged Wang and Hsiao with manslaughter.

The judge weighed, that Wang knew there were the illegal substances at home, and that the young child is in her oral stage, and puts everything into her mouth, as the victim’s mother, she should be making sure that the drugs are out of reach from her young, but allowed the child to grab the drugs, and, stuffed it into her mouth, causing her daughter to die of overdose, and it’d confirmed that the death was, manslaughter.

The Collectivist Courts used the forensic sample from the child’s hair, which showed that she’d been ingesting heroin, amphetamine, and other controlled substances within six months, and found, that way before Hsiao started moving in to the residence, she’d been ingesting the substances, found Hsiao not guilty of negligence.

But, who should be held responsible for this young kid’s death?  The mother, for sure, and this man too, because the child had accidentally ingested the heroin under his care, and yet, only the mother was charged.

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An Accidental Father

A conversation with one’s own young, on the duties, obligations, responsibilities of parents, from a legal angle here, translated…

“Mommy, what are you reading?”, my younger child came toward my desk, saw that blue-covered, yellowed pages, diary in my hand.

“This was your grandfather’s diary.”  I’d held back my tears, put it up in silence.

“When I was young, grandpa always told me, I’ll take you to Carrefour, RT Mart, bought me all those treats!”, my daughter got nostalgic.

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Yeah!  Mommy’s busy working, grandpa and grandma came to mommy’s rescue every time, and I’d needed them to come watch you and your older brother often.

“I loved going to the toy store with papa!”, my older son told, “I saw a limited edition Gundam that’s very expensive, papa didn’t have that much money, but I’d told papa that by tomorrow, it’ll be, gone!  And on that very night, papa went and bought it!”  my son has the potential as a scam artist, and I’m sure, that my father was, more than glad to get, cheated too.

“I don’t think I remember my inside grandpa and grandma at all!”, my younger daughter stated.

“what inside grandpa and grandma?  Your paternal grandparents, my parents!”, her father laughed and straightened her out.

Because they got too old, and, God called them up earlier to be fairies, you were still, too young.

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So as mommy read through papa’s diary, she got sad.  Especially how today is Father’s Day, I really hope that I can have that meal with my father, to watch T.V. together, to have this, ordinary sort of a bliss again.

My younger daughter hesitated a bit, ran to get a cup of tea, and, served it with great respect to her father.

And her father flipped through the papers, and let out a cool sort of “hmmmmmmmm!”, and I saw that smile, curling up his lips, he was now, gloating!

“there’s only one dad, you must, cherish him!”, my son is now, sucking up too, with a fan, fanning to cool his dad down, maybe, he’d not done well on an exam, and needed to put out his father’s fire before he’d shown the papers for him to sign.

There’s, that mix and match of emotions that’s between parents and children, sometimes, what happened was, more dramatic that the soap, more imaginative than those novels.

Remembered how we’d all gone to see that Japanese film, “My Accidental Father”?  the gynecology nurse envied someone else’s happiness, switched the two newborn infants up.  Six years later, the truth came out, how were these two families supposed to, cope with, this huge accident in their lives?

The two fathers, one was an elite excellent architect; the other, an electrician, who’s, easy going in nature.  Which one would best fit the children to be raised in?

“What if, this actually happened?”, my younger daughter became worried.

The way the movie worked out, it’s, gentle and understanding.  But in reality, the parent-child relationships, were based, off of the laws.  There are the adopted children and the blood-related children in the facets of the law.

“Children should follow the filial piety duties toward their parents.  As Civil Law 1084 stated.”  Dad recited it aloud.

“Second, parents should protect and educate the underage minors”, mommy added.

You want to match memories?  You’d forgotten to hold my hands first time we went out on a date, as we crossed that intersection; on our second date, you’d dozed off, started snoring; and, by the third date………………(deleted millions of characters here!)

Dad who was on his tea started choking on it, started coughing hard, and, escaped into the bathrooms.

“Mommy, there’s a sixteen-year-old daughter who’d sued her father, because he wouldn’t buy her a cell phone”, my older son thumbed through the online news.

“there are the fathers who’d sued their young for parental support, but the judge said the children didn’t need to pay it!”, my younger daughter discovered something as well.

Ahh, the stories mom heard and saw in court, last longer than the Arabian Nights!

There was a middle aged man who got in court and started crying on the stand, it’d made mommy want to lose it too.

“Mommy don’t cry”, my older son handed a tissue to me, “I thought only daddy can get you worked up, can’t imagine someone else had too!”, came my husband’s coughing from the bathroom again!

“what had happened?”, my children both got curious.

That middle aged man’s father left the family when he was a young child, it was his mother who’d raised him all on her own, him and his two other siblings, with only enough money for a rental stay, they kept switching in and out of their residences, forgot to go to the land offices to change their addresses.  The three siblings took out the student loans, and worked part-time, get themselves through school, and finally, this middle aged man had his own family, started raising his own young, finally, he was able to give his mother a good life.

But, the middle aged man’s father suddenly returned, Social Services notified this man to go and claim his own father’s dead body.

“What?”, my daughter covered up her ears, couldn’t dare hear the rest of the story.

His father who’d only shown up as a registered name on his national identification card, finished his final passage of life in a nursing home.  Before this, the Social Services sent multiple notices to his registered address, to let them know that they needed to pay for the owed fees of having his father placed, but they’d, already moved out, and through the searches, the Social Services finally found the three brothers and sister.  Based off of the law, there’s the obligation for care, so the nursing home demanded that they pay for the money for their father’s care.

“But this dad had never been responsible at all toward his own young!”, my older son became confused.

During the time when their father went missing, the family didn’t know to report him missing, while their mother never filed for divorce either, let alone the children never knew they could file a petition to “relieve themselves of caretaking duties toward their father”.

“If the fathers didn’t care for their children when they were young, then he can’t ask them to take care of him when he’s old, is that what this means?”, my son inquired.

“Hmmm, it’s called ‘Without just cause not providing for one’s own children’, Civil Law 1118 section 1.”  Dad finally showed up, replied, “every unfortunate family has a different bad story.”  From before, the former generations said raising the children so they don’t need to worry about their old age, and now it’s, taking of the elderly years, watching out for the young.

“So, do we save the allowance you give us and pay you back when you’re older?”, my daughter asked.

Nope!  Child.  It’s the parents’ responsibilities, AND obligations to raise their young, same for how the children treat their own parents.  This is not a sales or a trade-off, it’s not quid-pro-quo, tit-for-tat, nor trading the younger years, for that permanent meal ticket in old age.

But, we must admit, that in this world, there are, the unfitting parents, also, the bad children too.  If this middle aged man’s father was found of not providing for his children when they were younger in evidence, the law must agree too, at this time, forcing the children to act kind, wouldn’t be just, or right.

“But this sort of cases are post-date.  Meaning, that you must file a formal lawsuit with the courts, and after you’d won the case, then, you will be alleviated from paying for the care.”, dad got serious, answering the inquiries now.

So, the debts accumulated by this middle aged man before he died, for his care, the country believed that it’s paying for him temporarily, that in the end, this middle-aged man will pay for.

“But, what if you don’t have children?”, my younger daughter voiced her worries, she’d not planned to get married, or have any kids.

It’s, the million dollar question of elderly caretaking, and national social security, how the policies should be, set up all right!

Should the only reason for what constitutes as parents and children based only off of blood?  And, the social security, is it an act of kindness, or a responsibilities for all of us, citizens to carry?

“Mom, stop worrying, you’ll get more wrinkles!”, my older son reminded me kindly.

It’d hit dad suddenly, he’d suggested, “Today’s Father’s Day, let’s go offer incense to both your grandfathers, and tell them we’re all very happy together.”

And then?

“Let’s have a gourmet meal, to thank me, as a responsible dad, of course!!!”, dad said, with that, affirmative tone of voice.

And so, this, is a discussion that’s, sparked up by the kids, and the parents are more than willing, to help the children get more educated, with their separate areas of expertise, and through this conversation shared with their young, both the parents and the children benefitted.

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The Four-Year-Old Young Child Died, After Being Left Alone on the Roads, the District Attorney Asks for a Heavy Sentence for the Stepfather

Because the children were her and her ex’s, you have the right, to ABUSE them, is that it???  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The man, Chen from Changwha after marrying Hsieh, he was accused of physically disciplining the three young children Hsieh had with her ex, this March, he’d, picked up the two young boys, threw them onto the streets, of the two, the four-year-old young boy was picked up by him, and, thrown onto the pavements, the child died immediately after getting thrown onto the road.  After he’d committed murder, Chen turned himself in, yesterday, the district attorney’s prosecuted him on murder, and asked the judge to sentence him more heavily, based off of the laws protecting youth and children.

The indictment pointed out, the thirty-three year-old Chen married Hsieh this January, and lived with the three children Hsieh had with her ex, Hsu, and he’d used the excuses of how loud they were getting, how they weren’t eating their meals properly, and used his legs, to “sweep” the four, five, six year old young children, after they fell to the ground, he’d told them to get back up, and continued punishing them to stand against the walls or kneeled down.

At the start of March this year, Chen and Hsieh were talking using LINE, he’d heard the six-year-old young child, Hsu getting fussy on the back, and as he’d arrived home, he’d, beaten the child up, and, grabbed the child, and threw him into the pile of items in the kitchen, causing the child to have multiple injuries.  On March 14th, Chen felt the kids were, getting too loud, he’d, punished them to stand against the wall, then, swept them all down one by one, with his leg, then, called them to stand back up to continue punish them to stand, the youngest child, the four-year-old Hsieh (carried the mother’s last name) told him that he felt “dizzy and didn’t want to stand,” and wanted mommy, Chen lifted his right left, swept the child off to the ground, the child’s head hit the ground, and was punished to kneel until the nighttime.

On that same night, the young child, Hsieh started vomiting, and at 3:30 in the morning on the fifteenth, he’d waken up, and vomited again, Chen asked him how many times he was going to do it, there was no reply, the child was dragged out of bed by Chen, and kicked and punched.  Hsieh got up, to protect her own young, and was ready to take the kids out on her scooter for some snacks, and as Chen asked Hsieh the young boy, “Are you really hungry now?”, and because the young child didn’t answer, he was picked up, and thrown outside onto the pavements, the child died immediately.

Chen started performing CPR on the boy, and, eighteen hours later, he’d, turned himself in to the police, but the district attorneys believed he’d intended to murder the child, asked the courts to have him in custody, and the district attorneys charged him on murder, and laws against children and adolescents.

And so, this is still all, after-the-fact, and, it’s already, too late, because???  Oh yeah, ANOTHER (and no, still NOT the last of this, “dying breed” here!) kid dies, from the abuse, because this loser took his anger out on his own girlfriend’s children, which don’t have his blood, and because these children aren’t related to him by blood, I guess he felt okay, that he could, beat the CRAP out of them, and this time, this young boy died in the process…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Infant was Abandoned in the Park, the Stray Dogs Eaten it Up with Only the Skull Remaining

In the Dual-Lake Park construction area in Sanming District of Kaohsiung there were the construction workers who’d found a white package in the construction sites, as they’d opened it, they were shocked to find the corpse of an infant without the head, the police and district attorneys examined the body, suspected that the infant was eaten by the stray dogs after being abandoned by its, parents, they’re, currently, chasing the leads to identify the parents, to find if the infant was abandoned alive, or dead.

The location of where the body was found, was the back slopes of the Daping Yu First Cemetery next to a junk yard in Dingjing Alley of Sanming District in Kaohsiung, it was originally the public Ding-Jing Cemetery, but the city government had, relocated the cemetery, currently, the location is under construction of the greener park projects.

At around 1:30 in the afternoon yesterday, the contractors of the park started working, they’d discovered  small white package on the lawns, the workers went over, opened it up, found a tiny head with the face chewed off, they’d, immediately, notified the police.

As the police arrived, they’d, immediately, sealed up the site, the police found, that the infant head was wrapped in white tarp, inside the white tarp, there was also, a cardboard box, and around the 100 meter radius of where the box was found, were the scattered pieces of bone, they’d suspected that they may be from the infant.

The workers who’d discovered the infant head told, they’d stopped working for two, three days on end, that they’d discovered the package of white cloth, and because a woman often come to feed the stray dogs, there were, the gathering of, about eight stray dogs, the police suspected that the infant’s body was chewed up by the stray dogs, leaving the blood stains on the white cloth.

The Kaohsiung District Attorneys came with the coroners to examine the body, and, found, that the diameter of the skull was, only a little over ten centimeters, they suspected that the infant was, only a few days old, but, they couldn’t tell the sex, because there were the irregular lacerations of the skins on the neck area, and suspected that after the infant was abandoned, it’d been chewed up by the stray dogs already.

And so, we have, a Baby Doe, and, the way this infant got chewed up by the strays, was too awful, because its (as the sex is still, undetermined???) parents couldn’t, take responsibilities for it, and maybe, Baby Doe was a stillborn, maybe it wasn’t, nobody knows for right now!

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In Two-and-a-Half Years, He Managed to Abuse Two Young Infants to Death, the Father Was Given a Severe Sentence of Fourteen Years

This is still, an abuser/enabler interaction which led to the imminent deaths of these two young children, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The couple, Huang were taken into custody for abusing their two-months-old youngest daughter to death, the D.A. followed the leads, and found, that their second born son, was shaken hard by Huang, to death as well, back then, the infant boy wasn’t yet three months of age.  The Chiayi D.A.’s office prosecuted the couple on two counts of manslaughter charges, sentenced Huang to fourteen years, Ting, his wife, was found to have allowed him to abuse their youngest daughter, found guilty of abandonment causing death, and sentenced to seven years two months.

Huang (age 34, currently in custody) and his wife, Ting (age 23) went to court to hear the verdict, as the judge told them of their sentence, and that they could appeal, Ting replied loudly, “okay!”, while Huang only, nodded.  Ting was accompanied out of court by her families, and, at the press conference, the reporters asked her how she felt, she’d not said a word, just left.

The judge found, that when Ting was underage, she married Huang and had their eldest daughter and eldest son, Huang became the sole economic provider of the household; in February of 2017, Huang started shaking their not-yet-three-months-old infant eldest son, and, allowed their son to ram his head into the frames of the bathroom doors, after he was rushed to the hospital, the hospital diagnosed him as multiple organ failure due to abuse, he’d suffered a subdural hematoma, died.

Afterward, Huang moved his family from Taoyuan to Chiayi.  Last October, because of the stresses from life, he’d gotten annoyed at his two-months-old young secondborn daughter’s crying, he’d, beaten the infant girl’s head repeatedly, used the hangers, the blunt objects to abuse her, strangled her neck using a towel, and used the objects that weren’t too sharp, to cut his own young child.

Although Huang’s wife attempted to stop him each and every time from hurting their secondborn daughter, after she’d found her child to not have an appetite after being abused, she’d still spoken on his behalf, that he’d been under a ton of pressure, that he wouldn’t, hurt the children again, and that she couldn’t, take care of her own young if she were to get divorced, that she might want to, leave her own young behind, that was the excuse she used, to justify how she didn’t, take her second-born daughter to the hospital, which caused the child to die in turn.

And, this woman was just making excuse for herself, and her husband, for abusing their children, for NOT taking her own infant child to the hospital to be treated after her husband abused her, and, they’re, BOTH guilty, of murder!

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The Father Slammed the Infant Girl Causing Her to Have Subdural Hematoma, Charged with Domestic Violence

These cases seemed to be, never-ending, don’t’ they???  Another case of an infant being abused!  Off the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Liu, in Changwha was accused of forcing his a little older than a year old daughter who was developmentally delayed to physical therapy, allowing her to fall on her own, and, as he was having an argument on the ways of teaching his own young, he’d, thrown his own young daughter onto the table, causing her to have subdural hematoma, and the infant started vomiting endlessly; the D.A.s office in Changwha charged Liu with laws to prevent domestic violence, and other charges, asked the courts to sentence him heavily.

Liu’s wife was also taken into custody, the D.A. dropped the indictment charges against her, due to lack of evidence of abuse.  But, the Changwha Social Services Department, after reviewing the facts, believed that it would be ill-fitted for the infant girl to go home, and still placed her in protective custody.

The D.A said, that when the infant was just a little over a month old, she suffered a subdural hematoma from “not being cared for properly by an unknown member of the family” and was, hospitalized, back then, there were bruises on the infant’s eyes and left cheek, she seemed to have suffered from shaken baby syndrome, and was diagnosed as developmentally delayed.  In February of last year, the child started vomiting, and started sleeping too much, was taken to the hospitals, and the hospital examined her and found there were injuries new and old on her, that she’d suffered subdural hematoma, the hospital suspected that she was abused.

The county government and the police investigated found, that because Liu’s noting the infant had injuries on her, refused to take her to the hospitals to get treated, and after many days, he’d taken her in on February 22nd.  Back then, Liu told, that he’d allowed the infant to stumble around as she’d learned to walk, that she’d, bumped her head.

The indictment told, that last year around New Year’s, Liu’s wife took the infant child home, and her grandmother found there were bruises on her, and Liu’s wife told her that he’d disciplined the infant when she’d started crying out of term.  Liu also posted on FB and argued with his friend, “Why don’t you report my beating my daughter up to the police then?”  the friend replied, “you keep on beating her, your wife said you’d beaten both of your children so bad she couldn’t take them out………”  “it’s just, that the Social Services hadn’t found out yet…”.

And so, that is how this worked, unless someone REPORTS something, the social services wouldn’t have the slightest CLUE to check, and that just won’t work, because usually, by the time shits like these gets reported, someone had gotten so severely injured that s/he had died, or is now, on life-support, and, this violent father’s being charged, is still NOT fitting enough for what he’d done to his own young.

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Please Let Go, and Trust in Me, Having an Overbearing Mother

The problem here, is still NOT with the daughter, but with the mother, but, does she realize it???  Of course N-O-T, translated…

From awhile ago, on the news, a certain organization had been losing money by the year, the second-generation owner decided to sell of the office building, for cash, the founder, as he was, interviewed, stated, “My heart ached as my son did it, but now, I’d, trusted in his decisions entirely!”

This pair of father and son made me so envious, and at the same time, I’d, felt heartache for them both, because how I’d, wished that my own mother, can trust me like this father had his own son too.

From the views of the world, I guess, I’m, the pride of my parents: made high grades, gone to an all-star institution, and, managed to pass the exams for a public office on my very first try, I’d never needed my parents to worry over my school performances or my work.

Although my mother stated verbally, that I’d, done well for myself, but she’d, never had faith, that I can, handle things on my own, whether it be how I’d spent my money, how to treat others I meet, whether to have children after I married, who should care for my child if s/he was born…………my mother’s criticisms came at me, never-ending, “it’s for your sake”, was her most widely used phrase, and her weapon.

She’d never understood, that what she’d believed to be a show of care and concern, her nagging, was interpreted as how she didn’t trust me enough, I’d tried to tell her, but her response was always, “Those with your last names, can’t take any criticisms from others!”

When I was interning, I’d, lived at home, I’d had a crash on a rainy day, and, as I’d, bent my knees, my injuries started bleeding, but I’d not let my mother know, I’d, bent down, holding the pains in, as I’d helped clean up the house, until my mother rode out to get the groceries, and found the head of the motorcycle dented, that, was when she’d, found out.  I’d gotten into another, serious crash after I was married, and, it’d been years to this very day, I’d still, not told my parents what had happened to me.

Of the two wrecks I got in, I was, very scared, but I knew, that other than feeling anxious over me, and nagging me, my parents couldn’t do anything for me, and they’d, surely, blamed me, for being, too careless too.  And so, no matter how painful, I’d much rather, hide the truth from them.

I’d never doubted the love my mother had for me, but every time, as I’d, wanted to show affection towards her, she’d started, lecturing me, and in the end, she’d added, “Nobody else is going to tell you this, I’m your mother, that was why, for your sake, I’m, telling, you the truth!”  in my mother’s mind, I’ll never be, enough, there are, always things, I can, improve, and, all of my good performances are, matter-of-fact, and yet, the imperfections, are what pricked at her, and she’d needed to, get rid of them.

But, my dearest mother, you know what?  Your daughter may not be perfect, but, she’d always tried very hard, worked hard, can you just, let go, and trust in me?

And, hopefully, this woman’s mother can see this article, and change the way she interacts with her daughter, but, I’m still, NOT holding MY breath, because parents like these, they think what they’re doing, IS for the good of their young, and they just keep on, doing whatever the F*** (maxed out???) they’re doing, using their same old ways, probably because they were, treated as such by their own parents (‘cuz these sorts of SHITS still gets passed down, from one generation to the next, like D.N.A.???) and this daughter is going to, have a very difficult time, getting closer to her mother that’s for sure…

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The Air, My Friend

The column by Jimi Liao, translated by me…

The child to the sloth, or, the sloth, to the child…

Let’s take it slow now…………

No matter how quickly the world changes………

Let’s just, take it slow……………

No matter, how worked up others are around us………

We will, continue to, take it slow together………

One day…

Someone will, finally, get us………

Understanding, that slower is faster……

We’re in no rush……………

Slowly, slowly, slower, slower………………

And this, would be how hard you’re all, PUSHING your children, to catch up to your tempos or paces, and by doing that, you’d, deprived your young, of taking their times, to grow UP slow, at their own paces, and, at the same time, you’d, SLAUGHTERED your young children like P-I-G-S, depriving them, of a happy, AND carefree childhood!

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How are the Dangerous Children Raised

Attributions of how Enzo Sun became, dangerous, it’s partially, his parents’ faults, or so, the writer of this article believed, and maybe, he’s correct, in that his parents NEVER steered him to the right directions of beliefs, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The son of Ying Di and Peng Sun, Enzo Sun threatened to open fire in school and was found by American police to have over a thousand bullets and a gun; this shocking amount, certainly, it wasn’t, normal for a high school student to possess. Compared to how the couple had talked about their son, and how they still stood behind him, clearly, they have NO clue what was going on in their son’s mind.

Undeniably, Ying Di and her husband really loved and cared a lot about their son; but, raising children doesn’t mean you give the children everything they will ever want and need. So, what would be the motive, for a child like Enzo Sun who came from a rich and loving family, that’d made him accumulated such an enormous amount of arms? If it was like the couple’s explanations of their son being an arms fanatic, it’s just, self-deceptions, there’s NO sense of persuasion in their statements.

An eighteen-year-old child kept buying up the arms or the weapons—even IF it was, legally obtained, it’s hard, to see the behaviors as “normal”, besides, Enzo had made threats. And still, the couple talked on the matter like it was nothing major, like everything can be, rationalized. In actuality, it was their ways of raising him that went wrong, that was what had, caused their son to stray. Think on it, if it were Enzo Sun’s classmate who’d threatened to blow everybody up at school, wouldn’t they fly into a panic too?

Nobody was born a dangerous child. But, if on the way to growing up, the children didn’t get the right sorts of disciplines or guidance, if their bad behaviors weren’t, corrected, but were, ignored, encouraged, they are going to turn into dangerous people. There are a lot of cases of “Second generation” of the rich and famous committing crimes, including drugs, driving off in famous cars to escape arrest, and, the majority of these were caused by parents’ spoiling. What sort of a love is this?

As children are growing up, do accompany them, help them become good people. And, the minds of parents should, grow too, with the coming of age of their children at the same time.

And so, the writer of this article attributed this young man’s bad behaviors to his parents’ spoiling him rotten, but, he’s already eighteen, and, should be FORCED to take responsibilities for what he does, but, no doubt, that his parents played a vital part in how he’d turned out, they’d, spoiled him, because they overlooked the warning signs that he was showing, the buying of arms in large amounts, the ammunitions, and how this young man had threatened the school, all of these, the couple had, overlooked…

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A Letter Written by His Daughter, the Father Who’s Sexist Was Mandated to Divorce

Sexism, in practice, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A woman, Huang, accused her husband for playing favorites with their seven-year-old son, and not loved their sixteen-year-old daughter equally, she couldn’t put up with it, asked for a divorce.  The judge based the letter written by the daughter that stated, “You’d never put your heart on me…you’d told me, that there are a lot of other relatives who looked out for me, that you didn’t need to take care of me anymore…”, and, on the stands, she’d stated that “the verbal exchanges my father had with my younger brother is MORE than the number of words he’d exchanged with me my whole life”, believed, that Huang’s accusations are valid, and, allowed for the divorce.

Huang accused, after her daughter was born, her husband didn’t show ANY care or concerns, and refused to pay for the daughter’s schooling or living expenses, that all the related costs were paid for, by her side of the family, the two had lived together, separately now; the husband said, “you owe me a son”, she’d immediately gotten impregnated by him, but, after her son was born, her husband started playing favorites with her son, it’d hurt her daughter so.  She said, that because of the pressures of her marriage, she’d put her heart and soul into religion, last year, after her daughter went to Canada to study, she’d decided to move out, and made her mind up on divorce.

Huang’s husband rebutted, he’s just not really comfortable at showing care and concern, but, in his daughter’s growing up, he’d accompanied her, and had given her a cell phone, as well as a laptop as presents, and that after the son was born, he’d become better off economically, that, was why he’d started providing for his own son’s education.

The judge called on their daughter to the stand, the daughter showed a letter she’d written to her father last August, “You’d probably not known how I’d dated a younger boy back in middle school, because I’d longed to be loved by a guy, after I’d broken up with him, I’d cried for so long, because I actually thought, that no guy can ever love me, you’d once told me, that there are, a lot of other people who loved me already, that your love would not be necessary, it’s really shocking, that parents would think, that they’d given too much love to their own children…”

The daughter took the stand, and confirmed, that since she was growing up, her father never talked to her in depth more than five times, when her classmates came over, her father would stay in his room, and wouldn’t come out to meet them, but he’d accompanied her younger brother every single day, given a ton of toys to her younger brother, “The verbal exchanges my father had with my younger brother is MORE than the verbal exchanges he’d had with me”.

The judge believed, that Huang’s accusations were valid, that it did, cause their marriage to break up, and the two had slept in separate rooms for a very long time, granted the divorce.  The daughter clearly stated that she wanted to live with her mother, and her husband had no objections, and so, the custody of the teenager went to the mother.  From the social workers’ home visit notes, Huang would often gone abroad to attend functions of religious matter, couldn’t accompany the seven-year-old son long-term, and so, the custody of their son was given to her husband.

So, this, is how FAR favoritism got!  And, the man did it, too obviously, I mean, yeah you are excited to have a son, but, you still should NOT ignore your daughter completely, you’d shown a lack of care AND concern toward her, and, what kind of a father ARE you, to play favorites like that!

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