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The traps that will get you screwed, because by holding this, you’d have the tendencies to feel depressed when you experience, or encounter things that ARE unjust

The Air, My Friend

The column by Jimmi Liao, translated…

The Wind Started Blowing, the Hat Flew Off

The Wind Stopped, the Hat, Dropped into the Water

The Wind Got Angry, Why is Everything Blamed on it?

artwork of Jimmi Liao, off of UDN.com幾米

This is scapegoating, because instead of making sure that that hat is, SECURE on your heads, you’d, blamed it on the wind because it’s, much, much easier than, to take responsibilities for what you failed to do in the first place, this happens, quite a lot, if you can believe it!

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The Father Slammed the Infant Girl Causing Her to Have Subdural Hematoma, Charged with Domestic Violence

These cases seemed to be, never-ending, don’t’ they???  Another case of an infant being abused!  Off the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Liu, in Changwha was accused of forcing his a little older than a year old daughter who was developmentally delayed to physical therapy, allowing her to fall on her own, and, as he was having an argument on the ways of teaching his own young, he’d, thrown his own young daughter onto the table, causing her to have subdural hematoma, and the infant started vomiting endlessly; the D.A.s office in Changwha charged Liu with laws to prevent domestic violence, and other charges, asked the courts to sentence him heavily.

Liu’s wife was also taken into custody, the D.A. dropped the indictment charges against her, due to lack of evidence of abuse.  But, the Changwha Social Services Department, after reviewing the facts, believed that it would be ill-fitted for the infant girl to go home, and still placed her in protective custody.

The D.A said, that when the infant was just a little over a month old, she suffered a subdural hematoma from “not being cared for properly by an unknown member of the family” and was, hospitalized, back then, there were bruises on the infant’s eyes and left cheek, she seemed to have suffered from shaken baby syndrome, and was diagnosed as developmentally delayed.  In February of last year, the child started vomiting, and started sleeping too much, was taken to the hospitals, and the hospital examined her and found there were injuries new and old on her, that she’d suffered subdural hematoma, the hospital suspected that she was abused.

The county government and the police investigated found, that because Liu’s noting the infant had injuries on her, refused to take her to the hospitals to get treated, and after many days, he’d taken her in on February 22nd.  Back then, Liu told, that he’d allowed the infant to stumble around as she’d learned to walk, that she’d, bumped her head.

The indictment told, that last year around New Year’s, Liu’s wife took the infant child home, and her grandmother found there were bruises on her, and Liu’s wife told her that he’d disciplined the infant when she’d started crying out of term.  Liu also posted on FB and argued with his friend, “Why don’t you report my beating my daughter up to the police then?”  the friend replied, “you keep on beating her, your wife said you’d beaten both of your children so bad she couldn’t take them out………”  “it’s just, that the Social Services hadn’t found out yet…”.

And so, that is how this worked, unless someone REPORTS something, the social services wouldn’t have the slightest CLUE to check, and that just won’t work, because usually, by the time shits like these gets reported, someone had gotten so severely injured that s/he had died, or is now, on life-support, and, this violent father’s being charged, is still NOT fitting enough for what he’d done to his own young.

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The Ruling Justice of the Sexual Harassment Case of a Judge, the Department of Examination Will Pursue a Criminal Charge

This is, probably, as close as it’ll ever get, for justice to be served, of a crime committed by a judge!!! From the Front Page Sections, translated…

The High Executive Court Judge, Hong-Bing Chen’s Sexually Harassing His Female Assistant, He’d Gotten Suspended from his Judgeship, and, the Courts that Oversees the Case Changed the Punishment to Have Him Pay Back the Retirement of a Year’s of about Two Million Dollars N.T., it’d Caused Debate; the Examination Yuan Posed Thirteen Reasons for Retrial, and Filed for a Retrial with the Justice System, and Questioned that the Original Judge of the Retrial, Lin was Suspected of Hiding the Facts He Received from Another Justice.

The justice department confirmed, that after the verdict was read, Justice Hsieh had resigned from her post, and the other four justices also sent in their resignations awhile ago. Lin said, that the justices should based the rulings on their own conscience, that this incident had caused the unsettlement of the society, that resigning was what was responsible, but still firmly believed, that the justices of the courts should make decisions independent of each other, that they shouldn’t have the prejudices and ruled on the matter before the trials are ended.

And so, this, is what happened, they’d, FIRED (oh wait the judges RESIGNED!!!) the justices from their posts, because someone HAS to pay for this incident, and it’s just a witch hunt, with a ton of scapegoats, what needed to get changed in the systems, and, firing those justices of the courts is NOT what should be done, what should be done would be, a REFORM of moral responsibilities for the justices here.

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The Thirty-Sixth “I’m Sorry”, in the Workplace

Translated…

I read across a report in a magazine, “the most widely used phrases came from the Zen Master of the era during 420 to 589, in the west, it’d become popularized in the 1850s, meaning those words one said repeatedly”.  In the article, it’d mentioned how those most widely used phrases can have positive effects in communication, that if the working class constantly used the positive most widely used phrases, they would attract those who are similar to them, and naturally, get closer, to success………I’d told my son, since he’d gone into the travel industries, his most widely used phrase was, “I’m sorry”, is this positive?

My son laughed in disbelief, at which time, his cell phone started ringing, it was, the tour guide to Japan, said that two of the guests refused to have the hotpot arranged for them by the tourist agency, that they’d insisted on having pork chops; the leader of the tour worried it might be inconvenient to the restaurant, and feared, that it might be a bad example for the rest of the tourists, called from overseas, to file a grievance to my son, “Your clients, you take care of them.”  My son immediately apologized to the tour guide, then, soothed the travelers, asked them to just eat the hotpot with the rest of the group, that after they returned, he will treat them to the pork chops they’d wanted to have.

from the papers…

Seeing how my son had, lowered himself, as his mother, I felt that he was taken.  But my son told me, there are people from all walks of life, don’t know how many bad customers I’d come across over the years, this, was merely, a side dish, he said, that once, he’d continually told a client “I’m sorry” a total of thirty-six times, after the phone call, he was, completely, depleted of energy.

That time, he’d taken on a foreign tour group, at the information session, over thirty people came, as he’d collected the fees, some paid by credit card, some paid by cash, all of a sudden, he’d become aware, that there was a tourist, Ms. Lee who’d asked to pay by installments, and asked the others, “are there any like Ms. Lee who are paying by installments?” then, a group of people rushed up to him, and Ms. Lee was extremely furious, “What do you mean?  Why did you use my name?”

“Holy!  Could she have, mistaken my meaning that she didn’t have enough money that, was why she’d paid by installment?”, my son immediately realized that he’d misspoke, and told her that he’d not meant anything by it, but Ms. Lee wouldn’t have it, still pressed on.  And my son, who was then, cornered, can only kept apologizing to her, and as he’d counted to the thirty-sixth time he’d apologized to her, Ms. Lee finally got tired of grilling him, turned around and left, and he’d gone back to his cubicle, and, downed half a liter of water in one gulp.

not my comic…

Afterwards, my son received a call from Ms. Lee’s coworker, told him, that Ms. Lee was scolded by the superiors at the office for NO reasons at all, that she wasn’t in a good mood, that, was why she’d taken her angers out on him, hoped that my son can empathize.  My son said, that it was his fault first, that he’d spoken too fast, without taking into considerations that it may affect the way she felt, that he will surely improve the next time.

Although my son said carelessly, that he’d, rolled around the workforce for many years now, and had already become totally immune from everything that happens in the workforce, I can still see, that he was, somewhat hurt.  As for his most widely used phrase, did it have any positive influences?  I’d thought for a long time, and still couldn’t reach my own conclusions, but, you can never be too courteous, if you’re not closer to success, you would be, a step away from failure, I suppose.

So, this, is when one deals with a customer who’s WRONG, but, because this guy works in the service industries, he’d needed to, lower himself, to make his clients feel better, and this woman took out how she was grilled by her superior at work on someone unrelated to her work, and that just shows how low emotional control this woman has.

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The Riots in Baltimore, “It’s as If There’s an Anarchy”

Unrest in the world here, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

Entering into a State of Emergency, the Rioters Committed Arsons, Smashed the Cars, Committed Robberies………Fifteen Officers Injured, Five Thousand Militia Men were Stationed

On the 27th, in Baltimore, Maryland, there was a serious riot, several thousand went into mourning for a young African American, Greg, while he’d tried to resist arrest and was shot fatally, by the police, the riot started just a few hours after his funeral, the rioters set the shops on fire, burned the police vehicles, assaulted the police officers, the Governor of Maryland declared it a state of emergency for the state, and a curfew is enforced, and sent out five thousand civilian militants to keep the orders.

Over a hundred of youths got into confrontation with the police on the 27th, there were more who’d taken advantage of the situation, the police were fully equipped as they’d gone to the scene of the riots, and would use pepper sprays from time to time, to threaten the rioting public.  The streets became overflown with broken glasses and trash, the group of rioters gathered in smaller groups, smashed shops, destroyed the patrol vehicles, set the building, and the parked cars by the streets ablaze, there were also those who’d driven to the malls, and took the merchandises without paying, Maryland seemed to have fallen under anarchy.

The New York Times reported, that the African American gangsters from the local areas told them, that as the riots started, the gangsters went to offer assistance to the shops owned by African Americans, to make sure that these shops won’t be attacked.  But, these gangsters had pointed out, which shops were owned by Asians, Middle Easterners, so they can smash the shops, to take out their angers.

The police arrested twenty-seven individuals, and said, that there were fifteen officers who were injured during the process, and, six of them are in critical condition.  On the early morning of the 28th, the militia took over the streets, and, the situation in the city had calmed by a whole lot, and, the city’s employees and volunteers were starting to clean up the streets, but, there were, a lot of the building that fell to arsonists, still smoking.

The Governor, Hogan declared, that there would be a curfew set into effect, from ten o’clock on the 28th, to five o’clock in the morning on the 29th, and it will last a week, and, the underage minors are to follow this curfew indefinitely.

The mayor, Rawlings-Blake said, that the sight of the city being broken had broken her heart.  But, a lot of the residents believed, that the government didn’t act right away, as the riots started happening, causing there to be so much damages.

Gray was arrested on the 12th of April, he was seriously injured, taken to the hospital, on the 19th, he was declared dead, the cause of his death, multiple fractures on his spine.  A lot of the rioters believed, that Gray was tortured to death by the police, and, since the 19th, there are protesters on the streets of Baltimore every single day.

And so, this, is another case of race at war, and, this, is bound to happen, because people finally decided to do something, about the unfair treatment of people of different colored skins, and this, is still just the TIPS of a HUGE iceberg, and, because the citizens felt that there was an injustice that weren’t righted, and so, they’d taken matters into their own hands, after all, the government is NOT doing anything about it.

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If It’s His Ex-Girlfriend, Then, Why Must He Marry Her?

Troubled???  A Q&A, translated…

Q: Ms. C wrote…

Had allowed love to get to her head, couldn’t see the truth, Ms. C sent me a letter, she said, “the boyfriend doesn’t love ‘his current girlfriend’ (she’d especially labeled her as an ex-girlfriend); but his family forced him to marry her, because she’d lived with the family for over twelve years now, and, he must shoulder the responsibilities toward her.  They’d even told him, if after they’d married, and realized, that they still couldn’t get along, then, they can file for divorce, but, he just, can’t abandon her now.  If he doesn’t marry that ex of his, then, the boyfriend’s family threatened to cut him off, and wouldn’t allow him back into their household.”

C said, that her boyfriend is in love with another girl—it’s Ms. C.  she said, that her boyfriend and her are not only really much in love with one another, she’d kept waiting for him, to plan out their lives together.

And now, they’re “in waiting”, as the issues with the ex-girlfriend just couldn’t get resolved.  She wanted to know how she can resolve the stresses of her boyfriend’s family toward them, would his family really force them to split up?

My Advice

From Ms. C’s letter, I can understand, some unspoken truths, which was: her boyfriend was originally with his ex, or maybe, he’d gotten tired about being with her (or maybe, it’s normal), the boyfriend cheated with C, and, thought about, that he’d had to actually get married to C.

Whether it be a new love, or an old flame, or maybe, he’s just stalling, he is irresponsible, without the strengths, stamina, doesn’t want to be the bad guy who brings up the break up, so, he’d used his own family as a shield, and blamed it on them, to stall for awhile, then, he will used a more rash reason that’s made up by himself, “to break his own heart” and break up with C.  C, who is either too young, too naïve, or blinded by love, if she doesn’t wake up soon, maybe, she’d gobbled all his lies right up, and, became a “spare”, who’s waiting for her boyfriend to marry his girlfriend, until they’re divorced.

Simply stated, after the boyfriend had cheated and had his fun, he will still end up, marrying his “ex-girlfriend”, so, DON’T trust him!

And this, is where the trouble is, the woman is still too infatuated with the man, and she will gobble up ALL those LIES he’d sold her on, and, chances are, that she probably will STAY DORMANT, until it’s WAY too late, until the “ex-girlfriend” who’d become her “boyfriend’s” WIFE, and found out about them, and SUED, and, this woman still doesn’t HAVE a clue, because she’s way too BLINDED by L-O-V-E!

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Etched into the Hearts

This, is something that cuts so very deep, isn’t it???

Etched into the hearts, and, you won’t be able to remove it, like you could that tattoo of that ex-lover, with laser or whatever either!!!

Etched into the hearts, are the experiences of your painful childhood years, those years that you’d spent, all alone, with NOBODY to care for your emotional needs, because those god DAMN adults just, don’t have a SINGLE clue about how to love you, do they?  Nope!

Etched into the hearts, are the lies that he’d sold you out on, and, you knew damn well, that they’re just that, and yet, because you feared losing him, you’d allowed him, to feed you his lies, out of the palms of his hands.  Etched into the hearts, and, there’s NO way you can get rid of them all now, oh no, they’d become engraved completely, so deep down inside.

Etched into the hearts, are those painful memories, that just keep on, comin’ right back to haunt, to gnaw on you, each, and every night, and, you’re still losing your sleep………

Etched into the hearts, are the images of that child, being brutally, beaten up by her mother’s boyfriend, because she wouldn’t STOP crying, because she needed a bottle, or that her diaper is wet, and needed changing, but her mother’s boyfriend was getting high, and became really annoyed, and so, he’d picked the child up, and, tossed her, out the window, where the baby landed, into the dumpster down below, and, she’d died, from the fall too!

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