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A Social Design for Miscarriages

This forum, is tailoring to the needs of both men AND women, not just the women, because, having children, is still NOT just, OUR, “business”, you men are also, involved in this process too!  A really, innovative thought, especially in the, eastern cultures here…translated…

During these past two years, I’d, focused my researches on the matter of the natural miscarriage process in Taiwan (based off of statistical measures, there are, about fifteen-to-twenty-percent natural miscarriages calculated by the process of natural selection), not only on the medical data that’s been, collected, also the cultural, the societal too, I’d also included the interviews with the families who had suffered the miscarriages, but, how do we, open up the covered up discussion topics of miscarriage by natural causes that’s been, tabooed?  Are there ways, to come up with the new ideas, for the families who’d suffered such a loss, it’s what I want to, focus more on, to help give to the policies of births set up by the law.

Luckily, the sociology professor from N.T.U. Sociology Department who’s excellent on the subject of “Social Designs”, gave us an exchange forum on “Reimagining, the Process of Miscarriages by Natural Causes: the Social Designs Exchange”, the exchange was, on the makeup of the participants in the discussion forums, with the sponsor’s inviting the Revolutionary Birthing Movement’s asking for the students, the OBGYNs, the nurses, and others who had miscarriage by natural causes, a total of, forty individuals, to share their experiences.

The subject of discussion is also important, in the structuring of the questions, we need to consider, that those who’d had miscarriages, how it’d, affected those other members of their, families, how the families coped with the process of the women, miscarrying?  Lastly, to up the sensitivity of the medical, to prevent yet another, impact onto these women.

All of these subjects, were from my past experiences with the interviewing, and although, we can, only hold the conference online, due to the outbreaks, the participants weren’t able to hold the face-to-face interaction discussion forums, but, Yu-Hwa designed the group interactions online, and everybody entered into a game of sorts, in the leading of the story of miscarriage, we’d all, quickly, gotten into the situations, and, the process is, brain-wrecking, and very fast-paced, everybody started, brainstorming all the ideas, and we’d, come up, with a ton of amazing ideas.

For instance, someone suggested that we should have this “P.O. Box” like the T.V. personnel started up, encouraging those who had gone through the miscarriages personally, or are with those around them who’d had the miscarriages, to share their thoughts and feelings.  And, all of these letters can be collected, to host an exhibition with, as a memorial for a stage of life in one’s life.

And, there’s, also, another brand new concept that’s, quite, innovative, the “miscarriage vacations”!  There are the honeymoon vacations, family trips, trips of friends, and we can also, call on the hotel chains, the tourist agencies, to give the discounts to couples who’d had miscarriages, so they don’t need to spend too much money, and can, get away, from their current states of minds and beings temporarily, to go out.  This isn’t to celebrate anything, but to give the mind, the heart, time to breathe, through the travels, to saturate oneself, to offer one another the needed supports.

Someone came up with the “diary exchange of families”, for the couple to write, to improve their communication, to express what they don’t feel able to express to one another, verbally in written form.

Some mentioned how we can, restructure the “fetus”, designing a way, for the elders to understand, and to, accept to reinstate the beliefs, the knowledge of natural miscarriages, so others around the families can have more understanding, more knowledge on the matter of miscarriages by natural causes.

In the past, the male voice is often, overlook in this matter, but, on this exchange forum, we hoped, to have the alternative perspectives from the men.  Some suggested using the technologies of A.I., to develop a sort of a Siri software, to help the men, accompany their partners in the process of their, miscarriages, to provide the males with more resources, more support, in a, more friendly manner.

I’m really hoping, that the outbreaks can end, so this sort of a forum can take place physically, so more people will be enlightened by this, social design, to find new and innovative responses, come up with more possibilities, for those who’d, gone through, the miscarriages.

And so, this is, a seemingly only women-related subject, but, this forum also, considered the men, which is, probably, something that’s new, because in the past, we all believe, that carrying children is a woman’s business, that the males only needed to donate a sperm, and he’s, done, but this forum considered that men are also, going through loss, when their wives miscarriages, it’s just, that we don’t, experience these losses, in the exact, same way!

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You GET, EXACTLY, W-H-A-T You, PAY for…

This would be, the MOST important lesson you will EVER learn, in your lives, and, nothing comes, CHEAP these days!

You get, EXACTLY, W-H-A-Y you, PAY for, because, when you slash the costs, you’re also, slashing the services (or, are you still deluded there???).  You get, EXACTLY, W-H-A-T you, PAY for, as the costs of something heads up, so would the services you get (or so you would, like to believe!), and generally, this is, true, however, there are, cases that are, totally, against this belief, so, don’t take this, as a “sure thing”…

You GET, EXACTLY, W-H-A-T you, PAY for, nothing comes cheap these days, there’s, always, that FINEPRINT on whatever it is you’re, signing, and because those “prints” are, so fine, you’re more than prone to, overlook what’s on there, and that’s, how you get, SCREWED over!

But, just hold on, to this thought…every cent, for every amount of, services you want to get, there’s NO such thing as, high-quality things that comes, at low costs, maybe save for, these “children” I’m currently, “reproducing” on here.

Oh and by the way, I’m now charging, each and every one of my readers, FOUR “shinny pennies”, instead of the TWO previously, okay?  Yeah, ‘cuz the prices of everything’s hiking up, so are these, “children” that I’m, currently, “giving BIRTHS” to here.

So, pay up, your FOUR C-E-N-T-S for this one, just “deposit” your shiny pennies, in the “collection plate” two on your ways in, two on your ways out, or you can, pay for the FOUR cents up front, or when you, “exit”………………

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To a DEADBEAT, on Father’s Day…

Seeing how it’s, Father’s Day in the U.S. of A. today, here goes…

To a DEADBEAT, on Father’s Day:

You were NEVER there when I was growing up, and now you expect what, a Father’s Day card each and every year?  You have GOT to be, shitting me here!  Why the @#$%(maxed out) should I give a SHIT about you, huh?  Just because you “kindly donated” that mother @#$%ING (holding back on swearing here!) TADPOLE, to “make” me, that made you, my father, is that it?

To a DEADBEAT, on Father’s Day, do NOT expect a thank-you card, a huge cake from your children to, celebrate you, you MOTHER #$%@ER (so???), ‘cuz there wouldn’t be none (and your point being???).

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the man who’d CHEATED on his own wife, walked out on his own children, does NOT deserve the “title” of a “father” here! Photo from online

Now that we’re, all grown up, we got NO need for you to hang around, as you’d never given a FLYING FUCK (yeah, so, I’m swearing again here!) about your own children, so what right have you, to ask us, created from your fucking tadpoles, to give a flying @#$% about you, huh?

So here’s to you, my DEADBEAT father on Father’s Day, and you still can’t blame me, for being, an INGRATE that I became, and it’s all because of you, that I’d become, a total, INGRATE, so yeah, thanks for that, you MOTHER @#$%ER (maxed out here???)…

And then, all fall silent, you can hear those, tear drops, hit the hard concrete…………

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How to Tell When a Fish is Going on a Trip?

A few words of exchange between a father and a son, how a father gets, stumped by his own son’s, question, translated…

Summer: When we humans take trips, we take a backpack, that’s how we know we’re, going off.  When the fishes go on their trips, they only take with them their bodies, then, how would we know, that they’re, off then?

Me: how to tell, when the fishes are, going on their, trips…………

On that evening, the moments before I fell asleep, Summer rushed out of his bedroom, and asked me this question of “how to tell when the fish go on their trips.”  Back then, I was, stumped, couldn’t know how to reply.  He’d started, snickering, told me, “my question is, too hard for you, huh?”

We’d often, thought up of a ton of questions that we can’t answer for one another, that was, the game that Summer and I had, shared, during that period of time.

For instance, I’d, held a straight face, and asked him at age six, do you know who Kafka was?  As he’d looked at me confused, then, fallen into that state of, upset, I’d told him, with that cunning manner, it’s a difficult one I’d given you, huh!  And thus, began, the game of two, of us, father and son, and, we’d, given one another, a hard time too.  And afterwards, Summer started, asking me the questions, to attempt to, faze me.  For instance, he’d asked, why do the Herculean Beetle fly to our house?  I’d replied, the Herculean Beetles are nocturnal, because of the light in our living room, that’s why they’d, flown to the balcony.  He’d caught a humongous stick insect once, prodded me, why did the bug sway around when there’s, no wind to make it unsteady?  I’d immediately answered him, that it was pretending to be a twig swaying in the wind, to duck out from its predators, so it won’t get, eaten.

a child like this, with so many questions about the world…

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Every answer I gave, I’d, taken that tone of pride in my voice, so he couldn’t, question me.  Sometimes, my answers weren’t, precise enough, nor evaluated against the facts, no other reasons, but because I’m a father with the stronger pride.  As I’d slowly discovered, that Summer was coming up with more and more question that became, too abstract, and I’d started, stuttering then, and, given off hints, that I’d not known how to answer him.  Not long thereafter, Summer busted the bad quality of this game—when the questions are too ambiguous, or if they are the questions without the correct answers, then, he’d gotten the chance of, defeating me, and score for him, and, captured back that dignity of a son that he’d not owned originally.

Thinking back, these are, probably, the what-not-to-dos in parenting, forcing my own son to bust my own lacking in “field research” and just googled for the answers on the search engines, my own, laziness.

As the questions of “how to tell when a fish is off on its journey” surfaced, seeing how Summer was laughing secretively, I’d know, that I got, checked!  That this game was, totally, over for me!  And then, there would be, two, three years that follows, which I will be, answering to my bullshitting him, this was also, that biggest, boomerang that he, as a son, can thrown back at me, his father—daddy, can you prove what you’d just answered me?

It’s just, how, how do I tell, when a fish is, off on its, journey?  This difficult problem, should be researched, a someone with a doctoral degree, isn’t it?

In the era when YouTube is used to explain just about everything, trying to find a question that can, faze my son—this surely, isn’t a Q&A game that a father can fake his understanding of things, to fool his own young.

Broadcast Yourself?  That’s it, the game of father and son, it’s, merely, a father, playing, against, his own, self, to make himself feel more important.  It’s just, that now, my son only needed to, wiggle his fingers, and, he could quickly discover, that his father’s questions for him are all, questionable.  And I can only, sigh, that the challenges that the YouTube era gave to us, fathers, truly is, difficult.  On the thought, you, as a father, it doesn’t matter if you have a doctoral degree, or if you actually have a fish, we still can’t tell, precisely, if the fishes are, already, taking their, trips away.  For the children who had yet to grow up, they’d understand to communicate and understand the fish in the tanks, along with being best pals with your, fish.  This, we will, never, catch up to them.

And so, it’s not that hard, to tell, “when a fish is off on its, journey”, I only have one possible answer for now, I’ll ask the tea stewed egg a bit, maybe, I will, get an answer immediately.  Yep, my question isn’t, that easily, answered, huh?

P.S., Tea Stewed Egg is a cat owned by a friend.

And so, there comes a time in our lives, when our young come up with extraordinary questions, not to test us, not to beat us at our own games, but only to show, that they’re, growing cognitively by the day, and, in these moments we get, stumped, we will surely feel, embarrassed, because, mommy and/or daddy no longer have ALL the answers!  How’d that happen, huh?  Because the kids are, smarter by the generations here still…

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The Price the Country Paid, in the Name of Fighting Off the Spread of MERS-CoV to Go Against China

The Taiwanese government had, SET itself up, and now, it can’t, find its, way out, and guess W-H-O, ends up, paying for it the most???  It’s the PEOPLE!!!  Commentary off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The famous line from “Infernal Affairs”: “You will, pay back what you owed in the mob” as the DDP started doing ALL the bad things, they should take these words, to heart.  But, whenever the subject of China surfaced, it’d, forgotten.  As the outbreaks occurred in Wuhan last year, Taiwan kept kicking China as China went down, and now, it’s our time, to pay up that debt: our ally, Honduras used the excuse of buying the vaccines from China, wanted to set up a diplomacy office there.  For this, the alarms in our allies started, ringing like crazy!

The human hearts are made of flesh.  These few days, was the anniversary of the earthquake in Sichuan, back then, the Taiwanese donated the resources, the Sichuan locals were, more than, grateful.  But as Wuhan closed down last year, Taiwan had, even, disallowed the mailing of the masks over, and the government ranted on how China had, covered up the first cases of the outbreaks, laughed at how the vaccines developed in China don’t work.  How can China not feel cold?

And, it’d only been, no more than a dozen years, Taiwan’s behaviors were, completely, opposite.  If it’d happened again, the keyboards were in the mode of the earthquakes in Sichuan, and Taiwan called out, “Go Wuhan!”, do you think the Chinese battleships would, survey the straits daily?

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what’s not, going to be, available to the people here! Photo from online

Other than trying to block the spread of the epidemic, the ultimate solution is the vaccines.  But, after the Anti-Chinese acts occurred, our government simply, couldn’t get our hands on the vaccines; and now, the larger scales of infections are happening in the communities, Chen told the local governments to get the vaccines themselves, and he was called out on “not telling us earlier”!  but, if Taiwan didn’t fight China openly, and lost the deal with Pfizer, would we get to, where we, currently, are?

The world slowly discovered, as Europe and America had, monopolized on all the vaccines, the vaccines produced in China are, our only hope.  And, who could’ve imagined, that last year, our governments going against China using the outbreak as an excuse, was pushing our allies toward China?  If the two sides became milder with one another, Taiwan can use the vaccines from China, as a peace offering, and why would we need to worry that they would, go against us!  As the outbreaks are getting worse, the Tsai government should, STOP treating China as the evil, wake your brains up already!

And so, this is still how the government puts its own agenda, before the sakes of its people, because vaccines are in shortages, and, if the western world, U.S., Canada, Europe are already, fighting OVER the vaccines from Pfizer, Johnson & Johnson, etc., etc., etc., there’s, NO chance that there would be, ANY extras left over for us, and, our best bet is now, vaccines from China, and yet, the government was, way too, SHORT-SIGHTED, only had the politics as its agenda, and thus, screwing us all here!

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A Collision of Constitutional Rights & Constitutional Values

Shall we, flip for it???  Commentaries off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The natives who were caught, hunting the animals were sentenced, and they’d, filed for an amendment, and it’d, sparked up this war between the rights of the natives and the protection of wildlife.  Although the Grand Justice ruled on the number 803 explanation, but from the disappointments of the natives, it’s still not, resolved, perfectly.

The key points of this particular explanation of the constitution lies in the although it’s legal for the natives to use their homemade guns to shoot the animals on the reserves, but, it’s still not enough rights for the natives; other than their culture, the natives used the hunted animals as offerings as well as sharing the catches with their own next-of-kin, but, the hunting of the endangered species is still, illegal.

In this war of hunting culture versus environmentalism protection, the natives believed that there wasn’t any, conflicts of the two, but the culture preservation and the identifying with one’ own people, that’s irreplaceable by the animal protections; while the grand justice stressed that we must, weigh both sides equally, but the natives’ hunting the animals are for their own, consumptions not for any other purposes, and it would still, cause an impact on the wildlife, especially the endangered species here.

natives hunting the turtles…

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It’s not hard to understand the natives’ upset over the ruling, but the meaning of the Grand Justice’s explanation is worth thought too: the justice stated, “the constitution guarantees that the…the natives shall have their rights to hunt as a part of their culture.”, which showed the importance of the laws’ believing the traditions, the cultures of the native people, but at the same time, it’d stated, that the protection of wildlife is, also, a vital value of the constitution.  And, as two laws collide, then, there may not be, the one-hundred-percent, guarantees to be, offered to the sides.

The rights of the natives and the animal protections, should NOT only have the oppositional sides to them.  In actuality, a lot of the foods at the mountain local food shops fitted to, the laws of “self-use” restrictions.  If we can, help more natives understand, that the hunters can be turned into, the protectors of wildlife, then this will, make the forest, the mountains, more beautiful than ever in Taiwan.

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illegal, to hunt these animals that are, protected species by the country…photo from online

And so, when culture and wildlife protection collide, which side do we take?  And, can we, keep both sides happy?  Like in the whaling of the Japanese on the seas, they’d hunted just about all the fishes and whales, because they’re, a people, whose primary diets are, fish, and yet, when they go off to the open waters, not their own territories, to hunt, then, there IS, a problem, and, this is similar to this, but, maybe, the government can place limits on the sizes of the wildlife, and, teaching the natives about the conservation of species, to get the people on board, to help out, that way, both sides, win.

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Learning Music After Retirement, & Having Fun Doing it

The importance of how learning is an ongoing process, the need for a hobby to be established after retirement age, translated…

As children grow up, my mother in her sixties decided to pick up on her dreams when she was younger: taking up the music lessons.  She’d not just signed up for the electric piano classes at the community center, she’d, disregarded my father’s objections, signed HIM up for the sax lessons.  Seeing how the two bought their instruments, and as time for the classes came, they’d, rushed out, packed the big and small packs to take along, and naturally, as children, we are, most, supportive of them.

Then ever since as I’d come back home on the weekends or holidays, I’d, heard music, “floating in the air”—for the players of recorder in the music classes, I’m sure, that we can all agree, that the sound that came out as beginners played, isn’t musical.  As the cat heard the music started, sounding off, it’d, scattered away, quick, with that look of, “What did I do to deserve this” on its face.  But, my father has a serious nature, and on occasions, he’d complained about how my mother “made” him go to class, but he’d still, picked up the sax every day and, started from the basics of blowing air between the reeds, making the sounds, and, playing the simple notes, and each practice session runs for over two hours at a time.  To not bug the neighbors, my father would hide inside the bathrooms, shut the doors and the windows as he’d practiced inside the loo.

And my mother, who’d, started all of this, wouldn’t be beaten by my father, she’d taken the piano for several months, and, at her instructors recommendations, she’d started playing the flute.  The sax and the flutes are both woodwind instruments, but, the sax sounded fuller, while the flute sounded, like floating in the air, the two instruments go on and off inside the house, and it’d, made the listeners, uneasy, but the cat didn’t mind, as my mother sat herself down to play, it’d hopped onto my mother’s knees, and, lay down, sometimes, the cat would, stare, deep into my mother’s eyes, like he was enjoying this sound that’s, at the same frequency of his, meowing.

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As my mother got into playing, she’d, poured her heart and soul into it, and she’d, complained to us on how she’d, hit a fork in her practice sessions.  Until one day, she’d shared with me excitedly, that her high school instructor started playing the flute when she was seventy, and, she’d continued playing, and she’s having a decade recital soon, that she will, follow her teacher’s, lead too, she’d found herself a private lesson instructor, from the pop music, she’d, advanced to the classical.  The teacher was demanding of the aperture, and I’d seen my mother focusing on sticking her tongue out, with her mouth open.

And, after awhile, the cacophony became, less and less, I can already, sit quite, settled in, in the living room, as my mother played the flute, sometimes, I’d, closed my eyes, and imagined the poetic verses as I listened to her play.  While my father favorite tune, “Amazing Grace” started with amazing, and now, there’s, the grace “factor” that’s, included in too.  Being an avid learner, he’d not only satisfied in reading the simplified sheet music, he’d even started, picking up my old sheet music, and learned to read the notes off the staff.

As our family gathered for the New Year’s this year the two of them put on a show, and, gotten a full applause from all around the room.  I can’t help but feel in awe, no matter how old you are when you started pursuing your dreams, it’s never too late.  Your lives are, fulfilled, you can find friends who shared the same interests, and it helps activate your mind, to slow down the process of aging, and it gives you that sense of achievement too.  My mother also testified, that picking up the piano was a breakthrough for her, that was the very first time she’d ever, chosen to take the lessons seriously, and knew, that she could, do it!  As we were growing up, being forced to sit at the piano to play was torture for us, but, as my parents got older, started picking up on the instruments, they’d not only, entertained themselves, but us too!

And so, this, is the right attitude that we should all carry, when we pick up on something, like these two older adults, and, maybe it’s because of their mindsets being, more matured, nobody’s pushing them to learn the musical instruments, they’d picked it up on their own, that was why they’re, able to, play it with so much joy.

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The Courage, to Face up to Being Bullied

How the adults’ attitudes are what helped this girl, dealt effectively, with the bullies that picked on her in school, the importance, of providing a safe environment that a child feels comfort enough, to tell the adults, translated…

In the meetings, my phone vibrated a couple of times, I saw, using my peripheral vision, that it was from my daughter’s school teacher, with an unsettled heart, I’d found me an excuse, rushed off to the restrooms, clicked open the screen, the photo of my daughter’s glasses being, damaged popped up, in the message, her teacher told, that the two boys from the next classroom thought that my daughter was, horseplaying with them, pinned her to the ground, and scratched her glasses.  I was glad that my daughter wasn’t, physically, injured, but I’d, questioned the teacher’s description of the events, I’d thanked her notifying me first, as for how we’re to, handle the matter, I shall wait until I get off work, and go home to my daughter to discuss with her on it.

like this???

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taking the smaller child’s lunch money! Photo from online

And yet, my daughter’s telling me of what had happened, thrilled me!  She said she was playing in the track field, the two boys came up to her, without any warnings, they’d, pinned down her shoulders, and, as she tried to break away from them, they’d, pushed her face to the pavement together, and they’d not mentioned that they wanted to play with her from the start, they’re not even her friends, one only took the afterschool help classes with her, the other, a complete, stranger.

From what my daughter had, described, I saw NO signs of friendly interactions, nor was this, some, careless, mistake, this is, a conscious, banding together, picking one someone lesser sort of, bullying someone for the kicks of it.  I was really angry and upset now, my emotions went up and down, she is only, in the first grade of the elementary years!  Then?  I’d asked my daughter if she were hurt, and did she cry?  Was she angry, was she, afraid?

She’d shook her head steadily, she said, that although she couldn’t, beat those two boys, but she’d, remembered their appearances, and, as she returned back to class, she’d, checked to see if her glasses are all right.  I patted her head, felt that she was, brave, and smart, and am, deeply, proud of her. I’m glad, that this incident didn’t cause any bad things to stay with her in life, but I’d, felt, deeply—maybe, I wouldn’t want to, believe, that children that young are with, malice, or maybe, I’m, affected by the eastern values of, the desires of, keeping the peace, how many incidents of bullying, actually, got misinterpreted as, horseplay?  Because of a naughty temperament, because of lacking of awareness and not knowing better, because of some, misunderstanding, because of, not being, careful, enough…………we’d, given an assortments of getting off easy for the bullies, like how in Harry Potter, all the characters, dodged the topic, the name of, Voldemort, they’d, dodged the word, “bullies” and “bullying” too.  Not realizing, that the unwillingness, to face up, to what’s happening, bullying, it’s harder, to resolve the incidents of, bullying.

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how the child feels isolated and alone being bullied…

As I’d discussed the matter with my daughter, she’d, decided, to forgive the two classmate who’d, picked on her, and I’d, supported her decision.  I’d thanked her teacher, for making her feel safe and secure, for her, to go straight to her, as the incident was, occurring.  And I’m too grateful for her teacher for believing in my daughter, for being, supportive of her, to protect her.  But what I’d, hoped more is, from the school and the family angles, we can all, get the courage to, face up to the bullies, because, only when we’re, willing to face up to the events, then, we will be able to, sort through it, bit by bit, and let it go.

And so, this, is the importance of the attitudes of the adults, when cases of bullying is occurring in a child’s life, the daughter of the writer is being bullied by the boys, and, she’d, told her teacher, and her teacher had, been there, supporting the girl, giving her that safe place to go to, and the child was, intelligent enough, to note the boys’ names, and told the teacher afterwards.

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Being a “Mom” is Work Too

A-M-E-N, to that, on how the “job” of a mom is, taken for granted, too often in the world today, translated…

What full-time mothers hated hearing is, “You don’t work, do you?”, everybody knows it too, that the job description of “mom” is, multifaceted, numerous tasks, long work hours; and on Mother’s Day, everybody wanted to say, “Mom, you’d, worked, too hard!”, but mostly, people believed, that “mom” is, nothing, more than a role, not a job.

My neighbor’s seven-year-old daughter came over to play, asked me, “Aunty, what’s your job?”, I’d replied, “my job is mom”.  She’d stated, “That’s not a job!”, then I’d, asked her, “Why isn’t it?  I’d done some many things during a day!”, she’d, insisted, “but you don’t make any money, my mom works, and made so much money!  She’s working overtime today!”

Yeah, if I worked as a nanny, in the schools, or the afternoon programs to teach the students, cooked the foods at restaurants, driving a cab to take clients to and from, to the employers’ homes to clean their houses, I would, totally, earn a wage, even, the bonuses, the raises around the holidays, the breaks the days off, and the worker’s insurances too.  But, in my own home, I’d done, just that, no money to be earned, no days off, and I’d often needed, the overtime hours too.  As my child fell ill, I’d needed to stay by his side watch over him day and night; if I caught what my child had, or maybe, I fell ill, or felt tired, I can’t have a day off, nobody’s there, to look after me.  Once I’d stayed with my child at the hospitals, and in a few days, my child recovered, but I’d, started having a fever.  As the doctors came to make the rounds, I’d begged, “I feel achy all over, I can’t take one step, can’t leave my child here and got get treated, can you give me a tab that’ll, help reduce my fever please!”

the job of a housewife…

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and these women aren’t, getting paid, for EACH and EVERY task that they’re, performing around the house either…illustration from online

If I don’t get paid, then, I’m not, working?  What is the definition of, “work”?  I’d looked it up in the dictionary, “Work”: occupation, synonym: labor.  And the definition of “occupation” is: the post or work that an individual has.  Here, it’d not mentioned anything about wages.  In Wikipedia, the definition of “Work” is: occupation; while the definition of “Occupation” is: a day-to-day routine of labor, with the goals of getting paid for your labor.  “Getting paid for labor” meant, a wage, so, Wikipedia believed, that the purpose of work, is, getting that pay, this is also, the majority’s explanation of what “work” entailed.  Then, in the ancient times, before the individuals became masters, what would the work of the apprenticeships be?  And, there’s, the same character in the world, volunteer, and volunteers normally, don’t get, paid either, but it clearly, constitutes as a form of work too, based off of the meanings of the characters taken apart, so, why is it, that staying at home, taking care the children, NOT considered, “work”?  Based off of what I’d already, described, everything I do at home, are all the work deemed as work by societal definition, and, every single task combined, makes into, a whole “job”!  “Homemaking is NOT a job”, “Full-time mothers aren’t working!”, this sort of deeply rooted belief, when will it get, amend3ed?  It’s a wonder, that a lot of moms want to, find alternative work posts, so they don’t get misinterpreted as, “leeches”!

Before my neighbor’s young daughter left my home, I’d told her, “Aunty’s job is being a mom, I’m also, a temporary nanny.  Next time if your mom can’t watch over it, send you over to my house, do tell her, aunty will be charge a hundred dollars an hour.”, that young girl, she’d made a sound with her tongue, then, walked out the door, she’s still fazed at how aunty doesn’t go out to work to make a pay, to play with children at home, and her too.  The next time, if I ask for pay from her “mom with work”, hopefully, she can gain a little more understanding of how, “aunty also works!”

And that is, precisely, how and why these homemakers get taken for granted, because we’re NOT working out of our homes, dressed up in those suits, making a pay check with the dollar amounts, but homemakers ARE working, they’re working 24/7, 365 or 366 days PER year, and, we’re NOT allowed to have any sick days, vacation times, and we’re not making enough for the families in these, dollars and cents?  You’ve got to be, shitting me here, and this is the LACK of respect, that we women get, for staying at home, and working as a HOUSEWIFE, raising up our young, cleaning up the houses, keeping the living environment, clean and tidy, not to mention, getting the groceries, sometimes, we also act as, the makeshift plumber, electrician too!  So show some RESPECT already, huh???

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The Prevalence of Mass Shootings in U.S. the Resolve of Guns without Solutions in America

Yeah, uh, BLAME it on the SECOND AMENDMENT, and all you, NRA fanatics here!!!  Off of the Front Page Section, translated…

On the twenty-second, a large-scale massacre happened at a Colorado supermarket, resulting in at least TEN dead, this was the SEVENTH larger-scaled massacre so far this year.

This was also, the SECOND large scale massacre that got the world’s attention in America in a week’s time.  The massage parlor shootings on the sixteenth of this month in Atlanta, Georgia by the suspect, Long, of the eight who’d died, six were, Asian females, and this had caused the protests to happen across America with the Asians in the community marching in protest against hate crimes.

Based off of USA Today, Associated Press, and the data collected by Northeastern University, the supermarket shooting in Colorado is the SEVENTH large scale massacre since the start of this year.  The database defined the massacres as other than the shooters, there are more than four deaths.

CNN reported, in this past week, there were large-scale massacres every single day, other than the eight deaths in the Atlanta shooting, Stockton, California, Houston and Dallas of Texas, in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, in the past few days, there were the massacres of more than five deaths ongoing, thankfully, those who were shot were mostly, not fatally wounded, only two had died.

In the past decade, within a hundred kilometers radius, of where the massacres at Round Rock, Colorado, there were the multiple shocking murders locally.  Back in 1999, Columbine High School which was only fifty-kilometers away, had the massacres of a total of fifteen fatalities, and twenty-four wounded including the two shooters.  In 2012, a man took a gun into the theatre as the Batman Premiere was showing, and started shooting at random, causing twelve deaths, seventy wounded.

“We the People”…WANT GUNS!!!

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found online

In America, gun is too easily accessible, this is one of the primary reasons for these larger-scale massacres.  The Washington Post reported, the shooter, Long of the Atlanta Massage Parlor massacre picked up a gun at the gun shop on the day he started on his shooting rampage, and, the background checks at the arms shop were only formalities, there’s no waiting to confirm if the licenses were valid, gun is given out by the store, and he took it, and headed straight to the massage parlor.

On the twenty-third, the Senate held an emergency hearting, discussing the two large-scale shootings that happened in the week, along with the matters of gun control.  The group that demanded a tougher law on gun ownership pointed out, that from 2009 to date there’d been, 246 cases of large-scale shootings, in just Colorado, on average, there are 805 people who’d died from gun violence per year.

And yet, the second amendment protected the rights of citizens from owning guns, and whenever the subject of gun control came up for discussion in the Congress, the Republicans who are in support of the Second Amendment Rights would fight it, even if the polls showed, that the supporters of both parties are onboard with the gun control laws now.

And so, this, became, a NATIONAL matter, and yeah, it is, the American citizens’ rights to OWN arms, sure, but, sometimes, guns are too easily got, you don’t even need to get thoroughly checked for any violent crimes records, you just need to get that license, which is bought with money, and you can, own one, and, you’re still, in support of your, SECOND Amendment rights?  Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for the “Stand-Your-Grounds” law, but, guns are too easily accessible in America, which is precisely WHY, mass shootings are happening all over the country right now.

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