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The Man with a Reputable Status in the Local Community is Abusive Toward His Wife & Young Son

Because the family is powerful locally, that’s why, the woman interpreted the police’s leaving as having to do with how they feared the family, but it wasn’t, because the police had come and knocked on the door, and nobody responded, and there was a traffic accident, which they took to be more pressing, that’s why they’d, left, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The woman, Wang remarried with a young child, in the two years, the mother and son had been abused by her husband, Nien, after the Changwha D.A.’s Office charged Nien with physical assault two days ago, Wang opened up to the press about what had happened in her marriage, other than having her cell phone controlled, because of how the family is powerful, the neighbors didn’t DARE say a thing, although she’d gone to the police on accusations of abuse, but the police came, and heard the side of the story from the Nien family, then left.

Nien’s uncle is a former deputy of the city council, well known for stealing and selling the gravel concrete, back in 1996, he’d been charge and sent to Ludao, and used the opportunity of being transported to the external hospitals, made his escape to China, and died in China ultimately.

Wang accused, that as she started dating Nien, they were very close, they married six years ago, but two years ago, Nien became a different person, had physically abused her and her young son, and demanded that she never leaves his sight, that when she goes to the bathrooms, she’d needed to leave the door open so he could see her, he took her cell phone, and, deleted her contact, severed her from contacts of the outside world.

The local substation stated, that the footage of him kicking the young boy was from this March, Wang claimed that she’d called the police on the evening of July 28th, two officers came, and heard the family’s side, then left, and as they checked the records, the officers knocked on the door, but no one responded, and there was a traffic call to the officers, that’s why they’d, left so soon.

Wang called another time on July 29th, the substation immediately took the case, and that day, the mother and son were placed away, but, the first time the domestic violence call came, there were, the improper means of handling it, and the police will reprimand the officers responsible.

And, you can see, how it’s easy, for this abused woman, to attribute why the police didn’t come to her rescue as such, because the family is powerful, with ties in the local community’s political realms, but, it actually, isn’t that the police didn’t take the case, but because they went to the home, and nobody answered, and there was another more pressing traffic call that’s more urgent.

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Seeking Assistance

How did it end like this?  Why did she put up with it this long, and no, abuse is NOTHING to “get used to”…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The legislator, Kao’s abuse by her boyfriend shocked the communities here.  At the same time, the Department of Welfare Sanitations posted its survey results of women living under violence, one out of every five female had been abused, most frequently occurring is the emotional abuse, which showed, that the battered women population are, taking up the majority.  Kao is a public figure, and her being abused got the sympathies of the society.  And yet, there are, many women who are without the abilities, the drives who’d been abused living in the darkened corners, not known where to get the assistance they needed, nor dared to speak up and out about their abuse, and can only, cry in the nights.

It hurts us, seeing the bruises and scars of Kao; but those bruises will eventually heal, and yet, the psychological traumas, not so, easy.  The damages from the verbal abuse normally exceed the effects of the physical abuses, like a dagger that stabbed into the hearts, hard to recover from.  A lot of women, when they’d been abused verbally, chose to keep it muffled up, which led the abuse to worsen, into physical eventually.

here’s trailer, and you can find the full-length movie from YouTube

The American movie, “A Fall from Grace”, about the middle aged woman, Grace, who’d been divorced, and, met a handsome, gentle, younger man, at first, he’d treated her like she’s a goddess, fooled her into believing that she’d found a good man, not known, that that, was the start of her, nightmare, the man cheated her out of her money, and insulted her verbally too, and, Grace had, fallen into the traps of love the man set for her, to the end, she’d become, a murderer, killed her abusive husband.

Do NOT let the love turn into a worst nightmare, I hope, that you will meet the right person, a kind man or woman, to be with you for the rest of your lives.

And so, this, is on how the victims (enablers) of abuse usually chose to, put up with the abuse, due to, whatever BULLSHITTING excuses they can come up with, and, by not going to the cops that first time you got beaten, or screamed at and apologized to (verbal abuse???) , or emotionally blackmailed by someone, you’d gone from a poor, pitiful VIC, into an ENABLER, and the reason why the other person gets away with abusing you, it’s still because you’re, allowing them to, because, you CAN’T work up the courage, to ask for the help you need, to BREAK free!

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How Did She Put Up with it, Getting Beaten from When She Was Younger, into the Elderly Years, How Did She Ever, Get “Used to It”?

On how the abuser/enabler relationship just, NEVER, ends, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The legislator Kao, of the DDP had been abused by her boyfriend, causing the citizens in this country to get angry over how the loser behaved, because of Kao’s status as a politician, that was what helped her bring out the matter of domestic violence in the society.

I’d been volunteering at the hospital for a decade, and had seen a ton of battered women, whose abusers are normally, their partners, what’s worse was, these batterers chased them to the E.R., then, DRAGGED the victims out the back door, and started, beating on them again.  These abusers are, the bullies of their families, only abused their own wives, the weaker women, and young children, very shameful; picking on the elderly, the women, and children, it’s a show of inferiority, but it’d become, a nightmare of, the families.

While the victims of domestic violence, feared that the bad news of the families might get out, or maybe, due to economics, or to keep a family together, and one’s own image, and so, they’d put up with the abuse for many years on end, then, headed over to the hospital to get their injuries documented, to file a restraining order with the courts.  There’s a woman who’d come to get treated for abuse, she’d told me that she’d been beaten from when she was younger, I’d asked, “how could you have put up with it this long?”  she’d told me, “got used to it”, it was heart wrenching to hear, I couldn’t imagine how she lived through all those, years.

I’m supportive of Kao’s suing her boyfriend, and hoped that the members of the public will be braver, to stand UP and OUT in these situations, because only by reporting the cases, to fight for the rights of our own bodies, will we be able to, put an end to these threats in our lives, to terminate domestic violence.

So, even though, abuse is NEVER anything we should get used to, but, because the victims got trapped in that situation too long, they took it to be the norm, and, stopped fighting, and thus, stopped asking for help, which is precisely W-H-Y, these cases are still, underreported by the victims right now, and besides, it’s usually the spouses, the boyfriends/girlfriends who are hurting the victims, and, as the abusers pouted up their lips, faked that one tiny teardrop out of her/his eyes, then, the abused victims, soften down, and NOT pressed charges, and they’re all, STUCK, in that, vicious cycle, as ENABLERS of their own, ABUSE.

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Feared “Losing Face”, the Experts: Social Support is Most Important

Reasons why the abused that are famous would normally not seek out help when they are, abused…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The legislator, Kao being physically abused by her boyfriend, mentioned that as it’d happened first time, she’d felt ashamed; the dean of the counseling department of Tainan University, Chen told, that women who are higher up in socioeconomic statuses, after being abused, normally go through a period of feeling helpless, not dared to seek out help, let alone, the members of the general public who’d been, abused, that it’s important that we have the social support from the outside communities, and the education of gender equality, to help the victims of abuse get out.

and here are, the signs, found online…

how many matched your relationships???

Chen told, that the victims of domestic violence aren’t all women, but women make up the bigger population of those who are abused, and the abusers would give the victims the mindset of “it’s because you’re not good enough, making me angry, that’s why I hit you, it’s all your fault…”, causing the female victims to wonder, “is it my fault, had I not done this or that, would he not have, beaten me?”

After Kao was abused, other than having the sex tapes in her boyfriend’s possessions, causing her to not go to the police, it may be “was it my fault” mentality? Had I not made him jealous, then, would he not have, beaten me?  That sort of sense of uncertainty of her own, guilt, and, even as women who’d been trained that the sexes are equal, being raised under the patriarchal ideals, it’s still, rooted down too deep.

Chen made the example, the former C.E.O. of CTS T.V. Station, Hsu’s being raped, and after she walked out of the shadows more than a decade later, she’d gone public with her own experiences, published, “The Survivors of the Nights”, but before she went public, others had questioned her, that it’d happened so very long ago, was it worth it now, to get it out in the open?  Would it not cause a damage a second time, to put her under the negative experiences again; the MeToo movement gave a ton of courage to the victims, Kao’s being able to step out, is quite brave, although the supports for the victims are increasing in Taiwan now, but there’s, still room for improvement.

The director of a psychiatric clinic in Chiayi, Lee told, that there are six signs of “dangerous lovers”, including, keeping a close eye on the person, verbal violence, not respect the individual, over involvement into the other person’s life, ignoring the feelings of the other individual, verbal violence, that before diving in to a relationship, start as friends first, and observe the person more, to understand what s/he is truly like, and if you find yourselves in danger of abuse, seek help immediately.

The Crime Prevention Department of Zhongzhen University dean, Cheng pointed out, that the abusers would use threats to hurt her/himself, to threaten the one breaking up with her/him, to the point of, losing her/his own life in the process, and at this time, the relationship should NOT be severed off immediately, but to be patient, to reduce the times you’d interacted with the other individual, and as the relationships fazed off then, break up.

And so, these, are what we all need to, watch out for, men AND women alike, to seek out help when there’s a need, to NOT feel ashamed, because it’s NOT our faults, just because we are men, or women, because abuse still does NOT discriminate against gender, race, age, etc., etc., etc., any one of us can become victims of domestic violence here.

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The Higher Up the Socioeconomic Status in Society, More Worried that it Would Damage the Image, and that the Fact that Abuse Happened Will Get Found Out

Because of their status, and they’re, victimized, and they feel, ashamed, which is why these high-profile cases of abuse are, underreported…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The legislator of the DDP, Kao was abused by her boyfriend, and the incident was found out fifteen days after it’d happened on the news media, that was when she’d gone to the police and pressed charges.  The manager of the National Jinan University International Domestic Violence Research Center, Wang stated, based off of researches, the females usually put up with their abuse silently for an average of six years, if it happened in the rich and famous, the women considered their status quo, their images, and, would select to remain silent about it even more.

Wang told, that whether it be women with a higher up status, they’d normally put up with the abuse, because they’d taken into considerations of the intimate relationship they shared with their abusers, the emotional attachments, even economics, the children, and families, it would be quite difficult, to work up the courage to tell; for those with a higher social status, more considerations are put in, including social image, the situation, so not getting help has nothing to do with bravery, but how the abused have their own timelines, knowing how far they needed to prepare, before any actions are, taken.

Wang said the acts of violence will come up slowly, if it’d happened once, then, it will certainly, happen twice, three times, and when the abuser realized that something isn’t right, and attempted to control the victim more by restricting the movements, using violence, or emotional, psychological threats, the women need to caution, “ZERO tolerance for violence” being the prime rule.

And so, most of these abused women, they have a lot to consider, when thinking on whether or not they should, come out to the open, especially if you’re famous like the legislator, it’s even harder, but, by not coming out into the open, you’re only signaling to the individual who’s abusing you, that s/he can, keep on doing it to you, and there’s, NOTHING you can do about it, because you’re afraid, of getting your reputation damaged, and the individual is going to keep on controlling you, because you’re, letting him.

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The Female Legislator Being Abused by Her Boyfriend…She Should’ve Calle the Cops and Filed for a Restraining Order Sooner

What the law is, being set up, to prevent this from recurring again, out of the case of the female legislator’s getting physically abused by her boyfriend here, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The news medias are taking the sides of the case of the legislator, Kao being physically abused by her boyfriend, although, as a voter, I’d, hoped that this is only, a misunderstanding; but, the problems of legality is involved.

Looking at the legislator, Kao’s boyfriend, tall, handsome, with a higher degree, and had he been found to have been physically abusive toward Kao, then, the world would gang up on him for sure.  Using the fists, controlling her movement, instilling fear in her, that is, nowhere NEAR, respecting her.

But, is Kao’s case eligible for the domestic violence prevention laws?   Based off of the words of Domestic Violence Prevention Legislation, No. 3, they weren’t married, and there’s no evidence of cohabitation, nor how they were, living, their lives together, and, based off of that, it doesn’t seem, that the legislator would be, eligible for the restraining order. Then, one of the amendments of the same law, it’d, listed man and woman, who shared acts of intimacy as the “boundaries”, and, it’d, made up for the lacking of the before stated, “a married couple”; stated simply, this qualified all who are over sixteen, who had had sexual intercourse, or physical relations, would be qualified for the protections under the law of domestic violence.

For Kao’s sake, she should, file for a restraining order, to, protect herself.

As the passing of the legislation of the “stalking, harassment prevention laws”, based off of media disclosure, Kao seemed to have footages of intimacy in her boyfriend’s possessions, based off of the newly passed law, it’d qualified as “having damaging message or items that belonged to certain individuals”, that there are the set up punishments; and yet, the above mentioned amendments had to get pass the voting, and six months afterwards, it would, finally be, enforced, and, based off of the “precedence” rule, before the law is signed, it wouldn’t be, applicable, and, the case should be filed under Penal Code 302, 304, 305, etc., with the specifications of holding someone against her/his will, threatening the lives, and the laws of endangering personal wellbeing.

The legislator, Kao sang loudly, and presented herself properly at the Lawyer Day last year needed to speak up, “I’m a good woman, I don’t deserve this!”, she needed the cares, the love and the concerns, and moreover, she needed the laws to protect her.

And so, this, is on how the lacking of domestic violence doesn’t make up for it, because, the wordings of the law, it set up those cracks, which the abusers can, easily, escape from, and we need to amend the laws on domestic violence very quickly, because, there are too many holes right now, and, those defense attorneys will, find ways, to get their guilty clients off easy, with nothing more, than, a slap on the wrist.

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With the Restraining Orders Set in Place, the Former Flight Attendant Suspected of Arson, the Couple Severely Burned

The use of that restraining order signed by the COURT JUDGE is still???  Oh yeah, WORTHLESS in reality here!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The former flight attendant, the forty-five year old Lee, awhile ago accused online that her mother-in-law had bitten her to injury, after her fight with her husband yesterday, she was suspected of lighting up gas causing a fire, the husband, Yang and her were both severely injured; Yang claimed that as he’d apologized to his wife, gotten down on his knees, she’d poured the gasoline, then light the fire; Lee said that she’d lit the fires, but her husband was the one, pouring the gasoline, it’d become a he-said, she-said, the police is currently investigating into the matter.

As Lee stopped working as a flight attendant, she’d started working as an auctioneer online, her husband who’s seven years her junior was originally a professional serviceman, after he was discharged, he’d worked with her on her online business.  The police investigated and found, that the couple had often gotten into altercations on taking care of the pet birds and their relationship, on the 24th and 27th of last month separately, they’d both filed restraining orders against each other at the local substations, and on the fourth and nineth, both restraining orders had been, signed into effect.

Awhile ago, Lee disclosed online, that she is seven years her husband’s senior, that her in-laws were displeased about it, and kept giving her a hard time, that they’d married and moved out; recently because Yang couldn’t pay five of his insurances, Yang’s father paid for him on his behalf, and the beneficiary was changed to Yang’s father then.  Last month on the 24th, she took her husband to her in-law’s to confront them on it, they had a huge fight, Lee accused her mother-in-law for splashing her with hot pepper oils, that in the physical altercation, her mother-in-law sliced off a piece of flesh off of her right ring finger; the in-laws accused Lee of scratching up their car and damaging the items on their properties, planned to sue her for assault, damages to their properties, as well as threats too, while Lee accused her mother-in-law for slandering, and insisted on suing her for public humiliation.

At around 6:06 in the morn, the couple was suspected of getting into an altercation again, Lee was suspected of committing arson at her residence, Yang was conscious, rushed downstairs to call for help, while Lee washed herself off in the bathrooms, by the time the paramedic, the fire department arrived, they’d found burn marking in the kitchens, the bedrooms too, they’d rushed the two to the hospital.

The hospital pointed out, that Yang sustained burns up to seventy-percent of his body of second degree, that he’d had burns on his airway, they’d already intubated him; while Lee sustained second to third degree burns on forty-five percent of her body, mostly on the right side of her body, her face to her hips all had burns, both are in critical danger currently.

Yang told the paramedics, that his wife came home early in the morn yesterday, woke him up, told him to get on his knees to apologize, and as he got down on his knees, she’d poured gas all over him then, started a fire; while Lee admitted to arson, but that it was her husband who’d poured the gas that’s, caused the fire.

The neighbors told, that the couple just moved in not long ago, that they’d heard arguing from their apartment often, that the man claimed that he was going to kill himself, making the building into a ticking time bomb.

And so, had one of them moved away from the residence, then, they wouldn’t have engaged, but they chose to LIVE together, and every day, they’d confronted each other, and, got on one another’s, nerves and bad sides, and this was what happened.  And, had one of them selected to MOVE out of the residence, then, all of this could’ve been, avoided.

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The Man with Domestic Violence Priors Waved Around the Knuckle Knife, the Mother and Daughter-in-Law Subdued Him Together

And this time, the women had, HAD enough, finally!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Lee with domestic violence priors was suspected of breaking the terms of the restraining order his wife took out on him, rammed into the house, and attacked his wife with a weapon that’s listed as illegal to possess, and attacked his wife on the head, causing her to suffer lacerations on two different parts of her body, Lee’s mother went up to stop him, the mother and daughter-in-law were able to subdue Lee, and called the police for assistance.  The district attorneys found, that Lee used the weapon to attack his wife’s neck, with the intent to murder, charged him with attempted murder, and other charges.

The investigations found that the 51-year-old Lee was about ten year senior to his wife, and he’d been in disagreements, conflicts with her relatives, and many times the police came to sort things through, and of these past times, the members of the families forgave him, and not pressed charges; and he’d had multiple verbal altercations with his own wife, and gotten physically violent on her, and awhile ago, they started physically fighting on the matter of disciplining their young, his wife finally had it, asked the courts for a restraining order.

The indictment pointed out, during last December, Lee breached the rule of needing to be away from his wife’s work place in the distance of fifty-meters, and had gotten the illegal knife from an unknown male, carried it on him, as he’d gone to visit his own mother, he’d found his wife there too, and he was suspected to using the illegal weapon to attack his wife’s head.

As Lee learned that his wife was there, his mother locked the doors, and he’d asked a neighbor to ring his mother’s doorbell, and tricked his mother to open the door, and rushed into the house, and was suspected of putting the knuckle knife on his fingers, and smashing down his wife’s head, causing her to sustain two laceration wounds on her scalp.  His mother saw, and got up to prevent him from further attacking her daughter-in-law, and were able to pin Lee to the chair with her, until the police who were called arrived, Lee willingly, turned himself in.

Lee denied the allegations of the intent to murder, but both the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law testified that he’d rammed into the house with the weapon to attack his wife; Lee’s mother also testified, to that the gloves, the knuckle knife left at the scene wasn’t from her home.

The D.A. found traces of Lee’s D.N.A. on the gloves found at the scene, and the blood from the knuckle knife tested positive for Lee’s wife’s D.N.A. too, believed that Lee was there to commit murder, that he’d attacked his wife with an controlled weapon in areas that may cause her to get fatally wounded, indicted him on breaching of the restraining order, possessions of illegal weapons, and attempted murder.

And so, this still just showed?  Oh yeah, those restraining orders AIN’T WORTH SHIT, and for the battered women to protect themselves, they can either, run away with their young (with the probability of their abusive husbands tracking them down too high), get a restraining order (which is useless piece of PAPER like this case proved!), or, we can, defend ourselves, by ATTACKING those mother-fuckers who tried to beat the crap out of us, and then, we get charged with manslaughter, instead of MURDER, because we are all smart enough, to keep records of our physical injuries, voice recordings of the threats those MOTHER FUCKERS threatened us, right???  Yeah!

Do keep those evidence at hand, otherwise, you will be, totally, FUCKED (so???) up there, ladies…

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Temporarily Escaping from the Volcanoes the Neighbors Became a Key Helper to Prevention of Domestic Violence

The ABSOLUTE necessary SAFETY net that needs to get set up that’s for sure!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The associate professor of Minchuan University’s Crime Prevention Major, Dai pointed out, that the American scholars conducted a survey of up to a thousand individuals who bore witness to child abuse, found that a-third of males are inclined to model after their fathers and become abusers themselves, two-thirds of females modeled after their mothers, became victim/enablers.  There’s a lacking of this sort of research data here in Taiwan, what’s worrisome is, that even though there’s more focus on women’s rights, the Taiwanese women still couldn’t break away from the traditions, and, the young children who bore witness to abuse still continued to hide behind their helpless mothers, trapped in fear.

Dai said, the American child neurologist, Perry discovered, that children as young as two years and nine months can feel the conflicts in the atmospheres, and this will affect their frontal lobes, which is in charge of focus and cognition the most, as well as the hippocampus, responsible for interpersonal relations and intimacy.

Dai found that for children who bore witness to violence develop that sense of shame, and as adolescents, they wanted to escape from home, and would act out by becoming truant.  The more the children bore witness to violence, once they get lost, it’s easy, that these children will join gangs.

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the way the neighbors can help keep a child safe…

Two yeas ago the case that shocked the entire society in Chien-Zhen District, Kaohsiung, with the bodies on ice, the ignition point was the man, Ting’s long-term abuse on his wife and children, his wife got so furious, told their son, “you need to make him (her husband) disappear from our lives for good”, and in the end, the mother and son murdered the man together.  Dai stated, that in recent years, the cases of murder by children are mostly caused by domestic violence, the children saw their mother get abused by their father, and, accumulated the anger or in a moment of anger, crimes were, committed.

The Kaohsiung Teachers’ College associate professor, Wei told, that when parents used violence to control everything, the children will learn, that violence is the only way to resolve things, and some of children raised in such an environment become abusers.  The social workers needed to give counsel to those who bore witness to these acts of violence, but currently, there’s only, limited resources the government puts into this.

Dai suggested that the schools, the communities, the medical facilities can all work together, to have a stronger effect, to set up an attachment relationship of trust.  The teachers should NEVER carry the attitude of “once you’re out of school you’re not my responsibility!”, they are the keys to keep the children’s minds and bodies safe.

A lot of people would turn a blind eye to the neighbors’ business, but the protection of children exposed to abuse, the neighbors can step in at the right time, when the parents start fighting, the children can temporarily head over to the neighbors to work on the homework, and the neighbors would do a great job in protecting these children.

And so, because of the prevalence of these domestic violence cases, and children being raised under such an environment, it’s not healthy for the children, this is why the neighbors need to be a sort of a safety net, because if you don’t look out for someone who’s in need, when you’re in need, nobody’s going to care about you either, and it still, goes, both ways!

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The Husband is Abusive & Threatened to Dismember Her, She’d Filed for Divorce & the Courts Allowed

A “specimen”, of a perfect LOSER who got into the HABITS of, always blaming someone ELSE for his own problems!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

A couple had been married for over forty years, the husband had abused the wife long-term, and even threatened his wife that he’ll dismember her like the story on the news, after many years of holding it in, the woman filed for divorce with the courts, at the trial, the husband repeatedly stressed how he’d, given it all to keep his family well; the judge believed, that the husband disregarded his wife’s feelings, always rationalized his behaviors to the ideals of patriarchy, that he’d not worked hard to patch up their marriage, signed off on the divorce, this can be appealed.

The wife testified, that her husband holds himself on a high pedestal, did what he wanted to, had often verbally and physically abused her.  She’d originally not wanted to give up on the marriage, due to the years they’d shared, however, two years ago, as the case of dismemberment of the wife by the husband came out in Taoyuan, once as her husband was abusing her, he’d, threatened her on it, “I’ll make you into the woman from Taoyuan!”, signaled that he was going to, murder then dismember her too.

The wife stated, that her husband’s words and actions caused her to be on edge by the day, besides he was constantly suspecting that she wasn’t faithful to him, as the scam artists called her number, her husband suspected that she was, cheating.  She’d lived under the shadows of domestic violence too long and finally had it, she’d filed for divorce.

The husband stated, that his wife had left home for days on end, and, used the excuse of having a new male friend, to not come back home, that he’d focused on making a living to provide for his own family, that he wasn’t like his wife had said.  To keep his family running well, he’d, not complained, besides he’s getting older, couldn’t withstand the stresses caused to his children if they were divorce, or the gossips from others around them.

The courts investigated, that the wife had been abused, and there had been a restraining order issued by the courts, the injury reports from the hospitals, and his wife’s mother testified, that she saw her son-in-law beaten her daughter up, that her daughter had a concussion once from getting beaten by him.

The courts believed, that during the trial, the man stressed on how much he’d loved his family, wife, how he’d, wanted her back, but his actions, showed how distrustful toward his wife he was, that he’d even, physically abused her repeatedly, that he’d not changed his behaviors, and blamed his own actions on the ideals of patriarchy.

The courts pointed out, that the husband disregarded how his wife felt, kept blaming others, making his wife helpless and disappointed time and time again; in the final testimonies, the husband didn’t do anything to prove that he loved his wife, that the courts doesn’t believe that anything will change in their relationships, and, signed off of the divorce.

And so, you’d, beaten the SHIT out of your wife multiple times, and still, somehow, managed to, rationalize your own fucking bad behaviors as love?  Yeah, uh, get REAL here, and thankfully, the courts saw right through that, and saved this woman’s life, allowed her to finally, DIVORCE this, L-O-S-E-R!!!

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