Caught him cheating, and so, it’s, break up time! Translated…
The summer evenings, with that, smoky, scent and the breezes so gentle, I’d asked the person I was into to a date at Bitan, and it was getting late, I’d worried, that he couldn’t make the final trains, I’d told him to, go ahead. Normally, it was me who watched her leave, but this time, he’d told, “every time I’d left before you, this time, I will, watch you go then.”, the two of us stood still at the gates, and I couldn’t, turn him down, and so I’d, told him, to be safe on his way home tonight.
It was midnight, as I was ready to pick up my scooter to ride him, I’d bumped into my professor who was just getting out of a dinner party. We’d chatted for a bit, as I’d, ridden out, readied to go home, I saw the passenger riding on the back of the electric scooter, she looked, more and more, familiar, and I was shocked to realize, that it was my date who’d said she will see me off first; at this time, he’d wrapped his arms around the waist of another man, the two were laughing and talking together.
It was like the primetime soap scripts, I was, shocked, afterwards I’d called him up, and he’d admitted that he had, many whom pursued him, that I was, merely, one of the, many. I got angry, and stopped all contacts with him, I’d told my friend about this, and he’d only smiled and responded, “thank heavens you found out early, the next one will be, better!”, I’d clasped my hands together, “Grateful I am to you, professor, you’re, with all the, foresights I needed!”
And so, had you not bumped into your professor on that night, you wouldn’t have been delayed, and had you not been delayed, and you wouldn’t have caught your boyfriend with another guy, and so, it was bumping into your professor, that was exactly what fate ordered for you, to find that your boyfriend was, a cheat!
We are NOT allowed to love who we want to love, because the LAW states, that the institution of a marriage exists only between a man AND a woman.
We are NOT allowed to love who we want to love, because the world is still, narrow-minded in accepting those who are different than the majority of populations, and those of us who don’t fit this “norm” are forced underground to live, to NEVER come out into the light, to stay inside the closets, LOCKED up.
We are NOT allowed to love who we want to love, the law won’t give us the right to love one another, because we are of the same gender. We are NOT husband and wife, not spouses, but, partners without the rights over our own way of life.
We are NOT allowed to love who we want to love, because that is how it is, we were born wrong, or so they hinted to us, but, there’s nothing wrong with our sexual orientation, it’s not as if, we can, choose our own sex, or the sex we love, opposite or the same!
The issues that came rushing up, after same-sex marriage is signed to become, “constitutional”…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
The singer, A-Mei’s agent, Chen and his lover Darren married last year, they’d posted the good news, they had a young infant son from a surrogate, it’d sparked up the debate on same sex marriage rights and surrogacy in this country. The infertilities experts pointed out, that it’d cost three, to four million dollars for same sex couples or heterosexual couples who are infertile to find surrogates overseas, and the adoption processes of after the child gets here, is quite grueling, and the infertility experts called out to the Department of Welfare Sanitations, to amend the laws, to legalize surrogacy.
Chen told, “as I saw the photos I’d started crying aloud, instead, Darren was, quite calm”, having the same last names, they’d nicknamed their son “Chen-Chen”, and currently, the infant is still in the U.S., he said he’d already found a Taiwanese nanny locally, that a month from now, the family will be together, he can’t hold back the excitement.
The two started trying to conceive at the start of 2019, and made the selections of ova, health examinations, harvesting their sperms, testing for the matches, etc., etc., etc., in the end, Darren’s sperm was used, to match up to an Asian female’s ovum, through the legalized surrogacy in U.S., the surrogate mother gave birth to “Chen-Chen” in the U.S., Chen told, that the most difficult part of the process is the outbreaks, causing a lot of the procedures to be adjusted and adapted constantly, that the cost ran up to about $4.5 million. Because Chen had NO childrearing experiences, he’d started looking for the advices online, and is considering taking the parenting classes, A-Mei was moved to tears, cried harder than Chen did.
A lot of the same-sex couples are facing similar trials of life, a lot of the gay men worked up the courage to come out of the closets to their own father, and said, “no matter what, I will have an offspring, to have someone to carry the family’s last names”. The long-term advocate for legalizing surrogacy, Chiao-Tzi Chen said, this is a common difficulty faced by a lot of the homosexual men, children are an important element of a marriage and of a family, but, for the infertile couples, Taiwan makes it impossible to find surrogacy, let alone, the same-sex couples.
Lee who’s an authority in infertility said, “it costs ten thousand U.S. for one in-vitro fertilization try, if more tests are required, then, add another, twenty thousand U.S., and the families need to pay the surrogate another three million N.T.s, and the whole cost runs up to about four million N.T.s to start up.
Lee said, the surrogate mothers provided the uterus, and during the time they are carrying, their lives are, restricted, most pregnancies takes 280 days, the costs to find a surrogate in U.S. is approximately $10,000N.T. a day; if the constitution can be amended here, then with the procedures set up by the law, it can protect the rights of the surrogates, to prevent the bridge of rights of the asking party; and he’d estimated that if the surrogacy is legalized here, it would only cost a million dollars N.T. here.
Lee stated, that waiting for the birth of the child, as the couple returned back to Taiwan, they needed to file for the adoption papers, then, the same-sex couple would become, rightful parents.
then, “implanting” into a woman’s, uterus comes next…
Chen said, from the experiences taken from U.S., because the conflicts of adoptions runs a lot higher than surrogacies, Taiwan needed to set up the fitting surrogate laws for the traditional couples here, and, as this gets set up, then, the priorities would be discussing the matters of surrogacies for the same-sex couples, and this will help reduce the problems brought on the declining birthrates.
Yeah, this is on advocating legalizing the process of surrogacy here in Taiwan, because right now, the same-sex couples are going abroad to find surrogates, because surrogacies aren’t legalized here yet, and, by legalizing surrogacy, the government is making our uteruses into “baby incubators”, when that is NOT what we women are, production MACHINES of babies, are we now? And there are not just the legal issues, but also, the morality concerns here to be considered.
The final gift of love, of acceptance, she’d, left, for her son to have, after she’d, passed away, translated…
The red-and-violet colored paperflower are in full bloom in the garden, she sat, in her wheelchair, with her son, pushing her around, going between the bushes, the wooden beams of the floral rack cut the sunshine into, chunks, and this is, a freeze frame of bliss, while the footsteps of death, are, quarantined, in another, space.
She was hospitalized from the complications of her lung cancer’s metastasis, stayed in the terminal ward now, and, just like most of the single mothers, she’d, worked hard, raised her son up to a man, and her son is, in the high-tech industries, making the top dollars too, and although, he’d, studied away, and worked in a city away from where she lives, the two of them mother and son, don’t see each other regularly, but she’d, firmly believed, that the youths, the breaking up of the earlier years in her marriage, what’s waiting toward the end, is the blessings she was, bound to receive, and yet, her blessings had, yet to be granted to her, and, she’s now, faced with death. I’d, consoled with her, that her son took a leave of absence for FOURTEEN days from work, just to stay by her side, that instead of wallowing in self-pity, she should instead, cherish this time she has with him, because this, was such, a rare occasions, when it’s just the two of them, mother, and son together!
“My empress, I’m here, for my shift. Sir, you can, head over to the bank to sort your business out, and worry not, the empress I shall keep, company of!” I’d, intentionally, bowed to her, as the ancient imperial times, she’d started, laughing, and told, that her mood’s lifted up since she started living here. Her son also told me, “thank you, aunty volunteer! Since my mother got here, her body stopped hurting and she’s, sleeping, better too!”
illustration from UDN.com
Seeing this wonderful kid off, she’d, smiled that satisfactory, smile, then, handed me her cell, wanted me to record her last words on voicefile for her, that was, the gift she has, for her son, and that, was the very first time I’d ever heard of someone using her last words, as a gift.
We’d, used the backdrop of the flowers in full bloom, and she’d, started, stating the words using the accent of Hakka speaking in Mandarin, told her son things. She’d felt, that she was always, someone, who’d, lowered her head, worked hard, and NEVER had the courage to, shoulder anything, so a lot of things, she’d, told her son to decide for her. And, she’d wanted to apologize to her son too, that she’d known of his secrets long ago, she just, didn’t say anything, she was, struggling with it, blamed herself, believed, that it was because she’d not shown him enough care and concern, to cause him to “turn” this way, then, she’d felt that if her son can have someone who’s, supportive of him, a partner for life, so what if, it’s another man that he’s, in love with? But, as she’s still living, she didn’t have the courage to face her son’s, “friend”, but, she offered them, her fullest, blessings now, this was, the only gift she can, leave, behind for them both………
As the fourteen days were up, her son left for work, on the noon, shortly after we’d, brushed her hair, bathed her body, she’d, set sail, to the, other side. I’d, handed the cell phone to her son, told him that his mother’s, last words were in the voice recordings.
As I past the waiting room of the families, I saw a good looking, older boy sitting, and my instinct told me, that he was, it, I’d asked him to head into the hospital ward, to be with his “friend”, and tell her thanks, goodbye, that aunt had already, given them, her, blessings.
After I took that boy to the ward, I’d gone to water the plants in the garden, and, that paperflower bloomed, even more, radiantly under the bright sunshine, and I’d, recalled how it was, when I’d, recorded her last words for her, and I’d started humming that oldie, “I want to give you the gift of love, wishing you, all the, happiness of the world…………”
This, is the final gift this mother gave to her son, and, the man’s homosexuality, must’ve, caused some unease in their lives, but, I’m sure, that after this man hears the recording of his mother’s, final words, he will realize, that she’d always been on his side…
Not free to love, as we chose, because we’re of the same gender, and, although laws are currently being passed, to okay same-sex marriages all over the places, we’re still, SHUNNED, by the public, like when we’d gone strolling, we held hands, and, people would look at us weird, making us both uneasy.
Not free to love, as we chose, well, you know what, I NEVER chose my sexual preferences, it’s just how I was born, and, there’s NO way, I can change, what’s already, genetically prewired.
Not free to love, as we chose, sure, there are so many countries that are currently passing laws, to okay same-sex marriage, but, would we all be considered, equals? Of course N-O-T, and, what IF me and my partner are both Catholics, and we wanted to be married, by a Catholic priest, in a Catholic church, oh no, no, I can already see their shocking faces: we’re NOT allowing GAYS or LESBIANS, to marry here, in this HOUSE of G-O-D!
Well, if God really, loved all of HIS children (there’s still SOOOOOOOOOOOOO many ways I can argue that!), then, why are we being given a hard time, in trying to marry who we love?
From someone’s firsthand experiences, from the Front Page Sections, translated…
Yesterday was the “No More Fears for Homosexuals Day”, the Taiwan Partnerships League had asked seven homosexual couples to share their stories with the public, and, “coming out of the closets” became the focus of the discussion.
There were over hundreds of the public who’d attended the forum, there were mothers with their children, and four members of the Taipei’s First All-Girls’ High School who came, in their school uniform, to conduct an interview. The very first gay couple who had an ad on their union, He, Wang, celebrated their third anniversary on May 19th, even bought the prepared cakes to share their joys with everybody else there.
A gay man, Lai who already received the blessings from his own father, had difficulties, coming out to his father two years ago, his father was the one who asked him if he was homosexual. Lai said, most homosexuals would hid for ten, twenty years, gained acceptance of who they are themselves, then, come out to their parents, and yet, the parents had no other choice, but to face the realities, “the parents of homosexual individuals in accepting their children, is harder than the homosexual individuals themselves; it is, a hard, and long road, taking the parents out of the closets with us.”
Lai’s father suggested that as the homosexual children come out, they’d wanted their parents to feel at ease, in the areas of health, academia, and life in general; but, coming out of the closets is only the first step, they’d still need to know and understand one another. He’d spoken truthfully, from before he didn’t interact with his son that much, when his son came out, he’d thought to himself, “Would I keep watching his backside, or, will I NOT even see the shadows he’d casted?”, after he’d accepted his son as he was, they’d become closer to one another.
Hsiang He, Tien-Ming Wang said, they’d treated one another’s parents with respect and filial piety since the very start, and so, they’d gained their supports from earlier on, and, each other’s parents and relatives had even turned into what made them so close to one another. They’d called out to the homosexuals who’d attended the forum, that they should all come out, “If you don’t come out, you’re not truthful to your own lives, you don’t take the responsibilities for yourselves, you’d interacted with your parents, through a screen.”
A physically handicapped homosexual, Vincent told, that he and his partner had introduced each other to one another’s families a very long time ago, it’s just that they didn’t tell the families that they are lovers, and the family was so grateful at how Wei-Wei is so kind to Vincent. Until once, his mother told others, “if something were to happen to Vincent in the future, ALL of his assets go to Wei-Wei, you all can’t fight him over it!”, that, was when Vincent learned, that his family had already accepted them, as a couple.
From this, you can see, that the support from the families is all too important, because families are the people whom you’re closest to, and, to disclose a part of who you are, is the hardest part, but, these homosexual couples had amazing members of their families who’d given them all the support they needed.
The love between two adults, helping each other out, they’re NOT hurting anybody else, what, is the problem here?
I can’t believe, that heaven is so narrow, that it won’t even tolerate real love………
Chen: as a Buddhist, I’d not feel the pressures of being homosexual. There’s no clear specifications of it in the Buddhist writings, perhaps, it has to do with the traditions of India, meaning that as Buddha came into being, there’s this openness to the relationship of man and woman, is much more open than the values that China had beheld, at least, not on the lecturing of the matters. Of course, when I’d heard the “masters” fitting “moral” of the beliefs of the religion to talk about homosexuals, I’d turned around immediately to leave, and never entered into that same place of god again.
“If you are to achieve true freedom, you must live in the reality.”, with this mindset, to get to know one’s religion, naturally, you wouldn’t stray from the right path—otherwise, there are a ton of “masters” who’d filled up the auditoriums, we can only follow their leads. Compare to other religions, Buddhism seemed to be more flexible, some of those who practice the values of Buddhism only dress up like those who worshipped Buddha, but, not becoming vegetarians, the Japanese monks are married with children, Dalai Lama eats beef, and even in the books of Xun Lu, it’d talked of how the monks from his hometown had wives, the Japanese Mishima Yukio talked of how there were gay monks, which was a trend that the monks from Japan got from the Monks in China, and, there were many of the levels of the masters of religion who believed this. And, with all of these affirmations, I’d fitted, comfortably, into the teachings of the Buddhist belief systems.
Ou-Yang: a lot of people asked me, why are you gay, and Christian at the same time, and you’re a pastor too? When the question came from homosexual non-Christians, because they understood, that they couldn’t choose their sexual preferences, but, one is able to choose, to be a Christian or not; they couldn’t understand why I’d stayed true to this religion that’s abandoned me. Heterosexual non-Christians also asked me this, because they couldn’t understand, that our sexuality was not mandated by god, thought that I’d chosen something that god was against on my own. And both groups don’t understand, that homosexuality is NOT what I’d chosen for myself, and that God couldn’t be opposed to homosexuals!
A lot of the Christians in Asia (the western world is more advanced in many ways, a lot of western Christians are so too), believed that God is anti-gay, but, they can never reasonably describe the reasons why God was anti-homosexuals, or why it is a great evil. And, you’d asked the people why The Holy Bible is anti-homosexuals, and he’d said, that being a homosexual is sin; you asked him why being a homosexual is sin? He’d replied, that because The Holy Bible is against homosexuals. And this just keeps on going back and forth, back and forth and it never gets old.
I’d insisted on coming out of the closet, even becoming a pastor, because I’m following the footstep of Christ, as he’d never been afraid, of facing those who are traditional and conservative in their religious beliefs, Jesus is like the teachers of great religions, never fearing to challenge the mainstream religion, not fearing to stand out. And, the great teachers of religions are even more sensitive toward the groups’ misbeliefs, and encouraged the followers, to think for themselves. Buddha once told his followers, to NOT blindly follow my teachings, to always test, to think for oneself. And Jesus also said to his audience, “Why don’t you consider for yourselves, what, is reasonable?” In other words, don’t be afraid to think, do fear thinking independently, “measure for yourselves, what, is reasonable.” Simply stated, don’t care about what traditions say, think about if the traditions are reasonable. This, is the spirits of reasoning and independent thinking. Christ not only once advocated thinking independently, once a group of individuals accused Christ of speaking up against what can and can’t be done on Sabbath, but Christ did it bravely, later he’d told…
So, it’s NOT religions that are against homosexuals, it’s the PEOPLE who twisted those religious teaching that made others believe that religions ARE against homosexuals, and, once again, religions IS not narrow-minded at all, it seems, it’s the people who PREACH about the religions who ARE narrow-minded, and, they’d used their influences to spread their narrow-mindedness to the public, and, because the public has absolutely NO clue, therefore, we’re still following their leads.
When I was a freshman in university, I’d worked at a fast-food restaurant, and met him, who’s a store manager.
We were so in-synch at work, and, because we’d worked together every single day, we’d gotten closer, and, even as we got off work, we’d still connected afterwards, to talk about work. And, as the conversations carried on, I started feeling something about him.
And, this best friend relationship lasted for almost a year. One day, he asked me if I wanted to go home with him, to Nantou, to visit his father, I was so happy on the inside, am I going to get rid of my “singles” status now? But, he’d never said to me, “Let’s date!”, and so, I’d, turned down his request.
Later on, he’d asked me out a couple more times, but, that key sentence still didn’t come.
In a certain employee gathering, I’d heard a guy said, “That day, the store manager asked me out to get some midnight snack, and he was behaving, kinda ‘weird’”, and, as the man told, I felt even more weird.
As I’d returned home, I’d used MSN asked him what was going on, he’d admitted, that the ex-girlfriends he’d talked of were actually younger schoolmates of his, from the member of the same sex—he’d truly hoped, that he could, fall in love with a woman, because he feared, that his father won’t accept him as he was. Meeting me, he thought, that it was, an opportunity. But in the end, it was still, members of the same sex that moved him so. Toward his truthfulness, there was nothing I could do, but cry, into the computer screen.
Later on, I’d quit, and, for a long time, I’d not talked to him, until one day, that familiar account popped back up again, and, he’d told me of the goings-on since I quit.
He’d told me, that he’d met a new guy, that they’re in a steady relationship, that his boyfriend’s mom treated him as if he were her own. After I’d worked hard, to get over him, I can already, give him my blessings, and, feel happy about, how we didn’t leave any blanks in our youthful days.
And so, this, is a man’s journey, in accepting himself as a homosexual, and, meeting up with this woman, he’d become more open to his own sexuality, and, no longer rejected who he was, and, because he was able, to see himself through truth, the world too, became more open for him.
Let’s see what happened here, shall we??? Translated…
My male coworker, Yo is married, his long-running eight years of love finally became fruitful, but, almost nobody knew about his marriage, including his parents, because his better half is not a woman, but a man.
Yo is a rare gem in all our views, not only is he handsome-looking, his maturity in thought, knowledge, and abilities, are all commended by us, his coworkers, and his superiors from work, and so, whenever there’s something important that needed to be accomplished, he’s always the first we’d named.
I’d worked with him for over a decade, but, I’d never seen him, who’s already over forty, with a girl by his side. There were a TON of colleagues or friends who wanted to match him up with someone, and, he’d turned all their offers down. Slowly, there were speculations about him that flowed around the office, but because none of us wanted to pry, his sexuality was still an enigma to us all.
Until many months ago, he’d gone on a trip with a friend to San Francisco for a month, after his return, he’d shared with me excitedly a certificate of partnership, and so, my question for multiple years had finally found the answers.
Yo said, he was once troubled by his own sexuality. Back when he was younger, in order to gain the acceptance, he’d dated ladies too, but, because he couldn’t put real emotion into the relationship, all of his heterosexual loves ended; he’d once gotten involved in a religious group, hoped that he could use “faith”, to correct his own sexual preferences, but, it’d only brought on more and more pains and sufferings for himself.
Yo met his better half online, on a social networking site, and because of their shared interests, similar values, and how they’d complemented one another, they’d become a couple for eight years now. Although like regular couples, arguments sometimes just can’t be avoided, but, they’d known one another by heart, it’d made them decide, to marry, and so, in the secrecy, of not many who knew about them together, they’d gone to San Francisco, a city that gives blessing to homosexual marriages. Without the blessings of friends and families, without the expensive wedding plans, Yo and his better half enjoyed this simple and sweet marital bliss.
In this day and age, when they’d ranted on and on about gay marriages, maybe, Yo’s marriage to his partner would be difficult, but I believe, that with their persistence and love for one another, they can, conquer the world.
So, this, is a success story, of how a man chased after his own love, and, there’s still NOTHING wrong with homosexuality, after all, that, was predisposed, when we were still, in utero, and, this man had finally found his happiness, and, his bravery should be applauded, shouldn’t it?
A British man who came here to teach English, Cameron, yesterday after getting drunk at a friend’s birthday party, went home, and fell from his fourteenth story home, and died; Tsai, his live in boyfriend said, that he suspected that he was sleepwalking, just wandered onto the lanai, and took the leap. The police investigated, there was NO medical records that this man was seeing a doctor for his sleep disorder, they’d found no signs of struggle in his residence, the police ruled out homicide, suspected that he may have been sleep walking, or semi-conscious and fell off the building.
Based off of understanding, the friend of the deceased had texted the cousin of the man, and, his cousin pointed out that he had problems of somnambulism. Tsai told the police that the deceased would often wake up in his dreams, screaming, or be awakened and scared from his nightmares, but the deceased had never mentioned that he had such a condition to him, and so, he wasn’t sure, if it was, somnambulism or not.
Based off of investigations, the twenty-eight year-old Cameron is homosexual, had been dating the Taiwanese man, Tsai (age 34). Two days ago, it was Cameron’s birthday, in the evenings, he had Tsai, and a group of their friends went celebrating, they’d first gone to a grill at Fuxing N. Road in Taipei, then, ran to two separate bars in Wanhua to continue the party, afterwards, Cameron and Tsai went back to their residence, and a friend, Kao crashed with them.
At around four in the morning, Cameron fell from the back lanai, as Tsai and Kao heard the loud sound, they rushed downstairs, and they saw Cameron, face down on the pavement, wearing nothing but his underwear; as the paramedics and the police rushed to the scene, they’d found him with a fractured skull, and multiple broken bones on his body, without any signs of life.
Tsai and Kao stated, that yesterday morning, Cameron had waken up from his dreams twice, to open the door, Tsai tried to stop him, closed the door, led him into the bathrooms; after Cameron went to the bathrooms, he went back to bed, then, he’d wandered about in the kitchen, the two other men thought he was getting a drink of water, not long afterwards, they’d heard a loud thud, they ran to the kitchen, but they couldn’t find him.
The police didn’t find a final note in his room, but there were signs of climbing on the back lanai, and a stool on the ground; and because the ledge was to the chest area, the police believed that it wasn’t at all possible, for him to have fallen over by accident, they believed that Cameron stood on the stool and jumped over the railings.
Tsai said, that during his birthday celebration, he had left for a short while, Cameron was not happy about it, they’d had a small silent treatment with one another, but no arguments. Kao said, that the two men seemed to be getting along very well, that evening, Cameron had too much to drink, but didn’t disclose his thoughts of suicide to his friends at all.
Based off of understanding, after he graduated from college, Cameron stayed in Seoul, South Korea, and he’d joined up with the YMCA in Taichung for the years he’d come here, works in a clothing store, is currently working as an English instructor. He is very popular, a lot of is foreign friends who didn’t know what happened still wished him a happy birthday on his Facebook pages.
And, you can take a wild guess, at what might have caused this man to commit suicide, can’t you? The fight he had with his boyfriend, or maybe, it’s his conflict with himself for being a homosexual, and now, nobody will ever know, because the man with all the answers is no longer here, and we can only speculate here…