Those sons-of-bitches (four-legged and otherwise!), they all start doing their “business”, all over the places, and that, is what you get, for not, NEUTERING all the men in your lives, completely.
I mean, you DO realize, how we women gotta, TRAIN them, sons-of-bitches (the four-legged, AND the two-legged varieties!), correctly, right? We can’t allow them to do their “business” everywhere inside of our homes (there’s carpeting, that will have that huge PISS stain!!!)…
because how “cute” they looked, we’d, not punished them for what they D-I-D, which leads to, even MORE repeated, BAD behaviors! Photo from online
And because as women, we have the tendencies of letting our more nurturing sides (that’s what’s believed, right???) take over when they start @#$%ING things up in our lives, making a huge mess take over, that’s why, we unknowingly, continually, WIPE their sorry ASSES, which in turn, caused them to, SUCK even HARDER on us, bleeding us, dry!
And it’s still ALL our faults, because we do NOT go down HARD on them that very first time they’d (cheated, lied, peed on the ground, where there’s NO newspaper……….) fucked up, which aided them into believing, that hey, it’s okay if we FUCK, LIE, HUMP, yada, yada, yada, yada, because my “honey” will always be there, to clean this SHIT up FOR me.
We still got our selves to blame, for them mother FUCKERS (don’t pardon me here!), because we allowed them, to DRAIN us dry, and by that, we’d become, the ENABLING “parties” of this, dynamic duo of ABUSEE!
The government here, RE-iterated that it SHOULD BE ALLOWED, for us women who are married (still so totally NOWHERE N-E-A-R the vicinity of THAT shit here!), to go home to our own individual families of origins for New Year’s Eve meal gatherings…
Now, the government had, called out to the families with the sons, to be “more open” to the idea, to allow us women, to have the needed “time off”, seeing how we’d waited on them (our husbands and their families) hand-AND-FEET, all year long already, to give us a break!
And called out to the in-laws to not be so “narrow-minded”, to allow us women, to head home to our own individual families of origins on New Year’s Eve.
Now, there ARE, a few (more like a ton of!) problems with that: first, who the FUCK (so???) says, that we can’t go to our own families of origins on New Year’s Eve to have the meals, and, this government’s “graciously allowing” us to do that, wouldn’t that be insinuating that before the statements made, we weren’t allowed to?
and the “caption” reads: one in five believes that women are inferior to men, study shows…from online
Secondly, who the FUCK (no need to pardon me here still!) says, that once we women are married, we are, SLAVES to your (men’s) families, as the traditions of this god damn CULTURE stated (not in so many words still!), that we’re supposed to be MISUSED as the maid, heading home on the holidays, serving our in-laws, our husbands (1@ a time, hello, hello, hello???), and their siblings, however many there are! Hand-and foot?
And third, just because we are married to you losers (just bring that UZI to my wedding, remember???) that does NOT mean, that we’re, your SLAVES, “honey” (still sarcasm “talkin’” here!), and, that’s that.
We will NOT take any more SHIT from you losers, our has-beens (b/c that’s what you’ll become, IF you do NOT behave yourselves!), and, all you mothers-in-law out there, DO remember, that we are the ones, who will be able to give your STUPID little boys their children, and unless all you mothers want to get CHARGED with INCEST (sex with your own direct next-of-kin, hello, hello, hello!!!), DO show respect to us, women who aren’t related to you, okay???
This is still ME, asking you, “nicely”, and trust me, nobody want to see me mean, just ask my two already DEAD boys, they’d seen me like that from high school, and they’d, DUCKED out for cover.
This is still, S-H-I-T, I mean, who the @#$% (maxed out!) says, that nurture is synonymous with the, female gender characteristics, huh?
And, what OF, those FEMALE heads of companies, the C.E.O.’s of some, Fortune 500s that make ALL the decisions, and tackles the problems of the companies’ operations, assertively, huh?
But, that’s just it, since the start of time (don’t ask how long ago that was, ‘cuz…how the @#$% would I know???), you men put us, women, IN our places, locking us up with those, chastity belts (uh, you’ve got to be shitting me!), keeping us inside them, gilded cages, and you head out of the “hearth” (the WHAT again???), and bring home the bacon, the bread, going out, hunting with them, big-ass, clubs………………
and THIS, would be, MORE like it!
Which forces the role of the nurturer, onto us, women, because IF we don’t take up that role, then, who’s gonna! And this is just how sexism continues, even today, and yeah, we women are slowly getting on an equal basis with all of you, mother @#$%ING, sons-of-BITCHES (still not the four-legged “varieties” I’m afraid…), but we’re still, not quite there, at the same level as you losers out there.
And this is still just SHIT, I mean, why the HELL should we women, suffer the consequences, of those who are before us, who are used to living the role of the “fitting wife”, the good mother, the nurturing, type?
I mean, what if (here’s that though!), we want to focus on our job, we are, career-oriented, like you losers, huh? Then, we’d get TRASH talked, for NOT taking CARE of the “hearth”…
The SEXIST belief of how women are in charge of what happens within the household (all the chores are up to us!!!), while you losers (not name calling!) are all in charge of working your nine-to-fives out! Translated…
Because of my children are growing up fast, they’d gotten a ton of energies in them, and naturally, it’d made me busier at home, recently, my wife had been working in and out, sweating like crazy, and, the accumulated stresses that she’d had, became, that final straw that’s, cracked her, back, one day, she’d gotten furious over something, stated, that she’d been working from the beginning, and we didn’t not only thanked her, we’d, taken her for, granted, that she’d become, completely, drained. Suddenly, the air froze at home, the smokes are rising up then, without the joys of motherhood, with that added, crisis of losing my, marriage now.
Based off of the estimates of the offices of internal statistics, the rate of divorce was up to 47,888 pairs in 2021, second, only to China, second in all of Asia, while, the age group that’s found to be most prevalent for divorces are from ages thirty-five to thirty-nine, and suddenly, it’d dawned on me, that I’m, right at the highest risk of the divorce groups.
There’s a joke: at age thirty we see others around us marrying, start panicking because we didn’t have anyone; at age forty, we see, that everybody around us is, divorcing, and we’d felt glad that we never, tied the, knots. Looking at today, less and less are choosing to get married, and more and more are, getting, divorced; the experts and scholars tried to find the reasons behind all of this, and, as the studies, research results showed, it was due to how “one side gave too much, and the other side not being, grateful enough”, it’d made me think hard.
how it used to, be…illustration from online
After we’d fought, I’d started, introspecting, if the household chores are split up unevenly, or that I’d, taken my wife’s giving to the family for, granted. And further, all of these accumulations from long ago, maybe, it’s, the problems of the ordinary marriages, that we’re always, grateful for those who are outside of the realms of family, but not enough thanks given to those who are closest to us, and giving to us, selflessly.
Thought about how I’d, boasted to my wife, how I’d, automatically, did the laundry, hung them up in the closets after they’re all dried, and did the dishes too, and hoped to get a praise, but my wife was confused, because she thinks the household chores are originally, both our, responsibilities, why was I the one, “helping” her out? Her words were a, rude awakening, so, I’d, believed that it’s a woman’s work, doing all the, household, chores.
Based off of the study of Harvard University, the 724 adults the school followed up since 1938, as the participants of the study are all in their nineties, they’d discovered, that the key to happiness, is originally built on “an amicable relationship”. In sum, through scientific proof, the key to happiness is, “gratitude”.
It’s never too late, as they say, first, we must, learn to, verbalize our gratitude, then, act on it, toward the household chores, stacking up at home, we must, work in them too. It’s never late to save your marriages, start offering one another the verbal thank yous when you were younger, and keep that heart of gratitude, say thanks, do more household chores, you will, live in the marital bliss!
and this, is how, it SHOULD, be! Comic from online
And so, this is still based off of the sexist beliefs of how women ARE, in charge of what’s in the house, while all of you, LOSERS (not name calling!) are supposed to be the “bread winners”, but that may be true, in the CAVEMEN days, these days, we women are also, working our separate five to nines (instead of nine-to-fives), and when we clocked out from our offices, we go home, and work some more around the house, because, if we don’t, then, who will, and most of us preferred our homes to be, neat and, tidy, that’s why, we women are, slaving ourselves, and you men don’t even help out enough, because, it’s etched in your BRAINS that you’re only in charge, of, “winning the breads”.
WAKE up! This is NOT the CAVEMEN days, when all you losers (not name calling!) go out hunting with your god damn, oversized, clubs, leaving us women at home, tending to the “hearth”…
This is BULLSHIT, because the PRE-disposition of this is, that ALL household chores are, OUR problems, not men’s, well, you know what losers, that’s NOT our problem, you are half responsible for HALF of everything, when we say our, “I do’s” here, okay??? Yeah, and so, ladies, don’t go ‘round high-fiving each other, just ‘cuz you’d trained your LOSER HAS-BEENS to do them, household chores, they ARE supposed to do that, without being told, because it’s HALF as our family as it’s, theirs, remember, so, don’t be glad, when you find one day, those fucking (so???) sons-of-bitches husbands or boyfriends do the dishes for you, ‘k??? Translated…
I had NO plans to be married or have children, but as I’d met my husband, a man who is willing to love me and my family, to care for me, I’d started, changing my thoughts, and got married. For over ten years, he’d not changed at all from before to after, instead, he’d turned more mature, and more responsible, and I was glad, that I’d not, made the wrong choice.
It’s too important, selecting the ones we’re to marry, which will, alter the path of the second half of our, lives. Entering into a marriage, it’s not just the process of adjustment for the two individuals, but the merging of two, separate, families, the respects the two families show for each other, and the willingness to allow for the time needed to adjust to one another.
a man, doing WHAT he is, supposed to be, doing originally, that WE don’t NEED to praise them over!
photo from online
“How is it that it’s your husband, doing the dishes? You’d let him?”, after a family gathering, my husband saw me working in the kitchen, hadn’t had time to eat ye, but, with the used eating utensils stacking up in the sink, so I’d, continued to clean up. He’d told me, “I’ll do it, go eat now.” As I picked up my bowl, and my chopsticks, an elder female member of the family asked me this. I’d turned and smiled to answer, “it takes me way too long to do the dishes, he worried, that after I was done, I won’t have any more appetite.”, the other elders all started commending on how loving, how gently my husband is toward me, and started pouring their, hearts out, “during our times, men weren’t allowed in the kitchens, let alone, to do the, dishes. You are, certainly, blessed, with an amazing mother-in-law, who’d let your husband help you.”
Many years, I’d agreed to how I’m blessed with good fortune, with a husband who is willing to give to this marriage, with loving in-laws who treated me like their own. But, other than being blessed with the good fortunes, the willingness to “work together to make the family work” is even more, important, because without this thought, you may be blessed with good fortune, but you still won’t have a good and happy, marriage.
The workings of a marriage, a family functioning well, it’s the result of both the husband and the wife’s, hard work, not just on one person’s doing; and, this starts from the smaller matters of the day-to-day, the chores, to start building that sense of coownership of our family, and our senses of, responsibility. “A good wife is loved”, I can’t say that I’m, a perfect wife, but, if someone says, that I’m my husband’s, “better half”, I would have to say thanks to my husband, for treating me kindly, for loving me, to help me, be, a good and fitting wife to him.
The couples who treated each other with respect, will surely, grow old together; and a man who truly, loves and cherishes his own wife, is, a real, MAN!
And this is still, based off of the beliefs that household chores are NONE of YOUR beeswax, which is SHIT, because, uh, hello, who is this family again??? Oh yeah, it’s the two of “us” (just SHOOT me, why don’t ya!!!), and this is still SHIT, because this is based off of the assumption that we women need to slave ourselves over them household chores, after we do our own separate nine-to-fives, and that’s just BULLSHIT! And so, this woman here, does NOT have a “good husband”, based off of the meanings of what a “good” husband should be.
A good man should SIT, STAY, good boy, now, go FETCH! And that, would be, HOW we all need to, RE-train our men, to HELP out around the house.
A mother, leaving her own you, to pursue her, happiness why is this, believed to be, selfish, huh? Because as women, we must, get enslaved by our own families, to give everything up, all our wishes, dreams, to fulfill their needs, because it’s a woman’s nature, to sacrifice for her families, is that it?
A mother, leaving her own young, to pursue her, happiness, why shouldn’t she, she’d raised them up to the point where she knew they could, take care of themselves well enough, so why can’t a mother, leave her own young, to pursue her own, happiness? Because it’d been, ASSIGNED to us women, that WE are, bound by our families, because, families are already that TOP priority for ALL women in the world, is that it? Because we are, expected to, raise our babies up, to care for them, to give everything we have (including our lives if we must!), to our own, families, so their needs are, well taken care of. But why? Why is this, asked of us women, and NOT of you, men?
where we expected to live!
That’s just gender inequality still, and even to this very day (yes, the Time Machine did NOT take us back to the DARK AGES, when you losers go out hunting with your large clubs, and we women staying in them caves, tending to the children, and the “hearth”!), we women are expected, to fulfill these, traditional gender norm rules, assigned to our mothers’ mothers’ mothers’ mothers’ mothers, all the way back, to, millions and billions of years ago, and that’s just SHIT if you ask me, but yeah, I know, I know, W-H-O asked Y-O-U! Right???
A woman, leaving her own young, to pursue her own happiness, make certain that we know our own priorities, and, before we all put on them, dancing dresses, dancing shoe, to go and have that needed margarita (still don’t drink here!) with our girlfriend AT happy hour, we made sure EVERYTHING in our homes are, set to, functioning on their own, and we’d made sure that it worked perfectly, unless one screw comes loose, and that’s not something we can alter (Murphy’s Law anyone???), and that’s still, NOT our faults, we women DESERVE our needed breaks, so, give US a break, huh???
How you gonna, do that, huh??? Oh I know, hit that, REWIND button, so the moment your DICK got, shoved UP her you-know-where, and you’d, fired off your shots, you don’t…right???
Unfathering, a child, you can’t do that, “honey”, ‘cuz, it’ not like you can, hit the REWIND, and turn everything backwards, just a few, second, before you decided to, “go in”, can you? Of course not.
And, although ,you can’t, unfather a child, guess what, I can, ‘cuz I got the POWER (muah-ha-ha, that’s my evil laugh, by the way!) to.
now, the race of, tadpoles…from online
Unfather a child, you already had, honey, and guess WHO the big mama is? Exactly, and seeing how this is a coup d’état of this HEN house by this ROOSTER (moi!!!), nobody moves!
And, congrats, we’re, no longer your children, daddies, you done your “work”, at the moment you inserted your god damn DICK into our mothers’, vaginas, and that, is as far as fatherhood, goes, for all y’all, sons-of-bitches (where’s that scalpel???) combined…
As the handyman of your house, is on leave for work, and you can’t wait for him to come back, and fix up the things that are, malfunctioning in your homes, and until then, you can only, manage to fix these items on your own, ladies! Translated…
My husband was the one called on, constantly in my home, by me, and our two daughters, but this year in May, he’d gone abroad for a trip, and, leaving us three ladies on our own, to, fend for, our, selves, and this would be, a major exam for us all.
The first month he went away, we’re faced with the halting of the in-class sessions, as a mom, I’d had to “shape-shift” into a delivery person, taking the packed lunches to my children at school, and during my lunch hour, I’d traveled to and from home and office, and had to head over to the afterschool care program on Fridays to get the lesson plans for the week that followed, and every Monday, turn in the work to the instructor at the afterschool care program to be graded………this life of, one against two, truly had made me into, a busybody.
Dad, the handyman!
Then, the phone went out of whack too, we’d first, tried to reset it, and couldn’t resolve the problems, and so, my daughters and I became, electricians, moved the furniture away in our living room and the tables in the bedroom, to make sure that the jack wasn’t loosened, but nothing was up, later, we’d, unplugged the power switch, then, plugged it back in, voila! It worked! Then, my youngest’s ancient wii started its strike too, dad was on webcam conference, teaching my youngest to use an assortment of measures to try and resolve the issues, unfortunately, we can’t find what’s wrong with it, so, for the time being, she couldn’t, play her, favorite games.
The handyman was only out of the country for no more than a month thus far, we’d come across the problems that we had to solve on our own, and, it’s five more months until dad is home again, and we can only, take whatever comes our way, and try to resolve them as they come towards us.
So, this is when the man of the house is the handyman, and, now he’s on leave, and you are all, clueless of how to fix this and fix that, but, you will learn, to manage, because you have to, and your husband being away, will teach you all the lesson of not being too reliant on him, to become, more independent, and learn to problem-solve on your own.
TOTALLY, I-N-F-U-R-I-A-T-I-N-G, how the societies still used these sexist beliefs of gender roles, of what we women should be, to PUT us in our, places, translated…
As I finished my maternity leave, I’d returned back to work. During the maternity leave, I’d found, that there are still, a ton of, prejudices that societies have toward stay-at-home moms.
“So and so got her education from N.T.U., look at her now, at home, raising the kids! Why would you waste all that time on getting that higher education degree……………”, “the daughter-in-law of Mrs. Wang from next door took her maternity leave, she’d never returned back to work again, leaving all the bread winning to her husband solely!”, the ladies had often, whispered all of this into my ears, adding on to the end, “you’d made the right decision, returning back to work!”
To tell the truth, I don’t feel the least bit glad hearing this, instead, I’d felt, more uneven.
After I became a mother, I’d found, that working as a mother full-time, is something too difficult. Maintaining the normal “functioning” of the households, taking care of every need, small or large of our young, and, we had to take in all the sarcasms, the mockeries that the outside world has, over how we’re, sitting at home, and doing, nothing, and surely, for some, full-time mothers, they are, not doing much, but, more mothers in the society are doing everything they possibly can, to keep the family members happy and well, taking care every tiny corner of their own, homes.
So our other half can work without worries, no need to worry too excessively over the tiny matters at home, allowing the children to grow up happy and safe, in the care of their mothers, watching over them; when situations happen, to handle any and everything that came, should we NOT, get commended, to offering, our services to our own, families like so?
Especially in the job interviews, women often get asked, “as a mother with children, how do you balance taking care of your family, and staying focused at work?” but we rarely see, that men get asked this same question. And, the underlying of this question, would it not be, hinting at, how the taking care of the families’ needs, are all the mothers’, responsibilities?
This question had, circled around, in my mind, and it’d, made me realized, that these, traditional, sexist beliefs of gender roles can’t be, easily altered; then, start with, our generation then! No matter what role we’re playing in our separate families, do GIVE more respect to those women who are, full-time mothers, and the full-time workers too.
This is still, just BULLSHIT! I mean, what the FUCK (don’t pardon me here!), makes you, the world out there think, that wow, because we’re staying at home, looking after our families, not making that five-digit paychecks, we’re not contributing enough to our, separate, families, and, NEWSFLASH people, this is exactly what’s keeping us women, getting the SAME pay rates as you mother @#$%ERS out there, because we’re the ones, carrying YOUR babies, we deserve to get shunned for not making enough MONEY, to contribute to the families? Is that it? Well, let’s see, how much we would be paid for EVERY little item on the “job description” list: as the cook…that’s, 365 days a year, a time and a half of OTs on the weekends, the holidays, the laundry ladies, fifty two times per year, etc., etc., etc., not, press that “sum button” on that, “cashier’s register” and we’d have??? INFINITE dollars, so, how much can you pay, for all our, “services” here, huh?
On the fathers, missing out on their children’s coming of age, because they still believed themselves, to be the “breadwinner”, and this is still, SEXIST, as children need BOTH parents to grow up into, well-adjusted adults here, and yet, do any of you know this??? Yeah uh, right! Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
The MERS-CoV pandemic started back up again, as the preschool age children were scanned and found to be positive of contraction, normally, it’s the mothers who look after them, but, the other children in the families also need mom, and, at which time, the mom usually need to go into quarantine with the child who’d contracted the virus, and suddenly, the dads started, shoulder the roles of both father and mother, and they’re normally, fazed, not known how to handle it.
Mother’s Day is here, in my several decades of experiences as a pediatrician, I saw a ton of moms, whom, for the sake of their own young, sacrificed themselves to the point that they lost sight of who they are, to the point of becoming, the “transformer robots”, and this has the biological and the cultural bases.
I’d had fathers in my treatment clinic, who’d not studied hard in school, and felt, that it was okay that their children don’t study too, and, allowed their own young to play all the games on their cell phones as they pleased, to telling their children that they’re going off to serve their jail sentence as “going to get schooled”, and he’d not felt that studying would get you anywhere, and naturally, he’d, let his children, go free.
As we’d become parents for a while, we’d come to understand that the way we use to raise our own young can affect the children’s sense of bliss, and everybody gave the credits of this to the mothers, but, the researches now showed, that if there’s a “good father”, the child is less likely to commit the crimes, or to drop out of school when they’re older, and when they are older, it’s easier for these children with the presence of fathers in their lives to hold a higher paying job, and be emotionally/psychologically stable, with a good relationship with others.
The researches had even found, that if a child has a good father, by age three, the toddler would have a higher I.Q., and, in the child’s life, there would be, less problems psychologically, this was referred to as the “fathering effect”.
The importance of the roles of fathers in a family, usually relates to the “sole economic providers”, but, a lot of the statistics of researches now showed, that men are the ones, helping, or, hurting their own young.
The father and the mother, are the, most important teachers in a child’s life, the father would want to know, what does my child learn from me every day, as the children are observant of the parents’ behaviors, the daily living, the morals, the relations of the family members, how the families treat one another, along with the interpersonal relationship skills too.
And some of the parents believed, that it’s enough, just to, stay beside the children; but this is, meaningless, there must be “participation and interactions” as this is the KEY. And, the foundation of warmth and that safe and secure feeling of the home is absolutely necessary, if you spend a lot of time with your children, and they’d not accepted that you had, or that you’d, insulted them repeatedly, this sort of a father will only cause the negative effects on the child’s life.
The fathers normally believed, that they just needed to work hard to bring in the money, this is the “toolman father’s” mindset. If you don’t catch up to the times, you would think, that infants don’t know the effects of time the fathers spends, playing with them, interacting with them, taking care of them, to the point, that years later, the child wouldn’t even care, to forget what their fathers had put in in those, earliest years of their lives.
The fathers are involved, in sports and play activities with their young mostly, if from when the infant is only a month old, the fathers get involved in the infants’ lives, then, by the time the children turn one, then, the cognitive abilities would be higher than that of the child’s, age group, and by nine months, the infant will learn to play with other children, and this is very beneficial to the infant.
So, stop tangling yourselves, the role of the father IS equally important as the role of the mother, and, the two parents needed to cooperate, to compliment one another in the means of childrearing.
And so, this still showed, how important the role of the father is in a child’s life, but unfortunately, all you, stupid men all still believed that wow, I’m the one, bringing in home the beard AND the bacon, I’ll leave the childrearing means to my women to do, and your kids grow up without their daddies, and, become, ill-adapted, because you are absent in their lives when they are younger, and, what the @#$% (maxed out!) makes you think that now that you’d grow old and gray, they’ll be willing to, circle around you, now that you need then, I mean, it’s not as if you’d spent time with your young, is it, no, you only worked, worked, worked, worked, worked, provided the hard-earned dollar to the necessities of our lives, and that’s still, bullshit here!