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A Senior Rookie

Switching tracks later on in life, translated…

I’d switched tracks at almost forty years of age, the former decade I’d spent, working in the business realm, and the latter decade, to now, I’m working in the realms of education.  And, I’d become, rookies in the workforce twice in my life.

The very first time I was a rookie, it was when I’d just, started out working, I was, a blank piece of paper, and, the goal of my work from day to day, is to fill up this blank piece of paper that I once was with a wide variety of colors, hoped to gain the approvals of others.  Back then, all us rookies all wondered, how “do we enrich ourselves”?

not my drawing…

The second time I’d become a rookie, I’d gone from working in business, to teaching, and, although I was a rookie in the field of education, but because of getting olrder, plus the decades’ worth of work experience, this time, this rookie’s focus is no longer on the “self”, but how to benefit someone else.  I’d taught the subject of English in school, but, I’d known, that before I’m able to teach the lessons in English, I must find a way to connect with my students, and so, other than teaching the lessons in class, I’d worked really hard, to manage my classes as well, after I’d gained the trust of my students, the classes flowed even more freely.

These two experiences of being a rookie gave me different understandings of life, it’d also, enriched my working experience as well.

not my picture still…

So, this, is on switching tracks, this person wnet from working in business, to teaching in a classroom, and it’s such a huge difference, and, he must’ve needed to, adjust himself, based off of the people he’d encountered in business, and in school, teaching a classroom of students, but, it’s, these sorts of varied experiences in life that makes life more interesting.

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The Thirty-Sixth “I’m Sorry”, in the Workplace

Translated…

I read across a report in a magazine, “the most widely used phrases came from the Zen Master of the era during 420 to 589, in the west, it’d become popularized in the 1850s, meaning those words one said repeatedly”.  In the article, it’d mentioned how those most widely used phrases can have positive effects in communication, that if the working class constantly used the positive most widely used phrases, they would attract those who are similar to them, and naturally, get closer, to success………I’d told my son, since he’d gone into the travel industries, his most widely used phrase was, “I’m sorry”, is this positive?

My son laughed in disbelief, at which time, his cell phone started ringing, it was, the tour guide to Japan, said that two of the guests refused to have the hotpot arranged for them by the tourist agency, that they’d insisted on having pork chops; the leader of the tour worried it might be inconvenient to the restaurant, and feared, that it might be a bad example for the rest of the tourists, called from overseas, to file a grievance to my son, “Your clients, you take care of them.”  My son immediately apologized to the tour guide, then, soothed the travelers, asked them to just eat the hotpot with the rest of the group, that after they returned, he will treat them to the pork chops they’d wanted to have.

from the papers…

Seeing how my son had, lowered himself, as his mother, I felt that he was taken.  But my son told me, there are people from all walks of life, don’t know how many bad customers I’d come across over the years, this, was merely, a side dish, he said, that once, he’d continually told a client “I’m sorry” a total of thirty-six times, after the phone call, he was, completely, depleted of energy.

That time, he’d taken on a foreign tour group, at the information session, over thirty people came, as he’d collected the fees, some paid by credit card, some paid by cash, all of a sudden, he’d become aware, that there was a tourist, Ms. Lee who’d asked to pay by installments, and asked the others, “are there any like Ms. Lee who are paying by installments?” then, a group of people rushed up to him, and Ms. Lee was extremely furious, “What do you mean?  Why did you use my name?”

“Holy!  Could she have, mistaken my meaning that she didn’t have enough money that, was why she’d paid by installment?”, my son immediately realized that he’d misspoke, and told her that he’d not meant anything by it, but Ms. Lee wouldn’t have it, still pressed on.  And my son, who was then, cornered, can only kept apologizing to her, and as he’d counted to the thirty-sixth time he’d apologized to her, Ms. Lee finally got tired of grilling him, turned around and left, and he’d gone back to his cubicle, and, downed half a liter of water in one gulp.

not my comic…

Afterwards, my son received a call from Ms. Lee’s coworker, told him, that Ms. Lee was scolded by the superiors at the office for NO reasons at all, that she wasn’t in a good mood, that, was why she’d taken her angers out on him, hoped that my son can empathize.  My son said, that it was his fault first, that he’d spoken too fast, without taking into considerations that it may affect the way she felt, that he will surely improve the next time.

Although my son said carelessly, that he’d, rolled around the workforce for many years now, and had already become totally immune from everything that happens in the workforce, I can still see, that he was, somewhat hurt.  As for his most widely used phrase, did it have any positive influences?  I’d thought for a long time, and still couldn’t reach my own conclusions, but, you can never be too courteous, if you’re not closer to success, you would be, a step away from failure, I suppose.

So, this, is when one deals with a customer who’s WRONG, but, because this guy works in the service industries, he’d needed to, lower himself, to make his clients feel better, and this woman took out how she was grilled by her superior at work on someone unrelated to her work, and that just shows how low emotional control this woman has.

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Stepping into a New Place of Work, Stepping OUT of the Comfort Zones, the Growth of a Woman

Translated…

My close friend, Yun recently left the public facility she’d worked for for over ten years, and entered into a completely unfamiliar realm of medical technologies.  The different environments caused her to feel stressed, naturally, especially entering into the top three pharmaceutical company of the country to work, she needed to come into contact with English contracts, and endless number of medications; and she needed to listen to the coworkers, using English, to explain the purposes of the medications, the side effects, etc., etc., etc., at first, she felt she wasn’t up to the job at all.

But, in order to adapt quickly, other than asking other senior workers from her department, she’d also gone to the research lab of her company to read often, to find out about the related matters, to up her skills needed for work.

After she’d changed tracks, Yun worked hard every day, as if she’s constantly engaged into wars, the regular overtimes had become norm now.  Sometimes, during her hour-long lunch, she’d still reviewed the terms of the contracts; other than the endless small and big meetings, she also needed to handle a lot of the executive suits, and related matters, this cycle happens every single day, but, Yun is more than glad, willing, to take on the various challenges that her workforce give to her, to take responsibilities for her own ability and the development of her own careers.

Recently, she’d beaten the group of outstanding coworkers in a training, and earned herself a set of silver coins that were made, to commemorate the company becoming publicly traded.  Yun was extremely happy, felt that all of her hard work, had finally paid off; and she’d also proved to herself, that her views of “not getting tied down by a certain format of work”, and “get interactive with people from various backgrounds, it’ll help you grow”, was correct.

She told me, because she is new in the medical industry, she’d constantly told herself, that she must put in more time, more energy, slowly, develop the skills she needed for work.  Because, so long as she has the professionalisms of the area, it doesn’t matter what sort of challenges will come her way.

I saw on Yun, not just a woman with the ability to withstand great amounts of pressure, but also someone who was willing to learn new things; and, I’m also in awe at how she was able to get out of her comfort zone with so much courage too.

And so, we can attribute this woman’s success to her ability to adapt, to make changes, and her attitude to learning, and that, is what the companies are looking for, someone who’s not afraid to get involved with something new, someone who’s hard working, that, is why this woman was able to succeed in her career.

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The Six-Year-Old Daughter Gave Her Mother Away, the DNA Showed, that She Wasn’t His Child at All

Words, out of mouths of babes, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The young daughter of a man, Wu, often spoke of how she has another daddy, last year, Wu took his daughter to get her DNA checked out, and, the child was unrelated to him by blood; he’d recalled how eight to ten months before his daughter was born, his wife who was originally frigid and not sexually turned on at all had asked him to have sex with her multiple times, , it was, to cover up the fact, that she was already pregnant, he’d filed for a law suit.  His ex-wife, who had already agreed to divorce him claimed, that when she was on a business trip, she was knocked out, then raped, and that, was how she got knocked up.  The judge didn’t believe her, mandated that she must pay her ex-husband one million dollars N.T., the case can still be appealed.

Wu’s complaints pointed out, that a decade ago, he’d married, and right after his wife and he were wed, his wife would take several business trips to China, they slowly fell out of love, rarely consummated; a little over seven years ago, his wife gave birth to a daughter, as the child grows up, a lot of his friends and families pointed out, that the child does not look like him at all, and he’d even heard his daughter told that she “has another dad”.

When the child was six, she’d gone on a trip with his wife, after the child came home, she’d told her grandmother, that she had gone to her other dad’s house, that mom took showers, slept, and cooked there, everybody went to McDonald’s, the park, then, to the shopping strip, and that the other “dad” also bought her toys.

Back then, he was starting to get suspicious, at the start of last year, he’d taken his daughter to the hospital for a paternity test, and, the results proved, that she wasn’t his at all, he felt taken, for taking care of someone else’s child for so many years, as he’d grilled his wife, she’d denied having had an affair, he got furious, and filed for a divorce with the courts, and, after the case went to family court, the divorce was granted.

Wu pointed out, that ten to eight months before his daughter was born, his ex-wife had found him to have sex several times, clearly, it was, to cover up her own infidelity; as the case went up to the Taipei District Courts, the ex-wife denied having had an affair, claimed, that because she’d gone on business trips to China a lot back then, she’d needed to drink with the business associates, that she may have been date raped, that, was how she’d gotten pregnant.

The judge believed, that if someone was drugged or raped, the person would be likely to notify the police, or tell it to someone she trusted, a friend, or members of one’s own family, Wu’s ex-wife couldn’t provide witnesses or any evidences, and so, the judge did not take her words for it, believed, that her daughter was conceived from her affair.

And so, that still just shows, that infidelities are NOT a specialty of men, that women can cheat too.

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Why Power Rape Happens…

Once again, it’s about, gaining that feel of POWER over someone else!!!

Power rape is defined as a rape that occurs with someone in a subordinate position of work, by a superior, whether it’s in the armed forces, or in an ordinary office.

And, the reason why this SHIT is happening, is primarily due to the rapists LACK of self-esteem, because the rapist feels incompetent in some way (I wouldn’t know what!!!), that, is why s/he feels the need, to DOMINATE someone else, it’s a show, of how insecure the rapists actually are, and because the one being raped is usually someone who’d depended, relied on the person who rapes her/him, that, is why, chances are, that the victim usually hushes up about it, and this will only make the situation exacerbate, so, STOP operating in the mindset of, “If I just IGNORED…”, because it won’t GO away, like an untreated common cold!

Power rapes are still happening, when your bosses use her/his place in the company, to FORCE you to do something you don’t want to, that, would constitute as ABUSE, and, IF you’d allowed it to happen, over, over, AND over again, then, you’d become, the ENABLER, and, NOBODY likes an enabler, or at least, I don’t!!!

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The Boundaries of Interaction with the Colleagues, the Ins & Outs of the Workforce

Translated…

I was born, in an agricultural family, since I was younger, I’d seen my elders, hard at work, living a simple life, and their values got passed down to the next generations of children.

My cousin-niece went into the workforce, and, put forth her always working attitude, believed that she was getting paid for the work she’s doing, that she couldn’t and shouldn’t slack off, must work hard, and so, she’d rarely connected with her coworkers, just kept her head bucked down, and after work, she’d rushed home, to be with the family.

The colleagues would often hold casual conversations at break time, and sometimes would go get coffee, or shopping after work, and would sign up for buying things online as a group.  At first, no matter what the activity, everybody would ask my niece along, but she’d always turned them down kindly.

After a little while, nobody ever asks her again, for a very long time, at break time, as the coworkers would engage themselves in conversations, sharing the ins and outs of life with each other, only my niece, she couldn’t chime in, got treated like air, she felt that the coworkers are singling her out intentionally, and so, she’d gotten mad silently.

My cousin-niece’s feelings, it made me see the hard-working version of me in the past, in my strict attitude in working, I’d ignored the basics of human interactions, and showing cares and concerns to others I work alongside of.  My hard working mannerism had gotten the commends of my boss, but, because I rarely socialized with my coworkers, they’d interpreted me as being too high up on the pedestal.

Other than family, everybody needs friends in other circles; other than working hard away, you must take the time, to get to know your coworkers, and, help one another out, show that friendly hand, so, you can get the same kind of reaction from them too, and, all of these attitudes, are learned, as experiences builds up.

And so, this just shows, working hard is NO longer the ONLY requirement at the office, you also need to show other people that you are a part of the group, like this young woman from the above, she just keeps her head down at work, and, there’s nothing wrong with that, but, she failed to realize, that work is a very social place, that sometimes, doing what’s assigned to you, is not quite enough, I mean, getting the job done right is very important, but, not to the point that you ignored all else!

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When You’d Lost the Passions for What You Do

This, is all about what DRIVES a person here!!!

When you’d lost the passions for what you do, because you’d worked in your jobs, for god knows how long, and, maybe, at the very start of your careers, you’d come in (to the workforce), with FULL zest, FULL energy, but, day, after day, AFTER day, AFTER day, it’s the same old grind, and eventually, what you loved doing, got turned, into a TOTAL drag, but by now, you’d become, so totally settled into your jobs, that, you just don’t feel like, and can find the motivations, for change, what, do you do?

When you’d lost the passion for what you do, I get, that having the passions for something is NOT the most important thing there is, I mean, take a look around, at ALL those dead artists (no offense!) who’d NEVER gained fame, until AFTER they’d died, if they’d lost the passions for what they do (which is ART!!!), then, would we have, so many great pieces, on display, in the museums out there?  No!

When you wake up in the morning, and feel, that you’re obligated, to go to work, then, you’d lost that love for what you’re doing, but, because what you really loved doing, well, let’s just say, that it does NOT pay your bills at ALL, and so, you still get dressed, and head to work, and, at work, as you thought about how much you HATED it, and yet, you’d had to, keep on, comin’ back to the same old grind, DAY, after DAY, after D-A-Y…

Point is: if you’d lost the passions for what you do, then, maybe, it’s time, that you considered, changing, to another job, because if you don’t, you will end up, getting, BURNT out, and who knows, you just might develop a case of anxiety, or even, depression too, and, DOWN goes your mental health!

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