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From When Her Son with Cerebral Palsy Was Three, She’d Accompanied Him in His Studies, for Twenty Years on End

The devotions of a mother, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

There was a mother-son pair at the Sales Majors of Shu-De Technical University, the son was Han-Wen Lee, with cerebral palsy, the mother was his accompanying study partner, Li-Hua Yo; from when her son was in the early intervention programs at age three, all the way to his college years, the mother would come to class to help her son in class, looking after her child, it’s the most beautiful scene on the campus.

Yo said, that her son was a premature baby, stayed in the incubator for two months, later on, the doctors confirmed the diagnosis of cerebral palsy.  Her son is of normal intelligence and she feared that isolating him will cause him to not learn as well, insisted on placing his son in the normal classes; for this, she’d quit her job as a receipts person at the hotels, and started accompanying her son full-time, all the way, to college.

As her son’s study partner, Yo and her son would sit in the front row each and every time there’s a class, and the mother became the “eldest” member of the class.  They’d never missed a session of class, upon entering into college, the mother was even MORE studious than her own son, she said, that on the one hand, this made up for how she wasn’t able to go to college, and, as she’d returned home, she could help her son in his studies.

Lee sits in the wheelchair, is immobilized, his hands, bent out of shape, other than being his mother, Yo also worked as his physical therapist, and tutor, would help work her son’s hands and feet, also helped him with his homework assignments too, “It’s an affinity, he became our child, and we must care for him”, “So long as his body doesn’t deteriorate, it would be an improvement.”

Yo would keep watch over her son, but, in middle school, her son’s classmates still threw trash on him, he was bullied, and, although Yo felt heart wrenching, she didn’t scream at them, “children are normally rebellious in the middle school years, rather than scolding them, teaching them the right way would be a better approach.”

The professor from the Sales Major of the Technical University, Huang said, that Mrs. Lee would drive her son to and from school every single day, moving him to and from class, guys their built would feel it was difficult, but she’d never complained, nor had she ever raised her voice at her son.”  Lee who was sitting close by said, “It’s just her luck!”, it’d made Yo laugh.

A fellow classmate, Cho said, that Mrs. Lee would help her son take notes, and, would encourage him to participate in class too, and sometimes, when Han-Wen could answer, the rest of the class couldn’t, they felt ashamed of themselves.  Lin, another classmate said, that Mrs. Lee not only took care of her son in class, she’d also treated the other members of the class who are handicapped, as if they were her own too.

There was a case where the parent killed his own son with cerebral palsy, Yo was deeply touched by the story, she said, the children wouldn’t want to be like this also, the parents MUST accept them as they are, so can the rest of the world.

And so, this mother had positive views, although her son has this condition, she’d not given up on him, instead, she’d made it her responsibilities to accompany him, and that, is the heart, of a wonderful mother.

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Partied into College, Didn’t Manage to Graduate, and, All that’s Left, Was a Middle School Level Education

Problems with early admissions, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

Being admitted into universities early, does that mean that the students had stopped, studying?  The new admissions program had allowed a lot of the last year high schoolers to be without the alarms, the stresses from the college entrance exams, and, there were, students who’d partied, too hard, to the point that they couldn’t even manage to graduate college, and, they only held a degree from middle school.

“Some want to circle around the island, others want to have part-time work experiences, and now, it’s all, ruined!”, the student, Chen, who was already accepted by a university said, he’d originally intended to part-time for awhile, “But I don’t know, if after I got in, would I get singled out, for not doing well in my classes this semester!”  a student who was preparing for the appointed exams said, that the students who had already been accepted had seriously interfered with his mindset for his taking his entrance exams, “They’re talking about what they’re going to do, it just sounded like cacophony to my ears!”

The college student, Chang last year entered into to the new admissions program, he’d told, that the last semester of his last year in high school actually just had a little over a month’s worth of instructions, that the grades really couldn’t tell anything, just work hard in college, why must people get carried away about the grades of this current semester.

In the past, there were students who got into university by early admissions in Taipei who’d brought a small mattress to class and started sleeping in the back of the classrooms, there were teachers who couldn’t take it, suggested, that “You can lay your heads down on the desks, just don’t make any noises”, there are also students who’d had doctors written out excuses, and took days off.

There are students in Taidong who didn’t get their high school diploma, and went into college, in the end, they’d not managed to graduate from college, and, ended up only having a middle school education.  The teachers told of an example, six, seven years ago, a student scored in the top half of the class, and, the private university that accepted him could take an equivalency degree, or certificate of completion, but back then, he didn’t even take all the credits he’d needed to get a high school degree, and the student ended up being expelled from college in his junior year, and, wanted to get a job, and discovered that he didn’t even HAVE a high school degree, and he’d returned back to school, to ask if he could make up the credit hours.

Yeah, so, from this, you can see, that schooling should be done, STEP-BY-STEP, and, this early admissions thing is an awful idea, because if you get accepted into a school by early admissions, that means you’re SET, and, you’d have NOTHING to do, in school, and that’s just, really stupid!

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The Halo of Having a Higher Degree

Is it, myth, or truth, fact, or fiction, I wonder…

The halo of having a higher degree, this, is what the world is currently, affect by, because in this day and age, IF you only have a bachelor’s degree (hey, wait a sec, that, is what I had!!!), you ain’t gettin’ NOWHERE in the workforce, as those major companies are looking for those who can withstand the stresses that comes with doing presentations, taking examination, and, juggling those research papers, all at the same time, isn’t that right?

The halo of having a higher degree, however, is slowly, losing color, because, as this society ages, people are more focused on having a viable skill, after all, if you have a master or up, and NO job, how the HECK you gonna FEED yourselves?  And so, the halo of having a higher degree is slowly, losing importance, as people today are coming to the realizations of hey, an IVY LEAGUE education ain’t WORTH shit, after all, just because you’d graduated from an IVY LEAGUE, that still doesn’t mean, that you’d have a smooth ride, to the very T-O-P, in the workforce, does it???  Nope, so, looks like the values, the emphasis, they’re, slowly shifting in this world here………

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That Day, with My Back Turned, on the Bus

Translated…

I am without a motorcycle, so, no matter where I go, to class, or work, to shop, shopping for groceries, I’d taken the free bus that runs eight kilometers locally.  But, one day, everything that was familiar, became, kinda odd………

First, it was the driver’s look switched between shocked, pity, and showing concern, it’d flattered me so.  And, there’s the normally rowdy bus that’s gone silent all of a sudden.  For this time frame, and this bus, it’s, quite weird.  In the end, being young as I am, able-bodied too, was given a seat, by a student.

What the heck just happened?  I can’t understand it, until I saw my own reflections on the windows—with a backpack on my left, with a home computer on my right, with a suitcase in hand, plus, a huge bag of quilt………it’d made me, who had to move all my things out, looked like I’d just gotten KICKED out of my place of residence.

Maybe, in those passersby’s mind, my backside was like Tzi-Ching Chu’s “The Backside”, causing people to tear up.

Funny, how when you’d become aware of your surrounding environments that everything just made a difference, isn’t it???  like for this person, who was probably just moving her/his stuff from the dormitories, as the semester ended, looked like someone who’d become homeless in other people’s points of views, that, just shows, that interactions are still happening in the world, without verbal exchanges………

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A University Makes the Victims of Sexual Crimes Feel They Were to Blame

And, NO, I still did NOT JUST make this up, I discovered in on Yahoo!, written by H. McLeod…

A Christian University in South Carolina discouraged some students who reported being sexually assaulted as children or on campus to go to the police and made them feel they were responsible for the abuse, a report released on Thursday said.

Bob Jones University’s attitude over nearly four decades toward student reports of sexual abuse or assault was “blaming and disparaging,” according to nearly 62 percent of survivors who took a confidential survey as part of an independent investigation commissioned by the university.

The report examining the response by the non-denominational Protestant college in Greenville comes as universities nationwide are scrutinizing policies for dealing with sexual assaults after a Rolling Stone magazine report on an alleged gang rape at the University of Virginia.

Nearly half of the sexual abuse survivors at Bob Jones University who replied said staff discouraged them from making a police report or told them directly not to report the abuse.

In an apology to victims, university President Steve Pettit said the school had changed its practices in recent years to “make it clear the biblical lesson of forgiveness does not imply that the victim is in any way responsible for the sexual assault or abuse they experienced.”

The review was carried out by a non-profit organization in Lynchburg, Virginia, called GRACE, which stands for Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment.

One person who replied to the survey said students were told “that a woman who was raped or sexually abused brought it on herself.” Another victim who reported being abused by a grandfather said Bob Jones University staff asked: “Did your body respond favorably? If it did, then you need to repent.”

The report found that school officials were not appropriately trained to counsel victims and that some victims felt staff members rushed to resolve their negative feelings.

The university said on Thursday that an appointed committee would review the findings and make changes as needed “to better reflect our values and show victims the love of Jesus Christ.”

“Victims should never be blamed for abuse or assault,” said university spokesman Randy Page. “In hindsight, we see how some could have interpreted our teaching, preaching and counseling as indifference and insensitivity to those who needed help the most.”

And yes, this happened, in the U.S. in a CHRISTIAN university, believe it or don’t!!!  And that still just showed how those bad people, with their minds, NOT set straight, are ruining the education of the young, and what the F***?  And now, after this had been dug out from all that mess on top, the university spokesperson tried to put out that fire?  Yeah right!!!  Grow a BRAIN, people!

 

 

 

 

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My Daughter’s Earnings as a Tutor

Translated…

“Mommy, can I use the big room tomorrow night?  A few of my classmates are coming over to study.”  It’s the seasons for the finals, I think, because my daughter is the only one who lives at home, it’s more convenient for them all!

“Tomorrow night?  That’s fine!” my child wanted to buckle down and study, and, which parent wouldn’t support that?

That night I’d returned home, made a huge pot of hot and sour soup, wanted to help them chase away the coldness.  I’d opened up the doors, holy!  There’s a house full of people there, close to one another, squeezing next to each other, sitting, lying, and there were those who were so cold that they’d hauled their quilts along too.  Or maybe, they too, were shocked, everybody stopped their highlighters, and turned their heads around to look at me.

“Mrs. I’m sorry, we’re bugging you.” “Aunt, I’m sorry to have Hsiu helping us review.”  “Yeah, Hsiu’s excellent at catching the main points!”  “Yeah, if not for her, I probably would be able to graduate!”  at the moment when everybody worked for the speaking rights, I’d heard a weird tone, it was from the students of Southeast Asia and Hong Kong.

“Oh, no problem, it’s getting cold, and aunt had made some hot and sour soup for you guys, everybody, get warmed up first, then, buckle down to study again!”  I’d closed the door, made my exit.  And, I’d heard their sighs of relaxations, then came, “Thank you, aunt!”

As her classmates all left, my daughter told me, “Mommy, I’m sorry, I’d only asked along seven to eight Asian students to come, but, there were seventeen who’d shown up!”  “Oh yeah!  What made you want to help them study?”

“Actually, started in my freshmen year, I’d thought, Chinese is what we learned to speak, everybody started learning it from when s/he is young, even if we’re not experts, but we don’t feel it to be hard.  But, Chinese to those who lived abroad is hard, and, the Chinese major may not be their interests at all, it’s just that they made the scores to get in.  Plus, some of the characters are varied from what they learned, and, ancient literatures are especially hard on them.  So, I’d helped them with their homework, so, they’d gain more understanding of their own cultures, killing two birds with one stone.”

I’d recalled how a Cambodian Chinese who worked in my shop asked me, “I can’t understand why my teacher would circle the characters I’d written, why is that?  I just can’t understand it!”  Isn’t this what we’d been trained to do since our elementary years, rewrite the character that were mistakes?  I can finally understand how Chinese can be hard to learn for them now.

One day my daughter came in, started hollering out, “Mommy, look!  My classmate treated me to a super-sized chicken steak, I’d brought it home, to share it with you!” as she munched on the food, she’d said, “my classmate had saved her allowances to buy it, it’s my wage for tutoring them!”  turns out, that my daughter’s bliss was from her true heart.

Because the girl enjoyed helping others learn the language, without wanting anything in return, because she wanted to help them catch up to the standards, that, was her driving force behind helping her classmates out, and, her classmates felt her kindness toward them, that, was why they’d reciprocated the kindness back to her, by buying her food.

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Note-Taking on the Laptops, the College Students’ Writing Abilities Had Deteriorated

Just like I had said before: as the technologies got smarter, people become DUMBER!!! From the Newspapers, translated…

The electronics had invaded the college campuses, in class, the students no longer put their pens to paper, instead, they’d lowered their heads, kept their eyes on their laptops, as they took notes, as they’d gone into the classrooms, they’d sat down, take out their laptops, iPads, cell phones, those who were typing, “sliding”, filming are all in action. There are even college students who pointed out that almost HALF of their classes are now, composed of those who used electronic devices to take notes in class.

The technical university student, Yang stated, that there are almost half of the members of his class who are using cell phones, to record the professors’ lectures, or used their iPads, their laptops, to take notes, and, only a quarter of his classmates are still writing the notes by hand.

A student from Danjian University, Wu pointed out, that out her class of ten, only three are still taking notes by hand in class, the rest are using iPads or laptops to do it. But now, some of the professors had stated that the students can’t use their laptops for their research reports, and even IF you’d found the answers on google, you still must write the answers down by hand, “at least, go through the processes of reading, and recording down one’s findings.”

The Taiwanese Teacher’s University grad student, Huang said, some of the instructors at the graduate level would NOT allow their students to bring a laptop to class, fearing that they might be working on something unrelated to the class, or, surfing on Facebook, but, on the undergrad level, it would be harder, for the professors to keep track.

The student, Chen from Poli-Sci University, said, the students who are easily distracted in class, it wouldn’t matter IF they have a laptop or not, using a laptop to take notes in class, it’s easier, to e-mail it to the classmates, and, one can look up materials that the professor’s lecturing on for further understanding, “back then, we’d lowered our heads to take notes, and, every time we’re done writing, we’d forgotten, what the professor just lectured us on.”

The NTU graduate student, Jiang stated, that in graduate course, half of his classmates are typing up the notes, and, in the in-class presentations, they’d used powerpoint. After you’d gotten used to typing, it would take you longer, to write every single word out, other than not being familiar with the writing tools, you must think hard, on how to write some of the characters too.

We’re writing less and less by hand, a lot of college students don’t have great penmanship. A student, Wu, from a private university in the southern strips told, that over seventy-percent of her classmates are using laptops to take the notes in class, and, during the day, other than signing for the delivered packages or filling out the doctor’s slips at the health center, there is little opportunity, for one, to write, “My hands would start to tremble when I write, and I’d write so illegibly.”

Yang told, that typing up the characters will cause the handwritings to become slow, and it’d made our language abilities deteriorate too.

He’d stated, that some friends’ writing are truly illegible, and the fonts are varied, “they wrote like kids who’d just begun to learn how to write”. A lot of college students loved writing online, but, they couldn’t use the characters in the right ways.

And once again, this, is the EFFECTS of being TOO reliant on modern day technologies, you’d become DETERIORATED, in what you should know how to do, and, if this “trend” keeps going, then, the world is totally SCREWED here!

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