A Working Mom with a Special Needs Child

Because she didn’t want any special treatment from her coworkers, to allow them to make excuse for her lacking in performance from work, that’s why she’d kept her special needs child a secret, and now, her coworker knows, but, they’re, together on the same page, and will offer one another the support they are in need of at work, and in life as well now, translated…

Finally came, that long, awaited sun on the weekends, my husband called out to me to gather the items of a picnic, took the kids, we drove to a park in the suburbs.  The park was at the foot of that mountain, with a lot of acreage, with a parking lot; the plants there were, kept well, it’s a great place, and it’d been one of our favorite, sites to visit regularly.  What’s more amazing was, taking a few turns in the park, there was that quiet corner, with the shades from the trees, the grasses so green, it’s a best place to relax, our, “laziness headquarters”.  And yet, someone had already taken up the spot before we’d arrived there, and before we headed to find another place, the kids ran ahead, told us they wanted to see if the treasures they’d buried were still there.

illustration from UDN.com

There was a couple, underneath the tree, with their two children, the boy, about seven or eight, kicking a ball around close by.  There was a three, or four year old little girl, with her arms wrapped around her mom’s neck, facing me, with that look of innocence, she’s a Downs’s Syndrome baby.  I’d squinted at her, waved at her to say hello, she’d started, grinning ear to ear, then, she looked embarrassed, buried her head in her mother’s chest, with her daughter’s gaze, the mother turned her head, and, as soon as we were eye-to-eye, I saw her smile froze, there was that scent of, hesitation, then, immediately, she’d, called out, my name.

Jen and I worked for the same foreign trade company from before, last year, she was hired from another firm, because she was assertive, and can really work very hard, agile in her interpersonal skills, she’d immediately earned the trust of the owner of the company, and I’d heard, that she’d been put up for a higher up position that was available, she’d, had a smooth sail to the top in her work.  Although we’d not really friends from work, but, we were, both mothers, and exchanged the means of childrearing in the breakroom every now and then, but I’d never heard her mentions of a daughter with Downs’s Syndrome.  My husband and I walked to the corner opposite, set up the matting for the picnic, and started carrying on in conversation, then, my app started chiming, “Glad to see you by chance, I was wondering, can you keep the secret of my family to yourself?”, I’d felt surprised, I’d originally not planned to tell anyone, but, there’s no shame in having a Downs’s baby, so why would she need to hide it?

On Monday at lunch, she’d asked me to join her.  “You can tell, that my daughter is a Downs’s baby”.  I’d nodded, before I wanted to tell her that she didn’t need to explain it to me, she’d immediately carried on, “I’m not ashamed of her, I just hope…………”, she’d paused a bit, “to be treated on equal basis at work is all.”

As a mother, I’d understood the hardships of how working women needed balance the home and work.  I’d once stalled my plans to go abroad for the seminars because I got pregnant, and had had to take myself out of a meeting, because my child had an accident; not to mention how many chances of promotions I’d passed up, because I can’t put in the promised two-hundred percent mind.  “She has to go home to take care of her children”———maybe it was out of kindness, or maybe, my coworkers’ unnoted calculating means, in the workplace where it’s like going to war, this label became so hard and heavy, although it’d given me the time to be with my young, but, it’d, cast out all of my opportunities for advancements at work too.

And, at that moment, I’d understood, as a mother of a special needs child, all of these hardships, may not just have been multiplied, but, all of her dreams, all the visions she wanted for herself, and all she wanted, was to be, treated, equally like any other working woman.  I’d, extended my arms toward her hands that were, in knots, I’d given her an understanding smile, and that meal that we’d shared was, joyous, wonderful, and, nothing else needed to be, said.

And so, this is the hardships of being a mother to a special needs child, and a worker too, you have to keep the fact that your child is special needs a “secret”, because you don’t want any special treatments from work, you do NOT want others to define you based off of your role of a mother of a special needs child, and the writer’s understanding shown toward her coworker, is much appreciated.

Is it Statutory Rape, or, Abortion?

Or, could it, possibly (humor me here, even though, this had, gone, way, WAY, W-A-Y, past, funny!) be…

Is it, statutory rape, or, abortion, as the brand new ban on abortion is now, enforced, by the overturn or RvW.

And, where’s the rights to, OUR bodies, I mean, it is, our bodies that will be, carryin’ them all, little ones, unless, you would like to shapeshift, into, one of them, seahorse or leaf dragon daddies to carry your own children full term, and popping ‘em all out, or, are you guys, one of those, species of fishes that keeps the eggs inside of their mouths, until they hatched now, huh???

Is it, statutory rape, or is it, abortion?  It is, statutory rape, because the U.S. federal government now, imposes that BAN, on WHAT we women do with OUR bodies, and thus, that’s, equivalent to, violating, all our, rights.

It doesn’t matter what it’s called, a violation, is a violation, IS, a VIOLATION, and, the U.S. Supreme Court, composed of, all conservatives are, allowing for it.

And, we women are, totally, FUCKED (and your point being???) up, by the HIGHEST of the judiciary branch of, the good ol’, glory…

Where’s the glory in that, huh???  When you, violate our rights to, our bodies, huh???

But It’s Our, Bodies…

You Say that Roe vs. Wade is MURDER

But it’s Our, Bodies…

That at Conception, there’s, Something that’s Alive Inside

But it’s Our, Bodies

You Tell Us, that it’s Un-Christian, to Take a Life

But it’s Our, Bodies, Carrying Those, “Lives” (are they really noted as living at the moment of, conception???)

It’s just Not Right, that the Government Now Controls Over ALL of Our (Women’s) Reproductive Rights

But WHAT Can We Do?  We are Now, Second-Class Citizens of the Free World Here

And We Can Only, Allow the Government to DICTATE WHAT is to happen, and what isn’t to happen, with our bodies

Now Consider this:

Would this have happened, if it’s the MEN we’re talking about?

Of Course N-O-T!  ‘Cuz YOU LOSERS ain’t got what it takes to carry your babies, unless, you’re all, seahorses, sea dragons, but your not, or, are you all, kangaroos, with them, pouches here?

Of course NOT!

And you TAKE away the RIGHTS of our bodies???

The Castration of the Rights to Our Bodies

Thank GOD, that we women don’t got them, PENISES here!

The rights to our bodies, well, that’s, CASTRATED all right, by the U.S. Supreme Court decision, overturning RvW!  The castration of the rights to our bodies, well, we are now, breeding pigs, kept in those, tight corrals of the government, each one of us, inside our own, units of, existence, with the sounds of panic (push!  Push!  Push!).

The castration of the rights to our bodies, well, thanks, U.S. Supreme Court for RE-possessing the rights to our bodies, and if we die during child birth, oh well, who CARES, I’m mean, you’ll just find the next carrier, right?  The castration of the rights to our bodies, this, is what U.S. Supreme Court’s overturning of RvW does, and, it puts women’s right, back into, the CAVEMEN days (or maybe even way before???), where all we women can do, is stay inside those caves you’d built for us, taking care of those babies that are, popping out of our undersides, ‘cuz we ain’t got nothing else we need to do, but lie on our backs, waiting for all you mother FUCKERS (so???) to come back from killing the MEATS, and to hump us as a stress-relief, as we all know, how much energies you losers had drained, from chasing after those large game animals…

This is still, just one of many things, that men do, to TAKE the rights to how we women CHOOSE to live our lives from us, and, there’s nothing we can do, ‘cuz, CASE CLOSED, that GAVEL had, come down already!

This is still, way too, FUCKED (don’t pardon me here!) up…

The Politics of the Constitution of the Supreme Court Justice

EXCUSES, of why RvW is overturned, and it’s still based off of the individual court justices’ CONSERVATIVE views, it does NOT consider how it’s our bodies, our rights if we want to abort, if we don’t’ want to have babies, yeah, this takes women’s rights, back to the Cavemen Days when we’re supposed to just sit around inside them caves, and tend to the children, while all you mother FUCKERS (and no, don NOT pardon me on this!) go out hunting with your big, bad ass clubs (BAM!  BAM!)!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

On the twenty-fourth, the U.S. Supreme Court overturned the 1973 case of Roe vs. Wade, and the Casey case of 1992 on women’s right to have abortions, it’d caused the world, as well as the U.S. public’s attention.

The verdict of the Casey case was six to three, currently the makeup of conservative members and liberal members of the Supreme Court of the U.S. currently.  And so, the verdict of Amendment two on the twenty-third, with the verdict of overturning of Roe vs. Wade on the twenty-fourth, the verdicts from these two issues of controversy, we see, that the Supreme Court is controlled by the conservatives in majority.

There’s no single U.S. amendment that was on the right to abortion.  The Casey case verdict was based off of the precedent, respecting the verdict from Roe vs. Wade, in the women’s rights to abort, and it’d pointed out, that the right to abort was protected by the fourteenth amendment the “Freedom” clause of the U.S. Constitution.

under the Supreme Court ruling to overturning Roe vs. Wade, this is what we women will become…

the BIG fat one, not those tiny little ones, fighting for the TITS! Photo from online

Alito, who’d written most of the opinions of the Supreme Court believed, that not all freedoms are guaranteed by the unlisted freedoms of the fourteenth amendment, that the freedom and rights should be “from the deeply rooted American history and tradition, and this being a vital part of the orderly government of freedom”, that’s why the restrictions were set, to keep the supreme court justices to abuse the power, and select freely whichever side they preferred to be on.  Justice Alito analyzed the past histories, the traditions, the general laws, the state laws on the matter of abortion, believed, that the right to abortion is NOT rooted down in American history, or tradition, that it doesn’t belong to the “orderly freedom” that’s absolutely necessary to the people.

If the laws are based off of the deeply rooted American histories and traditions, then, all of the past Supreme Court decisions regarding personal rights to decide (same-sex marriages, contraception, marriage, even the 2015 decision for the rights of same-sex couple to be married), may never pass this test.  But, Alito did NOT challenge any of these on whether or not it’s personal freedom, and stressed that the right to abortion is totally different, as it involved the “life of a fetus” or “someone unborn”, meaning, that having an abortion will hurt the potential of a life that is existing.

The American court systems stressed that they’d reviewed over the precedence, so how can the Supreme Court overrule these two major decisions that came before?  Those who are on the other end of the opinions believed, that principally, the Supreme Court should upheld the rulings that came before, unless there are the evidence of major changes in law or facts of the case.  But most opinions believed, if the verdict was faulty from the start, then, it can be, overturned, there’s no need to wait for time to prove, to have these drastic changes legally and factually.

There were many articles on the five problems that the supreme court justices’ means of overturning Roe vs. Wade and the Casey case.  No matter if the majority of opinions are correct or not on providing the evidence to overturn the previous decisions, at least, work hard to set up a set of standards, and describe why these standards fitted to current situations, that the courts can overturn any of the cases that had already been ruled on.

And this still just showed, that these supreme court justice are ruling over these debatable issues based off of their own preference, they do NOT give a flying @#$% (trying not to “swear” too much here!) about precedence, bluntly stated, they’re ALL conservatives, and conservatives are against same-sex marriages, abortions, etc., etc., etc., etc., because it’s un-Christian, that’s what it worlds down to, and it’s still bullshit, because it neglected the right of us women, took away the right of our bodies, and, gave the right of our bodies to the federal government, so yeah, we’d all become, breeding pigs, ladies, now, start crankin’ ‘em all out here, heaven KNOWS we need to repopulate this planet!

The U.S. Supreme Court’s Overturning Roe vs. Wade, the Two Sides Stood Opposite, Causing Impact on the Global Community

The U.S. is only that very first domino, following this, there will be more countries, with the extreme conservatives or extreme radicals that take over, and this will have gone to H-E-L-L!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The major news of the U.S. recently is the Supreme Court’s overturned Roe v. Wade from fifty years ago.

And, as I’d read the responses from the website, most of the messages left were all of confusion.  After all, every year, during the month of July, the important part of “helping the soul pass on” is on helping those unborn pass on.  Based off of Taiwanese beliefs, the souls of the aborted won’t be able to reincarnate, and they will stay by the parents eternally.  And I suppose, that the Taiwanese may not agree with the right-wing of the U.S.’s “right to life” beliefs?

I also read the posts from my friends in the U.S., they are all clear on the sides.  Actually, most of the universities in the U.S. leaned toward the left, and I’d often heard of the newest trends in marriage from my friends; but every year around Thanksgiving, Christmas, it’s always the conservative churchgoers who’d invited the students who can’t go home to celebrate with them.  Once I’d read a short story by Michael Cunningham, about a man who’d found his wife’s younger brother on drugs, and worried of whether or not he should disclose it to his wife, then realized, that keeping what he knew to himself, the courtesy from this, was the way to survive in the society.  But the social media had cause, this matter to spin out of control, even though there were those who’d believed that it doesn’t affect them, they’d only posted their own opinions, reblogged someone else’s articles, and they got labeled, and after the wars of the pens, they received a thumbs up seal.

The politicians in the U.S. surely took advantage of this, turned the debate into a national affair.  For instance, the senator, Cruz who is famed in Taiwan for speaking up against China stated, “this is a huge success for life”, while the American President, Biden stated, “Wade is on the ticket of election this fall”.  The Mid-Terms elections are coming up in the U.S. in the fall, inflation caused the Americans to feel furious, and Biden had used the abortion laws to shift the focus of the war of ideologies, and maybe, it’s what will help the Democrats win.

protests all over the U.S. on the Supreme Court ruling

the pro-life! Photo from online

From the practical side, this decision by the Supreme Court, it’d given the right to ban abortions to the states individually, but currently, the situational (for instance, rape, abnormal fetus) abortions can be performed, if the women needed to go to another state to get the abortions, what sort of economic help can they receive, all of these, seemed to be the anti-abortion of the extreme right’s to get the laws set up.  Or maybe the left had come lately, and was hit too fast, or maybe, the Democrats were planning to focus themselves wholly on the election of the latter of this year, and expected the debates to get too hot, to the point, that there’s no, turning back.

Should the constitution stay neutral in the matter of abortions?  Had all Trump’s supporters never had an abortion?  Is voting democrat meaning the voters supported abortion?  The features of a democracy became clear as day in this matter, the three supreme court justice that Trump had put into the supreme court kept the rightist at a majority advantage, and they all voted according to the values of the Republican party, and people don’t need to listen, or watch, and they immediately decide on the right or wrong, based off of stereotypes, who they should support, who they should ban, so scary, this hyperpolarization!

And the American President Biden criticized harshly, that the Supreme Court had taken the U.S. back 250 years; but what I’m most worried is, that the either/or of the culture of election will take the global community back one hundred fifty years.

and the Pro-Choice!

photo from online

And so, this is how it goes, because the extremists got their ways in the U.S., there’s that shift in power, and this is only the first domino that got tipped over, because with the U.S. setting this precedent, there will be more countries’ extreme left or right groups tilting the balance in their countries separately, until, all dominoes fall flat, and there’s gonna be a HUGE spill on AISLE three!

Who the HELL put the firewood and GASOLINE for the barbecue cook-offs next to the rotisserie chicken anyway???

Utah GOP State Rep On Roe Overturn: I Trust Women Enough To Control Their “Intake Of Semen” — Scottie’s Playtime

Utah GOP State Rep On Roe Overturn: I Trust Women Enough To Control Their “Intake Of Semen” [Video] The Salt Lake Tribune reports: Republican lawmakers and Utah politicos celebrated the Supreme Court’s decision to overturn Roe v. Wade on Friday, with one legislator saying she trusted Utah women “to control [their] intake of semen.” Rep. Karianne Lisonbee […]

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The U.S. Supreme Court: the Right to Abortion No Longer Protected Under the Constitution

Women who were raped who got pregnant, or impregnated through incest in the U.S. now, won’t be allowed to get abortions, as the U.S. Supreme Courts STRIPPED the rights of women’s bodies from them!  This is women’s rights going back, into the DARK AGES in the U.S., but hey, what can we do, we got those CONSERVATIVES across the benches in the U.S. Supreme Court there, and women are more than likely, to seek out, more dangerous means to kill off the fetuses that they don’t want to give birth to now, I’m sure, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Planned Parenthood Clinics in South Dakota and Wisconsin stopped taking the registrations.

The Washington Post pointed out, that in the primarily Republican states, many of the clinics that had offered women the services of abortions had already halted the appointments.  And, for the primarily Democratic states, the abortion clinics will be faced with abortions being illegalized, then, the workers at these clinics in these states will be dealing with the cancellations of the appointments of women who wanted abortions.

Washington Post pointed out, that the abortion clinics in both South Dakota and Wisconsin had now shifted their focus on helping women to go to other states where abortion hadn’t been illegalized yet.

After the verdict from the Supreme Court was handed down, South Dakota law will initiate the anti-abortion laws.  The four Planned Parenthood clinics located in Wisconsin had not registered any woman for their abortion appointment since June 25^th.  Toward women who are soliciting advice on abortion, the workers in the clinic suggested them to go out of state to get their abortions.

The history of Wisconsin’s banning abortions can be traced to as early as 1948, if Roe vs. Wade is overturned by the Supreme Court, then, the state will go back to enforcing the law before Roe vs. Wade came about.

Based off of Texas law, as Roe vs. Wade is overturned, within thirty days of the verdict, the abortion services provided in the state of Texas would be a felony.

And so, this is how the U.S. stopped caring of the rights of we women, not allowing us to get the abortions, even IF it was from a rape, or incest, because there’s nothing BUT the conservatives sitting across the benches of the U.S. Supreme Courts, throwing women’s rights to their bodies, down into the toilet, then, pressing that flush button, and watching everything swirl, ‘round, and ‘round, and ‘round.

Women are getting SCREWED over here, and yet, that’s’ how the Supreme Court of the U.S. ruled on the matter, because the CONSERVATIVES now run the country!

Childrearing isn’t Only the Mothers’ Responsibilities

TOTALLY, I-N-F-U-R-I-A-T-I-N-G, how the societies still used these sexist beliefs of gender roles, of what we women should be, to PUT us in our, places, translated…

As I finished my maternity leave, I’d returned back to work.  During the maternity leave, I’d found, that there are still, a ton of, prejudices that societies have toward stay-at-home moms.

“So and so got her education from N.T.U., look at her now, at home, raising the kids!  Why would you waste all that time on getting that higher education degree……………”, “the daughter-in-law of Mrs. Wang from next door took her maternity leave, she’d never returned back to work again, leaving all the bread winning to her husband solely!”, the ladies had often, whispered all of this into my ears, adding on to the end, “you’d made the right decision, returning back to work!”

To tell the truth, I don’t feel the least bit glad hearing this, instead, I’d felt, more uneven.

After I became a mother, I’d found, that working as a mother full-time, is something too difficult.  Maintaining the normal “functioning” of the households, taking care of every need, small or large of our young, and, we had to take in all the sarcasms, the mockeries that the outside world has, over how we’re, sitting at home, and doing, nothing, and surely, for some, full-time mothers, they are, not doing much, but, more mothers in the society are doing everything they possibly can, to keep the family members happy and well, taking care every tiny corner of their own, homes.

So our other half can work without worries, no need to worry too excessively over the tiny matters at home, allowing the children to grow up happy and safe, in the care of their mothers, watching over them; when situations happen, to handle any and everything that came, should we NOT, get commended, to offering, our services to our own, families like so?

Especially in the job interviews, women often get asked, “as a mother with children, how do you balance taking care of your family, and staying focused at work?” but we rarely see, that men get asked this same question.  And, the underlying of this question, would it not be, hinting at, how the taking care of the families’ needs, are all the mothers’, responsibilities?

This question had, circled around, in my mind, and it’d, made me realized, that these, traditional, sexist beliefs of gender roles can’t be, easily altered; then, start with, our generation then!  No matter what role we’re playing in our separate families, do GIVE more respect to those women who are, full-time mothers, and the full-time workers too.

This is still, just BULLSHIT!  I mean, what the FUCK (don’t pardon me here!), makes you, the world out there think, that wow, because we’re staying at home, looking after our families, not making that five-digit paychecks, we’re not contributing enough to our, separate, families, and, NEWSFLASH people, this is exactly what’s keeping us women, getting the SAME pay rates as you mother @#$%ERS out there, because we’re the ones, carrying YOUR babies, we deserve to get shunned for not making enough MONEY, to contribute to the families?  Is that it?  Well, let’s see, how much we would be paid for EVERY little item on the “job description” list: as the cook…that’s, 365 days a year, a time and a half of OTs on the weekends, the holidays, the laundry ladies, fifty two times per year, etc., etc., etc., not, press that “sum button” on that, “cashier’s register” and we’d have???  INFINITE dollars, so, how much can you pay, for all our, “services” here, huh?

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