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The Coach of a Gaming Competition and His Girlfriend Made a Death Pact, He’d Survived, the High Courts Changed His Sentence to a Year

Because this is a case of “let’s commit suicide together”, and he’d survived, so he’s not charged with MURDER!!!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The gaming competition coach, Du seven years ago, made a death pact with his girlfriend at their shared rental home, Wang died, and Du lived; the first trial found Du guilty of assistance suicide, he received a two year eight months sentence, the second trial gave him an added four more years on Du’s “not keeping the promises he’d made with the woman, causing her to die”; the first retrial by the High Courts found, that as Du was taken into the hospital, he suffered from carbon monoxide poisoning, and refused resuscitation, left a final note, which helped his case, yesterday, he was sentenced to a year for helping someone to commit suicide, this can be appealed.

The case lasted seven whole years, on the seventh, the first retrial, the statements argued that Wang’s father blamed himself for telling his daughter to “Study in high school and college, to NOT get involved with a man”, causing her to not tell him what was going on; while Du spoke on behalf of himself, unlike how he’d maintained silence for the past seven years.

Du and Wang started dating and cohabited started in April of 2015, on August 17th of the same year, Wang told that “there’s nothing I have to live for”, started contemplating suicide, although Du didn’t feel he had nothing to live but, but was willing to commit suicide with her, took Wang to buy the sleeping pills, the charcoal; Wang fell into a coma after she took the drugs, died of carbon monoxide poisoning, at around eleven in the late night, Du called his mother, and called the emergency services for help.

Du took twelve pills himself, then started the fire, they embraced and sang the songs, then, fell asleep; at nine in the evening, he woke up vomiting, and his girlfriend was already cold, he’d wanted to “try killing himself again”, that’s why he’d not called the emergency services in the time being.

The Shihlin District Court gave Du a two year eight months sentence on assisting suicide, the High Courts criticized Du for “not keeping up his promise, causing the woman to die”, added more to his sentence, gave him a total of four years.  The High Courts tossed the verdict, passed it back down to retrial.

The judge of the first retrial of the High Courts stated, that as Du was taken into the hospital, he’d shown signs of carbon monoxide poisoning, he’d refused treatment multiple times, and there was a final note left on site, all of these benefitted the defendant, and gave him a year for helping another to commit suicide by conspiracy.

And so, this is how it goes, killing themselves for love, but one survived, and the one who lives is now, charged with a crime, and this man still went along with his girlfriend’s wishes of wanting to commit suicide, instead of telling her she has so much to live for.

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He’d Killed His Wife after Thirty Years of Looking After Her after She Had a Stroke, to Release Her from Her Body, the D.A. Begged the Courts for Mercy

Because seeing his wife in so much pain, it’d pained him even more, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The sixty-nine-year-old man, Tsai couldn’t watch his wife who’d had a stroke and had been bedridden for thirty whole years keep on suffering, at the hospital, she’d, suffocated her to death with a plastic bag, and was charged on domestic violence murder; as the trial started, both the Taipei D.A.’s Office as well as his families asked for mercy from the courts, Tsai’s son also said, that his father took care of his mother for thirty years in smiles, never had a word of complaint; the judge believed, that the murder that Tsai committed qualified for two reduction of sentencing, and sentenced him to two years six months, this can be appealed.

The attorney of the defendant used the “murder of mercy”, and it’s a rare instant, that both the district attorney and defense had agreed on it, the district attorney on the case did NOT take Tsai into protective custody, the district attorney in the trial only care if Tsai was responsible for what he’d done or not, the defense had also played the recording of Tsai’s wife’s cries of pain, to prove that Tsai murdered his wife to put her out of her misery.

The judge found that Tsai had qualified for the two “turned himself in”, “understandable circumstances” reduction of sentencing, and gave him half, then half of the lowest terms of the murder sentence of ten years.

The district attorneys stated, that Tsai, because his wife had long-term been tortured by illnesses, on September 5th of 2020, at the Changgang Hospital of Taipei, he took a bag and suffocated his wife to death, and went to the nurse’s stations, told the nurses, “my wife is now, free!”

Tsai’s wife, after five days’ worth of resuscitations, due to anoxia, complications from her pneumonia, died, the district attorneys charged Tsai on domestic violence murder, Tsai didn’t fight the D.A., and admitted to his guilt, and the district attorneys believed that his situation is understandable, and suggested to the courts to give him a lighter sentence.

And every time Tsai went to court, he’d not talked much, and admitted to the charges, the courts asked the Changgang Hospital to do a psych evaluation, and it’d shown that Tsai was of sound mind when he’d murdered his own wife.

Tsai’s son testified, that his mother had seven strokes, that the first few times, she got better with the rehabilitations, and returned back to work, by the sixth time, the surgery had left her paralyzed on the left side of her body; and since his mother became completely paralyzed, she’d never had a single bedsore, his father took her to physical therapy, like helping her slide her fingers, he’d told her, ‘We’re at Badozi right now, almost to Yangming Mountain”.

Tsai testified, that his father in caring for his mother, he’d grown older and ill too, “there’s not just the medicines for my mother on the bedstands, but also the heart, the hypertensions that my father needed too”, that his father always wore a smile in caring for his mother, and he blamed himself for not being able to shoulder the burdens.

The defense attorney told, that Tsai is in emotional pain in making the decision to kill his own wife, that he’d grown ill physically too, there’s no record of him being treated, he had to work, and look after his wife, and asked the courts to consider Tsai’s mental state to give him a fitting sentence.

The judge believed, that Tsai lost his personal life due to having to care for his own wife long-term, that after he fell ill too, he’d not placed her in a long-term care facility, that he loved his wife deeply, that Tsai couldn’t handle the strains, and selected to take his own wife’s life, to put her out of her misery, “different from the motives of hurting the victim through murder”.

The verdict pointed out, that after Tsai smothered his wife to death, he’d gone to the nurse’s station, and apologized, cried and stated, “I’d killed her”, told the police who came to arrest him that he’d “felt he was about to fall”, claimed that his wife “she’d convulsed and cried out in pain every single day, she wanted to die”, based off of Tsai’s statement, he knew what was happening to his wife, and can’t use the insanity plea to get his sentence reduced to even less.

And so, this is, another case of mercy killing, and the husband can’t stand to see his wife in pain anymore, he felt tried by her pains, and, he’s also, overcome with his own ailments, and killing her, was setting her free from her sick body, and even though this qualified as mercy killing, because that’s his “motive” for “murdering” his own wife.

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This, Final, Mile…

In the, “home stretch”, and, we’re, almost, there…

This, final, mile of life had been, too, difficult for you, you’d been, in and, out of the hospital, and, you’d, “survived” through each and every one of your, emergency visits.

This, final, mile, is still, not yet done for you, but, as you grow weaker by the day, I’d, wondered, when will your, suffering, end?  And, how much longer, must you be, tortured, like so?

This, final, mile, it wasn’t, supposed to be, easy, not for you because you do NOT deserve, an, easy death.  This final, mile, you’d been, admitted, released, readmitted, rereleased, from the hospital, again, and again, and again.

in this, “home stretch”…

photo from online

And your families, get, trapped, in the signing of your DNR, over, over, over, and over again, and each and every single time those E.R. nurses asked about whether or not you’re, DNR, they would, battle with themselves, as well, as each other.

They don’t want you to suffer, but, having you for one more day, well, that’s, one extra day they will get, with you………

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Mr. Chang from Yonghe

How this man had, done everything he could, to help this family get everything settled in their lives, and yet, at the very end, due to an oversight…the family couldn’t get the ashes back, because, the man who helped them did all the paperwork, didn’t pay attention in one of the, steps of the procedures, translated…

To this point in my life, I’d had that surprise of meeting up.  Thinking of my connection to Yonghe, it was, related to Aunt Mei-Lang.

Aunt Mei-Lang from way back when, with her peach-colored fan, matched the retired armed servicemen who were all alone on their own with available ladies, she was a matchmaker.  The two first looked at one another’s photographs, and, if they liked what they saw, then, my Aunty Mei-Lang would head back to Indonesia to bring a bride to Taiwan; but, if there’s the matters of the paperwork of the immigrations department, then, my aunt left the means to Mr. Chang, and, the cost is, quite high.

Jia-Tzi’s paperwork was through Mr. Chang too, later on, my maternal grandparents, my aunt, uncles airfare, and documents needed for them to come here, was all completely by Mr. Chang.  And so, as my next uncle or aunt readies to fly to Taiwan, my maternal grandfather would take my older stepbrother and I, flagged down a cab on Justice N. Road, all the way to Yonghe where Mr. Chang lived, paying him the fees, and, retrieving the documents.

In my memories, it was a huge apartment, and, as far as the eyes can see, there’s the marble, or the wood material.  Mr. Chang wore the glasses with the silver frame, or was it gold, or, black?  Can’t even remember now.  I only recalled his accent, of Asian-Indonesian as well, and maybe, with the Cantonese mixed in.

On that very night, I took my mother, rode around in the night breeze of Yonghe.  Riding aimlessly, at the intersection of Zhongzhen Road, I’d, turned in the alley where Mr. Chang lived.  Because I recalled, that the cab U-turned, first, it went up a small slope and this was something brand new, living in the flatter Sangchong regions.

The sign outside Mr. Chang’s apartment still had the signs, I’m sure, that he still works to get the foreigners in to the country.

illustration from

Actually, our affinities with Mr. Chang had come to a dead halt that day after my maternal grandfather cut off his ties with him.  A couple of years ago, because we had to get the death certificate for my maternal grandmother in Indonesia, to file for the discontinuance of her status here, Jia-Tzi got into contact with Mr. Chang again, but, the government, the hospital in Indonesia had a grueling process to do this, with the means of paying the tiny charges here and there, under the tables, which caused my eldest uncle, who was taking my grandmother’s ashes back to Taiwan, not having the proofs of her death certificate, causing the local land office to not have the records on file, leading to how after my stepbrother had passed, the land offices found my maternal grandmother who’s already in the towers where the bones were kept, being one of the, living heirs.

We’d thought, that Mr. Chang was good as back when, and that we only needed to pay him a fee, then, all the paperwork, all the troubles of getting the business done would get sorted out smoothly, and yet, we still, lost, to that death certificate that can’t be, certified from, overseas.

Later, we’d tried giving up on the means, no longer needed the death certificate from the local government offices.  And yet, we still had the regrets, Yonghe is still, Yonghe, but Mr. Chang is, an elderly now, while my maternal grandmother’s passport, belongings, still can’t be shipped over, because, back when we’d shipped her ashes back, we’d not gotten the “Arrival” stamps to verify her status of entry.

And so, this, is because of this error from the families part: they didn’t research through all the nitty-gritties of the government, to see what sort of paperwork they are in need of, to get the elder’s ashes over, and, solely relied on the man who’d helped them through getting the paperwork done, and, this time, the families’ mistakes were in not paying the tips to the government workers in Indonesia, and, now, the means of the inheriting of the properties is all a mess for this family.

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The Families Accused the Government: You’d Taken the Dignities Out of the Deceased During that Final Mile of Their Lives

This is AT the scenes!  And the HEAD of the CDC (off with HIS head) stated: the CDC never made these cremation mandates, “VERBATIM”!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The matters of getting those who’d died of contractions cremated quickly continued to burn, the KMT group hosed the press conference yesterday, to share the griefs, the losses of those whose elders had, died of contraction, how the father’s final mile of life, was treated like the waste product of the medical systems, that there’s absolutely, ZERO dignity given to him as a man.  The KMT group stated that the papers disclosing of how to handle the dead bodies wasn’t with the specifications, that the mandates from the CDC had, damaged many families, causing the entry level employees, the funeral home operators, to take the blames as scapegoats, called out to the CDC, to set the limits of time of the cremations of those who’d died of contractions.

Ms. Wang whose father had been confirmed of MERS-CoV contraction pointed out through the video chats, that on the day her father was confirmed of contraction, he’d been assigned by the local department of sanitations to the specialized wards, and he’d died, nineteen days afterwards; her father longed to come home, every minute he was in the hospital, and in the end, he’d died, all alone, without his loved ones by his side, and, the families are in grief over this too.

Ms. Wang told, that because the doctors told the families, that the rules mandated that the bodies needed to get cremated within twenty-four hours of death, the families can only comply with the rules, and as they saw their elder, he was already, inside, the coffin, with the layers of Saran wraps over the coffin, there’s no video documentation, no families close by to witness the final rites, the only one who’d accompanied her father the whole way the hired nurse told, that her father had been wrapped in three layers of body bags, without his needles getting pulled out from his legs, still wearing the diapers, and, without a clean change of clothes too, and the families can only, accept this.

Ms. Wang told, that as she saw the director of the CDC told lightly, “there’s no mandates of death within twenty-four hours”, could it be, that after this, the families would have to, have the hospitals take out the mandates on how the corpses are supposed to handled as mandated by the CDC from now on?  What’s saddest to her, was that for the final passage of her father’s life, he was disposed of like some toxic medical waste product, that there’s no dignity given to him whatsoever, so that, is how the government by the DDP, treats its people.

The legislator from the KMT, Hong told, a lot of the families don’t want the officials handling the bodies to contract the virus when they were handling the bodies, although they feel unwilling, but they can only, agree with the rules.  But, Chen’s words, made all those who’d lost their elders “ingrates”, and this is the government’s, evading responsibilities, mistreating the people.

Toward the accusations from all around, the chairman of the DDP, Cheng stated, that the Executive Department already assigned the Department of Internal Affairs to research the matter, that the KMT should NOT manipulate the people politically anymore.

The Taiwanese People’s Opinions Foundation C.E.O. Yo told, that the more than three thousand members of the public who’d contracted the virus and died, were all cremated within twenty-four hours of death, that the C.D.C. couldn’t not know about this, and yet, after two and a half years, the C.D.C. tried to, evade the responsibilities, it’s truly, unreasonable.

Yo pointed out, that “thinking too much, you wouldn’t have the guts to do it”, and, the opposite is also true, he’d believed, that two and a half years ago, Chen would’ve shouldered up more responsibilities, because the matters were easier to handle then, and now, because of the mess from the outbreaks, and his considerations of running for mayor of Taipei, he’d, considered, too much, that this is, a serious test for a politician who needs to, show some, responsibilities.

And so, due to the evasive rules set up by the CDC, and who’s in charge of these rules by the CDC, oh yeah, it’s the director, that’s why the families who’d lost their loved ones in this outbreak can’t bid their loved ones, a proper, farewell, and now, the director of the C.D.C., due to pressure from the outside world, came out of that ivory tower he’d been living in, and said, “oh, I did NOT mandate the rules of swift cremation for all who’d died of contraction”, tossing the blames to the local governments and the hospitals, for not allowing the families to have that proper goodbye?  Yeah, see how that’ll, fly with the people here!

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The CDC Had Been Evasive for TWO WHOLE Years & Can’t Evade the Responsibilities

Because that, is how the DDP, rules, by BULLSHITTING we the people, and we’d, allowed them to, because we the people are way too, mother @#$%ING, retarded here, hello, hello, hello, as this is still, an ABUSER/ENABLER interaction style of interactions?  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

And They’d, Blamed Us, for Misunderstanding Them, for More than, Two Years?

As the pandemic of MERS-CoV grew out of control locally, for days, the cases of death from MERS got up to over a hundred per day, to the total number of deaths to date to close to three thousand, after the contracted died, they’d all been, swiftly, cremated, and this was, the deepest sort of pains for their families.  And the CDC, that refused to downgrade the level of MERS as a legally defined infectious disease is to blame, until yesterday, Chen, the director of the CDC finally stated, that he will talk with the funeral homes to find a most fitting way for both the families and the funeral homes.

Toward the criticisms of the rules from outside, Chen took out the documents yesterday, stressed that “there’s only the rules of twenty-four hour notices from the facilities where the contracted died, there’s no mandates on the swift cremations”.  Meaning, that it was all, a, misunderstanding by the funeral homes, but to the families, this was, infuriating, had it not been the government’s setting the rules firmly, then, the local offices of sanitations, the hospitals, the funeral homes are the ones, that’s gone off on their own, making that all-too-big an, error?  But the point is, everybody had been “misled” for more than two whole years, so how come, the CDC that’s still hosting its, daily press conference, come out an clarify?

On the questioning of the outside, Chen kept reciting the written rules coldly, explained, that since the start of setting up the rules, the rules of cremation for those who’d contracted MERS-CoV hadn’t been altered, that there was, NO time limit.  Then, pray tell, how quickly is quick enough?  An hour?  How about twenty-four hours?  This sort of an ambiguous claims, how can we not misunderstand?

And besides, the assistant deputy director, the second-in-command of offices of internal affairs, Chen, as he’d attended the news conference on the defense against the spread of MERS-CoV last June stated, “the local funeral homes should still practically go by the rules of twenty-four hour period after death to cremate, that the rules specified on how to prevent the virus from keep on getting passed around”, but this made the online community furious, once more.

In reality, a lot of the medical experts had been calling out to the CDC, to lower the level of MERS-CoV to type four legally defined infectious disease, other than doing away with the reporting in the paperwork, the restrictions of quarantine, paralyzing the medical energies, it can, get the hospitals, the funeral homes away, from the mindset of “Category five infectious diseases” which is by government mandate, within twenty-four hours’ time, the cremations needed to occur.  And the losses of close to three thousand families, Chen can’t dodge responsibilities of, by keeping himself out of the responsibilities using the press media.

So, this head of CDC, dodged behind the press, and it’s still the rules that aren’t, clear-cut, just like how the CDC had been, for two plus years, since the outbreaks first started here, this still just showed, how the DDP abused powers, ruined the lives of the people who are still alive (sigh…), as well as those who’d DIED, during the outbreaks, because they can’t get lain to rest, have the proper burials here!

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A Pact with Our Ancestors

The problems that stemmed out of the declines of birth rates, of how culture is, lost slowly, translated…

The wooden plates of our ancestors upstairs, carried the spirits of those who came before my generations, since I could remember, from my grandparents to my parents, every morning and evening, there would be the offerings of a stick of incense.  When there were the doubts of life, the adults would be lost in thought, as the stick of incense starts to burn up, leaving the smokes that rise upward.  But I’d only felt secretly excited, that of the days of the year, there would be the offerings of the delicious foods , and made, and, as the adults told us the children, to call out the ancestors whose names were written on the wooden plates back to have the foods, after the offerings, we get the extra dishes to eat.

Later, my parents also, “moved in” to the plates too, and I’m now, the one, standing in the smoke that rose upward, and that was when I’d finally understood, what our older generations were thinking of, “Ancestors, mom, dad, do bless the families to be safe and healthy.”  It seemed, that by asking the ancestors for the blessings, we got that promised blessing then, this became, the most faithful asking of blessings for our own, loved ones.

And now, there’s just, two aging elderly who’d, kept guard over this shrine in my home, and we’d, prayed daily, that our children who are all married away, to be safe with their own families, to be healthy.

Recently, in the offerings I’d made, there’s that, extra discussion, and appointment too, when eventually my husband and I made it into the plates ourselves, then, there would be no one here, to offer anymore, and, I’d told our daughter, to place the plates in the temples, so we can, stay alongside Buddha then.

This would be the problem of declined birth rate of modern day world, and I’m certain, that all the ancestors would understand, and surely, that the promise of blessings would keep getting passed, to our children, and down the line as well.

And so, this is, the problems of the declines in birth rate, how as we age, and we won’t have anybody to offer the items to us anymore, but that’s, based off of the beliefs of how our souls would, stay around our families after we’re, already gone, but this isn’t actually, true, but it gives us that safe place to feel secure in, that’s the purpose of, faith, and religions.

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Everything will Eventually Work Out in Life

What her father left behind for her, the wisdoms, not the physical, assets here, how you want to remember by others when you’re dead and gone, the values you leave behind, translated…

Every time I’d rummaged through my coin purse, it’s like, I’d already, counted them up, and made the perfect change, and I’d often, recalled my own father at these times.  Based off of how he’d taught me math, he’d often stated, “math is unchanged,” and now came my turn, to teach my own son math, I’d learned, that everything is, not as stable in this world, that the only thing that don’t betray you, are the numbers and the math.

What awed me was, that my father, who’d, calculated everything in his own life, although, couldn’t predict when his life ended, but he’d, fulfilled, “leaving nothing behind”.  As Shel Silverstein wrote in “Prayers of a Selfish Child”, “As I Lay Me Down to Sleep, I Pray the Lord My Soul to Keep, If I Die Before I Wake, I Pray the Lord My Toys to Break, So None of the Other Kids Can Use ‘Em…Amen!” I was still a teenage girl as I first read this, felt, that this poem had, helped me understand what I couldn’t of my own father.

Recently, a good friend accompanied me to see him at his grave, I’d talked of how he’d only lived, for himself, my friend, don’t know if she was courteous, or heartfelt, told, “Uncle really let go of everything.”  Yeah, sure, maybe, he’d already saw through, this, long and short life, knew that life’s too short, and tried, to give himself the sweetened fruits of no worries for the long run.

And so, this, is how we need to, get closure on everything that’s happened to us in our lives, soon as we can, because we don’t know when we will get yanked off of the planet, and, by the time we actually get yanked off, if there are the regrets, the forgiveness, the unforgiveness or whatever that’s left behind, then, you would not be able to die off easily enough.  So, do what you need to, to resolve as many things in your lives as you possibly can, right now.

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That Final Lesson of Life

Mom’s been gone ten years now, as she’d left, it was like her her whole life, continually worrying over us, that we are worried about her, she’d not become bedridden, she had a heart attack riding in the car on the freeways, and, as we’d rushed her to the hospitals, she was already in heaven, leaving us, flustered.

Born after the second World War, our families are traditional, not stated of love, we can’t even express the love we feel for one another well.  Or maybe, it’s how simple the world once was, or maybe, the schools just didn’t teach us how to express the love, but as mom left this world, she’d, gave you that makeup lesson on it.  Back then, you’d not known it yet, and now, it’d, dawned on you, and, as you grew older, it’d, caused, that warmth that overflowed from your heart.

from when you were a child…

photo from online

During those years of the past, you’d gone home often, to accompany mom out on walks, or to take her out to dine.  Once as you were about to cross the roads, mom suddenly took your hand; at that very moment, you’d felt, awkward, knowing you can’t back away, then you’d, squeezed her hand, and shockingly noted, how tiny her hand was, how soft.  You’d, held it with so much care, like holding on to an easily cracked, egg, and, you’d recalled, that back in your childhood years, she must’ve, taken your hand as you were a young child too, to get across the streets, to shop in the marketplaces, to take you to school, to pick you up afterwards.

And now, you’d often thought: a tall man, leading his mother with her hair all white with his hand.  That sense of shyness from the beginning, to that head up high and proud, strutting, such a beautiful, yet, quite rare, sight from the streets.

And so, this, is what you’d remembered about your mother, that she’d needed you to hold her hand, but, because of the way you were raised, you are not expressive in the physical forms of intimacy toward others, because that, was how you were, socialized from before.

to when you became an adult, and she, an elderly

like this…photo from online

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Her Final Farewell

How considerate this elderly woman had been, planning out everything that is to be done after she was gone, relieving her children and grandchildren, and other families of stress of her death, translated…

“We’d, walked toward death the moment we were born”, the philosopher told.

During my studies in the graduate department, Professor Wu of “Old Texts” shared with us the story of his mother-in-law’s “final farewell”.  As his mother-in-law was ill in her dying days, one day, she’d felt that her time was about almost up, she’d had my professor and his wife prepared the gifts, had them accompanied her to the few relatives to visit, to say her final farewell to them, to see them, one final time before she goes.

The elderly carried the gifts, told the friends and relatives: we’d been connected by our affinities of one another, that she’d been grateful for their kindness toward her, that if she’d upset them, hope they will forgive her for it, that this may well be the final time she will ever get to see them personally.  That was, the elderly’s bidding all whom she cared for a final farewell.  And, as those whom she’d visited cried and hugged her, my professor who was driving, helped his mother-in-law fulfill her wish of bidding everybody a final farewell.

As they returned home, the elderly took out half a million dollars, told my professor’s wife of how she’d wanted her final affairs to get sorted out, then, a few days later, she’d left the world, peacefully behind.

My professor told, this is the elder’s “saying thanks, expressing the love, making amends, and saying her goodbye”, a form of “final farewell”; his mother-in-law is a wise elder, she’d even, sorted out her own final rite of passage in her own life herself, lived a complete life, and, died with a smile on her face.  I hope, that as I get to the very end, I can have the same kind of courage, same sort of wisdom, to bid my loved ones, a good final farewell too.

And so, this, is the elderly woman’s considerations toward her own younger generations, she’d sorted everything out, so they only needed to follow what she told them to do after she was gone, and, by setting up the step-by-step, to-do list of what was to happen after one is gone, you’d be reducing the stresses, helping your own loved ones, cope with the losses of you, and, they will all be very grateful, toward you, for how you were kind enough, to plan everything out, so all they had to do was to execute, and grieve, without worrying about the funeral, and everything else that comes afterwards.

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