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Legalizing the Abandonment of Newborn Infants

You DO realize, now, this, is THE BIGGEST “HOLE” in the government systems, that allows those god DAMN parents, to abandon their young with absolutely NO legal consequences, right???  And tell that you don’t think this, is too MESSED UP!!!  From Yahoo!.com

Washington (AFP) – It could easily be mistaken for a mailbox, except that one side of it is riddled with air holes.

It’s a “baby box” — for parents who wish to anonymously give up their newborns.

About a dozen European countries, as well as China, Japan, Malaysia and South Korea already use similar systems.

Indiana could be the first US state to install them, but the plan is facing stiff opposition from those who say it could keep the mother from receiving needed medical care.

“No shame, no blame, no names,” said Monica Kelsey, a firefighter and medic who heads Safe Haven Baby Boxes.

Indiana already has a Safe Haven law allowing parents to anonymously leave their children at a hospital, fire station or police station.

But state representative Casey Cox, who drafted baby box legislation that was passed by the Indiana House of Representatives and awaits a vote in the state Senate, noted that parents were sometimes “unaware” of the safe havens.

“The sheer anxiety of the face-to-face interaction required by an existing safe haven may cause some troubled parents to refuse to utilize the program,” said Cox, a Republican.

Kelsey, who worked with Cox on the bill, sees the boxes as an “extension” of the Safe Haven law. Her mother, a rape victim, abandoned her at a hospital.

The law’s proponents promise that the boxes will be climate-controlled, and be equipped with an alarm system so that the abandoned baby can quickly receive care.

Cox also said that his proposed baby boxes are an “alternative to abandonment and abortion,” fiercely opposed by conservatives.

But others say the legislation would create an unsettling precedent.

– Reinforced ‘shame’ –

“Baby boxes remove the chance for a mother to be offered medical care and supportive services,” said Dawn Geras, the president of Save Abandoned Babies, which is based in neighboring Illinois

“About 25 percent of parents who come to a safe haven, initially planning to use the Safe Haven law, when given the opportunity to talk about options, chose to either make an adoption or parenting plan.”

According to Geras, “safe haven” laws passed across the country since 1999 have helped save some 2,866 babies, including 1,324 that were abandoned.

By leaving their child in a box, the parents also lack the comfort of placing the baby in someone’s arms.

“Instead, the idea that what she is doing is ‘bad’ and something that she should feel ashamed about is reinforced,” Geras added, referring to any mother who leaves her child.

– Historical precedent –

The practice of abandoning the youngest children was common during the Middle Ages in Europe. It largely disappeared in the 19th century, but resurfaced in Germany in 1999, after babies were found frozen to death.

In France, where abandoning children is illegal, women can give birth anonymously and surrender the baby to the state.

Laury Oaks, who chairs the Department of Feminist Studies at the University of California Santa Barbara, says instead of heralding baby boxes as a solution, governments should attack the underlying problems.

“It is our political and social responsibility to reveal and eliminate the social injustices that coerce some women and girls to relinquish the right to raise their newborns or to ever have future contact with them,” Oaks, author of the upcoming book “Giving Up Baby,” wrote in a blog post.

Oaks said by trumpeting baby boxes as a step forward, the “underlying anti-abortion and pro-adoption views held by vocal safe haven advocates” are downplayed.

She suggested that one should “critically question the safe haven assumption that a good mother relinquishes her newborn anonymously as an act of maternal love.”

The United Nations has also expressed concern over the baby box practice, and asserted a child’s right to know its origins.

This, is just another way of giving those “two consenting ADULTS” who’d FUCKED, to have the reasons, to NOT take the FULL responsibilities for their own FUCKED up behaviors, and, I do NOT care, IF you think, that this will eliminate the number of fetuses getting ABORTED, or that it could appease to the Catholics, or whatever, this will BE an excuse, for those IRRESPONSIBLE parents, to keep popping ‘em out, like how rabbits DO it, and that, is just, WRONG, if you ask me, but hey, WHO asked me, right???  Uh-huh, uh-huh (looking DOWN at my watch, uh, yeah, as IF I’m wearing one!!!), oopsy, that’s ALL the time “we” have right now, feel free to SCHEDULE ANOTHER session with my secretaries outside (my big office???), you DO know them (my secretaries???), right?  Ms. B(eelzebub), Ms. S(atan), and, Ms. L(ucifer), and, currently, they’re taking EIGHT hour shifts sitting OUTSIDE this “office” of mine, and, I still don’t NEED to PAY any of those “ladies”, “they” work for me, for F-R-E-E!!!

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You Shouldn’t Have Any Romanticisms Toward Alzheimer’s Disease

From the Front Page Sections, translated…

Forget all the pains, to restart again in life?

The film, “I Miss Myself”, because the actress won the best actress of Oscar, it’d left a huge impact and after effect, a lot of older men and women headed off into the theatres to watch, causing the sales of this movie to continue to rise, and, Alzheimer’s Disease also got its widened recognition by the societies.

The average age of man keeps on increasing, with the aging of the societies, Alzheimer’s Disease (or dementia) became the hot topic of discussion, and, there are, more and more elderly persons who are being diagnosed.

Awhile ago, someone mentioned, that although having Alzheimer’s Disease is tough, but at least, one can forget about the pains and sufferings of one’s own pasts, like life’s being redealt again, and that the patients have another chance to live all over again, so, they wouldn’t reject the onset of this illness, they’d  even, welcomed it.  The writer believes, however, that this sort of dreamy romanticism had overly beautified and bubble-wrapped Alzheimer’s Disease, and ignored the realities of having Alzheimer’s Disease.

This condition is due to illness of the brain, in the latter stage, the brain will clearly shrink in size, and the brains, due to the changes in the proteins, will cause an originally intelligent person to have alters in her/his personalities, to the point of becoming mentally retarded, to problems with speech and language, losing control over one’s bowel movements, to the point when one becomes completely, vegetative.  The patients in the end, would forget who they are, their families and loved ones, forget the world, although the pains of one’s past will be gone with the wind, but, the inability of taking care of one’s own daily needs would bring more troubles to the family and oneself, and, the society will be paying a huge price too.

“The spring brings about the bloom of the different flowers, the autumn has the moon, the gentle breezes graced the summers, the snows in the winter seasons”, there are bound, to be ups and downs in life, it’s not at all, easy, to forget the bad things that one’s been put through, but, one can start by forgiving others, and thus, release oneself, and one can easily find the mercies and the wisdoms of life in that.  And, there’s an exciting news, Professor Snowden who wrote, Aging Gracefully, used his longitudinal study of seventy-eight nuns, and found, that wisdom, clarity, and helping others can make the older adults live longer, healthier, and have more meaningful lives.

And so, you still didn’t JUST hear this from me, and, unless, you ARE a family member of someone who’s been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, and had DEALT with the issues surrounding this illness of old age firsthand, you are still, just on the outside, looking in, which gives you NO clue, OR right to say that oh, Alzheimer’s is great, because you get to forget about everything that made you upset…

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Fraternity Crackdown: Universities are Clamping Down Hard, But Do the Bans Work?

I really want to say, that this, is on organized activities (or rather, CRIMES!!!), but, I’m afraid of gettin’ SHOT at, so, from NBCNEWS.com, by: J. Schuppe…

In February 2002, a 21-year-old junior at Alfred University in upstate New York was found dead in a creek after taking a beating from his fraternity brothers at Zeta Beta Tau.

Although authorities couldn’t prove the blows caused the young man’s death, the circumstances prompted school officials to conclude, after years of trying to reform Greek culture on campus, that frats weren’t worth saving. “The Greek system is beyond repair,” the chairman of the school’s board said at the time.

The decision to ban fraternities came during a period of heightened scrutiny on university campuses across the country, in which a number of colleges eliminated school-sanctioned Greek life in response to allegations of binge drinking, hazing and sex assault. Alfred was on the vanguard of a movement that has been gaining momentum ever since, leading to a new wave of crackdowns that have grabbed the nation’s attention, driven by growing sensitivity to campus violence and discrimination, pressure from authorities on sexual assault, liability issues and the power of social media.

The latest example occurred last weekend at Oklahoma University, where officials shut down the Sigma Alpha Epsilon fraternity after members were caught on video chanting a racial slur. The school joins John Hopkins University, MIT, Duke and Texas Tech among many universities that took action in recent months against individual fraternities in response to allegations of rape or hazing.

“I truly believe that prevention of hazing and other problematic behavior is possible … But it takes a concentrated effort, a strategic plan, resources and institutional will for that to occur.”

But even those were minor disciplinary matters in comparison to what happened last year at University of Virginia, University of West Virginia, Clemson University, Emory University and Amherst College — all of which curtailed or completely suspended Greek activities. And those moves followed attempts by Wesleyan University, Trinity College and several other small schools in the Northeast to force fraternities to accept women in an effort to water down testosterone-fueled problems.

“If students are showing dangerous behavior or taking different types of risks, it’s up to us to step in to try to grab their attention and say, ‘This is unacceptable,'” said Corey Farris, dean of students at West Virginia University, which lifted its suspension in January after working with the fraternities to improve their codes of conduct. “I also think there’s a cultural shift where society and parents are less tolerant of it. And people are more willing to step up and speak out.”

A 2007 study found that fraternity members are three times more likely to commit rape than non-members. A 2009 study by NASPA, a national association representing student affairs administrators, found that 86 percent of fraternity house residents binge-drank, as opposed to 45 percent of non-fraternity men. A recent analysis by Bloomberg News revealed more than 60 deaths related to fraternity activities since 2005, and many more injuries and sex assaults.

Last spring, the Obama Administration released the names of 55 colleges and universities that were under investigation by the U.S. Department of Education for their handling of sexual abuse complaints, a way to pressure schools to implement reforms.

The fraternities, whose membership continues to grow — there are now an estimated 350,000 campus members nationwide — have also spoken out. Its lobbying group, the North-American Intrafraternity Conference, has challenged efforts to end Greek life on many campuses. In many instances, the group has helped roll back proposed bans. Among its arguments is that bans inhibit freedoms of expression and association. Another is that bans do nothing to encourage cooperative efforts to improve campus life.

“NIC is against the unilateral suspension of fraternal organizations because it’s not the right way to address the issues the community is facing,” Pete Smithhisler, the group’s president, said. “Suspensions of groups is just putting band-aids on the situation.”

The small liberal arts schools that were among the earliest to ban fraternities from their campuses — Williams College, Alfred University, Bowdoin College, Middlebury College, Colby College, Santa Clara College — express little regret about their decisions. In some cases, underground off-campus fraternities sprouted up, but many of them say that they see less misconduct and more tolerant and inclusive attitudes.

Norm Pollard, dean of students at Alfred University, said the school recognized a lot of the positive guidance fraternities provided young men. But it found that co-education clubs, activities, leadership development opportunities and social outlets more than made up for the loss of Greek life.

Pollard acknowledged that it was difficult to measure whether the 2002 ban had a direct effect on students’ behavior. But he sees many positive signs. The local police say they don’t respond to as many raging parties. And there’s been a decrease in substance abuse violations.

“I truly believe that prevention of hazing and other problematic behavior is possible,” Pollard said. “But it takes a concentrated effort, a strategic plan, resources and institutional will for that to occur.”

All of these stats about fraternities exists, due to how there’s still, that need for acceptance by those newly initiated members, because it would be their FIRST year in school, and, they desperately needed a place to belong to, someone who watches out for them, and, that, is why fraternities and sororities appealed very much to those freshmen, and, if you think about it, it’s actually gang like, because what OTHER organizations have “initiations”, gangs, that, is all I can think of, and, fraternity is correlated to the organized CRIMES, after all, in order, to be accepted as a “brother” or a “sister”, a person would be willing to do, JUST about ANY and EVERYTHING, to get in, to become, a part of the group, because, NOBODY wanted to become an OUTCAST, someone who’s AT the bottom of the FOOD CHAINS…

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Why Couldn’t She Care For Her Own Mother & Older Sister Back Home?

Because we’re already married, and, it’s NO longer our responsibilities to, but we’re still asked to, because we are, daughters!!!  A Q&A, translated…

Mr. C felt taken for his good friend, Madam A’s situation…

The sixty-year-old Madam A since she retired from a teaching post in a public school, she’d gotten the monthly retirement pensions.  Her eighty-five year-old elderly demented mother who had a stroke was left in the care of her never-married, eldest sister, who’d helped put A through her schooling to handle.  But now, her eldest sister is getting older too, and was without a job, and could no longer care for their mother.  A was grateful toward her older sister for her kindness, and thought, that the caretaking of the mother, they should shoulder together, and so, asked her husband if she could use a part of her monthly retirement pension, to put into helping her eldest sister and mother, but, the husband was strong and forceful in denying her the rights, and, put strict restrictions on her accounts.

Later on, A couldn’t put up with how her husband had insulted her own families, left her own home, and, used the money she’d earned to help make the ends of her, her eldest sister, and her mother’s livelihoods meet, but the husband said horrible things about her endlessly.  A wanted to divorce, but she couldn’t abandon her only daughter who is living and working overseas, what, is she to do?

A My Advice…

All the earnings that A brings in, was allotted by her husband, and, the husband treated his own family of origin with generosity, but, his in-laws with stingy, he’d used double-standards.  Her husband had put up the money for his own younger brother during the holidays for a very long time, and even covered the expenses of his trips abroad, and A had never said anything about it.

Four years ago, when A’s mother had surgery on her uterus, she’d put up the medical bills of $50,000N.T. herself, back then, her husband was abroad, and, he’d thrown a FIT after he’d returned, claimed that when his mother-in-law sells the house, he will get the medical expenses back.  And now, her mother became demented and had a stroke, her husband had used even harsher words, “Your mother and eldest sister are the TUMORS of our marriage!  BAGGAGE!”

This never-ending insult, caused A to be on the verge of a mental breakdown, she’d wanted divorced, but worried about the effects it would have on her grown daughter, she couldn’t make up her mind about it.

If A really wanted to divorce, her grown daughter is not the issue here, the important thing is, is there nothing left between her and her spouse.  A must make up her mind, and, making up her mind is: collect the evidence, find an attorney, to protect her own assets, to NOT end up with nothing in old age, after working hard her whole life.

And, I’d imagined that this is still a build up, the husband’s behavior toward her side of the family, and maybe, because the husband was NOT a direct member of her family, meaning that he didn’t HAVE a parent with dementia, or siblings that needed the economic supports, that, was why he was not at all understanding to his own wife’s doing things the way she’d done, and, the money she’d earned, was her, what RIGHT has her husband, to put it into a joint account?  And plus, the husband covers for his own younger brother’s living expenses, even travel fees too, so that, is double-standards that this LOSER is holding!

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He’s Horny, He Wanted the Money, the Grandson Talked His Girlfriend into Sleeping with His Own Grandfather

We have here, someone who PIMPED out his own girlfriend, and that just shows, how WRONG the values are, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The sixty-five year-old man, Lin saw how pretty his grandson’s fourteen-year-old girlfriend was, was suspected of having his grandson to make his girlfriend to have sex with him twice.  The adolescent girl told of this in school, the police made an arrest on the grandfather and grandson pair.  The Hsinbei District Attorney’s Office prosecuted the elderly man on charges of obstructions of sexual freedom, and his sixteen-year-old grandson was turned over to juvenile court to process.

The D.A. investigated, that Lin and his grandson lived in Hsinbei City, last year on April 22nd, the grandson took his runaway girlfriend home to stay temporarily; the very next night, Lin got horny, and begged his grandson, to introduce his girlfriend to him, to have sex with her, and promised, that he will pay him, after the deed is done.

And the grandson said okay, used the reason of he needed the quick cash, he’d consoled his girlfriend, to “do it once” with his grandfather; after the girlfriend said okay, the grandson left the residence immediately, to allow for the deal to go down, afterwards, Lin paid his grandson $1,200N.T.s, but the adolescent girl didn’t get any money for the deal.  The very next time, Lin once again asked his grandson to console the girlfriend to have sex with him once more, and afterwards, he’d only bought her some midnight snacks, but still didn’t pay her any more.

Later on, after the adolescent girl returned to school, and in her counseling session, she’d told of how she’d been sold to her boyfriend’s grandfather.  The school notified the Department of Education, and told the adolescent girl’s mother, and they’d gone to the police, and the police arrested both the grandson and the grandfather.

So, let’s DISSECT this story, shall we then???

First, the boyfriend was acting MORE like a P-I-M-P, I mean, even IF you needed the extra spending cash, would you be willing, to allow your own grandfather to HUMP your girlfriend, c’mon, we all know how possessive you losers are, toward our virginities and our bodies too, and, what’s worse was, this young woman actually SOLD herself, at the request of HER boyfriend (more like her PIMP if you ask me!!!), and, because she never got paid, that, was why she’d told, and, had the elderly man paid her some money, then, this case may NOT have bust wide open, who knows???  And that still just shows, how MESSED up the values are getting, for these younger generations of men AND women alike!

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Trying to Erase What You Did

On your part, and mine too!

Trying to erase what you did, because you couldn’t, live with the fact, that you’d, caused so much damages, to someone you were supposed to love, and so, your mind created this “safe place”, where the tricks of your mind took place.

Trying to erase what you did, because I can’t deal with the fact, that you, someone who was supposed to love me, hurt me, damaged me, instead.  Trying to erase what you did, because, by so doing, I will finally be able to, put ALL these nightmares behind me, and move on, with the rest of my life, but I’m currently, STUCK here, because I’m having a hell of a time, trying to erase what you did to me.

Trying to erase what you did, but, how can I, when those atrocities had been, etched, into my god DAMN mind, and, every time I’d closed my eyes, I’d see the moments, replay, over, over, over, AND over again in my mind…………

Trying to erase what you did, I can’t, because what you did, had become, a part of who I am, and, how can I destroy that bad part of who I am, without hurting myself?  I can’t, so, I’m living, with the consequences, of someone ELSE’s BAD behaviors, once again.

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Beaten to Death, as an “Unintended Result” of Discipline

Beaten to Death, as an “Unintended Result” of Discipline

Bring out ALL your excuses, people!!!  From NBC.com…

The woman accused of fatally beating her 4-year-old nephew for refusing to complete a spelling assignment never intended to harm him, her lawyer said Sunday.

“This could only be described as being the result of excessive discipline with horrific unintended results, said Michael Gold, lawyer for Christen Dale.

Dale, 21, was arraigned Friday on manslaughter, assault and other charges in the death of Ethan Ali.

Gold called the death a tragedy for the Brooklyn family and the defendant.

The 21-year-old Dale told a detective Ethan was having trouble spelling and refused to finish an assignment for the first time Tuesday, according to a criminal complaint.

The next day, Dale struck the boy repeatedly with the belt, prosecutors say.

A medical examiner found extensive bruising on his body, back and head, as well as internal bleeding.

From the “angle” of the human interests, JUST because you NEVER meant to hurt the kid, beaten him to DEATH, hello, hello, hello???  Are you FUCKING shitting me here?  Just because the kid REFUSED to complete some spelling assignment, hello, hello, hello?  Which one of you as children had sat in front of your desks, and managed, to finish YOUR homework assignments, all at once, without getting distracted by what’s on television, or the raucous on the outside of your rooms, or even, your houses?  So, the reason for “overdisciplining” her nephew to death still would be quite invalid, don’t you think???  Uh, D-U-H!!!

The kid was having troubles, doing his spelling assignment, because???  Oh yeah, he couldn’t understand it, and, instead of teaching him, patiently, like a GOOD adult should have, you’d lost your tempers, and, beat him to death, now, how’s that right?  And, his life is lost, so, who’s gonna PAY for that, huh???

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