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An Accidental Father

A conversation with one’s own young, on the duties, obligations, responsibilities of parents, from a legal angle here, translated…

“Mommy, what are you reading?”, my younger child came toward my desk, saw that blue-covered, yellowed pages, diary in my hand.

“This was your grandfather’s diary.”  I’d held back my tears, put it up in silence.

“When I was young, grandpa always told me, I’ll take you to Carrefour, RT Mart, bought me all those treats!”, my daughter got nostalgic.

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Yeah!  Mommy’s busy working, grandpa and grandma came to mommy’s rescue every time, and I’d needed them to come watch you and your older brother often.

“I loved going to the toy store with papa!”, my older son told, “I saw a limited edition Gundam that’s very expensive, papa didn’t have that much money, but I’d told papa that by tomorrow, it’ll be, gone!  And on that very night, papa went and bought it!”  my son has the potential as a scam artist, and I’m sure, that my father was, more than glad to get, cheated too.

“I don’t think I remember my inside grandpa and grandma at all!”, my younger daughter stated.

“what inside grandpa and grandma?  Your paternal grandparents, my parents!”, her father laughed and straightened her out.

Because they got too old, and, God called them up earlier to be fairies, you were still, too young.

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So as mommy read through papa’s diary, she got sad.  Especially how today is Father’s Day, I really hope that I can have that meal with my father, to watch T.V. together, to have this, ordinary sort of a bliss again.

My younger daughter hesitated a bit, ran to get a cup of tea, and, served it with great respect to her father.

And her father flipped through the papers, and let out a cool sort of “hmmmmmmmm!”, and I saw that smile, curling up his lips, he was now, gloating!

“there’s only one dad, you must, cherish him!”, my son is now, sucking up too, with a fan, fanning to cool his dad down, maybe, he’d not done well on an exam, and needed to put out his father’s fire before he’d shown the papers for him to sign.

There’s, that mix and match of emotions that’s between parents and children, sometimes, what happened was, more dramatic that the soap, more imaginative than those novels.

Remembered how we’d all gone to see that Japanese film, “My Accidental Father”?  the gynecology nurse envied someone else’s happiness, switched the two newborn infants up.  Six years later, the truth came out, how were these two families supposed to, cope with, this huge accident in their lives?

The two fathers, one was an elite excellent architect; the other, an electrician, who’s, easy going in nature.  Which one would best fit the children to be raised in?

“What if, this actually happened?”, my younger daughter became worried.

The way the movie worked out, it’s, gentle and understanding.  But in reality, the parent-child relationships, were based, off of the laws.  There are the adopted children and the blood-related children in the facets of the law.

“Children should follow the filial piety duties toward their parents.  As Civil Law 1084 stated.”  Dad recited it aloud.

“Second, parents should protect and educate the underage minors”, mommy added.

You want to match memories?  You’d forgotten to hold my hands first time we went out on a date, as we crossed that intersection; on our second date, you’d dozed off, started snoring; and, by the third date………………(deleted millions of characters here!)

Dad who was on his tea started choking on it, started coughing hard, and, escaped into the bathrooms.

“Mommy, there’s a sixteen-year-old daughter who’d sued her father, because he wouldn’t buy her a cell phone”, my older son thumbed through the online news.

“there are the fathers who’d sued their young for parental support, but the judge said the children didn’t need to pay it!”, my younger daughter discovered something as well.

Ahh, the stories mom heard and saw in court, last longer than the Arabian Nights!

There was a middle aged man who got in court and started crying on the stand, it’d made mommy want to lose it too.

“Mommy don’t cry”, my older son handed a tissue to me, “I thought only daddy can get you worked up, can’t imagine someone else had too!”, came my husband’s coughing from the bathroom again!

“what had happened?”, my children both got curious.

That middle aged man’s father left the family when he was a young child, it was his mother who’d raised him all on her own, him and his two other siblings, with only enough money for a rental stay, they kept switching in and out of their residences, forgot to go to the land offices to change their addresses.  The three siblings took out the student loans, and worked part-time, get themselves through school, and finally, this middle aged man had his own family, started raising his own young, finally, he was able to give his mother a good life.

But, the middle aged man’s father suddenly returned, Social Services notified this man to go and claim his own father’s dead body.

“What?”, my daughter covered up her ears, couldn’t dare hear the rest of the story.

His father who’d only shown up as a registered name on his national identification card, finished his final passage of life in a nursing home.  Before this, the Social Services sent multiple notices to his registered address, to let them know that they needed to pay for the owed fees of having his father placed, but they’d, already moved out, and through the searches, the Social Services finally found the three brothers and sister.  Based off of the law, there’s the obligation for care, so the nursing home demanded that they pay for the money for their father’s care.

“But this dad had never been responsible at all toward his own young!”, my older son became confused.

During the time when their father went missing, the family didn’t know to report him missing, while their mother never filed for divorce either, let alone the children never knew they could file a petition to “relieve themselves of caretaking duties toward their father”.

“If the fathers didn’t care for their children when they were young, then he can’t ask them to take care of him when he’s old, is that what this means?”, my son inquired.

“Hmmm, it’s called ‘Without just cause not providing for one’s own children’, Civil Law 1118 section 1.”  Dad finally showed up, replied, “every unfortunate family has a different bad story.”  From before, the former generations said raising the children so they don’t need to worry about their old age, and now it’s, taking of the elderly years, watching out for the young.

“So, do we save the allowance you give us and pay you back when you’re older?”, my daughter asked.

Nope!  Child.  It’s the parents’ responsibilities, AND obligations to raise their young, same for how the children treat their own parents.  This is not a sales or a trade-off, it’s not quid-pro-quo, tit-for-tat, nor trading the younger years, for that permanent meal ticket in old age.

But, we must admit, that in this world, there are, the unfitting parents, also, the bad children too.  If this middle aged man’s father was found of not providing for his children when they were younger in evidence, the law must agree too, at this time, forcing the children to act kind, wouldn’t be just, or right.

“But this sort of cases are post-date.  Meaning, that you must file a formal lawsuit with the courts, and after you’d won the case, then, you will be alleviated from paying for the care.”, dad got serious, answering the inquiries now.

So, the debts accumulated by this middle aged man before he died, for his care, the country believed that it’s paying for him temporarily, that in the end, this middle-aged man will pay for.

“But, what if you don’t have children?”, my younger daughter voiced her worries, she’d not planned to get married, or have any kids.

It’s, the million dollar question of elderly caretaking, and national social security, how the policies should be, set up all right!

Should the only reason for what constitutes as parents and children based only off of blood?  And, the social security, is it an act of kindness, or a responsibilities for all of us, citizens to carry?

“Mom, stop worrying, you’ll get more wrinkles!”, my older son reminded me kindly.

It’d hit dad suddenly, he’d suggested, “Today’s Father’s Day, let’s go offer incense to both your grandfathers, and tell them we’re all very happy together.”

And then?

“Let’s have a gourmet meal, to thank me, as a responsible dad, of course!!!”, dad said, with that, affirmative tone of voice.

And so, this, is a discussion that’s, sparked up by the kids, and the parents are more than willing, to help the children get more educated, with their separate areas of expertise, and through this conversation shared with their young, both the parents and the children benefitted.

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Traumatized, Between a Parent & a Child

The adults’ careless words that impacted a child into the adulthood years, this showed the extent of your words, and their effects in your children’s lives, translated…

When I was five, I’d always, slept, with upside down on my parents’, bed, they couldn’t understand why I’d needed to sleep with them, and, they couldn’t, get me to stop climbing in next to them in the middle of the nights, but, because I’d, adjusted my sleeping postures soon enough, they’d, allowed me to sleep with them, and they’d, forgotten this, tiny interlude of my, childhood years.

But I still remember something that upset me during this period of time. 

Late one night, I suddenly woke, heard my parents in conversation, I’d not moved an inch, I’d not wanted to listen in on their conversations, just wanted to, fall back to sleep again, but, a sentence that’s stayed with me came into my ear canals, ‘if my daughter was so-and-so that would be wonderful!”

The person my parents were referring to was my older female cousin, very well-behaved, did excellent academically too, it’s only natural, that the adults, loved her so, but, am I, really, that awful?  I’d started, to cry in the darkness, until my parents finished their conversations, fell asleep, I’d, still, stayed, wide awake, shocked, at this “secret” I’d heard.

“So, mom and dad don’t love me”, this thought started, rooting itself down inside of my young mind, and after this long, even though, the vines that entangled me in were, already, cut off almost, completely, but, I couldn’t, uproot this thought one bit.

The adults may think, that children can’t understand, or that they forget easily, and sometimes, their, careless words, blurted out, had caused the traumas in your young’s mind forever.

And this is precisely W-H-Y, you FUCKING (don’t pardon me here!!!) adults need to WATCH what you say in front of your kids, because even IF you think they’re not listening, their eyes are still, watching G-O-D, with their ears, tuned IN to your words, so, DO take this into consideration, the next time you want to blurt something out, even IF you don’t mean it so seriously, your young will, take it to heart, ‘cuz that’s, what we, children, ALL do!!!

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The Infant was Abandoned in the Park, the Stray Dogs Eaten it Up with Only the Skull Remaining

In the Dual-Lake Park construction area in Sanming District of Kaohsiung there were the construction workers who’d found a white package in the construction sites, as they’d opened it, they were shocked to find the corpse of an infant without the head, the police and district attorneys examined the body, suspected that the infant was eaten by the stray dogs after being abandoned by its, parents, they’re, currently, chasing the leads to identify the parents, to find if the infant was abandoned alive, or dead.

The location of where the body was found, was the back slopes of the Daping Yu First Cemetery next to a junk yard in Dingjing Alley of Sanming District in Kaohsiung, it was originally the public Ding-Jing Cemetery, but the city government had, relocated the cemetery, currently, the location is under construction of the greener park projects.

At around 1:30 in the afternoon yesterday, the contractors of the park started working, they’d discovered  small white package on the lawns, the workers went over, opened it up, found a tiny head with the face chewed off, they’d, immediately, notified the police.

As the police arrived, they’d, immediately, sealed up the site, the police found, that the infant head was wrapped in white tarp, inside the white tarp, there was also, a cardboard box, and around the 100 meter radius of where the box was found, were the scattered pieces of bone, they’d suspected that they may be from the infant.

The workers who’d discovered the infant head told, they’d stopped working for two, three days on end, that they’d discovered the package of white cloth, and because a woman often come to feed the stray dogs, there were, the gathering of, about eight stray dogs, the police suspected that the infant’s body was chewed up by the stray dogs, leaving the blood stains on the white cloth.

The Kaohsiung District Attorneys came with the coroners to examine the body, and, found, that the diameter of the skull was, only a little over ten centimeters, they suspected that the infant was, only a few days old, but, they couldn’t tell the sex, because there were the irregular lacerations of the skins on the neck area, and suspected that after the infant was abandoned, it’d been chewed up by the stray dogs already.

And so, we have, a Baby Doe, and, the way this infant got chewed up by the strays, was too awful, because its (as the sex is still, undetermined???) parents couldn’t, take responsibilities for it, and maybe, Baby Doe was a stillborn, maybe it wasn’t, nobody knows for right now!

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The Anti-Social Personalities Easily Straying Off of the Wrong Paths in Life

Here’s a little history of the suspect, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The arson suspect, Tseng who burned down the home for elderly, was suspected of having antisocial personality, the scholars pointed out, that those with antisocial personality traits are impulsive in behaviors, lacking moral conscience, can’t abide by the law; and when s/he hurt others, s/he feels, nothing at all; the psychiatrist, Huang said, that the antisocial personalities are related to the people’s upbringing.

The professor from the crime prevention major of Zhongzhen University, Cheng stated, that antisocial personality disorder needed to be formally diagnosed by a psychiatrist, with the observation of the individual’s behaviors for over six months, for the diagnosis to be confirmed.

The assistant general manager of the VMH in Taichung, the psychiatrist, Huang, stated, that most of the antisocial traits were made by the interaction with one’s own external environments, in the process of coming of age, the person can’t learn how to interact with others correctly, to solve the problems that s/he encounters in life, and often resorted, to the most extreme of all measures, using physical assault, and violence, which made people fear them.

And so, this, is made by nurture, because of your upbringing, you’d, become antisocial, or maybe, a predisposing of the antisocial personality traits are needed, either way, these people are, ticking time bombs in the societies, and you don’t know when they’re all going, KA-BOOM!!!

 

 

 

 

 

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In Two-and-a-Half Years, He Managed to Abuse Two Young Infants to Death, the Father Was Given a Severe Sentence of Fourteen Years

This is still, an abuser/enabler interaction which led to the imminent deaths of these two young children, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The couple, Huang were taken into custody for abusing their two-months-old youngest daughter to death, the D.A. followed the leads, and found, that their second born son, was shaken hard by Huang, to death as well, back then, the infant boy wasn’t yet three months of age.  The Chiayi D.A.’s office prosecuted the couple on two counts of manslaughter charges, sentenced Huang to fourteen years, Ting, his wife, was found to have allowed him to abuse their youngest daughter, found guilty of abandonment causing death, and sentenced to seven years two months.

Huang (age 34, currently in custody) and his wife, Ting (age 23) went to court to hear the verdict, as the judge told them of their sentence, and that they could appeal, Ting replied loudly, “okay!”, while Huang only, nodded.  Ting was accompanied out of court by her families, and, at the press conference, the reporters asked her how she felt, she’d not said a word, just left.

The judge found, that when Ting was underage, she married Huang and had their eldest daughter and eldest son, Huang became the sole economic provider of the household; in February of 2017, Huang started shaking their not-yet-three-months-old infant eldest son, and, allowed their son to ram his head into the frames of the bathroom doors, after he was rushed to the hospital, the hospital diagnosed him as multiple organ failure due to abuse, he’d suffered a subdural hematoma, died.

Afterward, Huang moved his family from Taoyuan to Chiayi.  Last October, because of the stresses from life, he’d gotten annoyed at his two-months-old young secondborn daughter’s crying, he’d, beaten the infant girl’s head repeatedly, used the hangers, the blunt objects to abuse her, strangled her neck using a towel, and used the objects that weren’t too sharp, to cut his own young child.

Although Huang’s wife attempted to stop him each and every time from hurting their secondborn daughter, after she’d found her child to not have an appetite after being abused, she’d still spoken on his behalf, that he’d been under a ton of pressure, that he wouldn’t, hurt the children again, and that she couldn’t, take care of her own young if she were to get divorced, that she might want to, leave her own young behind, that was the excuse she used, to justify how she didn’t, take her second-born daughter to the hospital, which caused the child to die in turn.

And, this woman was just making excuse for herself, and her husband, for abusing their children, for NOT taking her own infant child to the hospital to be treated after her husband abused her, and, they’re, BOTH guilty, of murder!

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Before the Restraining Order Was in Effect, the Three-Year-Old Young Child Was Physically Abused by His Father to Seriously Injured

Yeah uh, as this would be, how THESE cases, usually worked, the restraining order ALWAYS came, a little, TOO L-A-T-E!  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A three-year-old young boy in Taichung, two days ago, because he’d cried too hard, he was, beaten by his own father until his nose bled, his head bruised, and, this suspected case of child abuse was exposed online.  The Miaoli County government’s social services showed concerns, and, they’d found, that the mother of this young boy had filed for a restraining order against her husband for domestic violence, but yesterday, the workers from the Social Services couldn’t get in touch with the child’s mother, and as they’d gone to her mothers, nobody answered, and, the social services is now, in charge of this case.

Based off of understanding, the child’s parents lived in Da-An District in Taichung, they had two children, the father is twenty-three years old, the mother, twenty.  At the start of the year, the woman was suspected of being physically abused by the husband, she’d gone back to her parents’ in Miaoli to live, and she’d filed for a restraining order against him with the courts, the courts had yet to process the case; during this period, the woman had taken her son to return back to her husband’s house, the man works odds and ends jobs, the woman is, unemployed.

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Two days ago, the man showed up abruptly at the woman’s family, said he ws taking the young boy to buy toys, he’d driven his wife and son back to Taichung.  But, that afternoon, as the man was napping his son got too loud, he’d beaten his son so hard that the child had nose bleeds and bruising all over his head, as the woman found her son covered up in bruises, she’d, called her father to get them out and away from her husband.

The social services of Miaoli stated, that the case happened in Da-An, Taichung, and after the case of suspected child abuse was out, the social service had, stepped in, at around three in the afternoon yesterday, they’d received the confirmed reports of injuries on the young boy, and there WAS a case of child abuse, they’re now, waiting for the government in Taichung to deal with the paper works of processing, and as the case will be reported, they will handle the matter afterwards.

The Social Services of Miaoli stated, that at the beginning of January, the man was suspected of physically abusing his wife, back then, the domestic violence prevention center in Taichung had intervened.  At the bottom of March, the woman went back to her parents’ in Miaoli to live, the Taichung Domestic Violence Prevention Center had referred the case to the Miaoli unit, the social service department in Miaoli then, reported the case to the police, to help the woman get a restraining order with the courts, the case is set to open in court on May 23rd.

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And so, see how god DAMN long this process is?  The case of abuse started before March of this year, because the woman RAN to her parents’ to live at the end of March, and the case will only BE going to TRIAL this month, in a few more weeks, and, what IF, this LOSER breaks the restraining order, and beaten his own wife and child up again, or worse, what if, he’d gone after them, and, MURDERED them both, huh???  I mean, it’s, happened before you know…

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A Two-Year-Old Child Was Abused to a Vegetative State, His Parents Were Charged

Parents who hurt their young, off the Front Page Sections, translated…

At the start of last year, there was a two-year-old boy who fell into a coma, his parents carried him into the E.R. to ask for help, but the child had subdural hematoma, he became, a vegetable, the doctors who treated him found that he was covered in bruises and wounds old and new, that there were, puncture wounds on the soles of his feet; the police and social workers intervened, and found, that the boy’s twin older sister, and another younger sister of a little over a year old were, “disciplined” the wrong way long-term, the Changwha District Court yesterday charged the abusive parents.

This pair of husband and wife admitted to what they did to their own young children, admitted that they’d, improperly, disciplined the children.  In the indictments, the D.A. stated, that the boy’s father was guilty of abuse, and the mother had long-term abused the children, and charged with physical assault, and negligence assault, and suggested to the judge, to increase their sentences by fifty percent of what would normally be given to the adults charged in similar conditions.

cruelty to a young child, photo found online

At around noon of February 8th, this couple rushed their two-year-old comatose son into the E.R.  The doctors examined him, found the child to suffer from subdural hematoma, and they couldn’t get him back, he fell into a vegetative state, and because the doctors, in their examinations of the boy found there were wounds old and new on him, that there were puncture wounds on the soles of his feet, they suspected it was a serious case of child abuse, and immediately notified the police and the social services.

The child’s mother admitted, that on February 8th of last year, she was alone at home with the children, he’d started crying, she couldn’t soothe him, she’d picked him up and started, shaking him, and accidentally, bumped the young boy’s head on the wooden wardrobe, then the child had, stopped crying, and that was when she’d realized that her son was in a comatose, and started twitching unstop, she’d, panicked, and found something sharp, to stab the child’s soles, to attempt to wake him up using pain.  Later, as her husband returned home from buying them lunch, they’d quickly, rushed their young child to the E.R.

And, we still have here, TWO unfit parents, and, this time, a two-year-old young boy was beaten to comatose, and this couple managed to have a total of FOUR young children between them, and you can guess, how many times this kid’s younger and older siblings may have been abused, but, you’d, probably, NOT come close to the exact number of times these young children were hurt!  And these parents deserve to DIE for what they did to their own young children.

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The Parents Were Dodging the Collectors, Abandoned Their Two Young Sons, and Found Guilty of Abandonment

The SELFISH ACTS of these parents, but then again, if we can’t save ourselves, how the F*** (maxed out???) can we possibly save our own young, right??? From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A woman, Shen who has a teashop in Wanhwa owes over millions of dollars in debt, because she could no longer withstand the collectors coming repeatedly to her home to collect, she’d escaped home, and two days later, her husband “ran away from home” to, leaving only the Indonesian nurse’s aide, with their twin eight-year-old sons with cerebral palsy. The Taipei District Attorney’s Offices believed that the twins weren’t capable of taking care of themselves on their own, they’d charged the couple with abandonment.

The D.A.’s investigations showed, that Sheng (age 52) had monetary and debt difficulties, and last June, the collectors came repeated to her home to collect, she was pressed, she’d taken the time when the Indonesian nurse’s aide went out to pick her twin sons from school, and escaped to the south to dodge the collectors.

Two days later, her husband, the elderly Su (age 72) also followed suit, and while the Indonesian nurse’s aide went to school to pick up the two young sons, he’d, made his way to his relatives in Hsinbei City to hide out. And, the nurse’s aide waited until midnight, and still no signs of him and his wife, she’d, immediately, notified the police; the police notified the Hsinbei Social Services Department to step in.

The social workers found, that this family was listed as a high-risk family a long time ago, plus the Indonesian nurse’s aide’s term was about to be up, and needed to leave Taiwan, they’d needed to place the twins quickly; the couple had an active arrest warrant out on them by the police, and, after the few months of on the run, they were, finally, caught.

As Sheng was taken in by the police, she’d claimed, that because she couldn’t pay her debts, the collectors kept coming to collect, and she was at her wit’s ends, so she ran; she thought that her husband would, take care of their twin sons, and didn’t guess, that her husband would, escape home like she had too; and the elderly, Su claimed, that there was still the Indonesian aide left at home to look after their sons, that it didn’t, constitute as abandonment.

Based off of understanding, in the time that they were dodging the collectors, they didn’t have any contact with one another.

The D.A. pointed out, that after Su made his escape, and although there was the Indonesian hired help, but she’s not the legal guardian or the caretaker legally, and her work visa was about to expire, and she’d needed to leave, and believed, that the couple’s behaviors constitute as abandonment.

And see, how SELFISH these two god DAMN adults were! They’d just, left home, because they couldn’t take whatever the F*** (maxed out???) they started, and left the nurse’s aide, all alone at home, to take care of their two handicapped children, and if that’s not irresponsible, I don’t know what is!

 

 

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The Debris of Childhood

We’re all, impacted by this, because they (whoever they may be???) still don’t call it “growing pains” for nothing, do they?  Nope!

The debris of childhood, we’re all, feeling the impacts of the destructions, at various stages in our lives, and for some, because they refused to acknowledge, that their childhoods are so FUCKED up (and your point being???), that they needed a lie to live in, and so, they’d made up this HUGE wonderful lie, that they actually had amazing parents who loved them.

The debris of childhood, had you been impacted yet, I had, my life was sent, on that CRASH course, and, I was tossed, from that rollercoaster called my own life, but, I’d held on, refused to let go, and that, was how I was able to survive!  The debris of childhood, are you ready, to face it, up front?  Can you, handle the truth, that your parents may be like mine: abusive AND neglectful?  Because NOBODY can choose her/his family of origin, that, is why all families of origin is a SOURCE of pain for all!

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A Letter Written by His Daughter, the Father Who’s Sexist Was Mandated to Divorce

Sexism, in practice, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A woman, Huang, accused her husband for playing favorites with their seven-year-old son, and not loved their sixteen-year-old daughter equally, she couldn’t put up with it, asked for a divorce.  The judge based the letter written by the daughter that stated, “You’d never put your heart on me…you’d told me, that there are a lot of other relatives who looked out for me, that you didn’t need to take care of me anymore…”, and, on the stands, she’d stated that “the verbal exchanges my father had with my younger brother is MORE than the number of words he’d exchanged with me my whole life”, believed, that Huang’s accusations are valid, and, allowed for the divorce.

Huang accused, after her daughter was born, her husband didn’t show ANY care or concerns, and refused to pay for the daughter’s schooling or living expenses, that all the related costs were paid for, by her side of the family, the two had lived together, separately now; the husband said, “you owe me a son”, she’d immediately gotten impregnated by him, but, after her son was born, her husband started playing favorites with her son, it’d hurt her daughter so.  She said, that because of the pressures of her marriage, she’d put her heart and soul into religion, last year, after her daughter went to Canada to study, she’d decided to move out, and made her mind up on divorce.

Huang’s husband rebutted, he’s just not really comfortable at showing care and concern, but, in his daughter’s growing up, he’d accompanied her, and had given her a cell phone, as well as a laptop as presents, and that after the son was born, he’d become better off economically, that, was why he’d started providing for his own son’s education.

The judge called on their daughter to the stand, the daughter showed a letter she’d written to her father last August, “You’d probably not known how I’d dated a younger boy back in middle school, because I’d longed to be loved by a guy, after I’d broken up with him, I’d cried for so long, because I actually thought, that no guy can ever love me, you’d once told me, that there are, a lot of other people who loved me already, that your love would not be necessary, it’s really shocking, that parents would think, that they’d given too much love to their own children…”

The daughter took the stand, and confirmed, that since she was growing up, her father never talked to her in depth more than five times, when her classmates came over, her father would stay in his room, and wouldn’t come out to meet them, but he’d accompanied her younger brother every single day, given a ton of toys to her younger brother, “The verbal exchanges my father had with my younger brother is MORE than the verbal exchanges he’d had with me”.

The judge believed, that Huang’s accusations were valid, that it did, cause their marriage to break up, and the two had slept in separate rooms for a very long time, granted the divorce.  The daughter clearly stated that she wanted to live with her mother, and her husband had no objections, and so, the custody of the teenager went to the mother.  From the social workers’ home visit notes, Huang would often gone abroad to attend functions of religious matter, couldn’t accompany the seven-year-old son long-term, and so, the custody of their son was given to her husband.

So, this, is how FAR favoritism got!  And, the man did it, too obviously, I mean, yeah you are excited to have a son, but, you still should NOT ignore your daughter completely, you’d shown a lack of care AND concern toward her, and, what kind of a father ARE you, to play favorites like that!

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