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Kao: When We First Started Dating, He’d Made Me Get Down on My Knees & Begged

The signs of trapped in an abusive relationship that she ignored at first!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

She Was Threatened to Have a Funeral for Her by Her Own Boyfriend, Otherwise, He’ll Use the Net Armies Against Her, Grateful for Her Ex Who’d Stepped Up to Fend for Her

The legislator, Kao told, that after just two, three months she’d started dating Lin, she’d found, that he would lose his temper too easily, that he’d threatened her, forced her to get down on her knees, and would secretly film her, tape-recorded her too, threatened that she’d better stay the whole time through his own mother’s funeral, or he’ll get the net armies after her, to spread the rumors, that when he was upset, he’d barred her from her itinerary, stopped her from going out, and questioned her; she’d told, that Lin claimed that he was medicated with antipsychotic, that the law can’t do anything about him.

Kao told, that as she went up for a seat in the legislation, Lin came to her, offered her advice, and after they were in close conversation for over six months, they started dating.  Lin told, that he knew a lot of professionals in the political, academia, and business fields, but, she’d rarely come into contact with the businesses, didn’t check the facts.  Lin claimed that he knew a lot of the newer political realms, and there were photos of him with the famed from his FB, with the messages left by the members of the academia, arts and performance realms, he seemed to be well connected, and, a lot of women may have been fooled by him using this, “he’d hurt too many, lied too many times, his world is, constructed with the lies”.

After that first time Lin beat her, he told, “This was the first time I’d ever, beaten a woman”, that he’d not known why he’d behaved  like so, that he’d just lost his mother, and had been on medication from the psychiatric department, didn’t know what took over him, apologized repeatedly, “Thankfully the heavens helped me out there, otherwise, I don’t know how much of this life will I be, putting up, with.”

“My ex, Ma was taken too, he’d helped me by stepping up to protect me,” Kao told, that after her ex learned of how she got beaten up, he couldn’t accept it, and, demanded that he deleted the photos, the sex tapes immediately, Lin told that he was only, leading the trends, and, gone to her mother’s funeral to make a scene.  She said, that as a councilwoman, legislator, Ma was her constant advisor, that he was really nice to her, but as she’d broken up with him, and found her a new boyfriend like Lin, “Or maybe, I was, too covered up in my relationship with Ma, that I’d not known, the sorts of evils that are, in this, world.”

On the press conference, Kao cried and described the process of her being abused, the DDP legislator, Wang came to give her a hug and encouragements, a lot of abused women, for the sakes of their young, their families, just, held it all in, that there’s a need for the battered to voice out loud, to put an end to this sort of a bad behavior; the DDP legislator He handed her a bouquet of pink roses, told that when he saw the footages of Kao’s being abused, he’d started, tearing up, that he needed to be there, to offer her some encouragements.  The legislator, Wang from Times Power called out to Kao, “You didn’t do anything wrong, don’t blame yourself!”, and called out to the public, to not be overly critical of the victims of abuse.

The legislator of the Popular Party, Tsai told, that last week, Kao bear hugged her, then, without a word, just, walked, away, “Thinking to it, she’s, really strong, and it’d, ached my heart seeing her like that.”, called out to every victim who is living under the shadows of domestic violence, “For those who love you, treat yourselves well, to NOT fear, to STEP up, to say NO to the abusers!”

And so, this, is how much support this abused legislator is getting, and the signs were already there, as they first begun dating, and, these are, the tell signs that this woman, chose to ignore, which was exactly how she’d, ended up where she currently is right now, and, it’s NEVER right, to use violence on anyone, man, or woman, and this should NOT be, encouraged, and this woman finally, stepped out, and told her stories, in hopes, to prevent the future cases of domestic violence.

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The Predator Raped & Molested His Friend’s Young Daughter Over Thousands of Times in the Span of a Decade, Got a Severe Sentence

The long-term, sexual abuse of this young child, into, her teenage, years, and, this is called, justice???  Yeah right, get REAL!!!  But hey, the judge had, spoken, and case is, closed!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

She was Not Yet Five When Her Mother’s Boyfriend Was Asked to Help Take Care of Her, Although the Settlement Agreement Was, Reached, but the Man Didn’t Get His Sentence Reduced, Due to the Maliciousness to Which He’d, Raped Her

Yo, in 2008, was asked by his friend to help watch his three-year-old daughter, but, before the young girl turned five, Yo started raping, molesting her, for around ten whole years, until the victim could no longer take it anymore, and told a volunteer counselor about it.  The Yilan District Court found Yo guilty of forced sexual behaviors of a child of under age fourteen 608 times, molestation for four hundred times, a total of thirteen-years, ten months; and, for the sixty-two times of sexual molestations of the child, a year an eight months, and he could pay the charges and not serve the time for this.

Yo is currently sixty-six years ago, and even though he’d, admitted to what he’d done, and settled with the teenager, the teenager’s father forgave him, and begged the courts for mercy for Yo, but the judge believed that the crimes Yo committed was serious, and not given him a lighter sentence.

the molestation of a young child…

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The verdict pointed out, that Yo, being the victim’s grandfather’s friend, the victim’s parents were divorced when she was young, her father wasn’t doing well in his ventures, in 2008, he’d, handed her and her older brother to be cared for by Yo, back then she was only three years old.

Yo was suspected of raping the young girl from August of 2010 to mid-October in 2012, in the frequencies of once every two days, a total of 404 rapes on her during the time; from 2012 to 2017, he’d, raped her in her bedroom, in his residence, a total of 204 times.

From September of 2017 to October of 2019, he’d patted her breasts, patted her pubic areas, molested her, for about four times a week, a total of, four hundred times counted; from when the adolescent turned fourteen, he’d raped and molested her another, sixty-two times to the start of June in 2020.  In the end, the girl couldn’t put up with it, and finally, told her social worker whom she was getting counseled for long-term, and that was when the whole thing busted, wide open.

The courts found Yo guilty on 406 charges of forced sexual acts of a minor younger than fourteen years, and, sentenced him to seven years two months; the charges of having sexual intercourse with a minor of under age fourteen, a total of 202 counts, seven months each, that he is to serve a total of thirteen years, ten months for.

And, the molestations charges of a minor between ages fourteen to sixteen, sixty-two counts, with three months sentence on each count, a total of a year eight months in prison, which he could pay the fees, and not serve the time.

And yeah, how’s this, enough, for punishment?  I mean, imagine it is you, who got FUCKED (don’t pardon me here!) by this “friend” of the family, someone you trusted, because your parents entrusted you to him, and what of the emotional sufferings, the psychological problems this young woman will develop (and she will in her future!) for what she was put through, by this, SEX predator that wore the false fronts of a “family friend”, huh?  How’s this punishment, SEVERE enough?  It’s nowhere NEAR, enough!

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The Gymnastic Trainers’ Raping of the Competitors He’d Trained, Mostly Never Got Charged Because the Victims Waited Past the Statutory Period Expired

Imagine, how long the victims of this sort of SEXUAL abuse must’ve, suffered, and, the sentence is still, way too, lenient!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

For the Sake of Performance & Dreams, the Four Victims Put up with the Sexual Abuse of Their Coach for More than a Decade, and Only Two Counts Stood Up in Court, the Coach Sentenced to Six Years Ten Months

The gold medalist gymnastics coach used his power status, and sexually molested, raped the young gymnastics competitors with the dreams, more than a decade later, the victims finally worked up the courage to tell, and the case went out into the open, started up the “Me Too movement here in Taiwan; the district attorneys charged the coach with forced sexual intercourse, molestations, the Kaohsiung District Court changed the indictment clause “using status of power to rape”, and most of the counts had surpassed the decade statutory period, and in the end, Liang was only charged with one count of forced sexual intercourse, one count of forced sexual molestation, and given a combined sentence of six years ten months.  This can still be appealed.

The case had busted wide open in February of 2018, a victim found strength through the “#MeToo” movement from the U.S., posted anonymously on FB: “I wanted to soar, but the coach who should’ve given me the wings, broke my wings, and gymnastic became the most loved, and most hated sports to me”.  The investigators looked into the matter, and found at least seven victims, four of whom pressed charges, they all started training under Liang from the elementary to the high school years, four of whom, were trained by Liang since the elementary years, two excelled in gymnastics, and they were the ones who were hurt the deepest too.

One of the victims testified, that to train, she’d stayed at Liang’s home with another female student, but Liang had used the performances in the competitions to force her to have sex with him, and at first she’d told him no, in the end, she just, wanted it to be over soon; and Liang’s rape of his students was caught by another female student who bore witness to him, raping another student, which shocked her to realize, that she “wasn’t his only victim”, but for the sake of their grades, and performances, the two girls put up with his sexual abuse for more than a decade.

There were two more victims who’d come out with the accusations, one stated that Liang used her hydrotherapy sessions to pat her breasts down; another accused him to raping her at a motel, disregarding how she’d told him no; the D.A. believed that Liang was responsible for at least eleven different rapes and sexual molestation charges, indicted him based off of forced sexual behaviors and molestations and other charges.

The Collectivist Courts believed, that Liang used his status of power to threaten the female students, and changed the indictment counts to “power rape”, and the statutory period for power rapes is only a decade, and the victims accused him of it from 2000, that by the time the cases were reported had been way past the period of statute of limitation, in the end, the courts found, that the second victim bore witness to the second rape, sentenced Liang to only SIX years, with the rest of the charges not stood up in court or not guilty.

The victims who came out later, the Collectivist Courts believed, that she had her mother as her witness to testify, and that the counts stood, sentenced Liang to a year for it, the other victim suffered from posttraumatic stress disorder, but based off of the time of diagnosis, it’s hard to affirm that it was related to Liang, with the lack of evidence, Liang didn’t get charged for it.

And so, this is a LOSER, who used his power status (of a gymnastic coach?), to RAPE his female students, and, this shit had happened long, long ago, in the nineties back in the U.S., and, the victims still didn’t stand up and band together until they’re, adults, and this, is a case of how losers can take advantage of their statuses as coaches to rape their own students.

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Raped, by the Silences…

We are raped, by the silences, because, we’re, afraid to tell anybody what had, happened to us, because, if we tell our truths, the outside world will only, ostracize us more, saying, that it’s our fault, that we shouldn’t have, behaved too provocatively in front of that man, that we were, just, asking for it, therefore, we’d, kept our silences.

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Raped, by the silences, we were, because, we’re, too afraid to talk, too afraid for our lives, as well as the lives of, those we loved and cared about, and, can’t even begin to imagine the shame they will feel, if our stories, busted out into the open!

Raped, by the silences, there’s, no way this will, ever come to an end, because, those predators are still, lurking, waiting, for their chances to, attack, and even though, we only come out, during the daytime, sometimes, it feels, like nights…

Raped, by the silences, we were, we were all, victims before, but, I’d, managed to, turn myself, into a god DAMN survivor here, I will, NEVER be quieted, be silenced again!!! what we are now…

what we have the potentials of becoming…picture found online

Raped, by the silences, there’s, nothing we can do, to change the past, change what’s already been done to us (and no, we NEVER enjoyed it!!!).  Raped, by the silences, no we don’t, keep our lips sealed, because what was shameful, wasn’t US, it was, what was, done to us!

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Risen from the Ashes

Like a phoenix, we had, risen from the ashes, but, say that we weren’t scorched from before would be a total L-I-E!!!  Risen from the ashes, you must, otherwise, you’ll just be mistook for those dusts that gathered around the house, that someone will eventually get around to wiping off…

Risen from the ashes, it won’t be easy, after all, getting burned is still the easiest part, now comes the hard part, building everything back up, with nothing provided to you, because everything you’d taken to be familiar, had all become, ashes.

Risen from the ashes, you will, you MUST, otherwise, you will, be gone, and, you don’t want that, do you???  Risen from the ashes, we will all get, at least, ONE chance in our lives to do so, but, some of us were able to, and not others, why is that??? Risen from the ashes, I had, and, I got burned too, and yet, I’m still in one piece here, and, I guarantee that this process would be extremely hard, but, once you’d done it, once you’d conquered all the difficulties of your own lives, I promise you, that you will, see that big blue sky, opening wide for you!

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Wear Tragedies Like Armor

On Overcoming Obstacles in Life

no longer silenced movement

work hard     While everybody has experienced at least one form of tragedy, none of us experience the same tragedy. Everyone who was abused as a child has their own story, feels their own way, copes their own way, and experiences pain in their own way.

Your story can seem so similar to the person next to you, and you can tell them you understand, but unless you’re them, you can’t assume you understand exactly what it is that they’re going through.

One thing, every child abuse survivor shares, is the need to cope, the need to not just survive, but the ability to thrive. You cannot get back the childhood that’s robbed from you, that every survivor shares too, but you can live your life in such a way, that you love it enough to make up for it. Whatever you wanted to do as a child, a sport, play an…

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The Author of The Vagina Monologues Came to Taiwan to Speak Up Against Sexual Violence

The tale of a survivor, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The sixty-one year old Ensler, back in 1994, wrote the Vagina Monologues, Eve ENsler, she’d talked about the cultural differences, the age, along with sexual preferences, and the views on the woman’s vagina, and it’d spoken of the desires of women, the shame and being raped, she’d won the highest award in drama, the Tony Award.

In 1998, she set up V-day, and put forth the Vagina Monologues, and used fifty lanagues, and toured around 167 nations, and managed to raise billions of dollars to prevent violence, and was chosen as the “100 Most Influential Women of the World” by Newsweek, and “150 Women who Changed the World”, by a British periodical publication.

“Some would comment on my greatness, so I could do so much, but I’d told them, that I’d turned these movements into my strength, into my nutrition for life, they’re better than chocolate.”  Ensler spoke truthfully, she was raised in a very violent home, after she was raped by her father, she felt dirty, awful for a very long time, and had even started, mutilating herself.  After the women’s movements got started in the ‘60s and ‘70s, Ensler who saw herself as a feminist, immediately got involved with the cause, and started writing scripts.  On an interview, the audience who are facing menopause had nothing but negative things to say about their vaginas, she was shocked at women’s attitude toward their bodies.  She’d started interviewing people, for more stories, and it’d allowed the taboo word of “vagina”, to become, the star of her show, and she’d gotten involved personally, in setting up the Broadway productions of her book.

Ensler said, that she’d found that a lot of women of many nations believed that being the victims of rapes is shameful, and that, was why they’d kept silent, but, keeping silence only makes matters worse.  Awhile ago, she’d met a female leader in the Philippines, said that she too, found her strength through the misfortunes of her life, “a lot of the revolutionists faced pains and difficulties, but if you can get through it, then you can gain energies from the experiences, start to metamorphose, pain will become the driving force for changing the world”.

So, this woman overcome her childhood abuse, and is now, speaking up and out, to help others who’d been through similar things, and she is very brave, for doing what she does.

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Spinning

Still in the PTSD cycle here, but surely, getting closer to healing every single day…

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Raised by Your Abuse & Her Neglect

I was, raised by your abuse and her neglect, and, I was hurt a lot as a child, just as you were too, and yet, you weren’t wise enough, to KNOW how to treat me right! Are you FUCKING retarded???

Raised by your abuse and her neglect, and look how well I’d done, growin’ up. Raised by your abuse and her neglect, I would’ve hoped for better parents growing up, but seeing how NOBODY gets the first selection of who they were born to…

Raised by your abuse and her neglect, and now, I’m all grown up, and, I will N-E-V-E-R, EVER, EVER, E-V-E-R, allow this pain, this betrayal I’d experienced, to get passed down, to this next generation in MY freakin’ god DAMN bloodline legacy.

Raised by your abuse and her neglect, how could you? Abuse and neglect your own offspring, and call it love?  And, just because you never had the good kinds of parents who loved you unconditionally, doesn’t give you the R-I-G-H-T, to NOT love me unconditionally too, does it?  Of course N-O-T, because RIGHT, is R-I-G-H-T, and WRONG, is W-R-O-N-G!

Raised by your abuse and her neglect, I will N-E-V-E-R, hurt my own, as you’d done yours, and now, you will face, a future, filled with regrets, and you WILL be paying, dearly, for your mistakes, with both your lives, along with the lives of the ones you loved, and cared about, and that, is still??? Oh yeah, NOT my P-R-O-B-L-E-M, because it’s NOT in my B-A-C-K-Y-A-R-D???  Uh, D-U-H!!!

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Breaking the Cycle of Domestic Violence

From a victim to a survivor here, translated…

When I heard people tell me, “On the fact that B had died, we really don’t know how to make you feel better, so, that, was why we didn’t call.”, on the other end of the line, A started crying hard.

A is a hard working career woman, not only was she able to keep herself well economically, she’d also supplied more than her share of the household income. But, underneath her amazing work abilities, A had the life of an abused woman—after getting beaten by the husband, she’d reported it to the police, gone to the hospitals to get her wounds documented, left home, to get started on healing, later on, she fell into the soft words of B’s consoles to get home again.  Year after year, this was the same script that kept happening, again, and again, it’d made ALL who really actually tried to help A out feel helpless, like it wouldn’t be right, for them not to offer assistance, but, they can’t really help her out, because she keeps circling around in that same vicious cycle.

One time, we’d learned that A moved back in, I’d immediately called her up, to get her to move back out, told her, that IF she couldn’t make her mind up about leaving home, then, B may not do as they’d both agreed, go to the hospitals regularly to get checked, and the kids that grew up in this violent environment, it would be hard, for them to develop well psychologically. And still, the feelings still overcame A’s rationalism, in the end, she’d chosen to stay at home, with her abusive husband, and B, refused to check herself into the hospitals.

And, this only exacerbated, several years later, one day, A’s mother just so happened heard the rumors floating around A’s neighborhood, “We’d often heard a household getting too rowdy, followed by a woman’s crying.” She shocking realized, that the woman that the neighbors heard crying might be her baby girl.  She did some checking into it, and, it WAS her daughter, and so, the mother took her baby girl out of her abusive home.  A, who’d finally had enough of being abused regularly, finally made up her mind, never to return home again, and so, ever since, the status of A and B’s marriage became “separated”.

The days of being abused is just way too scary, A and the kids now lived independently and steadily, from day to day, with NO contact with B whatsoever. A short while ago, B who has NOBODY next to him died all of a sudden.  When A and the kids went to pick up the house, she’d found, that as her husband was starting to live alone, he’d started to change, had prepared for the children’s education and everything, and still, he’s already gone, and, no matter how much he’d saved up, it’s not going to be enough, to make up for that emptiness he’d left in them.

Had A been more stubborn on leaving, and never returning back home again, and break the vicious cycle of domestic violence earlier, maybe, it would’ve all ended differently. To every abused woman, leaving the home, making changes is never an easy choice, and yet, if you’re able to set up your minds, and end this vicious cycle, there’s still a good chance that you can rebuild your families again.

This, is still ALL in H-I-N-D-S-I-G-H-T, and, there’s a ton of “had…only…” involved in this “equation”, and, it is hard, for someone who’s been abused LONG term, to finally SNAP out of it, and, when this woman finally decided to make the changes, everything starts improving, but for this loser who’d abused her, his change came a bit too late.

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