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A Part of My Past, that I Just, Don’t Want to, Re-Visit…

“It’s just a part of my past that I just, don’t want to, re-visit again!”

And that was all she, wrote…

But, you can’t help but wonder, what had, happened to her when she was so young, that made her, shut away, all those, memories of old, and, being as young and innocent as you, you kept on, prodding, prodding, prodding her.

Until she had enough of you, badgering her nonstop, and finally, snapped!

what that looked like, for her…

illustration from online

And, you’d come to know, that there’s, that taboo on the past, that you are never supposed to, mention to her about, and, that taboo, it’d, tagged along, as you grow older…

A part of my past, that I just, don’t want to, revisit again, and yet, it kept on, visiting, revisiting me, when I close my eyes at night, I can’t even, ward them off (like evil???), every night as I lay myself down to sleep at night (prayed my soul the lord to keep, yada, yada, yada!), they always, come back, to haunt me.

A part of my past, that I just, don’t’ want to, revisit again, and, despite how I wanted to, leave those memories behind, they can’t stay suppressed forever, even as I’d, worked too hard, casting them out of my mind during the day, there’s no way, of warding them off at night, as they manifest themselves, and became those horrible things that frightened me in my dreams………

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You Can be in D-E-N-I-A-L

You can be in denial, but I’m, already, OUT!

You can be in denial, of the, FUCKED up (‘cuz it was!!!) SHIT that’s happened to you as a child, oh so, god damn, helpless, so young, so easily, hurt…

You can be in denial, because that’s the only thing that helps you survive through your helpless years as a young child, because you can’t live without your parents, and they’d been, nothing BUT mean to you.

You can be in denial, oh wait, you still are, to this, very day, and you’re still, not “grown up” enough yet, for you got, stuck, forever, in that mindset of that young boy who got, brutalized by your own fucking, abusive/neglectful parents (boo-hoo-hoo, your parents, they NEVER loved you, so what???).

the three chimps…photo from online

You can be in denial, that’s, your choice, but that don’t mean, that I gotta, put up with your shits.  I too, was, hurt a lot as a child like you were, and yet, look how I’d, turned out?  And, based off of the nature v. nurture argument, my nature won out my nurture, while you’re nurture had, ruined you!

So yeah, keep on, being in, denial, I’m, already, out, “honey” (that was still???  Oh yeah, SARCASM!)

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Find Her Self, Passed Out, in the, Bathrooms…

She came to find her self, passed out, in the, bathrooms, with the mascara, running off from her face.  She’d cried too hard, as he’d, broken it off with her, and she couldn’t, understand W-H-Y, it’d, ended, I mean, they were, so perfect together…

Find her self, passed out, in the, bathrooms, with her dress torn off, like she’d been, raped or something, and she tried to remember what’d happened to her before, and just, couldn’t, so she stayed, afloat in midair, until the paramedics came, and, took her, to the E.R.

how she’d found her, self…

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photo found online

Find her self, passed out, in the, bathrooms, and, she’s, drawing that huge BLANK, of the moments, leading her, to finding her self, passed out, in the, bathrooms, what had, happened, huh?  She kept asking, wondering, but her mind draws that huge, blank.

Find her self, passed out, in the, bathrooms, with her dress, torn, and her body felt the pains.  And, everything started, coming back again…………

Find her self, passed out, in the, bathrooms, and, that was that, everything else was, a total blur, as they’d, stuck that tube down her throat, she could hear that, loud and, noisy, beeping sound, and people scattering to and from, but, nothing else, not, anymore.

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What’s the BEST Way, to Let Someone Know, that S/he is, Making You, Uncomfortable???

And I still have to apologize, for being, a bit, BLUNT, ‘cuz sometimes, that’s, the ONLY way to GET the point across, for those who just don’t get it, hello, hello, hello???

What’s the BEST way, to let someone know, that s/he is, making you uncomfortable???  Surely, you can, throw them stupid signals around, hoping that s/he picks up on it, but, chances are, the person is way too mother @#$%ING (maxed out!) retarded to pick that up!

But, I can’t, just say to the guy/woman: hey YO!  BACK OFF!  Can I?  That’s just not, socially, “Acceptable” is it?  Nope!

And yet, there’s, NO easy way, but to just, bluntly, state it ALOUD sometimes, so, stop worrying about how you will make the other person feel (I mean, WHO cares!  And, isn’t how YOU feel more important than how the other person feels???)

That’s, just one of the harder things of being human, I suppose, for SOME of you out there, but not for the QUEEN for, the QUEEN, still SPEAKS her M-I-N-D here, out loud too!!!

Just like Murphy had done, I’d, TELL someone, STRAIGHT up, if s/he is, making ME, uncomfortable, and you should too, otherwise, there will, be those who are out, to take advantage, and by then, you got, NOBODY else to blame, ‘cuz, you’d, ENABLED, the other person’s, improper behaviors…

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Obstruction of Spousal Rights: the Harder the Individual Cheated, the More the Person’s Made to Pay in Civil Court

That ought to, TEACH you, mother FUCKING cheats, to BEHAVE your selves out there all right!  HARSHER punishment for infidelity here, protecting the rights of your spouses!!!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Last year, as the decriminalization of adultery was, signed into law, the payments in the civil courts suits became, the LAST line of defense for protecting spousal rights.  Recently, there was the famous married sports figure having been found with an unknown male out, and the rented stay of a member of the city representatives, the legal realms pointed out, that although there’s NO solid proof of adultery, but the behaviors had, breached the “rights of the spouses”  And, sorting through the related verdicts of the courts for the past two years, the more severe these breaches in spousal rights were, the amounts are higher, from thousands of dollars to millions of dollars.

In the past, on the matter of the couple’s handling cheating, because there’s a more severe mandate for what constitutes as “adultery”, so long as there are no solid evidence to prove that sexual intercourse took place, it would be, quite, difficult, for the charges of adultery to stick; as the decriminalization of adultery signed into law, the adulterers won’t get charged criminally, but, because of the civil laws protected the citizens, there are the clauses of the law, the party who was cheated on can seek out payment from the civil front.

The attorney, Wang stated, that the definition of “spousal rights” legally meant the rights protected by the law based off of ethics, of family; once one of the spouses crossed that line, then, the other party can sue the cheating party on the civil front for payment.

Based off of the verdict inquiry systems of the courts, in recent years, there was a wife who’d found her husband, flirting on LINE, his got sued, and the courts made him pay $70,000N.T.s; the wife found to have hugged and kissed a male coworker, the husband received the payments of $160,000N.T.s; the wife found the husband to have sexually illicit texts on LINE, with the photos, paid $200,000N.T.s; the husband cheated on the wife with a female employee for seven years, had twins with the female employees, the wife was paid over millions of dollars.

And this, is only, on the legal fronts, how about, the EMOTIONAL distress, the betrayals of the one getting cheated on, NO amount is, going to EVER, make UP for that, because the damage’s done already, and, there’s, just NO way that anybody, can help you make up for that, NOT even if this brand new “amendment” that enforces HARSHER punishments for the CHEATING parties, so this is just, a bullshitting law that THINKS that it can, protect spousal rights, but it can’t, not really!

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Because There’s a HIGH Chance You May Lose to Her, You Call Her “Crazy”

Uh, yeah, that’s the way, to play it all right, trash-talking YOUR opponent in the race, and that still just showed how LOW you are in life!

Because there’s a HIGH chance you may lose to her, you call her “crazy”, and because you always got your ways, by throwing your, temper tantrums like a god damn @#$%ING two-year-old who don’t know better, you think you can somehow, sway the masses, to not vote for your opponent in the race, is that it?

the face-off in 2020! Photo from Yahoo!

The WAR of S-P-I-T-S had begun, I suppose, as all the candidates, ready themselves, to battle it out at war, and, with the “inventions” of Tweeter, FB, LINE, etc., etc., etc., making it even harder, to run a CLEAN race………

Because there’s a HIGH chance you may lose to her, as election time draws nearer, and nearer, and nearer, you’re, feeling, a bit, more stressed than usual, so, you SHOOT of your mouths.  And guess W-H-O will, eventually, DROWN in your spits? 

Yeah, it’s Y-O-U!

This is only one human being’s opinions on things, it’s NOT directed toward anyone out there, but if you think this is about you, well, I can’t help you there, okay???  Yeah, uh-huh, uh-huh, and, where the HELL are those TWO-CENTS?

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What is Taken Away from Your Education?

Lessons we learned, from school, from our own, experiences in life, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Recently I’d made the speeches at the schools, as the speech ended, a parent led two children to before me.  “Professor, I was your student, do you still remember me?”  This was every instructor’s nightmare, I’d, worked really hard, to think back on all the students, and just, couldn’t, recall her name; but I’d still smiled and told her, “let me think!”, as she’d heard me say this, her smile did not fade, she’s not, disappointed one bit, but her second-grade daughter looked up at her innocently, “Mom, your teacher can’t remember you!”

I felt very awkward after hearing, before I could reply, she’d immediately told her child, “Do you know how many students the professor’s had?  How can she remember every one, but, so long as I remember her!”, then, she’d, started speaking of her middle school careers, that with the problems she’d, faced in life then, how I’d, given her the advices she’d needed, “because you’d, counseled me, teacher, so I will, never forget you, as I saw the flyer on the seminar, I was so excited to come, to thank you.” as she’d told me, I still, can’t quite, remember her, but, I’d felt, very touched by her words.

The following day, a student used the communication app to contact me, this particular student had been, hurt by a certain teacher, he’d come back to me to tell me about what happened, to seek out my counsel, it took me sometime, but I’d, accompanied him, helped him out; back then, I’d, encouraged him: you need to turn what happened to you, into your driving force, if there’s a chance, you must, help those who’d been hurt like you had.  Back then he’d told me, that he will, work hard, to become a teacher who can, help his students.  In his final year of high school, he wrote me that with his grades, there was, NO chance he will ever be a school teacher, so, he was, willing, to become, a serviceman, to fight to protect the country.

And now, many years afterwards, he’d, shared with me everything he’d weathered through in the armed services, and he’d, mentioned what happened to him again back in middle school, and stressed to me, that even though he wasn’t, highly ranked, he will use his past as a teacher, to NEVER make the mistakes his middle school instructor had made.

After I’d read, although I’d felt glad, but, I couldn’t help but feel: that the first woman told me, “so long as I remember you!”.  It symbolized, I don’t’ need your affirmations from your memories, but I will remember, that was, the demands that one made of, one’s own, characters, to never forget to be, thankful.  While the second student, couldn’t forget about the shame, but he’d not, selected, to take revenge, instead, he’d, turned his shame into something he could, learn from, to remind himself, to NEVER shame another like he’d been, shamed.  Think on his, how many people we will meet, how many things we can, encounter, in our, lifetimes!

Who remembered us, it isn’t, that important, what’s important is who we remembered?  Well, it’s, not that important either, the important being WHY we remember who or what we remember?  Those that happened, those whom we remembered, what were their, influenced on us?  From these two students, I saw the choices of attitude, how they’d, chosen to make themselves feel happy, how by choosing to forgive, it’d, given him peace, to use the past as a mirror to reflect, to have a life without regrets, what, will you, choose?

And so, this, is something worth pondering on, what, do you remember when you graduated?  I’m sure, that it’s not the course load, the books, the materials, or even what you’d made on your exams, it’s the experience of learning, of accumulating the knowledge, of the lessons that life teaches us that we will, carry with us from here on out.

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Staying TRUE, to, a WHORING M-A-N

I still gotta say, this is, still NOT directed toward anyone who can R-E-A-D, as for those of you who’d, stumbled onto this site of mine, and can’t READ, well, you got NO business being here, so, get the HELL out!!!

What AM I???  A @#$%ING (maxed out!) R-E-T-A-R-D???

And, why on God’s “green earth” (oh wait, god does NOT have sole-proprietorship over ANY of us, here on E-A-R-T-H!) would I do something so stupid like that, huh?  Besides, you were the ones who couldn’t keep your god damn, @#$%ING (maxed out!) DICKS in check, so, what RIGHT have you, to tell me that I’m not keeping my you-know-where intact?

The primary reason W-H-Y a lot of women are currently STUCK in this, predicament (you can call it that if you want to!) is because they are, too dumb, and too, BLONDE (the dumb-blonde BIMBOS???), to unable to see, how staying STUCK, should be, their, last resort, and they still, don’t get themselves out, why is that, is absolutely, beyond ME!

Staying true, to, a WHORING M-A-N, that may be our, only option, IF we live in the, 18th, 19th, 20th centuries, but we are, in the 21st CENTURY here (hello, hello, hello, is this thing~~the P.A, even on???), because we are, without a viable skill, to make a living on our own, therefore, in the olden days, we relied on our losers has-beens, to keep us, and seeing how they are all, the bread winners of the house, they can, WHORE around all the want to but that’s, back then, and this, is N-O-W!

Staying true, to, a WHORING M-A-N, is something I will NEVER do, in fact, like all you losers out there that EXTRA “appendage” “down there”, I too, prefer, VIRGIN males too, okay, and yes, I will have my two “virgin males” NEUTERED, and I am going to get the two of them both, HOUSEBROKEN, and, they will be, “camping” their butts, on my bed, next to me, giving that they don’t crawl onto my pillow, to find that soft spot (like Murphy’d done???)…and we’ll all get along, just fine, and dandy here…

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Why is it Important We Figure Out Where the Virus Came From???

Oh, I know, so these, unjustified, untested “proofs” of statements can finally be, valid.

Why is it important that we figure out where the virus came from???  It’s already been, “released”, and it’s, causing a whole lot more damage that we can contain, and, isn’t it more important, that we quickly, develop a working treatment, so nobody else, suffered?

Why is it important, that we figure out where the virus came from???  It’s already been, “released” in the world, and, causing, major damages here, there’d been rumors, that it came out of a laboratory setting from before, but this latest showed, that it’s, naturally, forming, and, we’re, unsettled on, which one to believe, and as we try to decide which version of the truth is, actually true, many more are, contaminated by it.

So, should it NOT be important, to start developing a working cure for it, I mean, it’s not like, we can, put that, genie, BACK in the bottle, now that the bottle’s been, cracked, wide open, is it?  No.

So why are the leaders of this, “free world”, still trying to, figure OUT exactly, where this virus came from?  I can’t think of a reason, other than, because we ALL need, someone to BLAME for what’s currently, happening…

But as I’d stated before, this is still just, ONE woman’s opinions, on “stuff”…

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I Need You…

I need you, I’m desperate here, won’t you, help me out, come, to my aid, rescue me???

I need you, uh, that’s, nice, but, I don’t, have any need, for anything (instead of anyone, ‘cuz of the “downgrade”???) like you, and beside, nobody was EVER there for me when I needed someone to help me out, so, why the !@#$ (maxed out???) do I need to, be there for you right now, huh?

not an order like this…查看來源圖片image from online

I need you, but I sure as hell don’t, the only one I’ll ever need, is me, and I got me all right!!!  I need you, why?  ‘Cuz, you’re, supposed to, love me, for rich or for poor, in sickness & in health, ‘til death!  And, you can’t, break that promise you’d made to me!!!  Why not?  ‘Cuz you say so???  That’s NOT REASON enough, not for me!!!

So, this ends in then?  Let’s not have this god DAMN !@#$ING (maxed out???) discussion EVER again.

but more like, this, I suppose…查看來源圖片image from online

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