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Unfathering, a Child…

How you gonna, do that, huh???  Oh I know, hit that, REWIND button, so the moment your DICK got, shoved UP her you-know-where, and you’d, fired off your shots, you don’t…right???

Unfathering, a child, you can’t do that, “honey”, ‘cuz, it’ not like you can, hit the REWIND, and turn everything backwards, just a few, second, before you decided to, “go in”, can you?  Of course not.

And, although ,you can’t, unfather a child, guess what, I can, ‘cuz I got the POWER (muah-ha-ha, that’s my evil laugh, by the way!) to.

now, the race of, tadpoles…from online

see how all of ’em try to stick their heads in, but none can???

Unfather a child, you already had, honey, and guess WHO the big mama is?  Exactly, and seeing how this is a coup d’état of this HEN house by this ROOSTER (moi!!!), nobody moves!

And, congrats, we’re, no longer your children, daddies, you done your “work”, at the moment you inserted your god damn DICK into our mothers’, vaginas, and that, is as far as fatherhood, goes, for all y’all, sons-of-bitches (where’s that scalpel???) combined…

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Come Back Home Soon, Dad Invincible

As the handyman of your house, is on leave for work, and you can’t wait for him to come back, and fix up the things that are, malfunctioning in your homes, and until then, you can only, manage to fix these items on your own, ladies!  Translated…

My husband was the one called on, constantly in my home, by me, and our two daughters, but this year in May, he’d gone abroad for a trip, and, leaving us three ladies on our own, to, fend for, our, selves, and this would be, a major exam for us all.

The first month he went away, we’re faced with the halting of the in-class sessions, as a mom, I’d had to “shape-shift” into a delivery person, taking the packed lunches to my children at school, and during my lunch hour, I’d traveled to and from home and office, and had to head over to the afterschool care program on Fridays to get the lesson plans for the week that followed, and every Monday, turn in the work to the instructor at the afterschool care program to be graded………this life of, one against two, truly had made me into, a busybody.

Dad, the handyman!

the fixer-upper of our homes! Illustration from online

Then, the phone went out of whack too, we’d first, tried to reset it, and couldn’t resolve the problems, and so, my daughters and I became, electricians, moved the furniture away in our living room and the tables in the bedroom, to make sure that the jack wasn’t loosened, but nothing was up, later, we’d, unplugged the power switch, then, plugged it back in, voila!  It worked!  Then, my youngest’s ancient wii started its strike too, dad was on webcam conference, teaching my youngest to use an assortment of measures to try and resolve the issues, unfortunately, we can’t find what’s wrong with it, so, for the time being, she couldn’t, play her, favorite games.

The handyman was only out of the country for no more than a month thus far, we’d come across the problems that we had to solve on our own, and, it’s five more months until dad is home again, and we can only, take whatever comes our way, and try to resolve them as they come towards us.

So, this is when the man of the house is the handyman, and, now he’s on leave, and you are all, clueless of how to fix this and fix that, but, you will learn, to manage, because you have to, and your husband being away, will teach you all the lesson of not being too reliant on him, to become, more independent, and learn to problem-solve on your own.

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Childrearing isn’t Only the Mothers’ Responsibilities

TOTALLY, I-N-F-U-R-I-A-T-I-N-G, how the societies still used these sexist beliefs of gender roles, of what we women should be, to PUT us in our, places, translated…

As I finished my maternity leave, I’d returned back to work.  During the maternity leave, I’d found, that there are still, a ton of, prejudices that societies have toward stay-at-home moms.

“So and so got her education from N.T.U., look at her now, at home, raising the kids!  Why would you waste all that time on getting that higher education degree……………”, “the daughter-in-law of Mrs. Wang from next door took her maternity leave, she’d never returned back to work again, leaving all the bread winning to her husband solely!”, the ladies had often, whispered all of this into my ears, adding on to the end, “you’d made the right decision, returning back to work!”

To tell the truth, I don’t feel the least bit glad hearing this, instead, I’d felt, more uneven.

After I became a mother, I’d found, that working as a mother full-time, is something too difficult.  Maintaining the normal “functioning” of the households, taking care of every need, small or large of our young, and, we had to take in all the sarcasms, the mockeries that the outside world has, over how we’re, sitting at home, and doing, nothing, and surely, for some, full-time mothers, they are, not doing much, but, more mothers in the society are doing everything they possibly can, to keep the family members happy and well, taking care every tiny corner of their own, homes.

So our other half can work without worries, no need to worry too excessively over the tiny matters at home, allowing the children to grow up happy and safe, in the care of their mothers, watching over them; when situations happen, to handle any and everything that came, should we NOT, get commended, to offering, our services to our own, families like so?

Especially in the job interviews, women often get asked, “as a mother with children, how do you balance taking care of your family, and staying focused at work?” but we rarely see, that men get asked this same question.  And, the underlying of this question, would it not be, hinting at, how the taking care of the families’ needs, are all the mothers’, responsibilities?

This question had, circled around, in my mind, and it’d, made me realized, that these, traditional, sexist beliefs of gender roles can’t be, easily altered; then, start with, our generation then!  No matter what role we’re playing in our separate families, do GIVE more respect to those women who are, full-time mothers, and the full-time workers too.

This is still, just BULLSHIT!  I mean, what the FUCK (don’t pardon me here!), makes you, the world out there think, that wow, because we’re staying at home, looking after our families, not making that five-digit paychecks, we’re not contributing enough to our, separate, families, and, NEWSFLASH people, this is exactly what’s keeping us women, getting the SAME pay rates as you mother @#$%ERS out there, because we’re the ones, carrying YOUR babies, we deserve to get shunned for not making enough MONEY, to contribute to the families?  Is that it?  Well, let’s see, how much we would be paid for EVERY little item on the “job description” list: as the cook…that’s, 365 days a year, a time and a half of OTs on the weekends, the holidays, the laundry ladies, fifty two times per year, etc., etc., etc., not, press that “sum button” on that, “cashier’s register” and we’d have???  INFINITE dollars, so, how much can you pay, for all our, “services” here, huh?

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Stop Tangling, the Roles of Fathers are Equally Vital as the Roles of Mothers

On the fathers, missing out on their children’s coming of age, because they still believed themselves, to be the “breadwinner”, and this is still, SEXIST, as children need BOTH parents to grow up into, well-adjusted adults here, and yet, do any of you know this???  Yeah uh, right!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The MERS-CoV pandemic started back up again, as the preschool age children were scanned and found to be positive of contraction, normally, it’s the mothers who look after them, but, the other children in the families also need mom, and, at which time, the mom usually need to go into quarantine with the child who’d contracted the virus, and suddenly, the dads started, shoulder the roles of both father and mother, and they’re normally, fazed, not known how to handle it.

Mother’s Day is here, in my several decades of experiences as a pediatrician, I saw a ton of moms, whom, for the sake of their own young, sacrificed themselves to the point that they lost sight of who they are, to the point of becoming, the “transformer robots”, and this has the biological and the cultural bases.

I’d had fathers in my treatment clinic, who’d not studied hard in school, and felt, that it was okay that their children don’t study too, and, allowed their own young to play all the games on their cell phones as they pleased, to telling their children that they’re going off to serve their jail sentence as “going to get schooled”, and he’d not felt that studying would get you anywhere, and naturally, he’d, let his children, go free.

As we’d become parents for a while, we’d come to understand that the way we use to raise our own young can affect the children’s sense of bliss, and everybody gave the credits of this to the mothers, but, the researches now showed, that if there’s a “good father”, the child is less likely to commit the crimes, or to drop out of school when they’re older, and when they are older, it’s easier for these children with the presence of fathers in their lives to hold a higher paying job, and be emotionally/psychologically stable, with a good relationship with others.

The researches had even found, that if a child has a good father, by age three, the toddler would have a higher I.Q., and, in the child’s life, there would be, less problems psychologically, this was referred to as the “fathering effect”.

The importance of the roles of fathers in a family, usually relates to the “sole economic providers”, but, a lot of the statistics of researches now showed, that men are the ones, helping, or, hurting their own young.

The father and the mother, are the, most important teachers in a child’s life, the father would want to know, what does my child learn from me every day, as the children are observant of the parents’ behaviors, the daily living, the morals, the relations of the family members, how the families treat one another, along with the interpersonal relationship skills too.

And some of the parents believed, that it’s enough, just to, stay beside the children; but this is, meaningless, there must be “participation and interactions” as this is the KEY.  And, the foundation of warmth and that safe and secure feeling of the home is absolutely necessary, if you spend a lot of time with your children, and they’d not accepted that you had, or that you’d, insulted them repeatedly, this sort of a father will only cause the negative effects on the child’s life.

The fathers normally believed, that they just needed to work hard to bring in the money, this is the “toolman father’s” mindset.  If you don’t catch up to the times, you would think, that infants don’t know the effects of time the fathers spends, playing with them, interacting with them, taking care of them, to the point, that years later, the child wouldn’t even care, to forget what their fathers had put in in those, earliest years of their lives.

The fathers are involved, in sports and play activities with their young mostly, if from when the infant is only a month old, the fathers get involved in the infants’ lives, then, by the time the children turn one, then, the cognitive abilities would be higher than that of the child’s, age group, and by nine months, the infant will learn to play with other children, and this is very beneficial to the infant.

So, stop tangling yourselves, the role of the father IS equally important as the role of the mother, and, the two parents needed to cooperate, to compliment one another in the means of childrearing.

And so, this still showed, how important the role of the father is in a child’s life, but unfortunately, all you, stupid men all still believed that wow, I’m the one, bringing in home the beard AND the bacon, I’ll leave the childrearing means to my women to do, and your kids grow up without their daddies, and, become, ill-adapted, because you are absent in their lives when they are younger, and, what the @#$% (maxed out!) makes you think that now that you’d grow old and gray, they’ll be willing to, circle around you, now that you need then, I mean, it’s not as if you’d spent time with your young, is it, no, you only worked, worked, worked, worked, worked, provided the hard-earned dollar to the necessities of our lives, and that’s still, bullshit here!

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Women, in Patriarchal, Societies…

We women, have NO place in the patriarchal, societies we were, born into, and live in.

Women, in patriarchal, societies, are treated a nothing but, baby machines (bullshit!), cleaning up after their fathers’, husbands (1 @ a time, LADIES!!!), sons’, asses and this is aside from the regular nine to fives that many of us are, currently handling in our lives too.

here, we ladies, are!

photo from online

Women, in patriarchal, societies, got NO place to be, to exercise their own rights of being, because, we got no right, without that Y in our, chromosome.  Women, in patriarchal societies, let’s face it, we think we’d, advanced, from the, cavemen days, of you losers, with your huge, oversized CLUB (BAM!  BAM!), out hunting down the beasts to bring that needed diet of PROTEIN into our caves (yeah, these god DAMN caves you losers are currently living in, ARE all, O-U-R-S!), and, because there are NO locks on those caves, oh my god, what if, while you sons-of-bitches (the literal ones can offer us, more protection!) are out, killing the foods we need for us, and we’d had to wait for you, sons-of-bitches to backtrack into the caves?  Oh yeah, we’d all, end up as, the poop in the saber tooth tiger’s “kitty litter”, wherever those things bury their CRAP (how the hell should I know???)

getting involved with…

and, this would be, the, much “cuter”, version of WHAT you losers may, look, like…clip art from online

And yet, because we’re, women, we’re just supposed to, take all of these, gender norms, gender roles, gender inequalities, lying down?  Yeah, maybe, if we’re living in the times before 17th, 18th, early, 19th, centuries, and this is the TWENTY FIRST (that’s plus TWO for those of you who can’t count!!!) that we’re, currently, “staying” in here, so, get your heads, upgraded to, modern day times already, huh???

You have got to be shitting me here!!!

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Sperm Shot in a Sippy Cup

This is, what you’d been, “reduced down” to, for me, hon!

Nothing more, than that, sperm shot in a sippy cup, and I still don’t need that SHIT in my life, as in, E-V-E-R.

Sperm shot in a sippy cup, that, is what they’ll all become, to us, and, after those sons-of-bitches (not the literal, as I’m more certain, that we need those tadpoles, from the same, SPECIES to “procreate” here???) fired off their shots, then, they’re of, NO use to us all women!

thank you, so very much, WE appreciate, your, “contributions”…yeah right! Photo from online

Sperm shot in a sippy cup (let me look into my crystal ball that shows the future of man here!), that, is all we women, will EVER need, from you, mother FUCKERS (don’t pardon me for using the “F” word now!), and, wouldn’t it be easier, ladies, to skip all that faking our orgasms, and, feeling the pains of our, “penetrations” by their you-know-WHAT, and just, drive ourselves, down to that, sperm bank, and get that tadpole, that we require, to “make” our own, babies?

And at least, we would have the guarantees, of those tadpoles inside them, sippy cups being, higher IN quality, because those TADPOLE banks, I’m sure, they will, SCAN all their donor tadpoles, for illnesses, genetic, anomalies, genetic, defects, right? 

Wouldn’t know, ‘cuz, I do NOT work in a SPERM bank, but, this is, based off of my knowledge of these, places in the world, so, correct me if I’m wrong here, I welcome, all opinions still…

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What We’re Told Not To Talk About – Christine E. Ray — Brave & Reckless

we liked you better when you were a girl with your mouth muzzled shut by strong adult hands seen but not heard on your scabbed bony knees easily rendered docile compliant we liked you better when you were young held the shared secrets close carried the blame our blame as if it were your own […]

What We’re Told Not To Talk About – Christine E. Ray — Brave & Reckless

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The Second Sex – Georgiann Carlson — Brave & Reckless — Rethinking Life

there is no second sex only genders lots of genders new one’s popping up every day finally freed from hiding I think there will be a gender unknown box on job apps soon the second sex was simply used to show women’s position in a man’s world and it still exists today women are still […] […]

The Second Sex – Georgiann Carlson — Brave & Reckless — Rethinking Life

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Lee Has All the Better Qualities, But She’s Still Voiceless, & Sacrificed in Her Marriage

We women are still, SCREWED over, by these, traditional, stereotypical, gender roles!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The Experts: Women’s Giving to Their Families Seen & Interpreted as Matter-of-Fact

The ex-wife of the singer, Wang rebutted on a post two days ago, described how she was being treated as unequal to him in the family, that if women are housewife who don’t make an extra paycheck, women would’ve worked even harder, for less gains, it’d gained the agreements of all women around.  The C.E.O. of Women’s New Knowledge Foundation, Chuang told, that the society still believes, that women as the roles of caretakers of the family, the primary person who do the household chores.  And once there’s a divorce on the way, the men and women would not stand on equal basis to one another; the manager of the counseling center of Soochow University, Yao told, that Lee has a higher education degree, good backgrounds, but she’s still the voiceless, the sacrificed party in her marriage.

Chuang told, that no matter if it’s a full-time housewife, a working woman, the stereotypical belief of the society is still that women are in charge of household chores, caretaking, that the workhours of women are a lot longer than the males’, but, nobody viewed household chores as a pay job, and women’s working in the home had been taken for granted, and this underestimated the stress of the party doing all the work at home.

Chuang told, that there are many ways to transfer the assets away from the individual legally in Taiwan, or through the company, and the laws for alimony and child support don’t work in favor of women, and so, the foundation is pushing forth for an amendment on the civil front, this was what Lee mentioned as the cost of her opportunities of work away from the home, because the full-time housewives not only put in the physical labor, and they’d lost the competitive edges of the workforces, and, as both men and women entered into marriage for many years, the men keep on advancing in the promotions, the wives, due to taking care of the families, the children, couldn’t establish her self in society, as they split up, the starting line is never, equal for men and women.

Some believes, due to the higher education that Lee received, her socioeconomic status being higher up, it’d allowed her to voice out the inequality, Chuang said, that even as the better-educated women couldn’t change the structures of patriarchal society, compared to women in the past, women now are better able to, describe the unequal treatments they were receiving, but from her post, it’s clear to see, that Lee is still, having, a very hard time deciding on what she is to do.

Yao believed, that Lee put up with the bad behaviors of Wang in the marriage for EIGHT years, with her background, her higher education degrees, she still got tied down by the society’s expectations of her role as a wife, a mother, a woman, that she should settle down, and be the great woman who’s backing her husband up, giving him support, and, no matter how able-bodied, how strong the backgrounds of women are, we’re still, voiceless, and sacrificed, in our, marriages.

And so, this still showed, how the traditional gender roles had, SCREWED us ALL, and, because of these, traditional gender roles that’s been, etched into our, socialization, our ways of life, we’d, internalized these messed up values that tried putting us women, into, OUR, “places”, and we get trapped, and, can’t get out.

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A Social Design for Miscarriages

This forum, is tailoring to the needs of both men AND women, not just the women, because, having children, is still NOT just, OUR, “business”, you men are also, involved in this process too!  A really, innovative thought, especially in the, eastern cultures here…translated…

During these past two years, I’d, focused my researches on the matter of the natural miscarriage process in Taiwan (based off of statistical measures, there are, about fifteen-to-twenty-percent natural miscarriages calculated by the process of natural selection), not only on the medical data that’s been, collected, also the cultural, the societal too, I’d also included the interviews with the families who had suffered the miscarriages, but, how do we, open up the covered up discussion topics of miscarriage by natural causes that’s been, tabooed?  Are there ways, to come up with the new ideas, for the families who’d suffered such a loss, it’s what I want to, focus more on, to help give to the policies of births set up by the law.

Luckily, the sociology professor from N.T.U. Sociology Department who’s excellent on the subject of “Social Designs”, gave us an exchange forum on “Reimagining, the Process of Miscarriages by Natural Causes: the Social Designs Exchange”, the exchange was, on the makeup of the participants in the discussion forums, with the sponsor’s inviting the Revolutionary Birthing Movement’s asking for the students, the OBGYNs, the nurses, and others who had miscarriage by natural causes, a total of, forty individuals, to share their experiences.

The subject of discussion is also important, in the structuring of the questions, we need to consider, that those who’d had miscarriages, how it’d, affected those other members of their, families, how the families coped with the process of the women, miscarrying?  Lastly, to up the sensitivity of the medical, to prevent yet another, impact onto these women.

All of these subjects, were from my past experiences with the interviewing, and although, we can, only hold the conference online, due to the outbreaks, the participants weren’t able to hold the face-to-face interaction discussion forums, but, Yu-Hwa designed the group interactions online, and everybody entered into a game of sorts, in the leading of the story of miscarriage, we’d all, quickly, gotten into the situations, and, the process is, brain-wrecking, and very fast-paced, everybody started, brainstorming all the ideas, and we’d, come up, with a ton of amazing ideas.

For instance, someone suggested that we should have this “P.O. Box” like the T.V. personnel started up, encouraging those who had gone through the miscarriages personally, or are with those around them who’d had the miscarriages, to share their thoughts and feelings.  And, all of these letters can be collected, to host an exhibition with, as a memorial for a stage of life in one’s life.

And, there’s, also, another brand new concept that’s, quite, innovative, the “miscarriage vacations”!  There are the honeymoon vacations, family trips, trips of friends, and we can also, call on the hotel chains, the tourist agencies, to give the discounts to couples who’d had miscarriages, so they don’t need to spend too much money, and can, get away, from their current states of minds and beings temporarily, to go out.  This isn’t to celebrate anything, but to give the mind, the heart, time to breathe, through the travels, to saturate oneself, to offer one another the needed supports.

Someone came up with the “diary exchange of families”, for the couple to write, to improve their communication, to express what they don’t feel able to express to one another, verbally in written form.

Some mentioned how we can, restructure the “fetus”, designing a way, for the elders to understand, and to, accept to reinstate the beliefs, the knowledge of natural miscarriages, so others around the families can have more understanding, more knowledge on the matter of miscarriages by natural causes.

In the past, the male voice is often, overlook in this matter, but, on this exchange forum, we hoped, to have the alternative perspectives from the men.  Some suggested using the technologies of A.I., to develop a sort of a Siri software, to help the men, accompany their partners in the process of their, miscarriages, to provide the males with more resources, more support, in a, more friendly manner.

I’m really hoping, that the outbreaks can end, so this sort of a forum can take place physically, so more people will be enlightened by this, social design, to find new and innovative responses, come up with more possibilities, for those who’d, gone through, the miscarriages.

And so, this is, a seemingly only women-related subject, but, this forum also, considered the men, which is, probably, something that’s new, because in the past, we all believe, that carrying children is a woman’s business, that the males only needed to donate a sperm, and he’s, done, but this forum considered that men are also, going through loss, when their wives miscarriages, it’s just, that we don’t, experience these losses, in the exact, same way!

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