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Are the Parents Helping, or are They, Hurting Their Own Young?

When your children who are growing up started wailing when they can’t handle things in their own lives, what, will you, parents, do???  The results of spoiling your own ADULT children, R-O-T-T-E-N, translated…

I’m an English instructor, I’d assigned my students a page of terms to look up once for their homework assignments, for them to write the meanings of the terms in Chinese, and the pronunciations out.  As the assignments were picked up, I’d discovered, that a student who’d, not paid ANY attention in the class before turned in a perfect assignment this time, just as I was about to, praise him, I’d found, that his page of words had been wrinkled up, stained, and that there was a word with the different handwriting compared to the students next to a term.  As I inquired, the student told me, that it was his mother who’d looked up the words for him, and written the definitions down for him, all he had to do, was to copy what she’d put down, then, erase his own mom’s work.  Such a shame, that there was, just that one term that wasn’t, erased completely, that busted him.

this is what you, MOTHERS are, “making”!

and they’d stopped being “cute”, a long, long, L-O-N-G time, ago! Photo from online

I’m well aware of the hearts of the parents in the world, sure, but, there should be a boundary to the responsibilities.  The children can’t be well-studied in English, can’t write the essays well enough, doesn’t that mean, that they need more, practice on it?  There was a college professor who was a friend of mine who’d mentioned, that she had a third-year student, that when he needed an absence, he had his own mother come to school, to file one for him.  The Asian parents are, too responsible here, took care of their own young too much, to the point of doing their homework assignments FOR them, to even applying for their children’s university applications too.

But, rather than doing everything FOR the children, why not, train them instead, to get the children to learn to take responsibilities for themselves, this would be way more helpful, for doing their assignments FOR them for over TEN years.  Helping the children micromanaging their lives, in the long run, it’s going to do more damage than good!

And, this, is, a PERFECT example of how these, Asian parents “made” their own adult children incapable of, handling their own lives, because, these ADULTS in their, baby DIAPERS are in need of their mamas to, continue to WIPE their sorry asses, and, as we already know how all you ladies, hovered over your own, ADULT baby B-O-Y-S, they will, NEVER grow up, which is going to, create more troubles for the society that we live in.

And you god damn mothers still foolishly believed that that’s L-O-V-E you’re “giving” endlessly, to your own baby BOYS in them, adult-sized diapers?  Yeah, right.

Do remember, that we (other women unrelated to Y-O-U!!!), will end up with those, two-hundred pound infants, in pacifiers, diapers, going goo-goo-ga-ga here!

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He’d Stabbed the Elderly Neighbor, Who Raised Him Twenty-Two Times to Death Because She Refused to Give Him Money, Sentenced to Life in Prison

Stabbing the woman who’d raised him as her own to DEATH, for money, and he still didn’t get the DEATH penalty!  On crime and punishment, and the judge’s considerations, which allowed this individual to escape DEATH, and no, the punishment here still, does NOT fit the crime, nowhere NEAR the vicinity of it!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The Elderly Woman Took Care of Him, Raised Him for Sixteen Years, He Saw Her Money, and Murdered Her, But Admitted to What He’d Done, the Judge Considered that He was Young, that He’d Not Considered the Consequences of His Actions, Didn’t Give Him the Death Penalty

Last year in October, the man, Lee couldn’t successfully get money from the seventy-eight year-old elderly woman, Jiang who’d raised him for sixteen years, stabbed her twenty-two times, murdering her, took away $11,200,000N.T. in cash the woman had on her, went to the sex massage parlors to spend the amount, then, ran to hid out in Hualien, and then he was caught.  The Hsinbei District Courts charged him on murder and robbery, sentenced him to life, stripped him of the government post for life, this can still be appealed.

As the suspect had been caught, he’d stayed in police custody to date.  The judge found, hat the victim wasn’t related to Lee, but loved him like he was her grandson, that Lee wanted money to spend, and couldn’t get it from her, and took to murder, there’s NO means of sentence reduction for him; but considered how he’d admitted to what he’d done, and how he was only nineteen at the time when he’d murdered the woman, at the age of prefrontal cortex not yet fully developed, based off of the two pacts “not a crime of the most severities”, gave him life sentence.

The verdict stated, that when Lee was born, because his father was at large from committing a crime, his mother had a psychological disorder, his own grandmother couldn’t care for him, when he was only six months of age, he was left in the care of the deceased, who was his family’s neighbor; the deceased felt awful for Lee, took him in, treated him like he was her own, cared for him, raised him until he was sixteen; but Lee started running with the bad crowds back in high school, he was sent back home to live with his uncle.

But Lee would steal from his uncle too often, his uncle couldn’t put up with it, to the point that his uncle and aunt almost got divorced because of him, changing the locks on their doors, to the ultimate, chasing Lee out; Lee became homeless and wandered in the local parks, he’d turned to the deceased for help, her heart went soft for him, and would give him the money he’d asked her for, and last year in September, she’d even had her youngest son to apprentice at the plastic factory he’d owned.

Many times, as Lee had asked the woman for money, she’d agreed, and he’d taken the money out of her own pockets, and he took it to be norm.  On October 20th of last, the factory paid the fees for the construction work, the woman’s youngest son withdrew the $360,000N.T. out, Lee started having the bad thoughts, before work on the following day, he’d gone to the woman’s house to ask for the money, and on the way to the woman’s house, he’d gone and bought a fruit knife too; and because the woman refused to give him the money he’d asked for, he’d stabbed her a total of twenty-two times on her head, her back ferociously.

After Lee murdered the woman who’d raised him so brutally, he’d robbed away the $112,000N.T. in cash, left the murder weapon on the staircase of the first floor of the place where Yang-Jiang lived, went back to his rental place in a cab, changed out of the blood stained clothes, headed to the sex massage parlor to spend the money, then, hired a cab to escape to Hualien, and hid in the friend he’d met online, who had no clue what he’d done.  The police chased the leads of his whereabout, and he was arrested as he’d gone out to get the midnight snacks, and, turned over the $99,300N.T. that he hadn’t the chance to spent up yet that’s stained with the blood from the murder.

And so, how is this not a death penalty case?  I mean, this LOSER murdered the woman who raised him up as her own so brutally, because she’d decided to cut him off, because she didn’t want to give him any more money, and this is the end result of spoiling someone rotten, because this loser got away with asking the elder who’d raised him for whatever he’d wanted as a child, which was why he supposed that it was okay for him to get more money from her, and when she’d refused to “feed” him any longer, he’d snapped, and, murdered her, so, brutally, and yet, he still didn’t get death penalty for what he’d done.

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The Fragmented Memories of His Forgotten Childhood Now Slowly, Remembered…

The memories of what he’d tried desperately to recall but couldn’t, all came back to the surfaces again…

The fragmented memories of his forgotten childhood now slowly, remembered, because, he was, finally, ready for them now.  The fragmented memories of his forgotten childhood, a childhood, full of, darkness, of pain, of hardships had been, blocked out of his awareness, for survival’s sake, and now, as he’d, survived those years, he finally started to, remember.

The fragmented memories of his childhood, now slowly, remembered, to say the impact was less, was a total, lie, because it wasn’t, but now he’d, matured, he could, better deal with them, more effectively, unlike how he may have dealt with them, had they come back to him, earlier.

the nightmares of the past all came back to life! Sketch from online

The fragmented memories of his childhood, now slowly, remembered.  What do you want from me?  He’d asked them, and, received, NO replies, because his past had been, dead a long, long, long time, and it takes them awhile, to finally, come back to life again!

The fragmented memories of his childhood, now slowly, remembered, it was painful, but, as he’d, reexperienced all the moments of trauma of his younger years, he’d reminded himself, that he wasn’t, that helpless young child anymore, and he was better able to cope with everything, like he was, watching a movie of his own, childhood trauma, as an, outsider…

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How Do You Make Up for Missing the Coming of Age of the Children?  In the Custody Battles, Do Not Make the Damages Even Harder

How family relations is too important to overlook for all you parents who are, too busy, making ends meet, and NOT spending enough time, with your own young, borrowing from the failed marriage of the singer, Wang, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The marriage of the singer, Wang and his wife, Lee went bust, the woman stayed silent for two whole days, then, started on the offensive, quoted the female blogger, “the one who’s absentee always has a valid excuse”, mentioned how Wang missed all the important milestones of their children’s lives.  The experts told, that the “false” single families are increasing by the numbers today, that there would need to have the “high concentration” of family interactions, to make up for it.

Lee believed, that if you cared, then, you will make the time for it, that love is reflected on the behaviors, not on what is being said, but she’d forgiven, backed down, and Wang stayed absentee, and his children had been disappointed repeatedly, and cried over, over, and over again.  A lot of the middle school and elementary school instructor stated that their story is a great example of “family education” and “emotional education”.

The associate professor of World Journalism University, Jeng stated, whether it be single-parent families or falsified single parenthood, there are, many stories of children coming out of these families well-rounded, the forefront is that the parents need to give the children what they needed the most.  Jeng told, if it’s a false single-parent family, the couple need to explain why they’re absent in the children’s lives; if it’s a single parent family, then, the parents must consider what’s best for the child, when fighting over the parental and custody rights.

The associate professor of Human Development and Family major of the Taiwan National Education University, Wei said, whether it be single parent families or not, the focus should be on having high-quality interactions.  Liking taking an hour of your days, to just spend time with your young, to sit down for a meal together, to exercise together, to stroll together, otherwise, the family interactions, lacking in high quality time together, will eventually, crack, wide open.

And so, this still showed, how very important it is, for you, stupid (b/c that is what you all are???) parents, to MAKE the time, to spend it with your own young, because, they are only young for a very brief moment in your lives, and, if you don’t take advantage of the time with them when they were little, do NOT expect them to be closer to you when they’re older, and, there’s just, NO making up for lost time, with your children IF you had missed out on their younger years, do NOT think, that you can make up for it because you can’t, and that, is the lesson to be taken away, from this.

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A Geek Was Role-Playing, Took a Rifle Toy Gun into the Courthouse

All I want to say to THIS is: are you, FUCKING (don’t pardon me here!) STUPID!!!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The twenty-year-old male, Su, yesterday morning, took a TOY rifle walked several kilometers to the Chiayi Local District Courts, told the guards “I want to go in for a tour!”, passed the security checks, left the toy gun in the care of the bailiffs, spent about five minutes in the lobby, then, left with the gun; the members of the local community saw him carrying that rifle out, they were thrilled, and notified the police, and eight hundred meters away from the courthouse, the police caught him in front of a super convenience store, took him in for inquiries, and, sent him to the D.A.’s office on threatening behaviors in the public, the D.A. interrogated him, and sent him back home.

The gun that Su had with him, was found to NOT have any killing powers, the court evaluated, the local district courts told, because the man was more than compliant, and considering how the court house is an open-to-the-public place, after he’d passed the security checks, they’d allowed him inside, that in the future, if similar situations were to occur, the guards are going to be more thorough, more careful, and have the local police officers to help out.

here’s what a TOY rifle looks like…

photo from online

Based off of understanding, two years ago, Su bought the toy rifle for $6,000N.T.s, he’d wanted to go out for exercises, and role play a little, it was the first time he’d taken that toy rifle “out for a walk”, the label on the gun barrel said, “low motion toy gun!”, and is activated by air.

Yesterday, Su put on a hat, with the toy rifle, exited from his home, his older sister saw, tried to persuade him out of bringing the toy gun out, about a little past eleven in the morn, he’d walked a couple of kilometers from his residence, to the Chiayi District Court, complied with the security checks, and, have the security keep his toy rifle, stayed around on the first floor lobby of the courthouse for about five minutes, took his gun with him, continued walking east on Lingseng E. Road, then turned left onto Dong-Yi Road.

As the police were called, they’d rushed to the district courts, and not found Su, they’d tracked him through the street surveillance cameras, an at around one in the afternoon, they’d stopped him at a super convenience store on Dong-Yi Road, Su didn’t resist arrest, claimed, “it’s not illegal to walk with a toy rifle down the streets!”, denied having the intent to cause harm to the general public.

Su’s mother told, that after her son dropped out of middle school, he’d become, a stay-at-home geek, rarely headed outside, and he’d logged online to watch the war films, loved collecting the guns, and the rifle he took out, she’d paid for; in recent years, her son had slept through the daytime, and stayed up through the nights, suffered from a sleep disorder, that he was being treated at a psychiatric clinic, and had his meds regularly, and is in therapy.

The police found two witnesses, and the bailiff from the courts to testify, that how he was misconstrued for carrying a real weapon, and the members of the public felt, threatened and afraid.  The C.E.O. of the Chiayi Attorney’s Guild, Chen believed, that there would be need for evidence of how Su behaved in a threatening way, then, Su would get convicted for breaking the laws on social order.

and here’s, a REAL one…

comparing to the previous photo, can anybody tell the difference??? Photo from online

And the takeaway “brownie point” for this one is???  Oh yeah, don’t be STUPID, and BRING that life-like TOY gun to the public, because other than Y-O-U, the one who’s, bearing that “FALSE arms”, nobody ELSE knows, that wow, that air or BB gun or rifle looks, so much like the real thing, and we should, all???  DUCK!  When we see someone, walking down a street with that!

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Letters From A Son: A Note To The Old Man — The Written Addiction

Hey Pop,It’s been awhile. It’s been 31 years to be exact. In fact it was 31 years ago today when you left us. I’m sorry it’s been a little while since my last letter. Not sure if you can see the news where you are but the world is in a little bit of a tailspin. […]

Letters From A Son: A Note To The Old Man — The Written Addiction

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The Air, My Friend

The column by Jimmi Liao, translated…

The Wind Started Blowing, the Hat Flew Off

The Wind Stopped, the Hat, Dropped into the Water

The Wind Got Angry, Why is Everything Blamed on it?

artwork of Jimmi Liao, off of UDN.com幾米

This is scapegoating, because instead of making sure that that hat is, SECURE on your heads, you’d, blamed it on the wind because it’s, much, much easier than, to take responsibilities for what you failed to do in the first place, this happens, quite a lot, if you can believe it!


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The Murder of a Police Officer at a Night Club, “a Spoiled Rotten Brat”, His Mother Once Called Him “Well-Behaved”

So, whose F-A-U-L-T IS it, the mother’s, the father’s, the son himself’s???  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

The primary suspect who was responsible for beating the detective, Shue to death was a member of the “daddy’s boys club”, his father ran a company that sold grand-scale lamps, he’d gotten sent to Australia to study since his middle school years, after his return after college, he’d worked at his father’s company, in a minor position, and would often hang out at nightclubs.  The police described him as “a spoiled rotten brat”, not knowing the severity of his own actions, and suspected of placing the blames on his accomplice.

Based off of understanding, Tseng’s family background is very rich, he lives in a mansion in the high-end Xinyi District with his parents, and his older brother and sister-in-law, with two rooms for the hired help too; his father had a stroke and was immobilized, he’d owned a lighting fixture company in Shijr, Hsinbei City, they own FIVE sports cars, including Benz, Bentley, Audi, and Chevrolet, which were all registered under the company.

After the murder of the police officer, the police came to visit Tseng’s home, but Tseng wasn’t there, his family members were watching television, the cops clarified, “Your son was suspected of the murder of a police officer!”, the parents didn’t believe it, the police said, “Just watch the news!”, the parents turned to the news channels, and were very stunned, still couldn’t believe, that their son would beat up a cop.

Even though, the son had committed a crime, the parents still stood by him, the mother told the officer, that her son is extremely well-behaved, and couldn’t have murdered anybody.  And, after the father dialed the son’s cell, and was rerouted to voicemail, he said that if the police can’t get in touch with his son, then just “arrest me instead”!

The girlfriend who’d dated Tseng for a year, Liu claimed to be attending a certain private university in Hsinbei City, they’d gone all over the places to hang out; the police searched their Facebook pages, there were a TON of outings of them together, and, within a few short months, they’d gone all over the world like Hong Kong, Macau, the Alps, etc., etc., etc.  The police sighed, “with the normal wages of the average younger generations, this simply couldn’t be achieved!”

The police discovered, that Tseng didn’t have ties with gangs, but because he’d gone to night clubs to party a lot, and is a huge spender, he’d met a TON of gangsters, and, the gangsters may see that he is rich, and that, was why they’d “had his back”, but, after Tseng turned himself in to the police, he’d told, that he didn’t tell his “brothers” to beat up on the officers, claimed that there were a TON of people whom he didn’t know, and they met, and started beating on one another.

The Second Generations of Yu-Chang, Large-Scale Spender, and Active

The primary suspect who was responsible for telling others to murder the police officer, Tseng, has dual citizen ship from Australia and Taiwan, is said to be from a rich family, his family manages the Yo-Chang Company, Tseng went abroad to finish his studies, then, started working for the company too.

And so, you still have this SPOILED B-R-A-T who’d MURDERED a cop, and now, he’s only starting to realize the seriousness of the matter, and, he cries, “mommy, mommy, help me, save me”, and, naturally HIS parents would still cover HIS ass, because that, was what they’d done all along, and that, would be how this LOSER was so totally, SPOILED R-O-T-T-E-N!

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A Father Took His Five-Year-Old Daughter to Jump a Ditch, and Was Forcibly Hospitalized


And that still makes you an UNFIT parent!!!  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Jiang, who’s been diagnosed as emotionally unstable, was displeased at how his wife kept ignoring him, he’d set his house on fire, then, used a screw driver, took his daughter hostage, and jumped, with her, into a deep ditch, and was in a stand-off with the police for two whole hours; and the police took advantage of the time when they’re handing him a cigarette, to carry the little girl who’s shocked away, and forced him into the hospital, after he was charged with public endangerment.

“Would daddy burn us to death?”, every time the child spoke of her uncertainties, the family would also fear; in order to prevent any more threatening behaviors from Jiang to his family, the families hoped he could get the complete care and hospitalizations he will require.  The Sanitary Department stated, that they will get a medical doctor’s opinion on the matter, then, see if there’s a need for forced hospitalization.

The man in charge of the Center for Domestic Violence Prevention, Lin pointed out, that last year, they’d listed the Jiang household as a high-risk family, and had sent social workers to visit them regularly, and giving them counsel and the situations are improving, and that Jiang had lost it two days ago, they’d already helped Jiang’s wife and kids by filing an emergency restraining order against Jiang.

The police investigated and found, that the thirty-eight year-old man had been unemployed and stayed at home for awhile now, and the household relied on outside charity, along with government assistance to get by; recently, Jiang’s personality had changed, and every time he’d gotten into a disagreement with his families, he would start throwing things, and had multiple times, set fires to his own place of residence.

Even though, the family had multiple times, scheduled him for hospital stays, but he’d always manage to sneak out.  The nurses from the public sanitations department had three-times, helped him to get hospitalized, but, he’d locked the bedroom doors from the inside, and, the nurses considered that he might be emotionally unstable, and so, they’d left him alone, and didn’t force their way into his room.

At the start of the month, Jiang first used a knife to threaten to kill his own wife, on the 24th, he’d set his own house on fire, the D.A. allowed him to make bail.  Two days ago, in the morning, Jiang was displeased at how his wife ignored him when she was cooking, he’d committed arson once more, and had used a screw driver, and forcefully took his own five-year-old daughter, and jumped into the ditch next to his house, claimed that he will take his own daughter to die with him.

Jiang had several times, pushed his daughter’s head under water as threats.  And, the patrol officers who were called to the scene worked hard to console him, wanted him to think more on his own, along with his daughter’s behalf, and asked his wife and made communication between the couple possible, but they’d still argued nonstop.

The police saw how shocked the little girl was, and was struggling and wailing in her father’s arms, and the police pretended to hand Jiang a cigarette, wanting him to calm down so they can talk; as Jiang reached for the cigarettes, the officer managed to get the child, and, the rest of the crew rushed up, and pulled him onto the ambulance that took him to the city’s care facility, and the child who was still under shock was sent back with Jiang’s eldest brother.

And so, because you were unstable, you jeopardized your own child’s life, what SORT of a father are you?  And, you SHOULD be forcibly hospitalized, whether or NOT you like it, because something IS wrong with you, after all, you’d made your families live in fear for their lives every single day, and that, is how there are still so many unstable adults, and, the ones who suffered the most are still the kids!


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Kept in at Home


The boy, kept in at home, his dog, kept in at home.  The whole morning, the entire night.  His older brother rode in with his girlfriend, they came.  Looking at the boy, not long thereafter, they’d started copying him, kept in at home.  His uncle, looked at them, curiously, made two turns, sat down next to the boy’s dog.  For an entire night, and the following day.

Grandma is going to work, with a bamboo carrier on her shoulders, and a heavy suitcase, passed through her two grandsons and the girl, walked right passed them, and gone around her only son and the dog too, walked out the door, she couldn’t help but look backward, and sighed, gazing at this heavy burden in her life.  Looking at them, wondering, when, would the gold from heaven finally fall off her hands.

And here, you still have sons who SUCKED their parents’ D-R-Y, and in this case, it’s the mother who’s shouldering up everything, because she’s now, taking care of her son, her grandson, AND her grandson’s girlfriend, along with a D-O-G too, when are you ALL going to GROW UP, and learn to do things on your own?  Oh yeah, until your parents had D-I-E-D, because then, you will have NO other choice BUT to stand up!!!

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