The “dissections” of why there are more divorces in the golden years in the world right now, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
With Three Primary Causes the Couple’s Relationship Can’t Return Back to What it Once Was, the Steady Growth of Divorces in the Population of Thirty-Years and Over Marriages
As those born in the fifties to sixties passed through the baby boom era, the economy taking flight, they’re now faced with retirement, or already are, retired, but, the multiple statistics showed, that the marriage relations of this particular age group is slowly, altering. The total number of divorces, those over fifty years of age took up more than twenty-percent, especially for the couple who’d been married more than thirty years, there’s this, fast growth in numbers. The experts analyzed and found, that this may be due to how women’s becoming more economically independent, the changes in the interactions of after retirement, and how the couple viewed life after retirement too differently.
There is no precise definition of “divorce in the older years”, the famed family law attorney, Lai stated, that what she defined as “mature divorces”, are those who’d been married for over ten years, that they’d entered into the later relations of interacting as husbands and wives for a long time, and getting to divorce; the trend of divorcing after more than a decade of marriage, after retirement right now in Taiwan, had already started trending in Japan more than a decade ago.
Becoming Economically Independent, Getting Out of the Roles of Wife, and Daughter-in-Law
In 2007, the Japanese government, in order to protect women’s rights to receive their living assistance, after retirement, the wives can file for half of the retirement assistance the ex-husband earned (similar to the social securities benefits here), shortly after the law was set up, there’s the massive numbers in exiting out of marriage in the golden years. Lai stated, that although there are similarities of trends in Taiwan and Japan, on the matter of economics, based off of her observations, the causes of divorce in the elderly years is mostly due to the maladaptation of the changes in interactions between husband and wife after the retirement.
how the interactions goes, after we both, retire…
photo from online
The women of the postwar baby boom era, compared to women in the eighties, nineties, are all very, economically independent, as they entered into marriage, the value of the society was “man in charge of work, women in charge of running the homes”, the women became the sole caretaker of the men, the in-laws, their children, and as the husbands retired from work, they get to stay at home, and barked out orders, while the women are still, chained to the duties of “wife” of “daughter-in-law”, women also wanted to, walk out from the roles of wife and daughter-in-law, plus they’re relatively economically independent, and have a better chance of finding the self.
Nothing to Say, Staying Together for the Children’s Sakes
The second kind of divorce in the elderly years is due to how after retirement, the couple had nothing to say to one another, in the past, their relationship was built on resolving the matter of childcare, childrearing, working together to get on better terms with the in-laws, but as the children leave the nest, the in-laws died, the two can’t build their relationships back up again; the third, when the males lost work, they’d lost that long-term sought after competitiveness, lost the focus, and couldn’t face ones’ own selves, if at home, they can’t find that competitive edge, then, the men will search for that fulfillment out, which often affected their own, bottom half of, life.
The counselor, Lin said, for couples married for over twenty years, the two became “companions” to each other, and, giving up on the companionship, partially it’s because of the long-term bad relations, and just putting up with each other for the children’s sakes, and as children flew out of the nests, the relationships end. Another being how after men retired, they’d had time and money on their hands, and became in pursuit of youth, and started pursuing after younger women, to prove that they’re, capable.
Lin said, those who filed for divorce after eighty are mostly women, they’d felt, that they’d served the families their whole life, didn’t want to get buried with the families that they hated after they’re dead, divorces aren’t just due to the upset with their independent spouses, but also, toward their spouses’, families too.
And so, as we women age, we became, more and more independent, and we come into the realization of hey, I’d worked hard, slaved my whole life for this god damn family, and what do I get out of it? Not much, so I am getting a divorce, simple as that.
This just showed, how late it is, that women came into the awareness of their own, selves, finally realizing what they want for their lives, what they don’t want to do anymore: to SERVE the families hand-and-foot!
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