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The traps that will get you screwed, because by holding this, you’d have the tendencies to feel depressed when you experience, or encounter things that ARE unjust

The Thirty-Sixth “I’m Sorry”, in the Workplace

Translated…

I read across a report in a magazine, “the most widely used phrases came from the Zen Master of the era during 420 to 589, in the west, it’d become popularized in the 1850s, meaning those words one said repeatedly”.  In the article, it’d mentioned how those most widely used phrases can have positive effects in communication, that if the working class constantly used the positive most widely used phrases, they would attract those who are similar to them, and naturally, get closer, to success………I’d told my son, since he’d gone into the travel industries, his most widely used phrase was, “I’m sorry”, is this positive?

My son laughed in disbelief, at which time, his cell phone started ringing, it was, the tour guide to Japan, said that two of the guests refused to have the hotpot arranged for them by the tourist agency, that they’d insisted on having pork chops; the leader of the tour worried it might be inconvenient to the restaurant, and feared, that it might be a bad example for the rest of the tourists, called from overseas, to file a grievance to my son, “Your clients, you take care of them.”  My son immediately apologized to the tour guide, then, soothed the travelers, asked them to just eat the hotpot with the rest of the group, that after they returned, he will treat them to the pork chops they’d wanted to have.

from the papers…

Seeing how my son had, lowered himself, as his mother, I felt that he was taken.  But my son told me, there are people from all walks of life, don’t know how many bad customers I’d come across over the years, this, was merely, a side dish, he said, that once, he’d continually told a client “I’m sorry” a total of thirty-six times, after the phone call, he was, completely, depleted of energy.

That time, he’d taken on a foreign tour group, at the information session, over thirty people came, as he’d collected the fees, some paid by credit card, some paid by cash, all of a sudden, he’d become aware, that there was a tourist, Ms. Lee who’d asked to pay by installments, and asked the others, “are there any like Ms. Lee who are paying by installments?” then, a group of people rushed up to him, and Ms. Lee was extremely furious, “What do you mean?  Why did you use my name?”

“Holy!  Could she have, mistaken my meaning that she didn’t have enough money that, was why she’d paid by installment?”, my son immediately realized that he’d misspoke, and told her that he’d not meant anything by it, but Ms. Lee wouldn’t have it, still pressed on.  And my son, who was then, cornered, can only kept apologizing to her, and as he’d counted to the thirty-sixth time he’d apologized to her, Ms. Lee finally got tired of grilling him, turned around and left, and he’d gone back to his cubicle, and, downed half a liter of water in one gulp.

not my comic…

Afterwards, my son received a call from Ms. Lee’s coworker, told him, that Ms. Lee was scolded by the superiors at the office for NO reasons at all, that she wasn’t in a good mood, that, was why she’d taken her angers out on him, hoped that my son can empathize.  My son said, that it was his fault first, that he’d spoken too fast, without taking into considerations that it may affect the way she felt, that he will surely improve the next time.

Although my son said carelessly, that he’d, rolled around the workforce for many years now, and had already become totally immune from everything that happens in the workforce, I can still see, that he was, somewhat hurt.  As for his most widely used phrase, did it have any positive influences?  I’d thought for a long time, and still couldn’t reach my own conclusions, but, you can never be too courteous, if you’re not closer to success, you would be, a step away from failure, I suppose.

So, this, is when one deals with a customer who’s WRONG, but, because this guy works in the service industries, he’d needed to, lower himself, to make his clients feel better, and this woman took out how she was grilled by her superior at work on someone unrelated to her work, and that just shows how low emotional control this woman has.

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The Riots in Baltimore, “It’s as If There’s an Anarchy”

Unrest in the world here, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

Entering into a State of Emergency, the Rioters Committed Arsons, Smashed the Cars, Committed Robberies………Fifteen Officers Injured, Five Thousand Militia Men were Stationed

On the 27th, in Baltimore, Maryland, there was a serious riot, several thousand went into mourning for a young African American, Greg, while he’d tried to resist arrest and was shot fatally, by the police, the riot started just a few hours after his funeral, the rioters set the shops on fire, burned the police vehicles, assaulted the police officers, the Governor of Maryland declared it a state of emergency for the state, and a curfew is enforced, and sent out five thousand civilian militants to keep the orders.

Over a hundred of youths got into confrontation with the police on the 27th, there were more who’d taken advantage of the situation, the police were fully equipped as they’d gone to the scene of the riots, and would use pepper sprays from time to time, to threaten the rioting public.  The streets became overflown with broken glasses and trash, the group of rioters gathered in smaller groups, smashed shops, destroyed the patrol vehicles, set the building, and the parked cars by the streets ablaze, there were also those who’d driven to the malls, and took the merchandises without paying, Maryland seemed to have fallen under anarchy.

The New York Times reported, that the African American gangsters from the local areas told them, that as the riots started, the gangsters went to offer assistance to the shops owned by African Americans, to make sure that these shops won’t be attacked.  But, these gangsters had pointed out, which shops were owned by Asians, Middle Easterners, so they can smash the shops, to take out their angers.

The police arrested twenty-seven individuals, and said, that there were fifteen officers who were injured during the process, and, six of them are in critical condition.  On the early morning of the 28th, the militia took over the streets, and, the situation in the city had calmed by a whole lot, and, the city’s employees and volunteers were starting to clean up the streets, but, there were, a lot of the building that fell to arsonists, still smoking.

The Governor, Hogan declared, that there would be a curfew set into effect, from ten o’clock on the 28th, to five o’clock in the morning on the 29th, and it will last a week, and, the underage minors are to follow this curfew indefinitely.

The mayor, Rawlings-Blake said, that the sight of the city being broken had broken her heart.  But, a lot of the residents believed, that the government didn’t act right away, as the riots started happening, causing there to be so much damages.

Gray was arrested on the 12th of April, he was seriously injured, taken to the hospital, on the 19th, he was declared dead, the cause of his death, multiple fractures on his spine.  A lot of the rioters believed, that Gray was tortured to death by the police, and, since the 19th, there are protesters on the streets of Baltimore every single day.

And so, this, is another case of race at war, and, this, is bound to happen, because people finally decided to do something, about the unfair treatment of people of different colored skins, and this, is still just the TIPS of a HUGE iceberg, and, because the citizens felt that there was an injustice that weren’t righted, and so, they’d taken matters into their own hands, after all, the government is NOT doing anything about it.

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If It’s His Ex-Girlfriend, Then, Why Must He Marry Her?

Troubled???  A Q&A, translated…

Q: Ms. C wrote…

Had allowed love to get to her head, couldn’t see the truth, Ms. C sent me a letter, she said, “the boyfriend doesn’t love ‘his current girlfriend’ (she’d especially labeled her as an ex-girlfriend); but his family forced him to marry her, because she’d lived with the family for over twelve years now, and, he must shoulder the responsibilities toward her.  They’d even told him, if after they’d married, and realized, that they still couldn’t get along, then, they can file for divorce, but, he just, can’t abandon her now.  If he doesn’t marry that ex of his, then, the boyfriend’s family threatened to cut him off, and wouldn’t allow him back into their household.”

C said, that her boyfriend is in love with another girl—it’s Ms. C.  she said, that her boyfriend and her are not only really much in love with one another, she’d kept waiting for him, to plan out their lives together.

And now, they’re “in waiting”, as the issues with the ex-girlfriend just couldn’t get resolved.  She wanted to know how she can resolve the stresses of her boyfriend’s family toward them, would his family really force them to split up?

My Advice

From Ms. C’s letter, I can understand, some unspoken truths, which was: her boyfriend was originally with his ex, or maybe, he’d gotten tired about being with her (or maybe, it’s normal), the boyfriend cheated with C, and, thought about, that he’d had to actually get married to C.

Whether it be a new love, or an old flame, or maybe, he’s just stalling, he is irresponsible, without the strengths, stamina, doesn’t want to be the bad guy who brings up the break up, so, he’d used his own family as a shield, and blamed it on them, to stall for awhile, then, he will used a more rash reason that’s made up by himself, “to break his own heart” and break up with C.  C, who is either too young, too naïve, or blinded by love, if she doesn’t wake up soon, maybe, she’d gobbled all his lies right up, and, became a “spare”, who’s waiting for her boyfriend to marry his girlfriend, until they’re divorced.

Simply stated, after the boyfriend had cheated and had his fun, he will still end up, marrying his “ex-girlfriend”, so, DON’T trust him!

And this, is where the trouble is, the woman is still too infatuated with the man, and she will gobble up ALL those LIES he’d sold her on, and, chances are, that she probably will STAY DORMANT, until it’s WAY too late, until the “ex-girlfriend” who’d become her “boyfriend’s” WIFE, and found out about them, and SUED, and, this woman still doesn’t HAVE a clue, because she’s way too BLINDED by L-O-V-E!

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Etched into the Hearts

This, is something that cuts so very deep, isn’t it???

Etched into the hearts, and, you won’t be able to remove it, like you could that tattoo of that ex-lover, with laser or whatever either!!!

Etched into the hearts, are the experiences of your painful childhood years, those years that you’d spent, all alone, with NOBODY to care for your emotional needs, because those god DAMN adults just, don’t have a SINGLE clue about how to love you, do they?  Nope!

Etched into the hearts, are the lies that he’d sold you out on, and, you knew damn well, that they’re just that, and yet, because you feared losing him, you’d allowed him, to feed you his lies, out of the palms of his hands.  Etched into the hearts, and, there’s NO way you can get rid of them all now, oh no, they’d become engraved completely, so deep down inside.

Etched into the hearts, are those painful memories, that just keep on, comin’ right back to haunt, to gnaw on you, each, and every night, and, you’re still losing your sleep………

Etched into the hearts, are the images of that child, being brutally, beaten up by her mother’s boyfriend, because she wouldn’t STOP crying, because she needed a bottle, or that her diaper is wet, and needed changing, but her mother’s boyfriend was getting high, and became really annoyed, and so, he’d picked the child up, and, tossed her, out the window, where the baby landed, into the dumpster down below, and, she’d died, from the fall too!

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A Strong Man Beaten Someone to Death, But He Didn’t Use His Right Hand, So, He Was Given a Lighter Sentence

What the!!!  Translated…

A strong man, who had an amputation on his right calf because of a fire, Lang had been placed, because he was displeased at how his roommate, Huang often claimed and bragged, “I belong to the mob!”, in the middle of the nights, he’d gone into Huang’s room to beat him up; Huang, who was immobilized because of a stroke called out, “I’m sorry!”, and became limp, but he was still held out by Chi and beaten.  The D.A. believed, that Chi had once been involved in a boxing competition, knew that beating someone’s central nervous system can cause death, they’d charged him with murder; Chi said, “What the HELL do you know?  I’m using a ‘false’ fist!”

The District Court in Shihlin believed, that Chi didn’t use his right fist which was his primary hand, and didn’t use the beer bottle, or any sort of weapons to hit the man, that there was no intent for murder, gave him eight years, six months based off of involuntary manslaughter.  The District Attorney’s Office in Shihlin said, “Murder IS murder”, they’re going to appeal.

Chi (age 43) has priors in public endangerment and threats to get money, in a fire, he was hurt, his right calf was amputated; the Social Services Department of Hsinbei City has given him help, placed him in the Ai-Hu Development Center.  Huang was a stroke patient, relied on wheelchair to get around.  Last year in the early morning of August 31st, Chi went to Huang’s room, asked, “I thought you knew people, go call them all here then!”, before Huang had the time to react, he’d been fisted on the right side of his face.

Huang kept begging for his life, “I’m sorry!”, he’d become limp in his bed, but, Chi still held him up, and pounded his fists into him.  After Chi was done, beaten on Huang, he’d gone to the subprecinct to report, “I was threatened!”  the Ai-Hu Development Center took him to the hospitals, and Huang died on September 12th, because of a shock, induced by his own central nervous system.

Chi admitted to hitting Huang five, six times, he’d claimed that it was because Huang had used verbal insults on him, “I knew a gang in Sanchong”, and wanted him to “take out a loan, so I can spend the money”, that, was why he was displeased, the D.A. discovered, that since Chi started living at Ai-Hu, he’d only had two conversations with Huang, they never interacted, just because Huang felt insulted, he’d killed someone, and showed NO remorse, the D.A. asked for a heavy sentence.  But Chi insisted that he’d only used his left hand, and his left palm, to hit Huang’s face, close to the eyes.

See how it doesn’t take much, to SET someone off?  And, this loser still tried to WEASEL too, believe it or don’t, but gladly, the judge didn’t buy it, and still found him responsible.

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How Could Ten Years Be Enough for Rape?

This, is NOT only degrading, but very demeaning too, and, it SURELY took the J-U-R-Y, LONG enough, to “arrive” at their decisions that’s for certain, from MSNNEWS.com…

BILLINGS, Mont. (AP) — A Montana teacher was sentenced Friday to 10 years in prison in a notorious student rape case that dragged on for years and led to the censure of a judge who partially blamed the victim.

Stacey Dean Rambold, 55, was resentenced by a new judge exactly a year after he completed an initial one-month prison term for the crime.

Rambold appeared to grimace as Friday’s sentence was read by Judge Randal Spaulding. He was then handcuffed and led away by deputies, pausing briefly to exchange words with family as he exited the courtroom.

Rambold pleaded guilty last year to a single count of sexual intercourse without consent in the 2007 rape of 14-year-old Cherice Moralez, a freshman in his Billings Senior High School business class. She committed suicide in 2010.

Rambold’s attorney had argued for a two-year sentence, pointing out that the defendant had no prior criminal record, underwent sex offender treatment and was considered by the state as a low risk to re-offend.

Spaulding indicated that the nature of the crime outweighed those factors.

“I considered your abuse and exploitation of your position of trust as a teacher, and specifically Cherice’s teacher,” Spaulding told the defendant.

The state Supreme Court in April overturned Rambold’s initial sentence, citing in part comments from Judge G. Todd Baugh, who suggested the victim shared responsibility.

Baugh was censured and suspended for 31 days. He’s stepping down when his terms ends in January.

Yellowstone County Attorney Scott Twito said he was pleased with the new sentence, which included five additional years of prison time that were suspended.

“The criminal justice system worked today,” he said.

John Moralez, the father of the victim, said he had hoped for a longer sentence, but added that 10 years was better than the one-month Rambold previously served.

During the hearing, Twito asked Judge Spaulding to reject attempts by Rambold’s attorney to make the victim’s conduct with her teacher a factor in the sentencing.

That included references by the defendant’s attorney to video-taped interviews of the victim recorded by law enforcement prior to her death. Those recordings, which have never been made public, had been cited by Baugh during his sentencing.

Under state law, children under 16 cannot consent to sexual intercourse.

“The last thing we want to do is sit here in the criminal justice system and say, ‘What is the age?’ It doesn’t matter. Fourteen is way too young,” Twito said. “There has to be punishment. … Punishment means prison.”

Rambold’s attorney, Jay Lansing, responded that there was no statute preventing the court from considering Moralez’s conduct. He pointed out that prosecutors had not objected to comments about the videotaped interview during Rambold’s first sentencing hearing.

Lansing requested for his client a two-year sentence in the custody of the Department of Corrections, with another 13 years suspended. That would have allowed Rambold to serve his time in a community setting rather than prison.

Rambold broke down crying during a brief statement to the court. He said he was sorry for his actions and had worked hard to make himself a better person. In a recent letter to the court, he lamented the international publicity the case attracted.

“No one can really appreciate and understand what it feels like to have so many people actually hate you and be disgusted by you,” Rambold wrote. “I do not mention this for the sake of sympathy, but it has been hard.”

It was uncertain if the new sentence would be appealed, Lansing said.

After the death of Moralez, the prosecution’s primary witness, Twito’s office in 2010 struck a deal with Rambold that initially allowed him to avoid prison altogether.

Rambold, however, violated that agreement by having unauthorized visits with relatives’ children and entering into a relationship with an adult woman without telling his counselor. As a result, the case was revived and Rambold pleaded guilty.

Two additional counts sexual intercourse without consent were dropped under the deal with prosecutors.

During last year’s sentencing, Baugh suggested Moralez had as much control over her rape as the defendant and said she “appeared older than her chronological age.” He gave Rambold a 15-year term with all but one month suspended.

That triggered an appeal from the office of Attorney General Tim Fox, and ultimately resulted in the case being reassigned to Spaulding.

How, can this be JUST?  I mean, LIVES had been LOST here, and, how is JUST TEN years BE enough, to make up for the girl who took HER life after this LOSER instructor raped her?  So, as you can see, in these cases, punishment will NEVER fit the crimes!  And parents, would YOU feel safe, is a M***ER F***ING son-of-a-BITCH (b/c that, is what this is!) works in your child’s schools?  Yeah…

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“I Thought You Were Only Interested in a One-Night-Stand”, the Woman Got Angered, and Sued the Man for Rape

From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Lai used the cell phone application, “Shake it”, asked a twenty-five year old woman out, and had sex with her, the very next day, the woman texted him to go see the night scenes, he’d “not read the message, and not replied” for six hours, the woman got angered and told him, “You were only looking for a one-night-stand, I’m going to sue you for rape!”  The D.A.’s office in Hsinbei City believed that it was consensual sex, and so, they didn’t prosecute the man.

The thirty-five year old man, Lai at the bottom of January, met a drink store clerk using an application on his cell, the woman agreed to go to Lai’s place in Tucheng, Hsinbei City.

As the woman walked in, Lai’s mother and his younger siblings were all watching television on the first floor, Lai took the woman into his third floor bedroom, they ate, chatted, then, had sex; as the woman got home, she’d texted him, and he’d replied, “Do remember to take the pill.”

The next day at four in the afternoon, the woman texted Lai, “Won’t you take me to watch the night skies?”, at six, “I’m off work now, are you there?  Are you busy?”, which Lai didn’t read.  At nine in the evening, the woman wrote, “You don’t answer my calls, you’re ignoring me!”  “You were only into one-night-stand”, at ten, “I hope you get run over on motorcycle, and walking too!”

The woman saw that Lai had been ignoring her for six whole hours, texted, “I had never intended to sleep with you, but you’d forced me to.”, then, she’d called the police to report it as a rape.

When the D.A. questioned them, Lai claimed that it was consensual, that he never forced her; he said, that he’d been too busy the whole day the next day, didn’t even check his cell, and when he finally got around to it, the woman had already started the process of pressing charges against him.  The D.A. reviewed the conversations records, and took the witnesses from Lai’s house, and discovered, that as the woman left his house, she was properly dressed, and looked comfortable, and that there was NO rape involved.

And so, this woman, because the man she’d given herself to didn’t call her back, she got mad, and SUED him for rape, when it was, consensual sex, are you FUCKING kidding me here?  Just because someone had sex with you and didn’t call you back right away, that still doesn’t give you the right to libel and slander now, does it?  Nope!

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