Seeking Assistance

How did it end like this?  Why did she put up with it this long, and no, abuse is NOTHING to “get used to”…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The legislator, Kao’s abuse by her boyfriend shocked the communities here.  At the same time, the Department of Welfare Sanitations posted its survey results of women living under violence, one out of every five female had been abused, most frequently occurring is the emotional abuse, which showed, that the battered women population are, taking up the majority.  Kao is a public figure, and her being abused got the sympathies of the society.  And yet, there are, many women who are without the abilities, the drives who’d been abused living in the darkened corners, not known where to get the assistance they needed, nor dared to speak up and out about their abuse, and can only, cry in the nights.

It hurts us, seeing the bruises and scars of Kao; but those bruises will eventually heal, and yet, the psychological traumas, not so, easy.  The damages from the verbal abuse normally exceed the effects of the physical abuses, like a dagger that stabbed into the hearts, hard to recover from.  A lot of women, when they’d been abused verbally, chose to keep it muffled up, which led the abuse to worsen, into physical eventually.

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The American movie, “A Fall from Grace”, about the middle aged woman, Grace, who’d been divorced, and, met a handsome, gentle, younger man, at first, he’d treated her like she’s a goddess, fooled her into believing that she’d found a good man, not known, that that, was the start of her, nightmare, the man cheated her out of her money, and insulted her verbally too, and, Grace had, fallen into the traps of love the man set for her, to the end, she’d become, a murderer, killed her abusive husband.

Do NOT let the love turn into a worst nightmare, I hope, that you will meet the right person, a kind man or woman, to be with you for the rest of your lives.

And so, this, is on how the victims (enablers) of abuse usually chose to, put up with the abuse, due to, whatever BULLSHITTING excuses they can come up with, and, by not going to the cops that first time you got beaten, or screamed at and apologized to (verbal abuse???) , or emotionally blackmailed by someone, you’d gone from a poor, pitiful VIC, into an ENABLER, and the reason why the other person gets away with abusing you, it’s still because you’re, allowing them to, because, you CAN’T work up the courage, to ask for the help you need, to BREAK free!

The Higher Up the Socioeconomic Status in Society, More Worried that it Would Damage the Image, and that the Fact that Abuse Happened Will Get Found Out

Because of their status, and they’re, victimized, and they feel, ashamed, which is why these high-profile cases of abuse are, underreported…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The legislator of the DDP, Kao was abused by her boyfriend, and the incident was found out fifteen days after it’d happened on the news media, that was when she’d gone to the police and pressed charges.  The manager of the National Jinan University International Domestic Violence Research Center, Wang stated, based off of researches, the females usually put up with their abuse silently for an average of six years, if it happened in the rich and famous, the women considered their status quo, their images, and, would select to remain silent about it even more.

Wang told, that whether it be women with a higher up status, they’d normally put up with the abuse, because they’d taken into considerations of the intimate relationship they shared with their abusers, the emotional attachments, even economics, the children, and families, it would be quite difficult, to work up the courage to tell; for those with a higher social status, more considerations are put in, including social image, the situation, so not getting help has nothing to do with bravery, but how the abused have their own timelines, knowing how far they needed to prepare, before any actions are, taken.

Wang said the acts of violence will come up slowly, if it’d happened once, then, it will certainly, happen twice, three times, and when the abuser realized that something isn’t right, and attempted to control the victim more by restricting the movements, using violence, or emotional, psychological threats, the women need to caution, “ZERO tolerance for violence” being the prime rule.

And so, most of these abused women, they have a lot to consider, when thinking on whether or not they should, come out to the open, especially if you’re famous like the legislator, it’s even harder, but, by not coming out into the open, you’re only signaling to the individual who’s abusing you, that s/he can, keep on doing it to you, and there’s, NOTHING you can do about it, because you’re afraid, of getting your reputation damaged, and the individual is going to keep on controlling you, because you’re, letting him.

The Man Abused His Son, Kept His Wife Locked Up, Hidden His Family, & Lied to the Police

Being with, a man who abused you, and your child too!  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A woman, Chiu in Chiayi sent a private message via FB to a friend, that she and her one-year-old son were beaten up by her husband, Kuo after he was drunk, the friend passed the message out online to get help.  Two nights ago, the police found the message, and managed to get Chiu and her son out, arrested, Kuo; Kuo admitted to beating his son when he started crying.  The D.A. believed that Kuo had physically assaulted his own young, and obstructed the freedom of his own wife and son, asked the courts to mandate him into custody, on that he may do it again.  The courts mandated the bail to be set at $120,000N.T.s.

The Social Services of Chiayi stated that the social workers went with the mother and son to get their injuries documented, and helped them file for a restraining order, and they’d assessed that the child is safe under the mother’s care, that there’s no need to place him in a foster home, while Chiu had her friends’ assistance, relocated.

The local police on the 27^th of this month, found a photo message of a one-year-old young child was suspected of getting slapped, sustained the facial injuries, Chiu, in her private messages told her friend, “He beats me, I can’t take it, older sister, get me out”, “He got angered again after drinking, he beat my child up…”.  The police immediately made the house calls, but they’d not seen Kuo, Chiu, or her son, they’d, used the cell phone GPS to track him down, found Kuo in Tainan, and notified the local authorities to help.

Two nights ago, the police went to Kuo’s residence again, and, Kuo was just entering into the house with Chiu and her son, the police immediately went in after him, Kuo first, stashed Chiu and her son on the second floor, told the police that she wasn’t home; the police called Kuo out on lying, that was when he took the two of them downstairs.

The officers found the child’s face to be, somewhat swollen, and Chiu also told them, that Kuo had confiscated her cell phone, she was, cut off from the outside world, the police immediately, arrested Kuo on obstruction of freedom.  Kuo also admitted to hitting his child for crying out of turn, to not stop crying when he’d told him to.

The local neighbors told, that Kuo is the young boy’s stepfather, before the New Year’s, the family moved back in, to Kuo’s home in Yizhu, that they’d heard, that Kuo would get violent with the son, and they were all shocked, as they saw the photos online, exclaimed, “how can he beat his child like that!”

 And so, this, was how this woman was, lucky enough, to get rescued out, she’d, found a way, to get the message of being trapped in an abusive relationship out to the online media, and, someone saw the message, and helped her, call the cops.

A Man Who HACKED Up His Ex-Wife Nine Times, with Their Two Young Sons, Watching

Imagine HOW much THERAPY those young ones will be needing there, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The 34-year-old man, Chen, two nights ago, in the later hours, ran his car into his ex-wife, Hong’s mother’s household, then, in front of his two young sons, he’d hacked his own ex-wife to death, right after that, Chen turned himself in to the police.  Chen said, that he was displeased at how his ex-wife posted intimate photos of her and another man, plus they’d disagreed on the child support payments, that, was what had caused him to commit the murder.

Hong’s mother stated, “I will NEVER forgive!”, Hong’s family told, that Chen was emotionally unstable, and, they’d once shown care and concern to the woman, asked her if she was being beaten, but she didn’t tell them yes or no.

The police found, that Chen, on the late evening of the Yuan-Hsiao holidays, had gone to Hong’s place, to discuss the education fees of their two young kids, and, that they couldn’t reach an agreement, which, was what caused him to kill her, first, Chen went back to his place, got a Rambo knife, then, drove his two young sons to Hong’s place in the city of Tainan, after his rammed the car into the wall, he’d rushed into the residence, and, murdered his own ex-wife, it wasn’t until he’d hurt his ex mother-in-law, did he realize, that he’d committed the crime, and, immediately, he’d turned himself into the police.

The twenty-eight year-old Hong had nine stab wounds on her, and, one of these wounds was deep enough that it’d cut through her body, she’d lost too much blood, and couldn’t be resuscitated upon arriving at the hospital.  As Hong’s mother tried to stop Chen from hacking up her daughter, she had defensive wounds on her left elbow too.

The police said, that when Hong was getting murdered brutally, the two young boys were standing by, hearing the screams of their mother, getting hacked up, and you can imagine the shock they were in; and the two young kids were taken by Chen’s sister, and placed in Taichung with her now.

When Chen was interrogated, he’d told them, that he’d worked odds and ends regularly, after he’d married Hong, he had two sons, they were under great economic pressures, many years ago, Hong suggested that they get a divorce, but still lived together, so they could get the low-income household government assistance money.  After they divorced, Hong had a very bad attitude toward Chen, and, in order to keep a surveillance on Hong, Chen added her on his Facebook friends, and saw how Hong would go out with different men, being intimate with them; he’d had confrontations with her several times, six months ago, Hong moved back into her mother’s household, and she’d worked hard, to fight for sole custody of their two sons.

The police found, that last year, Chen had gotten full custody over his two young children, and that the applications for the low-income forms should be filed by him, plus, he wasn’t really having a successful time at work, he’d asked Hong to help him file the papers, but she’d never replied.  On Chen’s Facebook pages, he’d stated, “You wait and see, I will TEACH you how to write the word: REGRET!”, and other words, a lot of her online friends showed care and concern, but, they were, unable, to prevent this tragedy from happening still.

The Social Services Department of Tainan stated, that the two were divorced back in 2009, but they had no records of them, applying for the low-income government supports, that last year, when Hong filed the papers, and was approved, and, they started receiving the $1,900 N.T. a month for taking care of the children.

“The two of them getting divorced and filing for the government support for low income households, and the extramarital affairs, are totally, unrelated!”, Chen and Hong’s common friend stated to the press yesterday, that they’d gotten a divorce because they were simply, too different in personalities, and just couldn’t live together anymore.

And so, this, is a case, where the husband got jealous of HIS divorced wife, hello, hello, hello???  She HAD divorced you, and so, she is, FREE to date whoever the HELL she wants to, because that, would be HER right, and yet, because you still couldn’t get over how quickly she got over you, you’d HACKED her up, and in front of your two young sons too, now, what KIND of a father are you, to put your sons through that?

Breaking the Cycle of Domestic Violence

From a victim to a survivor here, translated…

When I heard people tell me, “On the fact that B had died, we really don’t know how to make you feel better, so, that, was why we didn’t call.”, on the other end of the line, A started crying hard.

A is a hard working career woman, not only was she able to keep herself well economically, she’d also supplied more than her share of the household income. But, underneath her amazing work abilities, A had the life of an abused woman—after getting beaten by the husband, she’d reported it to the police, gone to the hospitals to get her wounds documented, left home, to get started on healing, later on, she fell into the soft words of B’s consoles to get home again.  Year after year, this was the same script that kept happening, again, and again, it’d made ALL who really actually tried to help A out feel helpless, like it wouldn’t be right, for them not to offer assistance, but, they can’t really help her out, because she keeps circling around in that same vicious cycle.

One time, we’d learned that A moved back in, I’d immediately called her up, to get her to move back out, told her, that IF she couldn’t make her mind up about leaving home, then, B may not do as they’d both agreed, go to the hospitals regularly to get checked, and the kids that grew up in this violent environment, it would be hard, for them to develop well psychologically. And still, the feelings still overcame A’s rationalism, in the end, she’d chosen to stay at home, with her abusive husband, and B, refused to check herself into the hospitals.

And, this only exacerbated, several years later, one day, A’s mother just so happened heard the rumors floating around A’s neighborhood, “We’d often heard a household getting too rowdy, followed by a woman’s crying.” She shocking realized, that the woman that the neighbors heard crying might be her baby girl.  She did some checking into it, and, it WAS her daughter, and so, the mother took her baby girl out of her abusive home.  A, who’d finally had enough of being abused regularly, finally made up her mind, never to return home again, and so, ever since, the status of A and B’s marriage became “separated”.

The days of being abused is just way too scary, A and the kids now lived independently and steadily, from day to day, with NO contact with B whatsoever. A short while ago, B who has NOBODY next to him died all of a sudden.  When A and the kids went to pick up the house, she’d found, that as her husband was starting to live alone, he’d started to change, had prepared for the children’s education and everything, and still, he’s already gone, and, no matter how much he’d saved up, it’s not going to be enough, to make up for that emptiness he’d left in them.

Had A been more stubborn on leaving, and never returning back home again, and break the vicious cycle of domestic violence earlier, maybe, it would’ve all ended differently. To every abused woman, leaving the home, making changes is never an easy choice, and yet, if you’re able to set up your minds, and end this vicious cycle, there’s still a good chance that you can rebuild your families again.

This, is still ALL in H-I-N-D-S-I-G-H-T, and, there’s a ton of “had…only…” involved in this “equation”, and, it is hard, for someone who’s been abused LONG term, to finally SNAP out of it, and, when this woman finally decided to make the changes, everything starts improving, but for this loser who’d abused her, his change came a bit too late.

The King of Mistakes & the Queen of Forgiveness

We have here, ANOTHER CLASSIC abuser/enabler “relationship”, but, let’s just wait and see, how these two manage, shall we???

The king of mistakes, had made, ONE more (and no, it still won’t BE his last!!!) mistakes, and, he’d crawled BACK, on ALL fours (what does THAT look like???  Woof!  Woof!), to the Queen of Forgiveness, and, that, being HER name, naturally, as you would’ve guessed, she’d forgiven him, of ALL the evils he’d done, and, took him BACK into her arms, her bed, even, her PANTIES.

The king of mistakes, when the HELL is this LOSER gonna learn, from his mistakes?  The answer would be, the first day of N-E-V-E-R, and, never, is still a long, long, L-O-N-G ways away, from the kingdom where the king of mistakes and his queen of forgiveness lives.

The queen of forgiveness, that, is her nature, being forgiving, like ALL mothers are, of their own offspring’s bad deeds, but, she FAILED to realize, that her H-U-S-B-A-N-D, the king, is NOT her son, and yet, she’d still hovered over him, like HIS mama had done.

 

 

A Change in Her Heart, He’d Killed His Girlfriend and with the Man His Girlfriend Fell in Love with Execution Style

 

Because she doesn’t love you anymore, and you can’t bear the thought of her, being with someone else, is that it???  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Lin, was suspected of being angry at his girlfriend who was twenty years his junior, finding another man, early yesterday morn, he’d gone into her house, and took the time when she was sleeping with his opponent in love, and shot them both, execution style, after he’d killed them both with one shot in the head each, he’d ran back to his place of residence and committed suicide.

When the shooting was occurring, Chuang, the woman’s last year middle school daughter was on the first floor, sleeping soundly, and because there was a huge storm, the child didn’t even hear the sound of the gun, going off; as the police arrived, they woke her up, she’d gone into her mother’s bedroom and found her mother, and  Jiang, dead on the bed, the daughter broke down.

At around a little pass five in the morn yesterday, Lin (age 57), was found in an empty lot, in his car, with gunshot wound to the head, and next to him, was a gun and shell casings, the police ruled it as a suicide, and after they’d checked into his personal life, the police feared that Chuang may be in danger, and by the time they’d arrived at Chuang’s home, it was already too late.

The police investigated, that the three deceased had all been previously married, Lin, because of his drug abuse past, met up with Chuang’s ex-husband, later, Chuang divorced, and it was just her and her daughter, and they’d set up a stand next to the local temples, Lin works as a skilled worker, the two of them fell in love, because they saw one another on a daily basis, and moved in together, Lin moved his registry into Chuang’s place too.

But, the thirty-four year old Chuang is very popular, and, three months ago, she was suspected to have been pursued by Jiang, causing her to be on bad terms with Lin, and Lin got angry and moved out of her place, and even though, he’d still helped her out at the stands from time to time, but had gotten into verbal disagreements with Jiang, and was beaten up by him.  The police suspected that Lin had carried a grudge, and yesterday morn, he’d used the key and entered into Chuang’s home, and when she was asleep, that, was when he’d committed the crimes of murder.

The police based on the trajectory of the bullet holes on the skulls, and ruled that Lin had killed them both execution style, and they would’ve NEVER had the chance of fighting back.  The police found, that after Lin committed the murders, he’d used a quilt, to cover up the deceased, and returned to his home, to try to commit suicide, and they’d already taken the altered gun and the shell casings to the investigative offices.

And so, this, is still ALL because of L-O-V-E, or rather, the change of mind, and because she had a change of mind about you, and you are unwilling to let her go, and you feel angered at how she was “stolen” by that other man, that, was why you’d committed the murders?  Are you FUCKING kidding me?  Why are people resorting to MURDER when they broke up?  Is it for the sake of revenge?  Is it for the sake of getting the person BACK for hurting one’s feelings?  I really can’t tell!!!

 

 

 

He’d Made Abusing Her into a Habit, But This Night, She’d Fought Back with a Knife

Finally, taking matters into HER own hands, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Lin, with a history of domestic violence, met a woman who’s of Chinese descent at a karaoke, they’d dated, but Lin didn’t change his abusive ways, would often hit his girlfriend, two nights ago, the two got into an argument after getting drunk, the woman got furious that she’d taken up a kitchen knife, and hacked Lin over twenty times, his left arm was almost detached, the police described it as “like how you’d chop up pork at a market place, so deep”, it’d given them the quivers.

The police pointed out, that the forty-one year old woman of Chinese descent, two nights ago, was at a karaoke, drinking and singing with her boyfriend, Lin, she’d claimed that Lin had an argument with someone who was there first, and returned home, early morning yesterday, and started taking it out on her, and went to the kitchen to get a knife to hack at her, and she’d gotten the knife from him, and, hacked him down.

The woman said, that Lin was chasing after her with the kitchen knife, she ran to the stairways to hide out, told Lin, “if this is how you behave, then, let’s DIE together.”, and she’d taken the advantage and got the knife from him, and started hacking him, Lin begged, “honey, I’m real sorry”, but she’d already carried a grudge toward him, and still kept hacking at Lin nonstop.

Lin’s mother pointed out, that after her son and his girlfriend returned home, they got into an argument, she’d tried to resolve it, but to NO avail, and so, she went upstairs to sleep, ten minutes later, she’d heard her son howled, and went she’d gone downstairs, she saw his girlfriend, hacking at him in the stairways, she ran outside to call for help.

After the police arrived at the scene, they saw that there was blood everywhere, and, they rushed Lin to the hospitals right away, and his girlfriend, was dumbfounded, on the floor.  The police took her blood alcohol, it was at 0.84, and Lin’s was 1.5, “the two of them were totally wasted.” The police said, that Lin’s left hand was hacked like the way that pork’s feet was chopped up, the multiple wounds showed the bones, broken tendons, and, his scalp was lifted up too, and he is in stable conditions after he was rushed to the hospital, but still needed to stay in the hospital longer for observations.  Lin’s head, and left arm, had only minor scrapes.

Lin’s mother decided to press charges on the damages to her son; Lin’s girlfriend stated, that Lin was the one who started hitting her first, and cut her left forearm with the kitchen knife.  The police booked Lin’s girlfriend on attempted murder charges yesterday.

And so, this, is what happens, when push comes to SHOVE, and, because this woman was NOT smart enough to file a complaint with the police the first time he used violence against her, that, is why she is now, charged with attempted murder, and this still just shows how mothers will always hover OVER their sons too.

Didn’t Fulfill His Duties in the Marriage, Consulted the Gods on Everything, His Marriage Went Down the Drains

Superstitions, are what ruined THIS marriage, or, maybe, their marriage was already “on the ROCKS”, who knows, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

Huang’s husband was extremely superstitions, and would often consult the gods on everything, and he would often use the results from that, along with his own dreams, to question her; when he didn’t pass a government examination, he’d blamed her for putting in a water purifier, and had said that she’d fallen ill, because she did a TON of bad things.  She could NO longer withstand the emotional tortures, and had filed for divorce, and the courts allowed it.

Huang was married for six years, without children, the reason for her suing for divorce was that her husband is always in doubt, would dream of ghosts and gods on a day-to-day basis, and is emotionally unstable, he would take his angers out on her, and cuss her out on a day-to-day basis.  When she’d fallen ill, and made an appointment for a surgery at the hospitals, and had gone back to her own family’s house to recoup, the husband didn’t have ANY empathies toward her ailments, he’d even called up the hospitals, to cancel her surgical appointments, and that nearly killed her.  She could NO longer withstand the tortures of her husband emotionally, she’d moved back in with her mother two years ago, and filed for separation with her husband.

Huang’s husband rebutted, that he has the habit of consulting the gods, but NOT on every single matter; that he’d only had dreams of ghosts and spirits, not on a day-to-day basis, and that after he’d planned to purchase his house, he’d dreamed of how he’d opened up the front door, and saw someone, hung inside.  He’d used the dreams, along with the results of consulting the gods, to ask why his wife was heading to her family’s house, that there was NO malice, that he’d never treated his wife as a punching bag.  He said, that whilst his wife was at her house, she’d refused him to pick her up, and refused the visits from his parents as well, he did NOT want to divorce.

The judge found out, that after the two married, they didn’t get along, and the primary reason was because Huang’s husband had become too superstitious, and would consult the heavens on everything, and, other than blaming not getting a high enough grade on the examinations on the water purifier, he didn’t like his in-laws; as his mother-in-law became bedridden, he’d accused her of faking her illness, and he’d become annoyed, as his wife fell ill too, said that it was because she didn’t do enough good, that, was what’d caused her to get sick.

The judge believed, that the two had separated for two and a half years, and they didn’t have any kind of good interactions, that they’d become totally separated in the hearts and minds; although Huang’s husband didn’t say that he wasn’t willing to divorce, but during the separations, he’d shown NO signs of trying to make it work, that it’d been hard, for both, to maintain their marriage, that the divorce is granted.

And so, that, is ANOTHER day, at the FAMILY CIRCUS court, and that just shows you how a marriage WAS ruined by self-doubt, transference, along with superstitions here.

A Man Raped His Fifth Grade Daughter with His Fingers, and Asked His Wife, “Why Isn’t She Bleeding”?

A Man Raped His Fifth Grade Daughter with His Fingers, and Asked His Wife, “Why Isn’t She Bleeding”?

And you DO see, how this, is still an ABUSING-ENABLING “relationship” that we have here, right??? From the Newspapers Online, translated…

a man over the age of forty, after raping his own fifth grade daughter with his hand had even interrogated his wife, “how come she didn’t bleed?”, the wife called him a “monster”, and he’d beaten her up too. And, after she’d pressed charged, she’d learned, that her daughter had been raped for SIX times already. The District Court in Changhwa found the man guilty, and gave him nine years and two months in prison.

The father was outrageous, he’d talked so leisurely about how he’d raped his own child, like it was NOTHING, and claimed to everybody that “My wife and my daughter, are both MINE to have.”, “I’d taken care of her long enough, so, why can’t I touch her? And I must ‘save’ her for someone unknown?” The judge from the Collective Courts pointed out, that the victim had told her father “NO” each and every time he’d raped her, but, he was too strong for her to fight off.

The verdict stated that this man, between the month of September and October, had taken the advantage of the time when his child was in the baht, and gone into the bathrooms to RAPE her a total of SIX times, and the young girl didn’t dare say anything about it to anyone. It wasn’t until when the man asked his wife about how come the child didn’t bleed from her vagina when he’d stuck his finger into her, that, was when his bad actions got busted wide open.

As the court opens, the man’s lawyer claimed that he was severely depressed, and couldn’t be held accountable for his own bad behaviors, to try to get a lighter sentence, but the judge didn’t believe it, that the man had raped his own daughter multiple times, and that it wasn’t solitary incidences.

And so, this, is the BAD behaviors of a parent, and, it is so outrageous, how a man can totally be without conscience like that, I mean, this LOSER shows absolutely NO remorse, instead, he’d blamed his own behaviors, his LACK of control, on everybody else???