Monthly Archives: September 2014

Love Became an “Investment”

This, was what love turned into, yeah, I know, everything is really messed up here, because we’re measuring by dollars and cents, and how much we each got from the love.

Love became an “investment”, and I HATE losing money, and yet, because love became an “investment”, there’s that underlying risk factor.

Love became an “investment”, so, how much do I get out of it?  Is there a set ratio, for earning per share for love?  Or, do we just have to wait and see, how love’s doing this quarter?  Love became an “investment”, and so now, we measure and weigh it, based off of monetary values, and, if love can NO longer be profitable, then, we’d DUMP it, in a heartbeat!

Love became an “investment”, and, everybody wants to put in the least amount of money, but get the MOST amount of earning, and, how is that possible?  It’s N-O-T, you don’t even get roughly what you put in, that’s not the way love’s supposed to go, and it should NOT be seen as an investment, so, STOP seeing that husband/wife as your meal ticket for the rest of your lives…because it won’t happen that way!

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How Could the Dead Still Bleed?

Uh, D-U-H, STUPID question here!!!

How could the dead still bleed?  Oh yeah, this, would be a TRICK question, because the answer is N-E-G-A-T-I-V-E, and it still don’t make ANY sense at all.

How could the dead still bleed?  The answer is that it can’t, the dead is dead, meaning that ALL of their biological functions had stopped working, the heart had stopped beating, so, the dead can’t bleed!

How could the dead still bleed?  How can I still be hurting over someone who’s long DEAD and gone, out of my life?  How could the dead still bleed?  The dead can still bleed, because of effects of the deaths, and their impacts on the living, and that, is how the DEAD left their markings on the world.

How could the dead still bleed, don’t be stupid, you’d learned, from a very long time ago, like after Goldie the Goldfish died, you poked its cold, dead body, and it doesn’t move, nor would it follow your hand when you moved it up and down that tank…

How could the dead still bleed, they can’t, bleed, and all the bleeding, is still left, for the living to do, because we, the ones who are still here, would be the ones grieving, hard, over the dead who mattered to us.

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Drowning the Past

Feel free to call me a “murderer” if you want to, but this, was how I’d done it!!!

I took the past by its hair, and, pinned its head down into the sink, filled with water, and it started gurgling for air, and then, it started struggling hard, but because I got a strong grip, it couldn’t fight me off.

Drowning the past, that, is what I was supposed to do, and I don’t CARE if I’d killed it (the past!!!), and, you can be sure, that it will NOT get resurrected again, because I’d made sure, that it was D-E-A-D, checked its vital signs and everything, to make sure it’d stopped its biological functioning.

Drowning the past, I’m supposed to, and I still feel absolutely NO remorse, for this so-called “murder”, guess I am, stone-cold then???  Drowning the past, I had, ‘cuz I couldn’t let it keep tagging on my back, gnawing me, again, again, again, reminding me of what had happened back there now, can I???  Nope!

I took the past, out by the river, and I was able, to TRICK it to go for a swim, then, I’d PINNED its head down, and, I gotta tell ya, my very “first kill” feels great, because I got to be in control, something I’d never had in life, and, this feel of being in control, well, it’s damn addictive…

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When Your Goodbye Sounded So Familiar to Me

Don’t know why, but, apparently, I’d gotten accustomed to it, I guess, after all, you’d barked it toward me, so many times already…

When your goodbye sounded so familiar to me, that means, that I’m systematically desensitized (look THAT up!!!) to you, leaving, and yeah, from the very start of this “cycle”, I’d cried myself to sleep, every single night after you’d left, but, after you’d came back, left, came back, left (you get the picture, don’t you) so very many times, I’d gotten used to it.

When your goodbye became familiar to me, there’s nothing you can say, OR do, to HURT me, because I’d grown accustomed to your bad behaviors (and that still doesn’t mean that I’ll keep on putting up with them).  When your goodbye became familiar to me, because I’d gotten used to them, heard them ‘bout a ZILLION times, and yet, you’d always ended up, BACK in my arms, and so, I knew, that you’re goodbyes were nothing MORE than just words, you have NO intentions of leaving me………

When your goodbye sounded so familiar to me, ‘cuz I’d gotten so used to hearing those words out of your lips, and, I knew you were still lying this time ‘round, because just like the very last time, and the times before, I KNOW you’ll come crawling back.

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A Young “Cougar” Was Turned Down by the Younger Man She’d Pursued, She’d Beaten Up Her Fourteen-Year-Old Rival

Like I’d already stated before, these “things” still goes BOTH ways, and, violence is NO longer just a specialty for M-E-N these days, from the Newspapers, translated…

A woman Chen had a birthday yesterday, she’d called up a man she had a crush on to help her celebrate, and he’d turned her down, said he had to work, but last night, Chen ambushed the man’s place, and found, that he was with a fourteen-year-old girl, Kuo, the two went up the mountains to have a confrontation, Chen found a group of people, to beat up on Kuo, and forced Kuo to strip herself.

The police investigations found, that the thirty-two-year old Chen had a crush on the twenty-four year old man for a long time, yesterday, she’d used her birthday as a reason, hoped that he could spend it with her, but the man used work as the reason to not go to her.

After Chen got drunk, she’d gone to his place, half-hazed, saw that he was with Kuo, an adolescent girl, she flew into a jealous rage, and started slapping Kuo nonstop, then, rode her motorcycle, too the man and the adolescent to a famous night spot in Taishan to confront.

As Chen came to the spot, she’d brought along couple of her friends, other than keep beating up on Kuo, they’d forced her to strip naked.

And because there were over thirty witnesses present, enjoying the night views, members of the public found this act of violence, quickly called the police, when the adolescent was being beaten up, the man was afraid of Chen, and so, he didn’t say anything.

As the patrol officers took the girl to the hospital for treatment, and took Chen and her gang back to the subprecinct, Chen had a BAC of 0.69, and had lost it in the station, had a verbal altercation with the officers, and the police is still currently interrogating her, and the youth, after being taken to the hospitals, she was okay.

And that, is how FAR jealousy can go, and, the woman wasn’t even dating the dude too, and that, is how a C-R-U-S-H can CRASH and BURN!  And, that still just shows you, that men are NOT just the only ones who resorted to violence, that women nowadays are becoming more and more violent too, don’t know if it’s an effect of global warming or what here!!!

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Mandated by the Courts, to Take Care of Their Irresponsible Father, the Judge Told the Children: As Children, We Must Make Sacrifices

Is this even F-A-I-R, I’ll let you all be the JUDGE this time!!!  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Yang left home, two decades ago, left his three kids to his wife to take care of, and now, Yang is placed in a nursing home, and he needed to pay the nursing home by the month; Yang sued his kids, and asked for alimonies, the children proved that the father had abandoned them since they were young, and refused to pay, but the Hsinbei District Court insisted that the three kids had “obligatory duty for keeping life” toward their father, and mandated that they must pay their father $20,000N.T. per month.

The attorney, Huang pointed out, that in this case, the situation had fitted the Civil Amendment #1118, which stated that when the parents showed NO caretaking toward the kids, it would be unfair for the kids to take care of them, and that the kids can ask the courts to lessen the amount paid.

The sixty-one year-old man, Yang in Hsinbei City, because he faced debt problems in his factory some twenty years ago, he couldn’t handle the matter, and so, he ran, and left his fourteen, eleven, and seven year old sons and daughter to his wife, Chien, Chien paid all the debts, the mortgage payments, took care of her kids on her own, and raised them up.

And this year in May, Yang just showed up abruptly, and signed the divorce agreement with his wife, then, moved into a nursing home, and, he needed to pay the facility for room, board, diapers, medical charges, etc., etc. etc., totaling up to $40,000N.T.; Yang didn’t have any money saved up, and lost his ability to work, he’d sought out assistance from his younger sister, she was willing to pay for $20,000N.T. per month on his behalf to the facility, and the remaining amount, Yang had sued his children for.

The Three children are working as security guard, in a technology company, and as a customer service representative, and they’d earned anywhere between $20,000 and $30,000N.T. per month; the three children and their mother all claimed, that after Yang left the house, he’d never once showed an inkling of care or concerns toward them, and while the kids were still in school, they’d had to apply for financial aid, or part-timed, and, if there’s any money left over, they’d used it to pay the debts, save up for the foundations of their own marriages, or to give it to their mother, that they did NOT have any extra money to give to the father who’d left them.

The judge pointed out, that based off of Civil Laws children has an obligation to “maintain the lifestyles of the parents”, and toward the parents’ basic living needs, even IF the children didn’t have any extra money, they MUST sacrifice themselves, to keep their parents; and because Yang had gone through the courts and asked for just $20,000N.T. per month, and, based off of their economical status, it wasn’t at all difficult for them to provide, and so, the judge mandated that the children MUST pay.

Are you FUCKING kidding me here?  The losers ran out on his wife and children, left them alone, and now he’s old and ILL (still karma’s work!!!), and is in need of the kids’ assistance, and because the father didn’t give a DAMN from before, so naturally, the kids don’t give a SHIT right now, and the father felt that it was unfair, for him to NOT get a dime from the kids, and so, he sued, and this god DAMN judge doesn’t even have a single clue, and mandated that the kids must pay?  Is there JUSTICE in this world now?  And, why the FUCK should we take care of you, PARENTS, if you’d never taken care of us, if you’d abused and neglected us, simply because we got pulled OUT from your god damn VAGINAS, we owe you, is that it???

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Her Parents Were Fighting, and the High School Student Climbed Out the Windows, Sat on Top of the Air-Conditioning Systems

There was just this picture, in the Front Page Sections, translated…

In the Taishan District of Hsinbei City, a high school girl, early yesterday morning heard her parents fighting, saying that they want to divorce, and the mother claimed she was going to leave, the high school girl took a fruit knife, climbed up to the lanai of her third floor home, on top of the air-conditioning systems, threatened to kill herself, and the firefighters consoled her from her window, and the fire fighter on the fire engines was able to grab Wu, so, they’d prevented a tragic event.

What’s even outrageous was, that the parents, after they’d fought, they’d gone back to their bedrooms, and fell asleep, they never even realized that something wasn’t right with their daughter, until the fire department came, did they realize how serious this had become.

Wow, you still have GOT to be SHITTING me here, parents!!! How STUPID do you think we all are?  When you get into those fights at night, to prevent us from being affected, and you supposed that we’re ALL asleep sound in our beds, but, we’re actually N-O-T, because we got our ears, GLUED to the doors, hearing every single detail of your fights, so, do NOT assume (b/c that would still turn ALL of y’all into ASSholes!!!) that just because we don’t tell you we saw, means that we saw nothing, we are still watching you, stupid PARENTS!!!

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The Father Was Abusive to the Infant, the Mother Covered for Him, the Nine Year Old Daughter Told the Truth About All of It

So, from the mouths of babes, huh???  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man, Lee and his girlfriend, Chien had a baby for two months, but because Lee got into a foul mood several times, and the baby won’t stop crying, he’d beaten up the infant, to the point, that the infant’s sense of hearing and sight become permanently damaged; as the Hsinbei District Attorney’s Office questioned him, he’d denied the allegations, claimed that it was an accident, that he’d dropped his daughter to the ground, and his girlfriend covered for him too, and the D.A. didn’t believe them, and, prosecuted him based off of severe damage charges.

The twenty-something Lee is a construction worker, he’d dated Chien, and, Chien had a nine year old child from her last relationship, last year, she’d had a baby with Lee, the four of them lived together; because Lee was too tired from work, he was usually in a foul mood, when the infant cries or gets too rowdy, he’d slapped her cheeks, head, chest, back, and feet.

Chien and her nine-year-old daughter both witness the infant getting beaten up by Lee, and knew that there were multiple bruises on the young child, but because he’s their main source of income, they’d put up with him; last year, when the infant was just two months old, Lee had beaten her up again, and when Chien came home, the child was already falling into a coma,, she’d rushed her to the hospital.

The hospitals diagnosed her, that her sense of hearing is permanently damaged, her optical nerves had deteriorated, along with other health problems, and they’re all due to being abused, the hospital believed that abuse was what was happening, and notified the police and the city government, and the social workers had sent the nine-year-old and the infant to foster homes now.

When the D.A. questioned, Lee admitted to slapping the infant’s face, but, the other parts were caused by bumping into the stairs when he carried her somewhere, or from accidental falls; as for the day of the hospitalizations, he’d accidentally knocked the child off the bed while he was in a fight with Chien, and Chien had corroborated with his statements.

But the nine-year-old’s testimony, said that she saw Lee beaten his younger sister, slammed the infant down onto the bed; the doctor also confirmed, that the damages weren’t caused in a day’s time, and that if she’d fallen off on her own, it couldn’t have caused this sort of damage, that it must be caused by external forces, and it proves, that the infant was abused, and so, the D.A. believed, that Lee did, hurt the child.

We still have an abuser/enabler relationship here, the man abused his own child, while his girlfriend covers for him over, over AND over again, probably out of fear too, who knows, but the point is, another infant girl got beaten to near death, and, someone MUST pay for that, and the only one who told the truth here, IS the nine-year-old older sister!

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You Can’t Go Wrong If You’d Only Ask

Life experiences, translated…

The deadline for the seminar had come, and because I had something more pressing, I’d missed out on the chances to sign up, and this, was a hard-to-come-by opportunity, I feel very bad about it.

I’d wondered for about two days, and worked up the courage, called up the sponsors, and asked them if I can sign up for it too, and the sponsors told me that someone who signed up had dropped out, and there was NO other who was waiting in line, and so, asked me for my information, to be mailed to them, then, I can take the course, I was so very surprised.

My son signed up for swimming lessons in our neighborhood, the first day, we’d gone, to sign him up, but he wasn’t on the list, and yet, a kid who signed up later than we had was on the list, we questioned it, and, wondered for a day,, then, we’d called the group up, turns out, that the flyers had stated that the people who live in the neighborhood has the priorities, and, those from other neighborhoods would be put on a backup list.  When I first went to sign my son up, I was only told about this swimming lesson, without the details, and even though my son didn’t get into the swimming program, but after we knew the reasons, we felt better about it.

In our neighborhood super convenience stores, every Thursday is discount days.  That day, I’d bought some household products, and, after I’d checked out, I thought something wasn’t quite right, and I’d gone back into the shops, and checked off the items one by one, turns out, the cashier scanned an item twice, and she didn’t give me the discounts.  I’d told the cashier about it nicely, then, gone through the receipt again, in the end, I’d gotten over a hundred dollars back, and she apologized to me nonstop.  I thanked her for her patience, because I could understand how things can be overlooked when one is too busy.

From before, I’d be too bashful to ask, whatever the rules are, I’d followed, don’t want to give anybody troubles, and feared, that I might earn the reputations of being a “bad customer”.

But later, I’d thought, so long as I’m mildly mannered, and reasonable, then, everybody would accept and willing to help me resolve the issues, and sometimes, I’m merely fighting for my own rights!

There’s the saying, “The way is by the mouth”, rather than keeping it all in, feeling taken advantage of, and keep doubting, just ask for it, find the answers you may have, work up your courage, and, just ask, and, everything will get cleared up.

We were taught, as children, to NOT make unnecessary troubles for others, and, that, is how this mindset had affected us, because we think, that by going back into the shops, having the clerks ring up the items again, JUST to be sure of the prices, is giving someone trouble, and so, we are unwilling to impose, without knowing, that by NOT fighting for what is rightfully ours, we’re actually allowing others to get the better of us.

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Taking Turns Cooking, the Division of Household Chores

Whose turn is it???  I just did it yesterday!!!  Translated…

At dusk, it’s the busiest time for women, but I saw Xiao-Ling, looking over at the flowers in the florist shop leisurely.

I went up to her, asked how she could be so leisurely, turns out, that it’s the night when her husband took his turns, cooking the meals.

Xiao-Ling’s husband believed, that because they are a dual-income household, so, they should also split the household chores, in the nitty-gritty of household chores, cooking the meals is the most annoying and bothersome, and, neither of them wanted to dine out, and so, they’d made a deal that on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, the husband cooks, on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays, the wife does it, and on Sundays, they’d invite the kids to help out.

Xiao-Ling told me gladly, “On days I don’t need to cook, I can relax a bit after work, to do what I wanted to do, it’d let me reminisce the early days of being a wife at the very beginning.  And her husband is of Hakka descent, and so, everything he’d made, the vegetable plates, or the fried eggs, everybody in the house finishes it all; I’m Mingnanese, good at making the fried egg with oysters and rice platters, the kids loved it.  On the weekends, the kids would make the pizzas, the pancakes themselves, and, we both loved it.

Seeing how smile radiated off of Xiao-Ling’s face, I thought, that being a housewife did not make her into a yellow-faced nag, instead, she’d turned into this embodiment of happiness, all thanks to them, taking turns in the kitchens.

So, this, is a good way, because normally, the cooking is all left to the wife to do, because that, is the traditional female gender role, but in this household, they’d taken turns, allowing one another to have a breather.

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