TOTALLY, I-N-F-U-R-I-A-T-I-N-G, how the societies still used these sexist beliefs of gender roles, of what we women should be, to PUT us in our, places, translated…
As I finished my maternity leave, I’d returned back to work. During the maternity leave, I’d found, that there are still, a ton of, prejudices that societies have toward stay-at-home moms.
“So and so got her education from N.T.U., look at her now, at home, raising the kids! Why would you waste all that time on getting that higher education degree……………”, “the daughter-in-law of Mrs. Wang from next door took her maternity leave, she’d never returned back to work again, leaving all the bread winning to her husband solely!”, the ladies had often, whispered all of this into my ears, adding on to the end, “you’d made the right decision, returning back to work!”
To tell the truth, I don’t feel the least bit glad hearing this, instead, I’d felt, more uneven.
After I became a mother, I’d found, that working as a mother full-time, is something too difficult. Maintaining the normal “functioning” of the households, taking care of every need, small or large of our young, and, we had to take in all the sarcasms, the mockeries that the outside world has, over how we’re, sitting at home, and doing, nothing, and surely, for some, full-time mothers, they are, not doing much, but, more mothers in the society are doing everything they possibly can, to keep the family members happy and well, taking care every tiny corner of their own, homes.
So our other half can work without worries, no need to worry too excessively over the tiny matters at home, allowing the children to grow up happy and safe, in the care of their mothers, watching over them; when situations happen, to handle any and everything that came, should we NOT, get commended, to offering, our services to our own, families like so?
Especially in the job interviews, women often get asked, “as a mother with children, how do you balance taking care of your family, and staying focused at work?” but we rarely see, that men get asked this same question. And, the underlying of this question, would it not be, hinting at, how the taking care of the families’ needs, are all the mothers’, responsibilities?
This question had, circled around, in my mind, and it’d, made me realized, that these, traditional, sexist beliefs of gender roles can’t be, easily altered; then, start with, our generation then! No matter what role we’re playing in our separate families, do GIVE more respect to those women who are, full-time mothers, and the full-time workers too.
This is still, just BULLSHIT! I mean, what the FUCK (don’t pardon me here!), makes you, the world out there think, that wow, because we’re staying at home, looking after our families, not making that five-digit paychecks, we’re not contributing enough to our, separate, families, and, NEWSFLASH people, this is exactly what’s keeping us women, getting the SAME pay rates as you mother @#$%ERS out there, because we’re the ones, carrying YOUR babies, we deserve to get shunned for not making enough MONEY, to contribute to the families? Is that it? Well, let’s see, how much we would be paid for EVERY little item on the “job description” list: as the cook…that’s, 365 days a year, a time and a half of OTs on the weekends, the holidays, the laundry ladies, fifty two times per year, etc., etc., etc., not, press that “sum button” on that, “cashier’s register” and we’d have??? INFINITE dollars, so, how much can you pay, for all our, “services” here, huh?