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Sexual Harassment is Rightfully Reasoned Should Get Written in the Outlines of What the DDP Operates by

How the DDP became, the ENABLER of this abuse of the women in the population, but not going HARD after the perps, the higher up male officials of the cases of sexual harassments which are, surfacing right now, the sexism, rooted, since the start of time, and it would be next to impossible, getting it, rooted, up…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Recently, there’d been, “another and another” case of sexual harassment in the DDP, first, it was the former worker of the party’s office claiming she’d been sexually harassed, that the case was not taken seriously by the manager of the department of the Women’s offices, and the individual asked the victim of the harassment, “Why didn’t you just jump out of the car then?”, and what’s worse was, this manager had gotten promoted to the assistant secretary for the entire party; yesterday, there was another former employee of the party’s headquarters who’d disclosed, that the former manager of the youth department had tolerated his subordinates in sexually harassing her, and made an example of her, and bullied her in the workplace again and again.

Why is it again?  Because, there’d been, cases of how the DDP related offices are, involved in the matters of sexual harassment.  From forcibly kissing the part-timing student worker at the headquarters, to holding hands with a married woman, how the sexual harassment cases in Germany, and how the representatives from this country didn’t do a thing to investigate, it seemed, that there are, the Chauvinistic beliefs that runs the party’s ideologies.

What is, “Chauvinistic”?  Chauvinism was originally used to describe an extremist system of belief about a certain racial background, in 1960, it was reinterpreted by the Women’s movement into how “men are better than women” sexist beliefs, and so, those men who act according to Chauvinism are all called “Chauvinistic pigs”.

how we women are often, ignored…illustration from online

The DDP inherited the Taiwanese Asian traditional Chauvinism, through the Taiwanese local movements, and started a like-Cultural Revolution, in the time, those who can’t speak Taiwanese, aren’t patriotic enough toward Taiwan, and not agreeing with the culture of Taiwan, and are, Communist Chinese supporters.

And, of these, the most atrocious was the brute “Da-Fu”, Chauvinistic beliefs, and this is related to the karaoke shops in the Japanese rule era, and the “Grandpa shops”, the teashops, along with the bar cultures.  These macho Taiwanese believed, that by putting out the cash makes them kings, and after a few drinks, the cuss words come out, and they’d started, getting handsy with the ladies, with a total lack of respect toward women.

And so, as a female working for the party’s office, not getting sexually harassed by them males they worked alongside of, would be, next to, impossible, and, chances are, the victims are going to become the “president’s favorite”, Chen, who’d had to, change her name, and, made herself, hidden.

and yes, this SHIT is still happening in today’s societies, right now! Illustration from online

And so, this is how it goes, because we are still living in the deeply rooted beliefs of women are lesser to men, that’s what made us into targets, despite how much advances in women’s rights we already made (hello, hello, hello, in the U.S. women’s rights to vote came AFTER the African Americans’ right to vote, didn’t it???), and, we may think that we’d come a long way, but, we actually hadn’t, look at how women are called as WHORES, BIMBOS (and other derogatory terms) by men!

And what’s worse is that the ideologies of these political parties, of these various cultures around the global community are actually, advocating the discrimination against us, women…

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Leftovers

This is the FATES, of traditional Asian women, despite how the times had, already, advanced into, the modern day, where the emphasis is more on gender equality, but a lot of us women, are still, bound by these, traditional, gender stereotypes of how the female roles should be played out, and we get, trapped by it!  Translated…

After I’d started living on my own, the most annoying thing in my life is, the, leftovers.  This, seemingly nitty-gritty item, but needed to sort through by the meals “business”, often taxed up my mind, although, this is no huge thing like the philosophers are contemplating on, just the traces that remained of my three square meals per day, but it’d, gotten really deep inside, and annoyed, the hell out of, me.  The timelines of life, there must be, close to half of the total time, spending, on how to resolve the matters of, the, leftovers, do we, reheat them up for the meals later, do we, “mask” them up as the lunches of love packed by us to serve to our significant, others?  Or do we, bring them to the office, to SHOW off how we are, cared for?  Or, should we just, toss them away?  Reminding ourselves, to separate the leftovers, to take them out by the curbside on trash collection day, to NOT allow it to start stanching up our, ordinary, days.

Leftover, the remains of our, lives, but it’d, deeply, affected the aesthetic of our lives.

When I was young, I’d not needed to worry about this problem.  Served onto the tables, were all the items that gave us that incredible appetite, the heated up food.  There were, too many choices, given to our chopsticks, raising up in midair, and, in time, we are, still, considering what we wanted to eat, the difficulties on our tongues, that was, patented to our, childhood, years.

During the time, I’d not remember the exact time when my mother served us our, meals, for the kids who’d, stolen out after they were fed to play, they’d not even, considered what the leftovers, looked, like?  Could the “leftovers” became a pronoun for our, mothers?  My oldest cousin said he’d hated the stir-fried cabbages, too simple; my youngest female cousin hated the seaweed soup, that it was too tasteless.  And so, what was favored by all, the more popular dishes, the pork, the chicken, the shrimps, the steamed eggs, were cleaned off the plates in a jiffy, as for those unfavored steamed, less flavored items, had become, frozen, into, a sort of, an animosity, while my mother became the sin bearer of these, and as everybody goes off, she’d, sat, under the dimmed lights, and, started, eating, those, leftovers.

illustration from UDN.com

I’d gotten a call from my mother at night, toward the adult children, there are, always, the silence that got lost in time in these calls, on the other end of the world, came the asking of how the weather was, and I’d always, slurred to answer her.  After a while, I’d remembered, finally, that my aging mother, toward the cold sounds of the echoes of my responses, must be like, how she used to, eat those, leftovers that we didn’t, finish in our, younger, years too?

On the other end of the world, she’d reminded me, “just toss out the leftover, and don’t eat it, it’s not good to eat them reheated up over, over, and over again.”

But, how much left do we, thrown out?  And, it’d become, hard for me, to weigh and measure this.

Perhaps, half a bowl, that already, mixed to, nothing but chaos inside that served bowl of, rice?  Or, the too savory, too spicy sauce that still had, a-third portion remaining, with the leftover chopped up stems leafy greens; or, must we, finish the plates up, only left the traces of the, pork flosses?  These three meals a day, before we pour them out, as we’re about to, push them into the refrigerators, I’d always, thought again, and gain, and, my mind goes back and forth, back and forth, trapped in tossing them away, or saving them, don’t know how much that’s leftover, that’s, worthy for the world to, keep?  And, how much of what’s remained, should get tossed out, matter-of-factly?  I’d had to, consider this, many times a day, and, felt confused for my mother, who’d been, trapped inside the, vicious cycle, how did she, get along, well with all the leftovers we’d given to her?  In the long road of life, with nothing but the leftovers, taking up her life, the time for recycling the foods, the reheating up the dishes, constantly, back and forth, thinking about, time, and life rushed by her, side as moments like these came and, went.

Leftover became a sort of a fate, teaching the older generations of women, to wait on, endlessly.  When she was younger, she’d lived for her parents; after she was married, she’d lived for her children.  As she aged to elderly, that richness of her life already, gotten, taken out of hers, she’d become, nothing more, than the leftover of who she had been, that’s, remained, as she’d become, the leftovers of fate, in between heating and throwing out, she’d already, forgotten, her original, flavors already.

and unfortunately, they’re not the least, “neatly plated” like, these…photo from online

And this is actually not about the leftovers the family had for their meals, but the fate of traditional Asian women, and although, the traditions are slowly, less and less imposing on the younger generations but, there are still, the gender expectations that imposes themselves onto us, women, how we should give up everything we want, for the sake of our, families, this is still, the primary values that’s rooted too deep in the Asian cultures, which is why, women in these parts of the world, are fated to take on the, leftovers of everybody else’s, life.

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Visiting My Mother-in-Law’s by Myself

The women burdened by the societal expectations of what it means to be a daughter-in-law, and this is still nowhere NEAR changing, anytime soon!  Translated…

Been married nine years to date, because my husband works out of country, every holidays, every New Year’s, I’m the only one in Taiwan, and I’d gone to my in-laws alone by myself often.

My in-laws told, that they wanted to see me more often, I’d known, that it’s my responsibilities to show more care and concerns for them, but, my husband not being in the country, it’d made me feel, a bit, pressured.  For about four years on New Year’s, I’d gone to my in-laws on my own.  No need to help with the meal preps, no need to even lift a single finger, I was fed well, and lived comfortable in their home, but I’d still wanted to run from this, “seemingly mine, but doesn’t quite feel like mine”, space.  I’d started asking why I’d felt like so.

Thinking on it more closely, maybe, it’s my loneliness working, the double dose of it—on the one hand, it’s the loneliness of separating from my husband, another, the loneliness of facing this expectation, this responsibility I suppose.

My in-laws, who are related to my husband, but, the link between me and my in-laws wasn’t, present at all, and I can’t feel comfortable enough, getting along with my in-laws the way I would with my friends either, even if my in-laws are very kind and gentle toward me, they’re very open too, but, I’m sure, both they, and I still expect me, to act more according to what a daughter-in-law should behave as.

My friend once told me, the long-distance/the dual-life couples are becoming the norm of society now, and there are the doing away with the traditions.  I can understand what her words, meant, and knew, that there may be a lot of others like me, who other than needing to cope with the long-term physical separation from their spouses, and also have to face with being companions with one’s own spouse’s families, and all of these feelings, all of these things aren’t, easily, managed at all.

So, this is how you feel, caught, because you are married into your husband’s family, and around the holidays, he works away, and can’t make it home, and you feel that obligation to stay with your in-laws, and this is still from the expectations of us women, in our roles as daughters-in-law, that’s from tradition, and although the in-laws may be more opened these days, you still can’t help but feel the pressures, because it’s the cultural expectations, of how women should put their own husbands’ families, first, before their own.

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The Chastity Belt…

This is still, a SEXIST thing that men created, to keep us women, in “line”, with the aim of ULTIMATE control over us!

The chastity belt, worn by the women during the olden days, similar to the practices of Asians getting their women to bind their feet, because they want to see their females walk in small steps, so they can’t run away when the men chased after them.

And, if we’re on the “subject” of, gender EQUALITY, then, how come all you all sons-of-bitches (still not the four-legged “varieties”) have such a hard time, controlling your DICKS, because when you see one of us, with our large TITS, strutting our stuff (what stuff???), and you started to, undressing us women with your eyes.

like this???

looks, kinda like, a THONG, doesn’t it??? Photo from online

The chastity belts, aimed at, keeping women into their, submissive states, so you all can, have control over us, and, these days, these things of ancient times, is still being put to practices, in other “forms”, like those child brides, or how those, honor killings in the “less developed” and “third world” countries, where we women aren’t FREE to love whoever the @#$% we want to!

And it all goes to show, just how FAR we’d progressed, and we still hadn’t come far out of those, cavemen days, when all you sons-of-bitch (go FETCH, Fido!!!) go out hunting with them, oversized CLUBS, leaving us, womenfolk inside the caves, tending to our young, and, at this time, WOW, a SABERTOOTH tiger want to get invited, so, what do we women do???  Panic, or, we pick up whatever the HECK it is around, and THROW it at the beast, to “shoo” that “kitty”, away?

All these “ancient practices”, all these, modern day taboos, are all men’s way of, keeping us women, under CONTROL, and that’s not gender equality in the world!

And you call us out for not being fitting as your wives because we refused to give you your BLOWJOBS, like YO mamas had always done???

My apologies for the “visuals”…

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You Only Want What’s Superficial

You only want what’s superficial, and yeah, I can, certainly give you that, but why the FUCK will I, huh?  I know I am MORE, than what I have on the surfaces, I am, a woman, of DEPTH, and got NO need to, paint that dumb-blonde bimbo look on my face, just to, satisfy your needs (and dudes, don’t EVEN!)…

You only want what’s superficial, what’s no more than the eyes perceive, well, I’ll give you that, in my hourglass figure, my long skinny legs, oh, would you like me to give you a striptease too, huh?

Yeah, I’ll strip all right, oh wait I am, already, a WORLD RENOWNED, STRIPPER here, and the only thing I will EVER be “stripping” would be, my @#$%ING (maxed out already!) M-I-N-D.

and this, would be, what’s, ideal for all you, mother @#$%ERS, right??? Photo from online

So yeah, you all can just, SHOVE your superficialities, all your god damn NEEDS, up your own separate sorry, ASSES there, ‘k???

Note: this is still just ME, “bitching” ‘bout, stuff, this is still NOT directed toward anybody out there, okay???

You only want what’s superficial, and surely, I can be, as superficial as you need me to be, but I still have MORE depth, and I will REFUSE to STOOP down to any of your lowered levels of brain activities!

This is still NOT the QUEEN (moi!!!), insulting anyone, but feel free to see it as that, if you wish to, and send me a “complaint”, why don’t ya???

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A Matter of, Last Names…

Yes, we’re, BACK on, this, “subject of discussion” again, so, BEAR with me here!

Why the FUCK (don’t pardon me!) must we women TAKE our husbands’ (still ONE at a time, LADIES!) last names?  I mean, can’t we keep our own, “surnames” from before we married you mother @#$%ERS?

We have the right to CHOOSE WHOSE last names we take, our fathers’, our mothers’, etc., etc., etc., because we do NOT belong TO anyone, because we are NOT anybody else’s POSSESSIONS.

A matter of, last names, yeah, I got NO problems with my last name, because I CHOSE my own, because I have the right to, and, unless I’d, broken some law in doing so, and you want to come and arrest me for my right to my own last name, yeah, then BACK off!

We women do NOT belong to our fathers, our mothers, our HAS-BEENS, so we got NO need, to FUCKING take YOUR last names, losers, and so, you can go and take all your last names, and just???

Oh yeah, SHOVE IT!

And that would be, T-H-A-T.

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It’s ALWAYS the Female Characters in the Stories that Were Tried, Too, Hard…

Started reading the compilation of fairytales I’d bought from awhile back, and noticed something that’s, quite, ODD.  It’s ALWAYS the female characters (Sleeping Beauty, that princess in Thousandfurs, etc., etc., etc.) who’d been tried, too hard, why IS that?

women portrayed as either M-A-I-D-S! illustration found online

Is it because that WE are women, and we DESERVED to be TRIED, and what of you, huh?  You are MEN, and you were supposed to stand UP on your own two feet, or at least, that’s what I thought, but, do you?  Do YOU???  Of course N-O-T.

And, this extends to MODERN DAY society too, you @#$%ERS (refrain myself from “swearing”…) come home, kick your shoes off, and start SAGGING down on that COUCH, (with that large ASS imprint already???), and expect us all to turn ourselves into MAIDS that served you???

NEWSFLASH: we modern day women, unlike you, sons-of-bitches (not the four-legged “varieties”, as those are, WAY easier, to TRAIN!!!), we work around the clock, from the moment we opened our eyes in the morn, we start running, whether if it’s in the homes, or out, and most of us have our jobs outside of our homes, and we work, just as hard as you, if not harder.

or in a COMATOSE! inside that coffin! From online

So, do NOT expect things to be handed to you, ‘cuz (don’t know ‘bout the rest of y’all BREASTFEEDING women out there!) we ain’t gonna take it, NO MORE!

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Restricted Abortion Access Will Cause Psychiatric Harm — Neuroscience News

Women seeking abortions are three times more likely to suffer from a mental health disorder, and restrictive abortion rights will only cause more women to experience mental health problems, researchers say. Additionally, the physical and emotional stress caused as a result of forced pregnancy will have a detrimental impact on the brain development of the…

Restricted Abortion Access Will Cause Psychiatric Harm — Neuroscience News

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As the Government “Allowed” Us, Women, to Spend Our New Year’s Eve with Our Own Families of, Origin

The government here, RE-iterated that it SHOULD BE ALLOWED, for us women who are married (still so totally NOWHERE N-E-A-R the vicinity of THAT shit here!), to go home to our own individual families of origins for New Year’s Eve meal gatherings…

Now, the government had, called out to the families with the sons, to be “more open” to the idea, to allow us women, to have the needed “time off”, seeing how we’d waited on them (our husbands and their families) hand-AND-FEET, all year long already, to give us a break!

And called out to the in-laws to not be so “narrow-minded”, to allow us women, to head home to our own individual families of origins on New Year’s Eve.

Now, there ARE, a few (more like a ton of!) problems with that:  first, who the FUCK (so???) says, that we can’t go to our own families of origins on New Year’s Eve to have the meals, and, this government’s “graciously allowing” us to do that, wouldn’t that be insinuating that before the statements made, we weren’t allowed to?

and the “caption” reads: one in five believes that women are inferior to men, study shows…from online

Secondly, who the FUCK (no need to pardon me here still!) says, that once we women are married, we are, SLAVES to your (men’s) families, as the traditions of this god damn CULTURE stated (not in so many words still!), that we’re supposed to be MISUSED as the maid, heading home on the holidays, serving our in-laws, our husbands (1@ a time, hello, hello, hello???), and their siblings, however many there are! Hand-and foot?

And third, just because we are married to you losers (just bring that UZI to my wedding, remember???) that does NOT mean, that we’re, your SLAVES, “honey” (still sarcasm “talkin’” here!), and, that’s that.

We will NOT take any more SHIT from you losers, our has-beens (b/c that’s what you’ll become, IF you do NOT behave yourselves!), and, all you mothers-in-law out there, DO remember, that we are the ones, who will be able to give your STUPID little boys their children, and unless all you mothers want to get CHARGED with INCEST (sex with your own direct next-of-kin, hello, hello, hello!!!), DO show respect to us, women who aren’t related to you, okay???

This is still ME, asking you, “nicely”, and trust me, nobody want to see me mean, just ask my two already DEAD boys, they’d seen me like that from high school, and they’d, DUCKED out for cover.

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The Wife SUED the Other Woman, on the Retrial, She Won the Case and the Other Woman Needed to Pay Her $120,000N.T.

And it took how many tries before the WIFE finally got the “justice” she deserved, to get BACK AT her cheating husband and the other woman again???, that’s, two trials, and one retrial, that’s a total, of, THREE!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

As adultery had been decriminalized three years ago by the grand justices, the Taipei District Court justice, Lin found, that the constitution is valid in that it emphasized the right of individual actions, and denied the existence of spousal rights, found that Chen, the wife who’d sued the other woman for $800,000N.T. to lose the case; the second trial found that the papers filed for the charges didn’t get to the other woman, that the process was flawed, that the verdict of the first trial is tossed, and sent it back to retrial again.  The first retrial of the case by the Taipei District Court found that the other woman had damaged the spousal right of Chen, and found that the other woman needed to pay Chen $120,000N.T. for the damages.

After Wu made a rare call, she was criticized.  The legal experts told, that the second trial was retried again, due to the misses of the proceedings, skillfully, dodging the debates on spousal rights, the verdict of the first retrial found the other woman lost, and she needed to pay the wife, which showed, that Wu’s interpretations are from minority.

Chen sued, that from April to June of 2019, her husband called the other woman deep in the nights frequently, and in August, they were caught holding hands, she’d found him to be in an affair with the other woman, and asked for $800,000N.T. from the other woman.

In the first trial, the presiding court judge, Wu is the daughter of the grand justice, Wu, she’d believed, that the grand justices’ interpretations of adultery being unconstitutional, that in the past, the constitution stressed the protection of the marriage and the family rights, that it’d changed, into the focus on individual independent rights; the spouses are independent, that they don’t have the right to dominate over how one person could act if s/he were unfaithful in the marriage, that in the clauses of the constitution, there’s no guarantee of spousal rights, that the other woman didn’t need to pay.

Chen didn’t see this fitting, appealed.  The second trial found, that the papers of the cases that were sent by the courts to the other woman’s registry location of Pingdong, and her residence in Hsinbei, that nobody signed for them, and the papers were sent to the local substation, and the courts had the police visit, that the other woman hadn’t resided in the location where she’d been registered to, while the address she had in Hsinbei was for the sake of her children’s school district, that she’d moved her household registry to, but she’d never lived there.

The second trial found, that because the other woman didn’t receive the papers sent by the courts, that the proceedings of the papers being filed wasn’t legit, and the verdict was discarded, sent to retrial again.

Based off of understanding, the other woman had texted Chen, “Your husband’s passed out drunk in my bar, and slept with me in my home”, Chen texted her husband, “it must be hard on you, to SHACK up with your whore, running to and from Taipei and Taoyuan every day”, the husband responded back, “I’m with her in bed now”, “this is what I want”.

The retrial of the first trial found, that the man had spent the night with his affair, that he had, interacted with her in the means, sexually, and mandated that the other woman need to pay the wife $120,000N.T.s.

And so, this, is the aftermath of decriminalizing adultery, I mean, it was simple, you CHEAT, you get SUED from before, and now, because we are all for our own individuals rights to exercise our DICKS, our VAGINAS, or rights to FUCK, to fall in love with whoever the HELL we want, that’s why there are these cases right now, with the wives, suing THE other woman, and the husbands still don’t even get that SLAP on the wrists, even when they’re the ones who can’t control their DICKS in the first place, and they call this, advances in women’s rights, as this country prides itself on being more advanced in the rights to protect the victims of rape, sexual assault or whatever, and yet, there’s NO right guaranteed to the spouses because these judges don’t have their HEADS screwed on STRAIGHT!

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