The values passed down to their young, how these parents led by example, to teach their children how to behave correctly, translated…
“Mom, did dad ever taken the bribes”, that day on the phones, I’d suddenly gotten curious. In my memories, my father who is only a patrol officer, had gotten the gifts of various sorts during the holidays, and, for me then, who’d not known any better, opening up these “presents” was the highlights: sausages, soaps, cakes………most of the times, the gift contents were the items of the holidays, but there were those times that are, outside of these, exceptions, those were the moments of my surprises!
I’d recalled this, once as I opened up the packages, there was a red envelope lying there, at the bottom of the giftbox, I suppose, it was, a bribe from the individual who’d come to our home with the gifts? So, what did my father do with the red envelope? My mother became a chatterbox, once we started discussing the bribes.
I was born in a place called “three-and-a-half kilometers”, with my father working at the check stations with the Department of Forestry, all the woods that go in and out, needed his stamp on it to go through. My mother told me, that the check station is a huge opening, that there would be the gifts brought to us, and mostly, we’d received the “pork”, and in those days of not having enough resources, we can’t have all the meats, the fishes daily, and surely, the pork were often used as, gifts.
At another check station of Xinyi Substation jurisdiction of Nantou, there was an officer whose wife gambled a lot, and because she’d lacked the funds, he’d asked for money from those who came bearing the gifts, and someone ratted the woman out, and, it’d impacted her husband’s work with the police……………and the conclusions my mother reached from the case was, “we can’t get greedy!”
It’s still norm for the gifts to be given and received on the holidays in the government offices, and the givers are trying to “get with the government workers”, but if there are the illegal asking of favors, then, the gifts will needed to be upgraded to major, instead of the regular gift baskets.
“The police aren’t at a higher status now, not like they were from before”, my mother mentioned to me, I’d felt so too. when I was younger, living in the police dorms as I’d, turned into the substation where my father was stationed, I’d felt the gazes of my classmates, looking upon me with envy. The elders in the village, as they saw the officers, they would call out, “Sir!”, the officers were like the law enforcers of the ancient county governments, with the powers to enforce the law, which made room for the bribes to easily take place.
I’d asked my mother, “did dad ever take any bribes?”, my mother told, “he couldn’t turn them away”. Those who bribed would hand off a red envelope packed with many bills to the manager of the station, and have him split it to the subordinates, who wouldn’t take it?
But, there were, those who’d “gobbled up the cash”, once as my mother was going to the bathrooms in the public toilets outside of the dorms, she’d overheard the two officers, conspiring, “we’ll give this pack to Chang (my father).”, my mother worried this would cause the interactions of my father and his coworkers to go sour, as she got home, she’d, prepared him for it, “the money from others, if you get it, it’s fine, if you don’t, that’s fine too, the money that came the wrong way, easy come easy go.” My father nodded, and, he was okay afterwards.
If the money were for everybody, then, why would you not take it, but, if it were only for my father? Then, that, I suppose, was that huge packet of money at the bottom of the gift box, my mother told me, that my father turned it in up the chain of command. There’d been cases of briberies since the beginning of times, and, there were the illegal means to an end of those who bribed, and, the recipients of these bribes, naturally do the favors, but, knowing the law and breaking it, it’s, an added on offense, once busted, it’s the entire station’s futures on the line, not just the individuals’.
The numerous cases of bribes in the news, it’d made me glad that my father, although he couldn’t turn down the bribes, but thankfully, my parents were greedy, to the point, that they fall into that huge abyss of becoming too unlawful.
“A woman (a wife’s) attitude is very important.”, that’s another conclusion of my mother’s, the wife affects the husband, the parents, influence their young, I’m grateful for my parents for not being greedy, which taught me to feel blessed with what I already, have.
And so, this is the value that these parents teach to their young, that it’s wrong to take the bribes, but sometimes, if you want to survive at work, you have to do these bad things, and, it’s okay, so long as you don’t get too greedy to the point, that you start taking bribes that get bigger, bigger and bigger, because things will snowball, and you will crash in the end. And bribes are still, B-A-D!