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The Heart of Shijr, Bringing Warmth to Thousands of Children from Lesser Backgrounds

The kindness that’s shining through right now, off of the Newspapers, translated…

There are, a lot of residents who live in the distant mountain regions in Shijr, Hsinbei City, Liu who originally owned and operated a small diner set up the “Heart & Soul of Shijr”, set up food banks at the local substations, and worked side-by-side with TSMC charitable foundations, and rented the spaces to give to the elderly population who live alone, taking care of residents from ages zero to a hundred, since it’s start up back in 2014, the services offered assistance to over thousands of individuals.

Liu was originally an owner of a restaurant, and by chance, he’d found that there were, a lot of families on the lower end of the socioeconomic status in Shijr, who had troubles, getting a full meal provided to them, he’d called out to the local diners, restaurants, to help provide the meals for these families, at first, the services made the meal deliveries, and later he’d found, that the police department was the first to know about these families in trying times, and so, he’d worked with the Hsinbei City Police Department, at the substation in Shijr, he’d set up the food bank, and when the locals are having a hard time, the stations are able to provide the needed foods, Liu hoped to set up the afterschool program to help the children, and the TMSC Charities found him, and provided the funding for the equipment needed, and the local residents also started donating the foods, the money, the clothes as well, and the foundation sorted through the donated clothes, foods, and related items, and donate them to those in need.

汐止心汐止情成立課陪中心,每天都有小朋友放學後到此學習。記者張睿廷/攝影
the center that’s set up, for the children to have a place to go when their parents are away, at work…photo courtesy of UDN.com

Liu stated, that the afterschool homework help center’s purpose was to give the children from single-parent, cross-generation families, children who don’t have that much adult attention to go into, so they don’t get into the gangs, or get into contact with the illegal substances, currently, there are about twenty children who are being counseled by the center that he’d helped set up.

Liu stated, that in the future, he is to work even harder, hoping to look after more children in need, so the society can see the foundation’s work, to attract more volunteers who are willing, and able to, offer assistance to those on the lower end of the socioeconomic status, to help them improve their lives for the better.

And so, this, is good work that this man had, started, he’d not just, handed the money to the families in need, instead, he’d given the families, a more, practical sort of help, providing the children from the lesser backgrounds a center to stay in, while the parents worked, so they don’t get involved with the wrong crowds, and go down the wrong paths in life, the foundation also offered the assistance that those on the lower end of the socioeconomic statuses are in need of, with the food banks, set up in the local stations, and this, is what charitable acts are all about, providing the practical help that those in need required, and NOT just soliciting donations of money.

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Point of Origin

One small act of kindness, and how it, generates, into, more and more, acts of kindness, affecting the individual on the receiving end of that kindness at first, then, expand outward, into the world, it all starts, with something tiny here!  Translated…

There’s a tiny sea turtle pin that I own, gold in color, about three, to four centimeters in size, it’s normally, kept inside that wooden box by the headboards of my bed, like it was, some sort of an heirloom, only on the special occasions, would I use it.  Because this sea turtle pin gave me the courage, to get up on stage.

Remembering back in college, my appointing professor had me stand in as the announcer of an international conference, to introduce all the sea turtle experts from in and out of the country, one of the lecturer from Hawaii saw that I was nervous, as I’d confirmed with him on the pronunciation of his name, he’d, especially, slowed down his speaking speed, and used the simple words in English, “don’t worry, you will, do well!  You’re still young, there are many more opportunities for you to get on stage in your future!”, then, he’d, handed me, this sea turtle pin, for it to wear it on my coat.

And, can’t imagine, that many years later, I’d, become, a lecturer of advocate of ocean environmental protection, while this lecturer, whom I’d called, “Grandpa Sea Turtle”, he’d become, my friend, and mentor too.  And even now, this sea turtle pin, was not only an item that brought me good luck, it was, also, a reminder.  Reminding me of the truly important things in my life, that the purpose of it all, is to, make someone feel good, comfortable, the kindness too tiny to take a note of, that is, the most, precious, gift we can, give to, one another.

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like this, how an act can create, a huge, ripple! from online

And so, this, is on how someone noted how nervous you were about making the speech, and offered you that peace of mind, to help you relax, and, you’re now, passing this cycle of kindness that was, once, shown to you, because the important thing in life is, making a tiny difference in the lives, of others.

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He’d Raised the Funds for Two Thousand Packed Meals, Feeling Bad Over How Children from Lesser Backgrounds are Starving

This man saw the needs of a young child, and, provided the needed goods to help make this child’s life, easier, off of the Newspapers, translated…

Many years ago, the story of the five siblings, the Weis “sharing a bowl of noodle” gained the public’s attention.  This winter, the Kaohsiung chapter of Taiwan Fund for Children & Families offered many families free meals, a total of two thousand lunches, and the man behind raising the funding for this is the forty-year-old Tu, he’d felt bad of how a young boy stood outside the restaurants, not going away, and made his wish, to help the children in poverty stricken homes to have at least, enough food in their, stomachs.

In mid last year, Tu went to Gangshan, Kaohsiung to visit a friend, he was in a diner having a meal, when there was a thin young boy, looking at the menu, and not moving away.  Later, the owner of the shop told him, that he’d seen the boy more than once, that he’d just, come by, flipped through the menu outside, then, left, that perhaps he couldn’t afford the items that was why he’d not dared, come into the diner.

涂新一被小孩吃不起簡餐的情境觸動惻隱之心,號召捐贈2千個便當給弱勢家庭。記者徐白櫻/攝影
the lunch the man donated to charity, to help feed the children in need! Photo courtesy of UDN.com

“How can someone not afford a one-hundred-dollar simple meal or a sixty-dollar packed lunch?”, Tu was filled with questions then, and it’d, gotten his empathy.  At the start of this year, he’d, gotten together with a group of friends, and, donated two thousand packed meals to the Taiwan Fund for Families and Children, so children can have the foods in their, stomachs.

Awhile ago, on the lunch box donation, that young boy and his older brother showed up, Tu never imagined, that he actually, offered, physical help to the child who was in need.  On the second day that winter vacation started, Tu drove to Gangshan in his spare time from work, and, rushed to help delivered the packed lunches with the workers in the restaurants.

And, Tu also extended his cares and concerns to Liugui’s “Neboon Chorus” the native students, to help them raise the funding so they can go around for the tours.  He’d said, “seeing those children’s faces smile, that, was the best sort of feedback for me.”

And so, this man noticed a need, and, acted on it, and he’d, influenced those around him, to come onboard in helping these children from lesser backgrounds out, and, even though he is only one person, but he’d, already, exerted, such, a huge, difference in the lives of children.

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A House Painter Set Up a Foundation to Help the Unfortunate, Continuing the Love Onward

A foundation, that helps out, those in need, long-term, instead of, just one time, and on occasions, and this, is one that will, have the, long-term, effects on those who are, in need, set up by this man, who began, with that thought of, “I want to make a difference” and “I want to help others”, off of the Newspapers, translated…

The CEO of Love580 Foundation, Chang, worked as a house painter, two years ago, to fulfill his wish of giving back to the community, he’d set up the foundation, and became its C.E.O., but his families were against him, until they saw how many he’d helped, then they were, supportive of his cause, Chang said that he was an “innocent rabbit who’d accidentally, fell into the hole of not-for-profit organization”.

The foundation originally assisted the cancer patients write the letters, or to fulfill their last wishes, for the patients wanted to leave something behind for their, loved ones, and, there were the less fortunate who’d come to ask for assistance too, hoping the foundation can help them out, and Chang, within the abilities of his foundation, helped as many as he could.

社團法人愛的延續公益協會理事長張庭溢,油漆工作之餘透過協會幫助弱勢。記者王敏旭/攝影
the photo of the man at the office, with the donated goods from the society behind him, courtesy of UDN.com

Chang said, his own father died of illness, he’d not left anything behind for them afterwards, that was what sparked the thought of “leaving the love behind”, he’d originally thought, that he will start this until he had the money, but, seven, eight years had flew by, and, the thought of setting up the foundation stayed, and he’d not gotten more money, nor was he, more, leisurely, and two years ago, he’d, suddenly, started up this foundation.

Chang said, as he set up the foundation, his families were, against it, believed, that they weren’t well to do, he’d even, camped out at the office of the foundation, but for the two years the foundation’s been set up, it’d, helped, many of those who are, in need, and, his families watched him, and his children also believed, “there’s nothing wrong with what dad’s doing”, and now, his wife helps out regularly at the office of the foundation.

Chang pointed out, that he’d, watched a son who was rebellious, ran with the wrong crowds, truant, thumbed across a letter from his own father who’d passed, wrote, “I wish my son……………”, and it had, caused the child to change completely, he’d, let go of his truant tendencies, stopped hanging out with the wrong crowds, and, buckled down to study, and he’d gotten accepted into university, he’d believed that this was, something meaningful, to pass the love on became, one of the work of his foundation.

In recent days, a lot of the locals in need came to the foundation to seek out assistance, Chang told, that a lot of the foundation only give a one-time help, but, his foundation, other than helping those in need resolve the difficulties in the moment, it’d also, help the cases find work and, helped them budget their money better, and, keep a long-term follow-up of the cases, at the same time, sharing the process of how help is gained online, to let the public know, how their donations are, being, spent.

And so, all it takes, is still, just, that one thought of kindness, one moment that touched someone’s heart, to start something wonderful like this, and we need more people who are selfless in giving to the community, because there are, those who are in need, and this foundation doesn’t just offer the one-time help, like a lot of the foundations do, it helps the cases long-term, and that’s, where the effects show.

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The Warmth of that Halo from an Angel

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volunteer companion for the elderly here, photo from online

Grateful toward the volunteers at the hospital, for helping you with your father’s, final passage of life, and now, you hoped to, pass that same kindness onward too, translated…

He’d Asked Me to Think Hard on the Matter, So I Don’t Have Any Regrets, Those Eyes, Peaceful as the Oceans without the Waves, Reflected the Gentle Light of the Moon, and They’d Understood, All My Worries, My Considerations………..

After reading Mr. Zheng-Hsiung Hsu’s “I Volunteer at the E.R.”, my mind was pulled back to the E.R. of the hospital twelve years ago.  Back then, it was just the beginning of the springtime, the sunshine outside was warming, while my heart, my mind was, experiencing the sleet, the snow, the hail, it’d felt like my world was, crumbling down.

I Am, Making the Right Decisions, aren’t I?

My dear dad was diagnosed with liver cancer, he was eighty-five years old, weakened in his physical health, and mildly, demented too, he’d slept, longer than he was, awake, and it didn’t look good.  As we waited for the hospital room to become available, the doctor asked, “if”, and would I want to resuscitate him?  He’d told me to think on the matter thoroughly, so I won’t have any regrets in the futures, his eyes, peaceful like the oceans without the waves, reflected the gentle rays of the moon, and made me felt that he’d, understood what I was, faced with.

There was the bed that became available in the hospice, I’d taken all our belongings, and an unsettled heart, I’d, wheeled my father, to the place, closest to heaven on earth.  After I’d settled my father in, the nurse, after filling out the forms, left temporarily.  That bed was next to the window, it’d, allowed me to see the blue skies and the moon, to tell if it was night or day; I’d, pull back the curtains, and, this was, the tiny world that belonged to just my father and I.  I’d turned on the T.V., and, switched to Animal Planet, my father’s eyes opened up, and he’d started speaking, “bear!” yes, there was, an American black bear on.

In the sleep and wake of close to twenty days, my father spoke, for the very, first time, I suppose, I’d, made the, right decisions by him then?

The following day after the doctors made the rounds, there was a petit volunteer who’d, led me to familiarize myself with the surrounding environment, but I’d, looked over at my father in the bed, became, hesitant, not wanted to leave his side.  “Don’t worry, your father won’t disappear, it’s a secure place, there are some equipment that you can take him to use, there’s also, an aerial courtyard on the sixth floor, you can wheel your father in the afternoons for some sun.”  She’d patted my shoulders, given me a smile, and I saw two dimples came onto her cheeks.

I’d followed close by her side, as she’d, taken me on that walk-through.  Passing the nurse’s stations, she’d pointed to the tea keg, told, “every morning the volunteers would bring in a fresh brew of tea, you can get some here, and you can soak the teas in the sponges and brush your father’s teeth with it too, it’ll make him feel a whole lot better, having fresh breaths, he’ll surely, have an appetite for food then!”  We’d walked past a huge aquarium, cute Nemo swam in-between the sea anemones, “this tank is Gu’s territory, the young girl, Lin in the next room to your father’s, is a huge fan, and she’d come, more than three times a day to look!”  Passed through the laundry room and the fridge, there was, a prayer room, a small Buddhist shrine, “when you can’t handle it anymore, and not wanted to tell anyone, just come in here!”  The Goddess of Mercy, Jesus Christ, do tell the cancer cells in your father’s systems, that we’re not, trying to kill them, but, please, don’t torture dad, and just, coexist in peace with him.

We’d arrived to the lobby then, the black couch separated the space, on the right, there’s the T.V., the shelves for books, newspapers, and magazines, the corner by the window had the foot massage machines, and the exercise bike, the massage chair, on the left, a simple kitchen, and tale, on the kitchen counters, the food processer, and the Datong rice cooker.  “This is Wang’s area, everything you see is donated by the volunteers, you can use it at your will, just clean them up after you used them, and put the items back where you find them”.  I’d decided, to make some juices for dad then.

She’d continued, “if your dad can’t come over here, then, you can borrow the foot massage and take it back to his hospital room to use.  This couch is quite comfortable, when your families come, you can come here for a short nap, or have your meals here, you’ll feel more at home.”  Her explaining everything was warm, and it’d, energized me, and my heart felt, comforted.

illustration from UDN.com

圖/Emily Chan

She’d Given My Father the Courage to Return Home

That aerial courtyard became a small piece of heaven that my father and I shared, we’d gazed up at the blue skies, the white clouds, watching the butterflies danced, the fish in the lotus pond, and, I noted how that flower started, blooming upward, from the corner of, my father’s, lips.  I’d wondered, would I be, asking too much, if the days just go on like this, forever?

In about a month, my father became, stabilized, the feeding tubes, the catheter, and the drips were all, removed.  The nurses asked, “would you like to take your father home?”, of course I do, but, at home, there’s not the medical profession staff members as back up, and I’d, worried that there might be situations that I couldn’t, handle on my own—oh, I’m so very afraid, that my father would, start, coughing up blood again.

And I was, caught, in this battle once more.  The following day, the volunteer took me to the couch for a chit chat, “you’d taken good care of your father these past few weeks, he would wish to return home, where he’d felt, familiar in, with the families around him.  The nurses’ station will offer the 24-hour support calls, the nurses of the hospice program will visit your home by the week, don’t be afraid, you can, check your father back in if something were to, happen.  I’m sure, that your father will help you out, he does, feel for you, he will, find ways, to encourage you.”  She’d, spoken out my fears, and, gave me the courage to, take dad home.

We’d not returned into the hospital again.  On a weekend supper a month later, he’d opened up those bright eyes wide, and, looked at us deeply for one last time, then, headed up to heaven, to accompany our, grandparents.

I want to say thank you to the men and women who volunteered at the hospital, for giving us that light in the darkness we desperately, needed.  And, when the time comes, I too, shall become, a light for those who are, lost in the darkness, thank you.

And so, this is how kindness gets, passed on down, because you’d, received the emotional support you were in need of during your father’s hospitalization, and the words of the volunteer, helped you cope with your father’s conditions, and as you are, finally healed from the loss of your own father, you plan to, give back to the community, just like these hospital volunteers had done too, passing along, that sense of helping others, that kindness along.

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January 17, 2021 · 5:28 am

He’d Opened up a Bookstore, to Offer Free Tutoring, Squandered Away Tens of Millions of His Own Retirement Funds

This man saw a need, and, started, providing the services to the students in poverty stricken homes, helping them succeed in school, so they can, turn their own lives, around, off of the Newspapers, translated…

The former manager of the second World Trade Building, Huang after retirement, returned back to his hometown of Minhsiung, Chiayi to open up a used bookstore, giving free tutoring session to students who can’t afford to get the tutoring, and provided them with a free supper, and it’d continued for a decade now, he’d, spent up all of his retirement pension already, but is still, enjoying giving back, and his never stop helping spirit moved the outside world, and the world offered the needed resources to keep the programs going.

Huang said, that retiring, returning back home was his thought of looking after his aging parents, and, opening up a secondhand bookstore was his dreams when he worked, as the director of the second world trade building, in 2009 at the international bookshow, he’d found, that there were a ton of younger generations that are seeking out the extra information, but his hometown of Minhsiung didn’t even have a secondhand bookstore.

To give back to his hometown, Huang set up the secondhand bookstore, but, he’d used the bookstore as a “falsified front”, he’d estimated, that the shop earned, less than $5,000N.T. a month from selling the used books, and other than the shop being a free reading space for the children who are from poverty stricken homes, Huang hoped, to help the students improve on their grades, and started setting up the cram sessions to teach them how to study.

photo of the man at the study program he’d set up for the students in his local region, courtesy of UDN.com

台北世貿二館前館長黃金山退休後返民雄,花光千萬退休金成立二手書店,還免費課輔。記者莊祖銘/攝影

The originally one-on-many tutoring showed almost NO progress, he’ offered the one on one, one on two, the smaller classes, he’d estimated that it’d cost anywhere from thirty thousand to four million dollars, then yet, the students who came to his program started from just more than a dozen to more than 170, he’d offered the tutoring services, and, the scholarship moneys, the meal plans, it’d, already, spent up his over millions of dollars in retirement funds.

In truth, most of the money Huang spent was on paying for the suppers of the students, the students from the poverty stricken backgrounds, arrived to the study sessions at his bookstore, “I can’t make them starve through the sessions”, and so, he’d provided the suppers for free, the snacks, as well as the drinks too, and on average, he’d spent over $110,000N.T. by the month.

There is a total of 158 students who are in the study session programs this semester, and there are the volunteer tutors of 250 people, and, every time the bookstore hands out over $60,000N.T. in scholarship money at the sectional exams in school, and, whenever the students improved in their grades, scholarship money would be awarded too, currently, the center had helped turned over 2,000 students’ lives around.

And so, this man has a vision, and, he’d, started, offering the services, because he saw a need, and it didn’t matter, if he ran out of money, or if he’s short on money, he will, keep this program going, because he knew, that offering these students from poverty stricken backgrounds an education, is the only way that can help them turn their own lives, around, so he will, keep on, doing this.

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The Warmth that Flowed Through This Alley of Ours

Having good neighbors, makes the days pass, so much, easier!  Translated…

As I stood, with the early morning light, in my own yard, watching my Romain lettuce, my neighbor brought over a bundle of bananas, I’d returned her kindness with the Romain lettuce out of my own vegetable gardens, a short while later, she’d, delivered the avocado banana nut milkshake she’d made, and the freshly baked egg yolk pastries, the interactions of us neighbors, so amicable, it’d, warmed my heart.

Thirty years ago when I first moved here, it was right when my daughter was born, and, the boxes of cakes to celebrate her birth helped connected the families, we’d started, sharing the joys of our lives with one another then, we all had our separate ways of life, what we enjoyed doing, some of us are cooks, bakers, and green thumbs too, this is, the sense of connection with the neighbors that the city dwellers couldn’t understand.

the flowing kindness in the neighborhood…

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photo from online

And other than sharing the goodies in this alley, the cares and concerns we neighbors have for one another, is also, quite, heartwarming too.  My neighbor in her eighties injured her hand and couldn’t manage to cook, the elderly woman who lived next door to her made some vegetable pork porridge to share with her, and, at dawn and dusk every single day, the neighbors from the left or the right would, walk with her, to help her stay connected with the rest of the neighborhood’s, goings on, she’d often stated, “my kids are so busy at work, thankful I have all of you, great neighbors, otherwise, I would totally need to get checked into the nursing homes, and looked after by a hired caretaker then.”  As my husband was trimming the star fruit trees, he’d fell from the ladders, our neighbor immediately gave us a lift to the E.R., and consoled with me, “he doesn’t look that seriously injured, it’s going to be okay!”, and, when something’s going on, it’s, everybody’s, business, we’d cared for one another, like how in the earthquakes back about a decade ago, when there’s the water and power outages, we’d, huddled together, to pass through that time, our neighbor hauled out that huge stove, and, cooked the soup noodles, to share, we are, more like a big family, than with our own, separate, families.

Remembering back twenty years ago, every Saturday night was the weekly neighbor supper get-together, every house brings three dishes, watching the kids in play, and we’d, made a pact, to grow old with each other together; and, in a blink of an eye, thirty whole years come and gone, and even though we can’t eat together every day, but we’re, sharing our interactions of our old age together, this, is our live-ing now!

And so, this, is a good “program” that this group of neighbor had, set up, they all cared for each other like families, and, so, there’s a ton of social, emotional support for everybody in the neighborhood to everybody, and this, is a good way, to grow old together, even if they’re, not related to one another, strangers!

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The Warmth of a Shopping Bag

The kindness from, an unknown stranger toward you, and now, you’re, passing it along, see how one tiny act of kindness, can generate a whole lot of kindness in the world?  Translated…

I’d often heard the saying, “the most beautiful sight in Taiwan are the people!”, and I’d, also heard the evidences from others to prove otherwise, but, based off of my own personal experiences, the statement is, absolutely, TRUE!

On a day of light drizzles, I’d gone to a supermarket to pick up some things, after I’m done shopping, I’d carried the paper bags full of groceries, stumbled, to the bus stop, and, the pavement was wet and slipper, and, I’d lost my foothold, and fell flat on my face, can you imagine how bad I’d, looked!  I’d, struggled to get myself back up on my feet again, and, I’d found, that the paper bag I’d carried my groceries in had ripped wide open, and everything was, scattered all over.  This was, probably, the WORST fall I’d ever had, in recent, years!

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a hand of, kindness is all that’s, needed in this world…photo from online

As I became flustered, there came, a bag into my field of vision, with the cutesy bear print on it, followed by this, voice of an angel, “are you all right?  Here, take this bag!”, a tall girl, held her hand out for me to hold to get back up on my feet, I’d looked at that folded neatly shopping bag, cried aloud, “that, is exactly, WHAT I need!” but then, I’d, hesitated, “then, how should I, return it, back to you?”, the young woman who seemed like a working class member smiled, “you don’t need to!”  and I’d, collected everything that fell out, then, that cute bag didn’t look that huge but, it’s, big enough for everything I had bought; I’m guessing, that the extra space, must be from, that young lady’s, compassion then.

From that day forth, I’d also, carried an extra, folding bag inside of my regular shopping bag, because I knew, that there’s a tiny chance of me, running into, that young woman again, but I can, pass her sense of kindness to others who are in need.

And so, this young woman may not know it, but her “tiny” act of kindness, had rippled outward, and, it will keep getting bigger, bigger, bigger, like how one solitary drop of water that fell into that pond of things, expanding, outward.  And to think, that all of this, started with, one helping hand toward someone in need, and that someone being, a stranger too!

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Temporarily Escaping from the Volcanoes the Neighbors Became a Key Helper to Prevention of Domestic Violence

The ABSOLUTE necessary SAFETY net that needs to get set up that’s for sure!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The associate professor of Minchuan University’s Crime Prevention Major, Dai pointed out, that the American scholars conducted a survey of up to a thousand individuals who bore witness to child abuse, found that a-third of males are inclined to model after their fathers and become abusers themselves, two-thirds of females modeled after their mothers, became victim/enablers.  There’s a lacking of this sort of research data here in Taiwan, what’s worrisome is, that even though there’s more focus on women’s rights, the Taiwanese women still couldn’t break away from the traditions, and, the young children who bore witness to abuse still continued to hide behind their helpless mothers, trapped in fear.

Dai said, the American child neurologist, Perry discovered, that children as young as two years and nine months can feel the conflicts in the atmospheres, and this will affect their frontal lobes, which is in charge of focus and cognition the most, as well as the hippocampus, responsible for interpersonal relations and intimacy.

Dai found that for children who bore witness to violence develop that sense of shame, and as adolescents, they wanted to escape from home, and would act out by becoming truant.  The more the children bore witness to violence, once they get lost, it’s easy, that these children will join gangs.

photo from UDN.com

各縣市政府委託民間團體投入目睹兒關懷輔導服務,社工依據個案年紀等需求安排遊戲治療,引導年幼孩子表達內心感受,也撫平心中的傷。圖/善牧基金會高雄中心提供
the way the neighbors can help keep a child safe…

Two yeas ago the case that shocked the entire society in Chien-Zhen District, Kaohsiung, with the bodies on ice, the ignition point was the man, Ting’s long-term abuse on his wife and children, his wife got so furious, told their son, “you need to make him (her husband) disappear from our lives for good”, and in the end, the mother and son murdered the man together.  Dai stated, that in recent years, the cases of murder by children are mostly caused by domestic violence, the children saw their mother get abused by their father, and, accumulated the anger or in a moment of anger, crimes were, committed.

The Kaohsiung Teachers’ College associate professor, Wei told, that when parents used violence to control everything, the children will learn, that violence is the only way to resolve things, and some of children raised in such an environment become abusers.  The social workers needed to give counsel to those who bore witness to these acts of violence, but currently, there’s only, limited resources the government puts into this.

Dai suggested that the schools, the communities, the medical facilities can all work together, to have a stronger effect, to set up an attachment relationship of trust.  The teachers should NEVER carry the attitude of “once you’re out of school you’re not my responsibility!”, they are the keys to keep the children’s minds and bodies safe.

A lot of people would turn a blind eye to the neighbors’ business, but the protection of children exposed to abuse, the neighbors can step in at the right time, when the parents start fighting, the children can temporarily head over to the neighbors to work on the homework, and the neighbors would do a great job in protecting these children.

And so, because of the prevalence of these domestic violence cases, and children being raised under such an environment, it’s not healthy for the children, this is why the neighbors need to be a sort of a safety net, because if you don’t look out for someone who’s in need, when you’re in need, nobody’s going to care about you either, and it still, goes, both ways!

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Finding Joys in Helping Others in Need

Helping someone in need!  Translated…

Early in the morn, I’d rushed off with my daughter to work, as we alighted the buss, we saw a bunch of ladies, looking over an elderly man, the elderly man’s socks were, soaked in blood, and, the tissue that covered the wound in the tibia, seemed to continue to bleed.

Thankfully, two more stations more, there’s the VMH in Shihpai, as he got off the bus, I saw him, sat waiting with hardship at the bus stop, the blood still, flowed out, he seemed to be calling someone for assistance; and I’d not cared that it was time for me to get to work then, I’d, gone up to him, told him I worked in the hospital, and had him call his families to meet him in the E.R., while I’d gone to the hospital, to get a wheelchair to get him in.  Then came, the running fast, pushing the wheelchair in supersonic speed, to the E.R., to when his loved one rushed in, the man was taken into the surgical ward to get sutured up, and that was when that huge rock finally got dropped inside my heart.  Later, I’d learned from his family, that the elder had cancer, and he was on anticoagulants regularly, had his hospitalization been delayed, the results would be, dire.

查看來源圖片the random act of kindness from a stranger here!  Photo from online

I’d recalled how as I rushed the elderly man into the E.R., he kept telling me thank you, said that he’d met someone amazing who’d, helped him out.  I’d told him, he was my parents’ age, that if something like this were to happen to them, I’d wanted someone to lend them a helping hand too, and, this hour-long interlude, although it was, thrilling, but, in the end, it all, ended, well, other than knowing the meaning of helping other is bliss, I’m, also proud for being, that tiny screw inside that giant white tower!

And so, because your empathy kicked in, seeing the elderly man injured because you’d wanted someone to help your own elderly parents, and because it’s in your line of work, to offer assistance to people, being a medical care worker, and you’d, ended up, helping this elderly man get to the hospital on time, and saved his life.

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