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The Thirty-Sixth “I’m Sorry”, in the Workplace

Translated…

I read across a report in a magazine, “the most widely used phrases came from the Zen Master of the era during 420 to 589, in the west, it’d become popularized in the 1850s, meaning those words one said repeatedly”.  In the article, it’d mentioned how those most widely used phrases can have positive effects in communication, that if the working class constantly used the positive most widely used phrases, they would attract those who are similar to them, and naturally, get closer, to success………I’d told my son, since he’d gone into the travel industries, his most widely used phrase was, “I’m sorry”, is this positive?

My son laughed in disbelief, at which time, his cell phone started ringing, it was, the tour guide to Japan, said that two of the guests refused to have the hotpot arranged for them by the tourist agency, that they’d insisted on having pork chops; the leader of the tour worried it might be inconvenient to the restaurant, and feared, that it might be a bad example for the rest of the tourists, called from overseas, to file a grievance to my son, “Your clients, you take care of them.”  My son immediately apologized to the tour guide, then, soothed the travelers, asked them to just eat the hotpot with the rest of the group, that after they returned, he will treat them to the pork chops they’d wanted to have.

from the papers…

Seeing how my son had, lowered himself, as his mother, I felt that he was taken.  But my son told me, there are people from all walks of life, don’t know how many bad customers I’d come across over the years, this, was merely, a side dish, he said, that once, he’d continually told a client “I’m sorry” a total of thirty-six times, after the phone call, he was, completely, depleted of energy.

That time, he’d taken on a foreign tour group, at the information session, over thirty people came, as he’d collected the fees, some paid by credit card, some paid by cash, all of a sudden, he’d become aware, that there was a tourist, Ms. Lee who’d asked to pay by installments, and asked the others, “are there any like Ms. Lee who are paying by installments?” then, a group of people rushed up to him, and Ms. Lee was extremely furious, “What do you mean?  Why did you use my name?”

“Holy!  Could she have, mistaken my meaning that she didn’t have enough money that, was why she’d paid by installment?”, my son immediately realized that he’d misspoke, and told her that he’d not meant anything by it, but Ms. Lee wouldn’t have it, still pressed on.  And my son, who was then, cornered, can only kept apologizing to her, and as he’d counted to the thirty-sixth time he’d apologized to her, Ms. Lee finally got tired of grilling him, turned around and left, and he’d gone back to his cubicle, and, downed half a liter of water in one gulp.

not my comic…

Afterwards, my son received a call from Ms. Lee’s coworker, told him, that Ms. Lee was scolded by the superiors at the office for NO reasons at all, that she wasn’t in a good mood, that, was why she’d taken her angers out on him, hoped that my son can empathize.  My son said, that it was his fault first, that he’d spoken too fast, without taking into considerations that it may affect the way she felt, that he will surely improve the next time.

Although my son said carelessly, that he’d, rolled around the workforce for many years now, and had already become totally immune from everything that happens in the workforce, I can still see, that he was, somewhat hurt.  As for his most widely used phrase, did it have any positive influences?  I’d thought for a long time, and still couldn’t reach my own conclusions, but, you can never be too courteous, if you’re not closer to success, you would be, a step away from failure, I suppose.

So, this, is when one deals with a customer who’s WRONG, but, because this guy works in the service industries, he’d needed to, lower himself, to make his clients feel better, and this woman took out how she was grilled by her superior at work on someone unrelated to her work, and that just shows how low emotional control this woman has.

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When the Child Asks: Should I Help a Stranger?

Because of how dangerous the world had become, commentaries, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The young girl, Liu was brutally murdered in her school, was such awful news, it’d started this fear for the society.  This sort of random murders, without a set pattern, where the murderer did not even try to escape from getting caught, plus the victim was a cute and innocent child from the elementary years, it’d made everybody sad, and subconsciously feared, if something similar would happen to our own loved ones, and so, the panic spread, through the society.

First, the calls to ban the death penalties.  I’m against banning death penalty myself, but, I’d hoped, that whether or not the death penalty gets banned don’t get determined solely, by one particular case.  If people are now, FOR the death penalty, because of this particular cruel incident, then, would the public be against it, if there comes a case, where the judge made a wrong call, and caused an innocent man to die?  A law, should not be decided, based off of single incidents.  From another angle, the perpetrators from several similar incidents all showed that they’d wanted to die, so, there is still, NOT a direct relation between whether or not we should ban the death penalty, in relation to how awful the crimes are.

And, this, is just one man’s take, and, because this is the issue of today, a young child was murdered brutally by a man who entered into the school yards, without JUST cause, that, is why there’s this RANTING on NOT to abolish the death penalty…

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Getting Introduced to the Adult World Too Soon…

This, is a story, of innocence, lost!

Getting introduced to the adult world too soon, because I was raised, by IMBECILES!  And, because those IMBICILES couldn’t even KEEP their fucked up marriage together, I was, forced to shoulder UP the responsibilities of doing that FOR them, and, for a very long time, ALL the way, into my 26th, I’d carried this heavy burden upon my shoulders, and, it all became, way, way, WAY back don’t know when, when his FUCKED up DEAD mother (and no, god will NOT rest HER soul!) told me, “you have the responsibilities to keep your parents together”, and, I was only eight or nine, or maybe, just ten, really can’t recall, and I’d lost my innocence.

Getting introduced to the adult world too soon, because you, FUCKING adults got brutally MURDERED by your own fucked up parents, and that, is why, you’d murdered us all, your young, and that, is still how this VICIOUS cycle still keeps on, rolling, rolling, rolling, like the Big O (from S. Silverstein???).

Getting introduced to the adult world too soon, I will NEVER allow that to happen to this DEAD daughter (b/c partially, she IS dead already!  And secondly, I’m a WAY better parent than my own ABUSIVE, ABUSIVE/NEGLECTFUL parents!) of mine, and, hell’s gonna FREEZE and thaw, infinite number of times, before I say my “I do” to that M***ER F***ING (“maxed out”???) piece of TRAILER PARK WHITE TRASH!

Getting introduced to the adult world too soon, because NONE of you parents had figured things out yet, and, we the children, are the one to blame, for ALL of your INCOMPETENCE?  And, by the way, you STUPID adults: NONE of us kids had BEGGED and PLEADED to be BORN to you, our parents, unless, you are MY Emily, but, none of you ARE, are ya?  Hell no!

Okay, the Queen is done, BITCHING, for now, that is…

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An Ailing Woman Was Taken to the Morgue to Wait for Death, the Police are Now, Looking into Negligence on the Families’ Part

And no, I’m still NOT shitting you here, okay???  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A woman who needed dialysis and had a stroke was taken home by her own family, from the hospitals, then, sent to the funeral home’s coffin room to die, the members of the public found her there, called the police, Lee was taken back to the hospital yesterday, and the police are looking into whether or not her families were responsible for abandoning her, or that they took part in the involvement of leaving her to die at the funeral home.

The fifty-eight year-old Lee had long-term illness, and had a stroke, two mornings ago, the family went to Changgang Hospital, to get her discharged on “automatic release on not terminal” purposes, the family told the funeral home to take her to the private funeral homes’ coffin room, to wait for her to die, back then, she’d still had her breathing tubes inside her nose, with her diapers on.

Back then, Lee had called out for help, during the recitations of the Buddhist verses, she’d raised her hands several times, and was left alone, for five hours, and, other members of the public just couldn’t withstand it anymore, so, they’d notified the police. The police immediately had the ambulance lift Lee back home again, two nights ago, Lee was admitted again, into the emergency room of the Changgang Hospital in Kaohsiung.

The police called Lee’s husband to the station, he’d claimed that his wife contracted black foot disease, and, because he had to take care of his own ailing wife, he’d put up the Chinese medicine shop he’d own and operated, and, the household economy had been on the decline ever since. At the start of this month, his wife had a stroke, and was hospitalized again, needed a total of $180,000N.T. for her medical treatments.

“I’m completely spent in the mind and heart and soul already,” Lee’s husband said, two days ago, he had a fever, and, his health started ailing too, that, was when he had the thought of “seeing his wife off”. He’d learned from Huang, a man who works in the funeral industries, that the terminally ill can be taken to the morgue first, and wait a few days, for the funeral processions.

“I’m truly sad, but, we just can’t afford my mother’s medical bills any longer”, Lee’s son said, that he’d only followed “his father’s words” in putting his own mother into the funeral home, “My father’s had it real hard, these couple of years.”

The owner of the funeral home, Huang told in private, that he’d originally contacted Lee’s son about giving her a lift back into the Chinese medicine shop that her son owned, but Lee’s son said, “We have a business to run here, and, it wouldn’t be convenient”, that, was why he’d dropped Lee off, to the funeral homes then left.

The man in charge of the local borough said, that Wang had never asked for help from the neighborhood, nor did they file for any government assistances. The Social Services Department investigated, and found, that the Wang household didn’t qualify for the low income assistance, that Lee had NO proof of handicap, and that they will contact the private charities, to find a nurse’s aide for Lee.

And so, just because you all had to work, your mother was too ill, that still doesn’t give you the right, to LEAVE her in the MORGUE to DIE, and that just shows how irresponsible those family members are, and, how would you FEEL, if it were your sons or daughters who do that to you too, after all, your kids will WATCH how you treat your own parents, and, treat you the EXACT same way, and this, is really awful thing that’s done!

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Holding Her Fractured World Together, with Her Tiny Hands

Holding her fractured world together, with her tiny hands, although she wasn’t the one who broke it, but, it’d become, her responsibility to hold the world that is fractured, with her tiny hands.

Holding her fractured world together, with her tiny hands, she doesn’t know what she was doing, as the adults in her life, just handed her, a fractured world to hold onto.  Holding her fractured world together, with her tiny hands, and, as she grew, the fractured pieces of that world got big too, and, soon, they’d become, too heavy for her.

But, because she’d once promised someone, that that, is what she’ll do, she’d still kept doing it, until, she’d had her own child, and, gave the fractured world that was given to her, to her own offspring too.

Holding her fractured world together, with her tiny hands, she felt the broken shards, cutting into her skin, she saw herself, bleed, and yet, she didn’t, and couldn’t let go, because that, was a promise, she intended to keep, even IF it meant losing her own life…

Holding her fractured world together, with her tiny hands, but, how can she, she can barely stand up right, and yet, so much burdens were, placed upon her two tiny shoulders, whether or not she likes it, and, although she felt that it was, an imposition, what, can she do???

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Date-Raping a Classmate’s Girlfriend, He Was Prosecuted for Rape

From the Newspapers, translated…

A man, Hong in Hsinbei City was suspected of date raping his classmate’s girlfriend, and his classmate just walked in, on him, raping his girlfriend, but the classmate was angrier at how drunk his girlfriend got, and kicked her, then left; after the girl hung over, she found out what Hong did, she sued him; Hong claimed that it was consensual, but the D.A. didn’t believe him, and prosecuted him based off of forced sexual behaviors.

The D.A. investigated and found, last year on October 21, Hong and his classmate, and his girlfriend, and some other individuals went to a pub to drink, the classmate had something that came up, so he had to leave, Hong and the two other ladies drank until seven in the morn that very next day, Hong saw how his classmate’s girlfriend was so drunk she’d passed out, he’d date raped her, then, took her home.

As Hong arrived at the female’s residence, he’d used her keys to open the door, then, took advantage of her being drunk, raped her.  His classmate just walked in, saw how his girlfriend was having sex with Hong, he’d called out, “What are you doing!”, then blamed his girlfriend for getting too drunk, and he got angered, kicked his girlfriend, then left, Hong pulled his pants back on, to try to explain, but he couldn’t catch up to him.

The victim girl woke the next day, found her panties pulled down, after she’d asked her boyfriend, and he’d told her what happened, she’d reported it to the police.

This is still, a CRIME of opportunity, the man took advantage of the situation, because the woman’s passed out from drinking, and her boyfriend wasn’t around, and so, he’d RAPED her, and, what’s worse was that this woman also got blamed by her boyfriend, for being raped too, and that just shows, how much gender inequality there still is in the world today.

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Divorce Gets UGLY

Because there’s NO “good” in goodbye, despite what it reads!!!

Divorce gets ugly, because, we’d be play the kids against each other, and, for them, it’s either that I’m on mommy’s side, betraying daddy, or that I’m on daddy’s side, betraying mommy…

Divorce gets ugly, and, we have YET to discuss the TERMS of our alimony agreements, no, this, is only the “pre-planning” stage of things here.  Divorce gets ugly, so, looks like I’ll need my supply of grenades, cannons, guns, uzis, along with an ASSORTMENT of weapons for ASSAULT, and, we still don’t CARE who we end up hurting, we just want to GET each other back.

Divorce gets ugly, as it’s supposed to, and, there’s no, let’s go back to being friends after this, after all, we’d TORN up this love, left one another hurting like hell, and, nobody CAN and WILL EVER forgive, OR forget a betrayal in THAT kind of D-E-P-T-H.

Divorce gets ugly, and, we’re still NOT the only casualties of this god DAMN war we’d started, there are, what are THEIR faces again???  You know, those young ones, that we’d “procreated”?  You know?  What ARE they called again?  Oh yeah, our O-F-F-S-P-R-I-N-G?  Do you not remember T-H-E-M???

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