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We’ve Never Met

On modern-day interactions, translated…

Some people whom I’d never met, and, don’t know if they have the chances of meeting one another in life, but had become, this light scent of nostalgia to me.

For instance, T, one of my friends on Facebook, a man with a warm smile, and deep eyes, the articles he’d posted are very well-written, and he’d lightly disclosed, how three years ago, he was diagnosed with a rare illness, that it’d turned his views of life upside down, and, since, his writings showed this brand new understanding, this new kind of clarity about life.

One day, I’d recalled how it’s been a very long time, since I saw anything from him, and I’d gone of Facebook, to check out his page, then, I’d gotten to know, through someone else’s posting, that he was currently engaged in a tug-of-war with death in the I.C.U.  Since then, I’d gone on his Facebook page to check on him, hoped to get the message, that he’d made a full recovery.  And I’d often prayed to God, to look out for T, he once had such passions for life!

Another friend, C, one day, he’d also vanished, and, he canceled his Facebook account too.  What happened?  Why did he close his account?  In reality, C and I had NO shared friends, and so, I couldn’t find out how he was, even if I wanted to.  C is one of those lowkey people, who used a piece of photography as his display picture, and, the name he used was his initials, I have NO idea what was going on with him in real life.  And still, in the psychological sense, he’s such an interesting person, would use his humorous, and unique way, to reply to all of my postings, and it’d become nostalgic to me.  Having lost a Face friend such as he, I felt very awful.

And, don’t remember how long ago afterwards it was, I’d picked up a book I’d ordered online from a bookstore, as I’d told the cashier my name, after I’d gotten the book, was about to walk out, a man called out to me.  He looked very handsome, with this clean aura about him, but, I was certain, we’d never met.  He said, he was, once my friend, on Facebook.

Once?  I’d inquired.  He said, yes, he’d not logged on Facebook anymore, because someone made an anonymous complain about his account, his account was canceled, and so, he’d stopped using Facebook altogether.  “Actually, it’s a good thing, it’d given me more time, to do other things, it’s just that I regretted saying goodbye to some of the friends I’d shared deep conversations with is all.”  And so, as he’d heard me say my name to the cashier, he was so happy, that he could tell all of this to me to my face.

And, all of a sudden, I’d said his initials which had been erased completely from my mind previously.  And, his smiles became more radiant, “You still remembered me?”

I smiled too, “Of course!  I’m really glad, that I ran into you.”  Thanks to this chance meeting, it’d resolved ALL the questions I have about his disappearing on Facebook.

Back then, we’d started chatting, carried on like we were old friends, recalled some of the interactions we’d shared on Facebook.  Then, without leaving ANY ways of getting into contact with one another, we’d parted ways again.  I still don’t know his real name, or anything else about him, but that was unimportant.  Being able to meet back up with him, was more than enough for me.

Facebook had gotten those who originally had nothing in common together, like how a cloud, bumped into another cloud, or how a duckweed, swam into another duckweed.  In the world online, we’re close, and we’re far apart, maybe we would get forgotten by the world, and, we may become one another’s questioning thoughts.  Turns out, that in our not being aware of it, some of the interactions already had feelings infiltrated into them, and when we don’t see one another, we’d start to care and concern, and also, miss, each other.

This, is how friendships continued AFTER you’d logged off, and that still just shows, how even though you are making a ton of friends online, you should still WORK on the interpersonal relationships you have offline, because you don’t want to have a ZILLION friends on your social networking sites, but, ZERO friends in reality, do you?  I wouldn’t think so.

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My Daughter Married by the Computers, the Most Important Thing in Her Life

On marriage, the MOST important thing, in a person’s life (yeah right!!!), translated…

My daughter, Hsiao-Lei was born with a cleft palate, the moment she was born, when the nurses brought her to me, my heart went cold, the moment I first saw her.

Back then, when her mother had given birth to her, and was told the news, she didn’t have a reaction, with this lack of facial expression on her face.  But, when she saw our newborn child, she’d hugged onto her tightly, then, asked me, “How will she be married like this in the future?”

From when my daughter was growing up, the hardships her mother endured were countless by number, because she has a cleft palate, there’s NO separation between her mouth and her nose, she couldn’t be breastfed, and so, her mother had to pump the milk from her breasts, then, use a syringe, and drop by drop, feed it to her.  As my daughter grows up, she’d undergone dozens of surgical procedures.

From when she was five, she’d taken up the piano, when she was seven, the violin, fifteen, she took up the viola, at age sixteen, in the tenth grade level, she’d gotten into the Julliard Program for high school students, using her viola, and she’d taken courses for two days there on the weekends, for a total of two years.

My daughter went to Columbia University, and graduated out of Georgetown University Medical School, then, she went into the ENT Department of Cornell University, and was trained as a residence there, she never had a boyfriend, until she was twenty-eight.

The two doctors whom I was friends with, along with my daughter’s best friend had all found their soul mates online, and so, her best friend had taken the liberty, to set up a profile for her, on an online dating site.

My daughter has outstanding qualities, because she’s an ENT doctor, that, was one of the highest paid doctors in the U.S.  So the moment her information was posted online, there were a TON of guys who came calling her, and, the e-mails she’d received were so numerous that she didn’t even have time to sort through them all.

Six months later, while on vacation, my daughter felt lonely, so she’d turned on her computer, and found that a man named Mark still hadn’t given up on pursuing her yet, kept e-mailing her, told her that he just wanted to befriend her.

Hsaio-Lei saw how truthful and honest he was in his statements, and replied back to him, and, they’d hit it off right away.  She took Mark home to meet us, and, after we’d met, we agreed that it was fine that they started dating together, and, they continued down the path to love then. Later on, I had a stroke, Mark quickly flew to Taipei to visit me.  After I had my stroke, my wife, Mei-Huei became diagnosed with severe depression, she couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep, doesn’t shower, doesn’t leave the house.  Mark came to our house, tricked Mei-Huei into getting hospitalized, and this action of his, had helped saved my wife’s life.

After Mei-Huei made a full recovery, with our blessings, Hsiao-Lei and Mark got married successfully, and now, it’s been a year since they were wed.

Thinking back to the olden days, marriage was arranged by matchmakers, and the modern day generations found their own ways, and, they were able to find a TON of prospects at a time for them to consider, then, they’d picked from the bundle, the one they think is the best fit, naturally, this, would be better, than the ones the matchmakers set us up with.

And so, from this, you can see, this woman’s growing up process, how much difficulties she had to overcome, with her physical deformities, and the mental reconstructions that she must’ve endured, and how she was finally able to open up her heart, to let love in, and, thus, she’d found her own happily ever after’s, so far here.

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No Activities

Like your BRAIN waves, when you got “stuck”, in that C-O-M-A-T-O-S-E???

There are just NO activities, I’d checked online, it’s like, you’re hibernating or something, I just can’t find you anymore, and, I’m just worryin’, and I don’t really know W-H-Y!

No activities, it’s been a very long time (it’s just been TWO days!!!), since I’d heard from you, you used to IM (instant messaging???) me every other minute, and now, I barely hear a peep from you, is that even, NORMAL???

No activities, and there is NOT a single way, you can get a reaction OUT of me, because I’m done, being PUSHED to react, and, there’s NOTHING you can do, OR say, to move me again.  No activities, what’s happening here?  If I don’t hear from you, I’ll go C-R-A-Z-Y, so, won’t you just, leave me a note online, or, say “hi” in a message, in my voicemail?  Please, that’s all I need………

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He’d Stolen Pictures of Hot Girls, and Asked Adolescent Girls to Strip on Webcam

Another SEXUAL predator, found, and caught, ONLINE, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A twenty-two-year-old man, Yeou used the photos of a hottie as his own, headed online to Facebook, to befriend young adolescent females, then, solicited them to take their tops off and webcam conference him, then, he’d tell them that he’s a man, and coerced them into having sex with him; the Taipei Detective Agency caught him yesterday, found that there were a TON of nude conversations with younger women on his laptop, and suspected that there were at least, EIGHT victims.

The Taipei Police Department reminded the adolescents, that when they were making friends online, they should keep the three “not’s” in mind: not getting too into it, not exposing one’s own body, not dating in secret”; to NOT get too trapped by the online world that it’d affected your routines, to NOT overly expose one’s own information via webcam or by photographs, to NOT meet out alone with someone you’d met online, and, you must choose a public place with great lighting if you are going out to meet up with someone you just met online.

The police pointed out, that Yeou last December, flagged down the photograph of hot women, to use as his profile photo on Facebook with a female name too, claimed that he’d just returned to the country from studying abroad.  Awhile ago, after he met a girl in Changhwa, he’d claimed that it was more open in foreign places that he’d wanted to see whose body looked hotter, and had sent the photograph he’d snagged of a woman, said, if I dared to do it, then, why can’t you?

He’d enticed her, said that if she was willing to take off her clothes in front of webcam, then, he’ll give her $3,000N.T.s.  The adolescent girl fell in the tempting offers, and stripped her top off, and, after Yeou had recorded the footage, he’d told her that he was a man, and forced the girl to meet with him, then, raped her, or, he will let the photograph go viral online.

The youth told the women and children’s department of the Changhwa police department, and cooperated with their investigations; but Yeou still kept going after the adolescent.  The girl told him she’d already notified the police, Yeou said he was out of the country that the police couldn’t track him down, he just wanted to have sex with her.

The police tracked down the ISP of Yeou’s computer yesterday, and made an arrest, early yesterday morning.

How STUPID can you younger ladies get?  And, it’s still for that little money too.  And you’d think, that these days, virginities should sell at a WHOLE lot higher, but it isn’t, and that just shows you how naïve those stupid girls are, to fall for trash like this one, and now you know, so, do NOT fall for it again, but I’m 99.99 (still living that .01%) PERCENT certain, that there would be another “victim” of similar case such as this one soon, I’m sure, maybe not tomorrow, maybe NOT the day after, but, soon…

 

 

 

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How Do You Know that I’m Really Single???

Humor me a bit, why don’t ya!!!

How do you know that I’m really single???  Just because I “claimed” to be on my profiles?  I could damn well be a married man who’s just looking to SCORE some free FUCK for all you know!

How do you know that I’m really single???  How can you be sure, that everything I’d written down for my “profiles” is actually the TRUTHS about me?  How do you know, that when I say “I love you” (which is still just TO my dead boys, back when they were still around…), I really DO mean that?  How do you know, that I’m NOT just trying to get INSIDE of your panties, ladies, not that I am here.

How do you know, that I’m really single, unwed, like I say I am?  Even if you meet me face to face, I can still keep the truths about myself AWAY from you, after all, it would be super, duper easy, to conceal this wedding band “dent” on my finger you know?  So, H-O-W do you know, that I’m really single?  Oh wait, you don’t, but, I’m just like that Chinese dude from a VERY long time ago, you know, the one that FISHED without the baits?  So, come, take a bite, if you want to, but, once you get “hooked onto” me, you will NEVER break free, you will BE struggling for the REST of your lives, so, don’t take the B-I-T-E!!!

 

 

 

 

 

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Prevention of Date Rape, Three “NO’s” of Online Friendships

Put a STAR next to this one, y’all, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

There are so many cases of how online dates became date rapes, the Police Department of the City of Taipei remind the youths, to follow the “Three NOT’s” of online dating: “Not too deep”, “Not Exposing Oneself Too Much”, “Not Going Out with Someone You’d Met Online Alone”.  And the parents must zoom in on the number of hours that kids are spending online too, to teach them the RIGHT kind of values, and, if your kids are meeting up with someone they met online, the parents should be closely, to keep an eye out for them.

The online world is false and it is also real, the evil persons would use humor, care and concerns as baits, to lure the females out, and then, they’d RAPED them, there had been many cases already.  The Detective Squad just last month had cracked the Sex Ring, Tien Dao Group”, the main suspect, at the start of this year, lured a twenty-six year old female to the north, on a date, and to shop, but, had spiced her drink with date rape drugs, and forced her to swallow illegal substances, then, forced her to SELL; the female, even though, managed to escape, but was found dead, later, suspected of having too much illegal substances in her system.

This June, the man, Chu (age 22), from Hsinbei City, used “Love Apartments”, and started dating a second year middle school girl, the female student took her younger school mate along to meet up with Chu at a motel, to play cards, and Chu had took advantage of the situation, and RAPED the younger girl.

The police pointed out, that the teenagers are faced with the online age, liked going into chat rooms, even as they’d done their homework, they’d needed to conduct researches online; making friends online had become the norm for this generation, but it would also allow those who are evil, to use it, to lure those young and naïve girls, then, to FORCE them to have sex with them.

The police called out to the parents, that in order to protect the children, other than showing care and concerns every now and then, they must also teach and correct children’s way of using the internet too.

The police used the Three Simple Rules of “NO”: Not getting into too deep, NOT showing too much of one’s own skins, NOT go out on private dates; to NOT let the world wide web affect your regular life, to NOT give out one’s own personal information or to send videos or photographs that are too sexually illicit, and if you must meet, meet the person in a highly populated area.

If the children must meet up with an online friend, make sure that they’re NOT there alone, there must be a friend or a family there too; at the same time, the children should also let the parents know the time of the meeting, the place, and the time when they’ll be home, that way, their safety will be secured, and they will be safer too.

Yeah, all of that is extremely I-D-E-A-L still, but, which one of you, (hadn’t properly gone THROUGH puberty) would tell your mommies and daddies, where you are 24/7?  And, because of how “wired” we’d all become these days, there would still be an INFLUX of WOLVES (ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhooooooooooooooo!!!) online, and, this time, Little Red becomes Granny the moment they’d accepted that “e-vite” (electronic invitation???).

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A Man with Too Much Love Online, Lend a Helping Ear to a Teenage Girl, to Lure Her to Give Him Her Body

DANGERS of ONLINE dating, and, how MANY MORE cases must you (b/c I’m still NOT one of Y-O-U!!!) see, before Y-O-U finally GET it???  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A skilled worker, Huang in the City of Taipei, because he couldn’t get women his own age to like him, he couldn’t get a girlfriend, so, he’d started focusing on the chat rooms, to lure the teenage girls to talk with him, he felt very “at home” doing so; not only was an adolescent girl his steady girlfriend, another teen also willingly had intercourse with him.  The police in the city of Taipei got the call from the adolescent girl’s family, arrested Huang based off of obstruction of sexual freedoms.

Huang, the forty-five year old, was medium built, looked average, worked odds and ends.  As he was called by the police, he’d stated that he had once tried to date women his own age or those who had already started working, but these “cougars” all thought that he didn’t have any good qualities, he couldn’t find love, and that, was why he’d sought out emotional supports from online chat rooms, without knowing, that a TON of underage young girls loved him so.

The police suspected, that the victims might have been “hit” by a serious Electra complex, and started transferring their feelings toward their fathers to Huang.  But Huang stated, that he was only willing to have conversations with these girls, and hearing them talked of their sorrows, and would show care and concerns toward them from time to time, and told them about his own hardships after he’d started working; that he couldn’t imagine how the girls would develop crushes on him, and were willing to have sex with him too.

The police pointed out, that an adolescent girl, about age fifteen, at the start of the year, met Huang through “Beans Chat Room”, Huang showed immense care and concern for her life, and would from time to time, ask her how she was doing; they’d had a great time talking, decided to meet, and, even though Huang was old enough to be the adolescent’s father, they’d still had sex.

This adolescent continued to date Huang, but her grades fell; the school teachers started asking, and found that the girl had made a bad friend online, notified the parents, for them to call the police.  Taipei’s Police Station stepped in, and had called upon Huang, the skilled worker, and found, that there were multiple victims.

The police discovered, that both females, even though, consented to having sex with Huang, but because they were BOTH under the age of sixteen, Huang is now, charged with rape.  The police suspected, that Huang would fish for adolescent girls to meet with him, then have one-night-stands with them, they’d booked Huang based off of obstructions of sexual freedoms, and they will keep looking into the matter, to see if there are MORE victims out there.

And so, you still have a L-O-S-E-R, because he couldn’t get someone his own age to like him, because, let’s face it, older women are a HELL of a L-O-T mature, and they KNOW what they’re looking for in their own lives, and so, this M***ER F***ER (oopsy!!!) started looking at young girls, and, he’d utilized the Electra Complex (thanks a L-O-T, Uncle Siggy!!!) to lure those girls, and, the girls were too vulnerable too, especially at the age of adolescence.

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