The Need to Prevent the Intimate Photos from Going Viral, We Needed an Amendment to Protect the Involved Set Up Speedily

On how to prevent yourselves, from getting, victimized after the two of you, break up, when those sexual photos had been, shot, during the time when you two are hitting it hot and, heavy!  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

The legislator, Kao beaten by her boyfriend to injury, although the man is already in police custody, but, there’s a chance that the photos of intimacy of the two had gone, viral.  This showed, that the law is lacking, in protecting the rights of the abused, when the abuser holds the photos of intimacy of the victims, are the laws which are set up currently, enough, to protect the rights of the, victims?

Based off of Penal Cod 315, Section 1.2, those who illegally tapes, photographs, or using any other means to secretly film another in private activities, is punishable by a three-year sentence maximum.  And, this stated, that if the two are dating, then, it’s easily interpreted as that there’s the agreeing to getting secretly filmed, taped, and this is going to cause problems.  While, after the breakup, to prevent the images, the footages from leaking out, is there a right to ask the individual to delete all the records, this will become problematic as well.  To prevent the issues of invasions of privacy after the break up, the recordings without the other party’s concerns, are all included in the voyeur clause.

no way to prevent this! Photo from online

As based off of Penal Code 315-2, Section 3, those who spread the contents of the recordings, will be sentenced to no more than five years in prison, this isn’t lenient, and not considered as accusation cases, but, does it need to have the preset of being secretly filmed, if the victim didn’t press charges on being secretly filmed, the individual who’d streamed the footages online, will s/he be charged of this count, then, there would be, discrepancies.  Basing off of a stricter definition, it needed to have the fact that the individuals were, secretly filmed for the preset, otherwise, spreading the footages, will only be charged with Penal Code 235, spreading lewd photos.

Spreading of lewd photos is not a chargeable crime, but, the laws gave it two years and less jail term to the offenders, which is considered a slap on the wrists.  And, on the matter of spreading out the photos of intimacy on the counts, and, the sexual intercourse between the man and woman, would constitute as molestations, and wouldn’t that be, damaging the victims repeatedly.

To resolve the matter, there’s need to define the spread of lewd photos into act, at least, raise up the sentence terms to five years and less, and the charges of spreading the sexually-illicit photos, and all of these needed to get adjusted in wordings of the law, to prevent the victims from getting offended repeatedly again.

And, there’s, the matter of statutory period too, how to prevent these photos of sexual intimacies from leaking out is worth considering.  Especially with the current domestic violence prevention, only limited to the physicality of the abused, and the individuals’ personal freedoms, toward the behaviors of spreading the photos, the law only sets a restraining order against such acts, but, the victims may not know the identity of the individuals spreading the photos, let alone, asking the courts for that needed restraining order and in the end, the victims can only rely on the criminal charges to prevent the spread of such photos.

On the matter of handling the matter as criminal offense, confiscating, although this included all the hard drives, but, does it also, include the platforms of which the photos were, uploaded to, or the social media too, there’s, the definition of such needed, in legal terms, to the point of if it’d, obstructed the freedom of speech too.  Even if the confiscations of such materials had been conducted by force, in the internet eras, how to prevent the setting up of an alternative account to spread the is an even harder to tackle problem, and this will be, a hot potato that the legislators need to, look into more.

And so, there are, still, a lot of shortcomings to this, anti-stalking law, to prevent the violence of intimate partners, and, there’s the matter of the sexually illicit photos you took of each other, because you want to share that part of your selves, with the other person, because the two of you are, in love, not realizing, that HEY, if and when we break up, those materials can be used, against me, but hey, you don’t realize that, not when you’re, hot and heavy with each other, in L-O-V-E, which made you easy targets.

The Rough Drafts of the Legislatures Out: Switching the Faces in the Sex Videos Uploaded Online, Get Seven Years in Prison in the Most Severe Cases

A stricter punishment for, for the wrongful uses of someone’s face in a photograph, mixed with the nude bodies here, to protect the rights of the people’s privacy, and hopefully, deterring those, sexual predators, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The famed Youtuber, “Yu” used Deepfake to make the adult films, the female legislators, the female T.V. personnel, the actresses are all, victims, and, the communities, the public are heating up about having an amendment to prevent this behavior, the Justice Department added an amendment in the Obstruction of Secrets, and written the rule that stated that perpetrators can get from the highest the fake videos, the falsified footages is seven year term in prison, and the rough draft of this new amendment to protect citizens’ privacy is sent to review in the executive department.

Last month, the Criminal Investigations found “Yu” the YouTuber, Chu had falsified the adult footages, and, used the current criminal punishment, of only TWO years, the perp, Chu was out on bail, this caused debates in the society, the justice department believed that a tougher punishment needed to be enforced, to keep the predators from breaking the laws repeatedly, and promised that an amendment of the currently existing law will be out within the month.

The Justice Department added, with the intent to spread out, using computer or other photoshop programs, to falsify the video, the photos, or sound recordings of another, is punishable by a five year sentence and under, the perp taken into police custody, or, the fines of under half a million dollars N.T.; spreading, playing, and/or transmitting of such materials for others to watch illegally, are also, punishable by this law too.

If a profit was made, the individual can get the prison term of no more than seven years, fined in the amount no more than $700,000N.T.; as the punishment become added, the district attorneys in catching the perps, can use the rights to arrest.

The justice department on the second called the judiciary discussion group to discuss, first, setting up the types of crimes, increasing the punishments, then considering the case of the “N Room” of Korea, and set up the punishment terms; based off of the sexual violence laws of Korea, the perps can get a seven-year-prison term max.

And so, this amendment is drafted, out of, necessity, as a lot of the sex crimes are now, online, you can switch out someone’s face, with someone else’s nude body easily, with a photoshop program, and spread it, and, it damages the individual’s, reputation, and, before this law was signed into motion, there’s nothing that the victim can do about it, besides, you can’t prevent these footages, photos, from spreading like a wildfire, across the internet, and this law, that’s newly drafted up, hopefully, it’ll, deter those, predators, from acting out.

More than Twenty-Percent of Children & Adolescents Believe They’d Been Cyberbullied

How social networks became, a new source of, anxiety for these, members of the, younger generations, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

As the outbreaks slowed down, this semester, many school had started holding the classroom sessions, but the masks are still, a needed tool to prevent the spread of the virus across the school campuses.  Now, it’d been two months since the start of the school year, the masks had, blocked off the saliva, and it’d also, blocked off the interactions of children with their own, peers, some of the first year students hadn’t even seen their classmates’ faces, and can only “show their faces” on social media.  But, the children are even more worried over how they are looked upon on social media, and this became, a brand new source of their, anxiety, to even making them the victims of cyberbullying.

The outbreaks not only caused the graduation trips to get canceled, the graduation ceremonies, the first day of school all happened via webcam, that “sense of ritual”, gone, and a lot of the students sighed “there’s no beginning, or an end!”

With the slowing down of the epidemic here, the schools from all around the country started the physical classroom sessions.  But, entering into a brand new semester, in the past, to get to know the classroom classmates, there would be the name tags on the desks, and, by a week at most, everybody knew everybody, and now, all the students’ faces are covered with the masks, and, even though at meal time, they’re allowed to take their masks off, they had to eat with the plastic separators between one another, and, a lot of the students just, left their names on their desks, and even now, the students couldn’t call one another by each other’s right names, to the point of the teachers, miscalling the names of the students too.

A middle school principal told, that there’s no first-year student orientation this year, that there’s no morning school gatherings this semester, the students are “slower to warm up”, and, even as the instructors told the jokes, because they can’t see the facial expressions, the students normally, don’t react, and there’s, just, not enough of that warmth of exchanges that we used to get with each other.

like this??? from online

And even though, almost all the students had a cell phone each, and the internet broke the barriers of interactions, a lot of the students, before school started, got together on the social media, to meet up as school resumed.  But, the therapist, Tseng told, that the children become, ever the more anxious on if they’re noticed on social media now, and this new trend may become a new source of their, anxieties, affecting the children’s level of self-confidence.

The Children’s Welfare League did a survey and found, that due to the outbreaks, the children and adolescents log online for an average of 42.7 hours per week, almost doubled from last year’s 27.2 hour.  But, more than twenty-percent of children and adolescent believed, that they’d been cyberbullied, with the primary way of bullying being “getting named by someone or attacked by someone for no reasons at all”, and there were only, twenty-two percent who would tell the adults, there are at least, twelve-percent that wouldn’t find help from anyone.  The Department of Education listed cyberbullying as a form of bullying in school last year.

Pai, the C.E.O. of Child Welfare League advised students on three things, she’d said, admit and accept, that you just can’t get along with everybody; and, you can use the app or the cell phone systems, to keep track of your own personal usage means of social media, to control the time spent; if you encountered something that’s negative that’s affecting you, then, you need to learn to view yourselves, using an unjudgmental way, to calm yourselves down, so you can, deal with the many challenges that life may bring.

Yeah, that, is another, downside to this outbreak, because everything is online, and, there will be, more cases of cyberbullying too, and, cyberbullying is really hard to prevent, because, you don’t know what you may have said, or posted online, that might get misinterpreted by another.

Cyberbullying: More than Half Believed “It Didn’t Help to Tell Anyone”

What’s, feeding to this trend of, cyberbullying that’s, taken over the world now, as the primary way of, bullying each other, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The Children Welfare League posted its results from the 2021 Taiwanese Student Cyberbullying Situation, found that close to eighty-percent of youths believed that cyberbullying is hitting them hard, but, if they’d encountered it, close to sixty-percent of the surveyed believed that nothing is solved by telling, and close to fifty-percent thought that if they’d told, it would only get worse for them.

The C.E.O. of Child Welfare League, Pai mentioned the resolves to this, admitting accepting, controlling the time children spent on the internet social networking, and started up the “I Want to Hear You” LINE official account, with the professional social workers, hearing the children pour out their troubles, to reduce the impacts of the damages from cyberbullying.

Based off of the newest investigations by the Children’s Welfare League, children and adolescents are online for 42.7 hours per week, grew by multiples from last year, reviewing over the details of cyberbullying, there are, more than twenty-percent of adolescents and children who are under attack, and, the primary means of bullying is “attacked or blamed by someone with no reasons at all”, and, the platform of these attacks primarily occurred in the communication apps, took up seventy-five percent; seventy-percent of these personal attacks occurred on social networks.

a child in distress…photo from online

As children and adolescents are being cyberbullied, eighty percent believed that they could trust parents or teachers, but, as cyberbullying takes place, only twenty-two-percent of the victims would tell their teachers or parents, and, there are, around twelve-percent of the victims who wouldn’t tell anybody about it.  Of them, fifty-nine-percent believed that it wouldn’t help if they’d told, forty-seven percent worried that the bullying would worsen if they’d told, and, twenty-six percent who’d been cyberbullied thought about harming themselves.

Although the Department of Education set up the anti-bullying hotlines, the head of school board, Wu stated, that the hotlines doesn’t do anything effective, usually, it’s the results that occurred that didn’t fit the needs of the callers, then, the callers called up the superiors of the units to help.

Wu told, that the Department of Education kept on hosting the seminars on anti-bullying for the school officials to attend, to help the school officials become more aware of the situations.  Pai suggested, that the government should start educating the principals on the anti-bullying policies.  Because in the past, the teachers’ training didn’t focus on matters of how to help children resolve their issues with one another, she’d hoped, that through these seminars, it can help enforce the measures the teachers can find useful, in counseling the students when they have conflicts with one another.

And so, this is still, a top-down thing, because the heads of the school officials aren’t educated enough to handle the matters of cyberbullying, and the kids are, using the methods of covert bullying now, singling each other out, passing the rumors of so-and-so around online, and the WWW is helping to make this worse for the children.

The Incident of YouTuber Changing the Face of a Political Figure, the Bite-Back of an Ordinary Sort of Maliciousness

Written by a retired professor from college, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The YouTube sensation, “Jade”, Chu, sold the face-change footages, creating multiple victims, the president Tsai, spoke again high-tech crimes, stressed, “We can’t just sit and watch this happen, I will start amending the laws, and I call out to the operators of online platforms, to prevent the misuses of videos, footages, to hurt the innocent people.”

I totally agree, with the call out of the president, and how she wanted to, amend the constitution, but, should we also, evaluate, how this happened, how the society and media, due to their differences of views, allowing this sort of a cyberbullying to become a trend, and now, this, “every day evil”, bite the society on the ass, and that’s when we were all shocked that this sort of a bad behavior, can turn any of us, ordinary, law-abiding citizens, into, victims.

Let’s look back at the former president, Ma’s term, how many members of the online community had, maliciously, distorted his photograph, the DDP and the media not only didn’t stop this behavior, instead, they’d, made fun.  To the 2014 Taipei Mayoral race, the candidate, Lien for the KMT, his ads were, made over, to the point of it becoming a YouTube video, getting more hits than the official ads from YouTube, that was the heightened state of this, makeover behavior.

And, with the advances in technologies, the makeover went from the voice-overs to the distortions of the images, as the mayor of Kaohisung, Han’s candidacy of mayor to the president, even, during his impeachment, there were, the distortions of Han in photo by photoshop, this became, a way the YouTubers used to attract the hits.  And this bad behavior was scolded, some of the political figures became the guests of their shows, and all of that, encouraged the bad behaviors.

The German scholar, Arendt, in her “Eichmann in Jerusalem”; Eichmann isn’t an immoral monster, but his malice showed NO active will in maliciousness, this is attributed to his “lacking in the abilities of thought”, he’d not been aware of how awful his behaviors truly were.  His murdering of Jews so cruelly, is no more than the obedience of following the orders, so he could make a name for himself in the Nazi government.

The case with the YouTuber is exactly like so, people believed that these photoshopping of political figures were just for fun, that it caused no harm, and, allowed for it, and, we’re all, encouraging this bad trend.  After the incident of the YouTuber “Jade”, we are all shocked that not just the political figures, we can all become, targets of this, “ordinary evil”, and, this sort of a biting us back can, hurt every one of us who’s kind.

I’m happy, to see that the president, Tsai is taking the matter seriously, and hope, that she could, actively, work to amend the laws, to prevent this sort of bad behaviors from recurring, but I hope more, that the political figures, the news media will, understand the damages this sort of an ordinary evil caused to eh society, and say no to it, and block out this sort of, a behavior.

And so, maybe, you think it’s just, fun, but, this is cyberbullying, and this happened to a political figure, not in school, so it’s, quite far from us all, but, think about it, if it’d happened to your kid, if your kid got bullied in school, and someone posted a YouTube video of your kid’s head with an animal’s body, and made fun, wouldn’t that make you mad?  And this had happened, on a, national level of things, and it’d, rolled from the individuals, to now, a matter of, national concerns here.

Anytime, Any Place, the Hard-to-Prevent Cyberbullying

The means, of how the hurt can happen, at any time of day, and anywhere!  On the facets of, cyberbullying, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The school therapist, of the guidance counselor’s office of a school analyzed the differences in cyberbullying and physical bullying in the past, and reason why cyberbullying should be examined, more closely:

From before, the place where bullying happens is in school, and now, with a cell phone to a child, the bullying became at anytime, any place.  For instance, a middle school student, Hwa felt that someone stole her boyfriend, then, she’d called on her cohort of friends, started sending the private messages to the person, posting the words publicly, or go to the IG to start cussing the guy out, and even, setting up a “trash-talk” Line Group of the guy, and the victims may not even be aware, that a group talking trash about her/him/them exists.

like this…

illustration from online

The use of sexual violence for revenge online is getting serious too.  There was a sixth grade who’d received a message that said, “I have nude photos of you, if you send me another, then I won’t post this one”, the kid almost believed, but thankfully, the adults stopped it upon finding out.

The digital footprints will never be erased.  Like the recordings the videos of the photos, the things that makes you targets of bullies, once it gets online, so long as the onlookers started passing it along, even if the bully was caught and reprimanded, the files are forever staying online, and, the victims may be, revictimized again.

What’s worth noting more of cyberbullying is that the bullied already got singled out by her/his friends, and, when it goes online, the endless cusses, the criticisms, will make the victims feel, “So, all those people hate me, despised me, rejects me”.  And if the bystanders, the teachers, the adult counterparts didn’t catch the S.O.S. from the child, with “just deal with it, they’re, just, making fun”, to a child, s/he will die on the inside, because if those s/he trusts won’t even help, it would, hurt her/him, even more.

So, this, is on the adverse effect of being, cyberbullied, because once it’s online, you can’t, EVER, erase, that digital footprint that you’d, left, and, because these children have NO awareness of the foresight of the consequences of their own actions (b/c the prefrontal cortexes aren’t properly developed yet!), the effects are, eternal.

With 5,000 “Friends” on FB, but Outcast in the Class, the Façade of Social Network

So, this still showed???  Oh yeah, right: the MORE friends you have on social networks, the LESS of friends you have, that you can, physically, interact with!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Finding the Escape into the Cyber Reality, You May Just Well, “graduate” Early Out of Life

Han-Chian (a false name) has close to five-thousand friends on FB, but returning BACK to his reality, he is a “outcast” who lives on the edge of his class.  The experts observed, that as teens bump into interpersonal relations problems, they are more than likely to escape into the online world, to “start over”, but, being overly dependent on the internet, with the façade of having tons of friends, it only makes these teens more easily victimized by cyberbullying and put them in dangers of online friends, and it may well turn the internet into that FINAL straw, that crushed these teenagers’, backs.

friends on FB

from online

Han-Chian is a case that the clinical psychologist, Finance had.  Finance pointed out, a lot of the teens who are troubled emotionally, or made suicidal attempts, is not the least bit popular or personable in their realities, but their friends on FB, is maxed out on the websites, while all of these, “Face friends” aren’t real friends at all, a lot were from the random “be-friending” of unknown persons from online, and they’d, mold up the façade of them being popular by the numbers.

Finance said, the online world satisfied the teens’ psychological needs, but it’d also made the kids even more fragile, they’d lacked the ability to face up to the troubling predicaments of their lives, and effectively deal with their negative emotions, but as the teens bumped into the defeats online, like in cyberbullying, the next step may be, “I quit playing”, gradating early, from this life.

Cyberbullying is not, the most prevalent problem in the adolescents.  Based off of the survey conducted by the Child Welfare League on the matter, there are more than half of teens and children who were involved in cyberbullying, 0.36-percent had been, victimized.  In the past, the physical bullying from the schools, the students can temporarily escape from by going home, but, they can’t get rid of the shadows of cyberbullying in whole now.

and here’s, what they’re, relying on…

to “solidify” our “statuses” online

The head counselor of Dajr High School, Wu used a case as an example, a student got into an argument with someone, of them, one went home, and posted the matter online with a lot of, embellishments, and posted the individual’s name, and the online community used the human search engine, and found out  all of that particular student’s social network accounts, and started leaving crazy, hurtful comments on the boards, to the point of threatening the student, the school’s homepage, as well as the fans page got maxed out with the comments as well.  She said, this caused partial of the student body to show signs of severe depression, that she’d had to counsel them over and over, then they started, feeling better, and through the school and lawyers mediating, the parents of the student who made the post made a statement, to clarify what’d happened, and that, was what made the storms blow over.

The power of the online world is still, at work here, because you can easily bully someone, by getting ALL of your “friends” to un-friend someone you’re targeting, thus, isolating that individual, making the person feel oh so very much alone, and when the person heads off to school, s/he still had to put up with the whispers, the pointing at her/him, and in our teens, our hormones are, overly active, and we easily misinterpret things, and that is what causes those “fragile” “strawberries” to go, SPLAT!

All thanks, to the online world here…

The Abuser Was, Ganged Up On, Sixteen Were Taken into Custody, Most Didn’t Know Each Other, the Gathering of the Crowds from Online, Taking Matters into Their Own Hands, Against the Bullies

Vigilante justice, is still???  Oh yeah, NO justices, but hey, that’s what we do, UNDER the INFLUENCE of the WWW here right now!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

After the footages of the technical high school female student, Lin getting bullied went viral, the online did a human search and found the abuser, and used violence on the abuser; the man, Huang, who’d led the group in slapping Lin came out, apologizing two nights ago, but, there were the members of the online community who’d, “leaked out” the message, and it’d become a matter of “vigilantes seeking justice”, there were about twenty individuals who’d taken the weapons, and ganged up on Huang, beaten his right elbow to and his ring finger to fracture.  The police were notified, and arrested a total of sixteen people, including seven teenagers, and the police found, that most of whom didn’t know each other, and they were all charged with physical assault, gang-related activities, threats, and other charges too, and two of the group were sent to the D.A.’s office, and the district attorneys after interrogations, sent them home, while the rest of the group were, taken and kept in police custody.

Lin, the technical high school student, and the woman, Hsiao had monetary disagreements, on the 22^nd of last month, Lin was ganged up on by Hsiao’s boyfriend, Huang (age nineteen), and the group, drinks were poured on her face, while the bystanders shot the footage of a total of fifty-six seconds, and streamed it online, and members of the online community found out Huang’s identity, and some of the online community threw eggs at Huang’s residence.

vigilantes, seeking “justice”…

here, we have, a “mob” of only TWO! Found online

Two nights ago, Huang’s friend, the man, Fang (age 19) asked him, “do you want to fix it”?, Huang wanted all of it to be over soon, and agreed, that he would meet out two nights ago at ten, outside a super convenience shop in Hsiaogang to discuss how to apologize, and the man, Lin got in touch with the girl who got slapped, Lin to come but because there was a gathering of, seven to eight individuals, the police were called and came, Fang rode his scooter out to the Rose Cemetery in Daliao District with Huang on the back and continued to “discuss” the matter.

Someone Instagrammed the goings on of Huang making the apology, and everything was tracked online, from the posts and reposts, and reposts of the online community, at around midnight last night, there were, more than twenty individuals who’d, rushed over to the cemetery, and Lin showed up with her father, and talked with her abuser for no more than five minutes, then left, but, within five minutes afterwards, Huang was, ganged up on, and, was taken to the Hsiaogang Hospital, and the hospital immediately, notified the police.

Huang stated, that he’d only known three, to four people who were there, that he’d not known most of them, and that someone had hit him with a bat; Fang tried to cover him up, but it’d not worked, that he planned to sue his abusers for threats, and assault.  Fang also testified, that back then, he did, try his best, to protect Huang, he took along six, to seven others, to film the process of his apologies to the girl, that he’d not known most of those who were there.

at the tips of our, fingers too! Photo from online

The police took in sixteen of the suspected abusers one by one, and found, that most of them didn’t know each other, and suspected that someone had, shared the passage of Huang’s apology to the adolescent girl at the super convenience shops, and someone started tracking his whereabouts, and, as the online community posted, reposted, and followed up, there were more and more of those who’d gathered around the cemetery, and as soon as Lin and her family members left, they’d, started, gaining up on Huang; the abusers included Fang’s friends, and there were those who were there, because of the posts online, the “vigilantes”, using violence to fight violence, the police took Fang and one another individual into protective custody, while the rest of the involved were taken to the police stations locally.

Based off of the viral video on IG, while Huang was getting cussed at and beaten on by the gathering crowd, Tseng tried to block him from being attacked, and kept moving backwards; there was another footage that showed Huang getting asked, “how do you want to apologize to the woman?”, with Huang stuttered, “I shouldn’t have, slapped her”, and the individual filming asked  him again, “How are you going to apologize?”, Huang kept bowing, and said, “I’m sorry, I should not have hit the girl!”

And so, thanks to social networks such as Instagram, Facebook, and, YouTube (for allowing the footages to go VIRAL???), that was HOW and WHY this beat-down happened, and this is happening, more and more often these days, because of all of those tiny matters that you and/or I feel to be, unjustified, and, there are those of you (which I’m nowhere NEAR a member of???), who felt that oh, she got beaten up, and that’s not right, and so, you’d, gathered up that huge crowd, and went to TAKE the guy who’d, beaten up that teenage girl up yourselves, and now, you are all gonna get charged, for ASSAULTING the original ABUSER, and in the process of seeking out what you deemed to be, justice, you’d, turned into, ABUSERS too, and wow, you still, don’t REALIZE this, because, you’d TOO BLIND by what you deemed to be “justice”.

And all of this is due to???  STREAM it LIVE!!!

The Truth About Stalking Someone…

NOTE: this, is NOT a “how-to” guide, found on Yahoo!.com…

One in six women will be stalked in her lifetime…

The word, “stalking” had taken on a whole new definition in the cultural lexicon.  It’s the word we increasingly use to describe the garden-variety, 21^st-century voyeurism we partake in everyday — behaviors at which no one bats an eye. “Stalking” a person online before an upcoming date is common, even de rigueur. “Stalking” frenemies we haven’t talked to in years (but still know all about via their Facebook profiles) has basically become a new pastime.

But the truth is, actual stalking is not something to simply brush off, mention in passing or take lightly. It’s very real and very scary — and this era, it’s all too easy to get caught up in a stalker’s snare. In fact, 1 in 6 women and 1 in 14 men will be stalked in their lifetimes.

When looking just at women, 1 in 6 — and that’s a conservative estimate — will be stalked at some point over the course of her life. Using a wider definition, though, involving persistent behaviors that make victims uncomfortable or fearful, that number is closer to 1 in 4 women.

There’s an under-awareness about stalking, says Michelle Garcia, director of the Stalking Resource Center. “Some estimates suggest 7.5 million people are stalked yearly in the United States,” she tells Yahoo Health. “And that’s only adults.”

Stalking behavior isn’t uncommon among high school students — especially cyberstalking, which can be done easily from a distance via publically accessible information online. The behavior is also on the rise among the college set: According to a new study from the Crime Victims’ Institute at Sam Houston State University, almost twice as many college students report being stalked in the past 12 months than those in the general public (4.3 percent versus 2.2 percent). In fact, the Stalking Resource Center reports that half of female victims and one-third of male victims are under the age of 25.

You probably know your stalker.

Stalking is not a random crime. Generally, a stalker is someone the victim knows (or knew) well — often an ex or someone who was (or wishes to be) romantic with the victim. “It’s an intimate partner in about 50 percent of cases,” Garcia says. “In other situations, it’s an acquaintance — it could be a relative, a casual friend, or a person you see at the coffee shop every morning.” The point is, victims are usually familiar with, or at least aware of, the person doing the stalking.

For Katie*, her stalker was a guy from her elementary school. “When he added me on Facebook, I thought nothing of it,” she explains. “He would chat me, usually super-friendly, asking me how my day was, etc. — all was well. He wasn’t someone I would ever consider a romantic relationship with, but he was nice enough and we would talk. I even gave him my number at one point. This was my freshman year of college in 2008.”

But Katie knew something was off. ”He started hurting himself ‘accidentally’ and telling me about it, like slamming his hand through a window on purpose and needing stitches, head injuries, you name it,” she says. “This was the beginning of my fear.”

Indeed, another common characteristic of stalking behavior is that the attention is constant and makes the recipient uncomfortable, no matter who is doing it. The stalkers engage in behaviors that raise that red flags in your gut — incessant texts or messages, random gifts, sudden appearances, or, as in Katie’s case, attention-seeking comments and behaviors.

Intimate partners who are stalkers are also more likely to physically approach their victims and most likely to escalate contact, but progressive behavior can happen to anyone. More than two-thirds of stalkers will reach out to the object of their desire at least once a week, often daily, and 78 percent use multiple forms of communication — from letters, IMs, emails, gift deliveries, phone calls, and showing up unannounced. The stalker’s initial approach may seem harmless or soft, but the motives may not be.

Stalking is usually a slow and steady build.

A pattern of stalking is generally not an immediate, in-your-face realization. Pursuit is often a collection of behaviors that start small but then grow to something bigger, from a few strange emails to excessive, unpredictable, in-person contacts. “One of the biggest challenges with stalking is that individual behaviors are part of a bigger picture when it comes to stalking,” says Garcia. “It’s a progression, and it’s always context dependent. It’s not criminal to call or to send someone flowers.”

What constitutes stalking is not an exact science. For instance, if a boyfriend or a telemarketer calls a few times in a day, most people would generally not consider this bizarre. But if a waiter from a favorite restaurant in town, or an ex dumped six months ago continuously Facebook messages someone, it’s a little different. “It’s a series of events, and it can escalate over time,” Garcia says.

There is more information on this, on Yahoo!.com, feel free to check it out, and, all I’m gonna say about this subject, is that you can NEVER be careful with these kinds of things, and, when the two of you are still experiencing the Honeymoon Phase of your relationship, you have the tendency, to misinterpret the possessiveness that the person you’re dating shows towards you, and that, is why you got yourselves SCREWED, and, by the time you realize it, well, it may damn well be, too late, to break free…so, DO watch out for these signs.

Over Twenty-Percent of the Children of the Higher Grade Levels in the Elementary Years Were Cyber-Bullied

And NO, you still didn’t hear it from ME!!! From the Education Section of the newspapers, translated…

With the coming on of the cyber age, the bullying of the elementary years had gone online. The newest published research stated, that in the higher grades of the schools in the city, there are already over seventy-percent of children who are using Facebook, and, over twenty-percent of these users had once been bullied on Facebook, for instance, gotten hurt by the rumors, getting ignored and blocked by someone they knew; students with good grades would also ask the crowd on Facebook to bully someone else, and, those who gave kudos, who support this sort of bad behaviors, are even more numerous.

The instructor from Bo-Ai Elementary School, Chen had once handled a case where a student was bullied on Facebook, while he was studying at the criminology graduate studies school in Taipei University, he’d written his thesis on the topic of “the Bullying Relationship of Elementary School Students on Facebook”, he’d sampled over nine-hundred upper class students in the elementary years in the city of Taipei, and asked them about their experiences of being cyber-bullied, recently, he’d held a conference on the subjects in the forum, hosted by the Department of Education.

He’d found, that in the recent three, to four years, the bullying in the schoolyards had gone “hi-tech” and became cyber bullying now, because normally, the instructors would be in the classrooms, and, it would be easy for a student, to attack another; but, when the kids got home, a lot of the parents are allowing their kids to go online without restrictions, especially, with how user-friendly Facebook is, and how fast things spread on there, and there were functions to block, to become cliques, it’d exacerbated the conditions of group bullying.

Chen’s research found, that 73.3% of the kids in the higher grades of the elementary school years use Facebook, and out of those 22.7% were bullied on Facebook, the most widely used scenario: the classmates talked trash about you, or ignoring you on purpose, or, having other people isolate you.

The investigations showed, that over fifteen percent of elementary school student in the higher grades had once bullied someone else on Facebook; and, there were more than forty percent of the students, who just watched, as someone in their classes got bullied.

The research also discovered, that students who are highly nervous, more sensitive, easily angered, or anxious, are less popular in the groups, and are more easily to become the victims of Facebook bullying, because the victims would often block the abusers, to protect themselves.

As for the abusers who were once abused on Facebook, the boys outnumbered the girls. Chen said, what’s worth more of our attention is, the abused turned abusers in the schools are mostly those children with bad grades, and the troublemakers in school, however, those who used Facebook to bully others, are not necessarily not doing well in school.

Chen had once discovered, that there were those students who were making high grades, who seemed well-behaving enough, who are loved by their instructors, because she’s the leader of the class, she’d gotten together, with her clique, and bullied those she didn’t liked, and that would make the victims’ lives even harder.

So see, this, is another BAD thing about using FB, I mean, sure, FB IS the INNEST way to “connect” right now, I mean, who wouldn’t want to know what everyone’s doing, every minute of every day, right? But, this is still a HUGE problem, because kids are still bullying each other, because they can, because nobody’s setting them straight, and, even IF the teacher told the kids to stop bullying one another, you think that those children would listen to their school instructors?  HECK NO!

The More One Relies on Facebook, the More Likely One Can Become Victims or the Bullies

Chen, the elementary school instructor pointed on, in order to prevent the bullying on Facebook, the parents should make the rules of online time with the kids, rather than restricting them from using, and start caring about the kids’ friendships; when you find that you’re kids were blocked, or singled out, you may ask the school teachers to step in to help out.

Chen said, the elementary students now, are using Facebook regularly, and there more likely they’re to fall victim to this cyberbullying. The parents would make up the rules of how the kids must finish their school work, before they can log onto Facebook, and, when their coursework became affected by their Facebook usage, then, they will be banned from using.

Chen suggested the parents to give the kids enough privacy, when they’re using Facebook on a regular basis; but, you need to communicate with your children, and know their account names, passwords, so you can get a hang of your kids’ friendships, that way, you can help when something seems off.

As for the school teachers, Chen suggested, that they need to educate the students, that once they were bullied on Facebook, they must come forth and seek out help; especially, the instructors should encourage the bystanders, to NOT keep silent, to tell the teachers immediately, so the instructors can help mediate the tension that’s happening in the interpersonal relationships on Facebook.

And, if the instructors are observant enough, they can discover the bullied easily. Chen told the example, that two years ago, the sixth grade class he taught, there was a young girl who didn’t play with the other kids, but would come to him to talk, and, after he’d inquired, he’d learned, that she was singled out by her Face friends, everybody called her a “tattle-tell”, a fake.

And so, Chen called up the leader girl who started the bullying, to communicate, and through the fieldtrips along with other group activities, to close the distance of the victim and the perp, and he was able to effectively resolve the situations. The student who were bullied are mostly less confident, and the teachers can encourage these children, to take up leadership roles in the Face groups, to prevent showing off, and posting untruthful statements on FB, that can also help the interpersonal relationships to get better.

And so, this is still NOT YO MAMAS’ or YO DADDIES’ bullying NO more that’s for sure, and, with how popular FB is getting these days, that, would be how bullying happens, and this, is just as bad as cyberbullying, oh wait, it IS cyberbullying, and, there was this one girl who committed SUICIDE because she was bullied on Facebook from before, I know, I’d written about that when it got “presented” to me in the papers already!