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An Elderly Man in His Eighties Leapt the Building and Committed Suicide…His Final Note Was Taped to His Hands

Some bad news here, from the Newspapers, translated…

The eighty-one year-old elderly got tired of being ill for a very long time, early yesterday morning at around five, he’d climbed to the roof of his twelve-story building, took the leap downward, and died, the body was discovered, with a note, taped to the left hand, the families confirmed, that it was, in the elderly’s own handwriting, and, they have NO opinions of the police, ruling it as a suicide.

The police stated, that most who’d committed suicide would leave the last note where they’d leapt, or inside one’s own home, there would be rare incidents where the suicide notes were taped to the person who’d committed suicide, suspected, that Lin may fear, that after he was gone, nobody could find his final note, that, was why he’d taped it to himself, but, this action had made the police feel, that the cause of his death wasn’t so clear cut.

The police investigated, that the elderly and his three daughters and a son all lived in the same community in Sanchong District, but they all had apartment complexes, the elderly lived with a foreign bedside assistant; the family said, that the elderly had been diagnosed with multiple illnesses, Parkinson’s, bloating in his lungs, couldn’t control his bowel movements and bladder, before he’d died, he’d complained to them on how he’d wanted to die.

Yesterday at around five in the morn, the elderly man took advantage of the time when his bedside assistant was fast asleep, climbed to the roof of his twelve floor building, took the leap downward, as the neighbors heard the loud sound, at first, they thought that it was a gas explosion, and called the police to report it as a gas explosion, as the police came to the scene, they’d found the elderly man, lying in a pool of blood, with multiple fractures, and because the impact of him, hitting the ground was very hard, his right arm was severed from his torso, he was, clearly, dead.

In his suicide note, the elderly mentioned of how he’d been diagnosed with multiple serious condition, that he’s elderly, and didn’t want to be troublesome to his families; after the family members read the note, confirmed that it was in his handwriting, and didn’t have any rebuttal toward the police, ruling the man’s death as a suicide.

This, is what old age will look like, because you’re ill, and, you feel, that life isn’t worth anything anymore, so, you’d committed suicide, and maybe, being sick can get you in an awful mood, and, being elderly makes you think, that there’s not that much keeping you here, but, what about your children?  Or those who cared about, and loved you?

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Spent All Their Assets? The Mother and Her Two Sons Were Found to Have Committed Suicide in Their Mansion

The story of suicides, from the Front Page Sections, the cause being how the individuals can no longer handle the demands of the realities that they’re faced with, translated…

The forty-nine year old eldest son had cerebral palsy, was taken care of by his seventy-five year-old aging mother, the forty-six year old youngest would go outdoors when he’s hungry, they’d sold their storefront property just three years ago, and now, they’re thinking of selling the mansion they’re living in now.

Yesterday, a mansion in the Dali District of Taichung had the scent of dead corpse flowing from it, the police and fire department were called, they’d broken in, and found the seventy-five year-old elderly woman, Wu, along with her two sons, Hong, dead, in their second floor bedrooms, in the rooms, the firefighters found burnt charcoal on barbeque racks, and they’d suspected, that they’d been dead for over three days; the police suspected that it was the household economics that’s caused the three of them to commit suicide.

The police investigated, that the Hongs had sold their storefront property, just three years back, with the price of fifteen million dollars, that it was paid in cash, recently, there came the sounds of how the Hongs are pressured by the debts of three million dollars N.T., they’d asked to sell the property, the mansion they’re currently living in right now, but, they’d put the house on the market for six months, without any offers or prospect buyers at all, in March, they’d pulled it off the markets, and, whether or not they’d committed suicide because of their pressing debts, or was it because they couldn’t sell their property, to pay up the debts that they owed, it’s still in need of investigations.

At four in the afternoon, the police were notified, that there was a rancid odor coming from a mansion on Hsin-Fang Road of Dali District, the fire department arrived on scene, broke the door open, and found Wu, in her second floor bedroom, on her side, by the lounge chair by her own bed, Wu’s forty-nine year-old and forty-six year-old sons, on the bed, face up, the three of their bodies are already blackened and bloated, and the coroners believed, that they’d been dead, for over three days already.

The police said, that the bedroom door was sealed shut with towels, and there were barbeque stands set up at the scene, there was no outside forces that showed signs of a break in, nor were there suicide notes, as to whether or not the three of them had committed suicide, assisted one another in their own deaths, or, was it, caused by something from the outside, it’s yet to be clarified.

The police found, that Wu’s eldest son has cerebral palsy, and Wu took care of him by the day, and she’d gone to the nearby parks, to do her exercise dances; the youngest son was unemployed, and drawn in by the internet, the residents nearby told, that the youngest would only show his face outside when he was hungry, and would keep his eyes glued to the computers at home normally.

The police said, Hong’s father who’s a public office employee died a decade ago, and the family still gets half of the father’s retirement pension payments, Hong’s mother (Wu) receives money from the elderly assistance, the second son died by leaping off a building to commit suicide; the family had sold their storefront three years ago, and is with cash income, they seemed well off; six months ago, the youngest son wanted to sell the mansion they’re living in right now, but couldn’t agree on the price with a prospect buyer, so the deal broke off.

The realtor said, that six months ago, the Hongs asked him to help sell the property they’re staying at currently, the asking price was $1.88 million N.T.s, and there was a buyer who’d offered them $1.5 million N.T.s and was turned down, because the family was very rigid on the price that they’re asking, so, the deal never went through, and, this March, the realtor told them, that he couldn’t manage to sell their property for them.

So, this family is probably, pressed by money, but, there may be OTHER underlying reasons for their suicide, but, there’s no way that anybody can know that now, they’re all dead!

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Hearts Have Turned into Stone

Hearts have turned into stones, did they all, gaze upon, the head of Medusa?  Hearts that have turned into stones, what happened, to them, why were they all, petrified, frozen, in FEAR, did they all, go through something, unimaginable, to the human mind?

Hearts have turned into stone, and, there’s, NOTHING we can do about it, there’s NO way, of melting them again, because they’re all, solid now, and, putting them all through the sauna of ice and fire, still wouldn’t do ANY good at all!

Hearts have turned into stones, so, what do we do now?  Is there no way, we can, bring them all back again, NOT even by that first true love’s kiss?  Hearts have turned into stone, because of everything that they’d weathered, and, turning into stone became the ONLY methods that those hearts knew of, to protecting themselves, from getting hurt all over again, and so, turning to stone, they all will.

Hearts have turned into stone, there’s NOTHING we can do, but to, place them all, inside those ironclad boxes, then, bury them deep, into the grounds, without hoping, OR expecting, that one day, they will all, WAKE back up, or come to life once more…

Hearts have turned into stone, perhaps, it’s, all for the best, because at least, a heart that’s made of stone won’t bleed again, right???

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She’d Murdered Her Own Mother, Gotten High on Drugs, in a Daze for Five Hours…Then, Turned Herself in, to the Police

From the Front Page Sections, a tragedy of a family, translated…

She was displeased at her mother’s words, “You had dragged me and your younger sister down with you”, after she’d murdered her mother, she’d told her younger sister, “You’re finally free”, her younger sister told, “We had a very unhappy childhood…”

A thirty-one year-old woman Pan in Kaohsiung, because she hadn’t gotten along with her own mother for long period of time, two afternoons, she’d bought a fruit knife, gone to her mother’s place, to confront her, Pan started stabbing her mother using the fruit knife twice on the right side of her mother’s neck, the fifty-three year-old mother died, had her throat slit.

After Pan had murdered her mother, she’d started using ketamine, and fell into a daze next to her mother’s corpse, and five hours later, she’d told her younger sister what she’d done, told her younger sister, “You’re now, delivered from pain”, and was accompanied by her sister, to turn herself in.  After the D.A.s interrogated her, they’d asked her to be taken into custody, which was approved.

The police investigated, that Pan had medical history of being diagnosed with bipolar, is currently unemployed, and got into a drug habit, lived with her mother, who has a mildly mental illness manual, also diagnosed with bipolar mother, and the two of them would argue a lot, over the smallest matters.  A week ago, after Pan had a verbal altercation with her mother, her mother kicked her out of the house, and changed the lock on the door, and so, Pan could only move in with her younger sister.

When the police interrogated her, Pan told them, that lately, her mother had come to her younger sister’s place to harass her, she’d gotten more and more furious, as she thought about it, two afternoons ago at five in the afternoon, she’d gone to the marketplace, bought a fruit knife, at close to six in the evening, she ran back to her mother’s house, after the mother opened the door, they’d started fighting again shortly; the mother just kept putting her down over, and over, and over, and cussed at her, “You are the one who was dragging both me and your younger sister down!”, in a moment of heated anger, she took out the knife, SLASHED her mother on the right side of her neck twice hard, her mother fell, and, blood came pouring out of her neck.

In the process of hacking up her own mother, she’d accidentally cut herself on the left side of her own palm, she’d dressed her own wound, and washed the knife off, sat on the chair next to her mother’s dead body, started using ketamine; she left, at around a little past ten in the evening, rode her motorcycle to her younger sister’s, she’d accompanied her mother’s corpse for almost five hours after she’d killed her.

The moment Pan saw her younger sister, she’d told her, “I’d saved you from your miseries!”, the sister became confused at what she meant, and, after she’d forced the truth out of her sister, she’d learned that her older sister had murdered her mother; after the younger sister consoled with her for an hour, Pan finally turned herself in to the police in the early morning hours.

The police investigated, that Pan had two prior records of domestic violence, four years ago, she’d injured her own mother with a knife, after the police were called, they’d reported the incident to the Department of Social Services; last year in September, Pan became verbally abusive toward her mother, the mother notified the police, but never got a restraining order.

The man in charge of the local borough said, that Pan’s parents were divorced when she was young, eleven years ago, her mother moved into the borough with her, and back then, Pan still had a job, but five years ago, she got fired, and took to drug abuse, and, that, was when everything started going south; because neither the mother and her had work, they’d lived off of the mother’s handicap payments by the government, as well as her younger sister’s support, and the two of them would often argue about money, and, every time when the mother was unhappy, she’d kicked her daughter out.

The police disclosed, that because Pan didn’t have any money, she’d often starved, in the first half of March, she’d once taken a knife, to rob a super convenience store, called, “I’m going to ROB you!”, begged the cashiers to call it in, because she wanted to be on the “free meal plans of jail”.

After the incident, Pan’s younger sister didn’t blame her, and, toward the inquiries of the outside, she’d started crying, told, that her mother had been emotionally unstable for long term, would kick the doors down, and use verbal insults on the two of them a lot, that they had a very unhappy childhood, “Nobody would kill her/his mother without reasons at all.”, this was all too painful, for her older sister too.

The coroner examined, that the cause of Pan’s mother’s death was from the loss of too much blood of the severing of her right carotid, as well as her windpipes.

And so, she finally CRACKED, and, this, is still a BUILD-UP over time, and, because the woman was high on drugs, she’d become impulsive, and, unable to judge her own behaviors, and this, could’ve been avoided, had someone STEP in earlier, but, it wasn’t, because this had gone on, for WAY too long, and this time, the woman finally CRACKED!!!

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Marching Out of the Valleys of Depression, Don’t Give Up on the Treatments

Translated…

The incidence of the German Wings airplane, hitting into a mountain, causing 150 passengers to die, and, the black box that’s already been recovered shed some light to what actually happened, and the officials believed, that the crash was caused by the copilot, and confirmed that he had a history of depression, and had been hospitalized due to his suicidal attempts.

In recent years, because of the advances in medicine, the mental illness of depression became better known and understood, but, what is certain was, that depression CAN be treated, and the methods of treatment rnaged from biological, psychological and social ways, the writer of this article had been assisting patients long term, and offers a couple of suggestions, to make the treatments better accepted:

  1. Losing the Bad Reputation: the causes of psychological disorders are related to one’s physical wellbeing, getting treatment after being ill can greatly improve the chance of healing, from before, when the psychological disorders were thought to be untreatable, most of those who have it feel ashamed for having the troubles, and even stayed away from the doctors, this can only cause the illnesses to get worsened.

Actually, there are a wide variety of medication for depression to choose from, plus the variations of group of client-centered therapies, as well as family therapies, so long as the individuals are willing to face their conditions, not giving up on the treatments, there’s a huge chance that their lives are going to get normal.

2. Improving the Social Support Systems: the moods of the depressed individual can be improved with the help of medication, and, if the families and friends around the person are willing to listen, to accompany, it would help improve the motivation of the patients to get treated, and, the family can also help reduce the stressors in the living environment, thus, greatly reduces chances of relapses.

3. Be Patient as One is Undergoing Treatment: psychological illnesses are a long-term condition, even though, there are no apparent symptoms, the follow-ups are still needed, following a routine is a must, for instance, stay away from smoking, alcohol, illegal substances, not staying up all night long, pay special attention to one’s diets, sleep, exercises, etc., etc., etc., and, there are bound to be side effects to the medications, and you can learn, to adjust to accommodate yourselves to these side effects.

4. Establish a Sense of Pathology: most of those who were diagnosed, after treatment, will come to know one’s own condition better, and would worry that one might have moments of weakness where one does something one regrets, and so, the professionals encouraged to accompany those who were diagnosed with depression, other than going into therapy, the reminders of helping the patients feel better when the patients are beginning to spiral downward is also very important.This, is in the light of the airplane crash, where the pilot was depressed, but was still allowed to fly, and, it’s all in hindsight too, had this person gone through the needed measures for the treatment of his own depression, then, so many lives would’ve been spared, but they weren’t, and this, is still all, hindsight, working ITS magic!

The plane crash was very awful, but, we wouldn’t stay off of airplanes for the rest of our lives, because we knew, that this, was just an accident, that we can reduce the risks of it happening again, by applying the needed measures, like facing the psychological illnesses, the public can use a more proactive, more accepting attitude, through working in all areas, from prevention to treatment, to help those who are diagnosed, to have as normal a life as they possibly can.

This, is in the light of the airplane crash, where the pilot was depressed, but was still allowed to fly, and, it’s all in hindsight too, had this person gone through the needed measures for the treatment of his own depression, then, so many lives would’ve been spared, but they weren’t, and this, is still all, hindsight, working ITS magic!

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After He Was Released from Serving Time for Murdering a Pair of Sisters, He’d Murdered Another Woman…Managed to Escape the Death Penalty

Because his previous punishment wasn’t severe enough, and so, after his release from prison, he’d offended again, from the Newspapers, translated…

A man, Chen, with a history of mental illness, twelve years ago, murdered a pair of young sisters in their elementary years, five years ago, he’d falsely claimed that he was hiring a woman for a betel nut stand, and clubbed Lin, a woman who went to the interview to death, the Highest Courts on the first trial, believed that he could still be reformed, that there’s no need, to pass down the severe sentence on him, changed his sentence to life in prison, the High Courts yesterday, tossed the decision of the man’s appeal back.

The verdict pointed out, the thirty-three-year-old Chen during the month of April of 2003, drove a pair of elementary school sister in Banciao District of Hsinbei City to a small cabin underneath the Huazhong Bridge, and he’d murdered the young girls who were innocents, then, he’d disposed of their corpses into the Hsintien Creek, and, afterwards, in his trial, he fitted the criteria for reduced sentence because of his mental states, and the diagnosis of a mental disorder was confirmed by the hospitals, and the courts gave him twelve years in prison for certain.

But, after Chen served only six years, because of the amnesties, in July of 2009, he was released, the following year in October, he’d found a place to live in Hsinbei City, used the name of “Mr. Hsieh”, and posted out an ad that hired ladies to operate the betel stands, Lin saw the ad, and after she’d called him, she’d gone for an interview.

Because Lin kept asking to meet with the boss, Chen realized that his lies were about to went bust, and he’d used a baseball bat, clubbed the victim on the head, after Lin fell to the ground, she’d begged him to stop, Chen lied to the victim, that by taking FM2, a date rape drug can help alleviate the pains, he’d waited until Lin passed out, then, continually, clubbed the victim’s head, until Lin was dead.

Afterwards, Chen took off Lin’s shorts, ripped her top off, and wrapped her corpse with a quilt, then, wiped down the blood splatters across the walls, and he’d even gone out to buy himself food for lunch.  After Chen was caught, he’d claimed to be mentally ill, has dual-personalities, that it was the demon in him who’d killed, that it wasn’t him who’d done it.

For his first and second trials, the judge gave Chen the death penalties, but, the first appeal of the high courts believed that Chen can still be reformed, that there’s NO need to give him the death penalty, gave him life in prison, stripped his ability to take up a government post for life, yesterday, the Highest Courts tossed back the rulings, and the case is settled.

Wow, after you’d BRUTALLY murdered so many, the courts still believed that you still have the abilities of being reformed, what the F***!  And this man even tried to use the insanity plea, but gladly, nobody bought it, and, his behaviors are thought out carefully, his actions, planned.

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Overly Pursuit of Perfection Will Get You Easily Trapped by the Negative Feelings

A case study, translated…

Shu-Kai (a false name) is a thirty-seven year-old electronic company office manager, about a little over six months ago, he was transferred to a brand new department, and placed in charge of products he’d never been introduced to.  In after a little over six months hard work, day and nights, he’d spent nights at the office, but, there was, no progress.

And so, he’d started losing sleep, having heart palpitations, getting distracted easily, and, was troubled by his feelings of anxiety and depressed moods, he’d even spaced out in meetings.  The boss talked to him in private, asked him, “What’s happened to you, in the past, you’d never let me down.”, it’d made him want to find a hole in the ground to hide in.

Shu-Kai actually performed extremely well at work in the past, and was looked upon with great expectations by his boss, and that, was why his boss assigned him to this new project.  He’d told, that he had high expectations for himself, since he’d entered the workforce, he’d worked for his current boss for a decade, he’d often used the belief of “Shaming the Boss, Shaming Me”, and his performances, had never let his boss down.

In his psychotherapy, what I did, was I’d made Shu-Kai realize his own perfectionist personality traits, that it may cause negative influences on himself.  Being tough on oneself can surely make sure the job gets done right, but, having a very high standard, to the point of having a perfectionistic personality, can cause the person to be under great stress a lot, to the point that his body and mind became too imbalanced, and, his perfectionist traits then becomes a tripping stone to his own life.

Once, I’d asked Shu-Kai, “How do you think a person can live on happily?” he’d returned, that he’d always had a happy life, and got that sense of achievement he’d needed from work; and still, he’d also learned, that other than the satisfactions from work, there are NO other source of happiness or bliss in his life.

And, from time to time during the weekends, when he’d taken the kids and family out, his mind was still wrapped around work.  Even as he’d gone to the gym at the office for his workout, it was, for the purpose of recharging, so, he could get back to the drawing table with a fresh new perspective.  He’d sighed, and was shocked to discover, how much he’d put into work, and he’d commented, half-mad, “to my life, this, is like, placing a huge bet!”

In my years of counseling, I’d realized, that there are, many instances of pouring one’s heart and soul, in just one specific area of one’s own life.  Some would put everything into work, others, into families, children, relationship, and, when everything one cares about is well, then, life is grand.  And still, when things turned against the person, the person had a difficult time, adjusting, and may even, fall into the abyss of depression.

And so, I’d often recommended to the people, to NOT put all of one’s happiness nest eggs in one basket, actually, this, goes in correspondence with the Buddhist belief of “letting go of one’s own stubborn beliefs”.  Regularly, you must learn to balance out the source of your happiness, whether it be at work, in love, interpersonal relations, hobbies, and, the source of one’s sense of achievement, etc., etc., etc., to not focus on just one perspective, so you can spread out the risks; when something awful happens in your life, then, you will be able to, pull yourselves, out of the pains effectively.

This, is the bad thing that can happen, IF you’d placed too much hopes, dreams, expectations in just ONE area of your life, after all, in order to become more balanced, more well-rounded, a person needs to find ways to relax, to blow off steam, and, this man had been too focused on work, that he’d become maladjusted.

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