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There are Many Holes in the Restraining Orders, the Hindsight of How it Worked Can’t Stop the Violence, the Only Way to Prevent the Violent Attacks by the Perps, Prevention, Protective Custody of the Abused, is the Only Way to Stop the Tragedies from Recurring

See, how FUNCTIONAL (yeah, I’m afraid, that my SARCASM is, BACK in, “action” here, again!), the restraining orders are, in preventing the abused from getting abused repeatedly, and even, getting MURDERED by the, perps???  And in these cases, the “theory” still, works, WAY better, than the, “applications”…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

There are, those, restraining orders that didn’t come in time, in the cases of divorces ended up in murder-suicide, or how the breakup led to murdering of the exes, there was a man who got upset over how his ex-wife took up with another, threatened, “can the restraining orders protect you for 24/7 from me?”, then, immediately, ran her over with his car; the attorneys believed, that in recent times, the judges are quite lenient in their evaluation of signing the restraining orders into effect, but, if the perps are emotionally unstable, then, the restraining orders would proven ineffective, and there’s the need to mandate the perps into treatment, to place perps into temporary custody, hindsight will only cause more tragedies.

The Central Police University’s Crime Prevention Department Professor, Shen stated, that if the abuser is confirmed of a psychological disorder, then, the justices can mandate the individual into treatment, but if there are no diagnoses by the psych department, then, it would be difficult to restrict the perps using this means.  He noted, that there is a need to evaluate the risk in the home fronts, and basing the restraining orders off of that, to start amending the constitutions, to set up the laws, to find ways to offer more protection.

how can this…a piece of paper, PRINTED in letters a words…image from online…

He who once worked as a district attorney, now an attorney at law told, that there are the clear cut rules of the restraining order written in black-and-white, the problem lies in that the perp doesn’t want to follow them, and the currently legislation does not give law enforcement to use any possible means to restrict the perps, and many perps would lose control, and became more violent, the police, the social services can only, evaluate their own means in hindsight, that was why these tragedies keep repeating.

He told, that if the perps had broken the rules of the restraining orders, for instance, continually stalked, harassed, the victims are able to call the police, and ask the police to arrest the perps on breaking the terms of the restraining order, and getting the perps taken in can keep them in custody, but more often than not, you see these irrational abuser using an even more violent means to disregard the restraining order, and continually abuse the victims, and the police department or the local social services can only, examine the incident in hindsight.

be effective enough to stop THIS??? Photo from online

photo from online

He pointed out, that the problem lies in that the country does NOT have enough resources, to set up the preventive measures, to place the abused who filed for the restraining orders to get out of the fears of the environment of being abused, or to prevent further abuse, and more severe, injuries, even deaths.

So, the theory of all of this, is still, perfect, but the application, well, not so much.  For the law abiding, which NONE of the abusers are, the restraining orders are effective, and, unless you can get the police right to your side at the moment that someone else came near you, like if you got someone in the police forces living with you at home, then, there’s, NO chance that the police can protect these victims of domestic violence on time, and so, the theory of this system of protecting the abused, as proposed by the DDP government and Tsai, looked so pretty, but when you put the rules into practice, yeah, there are, a lot of, holes in the systems, like how can you, stop abuse, when it happens, if there’s NO cop patrolling your neighborhood, when that husband or boyfriend came home drunk at night, and was, looking for a punching bag…

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The Tragedies in Chiayi, the Man Murdered His Wife & Son, the Committed Suicide, Resulting in Three Deaths and One Wounded

Another case of domestic violence that ended in murder, and deaths, like these cases normally, would, off of the Newspapers, translated…

The Man Refusing to Sign the Divorce Caused the Couple to Fight for Days on End, Awhile Ago, the Man Was Suspected of Getting Locked Out After the Separation to Visit His Families, Flew into a Rage, and Committed the Murders

The thirty-eight-year-old man, Wu was suspected of not getting a divorce settled, had been fighting for days on end, in the midnight hours of yesterday, he was suspected of losing it after getting locked out, he’d climbed up the aluminum ladder from the outside to his second story home into the room, hacked his wife and ten-year-old son to death, and injured his own eight-year-old son severely, then, cut his own throat, fell off the building, and died.  Before Wu committed the murders, he’d texted his own father, “I’m taking my kids with me”, and his father called the police, but as the paramedics and the police arrived, it was already too late, the three were found dead.

Based off of understanding, Wu works as a wood sculptor, his wife who was eight years junior, Lin worked in customer services to provide for the family, Wu suspected his wife for having an affair, prohibited her to go to work, and complained that she’d spent too much money.  The two were negotiating the terms of their divorce lately.  Wu was suspected of worrying how he would have nothing after the divorce, which was what caused him to commit the murders, before he’d gone on the killing spree, he’d texted his youngest sister-in-law, “I will make you live in pain!”

The D.A. told, that early in the morning at around three, Lu climbed the aluminum ladder into the bedroom, used a twenty-five centimeter long fruit knife, murdered his own wife, his wife had fourteen stab wounds, found dead by the bed, with the wounds in the chest, her neck being what killed her, the ten-year-old son sustained a slash on the left of his neck, which was what’d killed him, the eight-year-old younger son was stabbed in the neck, following, Wu started slashing the left and the right side of his neck, and his wrists too, fell from the second floor balcony.

Wu’s younger sister told, that her brother-in-law had been emotionally unstable, easily worked up, and had restricted her older sister’s whereabouts, she couldn’t withstand the pressures anymore, filed for divorce, and he’d threatened her multiple times verbally, “if you divorce, I will take you  and the kids out, the house you live in will be unoccupied forever”, last Friday, her older brother-in-law was in suspicion that her older sister was having an affair, checked her phone, but found no evidence, and, he’d thrown her cell phone onto the floors and started abusing her.

Wu’s’ wife’s younger sister told, that she and her mother were present as he’d started abusing her older sister, and immediately after he’d beaten her, they’d taken her to the hospital to get her injuries documented, and consoled with her to move out of the apartment, to move in with their parents in Taichung, but she’d worried it might anger her husband, didn’t dare, hoped that they could peacefully divorce first, then, take her two children and leave, but they all were, murdered.

Social Services investigated, that Wu wasn’t listed as violent, and the family wasn’t listed as high-risk, that on Monday a call came, and domestic violence was suspected, and the social workers only started intervening, the very first time the social workers visited, the domestic violence ended in murder occurred, they couldn’t stop the tragedies from happening.  The head of Social Services, Chang stated, on the day, the social workers helped Lin set up and assessed her safety situation, and gave her the information packet on domestic violence prevention, assisted her in getting a restraining order, but Lin didn’t get a restraining order, and the social services could not force her to take action, and the Social Services regretted this.

The school where the two boys attended told, that they were in the band, loved music and science, were well behaved, courteous, with many talents, and the school never expected this tragedy to fall on them.  The school principal told, that the youngest son arrived to school with his father, he saw them laughing as the man dropped him off, he didn’t find any signs of domestic violence in the family.

Of course not, these things, they don’t show up, until it’s too late, like in this case, the restraining order still didn’t come soon enough, and besides, these abusive spouses can care less about those court issued restraining order, and continue to, abuse their families, and this one caused two children to die, with the perpetrator, sustaining only, “minor” injuries, and he will be charged with murder and domestic violence after the hospital treated him.

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The Love that Turned into Hate. She’d Poured a Strong Acid on Him, Causing Him to Sustain Twenty-Nine-Percent Burn on His Body, His Face Disfigured

The difference between aggravated assault and attempted murder lies in the FACT, that this woman didn’t bring ENOUGH acid to cause severe enough damage on this man whom she’d had upsets with…on how the charges does NOT fit right to the extent of the crime here, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The woman, Chiu and her cohabiting partner, Hsieh argued over their relationship, to get him back, Chiu premediated in pouring strong acid on the man, prepared the solution in a bottle, waited at the parking lot late in the nights when Hsieh got out of his car, then, she’d, rushed up to him, poured the acid all over his body, causing his face, neck, and his body to get eroded, to the point of his becoming disfigured, his nose was out of shape, his arms no longer moved as they used to either, he’d sustained twenty-nine-percent burns over his body, the D.A. charged Chiu on aggravated assault recently.

Based off of understanding, Chiu (age 39) as she’d started cohabiting with Hsieh, started having frequent altercations with him, on the night of March 29th, Chiu prepared a bottle of strong acid, and ambushed at a parking lot in northern Taichung, waited until two in the morn the following day, he saw Hsieh riding up in a cab, as soon as he got out, she’d rushed up to him, poured the acid on his face, his body.

Hsieh had fourth degree chemical burns on his eyes, his face, his neck, his head and on his limbs, taking up twenty-nine-percent of his body, his face became disfigured, his nose out of shape, retinal injuries, and lost the agilities in his hands and arms.

After Chiu committed the crime, she’d stayed on scene, the police first took her back to the station as a witness, but found her to have the erosions of acid on her wrists, her shoes, and as she’d complied in answering the questions, that was when the police found the bottle with the strong acid solute in her car.

As the D.A. interrogated her, she’d admitted that she was upset over the love which was why she’d taken revenge on him, and the surveillance in the parking lot showed that it was her, plus Hsieh’s testimonies identifying her as the perp too.

Hsieh sued Chiu on attempted murder, Chiu denied that she had the intents for murder, the district attorneys believed, that after she’d poured the acid, she’d not committed any more malicious acts, based off of the amount of acid she had on her, although it will cause the skin to get eroded, but, it’s hard to tell, that it would cause death, found her guilty of aggravated assault.

Yeah, uh, how’s that just?  I mean, you brought the strong acid, and poured it all over your cohabiting boyfriend’s body, and that’s not called intent to murder?  What the @#$%?  Yeah, and just because this dude got lucky, not gotten killed, this woman is getting that slap on her wrist, that’s still NOT justice!

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The Foreign Woman Thought to Finally Had it with the Long-Term Abuse from Her Husband, After Her Husband Passed Out from Drinking, She’d Murdered Him, Accompanied His Body for Four Hours Then Turned Herself in

The uneven relationship status was what led to this woman, murdering her husband, because she’s a foreign spouse, and she’d taken years of abuse from him, I would imagine, that was, what made her, crack, finally, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

An Indonesian woman, suspected of not getting along with her husband from Taiwan long-term, after her husband passed out from drinking, she’d smashed his head, then, stabbed a knife into his throat; the man died instantly, she’d accompanied his corpse for four hours, then called to the police to turn herself in, the police charged her on murder, took her in.  The district attorney’s office two days ago examined the corpse, and asked the courts to take the woman into custody, which the courts signed off on, they will be conducting an autopsy to clarify the cause of death.

The police investigated, the forty-five-year-old Indonesian woman married the fifty-two-year-old man, Lu nine years ago, they live in Pingzhen District, Taoyuan, with no children, and not gotten along.

Based off of understanding, the woman wanted to return to Indonesia to sort out the matters of her family’s properties, but her husband wouldn’t allow her to leave, they’d fought multiple times, in 2017 and 2018, there were the domestic disturbances calls, the two accused one another for abuse, the woman said she was shoved and beaten by Lu.

The woman claimed, on the evening of the nineteenth of this month, the two were together at home, Lu, suspected of being in a foul mood after he was drunk, started nagging again, she couldn’t take it anymore; at 1:30 the following morning, when Lu was sound asleep, she’d hit him over the head multiple times with a bowl, then, stabbed into his throat using a butcher’s knife until he had no signs of life.

After the woman committed murder, she’d accompanied the body for four hours, at 5:30 in the morn, she’d walked over to the opposite of her street to turn herself in, the police followed her to her home, and found Lu, dead, she was cuffed; she’d claimed that she couldn’t withstand the long-term physical abuse, that was what made her do it, but, she had no visible injuries when the police arrested her, the police charged her on domestic violence murder.

Two days ago the Taoyuan D.A.’s Office reviewed the facts of the case, believed that the woman is at flight risk, asked the courts to have her in custody which the courts signed off on, and the body of the man is set for an autopsy on the twenty-fifth to clarify the cause of death.

Based off of understanding, Lu recently lost his job, his wife worked the odds and ends, the work was unstable, but their household economics was okay, and the details of the case is still pending investigation.

And so, based off of this, the woman had been long-term abused by her husband, and finally CRACKED, and, she’s a foreign spouse, which meant, she didn’t have the social support, the assistance she would need in her case, that can help her sort the matters through, and, there’s the repeated incidents of reports on domestic violence by the man on this woman that’s kept on record too.

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She Was Abused by Her Cohabiting Boyfriend, Ran Away from Home with Her Daughter, Thirteen Days Afterwards, She was Dead

Abused to DEATH, by her cohabiting boyfriend, DESPITE how the laws are already, set up, to protect people from this sort of, horrid lovers, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

A woman in Tainan was abused by her cohabiting boyfriend, Chen, the victim took her ten-year-old daughter, and ran away, moved to Kaohsiung, but she’d sustained the multiple physical injuries on her, started spitting up blood at home, on the evening of the eighth, she fell ill, was taken to the hospital, the following day, she’d worsened, and died; the police charged Chen on assault causing death, breaking the laws to prevent domestic violence, the Chiaotou D.A.’s Office set the bail at $50,000N.T. after they’d interrogated him, and he had to report to the local subprecinct twice per week.

The police investigated, the victim was around thirty, started dating Chen four years ago, took her daughter who was only six, lived in with Chen at the residence on the West side of Tainan; on May 28th, the victim had a verbal altercation with Chen, was beaten by him physically, it’d caused her to sustain multiple injuries.

As Chen left, the victim discussed with her sisters, worried that she may get abused by him again, took her ten-year-old daughter, ran away out of Tainan, moved to Zhuoying, Kaohsiung to stay temporarily.  She’d only thought the injuries she’d sustained were only physical, that she just needed a few days’ rest and will recover, but on the eighth of June, she’d suddenly fell ill, started puking up blood, as her younger sister saw, she’d called emergency, and stated to the operator, that her sister was beaten by her cohabiting boyfriend.

As the victim was taken to the hospital, she fell into a coma, during which time she regained conscious, and told her families of what had happened, the police took the statement of the daughter on the ninth, and on that evening, the victim’s condition took a turn for the worst, she’d died of multiple organ failure, and the case is being prosecuted as assault causing death.

The police had Chen into the station, Chen stated that he had, argued with the victim, but was evasive toward the questioning of physically abusing her, the preliminary checks of the body, the death can’t be determined, they will conduct an autopsy on the thirteenth to clarify the cause of death.

And so, this woman got abused to death, by her cohabiting boyfriend, and this still just showed, how dangerous is it, to stay with an abusive man, because it’d happened once, it will, happen, again, again, and again, until the victims die, or do something to escape.  But in this particular case, the victim didn’t escape, she died!

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The Woman Kept Hostage for Sixteen Hours After the Breakup with the Boyfriend Demanding One Last Sexual Intercourse with Her Used Her Wits to Save Herself

One last FUCK, before we part, that, is how you all want it, isn’t it???  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The thirty-year-old man, Jeng, and his girlfriend are on the verge of breaking up, he was upset that all those years of love became wasted, he’d pulled his girlfriend into a motel on the sixth of this month, abused her, didn’t CARE that she was having her period, demanded her for “breakup sex”; the woman had the plans of escape, asked him to go out to buy her tampons, and as he was away, she’d, called the police, she was finally freed, after ten hours of being kidnapped by Jeng.  As Jeng was arrested, he’d denied the allegations, but the woman showed her injuries to the police, the district attorneys charged him with obstruction of sexual freedoms and other charges, asked the courts to have Jeng in custody, which the courts signed off on yesterday.

The police found, that Jeng had been dating his girlfriend for years, recently, they’d started fighting often, Jeng refused to break up; at eight in the morn on the sixth, Jeng drove to his girlfriend’s place and waited, wanted to get her to fall back in love with him.

As he saw her coming downstairs, readying to leave, and ignored him, he’d pulled her by force into his car, then, drove all the way, to a motel in Fengshan District.  The woman thought that Jeng only wanted to “confront” her about the breakup, and they’d, started talking, when Jeng lost it, and started physically smacking her down.

The woman was having her menstrual cycle on the day, Jeng still forced to have “breakup sex” with him, the woman worried that she may get beaten violently, and can only agree, she was raped twice; and afterwards, Jeng would NOT allow her to leave the room, restricted her, kept her hostage for ten hours on end.

The woman feared for her own life, not angered Jeng, waited until he’d let his guards down, claimed to him that she forgot to bring her tampons, asked him to get a pack for her at the super convenience shops, Jeng didn’t question her, and left, as he was gone, the woman immediately called for help from the motel staff, the police arrived, the woman called out for help; as soon as Jeng returned, he was arrested.

Jeng admitted to slapping his girlfriend across the face, but denied rape, claimed it was consensual, but the woman showed her injuries, and stressed that she was forced to have sex with him.

The district attorney’s didn’t believe Jeng’s words, charged him with obstruction of sexual freedom, obstruction of freedom, and other charges, and after the district attorneys questioned him, they’d asked the courts to have Jeng in custody, which the courts had signed off on.

And so, this, is right AFTER that law was signed into effect, of the preventing abuse from these horrid lovers, and, this still just showed, of how no matter what the laws stated, there will be those who knowingly breaks it, and it don’t matter how advanced this country believes it is on the matter of rights to protect woman, it’s still, lightyears behind.  These laws only works on paper, but not when it gets put to the test!

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The Man with a Reputable Status in the Local Community is Abusive Toward His Wife & Young Son

Because the family is powerful locally, that’s why, the woman interpreted the police’s leaving as having to do with how they feared the family, but it wasn’t, because the police had come and knocked on the door, and nobody responded, and there was a traffic accident, which they took to be more pressing, that’s why they’d, left, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The woman, Wang remarried with a young child, in the two years, the mother and son had been abused by her husband, Nien, after the Changwha D.A.’s Office charged Nien with physical assault two days ago, Wang opened up to the press about what had happened in her marriage, other than having her cell phone controlled, because of how the family is powerful, the neighbors didn’t DARE say a thing, although she’d gone to the police on accusations of abuse, but the police came, and heard the side of the story from the Nien family, then left.

Nien’s uncle is a former deputy of the city council, well known for stealing and selling the gravel concrete, back in 1996, he’d been charge and sent to Ludao, and used the opportunity of being transported to the external hospitals, made his escape to China, and died in China ultimately.

Wang accused, that as she started dating Nien, they were very close, they married six years ago, but two years ago, Nien became a different person, had physically abused her and her young son, and demanded that she never leaves his sight, that when she goes to the bathrooms, she’d needed to leave the door open so he could see her, he took her cell phone, and, deleted her contact, severed her from contacts of the outside world.

The local substation stated, that the footage of him kicking the young boy was from this March, Wang claimed that she’d called the police on the evening of July 28th, two officers came, and heard the family’s side, then left, and as they checked the records, the officers knocked on the door, but no one responded, and there was a traffic call to the officers, that’s why they’d, left so soon.

Wang called another time on July 29th, the substation immediately took the case, and that day, the mother and son were placed away, but, the first time the domestic violence call came, there were, the improper means of handling it, and the police will reprimand the officers responsible.

And, you can see, how it’s easy, for this abused woman, to attribute why the police didn’t come to her rescue as such, because the family is powerful, with ties in the local community’s political realms, but, it actually, isn’t that the police didn’t take the case, but because they went to the home, and nobody answered, and there was another more pressing traffic call that’s more urgent.

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Seeking Assistance

How did it end like this?  Why did she put up with it this long, and no, abuse is NOTHING to “get used to”…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The legislator, Kao’s abuse by her boyfriend shocked the communities here.  At the same time, the Department of Welfare Sanitations posted its survey results of women living under violence, one out of every five female had been abused, most frequently occurring is the emotional abuse, which showed, that the battered women population are, taking up the majority.  Kao is a public figure, and her being abused got the sympathies of the society.  And yet, there are, many women who are without the abilities, the drives who’d been abused living in the darkened corners, not known where to get the assistance they needed, nor dared to speak up and out about their abuse, and can only, cry in the nights.

It hurts us, seeing the bruises and scars of Kao; but those bruises will eventually heal, and yet, the psychological traumas, not so, easy.  The damages from the verbal abuse normally exceed the effects of the physical abuses, like a dagger that stabbed into the hearts, hard to recover from.  A lot of women, when they’d been abused verbally, chose to keep it muffled up, which led the abuse to worsen, into physical eventually.

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The American movie, “A Fall from Grace”, about the middle aged woman, Grace, who’d been divorced, and, met a handsome, gentle, younger man, at first, he’d treated her like she’s a goddess, fooled her into believing that she’d found a good man, not known, that that, was the start of her, nightmare, the man cheated her out of her money, and insulted her verbally too, and, Grace had, fallen into the traps of love the man set for her, to the end, she’d become, a murderer, killed her abusive husband.

Do NOT let the love turn into a worst nightmare, I hope, that you will meet the right person, a kind man or woman, to be with you for the rest of your lives.

And so, this, is on how the victims (enablers) of abuse usually chose to, put up with the abuse, due to, whatever BULLSHITTING excuses they can come up with, and, by not going to the cops that first time you got beaten, or screamed at and apologized to (verbal abuse???) , or emotionally blackmailed by someone, you’d gone from a poor, pitiful VIC, into an ENABLER, and the reason why the other person gets away with abusing you, it’s still because you’re, allowing them to, because, you CAN’T work up the courage, to ask for the help you need, to BREAK free!

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The Higher Up the Socioeconomic Status in Society, More Worried that it Would Damage the Image, and that the Fact that Abuse Happened Will Get Found Out

Because of their status, and they’re, victimized, and they feel, ashamed, which is why these high-profile cases of abuse are, underreported…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The legislator of the DDP, Kao was abused by her boyfriend, and the incident was found out fifteen days after it’d happened on the news media, that was when she’d gone to the police and pressed charges.  The manager of the National Jinan University International Domestic Violence Research Center, Wang stated, based off of researches, the females usually put up with their abuse silently for an average of six years, if it happened in the rich and famous, the women considered their status quo, their images, and, would select to remain silent about it even more.

Wang told, that whether it be women with a higher up status, they’d normally put up with the abuse, because they’d taken into considerations of the intimate relationship they shared with their abusers, the emotional attachments, even economics, the children, and families, it would be quite difficult, to work up the courage to tell; for those with a higher social status, more considerations are put in, including social image, the situation, so not getting help has nothing to do with bravery, but how the abused have their own timelines, knowing how far they needed to prepare, before any actions are, taken.

Wang said the acts of violence will come up slowly, if it’d happened once, then, it will certainly, happen twice, three times, and when the abuser realized that something isn’t right, and attempted to control the victim more by restricting the movements, using violence, or emotional, psychological threats, the women need to caution, “ZERO tolerance for violence” being the prime rule.

And so, most of these abused women, they have a lot to consider, when thinking on whether or not they should, come out to the open, especially if you’re famous like the legislator, it’s even harder, but, by not coming out into the open, you’re only signaling to the individual who’s abusing you, that s/he can, keep on doing it to you, and there’s, NOTHING you can do about it, because you’re afraid, of getting your reputation damaged, and the individual is going to keep on controlling you, because you’re, letting him.

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The Man Abused His Son, Kept His Wife Locked Up, Hidden His Family, & Lied to the Police

Being with, a man who abused you, and your child too!  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A woman, Chiu in Chiayi sent a private message via FB to a friend, that she and her one-year-old son were beaten up by her husband, Kuo after he was drunk, the friend passed the message out online to get help.  Two nights ago, the police found the message, and managed to get Chiu and her son out, arrested, Kuo; Kuo admitted to beating his son when he started crying.  The D.A. believed that Kuo had physically assaulted his own young, and obstructed the freedom of his own wife and son, asked the courts to mandate him into custody, on that he may do it again.  The courts mandated the bail to be set at $120,000N.T.s.

The Social Services of Chiayi stated that the social workers went with the mother and son to get their injuries documented, and helped them file for a restraining order, and they’d assessed that the child is safe under the mother’s care, that there’s no need to place him in a foster home, while Chiu had her friends’ assistance, relocated.

The local police on the 27th of this month, found a photo message of a one-year-old young child was suspected of getting slapped, sustained the facial injuries, Chiu, in her private messages told her friend, “He beats me, I can’t take it, older sister, get me out”, “He got angered again after drinking, he beat my child up…”.  The police immediately made the house calls, but they’d not seen Kuo, Chiu, or her son, they’d, used the cell phone GPS to track him down, found Kuo in Tainan, and notified the local authorities to help.

Two nights ago, the police went to Kuo’s residence again, and, Kuo was just entering into the house with Chiu and her son, the police immediately went in after him, Kuo first, stashed Chiu and her son on the second floor, told the police that she wasn’t home; the police called Kuo out on lying, that was when he took the two of them downstairs.

The officers found the child’s face to be, somewhat swollen, and Chiu also told them, that Kuo had confiscated her cell phone, she was, cut off from the outside world, the police immediately, arrested Kuo on obstruction of freedom.  Kuo also admitted to hitting his child for crying out of turn, to not stop crying when he’d told him to.

The local neighbors told, that Kuo is the young boy’s stepfather, before the New Year’s, the family moved back in, to Kuo’s home in Yizhu, that they’d heard, that Kuo would get violent with the son, and they were all shocked, as they saw the photos online, exclaimed, “how can he beat his child like that!”

 And so, this, was how this woman was, lucky enough, to get rescued out, she’d, found a way, to get the message of being trapped in an abusive relationship out to the online media, and, someone saw the message, and helped her, call the cops.

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