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Dragged On, by This Ailing Body of Mine…

This would be, taking, someone ELSE’s persona…

Dragged on, by this ailing body of mine, I feel, so incarcerated, so trapped, inside, this body that no longer feels like mine anymore, and yet, because I can still “function” (meaning that I still got a pulse, a VERY STRONG one to boot!!!), the doctors, they wouldn’t, consider, letting me die a good death.

And, recently, I’d had yet, ANOTHER stroke, that rendered me, handicapped, and, I’d started, needing the help, to wheel me everywhere,, and, I’m still trapped, by this ailing body of mine.  Dragged on, by this ailing body of mine, why, oh why, can’t I just die?  I’d been made to suffer, since the moment that my dearly beloved family told the doctors to SAVE me, but, at the price and the cost, of losing MY dignity as a human being, because I’m totally, incapable of performing the MOST basic of all functions in life, like I’d needed someone ELSE, to WIPE my ass for me, someone, to bathe me too!

Dragged on, by this ailing body of mine, why must I be?  I’m just, too tired of, relying on EVERYBODY to take care of me, I don’t want to live like this anymore, and yet, I can’t, be euthanized yet, because, save for this problem of immobility and loss of speech, caused by my stroke awhile ago, every OTHER part of me, is still, quite healthy still………

 

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An Eighty-Year-Old Man Stabbed His Ailing Wife to Death, He Was Indicted

Burdens on the sole care provider, and this time, he cracked, and, did something that was, beyond repair, from the Newspapers, translated…

An elderly veteran, Ku felt bad over his wife’s encephalitis which caused her to be bedridden long-term, feared that she will never walk again, he’d gotten rid of the nurse’s aide, used a fruit knife, stabbed his own wife to death, then, attempted to commit suicide by slashing his own abdomen, but was saved in time; the Shihlin District Attorney’s Office prosecuted him on murder charges, but, the D.A. also asked the judge to consider the elderly man’s age, along with his motives for committing the murder, to find a suitable punishment for what he’d done.

Mr. Ku is already eighty-four years old, married to his wife who was sixty-nine for over forty years, and they’d never had a fight; nine years ago, Ku’s wife started showing signs of dizziness and had fainting spells, last year in August, because of viral encephalitis, she was hospitalized, and became a resident at the MacKay Memorial Hospital in Danshui.

Last year during the noon hours of September17th, Ku gave Yeh, the bedside assistant for his wife an errand to run, used a fruit knife, and jabbed his wife in the chest region, then, slashed his own abdomen region; Ku’s neighbor came to visit in the afternoon, as he pulled back the curtain, he saw what had happened, he’d immediately called up the nurses.  Ku’s wife, because of the collapse in her left lung, blood had filled up her chest cavities, she’d died of respiratory failure; after emergency resuscitation, Ku’s life was saved.

On the day of the stabbing, the D.A. came to inquire at the hospital, and Ku told of why he’d stabbed his own wife in a very calm and collected manner, and told the D.A., “Even though I’m a murderer, but don’t be afraid of me”, and begged him, “Do give me the death sentence”, and hoped, that he could “follow” his wife.

And because Ku the elder was old, with physical injuries, and didn’t show a risk of taking off, he wasn’t taken into custody, and now, his son looks after him.  Ku’s children no longer wanted to talk of how their father murdered their mother, and feared, that their father might be suicidal again.

And while the D.A. inquired the happenings of that day with Ku, they were extremely careful toward his physical and mental wellbeing, and, although Ku no longer talked of “following his wife off”, but he was clearly depressed.  The members of the legal world stated, that murder is a serious crime that can get one the death sentence, a life sentence, or over ten years’ jail sentence, and even though, Ku was over eighty, there may be a reduction to the time he will be serving, but, there would be NO delayed serving his jail sentence.

And so, another case of a mercy killing, because the man didn’t want to see his own wife suffer any longer, he’d killed her, out of love, and that is still considered murder, after all, he did, take the life, of another, but, it was out of love, and so, the D.A. was lenient on the asking of the sentence for this man.  And this also shows that there is still a TON of stress on the primary caretakers of the elderly, and in these cases, the primary caretakers are usually the spouses, and, the families need to be more in-tune with the sole caretaker’s mental states, to prevent these sorts of things from occurring again.

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A Battle Won, in Legalizing Euthanasia

KUDOS, for the right to D-I-E, from NBCNEWS.com, by: B. Briggs…

The text came from the bedroom above. “Are you coming up?” asked his brother, Dan Diaz.

Adrian Diaz felt nervous about heading to the second story where his sister-in-law, Brittany Maynard, 29, was about to purposefully swallow a prescribed, lethal medication. They had grown close since her diagnosis of terminal brain cancer.

He climbed the stairs on Nov. 1 in the Portland, Oregon home Maynard had rented with her husband, Dan, so she could access that state’s Death With Dignity law. Adrian saw Brittany in her bed. She immediately rose and stepped to him. She hugged him, said she loved him, then gave the Bay Area lobbyist a solemn task.

“If you’re willing, I really feel it’s important to get the law changed in California. We shouldn’t have had to move from California.”

His answer was instant: “Absolutely. I’ll do everything I can.” The words made her smile.

Maynard asked the same of her mother and of Dan. After forging those pacts, she took her prescribed medications. Five minutes later, she was asleep. Thirty minutes later, she was gone.

“It was a promise to her,” Adrian recalled in an interview with NBC News. He works in the government relations office at the University of California, Berkeley. He also officiated their wedding. “We all believed she deserved to die at home in the state where she was born, in the city where she shared a home with her husband.”

On Thursday, nearly three months after her death, Dan and Adrian Diaz were busy fulfilling their pledge, meeting with a New Jersey legislator to push for the introduction of a death-with-dignity bill there. On Sunday, the brothers also met with a New York lawmaker to pitch the same action.

Currently, Oregon, Washington, Vermont, Montana and New Mexico authorize aid in dying. In the aftermath of Maynard’s massively viral campaign to expand laws for people like her, legislators in at least 13 other states and Washington, D.C. have revealed plans to introduce similar bills.

For the Diaz brothers, the campaign trail is fresh. Mourning has consumed the family, and still does. But now, they are feeling her presence all over again as they make their case to lawmakers.

In those meetings, Dan Diaz, 43, often pulls out photos showing the famous smile of his late bride, or images of a happy couple who already knew their time together was ticking down.

“Her instructions to me were to see this through – and pride is what it comes down to,” Dan Diaz told NBC News. “When I find myself talking to a legislator, I’m proud of what she started.

“People have referred to, ‘Oh, she was courageous.’ Yes, I guess. But that was just Brittany being Brittany. That was nothing out of the ordinary. She would speak up for something that she didn’t think was right and wanted to change.

“So the emotion for me is: this is a legacy for her. She began this conversation, one voice triggering all this. Now, I’m proud to bring it to fruition,” added Diaz, who remains on temporary leave from his job as an executive in the consumer packaged goods industry.

In their stops so far, the Diaz brothers still feel momentum, they say, that she created with a series of globally viewed videos, produced months and weeks before her death. Dan says he looks forward to speaking with politicians who oppose his views: “Hey, maybe I’m missing something. It’s like: Convince me. I want to hear it. But so far, most of their arguments are based on fear, and that’s not any way we should make any public policy.

“People are afraid to talk about the topic of death.”

And tactically, the brothers believe Maynard was right about the political battleground she mapped in her final minutes.

“As California goes, so goes the nation,” Adrian Diaz said.

“California, if we get that one on the books, and if we can get New York, it’s kind of a domino effect,” Dan Diaz added. “The other states will recognize that all of the fears raised by the opposition, about slippery slopes and all that, the populations will rise and say: No, there isn’t that concern here.”

According to a HealthDay/Harris Poll released in December, Americans support by a 5-to-1 margin (74 percent in favor, 14 percent against), that terminally ill adults with no option for recovery should be able to access aid in dying.

In California, two state lawmakers have announced that they expect to file a death-with-dignity bill before the end of January.

“Any of us could find ourselves in this predicament,” Dan Diaz said. “Get the laws on the books and let the decision be between the patient working with their doctors.

“It’s certainly not something a legislator or a politician or even a church official should weigh in on. That is part of our message.”

And so, this, is a STEP forward, on human rights, because we should have the rights to decide, IF we want to undergo further treatments for our debilitating conditions, or IF we just want to, leave, without dignities intact, and this woman had the control over H-O-W it’d ended in the U.S., so, this, is still, a step forward on the respects toward human lives.

 

 

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Dignity vs. Force Feeding, the Challenges in Caring for the Severely Demented Elderly

On giving them their last dignities, and on what should be considered, in the issues, translated…

Ms. Chen’s father had been demented for years on end, slowly, he’d become, severely demented, and the family members had come back from overseas to be with me more and more recently, all of us wanted my father to follow the dignity method, to finish his life’s journey.

One day, Ms. Chen brought her father’s medical records to my clinic, primary, it’s about her father’s food intake.  The family learned from the information they’d researched, that the severely demented will face up to the problems of not having enough nutritions, and difficulties in feeding, and knew, that in other countries, installing a feeding tube is not recommended, because the patient won’t choke less, and what’s more importantly, this doesn’t elongate the lifespan of the patients by that much either.

The Family Felt an Increase of Guilt When Others See What They’d Done

Ms. Chen and her families have an in-depth understanding for taking care of the demented elderly, actually, they need not come all the way to the Veteran’s Memorial Hospital to see me, but she’d gone to an assortment of university medical hospitals, and, all the doctor they’d consulted all used a threatening tone of voice, “You are starving your father to death, you know that, right?” it’s just, that she and her family saw how her father was slowly losing the remaining of dignity, with the installation and pulling out of the tubes, it’s too heart wrenching for them to watch it, and plus, they’d looked into the documents, and there is NO support for giving artificial nutrition to severely demented elderly, because they can’t prove its benefits, and even if a feeding tube is installed, it should be focused on the stomach, but, the doctors didn’t communicate with the family members, this possible option.

In this visit, I completely support and affirmed Ms. Chen and her family’s ways, using their filial piety mindset, there’s NO considerations of starving their father to death.  Ms. Chen felt relieved, “We all hoped that my father could have his dignity, as he finishes up with life, and, the family had given up time from work, to be by his side, wanting to give our father the dignity he rightfully deserved.  But, hearing all the other doctors’ words, we’d all fallen into the fogs of worry and sorrows.”

This visit had given Ms. Chen and her family the strength, to let them know, that what they’re doing was right.  But, a couple of months later, Ms. Chen still came back, and it’s the same question again, they’d found a way from the information out of this nation, but they couldn’t find a hospital who’s willing to help them.

The problems of feeding for severely demented elderly, is the challenge of caretaking and morality of medicine, the foreigners had been arguing about it for a very long time too, and, the most common concern was, they’d worried if the patients are being starved to death?

Installing a Feeding Tube Should Not Prolong the Suffering

There’s the same arguments for patients with serious stomach or esophageal cancers, if force-fed, the patients may be in pain, because they can’t alleviate the pains in their digestive tracks, but if they’re not force fed, then, they’d be malnourished.  Facing to this challenge, the reviewing of past researches is vital, based off of the past researches conducted, they’d found: even if the feeding tubes are installed, the chances of survival for the patients still doesn’t show that much different.  Meaning, that having a feeding tube does not lengthen one’s life, and by not placing one in also doesn’t speed up death.

The severely demented patients, due to their activity levels, along with other ailments, the daily caloric need intake is lower than regular adults, and, they would require less food.  There are reports in the States that suggested to use comfort feeding only, when the patient is lucid and aware, feed them through the mouth in smaller amounts, in one hand, the food can be satiating, and secondly, this wouldn’t cause the risk of choking and coughing.  This also adds to the level of difficulty for caretaking, to find foods that aren’t easily choked on, and in the limited diets, provide the patients with higher amounts of calories.

Feeding through the mouhth is the important needs of demented patients, in force feeding completely, using of tubes, on a level, it’d taken away the patients’ sense of achievement.  The more important key point to consider in this is, under this circumstances, if feeding tubes are installed, to keep the caloric intake one needs, is this saving life, or prolonging suffering?

With the Help from Professionals, Returning the Dignity Back to the Patients

Here, I’m merely stressing, that family members who chose the feeding tube method is not wrong, because the care of these patients should be decided by the entire family.  The primary caretaker will need a TON of social support, what’s more is, through the professional services, help maintain the dignity of life, and not adding to the sense of guilt of the family members.

And so, there would come a time, when one’s demented parents will be forced to be placed in these options, and, a lot needs to be considred, from the humanitarian angle, from the medical angle, along with from the morality standpoint, and, until the members of the family can sort through all these issues, and come to a unified conclusion, the care of the demented elderly won’t be perfect.

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A Murder-Suicide, an Act of Love

On the Right to Die, Euthanasia, still an issue of ethics, from NBCNEWS.com, by: M. Fortier, G. Wayland, & K. Underwood…

A husband and wife were killed in a New Hampshire hospital Tuesday in an apparent murder-suicide shooting that their friend told NECN was an “act of love,” not a crime.

Mark and Katherine Lavoie both died after shots were fired just after 6 a.m. at Wentworth-Douglass Hospital in Dover, friends and family confirmed to NECN. Authorities have not revealed the pair’s identities.

The New Hampshire attorney general’s office said the investigation is still in its early stages, but the two deaths appear to be the result of a murder-suicide. Autopsies will be conducted to determine the cause and manner of the deaths.

On Facebook, Mark Lavoie stated his anguished motives for wanting to take his wife’s life, writing in part, “now because of my selfishness in dialing 911, she is experiencing the only thing she feared more than her illness, life-support on a respirator.”

Barbara Hanson, a friend of the Lavoies, told NECN that it was not a crime, but an “act of love,” and that the two were soulmates. According to Hanson, it wasn’t a secret that Katherine Lavoie was battling depression, and she said she believes Katherine tried to commit suicide on Sunday night, which was when her husband called 911. Hanson said Katherine Lavoie ended up on life support at Wentworth-Douglass Hospital.

“He knew Kathy would not want to live as a vegetable, and I think he knew he would be so broken without her that he needed to be with her and that’s why he did what he did,” Hanson said, adding, “This was not something that was done out of hate or loathing or anger or despair. This is something that was done out of pure, absolute love.”

So, this husband is making right what he thought he’d done wrong, because he felt, that having called 9-1-1 to save his wife’s life had made her suffered even longer, and so, he’d murdered her, then, took his own life, and, it is, an act of love, because he couldn’t withstand to see his wife suffer longer than she needed to…

 

 

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Dying, on Her Own Terms

Dying, on her own terms, she’d earned THAT right, you’d think, but, she still couldn’t, because her country had yet, to legalize euthanasia yet.

Dying, on her own terms, she wasn’t allowed to, because her life was never hers to begin with, when she was born, her life belonged to her parents, and, as she grew up, married, her life then, got transferred (like the deeds?), into her husband’s hands, and then, she’d lived, for her children.

And now, she’s old and gray, and ailing, and she still couldn’t have a say, in how she choose to go, because her country didn’t allow for assisted suicide AND euthanasia, and, she didn’t want to implicate anybody with murder.

Dying on her own terms, it’s a luxury, she never got the chance to have, she’d suffered, long, AND hard, she was diagnosed with cancer, that first time, she’d undergone rounds of chemotherapy, lost all of her hair, and, she’d covered up all the mirrors inside her house, so she could not see her own reflections, because she felt ugly.

Dying on her own terms, she didn’t get that, because, she was dragged out, by cancer, and, she tried to kick and scream, but the chemo left her too weak, she couldn’t make a single sound.

Dying on her own terms, this, was the thing she’d wanted now, but, her kids wouldn’t, couldn’t bare to see her go, even IF she’d told them, to not traech her, at the last moment, when the doctors asked her kin if they wanted to resuscitate her, they’d told the doctors yes, and, she lived in a coma, and wasn’t unplugged…

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A 60-Year-Old Son Could No Longer Withstand Hearing His 84-Year-Old Cancer-Prone Mother, So He’d Strangled Her

A tragedy that could’ve been prevented, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man who’s blind in one eye, a doctoral candidate, Lee, for three years on end had been taking care of his mother with liver cancer, and he couldn’t withstand to hear his mother cried out in pain in the evenings, yesterday, after he’d strangled and killed his own mother, he’d taken pills to commit suicide, and, as he was being taken to the hospital, he’d smiled and told the paramedics, “If I died, I want to be her son in the next life.”

The police department of Tainan City got a call at about seven in the morn from Lee, “My mother died at home,”, the patrol officers thought it was just a death caused by illness, rushed to the house, and saw that Lee’s mother, lying on the bed, with a woman’s suspenders around her neck, without a pulse or breath.

Lee sat by the chair next to the bed, dumbfounded, and said, “I’d strangled my mother”, and said that he’d taken over ten pills for his condition and sleeping pills to attempt suicide.  The police rushed him to the hospitals, in the process of getting him treatment, Lee looked calm, and smiled and told the officers, “This, was what my mother would’ve wanted, she wouldn’t blame me”.

“My mother’s moaning from her illness cut into my heart like a sharpened knife,” Lee claimed, the eighty-four year-old mother was a terminal cancer patient, and because morphine along with other painkillers had stopped working, she would wake in the middle of the nights from her pains, and told her son to kill her.

“Only death can take away the ailments”, Lee said, he couldn’t withstand to see his mother suffer so, and, two months ago, he’d started planning, “Just let her get relieved then.”

He said, that two nights ago, his mother called out in pain all night long, and, yesterday morning at three, she was rolling on her bed from the pains, “My mother begged me to free her, that only through death, will she be free from her illness”.  He’d taken the advantage of the time when the hired nurse’s aide was asleep, to kill his mother, and, wanted to take pills so he could die alongside his mother.

The Filipino hired help said, that she woke at seven in the morn, found grandma dead, she asked her “boss” why he’d done what he did, the boss said, “it’s what’s best for grandma”.

Lee’s older brother rushed to Tainan from Taipei after he learned, blamed himself as he cried, said that his younger brother had stayed single, after he’d gotten a master’s from Transportation University, he’d taught at Mingchuan University, then, went to the U.S. to earn his doctorate, but because he had eye troubles, he’d returned to Taiwan six years ago, helped with the care of their mother, “my younger brother had it hard, taking care of my mom”, he didn’t blame his brother for his mother’s death.

The police investigated and found, that three years ago, Lee’s mother was diagnosed with cancer, Lee was her primary caretaker, and because he felt the pressures growing, he couldn’t handle it alone, so he’d hired a foreign caretaker.  But the caretaker only came to them nine days ago, Lee had yet to be alleviated of his caretaking duties, and, he’d killed his mother.  After the D.A. asked the details of what happened, they’d booked him.

And so, this, is still the STRAINS on the primary caretaker, it’s the emotional burdens that this man couldn’t handle in the end, because his mother would cry out in pain, and, it got to him, and, he just couldn’t stand to see his own mother suffer any longer, so, he’d killed her, and this, is still, a tragedy, and, had this man had supports from the outside, it may still not have turned out differently…

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