In the Case of the Fifth Grader Adding the Substances to His Classmate’s Water, the School Denied that They Were Passive in Handling the Matter

Of course, that’s what the “official statements” would say, because if the school admitted that oh, we weren’t, careful enough, then, the school gets, SUED by the victims and their, parents, a great way of, dodging responsibilities here, when this SHIT happened under your watch, and then again, it’s the individual’s actions that’s, given this school, a bad rep!  Off of the Newspapers, translated…

A fifth grader in an elementary school in Taichung had upsets with a classmate, and he’d coconspired with three other of his classmates, added the juices of devil’s ivy to the classmate’s water bottle, the victim drank from the water bottle and fell ill, the parents called the cops, and complained how the school was passive in handling the matter “refusing to provide us with the sound files, the video files of the conferences with the students and parents”.  The school yesterday apologized on this matter, stated that as soon as they were notified of the incident, they’d, immediately contacted the security professional of the school, other than counseling the individuals who were involved, they’d also called up the emergency meetings in the school to start up the investigations.

The school pointed out, because the student is under twelve, to protect the students’ privacies, they will provide the counseling, and educate them on what constitutes as proper, to prevent them from getting hurt again, and begged the society to give these students, a chance, to turn their lives around.

And, the parents of the victim filed for the bullying, the school told, that it’s reviewing the evidences based off of the bullying prevention standards that’s set up in the school, and will hasten the investigation, continue to reinforce the means of stop bullying in the meetings in school.

Members of the public posted online, that the higher grade level students A and R in a certain elementary school had the upsets with one another, although they’d resolved the matter under the mediations held by the teachers, but, A started researching for the related information on poisonous plants, and coconspired with three other students in the class, in the end, decided to use the devil’s ivy, and waited until R wasn’t looking, added the sweetened sap of the plant into his water bottle, after R drank the fluids, he’d started feeling nauseous, and started having a stomach ache.

The Taichung Department of Education stated that the school already started counseling the students who were involved, and both of the parents of the students had also, filed the bullying and discrimination cases with the schools, the case is currently under investigation.

And so, this, is on how the parents of the victim are upset, over how the school handled the matter, and, this is outrageous, how the school can, allow the elementary age student, to do such an awful thing to one another, in school!  This happened in school, and, it didn’t matter whose fault it was, it’s the students!  And the school is now, dodging responsibilities, yeah, they are all, “minors”, but hey, it’d happened, UNDER what should’ve been, YOUR WATCH, and yet, the school refused to, MAN UP???

Suspicions of the Student Who Committed Suicide was Bullied by the Instructors, the Educators: Speculating What Happened isn’t Objective, the High School Student’s Father: the School’s Investigations are Coming Along Too Slowly

The aftermath of the suicide of a high school student, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

A male high school student from Taichung committed suicide this February, the families came out, and accused the school for inappropriate discipline, that it was how the school managed the matter that’s caused the son to withstand way too much pressures, that eventually led to his, suicide, it’d been over a month to date, and the school still took a passive approach to handling this matter, it’d angered the community.  The high school student’s father told the central chapter of the Humanistic Education Foundation, that since the events, the school attributed his son’s death to personal matter and family causes, delayed the investigations of what actually caused the student to suicide, it wasn’t until the Department of Education finally intervened, did the school started taking the matters, seriously, and the investigators, are still too slow to act, everything is now, hindsight, but finally, someone’s, doing, something now.

The school matter meeting occurring in April, will have the high school student’s father to come.  The father stated, that he had, completely trusted and complied with the means of discipline and trainings of his son, and yet, the school’s means caused his son to commit suicide, “I don’t think I can trust the school’s own investigations now, he’d hoped, that a representative of the foundation will accompany him to the meeting, so the truth can come out soon.  The school had no response toward this.

Before the high school student committed suicide, he was suspected of being body searched, having his backpack searched, with NO justifiable cause by the school instructors, and the teachers blankly accused him for stealing money, when there’s NO physical proof or evidence that he had done so, and he couldn’t withstand the pressures any longer, at the bottom half of February, he’d committed suicide at home, and a lot of the members of the online community left the messages, and stated that they feel bad for the student, and that was when the parents found, that their son had been bullied repeatedly, and harshly by the school’s instructors.  But the school was quite passive in handling the matter, until the Department of Education intervened into this matter, then, it’d started up the investigations of what had, happened.

Wang, the professor of counseling major of Changwha Teacher’s University stated, that the case seemed to be how there was a lacking of counseling provided to the student, that the school didn’t take into considerations how the student would feel being a thief, that’s caused the student experience the severe negative emotions, this showed that there’s the problems in the operations of the entire systems of education, that it’s best, to get the expert outside of the school, to get involved with the investigation, to try to find out the part of the structures that were set up right.

Wang told, that as the students started exerting the wayward behaviors, and odd emotions, then, the risks of self-mutilating, should be implored, the means included, identifying the behaviors, showing care and concerns for the students, referring the individuals to professionals, first, identify the individual with the negative emotional responses, accompanying her/him, and set up counseling, if needed, refer the person to a fitting professional facility, to prevent the dangerous feelings from growing bigger.

Those who work in education stated, that the society does NOT know what happened in the case, and started judging right and wrong from the speculations, which caused the opinions to tilt, the entire matter is already sent into the investigation processes now, other than investigating what happened, the Department of Education, and the schools should also, help the students gain more abilities to resolve their emotional difficulties, to prevent the happening of, the next tragedy.

And so, based off of this, it’s the school that’s, lacking in action, toward how this kid was being bullied by the instructors, and this is a huge problem, because of course the school will NEVER admit that they’re wrong, because that’s like slapping themselves across their own faces, but a high school student had committed suicide, and, maybe it was cowardly of the student, but at least, the school should dig into W-H-Y, this kid committed, suicide, instead of keeping on, passing the balls, and not manning up to take the responsibilities of their involvement in what caused this student to kill himself.

The Resolves She’d Helped Me Find in Life

Being bullied is never easy, especially in our, teenage, years, but, someone came along, and showed us the light, and we held on to that light for life!  Translated…

My last year in middle school, I’d started living the life of seven to nine, early to school, studied late into the nights, then turned home, and, even after the graduation, I’d still kept at, this, schedule.

Three weeks until the major exams, the futures belonged to, the future, and, every single tomorrow had, pressed hard down on me.  During the lunch breaks, the heated up classroom became an oven, with only, four buzzing fans high on the ceilings, I’d become, so drained, no matter how much I’d napped, I’d gone without, much, energies, sweated like crazy, and, as we put our heads down onto the desks, as we woke, we still had to watch for the drools we’d left on our desks, otherwise, those bored-out-of-their-bones would, make fun.  And, even as the major exams are coming on, we are stuck in the, awkward years of, puberty.

At the time, I ws best friends with a girl, we’d become, a clique.  The enormous pressures, the tough instructor, those childish boys, the laughter of our friendships, along with that future that’s, driving us on, became, the blueprints of our, teenage, years.

But on that day, after our nap hour, the classmate sitting behind me quietly inquired, “What’s happened between you and your group of, friends?  They’d be spreading the words of you being a ‘bitch’?”, my heart raced very, fast, it’d become, almost, unacceptable, to me.  Are we not the same group?  Didn’t our interactions go very well daily?  I could barely hold down my surprise, ran toward the restrooms, as I’d entered into the stalls, I’d, cried hard, a physiological response that came at me way too hard, I couldn’t stop myself from it, and I couldn’t, head back into the classrooms, again.

it was like, this…getting singled out by that clique you used to, hang out, with…photo from online

My classmate collected my things for me, I’d insisted on riding my bicycle home on my own, but on the way home, I’d had to, pull over to the sides of the road, and started, gagging, with the gall bladder juices rushing up into my mouth.  The following day, I’d decided, to stay at home, and study by myself until the major exams, in the evenings, my instructor called me up, told me to return back to school to study, I’d sat in the living room, without any lights, heard my own, weakened, stubbornness, and the darkness of the future, that awaited, me then.

Then one day, I’d received a card from A, I’d only casually interacted with her from time to time, but in the card, she’d written about how she was worried about me not being in school, and told me to IGNORE what they say to and about me, at the end, she’d given me a motto: you take it all in now, you will feel stable and steady, take a step back, and you will see the world open wide up for you.

“The World Opened Wide Up” was in bold to me, it took up an, entire, page.  I’d read it, and read it, over, and over again, carefully, tucked that card, into my desk drawer, and, my body that was originally filled up with the anger, the resentment, gone then, she’d empathized, and understood my being bullied.

Later I’d, actually gone to that faraway place I wanted to go, but unfortunately, we’re no longer, one another’s, companions.  After I made my way into the adulthood years, out of, puberty, whenever the pains that hit me harder than being called a “bitch” came, as my scabbed up wounds inside started hurting again, I’d, taken out that vast openness inside my heart, that entire, whole, page of it, that’s, still, a guiding light, twinkling, showing me the way in the darkness I was, stuck in.

And so, this is how it got for you, being bullied by your friends, and it’d hurt, but, someone else noticed your pains, and empathized with you, and, you were more than grateful for that individual’s presence in your life, and you’d, taken her words of advice, and, started living by it, and her words became, that bright and shiny beacon, in your moments of darkness, when you needed some, guidance.

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The Six Inmates Bullied Their Cellmate, Sentenced to Four to Seven Year’s More

Picking on someone lesser, that, is what we, normally do, and this happened in prison, where people are sent, to get, “corrected”, molestation and abuse of their, fellow, inmate…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Yen and five other men were serving in the prison of Kaohsiung, saw that their cellmate, the twenty-seven-year-old was with that feminine feel to him, easily bullied, and, they’d, ganged up on the man for more than a month, until the manager of the prison noted something wasn’t quite right, then, busted them all.  The victim accused the perpetrators for molesting him, that he was stomped on his pubic area, nicknamed, “Missy”, and “bitch” and other names, while Yen told that they were only, joking.  The High Subsidiary Courts of Kaohsiung sentenced the perpetrators anywhere from four years five months to seven years.

The verdict pointed out, that the victim and Yen, and five others shared the same cell, Yen was the “man in charge” of the cell, responsible for keeping the peace in the cell; at five in the afternoon on May 21^st, 2017, Yen disregarded the victim’s fighting him of, touched his penis by force, the cellmates, Tseng, Hsu saw, didn’t put a stop to Yen’s behavior, instead, they’d, joined in molesting Yen, pinned the victim down, so he couldn’t use his legs to kick off his attackers, Yen was successful in molesting his cellmate.

The victim appeared, and sounded, more feminine, he’d been long-time bullied by his cellmates, and, as he was molested by the group, nobody saved him, and his cell mates exacerbated, and all participated in his abuse, he’d worried if he’d fought, it would get worse for him, and can only, allow Yen and others to pat his breasts, his pubic area, and, he was stomped on hard in his pubic too, for about a whole month’s time.

But, being bullied long-term, it’d, made the manager of the prison system noted that something wasn’t quite right, and reviewed the surveillance, and found the group’s bad acts; during the testimonies, the victim cried that his fellow cellmate nicknamed him “missy”, “whore”, and would moan and groan like him, and every time one of his cellmates started abusing him, the others would, join in, and so, he couldn’t find help, and could only, put up with the abuse.

Yen and the other inmates claimed they were only, horsing around, but the judge reviewed the surveillance footages in the prison cells, and, charged the men who’d abused their fellow inmates on felonies of molesting using power.

And so, this, is how the underdog lives, he couldn’t fight back, because, it would only get worse for him, and he had, nowhere to run to, he’s, locked in with his abusers, and so, he could, only, keep what happened to himself, until the prison guard found something that seemed off with him, then, this case, busted wide, open, and these men who’d, abused this victim will get punished, even more severely, and, they will, be paying for what they did to this fellow inmate for a long time to come.

The Courage, to Face up to Being Bullied

How the adults’ attitudes are what helped this girl, dealt effectively, with the bullies that picked on her in school, the importance, of providing a safe environment that a child feels comfort enough, to tell the adults, translated…

In the meetings, my phone vibrated a couple of times, I saw, using my peripheral vision, that it was from my daughter’s school teacher, with an unsettled heart, I’d found me an excuse, rushed off to the restrooms, clicked open the screen, the photo of my daughter’s glasses being, damaged popped up, in the message, her teacher told, that the two boys from the next classroom thought that my daughter was, horseplaying with them, pinned her to the ground, and scratched her glasses.  I was glad that my daughter wasn’t, physically, injured, but I’d, questioned the teacher’s description of the events, I’d thanked her notifying me first, as for how we’re to, handle the matter, I shall wait until I get off work, and go home to my daughter to discuss with her on it.

like this???

taking the smaller child’s lunch money! Photo from online

And yet, my daughter’s telling me of what had happened, thrilled me!  She said she was playing in the track field, the two boys came up to her, without any warnings, they’d, pinned down her shoulders, and, as she tried to break away from them, they’d, pushed her face to the pavement together, and they’d not mentioned that they wanted to play with her from the start, they’re not even her friends, one only took the afterschool help classes with her, the other, a complete, stranger.

From what my daughter had, described, I saw NO signs of friendly interactions, nor was this, some, careless, mistake, this is, a conscious, banding together, picking one someone lesser sort of, bullying someone for the kicks of it.  I was really angry and upset now, my emotions went up and down, she is only, in the first grade of the elementary years!  Then?  I’d asked my daughter if she were hurt, and did she cry?  Was she angry, was she, afraid?

She’d shook her head steadily, she said, that although she couldn’t, beat those two boys, but she’d, remembered their appearances, and, as she returned back to class, she’d, checked to see if her glasses are all right.  I patted her head, felt that she was, brave, and smart, and am, deeply, proud of her. I’m glad, that this incident didn’t cause any bad things to stay with her in life, but I’d, felt, deeply—maybe, I wouldn’t want to, believe, that children that young are with, malice, or maybe, I’m, affected by the eastern values of, the desires of, keeping the peace, how many incidents of bullying, actually, got misinterpreted as, horseplay?  Because of a naughty temperament, because of lacking of awareness and not knowing better, because of some, misunderstanding, because of, not being, careful, enough…………we’d, given an assortments of getting off easy for the bullies, like how in Harry Potter, all the characters, dodged the topic, the name of, Voldemort, they’d, dodged the word, “bullies” and “bullying” too.  Not realizing, that the unwillingness, to face up, to what’s happening, bullying, it’s harder, to resolve the incidents of, bullying.

illustration from UDN.com

how the child feels isolated and alone being bullied…

As I’d discussed the matter with my daughter, she’d, decided, to forgive the two classmate who’d, picked on her, and I’d, supported her decision.  I’d thanked her teacher, for making her feel safe and secure, for her, to go straight to her, as the incident was, occurring.  And I’m too grateful for her teacher for believing in my daughter, for being, supportive of her, to protect her.  But what I’d, hoped more is, from the school and the family angles, we can all, get the courage to, face up to the bullies, because, only when we’re, willing to face up to the events, then, we will be able to, sort through it, bit by bit, and let it go.

And so, this, is the importance of the attitudes of the adults, when cases of bullying is occurring in a child’s life, the daughter of the writer is being bullied by the boys, and, she’d, told her teacher, and her teacher had, been there, supporting the girl, giving her that safe place to go to, and the child was, intelligent enough, to note the boys’ names, and told the teacher afterwards.

The Abuser Was, Ganged Up On, Sixteen Were Taken into Custody, Most Didn’t Know Each Other, the Gathering of the Crowds from Online, Taking Matters into Their Own Hands, Against the Bullies

Vigilante justice, is still???  Oh yeah, NO justices, but hey, that’s what we do, UNDER the INFLUENCE of the WWW here right now!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

After the footages of the technical high school female student, Lin getting bullied went viral, the online did a human search and found the abuser, and used violence on the abuser; the man, Huang, who’d led the group in slapping Lin came out, apologizing two nights ago, but, there were the members of the online community who’d, “leaked out” the message, and it’d become a matter of “vigilantes seeking justice”, there were about twenty individuals who’d taken the weapons, and ganged up on Huang, beaten his right elbow to and his ring finger to fracture.  The police were notified, and arrested a total of sixteen people, including seven teenagers, and the police found, that most of whom didn’t know each other, and they were all charged with physical assault, gang-related activities, threats, and other charges too, and two of the group were sent to the D.A.’s office, and the district attorneys after interrogations, sent them home, while the rest of the group were, taken and kept in police custody.

Lin, the technical high school student, and the woman, Hsiao had monetary disagreements, on the 22^nd of last month, Lin was ganged up on by Hsiao’s boyfriend, Huang (age nineteen), and the group, drinks were poured on her face, while the bystanders shot the footage of a total of fifty-six seconds, and streamed it online, and members of the online community found out Huang’s identity, and some of the online community threw eggs at Huang’s residence.

vigilantes, seeking “justice”…

here, we have, a “mob” of only TWO! Found online

Two nights ago, Huang’s friend, the man, Fang (age 19) asked him, “do you want to fix it”?, Huang wanted all of it to be over soon, and agreed, that he would meet out two nights ago at ten, outside a super convenience shop in Hsiaogang to discuss how to apologize, and the man, Lin got in touch with the girl who got slapped, Lin to come but because there was a gathering of, seven to eight individuals, the police were called and came, Fang rode his scooter out to the Rose Cemetery in Daliao District with Huang on the back and continued to “discuss” the matter.

Someone Instagrammed the goings on of Huang making the apology, and everything was tracked online, from the posts and reposts, and reposts of the online community, at around midnight last night, there were, more than twenty individuals who’d, rushed over to the cemetery, and Lin showed up with her father, and talked with her abuser for no more than five minutes, then left, but, within five minutes afterwards, Huang was, ganged up on, and, was taken to the Hsiaogang Hospital, and the hospital immediately, notified the police.

Huang stated, that he’d only known three, to four people who were there, that he’d not known most of them, and that someone had hit him with a bat; Fang tried to cover him up, but it’d not worked, that he planned to sue his abusers for threats, and assault.  Fang also testified, that back then, he did, try his best, to protect Huang, he took along six, to seven others, to film the process of his apologies to the girl, that he’d not known most of those who were there.

at the tips of our, fingers too! Photo from online

The police took in sixteen of the suspected abusers one by one, and found, that most of them didn’t know each other, and suspected that someone had, shared the passage of Huang’s apology to the adolescent girl at the super convenience shops, and someone started tracking his whereabouts, and, as the online community posted, reposted, and followed up, there were more and more of those who’d gathered around the cemetery, and as soon as Lin and her family members left, they’d, started, gaining up on Huang; the abusers included Fang’s friends, and there were those who were there, because of the posts online, the “vigilantes”, using violence to fight violence, the police took Fang and one another individual into protective custody, while the rest of the involved were taken to the police stations locally.

Based off of the viral video on IG, while Huang was getting cussed at and beaten on by the gathering crowd, Tseng tried to block him from being attacked, and kept moving backwards; there was another footage that showed Huang getting asked, “how do you want to apologize to the woman?”, with Huang stuttered, “I shouldn’t have, slapped her”, and the individual filming asked  him again, “How are you going to apologize?”, Huang kept bowing, and said, “I’m sorry, I should not have hit the girl!”

And so, thanks to social networks such as Instagram, Facebook, and, YouTube (for allowing the footages to go VIRAL???), that was HOW and WHY this beat-down happened, and this is happening, more and more often these days, because of all of those tiny matters that you and/or I feel to be, unjustified, and, there are those of you (which I’m nowhere NEAR a member of???), who felt that oh, she got beaten up, and that’s not right, and so, you’d, gathered up that huge crowd, and went to TAKE the guy who’d, beaten up that teenage girl up yourselves, and now, you are all gonna get charged, for ASSAULTING the original ABUSER, and in the process of seeking out what you deemed to be, justice, you’d, turned into, ABUSERS too, and wow, you still, don’t REALIZE this, because, you’d TOO BLIND by what you deemed to be “justice”.

And all of this is due to???  STREAM it LIVE!!!

Told His Cousins After He Was Drunk that He Was Bullied, Got Victimized Even More

In this particular case, had this middle school student NOT gotten drunk, he probably would’ve, never dared to tell, and now, the bullies will be, severely, punished!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

An unnamed middle school in Taichung had an incident of students ganging up, a second-year male were beaten on the buttocks by two adolescents from the same school, there was another young lad who was filming the incident as it happened, and the footages got out, and the online community started ranting, the police stated, that the grandmother of the student who got beaten already reported the incident to the police, and the three adolescents involved were sent to juvenile court.

A member of the online community posted out the footages of the bullying sessions, with a male student on his knees on the ground, with two young lady using the sticks, beating on the kneeler’s buttocks, and the one being beaten could no longer withstand the pain, started yelping, and fell limp onto the ground at one time, but the others warned him, “Kneel up straight”, even cussed at him, “Don’t make trouble for us later”, “two more times”, “That’ll teach you to mouth off!”

On the evening of New Year’s Eve, the victim was having a barbecue with the older and younger cousin of the guy who’d beaten him up, in the meals, he had some alcohol to drink, and the cousins thought he’d snitched on them as they got to school the teacher called them both to the office, after school on January 6^th, the two cousins used the chained rods, beaten the young lad four times each, causing the victim to have bruising all over his body, and there was another guy, filming the process of the victim getting beaten up.

After the footages were shot, it was streamed onto the cousins’ LINE group, then, the other students in the group, passed the footages around, that was when the whole thing blew open.  The school stated, that the victim was from a single parent family, lives with his grandmother, that the school already asked his grandmother to take him to the hospital, to get his injuries documented by the E.R. and reported to the police, the students who’d beaten the victim up already went to his house, and apologized to his families and him, by their parents’ demands, currently, and currently all three students are attending school as they would normally.

So, because this victim was from a single parent family, lived with his grandmother, that was why the bullies targeted him?  And this still just showed, how violent children can get, and the kid that was filming the process of the victim getting SPANKED is also, equally guilty, and this still should NOT just get resolved with an apology, to the victim, by the perpetrators, led by their parents, these crosses between children and adults should get SENT to PRISON, live in JAIL for a couple of years, and that’ll teach them, how it feels, to be, someone else’s, BITCH!

A Man Abused His Girlfriend’s Young Daughter, Got a “Heavy Sentence” of Fourteen Years

Did you NOT read that last case of the newborn being COOKED by the mother’s boyfriend???  So, why the FUCK (don’t pardon me this time!) is this still happening???  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Chou, in Yunlin two years ago, moved in with a married woman, Ke, and because of Ke’s young one-year-three months old daughter won’t stop crying, Chou had multiple times, used rulers, sticks, or cloth hanger, to beat the child, he’d even scooped up the child, and fly-kicked the child, causing her to fall to the ground, the infant, after these abuses, because of the back of her head was beaten, she’d fallen into a coma, then died.

The D.A. charged Chou and Ke together, the first trail, the courts sentenced Chou on abused to death to eleven years, eight months, and sentenced the mother on abuse for three months and she is to serve one more month in jail.  The second trials maintained the ruling toward the mother, but believed that Chou didn’t follow the payback plans, and he is without remorse, he’d charged him on abuse to death on fourteen years and a half, and, on the damages part, he could pay a fine.  The highest courts maintained the rulings of the appeal courts.

As the trial was proceeding, the grandmother of the child showed up and started wailing, screamed at Chou, called him “inhumane, I must get you back for my granddaughter’s sake.”  Even though, Chou had reached a settlement of two million dollars with the infant’s father, Chou still hadn’t paid a single dime.

The verdict pointed out, in an online game, Ke had met Chou, who fixed up the air-conditioning systems, two years ago in May, Ke took along her daughter, and moved in with Chou in Yunlin, the one year three months old daughter would cry often, and Ke would used glue sticks to beat her own daughter’s back or legs, causing the child’s back to swell and bruise.

Chou claimed he was a psychic, claimed that the infant was possessed, not only had he used the punishment toys, rulers, to beat her up, he’d also burned the child with incense and beat her body with a clothe hanger, last June, he’d even fly kicked the child, the child flew across the living room, fell beneath the sofa, and, went into shock, thankfully, a friend of Chou’s performed CPR, to help save the child’s life.

A few days later, the young girl had her bottle, and as sitting on the toy car, Chou, all of a sudden, started hitting the child on the back of the head, the child cried two loud cries, then, fell into a coma, Chou once again, ask his friends to perform CPR, and lifted her to the hospital, the child never woke up again, she’d died six months later.  Chou claimed that he’d only lightly hit the child as a disciplinary method, and Ke claimed that she wasn’t there, but the courts didn’t believe them.

And there are still a TON of parents who are NOT supposed be parents, in this case, the man has emotional problems, and he took his anger of whatever out on the girlfriend’s young daughter, and, fourteen years is still too lenient, these sort of LOSERS should be locked away for L-I-F-E, if you ask me!

Breaking the Cycle of Domestic Violence

From a victim to a survivor here, translated…

When I heard people tell me, “On the fact that B had died, we really don’t know how to make you feel better, so, that, was why we didn’t call.”, on the other end of the line, A started crying hard.

A is a hard working career woman, not only was she able to keep herself well economically, she’d also supplied more than her share of the household income. But, underneath her amazing work abilities, A had the life of an abused woman—after getting beaten by the husband, she’d reported it to the police, gone to the hospitals to get her wounds documented, left home, to get started on healing, later on, she fell into the soft words of B’s consoles to get home again.  Year after year, this was the same script that kept happening, again, and again, it’d made ALL who really actually tried to help A out feel helpless, like it wouldn’t be right, for them not to offer assistance, but, they can’t really help her out, because she keeps circling around in that same vicious cycle.

One time, we’d learned that A moved back in, I’d immediately called her up, to get her to move back out, told her, that IF she couldn’t make her mind up about leaving home, then, B may not do as they’d both agreed, go to the hospitals regularly to get checked, and the kids that grew up in this violent environment, it would be hard, for them to develop well psychologically. And still, the feelings still overcame A’s rationalism, in the end, she’d chosen to stay at home, with her abusive husband, and B, refused to check herself into the hospitals.

And, this only exacerbated, several years later, one day, A’s mother just so happened heard the rumors floating around A’s neighborhood, “We’d often heard a household getting too rowdy, followed by a woman’s crying.” She shocking realized, that the woman that the neighbors heard crying might be her baby girl.  She did some checking into it, and, it WAS her daughter, and so, the mother took her baby girl out of her abusive home.  A, who’d finally had enough of being abused regularly, finally made up her mind, never to return home again, and so, ever since, the status of A and B’s marriage became “separated”.

The days of being abused is just way too scary, A and the kids now lived independently and steadily, from day to day, with NO contact with B whatsoever. A short while ago, B who has NOBODY next to him died all of a sudden.  When A and the kids went to pick up the house, she’d found, that as her husband was starting to live alone, he’d started to change, had prepared for the children’s education and everything, and still, he’s already gone, and, no matter how much he’d saved up, it’s not going to be enough, to make up for that emptiness he’d left in them.

Had A been more stubborn on leaving, and never returning back home again, and break the vicious cycle of domestic violence earlier, maybe, it would’ve all ended differently. To every abused woman, leaving the home, making changes is never an easy choice, and yet, if you’re able to set up your minds, and end this vicious cycle, there’s still a good chance that you can rebuild your families again.

This, is still ALL in H-I-N-D-S-I-G-H-T, and, there’s a ton of “had…only…” involved in this “equation”, and, it is hard, for someone who’s been abused LONG term, to finally SNAP out of it, and, when this woman finally decided to make the changes, everything starts improving, but for this loser who’d abused her, his change came a bit too late.