Meeting Up at the End-of-Year Company Gathering

How the twists and turns of life had been, difficult on this man’s, childhood friend, despite how she became, a famed, singer, life is still, not at all, easy for this woman!  Translated…

Once at the end-of-year company gathering, a familiar singer came to perform, it’d reminded me of that time in my childhood.

Reason why I’d remembered her especially, was because she was the very first who’d professed her love to me.  As I was growing up, I was overcome with illness, and I’d gone to her house to get the glucose shots to get my energy back; her house was the only pharmacy in our little town, and the neighbors’ aches and pains, are all reliant on her family’s pharmacy.

She loved to sing when she was a young child, and would often run to my home to sing for me, or watched the cartoons with me.  Once as she’d finished her songs, she’d told me, that she likes me, and that hoped that I will, NEVER, change, at the moment, I felt so bashful, not known how to respond.  As we were about to graduate from elementary, she and her family moved to Nantou, and lost contact with us, the family’s former, neighbors.  I’d heard, that it was her older brother who took to the wrong paths, after middle school, he’d not continued his education, and her father gave her older brother the money for a record shop, the record shop didn’t make it, they’d owed a ton of debts, sold off two of their houses, and it still wasn’t enough to make up for the costs, and the family can only hide out for a bit in Nantou.  Later, she’d become a single, and gained some fame, that was when I’d known, that the princess when she was growing up, to help her family’s finances, started singing at the restaurants, and got discovered by the talent scouts, climbed the ladder step by step, to being a singer who has records.

As the encore of the end-of-year company party was over, I’d turned to the backstage, to see that princess of my childhood, but I was unsure that after twenty years, she being a star, would she still, remember, me?  The moment our eyes met, my doubts went away instantly, as she’d called out my nickname I used in childhood, and told of how excellent I was, at reciting the texts in class.  The words came fast, as she was to rush to her next performance, and I’d forgotten to get her contact so we can catch up later, and yet, it was, more than, enough, after all, we’re both, okay.

Afterwards, all of her information I’d read up on on the news, only knew, that she’d lost her color in Taiwan, and turned to China to sing, then married, was abused, divorced, then, took her child and moved in with her own mother in Taiwan.

If I could meet up with her again, I can only say, that the cartoon of “Journey to the West” we’d watched together, the Buddhist monk, after all the trials he’d weathered through, he finally met Buddha in the West, and, become a Buddha himself, I hope, that she’s away from the trials of life, and has a smooth-sailing life.

And so, this is this woman’s trials of life, of how she’d gotten to stardom, of how she married the wrong man, who’d abused her like her own mother was abused by her own father too, but, maybe, she’s made a name for herself, as a singer in China, and this friend from her childhood, can only wish her the best in life.

Using a Nonviolent Way to Resolve a Fight

An incident of your son getting beaten by a classmate, and you’d found out why, and you and your son had selected to forgive the other child, translated…

“Mom, my head hurts, I think there’s a bump!”, as I bathed my child, my son patted his head, told me, in a sorrowful manner, and I’d immediately felt alerted, and asked him what had happened.

“Was it from a fall during the time between classes?”, my son stuttered, as he’d responded, “No, it was in P.E., when we were lined up, I’d accidentally, bumped into a classmate, the person got angered and pushed me down, then, sat on top of me, to beat me up, and I got this bump on my head”, I was shocked and hurt, and immediately called up my son’s homeroom instructor to understand exactly what had happened.

In the assistance of his homeroom instructor, and I’d communicated with the parents of the other boy, and the boy who’d hit my son apologized to him, and my son and we chose to forgive.  After all it was due to our son’s lack of attention, and bumped into his classmate, and even as he’d apologized to the classmate, the other child couldn’t understand, and lost it, that was why the push and the shove occurred.  The homeroom instructor later explained to us, that the child who’d hit my son was with emotional troubles, but due to the matters of his families, he didn’t get any help from a professional facility, but the school had assigned the counselors to continue to counsel the child.

And we’d used this as an opportunity to educate our own son, that if in the futures, things similar to this occurred, how he could protect himself, and get away unharmed, to use the right means to resolve his problems, and to avoid the problems that will keep on coming with one solitary incident of violence.

The information is transmitted too speedily nowadays, the children can gain awareness from all over the places, if the parents didn’t give their young the correct values and teach them right from wrong, then, the child can easily be misled into believing, that using violence to resolve the problems is okay; as for the adults’ behaviors and words, the children will always, model after.  And so, as parents, we need to set a better example, and use the things that happen in the daily lives, to instill the right kinds of values into our young’s minds, to reduce the onset, the prevalence of in-school violence.

When these incidents do happen, whether it be the school instructors or the parents, they all must face this actively, and not try to smooth things over, and believed, that “the kids are just, playing”; any behavior that can cause someone else physical or psychological harms, are rarely the results of playing for joy, instead, they’re mostly caused by the negative emotions accumulating, causing the person to lose control.

Children are independent, not only do the adults have feelings, the children’s thoughts and feelings should also be listened to and empathized, I hope, that every face that smiled on, will be able to grow up happy and safe in an environment that’s not made with fear.

So, this just showed, how children still modeled after the adults, if you treat your children with violence, then, they’re more than likely to resolve their problems with the violence too, this still showed how children always model after their adult counterparts, and so, as parents, YOU (and nope, still NOT one of you out there!)need to make sure that your emotions are in check, that you are calm and collected when you interact with your own young, and if you lose control, that’s okay too, but be sure to explain to your kids, why it was that you exploded, and that it wasn’t their faults, that it may be something that they’d done that angered you, but it’s not directed toward them as person, but their behaviors.

Infidelities, Most Likely to Happen, Three Years After the Marriage

From research statistics, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The Shu-De Technical University Human Sexuality Department manager, Yen-Ching Lin said, that modern day women are financially independent, have a strong sense of themselves, and, once the quality of their marriage drops, they have a higher chance of having affairs; the Graduate Research Department in its 2010 survey of 400 married women in southern Taiwan, the rate of infidelity was 36.5 percent.  Lin believed, that the statistics for the married women in the central and northern parts would be roughly the same as well.

This study showed, that the partners of the affairs who were friends made up about 44.3 percent, the highest, followed by coworkers, friends from online, exes, and, the time when the affairs are most likely to start would be three years after the marriage.

And on top of that, the results of a survey by the Sexology Research Department before Valentine’s Day showed, that the rate of modern day female college students who had already had sex makes up about 43.5 percent, compared to the 27.3 percent from seventeen years ago, there is a clear increase, the primary reason for this being how open the societies had become.  Lin said, that from the researches conducted abroad, the women who had had sex prior to marriage are more than likely to have extramarital affairs after they are married, and, modern day women are expecting higher quality from their marriages, compared to the last generations, and so, they are bound, by the cultures, to stay in a marriage, so, they’re more than likely to find an exit for their own emotions.

On the males’ front, although the sexology department didn’t conduct such researches, however, on a survey over the subjects of one-night-stands, twenty-five percent of surveyed males are accepting to the idea, thirty-three percent of the subjects HAD experiences with one night stands, and men who wanted to try out one night stands, make up sixty percent.

Lin suggested that couples need to work hard, in making their relationships work, just spend more time with one another, showing cares and concerns for each other often, it shouldn’t be that difficult, to keep happy in the marriage.

So, there you have it, from the lips of the researcher, and, this still just shows, how as we advanced in every single way, our behaviors are falling backwards, and, just because you can, doesn’t mean that you would do it, where’s the moral restraints???

A Piece of Paper, with Three Young Children, Crying, Saved Their Parents, the Young Children Went to the Subprecinct to Look for Grandpa

Parents who made their kids go through HELL here, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

“Uncle Police, I need to go find grandpa, mom and dad said they’re going to kill; themselves!”, two nights ago, deep into the nights, three young children came, to the Shalun Subprecinct, with suitcases, telling the adults; some two odd hours later, the police found the parents, inside the car, with the exhaust gas fuming up, in the mountainous regions of Shulin District.

The police said, that the parents drove the kids to someplace near the subprecinct, gave them a note, told them to go into the subprecinct; the nine-year-old eldest brother, took his five and three-year old younger siblings, walked into the subprecincted, teary eyed, but, the eldest still maintained his collectedness as an eldest child, the officer on duty, Lin immediately notified the assistant manager of the subprecinct, Dai, the constable, Huang, the patrol officer, Lee, and, everybody came to inquire these three young children, what was wrong.

The nine-year-old eldest child took out a piece of paper, with their grandfather’s name and telephone number printed on it, said, “I heard mom and dad said they’re going to kill themselves”, Dai immediately notified the active office, and asked the patrol officers who are online to help out with the searches, as the grandfather and eldest uncle were contacted, they’d both rushed to the subprecincted, asked, “can you please help find them quick!”

The police investigated, that before the incident, the father of the children had texted the eldest brother, asked him to take care of the three young children, his eldest immediately told him, “whatever it is, we’ll talk at home”, the police set up the GPS tracking systems, to find the location of the couple, at a little past midnight, they were confirmed, to be at the mountainous region of Shulin, they’d immediately notified the local authorities, and the fire department to help with the search.

As the police, the fire department rushed to the area, found the sedan, and found, that the exhaust pipe had been connected to a duct, that led into the car, they’d immediately opened the doors, the father is already out, but his wife is still half-conscious, they’d immediately rushed them to the hospital, and, they’re okay now.

The police found, that the couple three years ago, suspected of avoiding the debts, went southward toward Taichung from Banciao, then, lost contact with the family, and this time they’d driven up north, they’d left their kids alone with the relatives.  The Hsinbei Social Services Department already placed the three young boys, and is now, counseling the family of five, hoped, to return the children to their family of origin, so they can all be together again.

So, this, is still, a VERY awful example that the parents set for the children, and, thankfully, the oldest son, who was only NINE had the smart mind, to notify the police, because if he hadn’t, can you imagine how he’d be carrying the causes of his parents’ death on his shoulders???

 

 

 

Divorce Gets UGLY

Because there’s NO “good” in goodbye, despite what it reads!!!

Divorce gets ugly, because, we’d be play the kids against each other, and, for them, it’s either that I’m on mommy’s side, betraying daddy, or that I’m on daddy’s side, betraying mommy…

Divorce gets ugly, and, we have YET to discuss the TERMS of our alimony agreements, no, this, is only the “pre-planning” stage of things here.  Divorce gets ugly, so, looks like I’ll need my supply of grenades, cannons, guns, uzis, along with an ASSORTMENT of weapons for ASSAULT, and, we still don’t CARE who we end up hurting, we just want to GET each other back.

Divorce gets ugly, as it’s supposed to, and, there’s no, let’s go back to being friends after this, after all, we’d TORN up this love, left one another hurting like hell, and, nobody CAN and WILL EVER forgive, OR forget a betrayal in THAT kind of D-E-P-T-H.

Divorce gets ugly, and, we’re still NOT the only casualties of this god DAMN war we’d started, there are, what are THEIR faces again???  You know, those young ones, that we’d “procreated”?  You know?  What ARE they called again?  Oh yeah, our O-F-F-S-P-R-I-N-G?  Do you not remember T-H-E-M???

A Seventeen-Year-Old Stole Condoms, the Fourteen-Year-Old Who Was Uninvolved Took the Fall for $3,500N.T.s

An example of a mother’s selfishness, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A woman, Chen’s seventeen year old high school son shoplifted condoms from a super convenience store, after the cops came to her, she’d told her son’s middle school classmate to take the fall for her son, but she didn’t pay him the specified amount, and the youngest son’s classmate told his father about how “I’d acted as a thief on someone else’s behalf, and I didn’t get paid enough.”, and that, was how this case busted wide open.

The Hsinbei District Attorney’s Office prosecuted Chen based off of enticing someone else to confess to a crime s/he didn’t commit, and asked for a sentence; her sons’ classmates were turned over to juvenile courts to processes.

The D.A. found out, that Chen knew that her eldest son didn’t have his motorist license, and still gave him her motorcycle to ride; at the beginning of August this year, the son shoplifted a box of condoms into his pant pockets, then, rode off with his young girlfriend.

The store clerk found that something was taken from the shop, reviewed the surveillance and called it in; the police could tell that it was a youth who’d committed the shoplifting, and found the owner of the motorcycle from the license plate, and took the footage to her house, and asked her if her motorcycle had been stolen, or if she knew the thief in the footage.

Chen recognized that it was her eldest right away, but said, that she knew who he was, and after she got to the bottom of the whole story, she’ll have someone go to the subprecinct to explain; back then, the classmate from her younger fourteen-year-old son was over, she’d pulled the boy to the side, told him, that if he was willing to confess to taking the item from the super convenience shop, then, she will give him $3,500N.T.s.

After the middle schooler agreed, he’d gone to the subprecinct immediately, and, no matter what the police asked, he’d answered how Chen told him to, and after he’d taken the fall, he’d gone back to Chen, to claim his prize, but, she’d only paid him $2,000N.T.s; after he’d gone home, he’d complained to his father, “I’d helped out being a thief and gotten ripped off”, his father inquired further, then, pulled his son to the subprecinct to get all of it on record, and told the cops that the man in the footage was not even remotely like his son.

As the court held its session, Chen confessed, claimed that she just didn’t want her son to have a record, said that her eldest wanted to buy condoms but was bashful to do so, that, was why he’d shoplifted it.  And the middle school told of what had happened in court, and, his father started telling Chen off, that she’d only thought about not wanting a record for her own son, but had destroyed someone else’s son.

Here, you still have some really BAD parenting behaviors, the mother, because she didn’t want her son to have a police record, she’d asked someone else to take the fall, for her son’s shoplifting…

A Man Murdered the Woman with Whom He Was Having an Affair with, the Son Helped the Father Dispose of the Body, and His Wife Spoke on His Behalf

A man who not only managed to MURDER his whore, he’d also gotten his wife, and his son involved, and now, they’re both, ACCOMPLICES here, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The long-haired Jane Doe found in the mountain regions of Taoyuan, Long Tang Mountain, after over one thousand DNA comparisons, the police finally found out, that the woman was Tseng, yesterday, the police arrested the leader of the PTA of a certain high school, Huang, he’d admitted to strangling his spare to death, along with burying her, his wife and son were also involved in the conspiracy for murder, along with disposing of the body, the family of three were charged on murder, Huang was taken into police custody, and his wife was on a fifty thousand dollar bail.

The police investigated and found, that Tseng was the president of the PTA of a certain elementary school, very beautiful looking, and had met up with Huang (age 43), the president of a certain high school’s PTA; Huang invited Tseng into participating in the Lion’s Order, and even though, both are married, but, because they’d spent a lot of time together, they’d fallen in love, started last June, they started going to functions together, and some of the club members were misled into believing that they were, a couple.

During the time they were together, Tseng had asked Huang to divorce his wife, but Huang refused, and asked to break up with her.  On the early morning of August 2, Tseng got drunk, and went to Huang’s house in a cab, wanted him to choose between her and his own wife.  Tseng got into a verbal altercation with Huang’s seventeen year-old son, and it’d waken up the couple too, and the four of them fought.

After Huang was angered, he’d used a bat, beaten Tseng to unconscious, and he’d stopped his own wife from calling the ambulance, he’d hauled the woman to the car with his son’s help, drove to Longtan County, Gushan District, and he’d strangled her to death, stripped her nude, dumped her body into the grasslands, after he’d driven his own son home, he’d bought a farm tool, and buried her there on his own.

Two months later, a remote control airplane “pilot” lost his toy in the area, went to pick up the airplane that he’d lost in the region, and found the remains of the woman by accident, back then, the police mistook it for the body of Lee, but the police realized that it wasn’t her, because the DNA didn’t match, that it was another murder case.

The Detective Squad, the First Detective Team of Taoyuan, along with the Longtang subprecinct worked together, to match the DNA, but because there was only false teeth and jaws that remained, the police searched and inquired over a thousand dentists, and sorted through the over hundred of the missing population, in the end, they’d found that the mold was a match to Tseng in a dentist’s office in Chungli, Taoyuan, then, they’d used Tseng’s eldest daughter for the DNA comparisons, and the remains were Tseng’s.

The specialist team searched the social life of the deceased, and found that the last telephone number was dialed for a cab to get her to Huang’s place, and that same day, Huang had gone on an outing with his friends of the Lion’s Club, and his group member said, that Huang looked out of it, and had gone to the car to catch up on his sleep, that this was out of place, and so, the police suspected Huang’s involvement.  Two mornings ago, when Huang and his wife was about to go on the airplane to go to Guanxi, China, the police feared that they have the desires to make their escape, they’d taken the family of three back to the precinct for questioning.

Huang admitted to murdering and burying his lover, and Huang’s wife claimed that her husband told her, “I’d buried her,” and the son nodded in agreement too, that he saw how his father strangled the woman to death through the car windows; after the interrogations, the police took the couple to the district attorney’s office, and the son was taken to juvenile court for processing.

So murder became a “family affair” here, didn’t it?  And, it all started when the woman with whom the man was having an affair with wanted to end it, and, he could’ve let her go, but he didn’t, perhaps because he believed that he’d invested so much emotion into the relationship, and now the woman wanted out, and that angered him, and so, he’d murdered his whore, and had his son and his wife help him with the cover up.

Using the Kids to Restrain Your Husband

This, is NOT only a BAD idea, but, it’s also, BAD parenting too!!!

Using the kids to restrain the husband, I can’t believe I didn’t think of that!  I mean, it’s an amazing idea, isn’t it?  You would NOT only be able to manipulate your spouses (one at a time!) into staying by your sides, you will also BE able to restrain them, from fucking ALL their whores too.

Using the kids to restrain your husbands, it’s an amazing idea, at first, after all, he’d done you wrong, and, how amazing revenge will feel, after you’d managed, to turn your kids against their own father?  Using your kids to restrain your husbands, it may work, for a short while, but eventually, it won’t work, because you can’t keep your eyes, GLUED to your hubbies’ (one at a time!!!) behaviors at all times, can you?  How tiring would THAT be!!!

Using your kids to restrain your husband, that, is what we all should learn how, after all, all those LOSERS care about are their S-P-A-W-N-S, and besides, after we’d popped those kiddies out, our “values” greatly depreciates, don’t it?  And no, all of the above is still NOT my point of view………so, don’t BE M-I-S-T-A-K-E-N there…

Used to Not Having Him Around

I got used to not having him around as a child, he was the man how was known as my father, the man who donated a FUCKING (oopsy!!!) T-A-D-P-O-L-E to my MOTHER (the woman who’d carried me inside of her uterus???)…

We’re all used to not having him around, our DEADBEAT fathers, and, I mean, why would we want him around?  ‘Cuz every time when he came back, he’d beaten mama up, and, we’d hid, behind those doors NOT quite closed, and watched, as we muffled up the noises we may be making…

Used to not having him around, that, was the deal with our absentee father, he only sent our mother the money to keep up, the money for food, for the car, for the clothes on our back, and, oh, don’t forget, for our school tuition as well, and, other than providing for us economically, there’s NOTHING that he’d given to us.

Used to not having him around, and, I’d gotten used to having this GHOST of a has-been, and besides, me, myself, I, (that’s still the THREE of “us”), are all doing fine without him………

Used to not having him around, but W-H-Y?  He should’ve been around for you, and, it would be your right now, to DEMAND the time he missed in your life back, so, go after him, claim those lost times, you have the right to, you know that, right???

Don’t Make Your Kids Choose Sides

A VERY IMPORTANT LESSON, for ALL you parents out there!!!  Translated…

On Mid-Autumn Festival, as the friends and families gathered for a barbeque, in the encouragement of everybody, Coco, who’s in kindergarten worked up his courage and started performing the dirty dancing routine he’d just started learning, his cute looks had everybody worked up.  Coco’s mom was so proud, said, “See, I was right, in insisting that he took up dirty dancing lessons.”  Coco’s dad wasn’t going to let her win, “Had I had my way, and had him taken music lessons, he would’ve done a WHOLE lot better!”  Coco’s mom upped her pitch, “Hey, that’s MY son, I know him best!”  Coco’s dad got mad now, “What you mean, is that I don’t know my own son then?”, a war between the parents was about to start now.

The flames extended from beneath the barbeque racks to between Coco’s parents, and, everybody who was there lowered their heads and kept at their food, some of their friends had chosen to keep quiet, and, Coco’s parents shifted their focus, they turned to their son, asked, “Who do you think is right?”  “Do you love daddy, or mommy more?”, and, ALL of a sudden, everybody shifted their focus of attention to Coco, how’s now, stunned, and NOT knowing how to reply.

In daily life, I’d come across these sort of parents who told their kids to choose sides, and in the end, the child was confused as to how to react.  The parents only wanted proof of their own views, sometimes, they’re merely curious of the child’s reactions, without knowing, that this, may damage the child.  The following three points are what the adults should avoid.

• Don’t Make the Kids Choose Sides

Avoid questioning the child, “Do you like mommy or daddy better?” or questions such as “is mommy right, or is daddy?”  The child is deeply in love with both parents, but when we’d inquired them who they liked more, it would shake up their values of “loving and respecting both parents equally at the same time”, “picking NO one”, could also destroy the credibility of the parents to the offspring, and, it would make the kids feel so guilty, for not choosing the parent they didn’t choose.

• Try Not to Criticize Your Partner in Front of Your Offspring

1. Even though parents have faults, but the kids would still believe that they’re the most important people in their lives.  And when we often complained about each other, or criticize our partners, the child may become confused, “Do I need to dislike the person s/he disliked?”  “If I’m closer to the other parent, will it be viewed as a betrayal to this parent now?”  Some of the parents, after complaining about each other, had asked their kids to keep it a secret, wanted the child to still respect the one being criticized, this would confuse the child, and cause her/him to have cognitive dissonance.

• Try to Avoid the Roles of Good Parent/Bad Parent

This, is another often-seen scenario: let one party play the role of the bad parent who’s strict, and punishes, while the other would put on the nurturing.  This would not only create a distance between the child and the disciplinary parent, it would also cause the one who played the role of the “bad parent” have difficulties expressing the love s/he has toward her/his child.  And still, the warmth from the cares and concerns and teaching is NOT gender oriented, if both parents could exert the gentleness and the strict hand in discipline, it would be a precious and a valuable role model for the children.

“Children are the apples of the parents’ eyes”, that, is a sentence we all know too well, but actually, when the child is growing up, the child also plays the role of the biggest fan, the guardians for the parents as well.  Since when they were younger, the parents would solve problems that they may have, to protect them from being hurt, to provide them with what they needed in life, and to play the role of the accompaniment and the support, and all of this love and endless giving, is going to be important in the children’s lives, some kids at school would get into arguments or fights when their classmates made fun of their parents.

The arguments between a husband and a wife is unavoided, but, do NOT get your child involved into your adult wars.  If your child walks in on your in the midst of a spat, use rationalism, and respectful manners to communicate with each other, so the child will learn, that even though, there are moment of differences of opinions, there is a better way to resolve.  Do remember, don’t get them in the middle to “choose sides”, this, for your young, is the most hurtful thing of all.

Sometimes, we use our kids as weapons to HURT one another, without realizing, that the ones we’re hurting is JUST not each other and ourselves as well, the kids are also getting hurt in the process, and still, there are a TON of parents out there who constantly put their kids under this sort of duress, why IS that???