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She Was Mine, a Child, Lost in Time…

She was mine, a child, lost in time, and time has, its, death-grip around her throat, slowly, suffocating her, choking her, into that slow death.

She was mine, a child, lost in time, the one who’d, never had the chance of being “formed”, and yet, I still, loved (in the past), love (in the present tense!) her so very much, simply because, she was, mine, and there need not be, any other reasons.

She was mine, a child, lost in time, and, she’d, drowned slowly, in the river of time, and, there was, nothing I could do, but to, kneel by the riverbeds, and cried all my tears, and my tears, in turn, formed another, grander river, then the river of time, my child had been, drowned to death in.

She was mine, a child, lost in time, the one who’d, never made it, the one who’d been dead, way before her time! And, there was still, NOTHING I could’ve done, or can do about this death that I’d been carrying, since 2008………

She was mine, a child, lost in time, and, in lost time’s embrace, I know, she’ll, grow up safe and sound, and besides, it’s better, that my daughter stays DEAD, because this world is so full of FUCKING shit, and I surely as HELL wouldn’t want what had happened to me, to happen to her too!

She was mine, a child, lost in time, and, time shall, keep her safe and sound, untouched, and, she wouldn’t lose her innocence as I did, when I was, a very young child myself………

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A Naked Father Held onto His Dead Son, Sat Dumbfounded by His Front Steps, the Passersby Were Alarmed

A history of mental illness here, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Cho who was diagnosed with a mild form of cognitive disorder yesterday at around noon, carried his two-year-old son who had died, sat, nude, in front of his house, and the passersby called the police, as the police rushed over, they’d found his wife, having taken tranquilizers, naked, and passed out on their bed at home, and the D.A. examined the child, and found there were multiple wounds on the boy, they’d suspected that he’d been abused to death, they will do an autopsy, to clarify the cause of death next week.

The District Attorney of Tainan, Lu examined and found, that there were multiple old and new contusions on the young boy’s head, as well as new abrasions, there were multiple bruising on the child’s arms and legs too, there were contusions on his anus that bled, they’re not ruling out his death as caused by abuse.

“My child is already dead!”, as Cho was taken back to the subprecinct, he’d cried, admitted to abusing his own young, and, at the time when the District Attorneys were questioning him, he’d also told them, “I didn’t mean to”, but, his statements were inconsistent; after the interrogations, the D.A. restricted his movements to his residence, and the police will notify the Department of Sanitations, to force him into treatment.

Cho’s residence was in an alley, leading up to the malls, a lot of the passersby saw him, naked, carrying his limp child with his head tilted backwards, and turning purple, they were all shocked; yesterday morning at eleven, as the pedestrians walked by, they’d noticed something wasn’t right, they’d immediately notified the police.

The man in charge of the local borough said, that Cho had strictly prevented anybody from coming close to him, and, it took three firefighters, to distract him, and get his child away from him.  As the child was taken to the hospital, the paramedic said, that he didn’t have a heartrate, wasn’t breathing, and had died, as he was being rushed to the hospital.

The police rushed over to investigate, they saw that the room was messy, pillows on the floor, there seemed to be signs of struggle, but there wasn’t any blood.  Cho’s wife was found naked too, passed out, on the bed of their rental home, after the firefighters shook her and woke her up, she’d slowly regained consciousness, and was taken to the hospitals for further observations.

Cho’s wife said, that in the morning, she’d had an altercation with her husband, felt bad, took the tranquilizers, and passed out, she wasn’t sure what had happened during the time she was passed out.  The Social Services Department had listed her as a protection case, and she is now, placed by the social workers.

The D.A. said, that the husband and wife had different versions of how the child was injured, Cho claimed, that “I’m not responsible for ALL of the injuries”, and whether or not his wife also beaten the child up, or if the wounds were accidental, they will look more into the matter.

And so, we still have here, the DEATH of a young child, and the reasons are unknown, but in these case, usually, BOTH the parents ARE responsible.

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After a Swiss Man Gunned Down His In-Laws, His Wife’s Younger Brother-in-Law, the Neighbor, He’d Committed Suicide

This, is TRULY SHOCKING, in ONE of the world’s HAPPIEST nations too!  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

The Happiest Country in the World Has Over a MILLION Guns

A thirty-six year-old Swiss man on the ninth, gunned down his parents-in-law, his wife’s brother-in-law, and a neighbor, then, committed suicide.  The police quickly ruled this incident out as a terrorist attack, but a domestic tragedy.  Just last month, Switzerland was voted as the “World’s Happiest Nation”, and, this murder-suicide had shocked the entire nation, and, some attributed the events to how guns are in excess.

The murder happened in the city of Verenigingen, close to Zurich, the suspect was a father of three, but he didn’t live with his family, the police said, that he didn’t have a license for a gun.  The suspect first, broke into a resident, gunned down his fifty-eight year-old father-in-law, fifty-seven year-old mother-in-law, and his thirty-two year-old brother-in-law, then, broke into another resident, gunned down a forty-six year-old neighbor, then, committed suicide.

The suspect had a prior in violence, lived alone in the state over.  He was under investigation, after a 2007 confrontation when he’d caused someone to get injured, and in 2012, he was arrested for using verbal threats on someone.  Before the murders on the 9th, the wife and children of the suspect had moved out, and entered into a shelter already.

Last November, a similar incident happened in Switzerland too.  And this time, this massacre had caused a huge ripple in the originally peaceful Switzerland, the local papers wrote: “Impossible, after all, we are the world’s happiest, richest country.”

Based off of estimation, there are a total of 4.5 million guns floating arou9nd in Switzerland, and the number of guns owned in Switzerland is among the tops of the world, second only to the U.S., Yemen, and Serbia.

And so, you have to wonder, even IF this was only an ISOLATED incident, why, is it, that the world’s happiest nation would own the greatest number of guns?  And, this, may only BE a dispute in the family that went wrong, but, it still raised concerns for the world.

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She’d Murdered Her Own Mother, Gotten High on Drugs, in a Daze for Five Hours…Then, Turned Herself in, to the Police

From the Front Page Sections, a tragedy of a family, translated…

She was displeased at her mother’s words, “You had dragged me and your younger sister down with you”, after she’d murdered her mother, she’d told her younger sister, “You’re finally free”, her younger sister told, “We had a very unhappy childhood…”

A thirty-one year-old woman Pan in Kaohsiung, because she hadn’t gotten along with her own mother for long period of time, two afternoons, she’d bought a fruit knife, gone to her mother’s place, to confront her, Pan started stabbing her mother using the fruit knife twice on the right side of her mother’s neck, the fifty-three year-old mother died, had her throat slit.

After Pan had murdered her mother, she’d started using ketamine, and fell into a daze next to her mother’s corpse, and five hours later, she’d told her younger sister what she’d done, told her younger sister, “You’re now, delivered from pain”, and was accompanied by her sister, to turn herself in.  After the D.A.s interrogated her, they’d asked her to be taken into custody, which was approved.

The police investigated, that Pan had medical history of being diagnosed with bipolar, is currently unemployed, and got into a drug habit, lived with her mother, who has a mildly mental illness manual, also diagnosed with bipolar mother, and the two of them would argue a lot, over the smallest matters.  A week ago, after Pan had a verbal altercation with her mother, her mother kicked her out of the house, and changed the lock on the door, and so, Pan could only move in with her younger sister.

When the police interrogated her, Pan told them, that lately, her mother had come to her younger sister’s place to harass her, she’d gotten more and more furious, as she thought about it, two afternoons ago at five in the afternoon, she’d gone to the marketplace, bought a fruit knife, at close to six in the evening, she ran back to her mother’s house, after the mother opened the door, they’d started fighting again shortly; the mother just kept putting her down over, and over, and over, and cussed at her, “You are the one who was dragging both me and your younger sister down!”, in a moment of heated anger, she took out the knife, SLASHED her mother on the right side of her neck twice hard, her mother fell, and, blood came pouring out of her neck.

In the process of hacking up her own mother, she’d accidentally cut herself on the left side of her own palm, she’d dressed her own wound, and washed the knife off, sat on the chair next to her mother’s dead body, started using ketamine; she left, at around a little past ten in the evening, rode her motorcycle to her younger sister’s, she’d accompanied her mother’s corpse for almost five hours after she’d killed her.

The moment Pan saw her younger sister, she’d told her, “I’d saved you from your miseries!”, the sister became confused at what she meant, and, after she’d forced the truth out of her sister, she’d learned that her older sister had murdered her mother; after the younger sister consoled with her for an hour, Pan finally turned herself in to the police in the early morning hours.

The police investigated, that Pan had two prior records of domestic violence, four years ago, she’d injured her own mother with a knife, after the police were called, they’d reported the incident to the Department of Social Services; last year in September, Pan became verbally abusive toward her mother, the mother notified the police, but never got a restraining order.

The man in charge of the local borough said, that Pan’s parents were divorced when she was young, eleven years ago, her mother moved into the borough with her, and back then, Pan still had a job, but five years ago, she got fired, and took to drug abuse, and, that, was when everything started going south; because neither the mother and her had work, they’d lived off of the mother’s handicap payments by the government, as well as her younger sister’s support, and the two of them would often argue about money, and, every time when the mother was unhappy, she’d kicked her daughter out.

The police disclosed, that because Pan didn’t have any money, she’d often starved, in the first half of March, she’d once taken a knife, to rob a super convenience store, called, “I’m going to ROB you!”, begged the cashiers to call it in, because she wanted to be on the “free meal plans of jail”.

After the incident, Pan’s younger sister didn’t blame her, and, toward the inquiries of the outside, she’d started crying, told, that her mother had been emotionally unstable for long term, would kick the doors down, and use verbal insults on the two of them a lot, that they had a very unhappy childhood, “Nobody would kill her/his mother without reasons at all.”, this was all too painful, for her older sister too.

The coroner examined, that the cause of Pan’s mother’s death was from the loss of too much blood of the severing of her right carotid, as well as her windpipes.

And so, she finally CRACKED, and, this, is still a BUILD-UP over time, and, because the woman was high on drugs, she’d become impulsive, and, unable to judge her own behaviors, and this, could’ve been avoided, had someone STEP in earlier, but, it wasn’t, because this had gone on, for WAY too long, and this time, the woman finally CRACKED!!!

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After He Was Released from Serving Time for Murdering a Pair of Sisters, He’d Murdered Another Woman…Managed to Escape the Death Penalty

Because his previous punishment wasn’t severe enough, and so, after his release from prison, he’d offended again, from the Newspapers, translated…

A man, Chen, with a history of mental illness, twelve years ago, murdered a pair of young sisters in their elementary years, five years ago, he’d falsely claimed that he was hiring a woman for a betel nut stand, and clubbed Lin, a woman who went to the interview to death, the Highest Courts on the first trial, believed that he could still be reformed, that there’s no need, to pass down the severe sentence on him, changed his sentence to life in prison, the High Courts yesterday, tossed the decision of the man’s appeal back.

The verdict pointed out, the thirty-three-year-old Chen during the month of April of 2003, drove a pair of elementary school sister in Banciao District of Hsinbei City to a small cabin underneath the Huazhong Bridge, and he’d murdered the young girls who were innocents, then, he’d disposed of their corpses into the Hsintien Creek, and, afterwards, in his trial, he fitted the criteria for reduced sentence because of his mental states, and the diagnosis of a mental disorder was confirmed by the hospitals, and the courts gave him twelve years in prison for certain.

But, after Chen served only six years, because of the amnesties, in July of 2009, he was released, the following year in October, he’d found a place to live in Hsinbei City, used the name of “Mr. Hsieh”, and posted out an ad that hired ladies to operate the betel stands, Lin saw the ad, and after she’d called him, she’d gone for an interview.

Because Lin kept asking to meet with the boss, Chen realized that his lies were about to went bust, and he’d used a baseball bat, clubbed the victim on the head, after Lin fell to the ground, she’d begged him to stop, Chen lied to the victim, that by taking FM2, a date rape drug can help alleviate the pains, he’d waited until Lin passed out, then, continually, clubbed the victim’s head, until Lin was dead.

Afterwards, Chen took off Lin’s shorts, ripped her top off, and wrapped her corpse with a quilt, then, wiped down the blood splatters across the walls, and he’d even gone out to buy himself food for lunch.  After Chen was caught, he’d claimed to be mentally ill, has dual-personalities, that it was the demon in him who’d killed, that it wasn’t him who’d done it.

For his first and second trials, the judge gave Chen the death penalties, but, the first appeal of the high courts believed that Chen can still be reformed, that there’s NO need to give him the death penalty, gave him life in prison, stripped his ability to take up a government post for life, yesterday, the Highest Courts tossed back the rulings, and the case is settled.

Wow, after you’d BRUTALLY murdered so many, the courts still believed that you still have the abilities of being reformed, what the F***!  And this man even tried to use the insanity plea, but gladly, nobody bought it, and, his behaviors are thought out carefully, his actions, planned.

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Finding Real Love, in a World of Fantasy

Finding real love, in a world of fantasy, now, how do you go about doing that???  You think that those conversations you’d held with whatever their display names are are real?  Think again, and, how could you know, for certain, that the picture that the person posted, IS her/his real self?  You don’t!

And this, is what makes it hard, trying to find real love, in a world of fantasy, and, just because the two of you shared online winnings from the games the two of you are so very into, still doesn’t mean that you two would get along, as well as you had online, off, does it?  Of course not.

After all, you’re NOT living with one another, you don’t get the firsthand experiences of how each other’s habits may drive one another NUTS, so, before the two of you actually met face-to-face, and, hold a civilized conversation, get to know one another, start dating, you will NEVER know, if the two of you are perfect for one another, but, because you’d shared this “connection” online, that, was why, you were drawn to believe, that oh, s/he and I may work well together, but, in reality, it will not be so.

And, when the reality fell SHORT of expectations, well, that, is when the troubles start, isn’t it???  Finding real love, in a world of fantasy, that, is what we hope we can do, but, can we actually, achieve that?  Of course N-O-T, but, there are still, MORE and MORE people still, who are falling into these traps all around, and, you have to wonder: WHY is that?  Is it because how empty we all feel on the inside, despite how much materialism we have around us?

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Hurting the Children More by Staying in an Abusive Marriage

Those of you who are currently, TRAPPED in a bad marriage, heed the advice!!!  A Q&A, translated…

Q: the fifty-three-year-old, married for thirty-two years, Madam A wrote…

She’d heard her mother, telling her that her father is a bad person since she was very young; and, as a teen, she’d read the romance novels, to chase her own fantasies.

She was married back in ’83, after she was wed, she’d faced with her husband’s abuse of her, she went insane, had mental breakdowns.  In 1989, her husband, in front of every member of the family, and their two sons, beaten the SHIT out of her, and yet, it’d taken her TWENTY full years, before she’d decided to SUE him, and asked for a divorce.  At first, the husband didn’t want to, later on, after her eldest son begged and pleaded, he’d finally agreed, and yet, the child had a meltdown over it.  Ever since, Madam A never dared mentioned divorce again, but, at around that time, her husband told the outside world, that she was mentally insane, causing her own family not to trust in her, other than the coworkers at her school, she has no other friends.

She’d treated the twenty-years’ worth of abuse she’d endured as fate, hoped that her husband and her could work it out for the long run, but, things didn’t go as well as she’d wished, her husband abused his rights as her spouse, whenever she didn’t comply with him, when their son was away, he’d gone to related units and, forced her into the mental hospitals.  A had mutilated herself, and wanted to leave this bad marriage, but, what about her sons?

A My Advice

I don’t really know what A meant about “gone insane, mental breakdown” was about.  But apparently, her husband’s violence toward her had caused her to break emotionally, psychologically, and physically too; and even IF she’d kept up with the façade of having a good marriage, not daring to cry in front of the kids, from when the children were little, she’d paint it over, hard, telling them, “your dad didn’t meant to beat me intentionally, dad and grandpa, grandma really do love you guys.”  But her son had melted down too, begged his father, to agree to A’s divorce, so naturally, he too, must’ve been hurt badly by their marriage.

And, just like A had said: her marriage couldn’t withstand all the storms, and now, she’d wanted to leave, she’d started to worry about her children who are already grown and married, and the child who’s about to be wed, I think, there’s something that needs to look deeper into here.

In order to save herself, A should not keep deceiving herself, AND others in this unhappy marriage, it’d only hurt her, and her two sons.  No matter her mental states, leave the violence behind, and, seek out help from a professional, to find her own health, and her peace, that, is the most important thing for her now.

A lot of mothers out there are still staying in their abusive relationships, for the sake of the kids, without knowing, that this would do MORE damage to the kids, than you, just leave, and, sometimes, it is, very difficult, to leave a man who abuse you, it takes a lot of careful planning, and, once you’d decided to do it, just do it, don’t EVER look back, because, IF you can’t keep yourself well, how can you take care of your own offspring, so, FOCUS, ladies!!!

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