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Infidelities, Most Likely to Happen, Three Years After the Marriage

From research statistics, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The Shu-De Technical University Human Sexuality Department manager, Yen-Ching Lin said, that modern day women are financially independent, have a strong sense of themselves, and, once the quality of their marriage drops, they have a higher chance of having affairs; the Graduate Research Department in its 2010 survey of 400 married women in southern Taiwan, the rate of infidelity was 36.5 percent.  Lin believed, that the statistics for the married women in the central and northern parts would be roughly the same as well.

This study showed, that the partners of the affairs who were friends made up about 44.3 percent, the highest, followed by coworkers, friends from online, exes, and, the time when the affairs are most likely to start would be three years after the marriage.

And on top of that, the results of a survey by the Sexology Research Department before Valentine’s Day showed, that the rate of modern day female college students who had already had sex makes up about 43.5 percent, compared to the 27.3 percent from seventeen years ago, there is a clear increase, the primary reason for this being how open the societies had become.  Lin said, that from the researches conducted abroad, the women who had had sex prior to marriage are more than likely to have extramarital affairs after they are married, and, modern day women are expecting higher quality from their marriages, compared to the last generations, and so, they are bound, by the cultures, to stay in a marriage, so, they’re more than likely to find an exit for their own emotions.

On the males’ front, although the sexology department didn’t conduct such researches, however, on a survey over the subjects of one-night-stands, twenty-five percent of surveyed males are accepting to the idea, thirty-three percent of the subjects HAD experiences with one night stands, and men who wanted to try out one night stands, make up sixty percent.

Lin suggested that couples need to work hard, in making their relationships work, just spend more time with one another, showing cares and concerns for each other often, it shouldn’t be that difficult, to keep happy in the marriage.

So, there you have it, from the lips of the researcher, and, this still just shows, how as we advanced in every single way, our behaviors are falling backwards, and, just because you can, doesn’t mean that you would do it, where’s the moral restraints???

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The Six-Year-Old Daughter Gave Her Mother Away, the DNA Showed, that She Wasn’t His Child at All

Words, out of mouths of babes, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The young daughter of a man, Wu, often spoke of how she has another daddy, last year, Wu took his daughter to get her DNA checked out, and, the child was unrelated to him by blood; he’d recalled how eight to ten months before his daughter was born, his wife who was originally frigid and not sexually turned on at all had asked him to have sex with her multiple times, , it was, to cover up the fact, that she was already pregnant, he’d filed for a law suit.  His ex-wife, who had already agreed to divorce him claimed, that when she was on a business trip, she was knocked out, then raped, and that, was how she got knocked up.  The judge didn’t believe her, mandated that she must pay her ex-husband one million dollars N.T., the case can still be appealed.

Wu’s complaints pointed out, that a decade ago, he’d married, and right after his wife and he were wed, his wife would take several business trips to China, they slowly fell out of love, rarely consummated; a little over seven years ago, his wife gave birth to a daughter, as the child grows up, a lot of his friends and families pointed out, that the child does not look like him at all, and he’d even heard his daughter told that she “has another dad”.

When the child was six, she’d gone on a trip with his wife, after the child came home, she’d told her grandmother, that she had gone to her other dad’s house, that mom took showers, slept, and cooked there, everybody went to McDonald’s, the park, then, to the shopping strip, and that the other “dad” also bought her toys.

Back then, he was starting to get suspicious, at the start of last year, he’d taken his daughter to the hospital for a paternity test, and, the results proved, that she wasn’t his at all, he felt taken, for taking care of someone else’s child for so many years, as he’d grilled his wife, she’d denied having had an affair, he got furious, and filed for a divorce with the courts, and, after the case went to family court, the divorce was granted.

Wu pointed out, that ten to eight months before his daughter was born, his ex-wife had found him to have sex several times, clearly, it was, to cover up her own infidelity; as the case went up to the Taipei District Courts, the ex-wife denied having had an affair, claimed, that because she’d gone on business trips to China a lot back then, she’d needed to drink with the business associates, that she may have been date raped, that, was how she’d gotten pregnant.

The judge believed, that if someone was drugged or raped, the person would be likely to notify the police, or tell it to someone she trusted, a friend, or members of one’s own family, Wu’s ex-wife couldn’t provide witnesses or any evidences, and so, the judge did not take her words for it, believed, that her daughter was conceived from her affair.

And so, that still just shows, that infidelities are NOT a specialty of men, that women can cheat too.

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The First Wife and His Fourth Spare Worked Together, and Divorced the Cheating Husband

Women gained up on a man here, from the Front Page Sections, translated….

Chang said, that his wife disregarded how dirty and covered with mud he was as he set foot into the house, and accused him for having an affair, and, because he was pressed, he’d told her that he’d had sex without a condom, just to piss her off, that his wife couldn’t accuse him of having an affair, having the recordings of what he’d said out of anger; plus, Chinese was not his mother tongue, sometimes, he couldn’t mean what he says.  But Jeng, his FOURTH spare came to court and told, that four years ago, she’d met Chang in a night club, after they’d started seeing each other for a month, he’d proposed to her, Chang said, that he loved her so, and would falsify a marriage with her, to stay in Taiwan, she loved him deeply, and had sex with him, it wasn’t until she’d gotten a call from his wife, did she realize, that he was already married for ten years, and had children.

It’s either that this woman is way too STUPID, or that this man, is truly, an EXCELLENT LIAR, but, either way, this cheating BASTARD still got caught, with his pants, DOWN to his ankles, and now, the wife is working with his FOURTH spare (I wonder what would the three OTHER spares say about that!!!), to SUE him, suits him right!

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If It’s His Ex-Girlfriend, Then, Why Must He Marry Her?

Troubled???  A Q&A, translated…

Q: Ms. C wrote…

Had allowed love to get to her head, couldn’t see the truth, Ms. C sent me a letter, she said, “the boyfriend doesn’t love ‘his current girlfriend’ (she’d especially labeled her as an ex-girlfriend); but his family forced him to marry her, because she’d lived with the family for over twelve years now, and, he must shoulder the responsibilities toward her.  They’d even told him, if after they’d married, and realized, that they still couldn’t get along, then, they can file for divorce, but, he just, can’t abandon her now.  If he doesn’t marry that ex of his, then, the boyfriend’s family threatened to cut him off, and wouldn’t allow him back into their household.”

C said, that her boyfriend is in love with another girl—it’s Ms. C.  she said, that her boyfriend and her are not only really much in love with one another, she’d kept waiting for him, to plan out their lives together.

And now, they’re “in waiting”, as the issues with the ex-girlfriend just couldn’t get resolved.  She wanted to know how she can resolve the stresses of her boyfriend’s family toward them, would his family really force them to split up?

My Advice

From Ms. C’s letter, I can understand, some unspoken truths, which was: her boyfriend was originally with his ex, or maybe, he’d gotten tired about being with her (or maybe, it’s normal), the boyfriend cheated with C, and, thought about, that he’d had to actually get married to C.

Whether it be a new love, or an old flame, or maybe, he’s just stalling, he is irresponsible, without the strengths, stamina, doesn’t want to be the bad guy who brings up the break up, so, he’d used his own family as a shield, and blamed it on them, to stall for awhile, then, he will used a more rash reason that’s made up by himself, “to break his own heart” and break up with C.  C, who is either too young, too naïve, or blinded by love, if she doesn’t wake up soon, maybe, she’d gobbled all his lies right up, and, became a “spare”, who’s waiting for her boyfriend to marry his girlfriend, until they’re divorced.

Simply stated, after the boyfriend had cheated and had his fun, he will still end up, marrying his “ex-girlfriend”, so, DON’T trust him!

And this, is where the trouble is, the woman is still too infatuated with the man, and she will gobble up ALL those LIES he’d sold her on, and, chances are, that she probably will STAY DORMANT, until it’s WAY too late, until the “ex-girlfriend” who’d become her “boyfriend’s” WIFE, and found out about them, and SUED, and, this woman still doesn’t HAVE a clue, because she’s way too BLINDED by L-O-V-E!

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Before She Married Him, She Realized that He Was a Letch, But Because She Didn’t Want to Lose “Face”, She’d Put up with Him for Eight Years, and Now, She’s Finally Filing for Divorce

Was it worth it?  Of course NOT!!!  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Lai married eight years ago, his wife found that after they had their wedding photos, the very next day, he’d gone to a motel with another woman, and, in her friends and families urgings, she’d still followed through with the marriage, but, after they wed, the man is still uncontrolled she’d gotten so many phone calls from her husband’s whores, begging her to set him free, and, eight long years later, she’d finally filed for divorce and it was approved by the judge.

The man, Lai and his wife both worked in the technology industry, they’d met at a matchmaking party, and, before they marched down the aisle, the woman found out that the man had not been faithful to her, from the very next day after they’d had their wedding photos done, she’d found on her credit card statement that he’d gone to Kaohsiung on vacation with his whore, it’d angered her.

Lai’s wife had originally wanted to cancel the wedding, but, the families and friends from both sides all prevented her from it, believed that the date was set, the invitations printed and sent, that canceling will make them lose face, that people are going to laugh about how short-lived their love was, so, the two of them got married according to “schedule”, but, during the honeymoon phase, the woman found that her husband had been seeking out one-night stands on an online website, she’d grilled her husband about it, he’d told her it was just “for fun”, that he didn’t actually sleep with that other woman.

They’d worked up north originally, but after they married, they’d agreed to work in the southern regions, four years ago, Lai transferred first, lived in the dormitories provided by his work, and, shortly thereafter, he was caught by his wife for bringing another woman to his dorm, but Lai claimed that she was only a friend, that he’d invited her over to watch television, nothing else.

During the course of her marriage, Lai’s wife was not only harassed by just one whore that her husband had, there was also a woman who phoned her up, told her, “your husband left his clothes at my place, I’ll send it home to you.”; two years ago, the woman’s friends and relatives had found that her husband took the hands of his whore, as they strolled the night markets, and that, was when the wife broke down, decided to NOT put up with his ways anymore, moved out of their place, and asked him for a divorce, but Lai had refused to sign.

Lai’s wife this year received yet, another photograph of her husband nude from a whore, and she’d told her, that she’d been with Lai for over three years, and, she could no longer withstand the emotional tortures, asked the courts for a divorce.  Lai told the judge that what his wife said were all true, but she’d already begged for her forgiveness on his knees, and wrote out a confession, that he’s still in love with his wife, hoping that the judge won’t rule on the divorce.

The judge believed, that the two of them had separated since two years ago, and Lai’s wife still hadn’t forgiven him, and that it would be impossible, for their lives to return to the way it once was, allowed for the divorce.

So, this, is a very short-lived marriage, followed by a very long and winding divorce, and, it’s still ALL because that loser couldn’t keep his DICK inside his pants, and how his whores just won’t give up on harassing his wife, and that, just shows how long a woman had to put up with a man, until she finally realized, that hey, this marriage ain’t worth SHIT, and I’m out!  Had she signed the divorce sooner, she would’ve suffered less, but, because of the outside noises, she couldn’t, and now, it’s mandated by the judge that the divorce is final!

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He’d Treated Murder as Nothing, and Got Discovered When His Own Son Confessed

Showing absolutely NO remorse, a “follow-up” from the last story, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

“If only I’d listened to my wife,” the case of the murder of a woman by the man in charge of the local high school PTA had shocked the area, because Huang and Tseng were well-known folks in the area.  And the sly Huang who’d disposed of all evidence, fell, at the confessions of his own son, and, he’s now, in regret of how impulsive he was from the start, and how he’d involved the rest of his family.

Based off of evidence, after Huang had murdered his lover, Tseng and disposed of her body, he’d told his wife the truth, and, that same night, the couple decided to bury the truth with the body, and so, Huang’s wife placed the bat used to beat the victim into unconscious, along with the clothes her husband wore to commit the murder, into the garbage trucks, in the attempt to get rid of all evidence.  The very next day, Huang had gotten a call from the dead woman’s daughter, asking if he’d seen her mother, he’d told her no first, then, he’d bought some items and dropped it off at Tseng’s home, and, took the cell phone, the laptop, hoping that their affair won’t get found out.

It’s been two months since the murder, and the family of three took to their regular schedules, and you can’t tell that there is something the matter, plus Huang operated a soil mixing company, and is the head of the high school’s PTA, treated others kindly, and, nobody could tell, that the there was such a huge secret that the family was keeping.

Two days ago, they were taken into the precinct for interrogation, Huang denied having gotten involved, and Huang’s wife, even though she’d cried, but she’d only told that she knew that her husband and the other woman had fights, that she didn’t know anything else; in the end, the detectives consoled with Huang’s son, “this doesn’t involve you, we just want to know what happened…” after the son struggled with his heart, he’d stated, “I saw my father strangle the woman to death.”

“I can finally feel more at ease,” the young man disclosed ALL of his pent-up feelings since he bore witness to his father, murdering the woman, after he’d left the subprecinct, he’d left a message on Facebook, “I’m really not all that bad, am I?”, the police deciphered this as his way, of alleviating his own guilt.

Huang said, that his wife and son didn’t know he’d planned to murder Tseng, that he’d blamed himself for not taking his own wife’s words, to immediately call up the fire departments to rush the woman to the hospitals, that he’d made this irreparable mistake.

Is this remorse?  Of course not, this man only confessed AFTER his lies were BUSTED by his son’s confessions, and that just shows how cold this man is, and how when love goes wrong, it usually doesn’t end well at all.

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He Only Wanted a Bed Buddy

As do MOST L-O-S-E-R-S, a Q&A, translated…

The man Ms. EP is dating is really causing a lot of confusions for her…

This man is already married, and, at the start of their relationship, he’d told her that bluntly, that he has a wife and kids.  The man is fifty-three years old, his wife, fifty-two, didn’t like having sex, said it was uncomfortable.  At first, the man had set up a line of defense with EP, “the protectiveness boundary for his family”, stressed that he was in love with his wife, his family, that he is never going to consider divorcing, that he’d only wanted a girlfriend he can have sex with, so, the purpose of him being with EP is quite clear, a bed buddy.

At first, EP’s morality struggled a bit, but later on, she’d gotten so used to his body, and, she’d fallen.

The man matched well with EP in sex, at the start of their relationship, they’d gone out on weekday evenings, after she’d fought hard, then, she’d have him for a weekend, when they’re out, he’d carried her luggage, and would save her some leftovers from his dinners, and would give her allowances for spending each and every month; he’d LINED her a picture a day, and, would reply to her messages too.

When they first had sex, he’d told her, she is all he wanted, and swear that he is saved, for just her.  It’d moved her, she’d asked him, “Do you love me?”, the boyfriend answered honestly, “I might infect you with something!”, and EP mistook it for his kindness toward her, so that, is why she’s confused, and she wanted to know, “is my boyfriend really in love with me, or, am I just his fuck buddy?”

A My Opinion

Sometimes, when the sex is amazing, it’d mislead the woman into believing, that there’s something more.  I’m thinking, that EP is well-matched in sex with the guy, up to now, EP didn’t ask for an alternative role other than his bed buddy, and, this, is precisely why the man is still very enjoying their time together, why he is still so gentle and kind toward her.

But, EP is already letting her mind take over, and thought that she’s deserving of his love.  And, when she starts to ask more than she has right now, maybe, they will have a spat, and, if his wife learned about her, and decides to sue, what can she do? Saving her happiness on a man who only wanted her as a fuck buddy, is like building a castle in the sand, it will be destroyed, relatively quick, go find another man who’s suitable for marriage, who can treat you like his real lover!

And so, this woman is trapped, by the AMAZING sex, and, she still doesn’t see the man’s words as excuses, and that, is how B-L-I-N-D infatuated people can and WILL be, but, after that infatuation wears off, what are you left with?  A TON of regrets, a big and empty bed, without that man that you thought loved you…

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