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Infidelities, Most Likely to Happen, Three Years After the Marriage

From research statistics, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The Shu-De Technical University Human Sexuality Department manager, Yen-Ching Lin said, that modern day women are financially independent, have a strong sense of themselves, and, once the quality of their marriage drops, they have a higher chance of having affairs; the Graduate Research Department in its 2010 survey of 400 married women in southern Taiwan, the rate of infidelity was 36.5 percent.  Lin believed, that the statistics for the married women in the central and northern parts would be roughly the same as well.

This study showed, that the partners of the affairs who were friends made up about 44.3 percent, the highest, followed by coworkers, friends from online, exes, and, the time when the affairs are most likely to start would be three years after the marriage.

And on top of that, the results of a survey by the Sexology Research Department before Valentine’s Day showed, that the rate of modern day female college students who had already had sex makes up about 43.5 percent, compared to the 27.3 percent from seventeen years ago, there is a clear increase, the primary reason for this being how open the societies had become.  Lin said, that from the researches conducted abroad, the women who had had sex prior to marriage are more than likely to have extramarital affairs after they are married, and, modern day women are expecting higher quality from their marriages, compared to the last generations, and so, they are bound, by the cultures, to stay in a marriage, so, they’re more than likely to find an exit for their own emotions.

On the males’ front, although the sexology department didn’t conduct such researches, however, on a survey over the subjects of one-night-stands, twenty-five percent of surveyed males are accepting to the idea, thirty-three percent of the subjects HAD experiences with one night stands, and men who wanted to try out one night stands, make up sixty percent.

Lin suggested that couples need to work hard, in making their relationships work, just spend more time with one another, showing cares and concerns for each other often, it shouldn’t be that difficult, to keep happy in the marriage.

So, there you have it, from the lips of the researcher, and, this still just shows, how as we advanced in every single way, our behaviors are falling backwards, and, just because you can, doesn’t mean that you would do it, where’s the moral restraints???

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Before the Honeymoon Started, the Woman Claimed that She Will Get a Divorce, and Called Her Husband, a “Lousy Mama’s Boy”

Honeymoon WAS O-V-E-R, even before it began here, on the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Wu, who’d just gotten married not too long ago, on the day before they are supposed to go on their honeymoon, his wife told him, “Let’s get a divorce”, then, she’d started criticizing him, called him “mama’s boy, a bad child”, and taped the sign of “Do NOT enter, or I will SUE” on their bedroom doors.  Wu couldn’t deal with how his wife, Lai had taken his son into her own mother’s house, and allowed him to see the child, “only through the screen doors”, he’d filed for divorce, and was allowed to.

The judge ruled, that the one-and-a-half year old son is in the custody of the woman’s side of the family, that the mother had SOLE parental rights, but Wu can still go to visit his son at specified times, and Lai was NOT to prevent him from so doing.

Wu and Lai got married at the end of 2010, he’d accused, that two years ago, before they went on their second honeymoon, his wife first mentioned to him she wanted a divorce, and texted him, “Right after our return from the trip, we will file for divorce, I will get an abortion.”, and two years ago, from the months of June to August, his wife texted him multiple times, mentioned to him, “Why don’t you just go back to your own parents, and continue being a mama’s boy, all you need are your parents, go home, and be a good son, I’m so unlucky for marrying you…”, etc., etc., etc.

He said, in order to avoid problems of mother and daughter-in-law not getting along, his parents rented their own place, bought a new house for him, and the wife had asked the deeds to be transferred to under her name for the “securities” of the marry; two years ago in September, after the mother-in-law learned about the “wish” of the daughter-in-law, she’d taken back the deeds to the house that she’d given her son, and the wife treated him with even MORE coldness.

He’d pointed, that two years ago in July, they’d started sleeping in separate rooms, the wife posted a “Do NOT Enter” sign outside the door, they’d lived separate lives now.

Later, the wife went back to Taichung to wait to give birth, wouldn’t allow him to hold his own child, he could only see his own son through the screen doors, the wife had even picked the days of his visits on the days he’d worked, and he has an “inaccessible” son.

She’d posted on Facebook, stating that his family only knew how to TEACH other people’s daughters how to be a daughter-in-law, and NOT teach the son how to be a son-in-law.  He believed, that his wife had constantly spoken of divorce, and cursed his whole family, so he could only divorce.

Even though she’d claimed to want a divorce, but toward the husband’s claims, Lai begged the judge, to “Not destroy a possibly fixable family”.  She said, that her husband took to her in-law’s words, he’d followed her mother-in-law’s superstitions, to drink a sort of a blessed water, to cast spells; she feared that it would affect her child, that, was why she didn’t want her husband’s side of the family caring for her son; and that she’d used such harsh language to get to her husband out of love.  Other than that, the husband had installed surveillance cameras all around their house, it’d made her scared, that they’d gotten into a physical altercation because of it; that the reason why they’d slept in different rooms was because “he’d affected my quality of sleep”.

So, there is still a ZILLION (and that, IS an understatement!!!) problem in this marriage, and, we still have NO clue WHAT caused this woman to feel this way, because we do NOT have the entire story, we don’t have ALL the details of their lives, but, based off of this, the woman DOES have a right to want to divorce the man.  So, this might well become a “He-Said, She-Said” case…

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The “Spare” Claimed, “We’d Only Had Sex on Foreign Soils”, and the Cheat & His Spare Got Only a Slap on the Wrist

Because you’re on FOREIGN SOIL when “it” happened, that, is why the cheat and his WHORE got merely a SLAP on their wrists, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A married man, Liao fell into infatuation with a married woman, Lee, and they’d tattooed each other’s names on their buttocks to show the love, later, they’d broken up and went to court, Liao’s wife helped prepared the law suit, and accidentally found the sex tapes by accident, and she’d SUED Lee for breaking up her marriage.  The judge gave Lee four months in jail based off of obstruction of family, which she could pay a fee, and that she was also mandated to pay a thirty thousand dollar fine too.

The courts found, that back in 2004, Liao had rented a parking space out to Lee and they’d started having an affair, Lee later divorced and moved in with Liao, at the end of 2009, they’d gotten into a fight that broke them up, and went to court, accusing each other.

Liao accused Lee for taking his stamp and the deeds to his house, and changed the registration of the name to his property to her.  The judge found, that Liao was there with Lee as they’d gone to the local land offices to make the transfers, that Liao had given the property to her willingly, so, Liao had lost the case.

Liao’s wife, during the suits had dug into some dirt and accidentally found the sex tapes that her husband and Lee had made; Liao admitted to his wife for having an affair, and gained her forgiveness, Liao’s wife, however, decided, to sue Lee for obstruction of her family, and asked for a million dollars in payment for her losses.

Lee said, Liao claimed that his marriage with his wife from abroad was on the rocks, and that he had the intentions of getting a divorce, and wrote a contract of forever, and promised to marry her, to get her to divorce her own husband; and said that he was willing to pay the alimony that her husband asked for for the amount of five million dollars.  On her birthday in 2005, they’d tattooed each other’s name on their separate buttocks, to show the love, the very next year, she’d divorced and moved in with Liao, and, Liao had transferred the deeds to two of his properties to her name, but, he didn’t pay the alimony that she’d owed her husband FOR her, nor did he get divorced.  Later, she’d suspected, that Liao was seeing another nurse on the side, and that, was when they broke up.

She said, that she was misled into believing that Liao would divorce his own wife, but, they’d had had sex on foreign soil, and she was found guilty, of obstruction for family and had gotten three years, that she should not get punished.

The judge believed, that when Lee was staying with Liao, how would they not have had sex where they lived, and Lee didn’t take back her words about having sex overseas; that Lee’s words had not been consistent, that it didn’t match up.

And so, because the “spared” claimed that “we’d only had sex abroad”, and there’s a LIGHTER punishment based off of the legislatures overseas, she’d gotten JUST a slap on her wrists, and, what of this L-O-S-E-R?  He still got away with cheating on HIS wife, and that, is just how the laws still FAVORED the men in cases of infidelity, and so, we women MUST suffer the consequences, is that even F-A-I-R???  I wouldn’t think so!!!

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Can’t Get the Love Back

Even IF you’d managed to find ALL the shattered pieces of that mirror (metaphorically speakin’, of course!!!), and put it all back together, it still wouldn’t look as it did when it was unbroken now, would it???  Of course N-O-T!!!  Translated…

After my husband’s youngest brother and his wife divorced, he’d taken his young child to come back to live with my in-laws, and allowed my in-laws to help out with raising his own son.  The originally vanished younger sister-in-law, recently, because she’d wanted to get back together with my husband’s youngest brother, in my mother-in-law’s matchmaking them, recently, started showing up more often, in my mother-in-law’s house again.

Even though my husband’s sister-in-law worked real hard, to suck up to my in-laws, and worked hard to patch the relationship between her and children back up, but, my brother-in-law still treated her like a stranger, and even when they met face to face, there would be NO verbal exchanges.  Recently, we’d even heard, that my husband’s younger brother is dating someone new, seems, that my husband’s younger sister-in-law has her work cut out for her, in order to get back with him.

I’d once inquired my husband about his thoughts on the view, he’d believed that based off of his understanding about his own younger brother, the chances are very slim, because back then, it was she who cheated, and had left her child behind too, during the year’s time when she’d gone away, she’d never called to ask about her own child, it’d made his younger brother cold; plus, when they got married, it was for the sake of their child, and there wasn’t that depth of connection between them, that it wouldn’t be easy for him, to open his heart up to her again.

In the realms of emotions, nobody can comment on it, but I’d used my husband’s younger sister-in-law as a mirror, to remind myself, what NOT to do.  A happy marriage is made possible, by the working together of both the husband AND the wife, and, it takes very much care, and if this fragile relationship is somehow broken, it would be extremely hard, to put it back together, after all, you can’t go back over the bridges you’d burned, and you CAN’T put a broken marriage back together again.

That, is what I’d been preaching (yeah, so???) all alone, because after the betrayals had been had, you’d lose trust in yourselves, and the other person, and, it WILL take, a VERY long time (and some never even get there!!!), to finally trust yourselves (b/c it’s still called???  Oh yeah: T-R-A-N-S-F-E-R-E-N-C-E???).  And, there is still NO second chances, when it comes to giving someone who’d cheated ANOTHER try.

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As His Wedding Band Loosened…

He turned it, over, and over, around his left hand ring finger, and, as his wedding band loosened, he was shocked to find, that the love he’d felt, for his wife, is NO more, or, was there, ever any love?  Or, was it, something else entirely unrelated to love?

As his wedding band loosened, he took it off, and, played with it, and, all of a sudden, it dawned on him, that he’d been trapped, by this small, golden band.  As his wedding band loosened, he fell, into the arms, of another woman…

As his wedding band loosened, he didn’t think about getting it re-sized (can you do that???), instead, he slipped it off, carelessly, put it away, and now, he couldn’t remember where that thing was placed, and he got in trouble, for NOT wearing it like he was supposed to, as his wife had done…

As his wedding band loosened, he’d started making excuses for NOT wearing it, and, people around him started thinking, that he’s NO longer married to his wife.  As his wedding band loosened?  That happened, way, way, W-A-Y after he stopped loving her, and, they’re at the end of their ropes, wondering, IF there’s anything WORTH salvaging, from what’s left of their marriage, as their children are all grown.

As his wedding band loosened little by little each and every day, and, eventually, he’s going to lose it completely, and, after he did, he won’t even recall the PRECISE moment that it’d slipped from his fingers, kinda like how he’d lost track of where they’d gone wrong too!!!

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By the End of the Third Year

By the end of the third year, love’s completely, utterly, totally, DRAINED D-R-Y because First year, man talks woman listens. Second year, woman talks man listens. Third year, they both talk and the neighbors listen???
And, by the end of the third year, love is run out, because the two of you did NOT make your regular deposits, you two just kept taking from the accounts of love, and, those accounts become over drafted, and the collectors are now, on your backs, demanding that you pay them back the D-E-B-T. So, in just three years, you went from having a lot, to having N-A-D-A, and you wonder to yourselves: where did we go wrong? We loved (past tense???) one another, didn’t we? So, what, had changed? Oh yeah, it’s the REALITY that slowly took up the spaces between the two of you, and, as reality sets in, romance fell out.
So, by the end of that third year, you two decided, to rekindle the love that’s nearly dying (why can’t you just let it D-I-E???), and the two of you hopped onboard, for that second honeymoon, and, end up getting pregnant, and you thought that things will BE smooth-sailing, now that a “buffer” is about to be born, without realizing that HOLY SHIT, that “crying thing” just won’t go down easy for its (we don’t know the sex yet!!!) nappies, and it would wake, at fifteen minute intervals and start screaming, NOT only during the daytime (it slept right through the days) but at night, it’s like that little D-E-M-O-N is way too active.
And so, by that third year, it is totally O-V-E-R, but, because the two of you don’t realize this, you let it drag on, and on, and on, and on, and O-N, and, as your marriage rolled out (like that foot-long candy???), children will BE harmed in the process, because they NEVER asked to be B-O-R-N, and you were still the ones to decide: hey, let’s FUCK, and WHAM, those Pretty Little Mistakes start popping O-U-T, and, you already K-N-O-W where all that’s gonna end, don’t you???

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De-Criminalizing Adultery

The debate is still ongoing here, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The Justice Department held a hearing on the de-criminalizing cheating, and the majority of the votes were for how the people who are for de-criminalizing cheating, stating that stepping into marriage doesn’t mean giving UP the right to one’s own bodies, and that the ones being sued were mostly women, meaning that the law was punishing women for the infidelities solely; the people who are against it believed that if cheating became a criminal offense, then, it would have the ability to prevent the extramarital affairs, and to maintain the value of families, “Everything for the children, the children are everything.”

This March, the International specialist came to investigate if this country is breaching into the citizens’ private lives, and if it was violating the people’s right to privacy, suggested the government to toss out the punishments of cheating people, because it didn’t match up to the 17th rule of “the International Pact for Citizens and Politics”.  But the justice department did its own survey just this April and May, and found that people here who were sampled showed 82% against the decriminalization and 77% percent against it respectively.

The secretary of the Women’s New Knowledge Foundation, along with a lawyer, Lin believed that de-criminalizing infidelity doesn’t help out a marriage, that the ones being sued in these cases were women in majority, because they didn’t know that the ones they’re with are already married; and the men became the plaintiff’s witness, stating that the “spare” was the one who slept with him; and the laws against adultery is merely a weapon that the first wives can use against the spares, for the sake of getting even.

A female attorney stated that from her experiences of taking cases of adultery, the first wives normally dropped the charges because they wanted to give their kids a complete home to grow up in, and so, they’d all sucked it up.  She suspected, that the women’s organizations being against de-criminalizing adultery is fighting for sexual rights and sexual freedoms, but, is it necessarily good for the nation?
And so, should we, or should we NOT treat adultery as a crime?  I mean, other than feelings that are damaged, what else was taken?  Oh yeah, the trust, the family will totally get BROKEN up, and, what OF the “victims” of the cases, the CHILDREN, after all, you DO know, how they’d be the ones, suffering the most, in that mess, don’t you???  And no, I don’t believe, that adultery should BE de-criminalized, but that’s just my opinion, so…

 

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