The Married Disciplinary Official at a Technical High School Openly Proclaimed His Love for a Female Student, It’d Cost Him $400,000N.T.

Because he’s the adult, and she, his, student!  With, absolutely, NO sense of no right and wrong, cheating, carrying, that high C-O-S-T!!!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

A former disciplinary official of a technical high school disregarded that he was already married, had an affair with a female student in the school, and, posted on FB their status, “Going Steady Right Now”, with the photos of them puckering up to kiss, and stated, “it’s odd this connection we’d come to share, so grateful for you in my life, I love you”; He’s wife sued in the civil courts for the damages to her marriage, the Kaohsiung District Courts found He and the female student to pay a total of $400,000N.T. to the man’s wife.

Based off of understanding, two years ago, He opened up his relationship status with the female student, “Going Steady”, boldly stated that he loves her, and even posted the photos of the two of them traveling to Japan together, and said, “I want to take you on trips, I love you”; the female student posted her replies back to him on FB, “we shall go on that honeymoon trip next year”, “This trip was more than worth it because of you”, the two of them posted the photos of them, intimate together.

He’s wife found out about his affair, accused him of having an affair, that he was, open about his affair with the female student, it’d, caused her to be under turmoil emotionally, and psychologically, that her right as his spouse was, clearly, impacted, she’d sued for half a million dollars N.T. for the emotional distress.

Toward his own wife’s accusations, He covered the female student repeatedly, said that the young girl was only starting to experience what love is, that she’d not known about the breaching of the right of another’s spouse, claimed, “She too, is a victim!”, that she shouldn’t be sued for his cheating on his own wife; the judge believed, that back then, the female student must’ve already known about the rights of a man and woman in a marriage, that she needed to shoulder up partial of the responsibilities.

He then accused of his own wife of nickeling and diming the expenses, that she’d, controlled the money in the house, “our relationship was based solely off of money”, that she’d refused to sleep in the same bed, causing their love to grow thin.

The courts believed, that He and his wife were married for over twenty years, that even if his wife was stingy, it’s, not odd from a family’s angle; while He could spend a ton of money, taking the female student to Japan to travel, he has, more than enough money, but he’d, become stingy when it came to his wife’s household, and children’s, expenses.  “This is unreasonable”.

The verdict pointed out, that from the contents on FB, the way the student and teacher related to one another, was too intimate, surpassing what was normal between normal school instructor and student, to the point of resembling that of a married couple, that it’d, severely, damaged the right of He’s wife; the judge had grilled He, being a school instructor, he’d, used the innocence the teen has toward love, to have an extramarital affair with the student, with absolutely, NO sense of remorse, found that they student and teacher needed to pay a total of $400,000N.T.

Based off of understanding, He had let his post at the school two years ago, and shortly afterwards, the female student dropped out, on reasons of medical leave.

And so, clearly, this man had, used this young woman’s crush on him, and took advantage of her, although, she’s not, entirely, faultless, nor blameless, because it still takes TWO to T-A-N-G-O, and he got sued by his own wife, and what’s worse was he was so open in proclaiming to the rest of the outside world, that he was in love with the student, totally, disregarding the feelings, the RIGHT of his wife, and he deserved to get S-U-E-D, and this young woman is too innocent, too stupid, and that she was, equally to blame for breaking up this man’s family.

The Husband is Abusive & Threatened to Dismember Her, She’d Filed for Divorce & the Courts Allowed

A “specimen”, of a perfect LOSER who got into the HABITS of, always blaming someone ELSE for his own problems!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

A couple had been married for over forty years, the husband had abused the wife long-term, and even threatened his wife that he’ll dismember her like the story on the news, after many years of holding it in, the woman filed for divorce with the courts, at the trial, the husband repeatedly stressed how he’d, given it all to keep his family well; the judge believed, that the husband disregarded his wife’s feelings, always rationalized his behaviors to the ideals of patriarchy, that he’d not worked hard to patch up their marriage, signed off on the divorce, this can be appealed.

The wife testified, that her husband holds himself on a high pedestal, did what he wanted to, had often verbally and physically abused her.  She’d originally not wanted to give up on the marriage, due to the years they’d shared, however, two years ago, as the case of dismemberment of the wife by the husband came out in Taoyuan, once as her husband was abusing her, he’d, threatened her on it, “I’ll make you into the woman from Taoyuan!”, signaled that he was going to, murder then dismember her too.

The wife stated, that her husband’s words and actions caused her to be on edge by the day, besides he was constantly suspecting that she wasn’t faithful to him, as the scam artists called her number, her husband suspected that she was, cheating.  She’d lived under the shadows of domestic violence too long and finally had it, she’d filed for divorce.

The husband stated, that his wife had left home for days on end, and, used the excuse of having a new male friend, to not come back home, that he’d focused on making a living to provide for his own family, that he wasn’t like his wife had said.  To keep his family running well, he’d, not complained, besides he’s getting older, couldn’t withstand the stresses caused to his children if they were divorce, or the gossips from others around them.

The courts investigated, that the wife had been abused, and there had been a restraining order issued by the courts, the injury reports from the hospitals, and his wife’s mother testified, that she saw her son-in-law beaten her daughter up, that her daughter had a concussion once from getting beaten by him.

The courts believed, that during the trial, the man stressed on how much he’d loved his family, wife, how he’d, wanted her back, but his actions, showed how distrustful toward his wife he was, that he’d even, physically abused her repeatedly, that he’d not changed his behaviors, and blamed his own actions on the ideals of patriarchy.

The courts pointed out, that the husband disregarded how his wife felt, kept blaming others, making his wife helpless and disappointed time and time again; in the final testimonies, the husband didn’t do anything to prove that he loved his wife, that the courts doesn’t believe that anything will change in their relationships, and, signed off of the divorce.

And so, you’d, beaten the SHIT out of your wife multiple times, and still, somehow, managed to, rationalize your own fucking bad behaviors as love?  Yeah, uh, get REAL here, and thankfully, the courts saw right through that, and saved this woman’s life, allowed her to finally, DIVORCE this, L-O-S-E-R!!!

An Elderly Man Who Married More than Once After He’d Had a Stroke, He’d Finally Realized, that His First Wife Loved Him Better

Here we still have, a LOSER who wanted what he’d thrown away back again, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

An elderly man, Cheng, from back in 1957, married his wife, Liao, and, back in 1999, he’d filed for divorce in California behind his wife’s back, and married a new wife with an American citizenship, Kuo; a little over four years ago, he’d come back to Taiwan, and had a stroke, Cheng was angered at how Kuo had abandoned him, left Taiwan when he was under critical condition, took his savings too.  And Liao, his first wife filed for the suit to establish that her marriage with him was still valid, because back then, she didn’t receive the divorce papers from the courts, she’d won, Kuo was displeased at how she’d become the “spare”, sued for the invalidations of her husband’s last marriage, but her claims were tossed back.

The District Court in Shihlin pointed out, that back when Kuo married, she probably didn’t know that her husband had committed bigamy, but, because she failed to provide the documentations of the deliveries of the divorce settlement papers to Liao, the first wife, that, was why she’d lost the claims.

After Cheng the elderly man married, Liao, he’d moved to the U.S., later on, because his wife needed to look after their daughter’s child, she’d moved to L.A. with her daughter.  In 2011, when Liao came back to Taiwan, to get an reissuance of her national identification card, she’d found, that there was a blank on the column of “spouse”, she’d asked her attorney in the States to find out what had happened, that, was when she found out, that she’d been “divorced”.

Liao said, that back in 1999, when her husband asked the courts in L.A. for divorce, he’d lied that she lives in San Francisco, causing her to miss her court date, and the divorce was finalized, because she failed to show up in court.  She said, that she didn’t know that her husband was having an affair with Kuo at all.

Kuo however, told, that back in 1999, when she’d married Cheng in the U.S., after they’d returned to Taiwan, they’d registered for marriage here too, but in 2010 when her husband had a stroke, the daughter from his first marriage prevented her from seeing him, and so, she could only file for separation from him.  Last year, she’d found out from a mutual friend, that the first wife had filed a case to the courts, to annul her marriage to her husband, that, was when she’d learned, that her husband and his ex-wife was still married, legally.

Cheng the elderly man complained of how his new wife left Taiwan, after the hospitals issued a last notice on him, and how she’d managed, to drain out his bank accounts in the U.S., then, vanished, that she’d abandoned him out of malice.  Cheng had also pointed out, that the person who’d signed for the receipts of the legal papers was different from his first wife’s handwriting, that it wasn’t signed for by his first wife.

The courts decided, that Cheng had filed for divorce with his first wife in California, and after the courts settled the matters, he’d married Kuo, but the divorce suit was found invalid by Taiwanese law, and so, the elderly man committed bigamy.

This, is still BAD karma, if you ask me, and, now this elderly had a stroke, and was abandoned by his second wife, he’d realized how wonderful his first wife, whom he’d divorced instantly after he’d found another lover, was the one who’d been kind to him all along, and now, he’s paying for HIS mistake for divorcing his ex-wife, and, he’s getting EXACTLY what he deserved here!

How, Can I Go, JUST What You Were Counting On…

Get ready, to get, SUCK into that GOD damn VICIOUS cycle of her/his abuse again, and note: this, is a mind game…

How can I go, JUST what you were counting on, although I’d threatened to leave you, I could never quite, leave you, because you needed me so, and, without knowing, I’m actually, enabling this ABUSE you’d given me too.

How, can I go, JUST what you were counting on, I’d left you, time and time, and time again, and yet, each and every single time, I’d always come, right back to you, and, each and every time I’d set my mind up to go, I was so resolute on leaving you, and yet, for some UNKNOWN reasons, I’d always get drawn BACK to you, why IS that?  I’m really getting tired of living this way now!

How, can I go, JUST what you were counting on, you KNEW damn well, that I couldn’t leave you behind for good, because I’m still emotionally hung up on you, on this so-called love (which wasn’t even love at A-L-L!!!) that you’d given to me.  How, can I just go, JUST what you were counting on, well, you’d made that MISCALCULATION for the very LAST and FINAL time, because without that Dear John (and yeah, still know DAMN well, that you’re NOT “John”!), I’d left you, for good!

How, can I go, JUST what you were counting on, well, that, would be a BAD miscalculation of your part, your WORST mistake, thought that I’d never leave, well, I’d left, and, there’s NO way you’ll EVER be able to TRACK me down………

Should I Get a Divorce When My Husband Has an Affair?

Marital difficulties here, a Q&A, translated…

Q: L whose marriage is in the MUCK wrote…

Having known her husband for seven years, married for ten, has a daughter and a son, Mrs. L wrote several letters describing how her marriage is sinking: when L was pregnant with her firstborn, her husband became addicted to porn sites, and was about to head off to a motel with an unknown woman, and was stopped dead in his tracks by L.

In the seven years’ time, disregarding L’s words, her husband used the accuse of getting closer to god, became a spokesperson of god, to help others resolve the issues in their lives; and ever since, he’d given less and less time to his families, and, the two of them are slowly drifting apart.

Last November, she’d found out that her husband had an affair with a married female coworker, not only did her husband NOT admit to wrongdoing, instead, he’d blamed her, for not making him happy, causing him to need to find someone else, believed that it was, ALL L’s fault.

During this time, a lot had happened, L told the female coworker’s husband that she was cheating on him, the husband started becoming verbally abusive, and stated that he wanted a divorce; and, L felt, that her husband had become possessed, since he “became” closer to god.

And now what was phasing L was that the in-laws hoped, that they wouldn’t divorce, for the sakes of their young children; but her husband said, that after they’d split, they will each take a child, but, both children wanted to live with L.  Although she has work, however, she’d feared, that after the divorce, her husband won’t pay her alimony, she won’t be able to keep her kids in school, although the counselor had suggested that L gave the custody rights to her husband, but L didn’t want to, and, everything became stagnant.

A My Opinion

I don’t believe, that L really wants a divorce.  In her letter, she talked of how much the Valentine’s Day present her husband gave to her meant so much, that it wasn’t that he went out of his way to buy it, but it was a gift from the company he has business with, and, she is also hesitant, because of the issues of her children.

L can first, think about what’s LEFT in her marriage, half a dinner roll?  Or, just some, breadcrumbs?  Meaning that she needed to figure out, HOW much there is, left in the marriage, WORTH her working hard over?  And, if working hard can really make her marriage improve?  And, what are both of their attitudes?  And their shared beliefs?

Based off of what I’d read, L’s husband is someone who does as he pleases, and, when he’d done wrong, he’d wanted her apologies, and, that, was NOT his first affair either, and clearly, he’d shown, a LACK of self-control, with a total LACK of disrespect for the marriage.  But L must think thoroughly, is she was willing to give her husband another chance?  Or to get divorce, so she could have a brand new life?  If you continue to engage in the silent treatments, you’ll only end up, draining yourselves dry.

And so, for the sakes of her children, and the words of her in-laws, this woman was STUMPED on whether or not she should divorce the husband who cheated on her, and, apparently this woman CARED a LOT about the marriage, and yet, her husband’s behaviors had let her down, time, and time again, and, this, is clear to see, from an outsider’s angle, but, because this woman is involved in the play of things, that, was why she couldn’t see the truth, that, is why she felt troubled…

Infidelities, Most Likely to Happen, Three Years After the Marriage

From research statistics, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The Shu-De Technical University Human Sexuality Department manager, Yen-Ching Lin said, that modern day women are financially independent, have a strong sense of themselves, and, once the quality of their marriage drops, they have a higher chance of having affairs; the Graduate Research Department in its 2010 survey of 400 married women in southern Taiwan, the rate of infidelity was 36.5 percent.  Lin believed, that the statistics for the married women in the central and northern parts would be roughly the same as well.

This study showed, that the partners of the affairs who were friends made up about 44.3 percent, the highest, followed by coworkers, friends from online, exes, and, the time when the affairs are most likely to start would be three years after the marriage.

And on top of that, the results of a survey by the Sexology Research Department before Valentine’s Day showed, that the rate of modern day female college students who had already had sex makes up about 43.5 percent, compared to the 27.3 percent from seventeen years ago, there is a clear increase, the primary reason for this being how open the societies had become.  Lin said, that from the researches conducted abroad, the women who had had sex prior to marriage are more than likely to have extramarital affairs after they are married, and, modern day women are expecting higher quality from their marriages, compared to the last generations, and so, they are bound, by the cultures, to stay in a marriage, so, they’re more than likely to find an exit for their own emotions.

On the males’ front, although the sexology department didn’t conduct such researches, however, on a survey over the subjects of one-night-stands, twenty-five percent of surveyed males are accepting to the idea, thirty-three percent of the subjects HAD experiences with one night stands, and men who wanted to try out one night stands, make up sixty percent.

Lin suggested that couples need to work hard, in making their relationships work, just spend more time with one another, showing cares and concerns for each other often, it shouldn’t be that difficult, to keep happy in the marriage.

So, there you have it, from the lips of the researcher, and, this still just shows, how as we advanced in every single way, our behaviors are falling backwards, and, just because you can, doesn’t mean that you would do it, where’s the moral restraints???

The Complete Single Day, Life as a Single Parent

Translated…

I’d been a single mother for five years, my son went with his father, and I have custody over my daughter.  After I’d had several honest to heart conversations with both our parents, as well as my children’s father, my ex-husband finally agreed, mid last year, that the older brother and younger sister could have four days out of the month to spend together.  And so, the very last weekend of the month, my daughter would head over to her father’s, and, these two days became my “single days”.

I’d gotten used to life with my daughter by my side, and, suddenly, from Friday evenings to Sunday evenings, I no longer had her company, her voice no longer resonated through the house, the bed became so spacious, it was, really hard, for me to adapt, I’d missed her so.  In order, to keep myself from missing her too much, I’d headed over to the office on Saturdays to work, buried myself in work; and on Sundays, I’d slept in, and take my leisure breakfasts, then, headed out, to ride, to hike, or to meet up with my friends.  And, all of a sudden, it came time, to pick my daughter up again.

During the two days my daughter was away, it was like an early onset of my empty nest, at first, I had troubles, filling up this void, but now, I’d gotten used to it.  And, life is just like so, when there came varied situations, we must all, make adjustments, to work, to transfer our attention elsewhere.

Recently I’d read the activities of the volunteers on the United Daily News, I’m going to sign up as a volunteer too.  I believe, that when my empty nest comes, or when I’m about to retire, I can already live this life I’d already planned out well.

So, your daughter going to spend the weekend with her father became your trial-run for your own empty nest, and, it is important, to have multiple hobbies, established, WAY before you’re retiring, or your empty nests really actually HIT you, because if you’d waited until then, to start planning it, well, it’ll be, too late then.

A Friendly Divorce

How’s that even possible???  Is it, like how when you say, “It’s over, but hey, let’s stay friends, for the kids’ sakes”?

A friendly divorce, I MY opinion, because this, is still, MY joint!!!, is nonexistent, I mean, how can you get divorced with someone whom you’d shared a lifetime with, and still be friends?  You can’t, there’s BOUND to be hard feelings, you DO realize that, don’t you?

A friendly divorce, it sounds to me, that whoever came up with this idea is looking for find a free FUCK every now and then, by staying friendly with her/his ex.  A friendly divorce, you CANNOT have it, because, there are always, HARD feelings when divorces happen, and, don’t give me that excuse of “irreconcilable differences”, because we ALL know, that that is just BULLSHIT!

A friendly divorce, you WISH, because no matter how amicably you two had parted, something MUST’VE happened, to send the two of you, spinning toward the Big D (not talkin’ ‘bout DALLAS here still!!!), so, a friendly divorce just, doesn’t exist, and, whoever comes UP with that should just, get her/his head examined…

The Problem of a Spare for a “Perfect & Happily Married” Couple

In need of marriage counseling here, a Q&A, translated…

Madam L wrote:

She’d been married for twenty-five years, with two sons, she thought that her marriage was perfect, but a decade ago, she felt harassed by a woman’s calls, she’d looked into the matter, and found that she was one of her husband’s female coworker who wasn’t married, the two of them struck up an office affair, but the husband denied it.  This mess continued on for a while, until the other woman got married, then, it’d become settled down.

Six years ago, her husband was diagnosed with cancer, almost died, L took care of him, worked hard, ran around for her husband’s sake.  After the husband was better, he was extremely grateful toward L, and told her that she was his one and only love, and will hold hands with her until the very end.

Without knowing, that awhile ago, she’d found messages texted to and from him and his former lover.  Although L felt hurt, she didn’t blow his covers, just hinted that she knew he was seeing someone on the side, but the husband immediately denied it, said that there’s NO problem with a spare with him.

L said that she and her husband got along quite well, rarely argued, she couldn’t understand why her husband was doing this to her.  L wanted to write to the other woman, tell her, that the affair is known now; also, she’d thought of getting her husband’s eldest sister to help console with him on the matter, but, she didn’t dare make the moves.  Should she keep pretending everything’s okay, or bust the whole thing wide open?  The other woman may have intents to harm her, she wanted to keep guard of her home, and she didn’t know what to do.

A My Advice:

L kept believing, that she has a picture-perfect marriage, and thinks that her husband has great characters, took care of the home, and loved their kids, it’s just that he’s too easily tempted.  And L never thought about getting a divorce, she just wanted to keep her household intact.

L’s husband is pretty mild in temper, but, without the stamina, because L’s putting up with him, and her unwillingness to admit, that he’s cheating on her, so, he’d just keep on, denying his affairs to her.  If L don’t want to go towards divorce, then, stop making trouble for herself, and check her husband’s cell phone.  Whether it be writing that anonymous letter to the spare, or having her husband’s eldest sister to work as the middleman in her confrontations with her husband’s whore, it may break the husband’s bottom line.

I feel, that whether this affair goes BUST would be relying on when the husband of the spare finds out, then, the problems will then, be dealt with, so, L, you’re on your own!

This, is totally taking an EXTREMELY PASSIVE perspective to handling one’s husband’s affair, and, this woman is just too afraid to take action, that, was why this is the way the story is going.

Too Late to Divide Up the Assets Evenly, the Married Couple for Twenty-Six Years Had Separated, and, They Both Wanted the Assets that Was Rightfully Theirs

The splitting up of assets, that came too late, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Lu had been separated from his wife for seven years now, three years ago, the couple split up the assets; Lu believed, that since he married, he’d given his wages to his wife, that he’d given her over four hundred thousand dollars already, and, as they’d decided on splitting up the assets, he had less than $3,000N.T. in his bank accounts.  The District Court in Shihlin used how he’d sued his wife just last May, and that the case had past the statute of limitation of two years, found him lost.

Lu once worked as the senior manager of a life insurance company, and had often given speeches on his successes publicly, but, he’d lost his job, because his wife said that he’d forged someone’s signatures on the paperwork; Lu’s wife is a teacher at an elementary school.  They were married for twenty-six years, with two children.

Lu said, that at the time when they were married, the couple had filed for their assets to be combined, three years ago, he’d asked the courts, to file their assets separately, because he was in debt, owing taxes, the houses he’d bought were under his wife’s name, and he’d handed his earnings to his wife monthly.  Lu estimated, that his earnings from 2001 to 2008, that he’d placed into his wife’s account was around $20,000,000 N.T.s, subtracting the living expenses, there would be at least four million dollars N.T. remaining, including the properties, his wife owns over sixteen million dollars N.T. worth of assets.

Lu’s wife said, that her husband cheated on her with his secretary back in 2007, and never returned home afterwards, and didn’t pay the child supports for his children, in order to make up for her kids not having a father, “she’d spent it all”.  She’d suspected, that had her husband known about the extra money since the start, why would he have waited until last year to file for the claims?

And so, this, is what happens, because the husband cheated on the wife, and, the wife wanted what was hers back, but, she’d filed for the claims, too late, because it was past, the statute of limitations.