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The Legal Experts: the Courts Can’t Understand the Facets of the Cases of Domestic Violence

Only those who lived in the abuse knows how it’d, felt, the courts can’t even begin to comprehend what it’s, like, how there’s not enough focus on getting the abusers caught, and sent to jail, so the victims won’t have to live in fear of their, lives, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The Women’s & Children’s Advocates attorney, Tien pointed out, that with the status quo of Kao and her influences on the society, she could become victimized by domestic violence, Lin’s many crimes, separately considered, aren’t serious at all but, the judge who’d handed down such a light sentence for this repeated abuser, doesn’t quite balance out in crime and punishment.

And, all the domestic violence are all progressives, from screams, hitting the walls, throwing things, and in the end, injuring one another, from the victims’ perspective, it’s all, abuse, but, toward these sorts of violence in intimate relations, should there be a heavier sentence given out?  And how much evidence would be needed to prove?  And there are room for change in the current laws to prevent domestic violence.

A judge who chose to not be named pointed out, that rather than stating how Lin got off easy, “I believe, all of the cases on domestic violence in the past had been, way too, lenient”.  The court justice analyzed, in considering the sentence, there would be the examples from the past cases taken in, “the victims are tragically injured in the abusive relationships.  It’s just that under normal circumstances, the courts have NO way of knowing, just how AWFUL the victims suffered.”

A court judge mentioned the cases of domestic violence s/he resided over before, most of the victims, after they’d pressed charges, the district attorneys would NOT work the case endlessly, and the victim, needed to keep on fearing for their lives, by the threats of the abusers, “not very many of the accused will get jailed, let alone, dreaming of how the justices, the D.A. would, get to the cases quickly enough, comparing, the victims of domestic violence, aren’t given enough protection by the justice systems.”

And that, is what needed change, because these cases aren’t as major as those, murders, massacres, so they’re more than likely, to get put on the backburner, in that pile of files, and that’s just bad, because, these victims of domestic violence are the ones, most in need, of the laws to, protect them, and yet, these cases aren’t high enough on the D.A.’s lists of, priorities.

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The Foreign Woman Thought to Finally Had it with the Long-Term Abuse from Her Husband, After Her Husband Passed Out from Drinking, She’d Murdered Him, Accompanied His Body for Four Hours Then Turned Herself in

The uneven relationship status was what led to this woman, murdering her husband, because she’s a foreign spouse, and she’d taken years of abuse from him, I would imagine, that was, what made her, crack, finally, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

An Indonesian woman, suspected of not getting along with her husband from Taiwan long-term, after her husband passed out from drinking, she’d smashed his head, then, stabbed a knife into his throat; the man died instantly, she’d accompanied his corpse for four hours, then called to the police to turn herself in, the police charged her on murder, took her in.  The district attorney’s office two days ago examined the corpse, and asked the courts to take the woman into custody, which the courts signed off on, they will be conducting an autopsy to clarify the cause of death.

The police investigated, the forty-five-year-old Indonesian woman married the fifty-two-year-old man, Lu nine years ago, they live in Pingzhen District, Taoyuan, with no children, and not gotten along.

Based off of understanding, the woman wanted to return to Indonesia to sort out the matters of her family’s properties, but her husband wouldn’t allow her to leave, they’d fought multiple times, in 2017 and 2018, there were the domestic disturbances calls, the two accused one another for abuse, the woman said she was shoved and beaten by Lu.

The woman claimed, on the evening of the nineteenth of this month, the two were together at home, Lu, suspected of being in a foul mood after he was drunk, started nagging again, she couldn’t take it anymore; at 1:30 the following morning, when Lu was sound asleep, she’d hit him over the head multiple times with a bowl, then, stabbed into his throat using a butcher’s knife until he had no signs of life.

After the woman committed murder, she’d accompanied the body for four hours, at 5:30 in the morn, she’d walked over to the opposite of her street to turn herself in, the police followed her to her home, and found Lu, dead, she was cuffed; she’d claimed that she couldn’t withstand the long-term physical abuse, that was what made her do it, but, she had no visible injuries when the police arrested her, the police charged her on domestic violence murder.

Two days ago the Taoyuan D.A.’s Office reviewed the facts of the case, believed that the woman is at flight risk, asked the courts to have her in custody which the courts signed off on, and the body of the man is set for an autopsy on the twenty-fifth to clarify the cause of death.

Based off of understanding, Lu recently lost his job, his wife worked the odds and ends, the work was unstable, but their household economics was okay, and the details of the case is still pending investigation.

And so, based off of this, the woman had been long-term abused by her husband, and finally CRACKED, and, she’s a foreign spouse, which meant, she didn’t have the social support, the assistance she would need in her case, that can help her sort the matters through, and, there’s the repeated incidents of reports on domestic violence by the man on this woman that’s kept on record too.

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The Upsets Between the Mother and Daughter-in-Law that Turned into Tragedy in the Family, the Former Flight Attendant Poured Gas and Burned Her Ex to Death, Received Fifteen Years

And, the upsets that’s led to this, as one can only imagine, is still that FINAL, straw!  The woman murdered her husband, sure, that, what had, led up to, all of this, is worth noting here, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The former flight attendant, Lee and her husband who’s eight years her junior, Yang had a domestic violence dispute due to the problems with her in-laws, last year in March, she’d brought a keg of gasoline home to confront her husband, she’d poured the gas over her husband, then, set him on fire, causing him to sustain eighty-percent surface burns on his body, he was resuscitated for forty-five days, and then died.  The district attorney’s office indicted Lee on murder.  The Taichung District Court sentenced Lee on murder to fifteen years in prison, this can still be appealed.

The police and district attorney’s office investigated, that the forty-four year-old Lee and Yang live in a local residence in Fengyuan, after they were wed, Lee had often had confrontations with her in-laws, due to a difference in lifestyle, especially, the tension between the mother and daughter-in-law is strenuous, and she’d felt that her husband was passive in handling the matter too.

Last year in March, Lee had posted online, with the photo of the bite marks on her arms, and the emergency room visit documentations, accused her mother-in-law for biting her, and spraying chili oils on her, while her husband’s families posted the videos to rebut, stated that her mother-in-law got slapped across the face by Lee, kicked, and Lee had even threatened to cut her mother’s hair off with scissors, claimed, “it’s actually a case of daughter-in-law abusing the mother-in-law”, and, as the video went virus, the online community described the mother and daughter-in-law relationship as “mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, shocking interactions”.  The mother-in-law later pressed charges on assault toward Lee, last year on March eleventh, Lee scapegoated her husband, went to the gas station, bought the gas, bottled it up, went home, as her husband was asleep, she’d poured the gas on him, then, lit him up, causing him to sustain eighty-percent burns on his whole body, Lee also suffered from the burns as well, and the kitchen, the bedroom was on fire as well.

The Taichung District Court pointed out, that there’d been multiple records of domestic violence with Lee, her husband and her in-laws, and this time Lee’s upset was caused by her husband’s lying to her, that the tapes that’s stored in the police stations had already been, deleted, and her in-laws’ abuse of her.

The courts believed, that Lee intentionally bought the gasoline, and waited until her husband was asleep, then, poured the gas on him, and started the fires with the lighters multiple times, to kill him, that it was an indirect intention to murder him, that it wasn’t, directly intended, and she’d murdered him, and she’d not gained his families’ forgiveness afterwards, sentenced her to fifteen years.

Yeah, this woman did something really bad all right, but, you failed to note, how much she’d kept inside of her, until it finally exploded, and, imagine the amount of pressure, the upsets, the displeases that’s been piled one on top of the next and the next, and the next, for this woman, to finally, do something so violent, and this is still caused by the relationship going bad with her in-laws, and this shit still didn’t happen, overnight here.

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Bruises & Red Wine

Such, an odd, combination…

Bruises and red wine, they go so well together, don’t they?  Every single time, you’d bruised me, you’d, spread the red wine over my injuries, to help it get better, to make the pain that much, sweeter…

note how the colors…

photo from online

Bruises and red wine, that became, my life from before, I knew you were violent, but I can’t snap out of this cycle of abuse, because my father had, beaten my own mother too, and I’d, watched, and learned from the interactions, of how she’d always, apologized to him, for making him angry, giving him, an even, higher up status in the family, and he’d ruled over us like a king, and we were, peasants, without any say in anything!

Bruises and red wine, well, I’d had enough bruising in this FUCKED up (so???) lifetime of mine, and now, I’m downing those, bottles of red wine, one right after another, and another, and another (kinda like how you would, use those, alcohol cotton swabs to sanitize those, open sores!), only, that the red wine, they don’t do enough, to DROWN all the pain out, instead, it’d, made the bruises, magnified.

and the color of this

photo from online, are similar!

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She Was Abused by Her Cohabiting Boyfriend, Ran Away from Home with Her Daughter, Thirteen Days Afterwards, She was Dead

Abused to DEATH, by her cohabiting boyfriend, DESPITE how the laws are already, set up, to protect people from this sort of, horrid lovers, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

A woman in Tainan was abused by her cohabiting boyfriend, Chen, the victim took her ten-year-old daughter, and ran away, moved to Kaohsiung, but she’d sustained the multiple physical injuries on her, started spitting up blood at home, on the evening of the eighth, she fell ill, was taken to the hospital, the following day, she’d worsened, and died; the police charged Chen on assault causing death, breaking the laws to prevent domestic violence, the Chiaotou D.A.’s Office set the bail at $50,000N.T. after they’d interrogated him, and he had to report to the local subprecinct twice per week.

The police investigated, the victim was around thirty, started dating Chen four years ago, took her daughter who was only six, lived in with Chen at the residence on the West side of Tainan; on May 28th, the victim had a verbal altercation with Chen, was beaten by him physically, it’d caused her to sustain multiple injuries.

As Chen left, the victim discussed with her sisters, worried that she may get abused by him again, took her ten-year-old daughter, ran away out of Tainan, moved to Zhuoying, Kaohsiung to stay temporarily.  She’d only thought the injuries she’d sustained were only physical, that she just needed a few days’ rest and will recover, but on the eighth of June, she’d suddenly fell ill, started puking up blood, as her younger sister saw, she’d called emergency, and stated to the operator, that her sister was beaten by her cohabiting boyfriend.

As the victim was taken to the hospital, she fell into a coma, during which time she regained conscious, and told her families of what had happened, the police took the statement of the daughter on the ninth, and on that evening, the victim’s condition took a turn for the worst, she’d died of multiple organ failure, and the case is being prosecuted as assault causing death.

The police had Chen into the station, Chen stated that he had, argued with the victim, but was evasive toward the questioning of physically abusing her, the preliminary checks of the body, the death can’t be determined, they will conduct an autopsy on the thirteenth to clarify the cause of death.

And so, this woman got abused to death, by her cohabiting boyfriend, and this still just showed, how dangerous is it, to stay with an abusive man, because it’d happened once, it will, happen, again, again, and again, until the victims die, or do something to escape.  But in this particular case, the victim didn’t escape, she died!

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The Ten-Year-Old Child Refused to Go to School, the Mother Went Berserk, Started Beating Him, Nearly Murdering Him

And, this ten-year-old KID’s refusing to go to school is still, just that, FINAL straw that cracked HIS mama’s, back here!  Because you don’t go into a beating rage on your own child, because he refused to go to school, and this still just showed, how bad an emotional control this parent had…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Last year, a woman, Liu, because her ten-year-old son refused to go to school, they got into an argument, and she’d lost it, other than choking her own son, disregarded his cries out of pain, she’d started, physically assaulting him with a fruit knife, fire extinguisher, nearly murdering her own child; after Liu’s attack on her own son, she’d, started mutilating herself, saw how her son was still breathing, she’d called emergency services, and her son wasn’t murdered by her.  The Taichung D.A.’s Office charged her on attempted murder for breaking the laws of child protection, and the adults’ intentionally harming a child.

The indictment pointed out, Liu (age 37) age 37) shared the childrearing responsibilities of their ten-year-old son with her husband, but started in the son’s fourth grade year, he’d started refusing to go to school, due to psychological problems, and Liu started getting into fights with him on it frequently.

At seven in the morn on October first of last year, Liu’s husband already went off to work, and Liu and h son started fighting over him going to school again, then suddenly, Liu snapped, started strangling her own son’s neck, as her son kept struggling, fighting her off, she finally, let go.

Liu ran to the bathrooms, attempted to kill herself by strangulation of a charger wire, but her son stopped her, she’d turned toward him, with both hands on her son’s neck, disregarded how her son cried for her to stop, used the fire extinguishers, and started smashing down on her son’s head multiple times, then, used the fruit knife, started stabbing her son’s neck, causing her son to fall to the floor with serious injuries, with the hematoma on his scalp, neck and shoulder, thorax and abdomen lacerations.

As Liu saw her son fall to the ground, she’d started attempting suicide using the fruit knife, the fire extinguisher, but realized that her son was still breathing, she’d come to, and immediately called up emergency, as the two of them were rushed to the hospital, both their lives were, spared, as Liu was discharged from the hospital, she’d answered truthfully to what had happened, how she’d, attacked her own so, as the D.A. and police inquired her.

The district attorneys considered that the boy was severely wounded, and that as Liu attacked him, she’d gone after the vital organs and parts of his body, the neck, the abdomen, that she had intended to murder him, that there’s a need to add more sentence to the severity of her crime, but considering how she’d stopped that she’d called the police, the fire department for help, turned herself in, showed remorse over what she did, that she’d, qualified for the criteria for a reduction of sentence, yesterday the D.A;s office prosecuted her, and asked the courts to give her a fitting sentence.

Yeah, for some unknown reason, this mother just SNAPPED, and attacked her own son so brutally, but, she had stopped herself, DEAD in her own tracks, before she complete the murder, so that counts for something, right?  Well, that’s what the court rulings stated, and, I’m sure, that this is still, an accumulation of the events between this ten-year-old boy and his mother, that his refusing to go to school this time, was that final straw that made his mama, went on a murderous, rampage, and attacked him.

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He Was the One Breaking Up with Her, But Decided He Wanted Her Again, Abducted Her, Tied Her Up, then, Raped Her

Yeah, and this mother @#$%ER (maxed out!) still only got that SLAP on the wrist, considering, how he is more than likely, to, go after this ex-girlfriend of his again, given what’s happened already!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Her Again, Abducted Her, Tied Her Up, then, Raped Her

Transferred $100,000N.T from Her Account to His, No Remorse After the Fact, the Second Trial Found the Man Defined by the Horrid Lover Clause, Sentenced to Eleven and a Half Years

The man, Yu, two years ago, broke up with his girlfriend, the day after the break up, he’d, returned, took her by force, tied her up, beaten her, tortured her then, raped her too, and, used her fingerprint, to log onto her bank account online, and transferred $100,000N.T.  The first trial found him guilty of forced sexual behaviors and threaten to get money, gave Yu five years four months; the second trial found, that Yu’s behavior was “fitting to the behaviors of the horrid lover”, no remorse, with a bad attitude, changed the charges to robbery and forced sexual intercourse, sentenced him to eleven years six months.  The Highest Court tossed back the appeals, case closed.

Yu is in the electronics industries, talked of marriage with his girlfriend, but often cussed her out, called her a “bitch” repeatedly, and there were the photos of sexual intimacies on his cell phone with other women too; on January 31st, 2020, he’d told her he wanted to break up with her, but the following day, he’d, gone back on his thought, suspected that his girlfriend had taken up with another before he broke up with her.

At nine that evening, Yu asked his girlfriend to accompany him back to their rental stay, he’d used an electrical wire, the tape to tie up her hands, demanded her to do what he’d told her to, go take a bath, sleep, unlock your cell phone, telling him her password to unlock her phone, so he can check her contacts, that if she’d refused, he’d beaten her up.

Yu loosened his girlfriend temporarily, but, took the cell phone, to connect to the surveillance in the residence, to keep tabs on her every move, and, his girlfriend can only do what was told; on the early evening of February 2nd that same year, Yu took advantage of his girlfriend being tied down, and couldn’t fight back, raped her, then, slapped her, used her finger print, to unlock her online bank account, transferred $100,000N.T. from her account to his own.

To get herself free, the girlfriend falsely agreed to move in to Yu, claimed that she needed to return to work to pick up the things she needed, Yu demanded that she turn on her camera, to control her; as the girlfriend returned to the dormitory of her school, she’d asked for help from her R.A., and called the police.  Yu denied the allegations, claimed that he’d not actually threatened her, that everything he’d done, was to get her back with him; that the transfer of the money was only a means, to make his girlfriend stay, as it’d worked from before.

The High Courts believed, that Yu had, ordered the woman around, cussed her out, that when his girlfriend didn’t do as he’d told her, he’d, started, cussing her out, that as he’d broken up with her, he’d felt uneven, tied her up, beaten her down, raped her, and, used her assets at his own will, that his behaviors qualified as that of the horrid lover’s, causing psychological and physical traumas in his girlfriend, and showed NO remorse, with a bad attitude, sentenced him to eleven years six months on robbery, forced sexual acts.  The Highest Courts tossed back the appeals, case is closed.

And so, this, is what this LOSER got, and it’s still, too, light a sentence, because, who’s to say that after eleven and a half years in prison, or shorter, as he may be out with good behaviors, he won’t go after his ex again, I mean, this time, because he’d broken up with her, and wanted her back, he’d taken her by force, raped her, and this woman will NEVER be fully and completely, safe, until this LOSER gets, locked away, for good!

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What I Couldn’t, Recall, from Before…

What I couldn’t, recall, from before, it all came, flooding back, into my mind, too fast, I can’t, process them, and the dusts never, settled down fully, nothing was, calm, again!

What I couldn’t, recall, from before, why are they, all hitting me hard now?  Why do I need to, remember, all of these things of pain from my younger years, why can’t my mind, just, keep me, deceived, as it’d done before, huh?

difficulties accessing the memories locked inside the brains! Image from online

What I couldn’t, recall, from before, it’d all, come back out, of the darkness of my, unconscious, passing through the grays of the, subconscious, into, the consciousness that’s me!  What I couldn’t, recall, from before, they’re all coming back, one by one, a fact here, a fact there, several on a day, none on the next, too many to cope on the following day after that.

Until, until, everything that’s happened to me in the past, presented themselves, collectively, to me, inside, that, Pandora’s, box………

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The Man with a Reputable Status in the Local Community is Abusive Toward His Wife & Young Son

Because the family is powerful locally, that’s why, the woman interpreted the police’s leaving as having to do with how they feared the family, but it wasn’t, because the police had come and knocked on the door, and nobody responded, and there was a traffic accident, which they took to be more pressing, that’s why they’d, left, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The woman, Wang remarried with a young child, in the two years, the mother and son had been abused by her husband, Nien, after the Changwha D.A.’s Office charged Nien with physical assault two days ago, Wang opened up to the press about what had happened in her marriage, other than having her cell phone controlled, because of how the family is powerful, the neighbors didn’t DARE say a thing, although she’d gone to the police on accusations of abuse, but the police came, and heard the side of the story from the Nien family, then left.

Nien’s uncle is a former deputy of the city council, well known for stealing and selling the gravel concrete, back in 1996, he’d been charge and sent to Ludao, and used the opportunity of being transported to the external hospitals, made his escape to China, and died in China ultimately.

Wang accused, that as she started dating Nien, they were very close, they married six years ago, but two years ago, Nien became a different person, had physically abused her and her young son, and demanded that she never leaves his sight, that when she goes to the bathrooms, she’d needed to leave the door open so he could see her, he took her cell phone, and, deleted her contact, severed her from contacts of the outside world.

The local substation stated, that the footage of him kicking the young boy was from this March, Wang claimed that she’d called the police on the evening of July 28th, two officers came, and heard the family’s side, then left, and as they checked the records, the officers knocked on the door, but no one responded, and there was a traffic call to the officers, that’s why they’d, left so soon.

Wang called another time on July 29th, the substation immediately took the case, and that day, the mother and son were placed away, but, the first time the domestic violence call came, there were, the improper means of handling it, and the police will reprimand the officers responsible.

And, you can see, how it’s easy, for this abused woman, to attribute why the police didn’t come to her rescue as such, because the family is powerful, with ties in the local community’s political realms, but, it actually, isn’t that the police didn’t take the case, but because they went to the home, and nobody answered, and there was another more pressing traffic call that’s more urgent.

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Seeking Assistance

How did it end like this?  Why did she put up with it this long, and no, abuse is NOTHING to “get used to”…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The legislator, Kao’s abuse by her boyfriend shocked the communities here.  At the same time, the Department of Welfare Sanitations posted its survey results of women living under violence, one out of every five female had been abused, most frequently occurring is the emotional abuse, which showed, that the battered women population are, taking up the majority.  Kao is a public figure, and her being abused got the sympathies of the society.  And yet, there are, many women who are without the abilities, the drives who’d been abused living in the darkened corners, not known where to get the assistance they needed, nor dared to speak up and out about their abuse, and can only, cry in the nights.

It hurts us, seeing the bruises and scars of Kao; but those bruises will eventually heal, and yet, the psychological traumas, not so, easy.  The damages from the verbal abuse normally exceed the effects of the physical abuses, like a dagger that stabbed into the hearts, hard to recover from.  A lot of women, when they’d been abused verbally, chose to keep it muffled up, which led the abuse to worsen, into physical eventually.

here’s trailer, and you can find the full-length movie from YouTube

The American movie, “A Fall from Grace”, about the middle aged woman, Grace, who’d been divorced, and, met a handsome, gentle, younger man, at first, he’d treated her like she’s a goddess, fooled her into believing that she’d found a good man, not known, that that, was the start of her, nightmare, the man cheated her out of her money, and insulted her verbally too, and, Grace had, fallen into the traps of love the man set for her, to the end, she’d become, a murderer, killed her abusive husband.

Do NOT let the love turn into a worst nightmare, I hope, that you will meet the right person, a kind man or woman, to be with you for the rest of your lives.

And so, this, is on how the victims (enablers) of abuse usually chose to, put up with the abuse, due to, whatever BULLSHITTING excuses they can come up with, and, by not going to the cops that first time you got beaten, or screamed at and apologized to (verbal abuse???) , or emotionally blackmailed by someone, you’d gone from a poor, pitiful VIC, into an ENABLER, and the reason why the other person gets away with abusing you, it’s still because you’re, allowing them to, because, you CAN’T work up the courage, to ask for the help you need, to BREAK free!

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