The twists and turns of, life, that offered us those lessons we must, learn well! Translated…
I’d, squandered the money away when I was younger, and I’d gotten grilled by my mother, for not being, frugal enough. Back then, I’d paid her, no mind, and talked back, “I’d made my own way, it’s my right to spend what I make, however I want.” As my mother heard, she’d sighed, said, “wait until you’re in charge of the household expenses, then you will have a taste of what it’s like, being pressed with money.”
My mother grew up in the times when Taiwan just gained its independence, the resources were limited then, plus there are, too many, mouths to feed, life was hard, she’d followed my maternal grandfather in working, to support her household economics, which was what turned her frugal.
I have excellent job when I was younger, with high pay, plus I wasn’t, married, I’d thought, that my life was, on the rise, that it only, gets better with the, times, I’d not thought about, “saving” at all. Until as I was, discussing the matter of marriage with my husband, I’d found, that I had, only, very little in my bank accounts, not known how I was, going to, afford the items I would need for marriage at all, and in the end, I’d begged my mother to give me her secretly saved up sum to help me out.
Looking at my husband, because his father died when he was way too young, he’d become, totally, self-reliant, worked hard, had excellent performance in work, gotten the boss’s attention, he’d just past thirty years of age, and was already a high-end manager of his company. Although my husband was frugal on himself, he’d, spoiled me rotten, everything we spend on living, including the house, he’d covered for. Back then, my best friends, my coworkers thought, that I was, set for life, having found a good man who could, provide for me.
And, after I was wed, I’d not changed my habits of squandering the money away, I only see if I liked something, when I go to buy it; my clothes, my bags, stuffed up my closets until they’d, overflowed, the foods in my fridge are, way past expiration already, and I can only, thrown them all, away. Although my husband didn’t agree with my means, loving me as he does, he’d, not come down too hard on me.
what all our lives, looked, like!
Until the environment changed greatly, my husband’s company was having trouble keeping the operations running, the owner took off, leaving behind, the workers, not knowing what they’re to do next, no pension, the employees hadn’t been paid in months at a time, and the stocks of the company, turned to, trash, it was, next to impossible, to estimate how much was lost, and, finally, I’d, come to, realized, that we’re, in, trouble.
Thankfully, my family was there, backing us up, and we were able to, sail through this hardship, no troubles. My mother told me, seriously, “you must, learn from these, mistakes!”, I’d told her, that the lesson was, too harsh, that it’d, hit me too hard, and it was only, a few short months back when I’d still, lived in the dreams of my husband’s company’s stock becoming publicly traded, and yet, the industries changed too quickly, and all the machines became, scrap metal, as the owner of his enterprise declared, bankruptcy.
After this serious trial of our lives, I’d found, that the changes in life came, most, unexpectedly. And so, I’d started working again. And after this turn of events, not just my values of life got altered, the way I’d, spent the money too. I’d not spent so, listlessly anymore, other than the living expenses, I’d, put aside the rest in the financial planning, the savings. As my mother warned me repeatedly, “you don’t think much when you’re younger, you won’t have enough to live through your elderly, years.”
And now, my life is, smoothed, my husband started up his own company, our two daughters, grown, very independent, no need for me to worry over them now. And, looking at them, I’d come to believe, that they are, way better, behaved than I ever was when I was, their age.
Had it not been this huge turn of life, it would still be quite impossible, for me, to alter my behaviors. After weathering through this turn of events in our lives, I’d finally understood, that the bliss in life I’m looking for, involves that, simple, and steady, peaceful way of, living from day to day.
And so, this is when life throws you that, curve ball that came too suddenly, that you’d become, totally, unprepared for, and you’d learned your lessons, that’s why, life is now, getting better again, and, you will, take that hard-learned lesson to heart, because if you don’t, something ELSE will HIT you, just as hard, if not, harder again!