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The Couple Gave Birth to Their Daughter at an Older Age, Abused Her, the Second Trial Gave Them Five Years

You would think, that this baby girl who’d come late into this couple’s lives, would be, cherished, because she was, hard to, come by, but NO!!!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The young girl, Lin from Kaohsiung two years ago fell into a coma, was taken to the hospital, at age three, she’d only weighed 7.9 kilograms, thin as a skeleton, and she was found, covered in bruises, scars new and old, the D.A. believed that it was her parents who’d, abused her, charged the couple on endangering the wellbeing of a young child; the first trialed sentenced both the husband and wife a year six months each, the second trial found that by the time the young girl was taken to the hospital, it was already at the “level” of severe assault, took back the original verdict, sentenced Lin to five years ten months, and the wife, Tsai to five years two months.  This can still be appealed.

The forty-seven-year-old Tsai has three daughters and a son, with a different father for each of her child, she’d married her current husband, Lin and gave birth to the youngest daughter shortly afterwards, because the family couldn’t afford to raise her, they’d sent her out for adoption shortly after birth, on July 2nd, 2019, they finally took the youngest daughter home to live with them.

On April 23rd two years ago, the young girl had a subdural hematoma, was rushed to the hospital, the hospital found that there were multiple contusions on the child’s face and body, the injuries from getting beaten with a stick on her legs and thighs, dermatitis on the skin on her buttocks, nails too long, that she showed the classic signs of abuse, and was suspected of being malnourished to have the low sodium, and low potassium in her blood; the child was almost three years old, weighed in at 7.9 kilograms, at only 83-centimeters in height, clearly, way lower than young girls of her age group.

The Kaohsiung District Court found the couple to have abused their own young daughter, sentenced each to a year six months, the D.A.’s office felt it was way too lenient, pressed for appeal, the High Subsidiary Courts of Kaohsiung went accordingly to the reports from the hospitals, the documentations of the young girl’s injuries, believed that by the time the young girl was finally admitted to the hospital, it’d reached the status of severe physical assault, retracted the original verdict for a retrial.

The young girl is at age five, and living with a foster family right now.

And so, this is another case of “we want another, we can’t afford to give the children enough of what they needed, so, might as well just use our youngest child as a PUNCHING bag!”, and this is just, bad, I mean, IF you can’t take care of that many children at a time, then, why the FUCK (don’t pardon me here!) are you, humping like rabbits, huh, and these parents should be neutered AND spayed to prevent more children that came out of them, so they can, abuse their own young even more.

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The Ten-Year-Old Child Refused to Go to School, the Mother Went Berserk, Started Beating Him, Nearly Murdering Him

And, this ten-year-old KID’s refusing to go to school is still, just that, FINAL straw that cracked HIS mama’s, back here!  Because you don’t go into a beating rage on your own child, because he refused to go to school, and this still just showed, how bad an emotional control this parent had…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Last year, a woman, Liu, because her ten-year-old son refused to go to school, they got into an argument, and she’d lost it, other than choking her own son, disregarded his cries out of pain, she’d started, physically assaulting him with a fruit knife, fire extinguisher, nearly murdering her own child; after Liu’s attack on her own son, she’d, started mutilating herself, saw how her son was still breathing, she’d called emergency services, and her son wasn’t murdered by her.  The Taichung D.A.’s Office charged her on attempted murder for breaking the laws of child protection, and the adults’ intentionally harming a child.

The indictment pointed out, Liu (age 37) age 37) shared the childrearing responsibilities of their ten-year-old son with her husband, but started in the son’s fourth grade year, he’d started refusing to go to school, due to psychological problems, and Liu started getting into fights with him on it frequently.

At seven in the morn on October first of last year, Liu’s husband already went off to work, and Liu and h son started fighting over him going to school again, then suddenly, Liu snapped, started strangling her own son’s neck, as her son kept struggling, fighting her off, she finally, let go.

Liu ran to the bathrooms, attempted to kill herself by strangulation of a charger wire, but her son stopped her, she’d turned toward him, with both hands on her son’s neck, disregarded how her son cried for her to stop, used the fire extinguishers, and started smashing down on her son’s head multiple times, then, used the fruit knife, started stabbing her son’s neck, causing her son to fall to the floor with serious injuries, with the hematoma on his scalp, neck and shoulder, thorax and abdomen lacerations.

As Liu saw her son fall to the ground, she’d started attempting suicide using the fruit knife, the fire extinguisher, but realized that her son was still breathing, she’d come to, and immediately called up emergency, as the two of them were rushed to the hospital, both their lives were, spared, as Liu was discharged from the hospital, she’d answered truthfully to what had happened, how she’d, attacked her own so, as the D.A. and police inquired her.

The district attorneys considered that the boy was severely wounded, and that as Liu attacked him, she’d gone after the vital organs and parts of his body, the neck, the abdomen, that she had intended to murder him, that there’s a need to add more sentence to the severity of her crime, but considering how she’d stopped that she’d called the police, the fire department for help, turned herself in, showed remorse over what she did, that she’d, qualified for the criteria for a reduction of sentence, yesterday the D.A;s office prosecuted her, and asked the courts to give her a fitting sentence.

Yeah, for some unknown reason, this mother just SNAPPED, and attacked her own son so brutally, but, she had stopped herself, DEAD in her own tracks, before she complete the murder, so that counts for something, right?  Well, that’s what the court rulings stated, and, I’m sure, that this is still, an accumulation of the events between this ten-year-old boy and his mother, that his refusing to go to school this time, was that final straw that made his mama, went on a murderous, rampage, and attacked him.

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The Father Who’s an Addict Used His Own Infant Son Like a Punching Bag

The physical abuse of this young infant boy, by his own, father, and finally, the neighbors, decided to, put an end to this, abuse that’s been, ongoing, for way too long already, because I’m more than certain, that this wasn’t, the very first time!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Used a Belt to Beat the Infant Boy, Smothered Him with the Quilts

There was the shocking news of a one-month-old infant boy who’d gotten punched more than dozens of times by his father who’d been high on substance, the father was suspected of using his belt, to whip the infant male continuously, then, smothering him with a quilt, the cruel methods the man used to abuse his own infant son was, atrocious; the police were called, and arrested the man, and took him in on physical assault charges, as the D.A. interrogated the man, they’d asked for the courts to mandate him into custody, which the courts signed off on, the infant male was sent to the hospital, and thankfully, he wasn’t in any life-threatening danger.

The incident happened at around one in the morn yesterday, the police investigated, that the man, Hsien, about thirty years of age, is a construction worker of a company in Shinying District, he’d gotten addicted to the illegal substances, had multiple priors in illegal substances, midnight last night after he’d abused the substance at home, he was suspected of taking a belt, and continually whipping, smothering his own young infant son, and, the baby was naked, and couldn’t withstand the abuse, continued to let out the shrilling cries nonstop, the families couldn’t deter the man from abusing the child, other than recording the videos of him abusing his own young with their cell phones, the families also called the cops.

like this, with, a much, harder, force! Photo from online

The substation sent the officers over, to stop Hsieh in his abuse of his own young infant son, arrested him, and quickly, took the infant to the hospital, and at the preliminary checks, other than the multiple contusions the infant boy sustained on his arms, legs, most of his injuries were only on the surfaces, the infant was in no critical danger, and is now, staying at the hospitals for observations.

The social services of Tainan immediately stepped in, the city councilman, Lee also rushed over to see how the infant was doing, the man’s wife cried, as she’d told of how after her husband started abusing the illegal substances, how badly he’d acted, and, she had, tried to stop him from hurting the infant, but, he’d, hollered for her to get out, the man didn’t speak a single word as the police took him into the station, the police changed him on assault, and sent him to the D.A.’s offices, the courts mandated the man’s custody.

As the locals learned of the infant abuse from the internet streams, they were all angered, and started stating that they wanted to teach the man a lesson, as the police learned, they’d already tried to, talk the members of the public out of taking the matter into their own hands, Lee, the city councilman stated, that the city’s priority is in protecting the mother and the infant male, and asked the outside world, to try and not disturb the family more, that leave everything to the law.

And so, this is how, this man, used his own, INFANT son as a PUNCHING bag, and, I’m sure, that the beating of this young infant male had occurred, even when the man wasn’t high, it’s just, that it got worse when he got high, and, the mother of the child can’t do a thing, because she’s, fearing her own, safety too, as in most of these cases would be, but thankfully, the infant boy was rescued out, and the man is looking at hard time in prison now.

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Compelled to NEED, My ADHD…

This is still, a, RE-action, to the, adult parents’, “desires” of the child…

I’m compelled to NEED, my ADHD, because, only when I have it, my mom will, shower me with, all the attention, and dad won’t, demand that I make straight A’s.

Compelled to NEED, my ADHD, because we all know, how the world expects less of children with, special needs, and, if I keep on, faking these symptoms, I’ll get off, easy.  Compelled to NEED, my ADHD, it’s the only thing that’s, keeping them from, going AT one another’s throats, because, my ADHD, when it acts up, well, everybody comes to shower me, with, all of their, undivided attention.

Psychologically, I, enjoy the undivided attention, the showers of extravagant gifts if I get a point higher on my school test grades, but that’s all, added extras.  I’m compelled, to NEED my, ADHD, primary because it keeps my parents’ anger off of each other (or they’ll be going AFTER one another throats, and I will surely, end up as, an orphan that’s for sure!), so they can, direct their attention, towards ME.

As I am, the MEDIATOR, had always been, in their, marriage, and, if I don’t’ use this “mental condition” to my ability, then, what good is it???

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That Day, We’d, Saved My Five-Year-Old Youngest Cousin, from Being Sold Off into Human Trafficking

A selfish man who totally didn’t think on what’s good for his own young, contrary to the gangsters, who’d, helped this family get this young child back, out of the fire pits, sometimes, the stereotypically bad people can be good, and, those who seemed to be good, can be, bad!  Experiences, and trials of, her young life, translated…

After reading the writer, Hsu’s “That Night, I Made My Way to the Teashops”, I had the flashback of that primetime soap scene that happened in my, reality.

On my youngest uncle who’s a prodigal son, after losing ALL of my maternal grandfather’s money, he’d still drifted in the bars, the brothels, continued being his, “good son in the fire pits”.  My aunt in working too hard, keeping the family intact, before their sixth child turned one, died from illness, then, my youngest uncle sold off his youngest to the local landowner to be groomed into a child bride, with the money he got from selling his daughter, had a time of easy with women then.

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Back then, one day as my youngest uncle came back home, suddenly, he was, overcome with his fatherly love, told that he was taking my youngest cousin at age five to head into town to get her some new clothes, the family didn’t have any suspicions then, but at night, we’d not see the two of them, returning; my maternal grandfather thought: no matter how ferocious the tiger is it won’t, eat its own child, he’d already sold one of his daughters of, could he have in mind, to sell his own, youngest too?

And the following day, the families believed, that the fifth child was, sold.

My tough second aunt went around, asking about where my cousin went, and, in the mouth of the “agent who’d introduced” my uncle, she’d learned, that my youngest cousin was sold to the “tea shop” in Taipei, to pay for his own, gambling debts, he’d sold her for $60,000N.T.s—the poverty stricken selling off their daughters, it wasn’t anything weird back then.  My second uncle was a leader of a gang in Chiayi, and asked the gangsters to find the whereabouts of my youngest cousin, and the families, the relatives, started, getting the money together, to try and save my cousin.

It was 1976, I was in the third grade.  My mother bought a princess fluffy dress for me to wear, with a pair of white socks with pink lace, along with a pair of, white doll shoes, with the pigtails tied by ribbons, better dressed than I was for New Year’s.  my eldest and second eldest aunts put on their traditional Chinese dresses alongside my mother, with the heels, set their hairs at the salons, with the makeup carefully made on their, faces, with the bags full of cash, and the group of us, headed up to Taipei with my second eldest uncle.

We met up with my second uncle’s brothers from different mothers, and we were led, into, the teashops, there were, so many, pretty women here!  I clenched tightly to my mother’s, hand, looked around, wanted to find my youngest cousin.  I can’t understand it, we can, trade the recycling metals for a malt candy, what can you get, for selling your daughter?

We entered into a room, my second eldest uncle started, negotiating with the man, he got loud at times, friendly at others, stared into the man’s eyes fiercely at times, used the Taiwanese I couldn’t understand to interact, the pretty lady handed me an orange soda, I’d, carefully, took smaller, sips, wanted to save half for my, youngest cousin.

The adults looked quite, serious, I got too bored, started playing with the zipper on my mother’s purse, they’d talked for a long, long, long time, until the coldness, the fizz of the soda wore off, and I saw my second eldest uncle stand up, shook the man’s hands, we knew, that my youngest cousin can, come home now, the ladies then, pulled out the wads of cash, and stacked them, onto the tables———

We got my youngest cousin back, three times what her own father had, sold her for, for $180,000N.T.s.

And so, this, is the behaviors, of this DEADBEAT who’d, SOLD his own young to feed to his own habits, and, also the stories of how the gangsters can be good, they’re the ones, who’d, helped get the youngest cousin of this ed get the youngest cousin of this ed get the youngest cousin of this individual back, and, the man who’d sold his daughter thought he got a good deal, and yet, the families, ended up, paying, three times more.

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The Single Father Has to Go to Work, Chained His Own Son Up, the Mother Came to His Rescue

To prevent your kid from getting into trouble while you’re away at work, you’d, LEASHED him up, like a D-O-G!!!  Wow, that’s, smart all right…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

An eight-year-old boy in Miaoli was found, chained with steel chains by his birthfather at the residence they shared in Toufeng, Miaoli, the child called out to help to his mother in Taoyuan, the mother rushed over, couldn’t get the chains off, and called emergency, the firefighters used the oil pressure clips and finally free the boy; the police and county department found the father used inappropriate measures to discipline the child, that he’d broken the laws of child and adolescent welfare, they’d filed for an emergency restraining order against the father, placed the child out, the district attorney’s offices set the man’s bail at $50,000N.T.s.

The local fire department received at call at around 10:37 in the morn, from the birthmother of the young boy, told them that the child was chained up in his living room, and couldn’t break out of the chains; as the firefighters arrived, they’d found the chain to be three meters long, they were able to use the oil pressure cutters and other equipment, to break the chains, and it took more than ten minutes to free the child, they’d notified the police and social services afterwards.

The preliminary investigations found, that the parents of the child is divorced, the custody was with the father, starting last year, there’d been records of domestic violence on record with the father, but the inappropriate discipline measures were mild, the Social Services did NOT list them; yesterday as the father goes out to work, worried that nobody’s looking after the child, that the boy may run off, so he’d, chained up his own son, to restrict the child’s movements, left the milk, the bread in the living room for the young boy to consume when he gets thirsty or hungry.

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Because the child couldn’t stand being chained down, his movements restricted, he’d called his mother for help, “I got chained by dad, can you come save me?”, the mother thought that it wasn’t possible, rushed over to her ex’s from Taoyuan, and was dumbfounded at what she saw; the child said he’d misbehaved, which was why he got chained up, that he was beaten, and scolded often, it’d made the mother sad.

The police assisted the young boy to the hospital, found the bruising on his waist from the chains, immediately filed for a restraining order for the boy, investigated the case as assault, obstructions of freedom; the Social Services found that the father, chaining the boy down, although it’d not caused him bodily harm, or serious injuries, but, the behavior may have traumatized the child physically as well as psychologically, that he’d broken the laws against protection of young children and adolescents, guilty of improper disciplining, placed the child out of the father’s custody, and forced the father into the parenting courses.

And so, because you had to work, there’s no one to watch your kid, to keep him out of trouble, so you’d, CHAINED him up like a dog, I mean, you had, left water, and food for him (and that should be enough, if he were a DOG!!!), and, you’d, caused psychological trauma in your own child, and you don’t even know it, are you, @$%#ING, kidding me here?  How would you like it, if someone CHAINED you, fucking (don’t pardon me!) adults up, and restricted your movement, because the individuals didn’t want YOU to, misbehave when they are out?

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Parents Overcome with Poverty-Stricken Life, Sold Their Young Daughter for $190,000N.T. to the Horny Man They’d Owed the Debts to

Because you can’t PAY up the debts, therefore, you SOLD your daughters, PIMPED them out?  Wow, and you call yourselves, PARENTS???  This is simply just, BULLSHIT, how us females are sold for CASH!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

A couple who couldn’t find steady work, had three young daughters, they were living in poverty, and the family took out a loan of $160,000N.T. from their neighbor, the thirty-six year-old man, He, they couldn’t pay it back, two years ago, they’d, privately SOLD their own youngest who was only six-months old, for $190,000N.T. to He, the Taichung District Attorney’s Office indicted the couple as well as He on human trafficking charges.

The man, He used the excuse of helping to take care of the couple’s eight-year-old eldest, and RAPED her too, the district attorney’s office charged him on rape, and He never showed up in court, and the Taichung District Court had an arrest warrant out on him.

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and, we’re, selling ’em as a “bundle” so whoever buys gets FOUR for the PRICE of O-N-E! You have GOT to be SHITTING me here!!! Photo found online

The D.A. found, that the thirty-six-year-old “Zheng” (a false name), and his wife, the thirty-three year-old “Ping” (false name) had three daughters ages eight, three, and two, and because they were poor, started two years ago, they’d started, taking loans from the unmarried man, He, and left their youngest daughter in his care to babysit.

The couple owed a total of $160,000N.T.s, and they couldn’t pay, plus, He told them he was willing to adopt the couple’s youngest daughter, two years ago during August or September, they’d sold their youngest to He for $190,000N.T.s; He paid them in five installments, six thousand a month, and on March 5th of 2020, he’d, paid up the money for buying the couple’s daughter.

Last year on March 11th, because He couldn’t get the adoption processed, he’d asked his friend, Chang to go to the district office to seek assistance on the adoption process, and the workers notified the police, and that was when the police found, that the couple sold off their daughters to the man, took the contract and the installment payment slips into evidence.  The D.A.’s Office indicted all three yesterday.

And the D.A. also found out, that He used the excuse of how the couple didn’t have enough space at their home, and invited the couple’s eldest daughter to his rental place to sleep, and he’d, molested the child two times, and sexually assaulted her once.

As the child’s mother found hickies on her daughter’s neck, and realized that she’d been raped by the man, she’d, notified the police, and He said that the child wanted to “play the game of vampire sucking blood” that he’d “kissed her neck, that was how the hickies were there.

The district attorneys indicted He on a more severe count of forced sexual act, and some other charges, and He had not shown up in court, and in January, the district court of Taichung sent out an active arrest warrant on him.

And, all three of these adults DESERVED to get PUNISHED severely, the parents, charged with PIMPING their own young out, and the man who “bought” these children, CHARGED with rape, molestation, AND human trafficking, and because “we don’t have enough money”, so we’d, decided, to SELL off our young!  Well, here’s a THOUGHT: if you can’t afford to raise that many kids, then, why the FUCK (don’t pardon me this time!), are you still, popping your offspring out, like how those, RABBITS humped, huh?  If you can’t AFFORD to keep, or to RAISE your young up, then, don’t have them, use CONTRACEPTIVES, you MOTHER FUCKERS!!!  (still no need to PARDON me on this last part here!)

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The Father Slammed the Infant Girl Causing Her to Have Subdural Hematoma, Charged with Domestic Violence

These cases seemed to be, never-ending, don’t’ they???  Another case of an infant being abused!  Off the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Liu, in Changwha was accused of forcing his a little older than a year old daughter who was developmentally delayed to physical therapy, allowing her to fall on her own, and, as he was having an argument on the ways of teaching his own young, he’d, thrown his own young daughter onto the table, causing her to have subdural hematoma, and the infant started vomiting endlessly; the D.A.s office in Changwha charged Liu with laws to prevent domestic violence, and other charges, asked the courts to sentence him heavily.

Liu’s wife was also taken into custody, the D.A. dropped the indictment charges against her, due to lack of evidence of abuse.  But, the Changwha Social Services Department, after reviewing the facts, believed that it would be ill-fitted for the infant girl to go home, and still placed her in protective custody.

The D.A said, that when the infant was just a little over a month old, she suffered a subdural hematoma from “not being cared for properly by an unknown member of the family” and was, hospitalized, back then, there were bruises on the infant’s eyes and left cheek, she seemed to have suffered from shaken baby syndrome, and was diagnosed as developmentally delayed.  In February of last year, the child started vomiting, and started sleeping too much, was taken to the hospitals, and the hospital examined her and found there were injuries new and old on her, that she’d suffered subdural hematoma, the hospital suspected that she was abused.

The county government and the police investigated found, that because Liu’s noting the infant had injuries on her, refused to take her to the hospitals to get treated, and after many days, he’d taken her in on February 22nd.  Back then, Liu told, that he’d allowed the infant to stumble around as she’d learned to walk, that she’d, bumped her head.

The indictment told, that last year around New Year’s, Liu’s wife took the infant child home, and her grandmother found there were bruises on her, and Liu’s wife told her that he’d disciplined the infant when she’d started crying out of term.  Liu also posted on FB and argued with his friend, “Why don’t you report my beating my daughter up to the police then?”  the friend replied, “you keep on beating her, your wife said you’d beaten both of your children so bad she couldn’t take them out………”  “it’s just, that the Social Services hadn’t found out yet…”.

And so, that is how this worked, unless someone REPORTS something, the social services wouldn’t have the slightest CLUE to check, and that just won’t work, because usually, by the time shits like these gets reported, someone had gotten so severely injured that s/he had died, or is now, on life-support, and, this violent father’s being charged, is still NOT fitting enough for what he’d done to his own young.

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Please Let Go, and Trust in Me, Having an Overbearing Mother

The problem here, is still NOT with the daughter, but with the mother, but, does she realize it???  Of course N-O-T, translated…

From awhile ago, on the news, a certain organization had been losing money by the year, the second-generation owner decided to sell of the office building, for cash, the founder, as he was, interviewed, stated, “My heart ached as my son did it, but now, I’d, trusted in his decisions entirely!”

This pair of father and son made me so envious, and at the same time, I’d, felt heartache for them both, because how I’d, wished that my own mother, can trust me like this father had his own son too.

From the views of the world, I guess, I’m, the pride of my parents: made high grades, gone to an all-star institution, and, managed to pass the exams for a public office on my very first try, I’d never needed my parents to worry over my school performances or my work.

Although my mother stated verbally, that I’d, done well for myself, but she’d, never had faith, that I can, handle things on my own, whether it be how I’d spent my money, how to treat others I meet, whether to have children after I married, who should care for my child if s/he was born…………my mother’s criticisms came at me, never-ending, “it’s for your sake”, was her most widely used phrase, and her weapon.

She’d never understood, that what she’d believed to be a show of care and concern, her nagging, was interpreted as how she didn’t trust me enough, I’d tried to tell her, but her response was always, “Those with your last names, can’t take any criticisms from others!”

When I was interning, I’d, lived at home, I’d had a crash on a rainy day, and, as I’d, bent my knees, my injuries started bleeding, but I’d not let my mother know, I’d, bent down, holding the pains in, as I’d helped clean up the house, until my mother rode out to get the groceries, and found the head of the motorcycle dented, that, was when she’d, found out.  I’d gotten into another, serious crash after I was married, and, it’d been years to this very day, I’d still, not told my parents what had happened to me.

Of the two wrecks I got in, I was, very scared, but I knew, that other than feeling anxious over me, and nagging me, my parents couldn’t do anything for me, and they’d, surely, blamed me, for being, too careless too.  And so, no matter how painful, I’d much rather, hide the truth from them.

I’d never doubted the love my mother had for me, but every time, as I’d, wanted to show affection towards her, she’d started, lecturing me, and in the end, she’d added, “Nobody else is going to tell you this, I’m your mother, that was why, for your sake, I’m, telling, you the truth!”  in my mother’s mind, I’ll never be, enough, there are, always things, I can, improve, and, all of my good performances are, matter-of-fact, and yet, the imperfections, are what pricked at her, and she’d needed to, get rid of them.

But, my dearest mother, you know what?  Your daughter may not be perfect, but, she’d always tried very hard, worked hard, can you just, let go, and trust in me?

And, hopefully, this woman’s mother can see this article, and change the way she interacts with her daughter, but, I’m still, NOT holding MY breath, because parents like these, they think what they’re doing, IS for the good of their young, and they just keep on, doing whatever the F*** (maxed out???) they’re doing, using their same old ways, probably because they were, treated as such by their own parents (‘cuz these sorts of SHITS still gets passed down, from one generation to the next, like D.N.A.???) and this daughter is going to, have a very difficult time, getting closer to her mother that’s for sure…

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Is the Child’s Oversensitivity a Behavior Problem?

So this, is what the parents have to cope with, with a way-too-sensitive child at home, huh???  Translated…

“Your daughter is so very quiet—have you ever considered, taking her to the doctors?”

“Jody is so easily hurt.  If she sees that other children were picked on, she’d cried too.  When she’d heard sad stories, she’d cry.  We don’t know what to do with her.”

“Everybody in the kindergarten is eager to participate in group activities, but, your son just refused.  Is he also this stubborn at home too?”

Do these lines sound familiar?  Of course, these words can get to you, as if, your kid’s the one with the problems, but, your child has a keen sense of observation, shows a lot of care and concerns toward others, and is very sensitive.  You knew real well, that if you heed these words, forced him to get socialized, the child would be in a whole lot of pain.  And, if you go with the flow of your child’s personality characteristics, s/he might be well-off.  And still, as the same words keep coming up, you’d started doubting, whether or not you’re fitting as a parent, and that you might be responsible, for your child, behaving the way s/he does.

How to Education Children Who are Too Sensitive?

You feared, that you may be doing things wrong, worried that no one can help you.  You might have already realized, that most of the parenting books all talked about “behavioral problems”, such as getting agitated easily, distracted, rough, attacking.  From this angle, there’s NOTHING wrong with your child.  There were NO mentions of the problems you’d encountered, eating problems, being too shy, nightmares, worries, and, strong emotional outburst, for no apparent reasons at all.  And, you couldn’t discipline your child using normal methods, even IF you’d just criticized her/him lightly, your child would have a complete meltdown.

The Words of Advice from the Experts:

When people tell you, that something IS wrong with your child, don’t believe them, and don’t LET your child believe them either.  Your child is UNIQUE, that, is not your fault.  Naturally, there would be room for improvement in parent-child interaction techniques, but, don’t ever believe that something IS wrong with you, or your offspring.

Based off of studies, fifteen to twenty percent of the children in the population are born naturally sensitive.  And, with this great number, it’s hardly “abnormal”.  Besides, in ALL the species that’s been studied, there are JUST as high records of individuals in the population that are this sensitive.  And, IF that, is the result of evolution, then, there MUST be a reason for it, we just can’t see it is all.

There are many evidence that suggests, that people who are highly sensitive are NOT necessarily shy, nor are they all neurotic OR anxious all the time, or even, depressed.  For some of the more sensitive members of the population, these emotional responses are caused by environmental stimuli, NOT inborn traits.

What, is a Heightened Level of Sensitivity?

People who have a heightened level of sensitivity are more aware of the details in their surrounding environment, and, before they acted, they’d think, thoroughly first before they took the actions.  Whether it be adults or children, those who are sensitive usually have a higher level of empathy, more intelligent, has strong instincts, with creativity, more careful, with a lot of conscience.

They understood better, the result of their own actions, and so, they’re less willing, to do the wrong things.  They couldn’t cope well with higher volumes of sounds, or an influx of information coming to them at any given time.  They would avoid these stimuli, which makes them appear shy or distant from others.  If they couldn’t avoid the circumstances of being under too many stimuli, then, they’d become “difficult to deal with”, or “way too sensitive”.

Although those who are deemed more sensitive pay attention to the details more, but, they may not have a better sense of sight, hearing, taste, or smell.  But, there are those with a better ability in one of their sensory organs.  The key point here, is that when their brains processed the information, they do it more thoroughly.  Not just their brains, those who are deemed more sensitive also have a stronger spinal reflex too.  Their immune systems are more active, they are prone to develop allergic reactions to things.  Which means, that their bodies are designed, to understand and observe this world even MORE thoroughly.

So, just because your kid cries a lot, or wouldn’t play in groups, PARENTS and TEACHERS, that still doesn’t mean that there IS something wrong with the kid, something IS wrong, with Y-O-U, stupid adult, who work so totally FUCKING (oopsy!!!) hard, to FIT all those little ones, inside just ONE square, but hey, some of us are rectangles, triangles, rhombi, circles, along with an ASSORTMENT of shapes AND sizes, and, we still DON’T just FIT properly to the “norm” (whatever THAT is!!!), so STOP trying to FIT your young INTO certain boxes, and just love them for the way that they are, after all, they still did NOT ask to be BROUGHT to the “outside world”, you two ADULTS are the ones to have FUCKED, and, out still popped???  Oh yeah, those “pretty little MISTAKES” of yours, remember?  Uh, YEAH, and, D-U-H!!!

 

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