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The Guide for Their Graduation Trip Turned Out to be the Wolf Who Was Filming Them without Their Consent

A VERY bad example here, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

A tour guide, Yang utilized the chance that he was leading a group of students who graduated, set up cameras in the hotel showers and bathrooms on the trains, to secretly film the footages of the teachers and students without their knowledge or consent, afterwards, when he was found, he’d deleted the files on his computer, but the D.A. still managed to get the files of eighty-seven shots back, there were at least five hundred kids and teachers who were victims, from at least twenty-four schools, and the victims include kids in the elementary years as well.

The Hsinbei District Court gave him one crime one punishment, and found him guilty for obstructions of secret, gave him five years six months jail sentence, that he could pay a fine and not serve any hard time, but if he paid the fines, he would have to pay over two million dollars worth of it.

The courts investigated, that Yang (age 33) the tour guide, was a freelance, had been selected by multiple travel agencies, to lead the student groups.  Last year on July seventh, Yang took a certain business technical high school’s salon department to Taichung, Kaohsiung, and the beaches in Kenting for their graduation trip, a female student, while she was taking a shower in the hotel in Kaohsiung, shockingly discovered that there was a needle cam, with memory card, she’d immediately told her instructor.

The school immediately checked into the matter, and found that there was another room, with the needle cam installed too, so they’d contacted Yang, but Yang refused to meet up with them.  After reviewing the surveillance footage of the hotel, the school realized, that Yang took the time when the students went out to dine, and went into their suites, and the school started suspecting, that Yang was the one who’d installed the cameras, and called the police, Yang also admitted, that he was taping them without their consents.

The detectives took Yang’s USB and laptop into custody, but they’d not discovered any footages, and believed, that Yang must’ve deleted the files after he was discovered.

After taking the laptop into the computer department of the police stations, they were able to get the deleted files back again, and found that Yang took a total of eighty-seven segments of the teachers and students using the restrooms, showering, and changing.

The detectives also found, that since 2011, when Yang took the graduation groups to the mid-southern parts or in Hualien, Pingdong regions, he’d often used the excuse of keeping an eye on the keys of the students’ and instructors’, to use the time that they’re out dining, to get into their bathrooms, to install the spy cams, and he’d even install the cameras in the restrooms on the trains, to tape down footages of them, using the bathrooms.

Yeah, this, is how bad it got, and, this time, the wolf was one of the “professionals”, he’d only POSED as a tour guide, and, he was able to take advantage of so many people without their ever knowing that he was secretly filming them too, that still just shows, that wolves are all around you, and, sometimes, because they’d masked themselves up so well, you can’t even tell it’s them.

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Empty-Mindedness, One’s Own Worst Enemy

Translated…

Since I wrote, “Walking Out of the Confusions”, on how I was drawn into the net cafés for nine months back in my early twenties, and how it’d taken me nine years afterwards, to completely detox, I’d often received letters from parents, asking what to do when their own children were drawn in by the online games?

For instance, a short while ago, a mother wrote me, that her child is in high school, and had, skipped an entire month of classes, she knew her son was trying to escape, that after he’d come home, he’d locked himself up in his room, and logged online, to play the online games, and, no matter what she used, threats, or kind words to console him, it didn’t work, she’d asked me what to do?  And, I’d received so many letters like hers.

I’d told her flat out, that there’s no “formula” to deal with this matter, because everybody is in a different situation.  I’d written out my story, and, it was more beneficial, for those whose family members were drawn in by the online world.  Because I knew, that many of those who were addicted to the online games know that they’re addicted and know, that they shouldn’t be, but, this sort of “knowing”, can it be strong enough, to help the person stop her/his own addictions?

In this world, our strongest opponents is nobody else but ourselves.  They couldn’t fight off their own addictions, I knew, because I’d once lived like they are living right now.

So, I hoped that my story can be used as a bridge, to help the families of those who were addicted to those online games, get a closer look inside the hearts and minds of the addicted people, as for whether or not my words will help, then, it would change based off of the various people and circumstances.

But if, I must give an important key, to think about helping those who were drawn in.  I think, I’d probably say: that in this hard-to-master problem, the biggest opponent is actually not the “addiction” but the “emptiness of the hearts.”

The reason why one is drawn in by the internet, addicted to the games, is because they have emptiness of the hearts, if you just take away the addiction, it won’t work, if there’s that emptiness inside still, then, the person will surely find something ELSE to get addicted into.  You must fill up that void, so, there’s no room for the addictions to take up roots.

After clarifying this point, the most important work became clearer: find out the “source” of what you’re trying to distract yourselves from, it can be a job, a love, an interest, a goal, a faith, or, the combination of any and all of the above.

And because of this, you may treat the addictions, by telling the person who’s addicted to level off, but, the real way of treating the roots of addiction is still helping them fill up that void inside, help them find a new hobby, something to occupy their minds, some goals or directions to work towards.

Anyway, getting out from the addictions, it’s not about the speedy recovery, and you must prepare yourselves mentally, because the road to discovery will be long, AND hard, and, the members of one’s family must be willing to, work with the person long-term, in order to see the effects.

And so, overcoming addiction is what this one is about, and, the writer’s right about how people often used their addictions (whether if it’s unproductive or productive), to fill up some void on the inside, and, until you CAN find out what that void is, where it came from, the roots of it all, you will NEVER fully make the recoveries.

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Constantly Sliding on His Cell Phone, His Cell Slid into the Toilet, Kept Her Phones on Hold While She Showered, Mistook the Sound of the Water from the Shower for the LINE Alerts

The addictions, continued, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The on-the-move and online is swift and convenient, and, all you “lowered heads” need to beware that the web anxieties are creeping up on you.  The research institute of the nation did an investigation awhile ago, and showed that one out of four people in Taiwan shows “anxiety, worries” if they’re not logged online for a day; and, separated into occupations, it’d shown that those in the real estate business showed the heaviest dependencies on the web, over a-third.

“My life is closely related to the web, even when I’m abroad, I’d still needed to log on, or I’ll feel unnatural!”, a regular nine-to-fiver, Ms. Huang stated, that she couldn’t imagine one day without the internet available to her, including how her superiors at work would specify her workload using the internet, when she’s waiting for the MRT, or when she wanted to look up that restaurant where she’s scheduled to meet up with her girlfriends, and even for the sake of looking up an address abroad, sharing her photos, “I must have the access to the internet.”

The onset of the WWW made life more convenient, but, there are more in the public, showing the side-effects from using the WWW too, these people would start to show anxiousness when they don’t have the WWW available to them for just one day, and, the number of these individuals is on a steady rise, the ratio is almost one-fourth of the entire population now.

This, is the BAD side of the innovations of technologies, sure, technologies made our lives more convenient, but, getting too into these things can also be bad for you, so, too much of this “good” thing is very bad.

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A Son Who Did Nothing All Day Long for 26 Years, His Father Finally Couldn’t Stand it Anymore, Hacked at His Drug-Addicted Son

Finally the father’s had ENOUGH!!!  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A man named Kuo had been abusing drugs long-term, and does nothing to make his own living, his seventy-two year old father blamed himself for not teaching his son the right kinds of values, yesterday, he’d left a note, saying that they are going to die together, used a knife, hacked up his own son, but, his daughter came home in time, called the police, after the police interrogated the elderly man, they’d booked him for attempted murder.

“There’s nothing more that I can do, just take him away, before he hurts anybody else.”, Kuo’s father blamed himself, for spoiling his own son rotten, and was angry at how his son won’t listen to him to stop using, he’s elderly, with high blood pressure, diabetes, and, the past couple of days, he’d gotten really annoyed at how his son got very loud, causing him to be unable to sleep for four days continuously, early yesterday morn, he’d written out a note, planned to murder his son first, then, commit suicide by jumping off the building.

The police said, that after the father and son had a serious argument, the father hacked the son with the knife, but in the end, he just couldn’t kill him, seeing how his son was bleeding in the head, he’d stopped hacking, but, it’d waken up his daughter and his grandson who live with him.

Kuo who was hurt refused to get treated, the officers had to tie him down to get him on the ambulance, but he’d jumped off, screamed, “I was the one cutting myself up, it has nothing to do with my father!”, after a very long time, the paramedics finally got him to Shinko Hospital for treatment, the four knife wounds from the top of his head caused his skull to fracture, but after the surgery, he’s in stable conditions.

Kuo’s father, when being interrogated, pointed out that at age seventeen, his son had started using drugs, and from his technical high school graduation to now he’s forty-three, he still doesn’t have a stable job, does nothing all day, and he’d been jailed for drug abuse multiple times and still hadn’t changed a bit.  He’d camped out on his couch for the last twenty years, fearing that his son would go out and create trouble in the middle of the night.

And so, the father had finally had it, huh?  Because this son just won’t get cleaned, and that, is just how finally the parents cracked, after putting up with a drug-addicted son for so very long.

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A Pedophile Falsified Himself as a Doctor, and Asked a Child for Directions, the Last Time He’d Gotten Beaten Up, This Time, He Was Caught by the Police

Pedophile ALERT!!!  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

“A stranger took a boy away”, the words are actually realistic!  A man, Hsu a few days ago, enticed a little boy in the elementary school years, he’d brought the child to his place and had fellated him, the detectives chased the lead, and made an arrest, and, they’d discovered, that in March, he’d used the same methods, to get another little boy to go home with him, and got a delayed sentence of two years, and yesterday, he’d offended again, and this time, the D.A. asked for incarceration, which was granted.

The unemployed Hsu (age 23), during the month of March, rode his motorcycle across a local elementary school, and found that a little boy wasn’t with the group, and started up conversation with him, said he’ll give him a ride home, and instead, he’d taken the child to his home; back then, the boy didn’t say he was raped, and Hsu had no priors, the Changhwa District Courts gave him seven months in prison for enticing children, and allowed him to serve it two years from then.

And the news of Hsu, enticing little boys spread too quickly, it’d made the local parents panicky.  And, on October 31, Lee rode his motorcycle to another local school, and was striking up a conversation with a little boy, and was discovered by the parents there, he was beaten by the parents, and nobody reported this incident to the police.

A few days ago, a parent reported to the police that her son would get scared every time around the time school lets out, the school teachers got the child to tell her about it, he’d told her he was raped by a stranger uncle, and, after his sexual molestations of that young child, Hsu still scouted around the school.

The police reviewed the surveillance footage around the surrounding areas of the school, and found, that the child was forced onto Hsu motorcycle and driven off, and the victim children also identified him in the pictures of ex-cons that the police showed.

After Hsu turned himself in, he’d admitted, that he’d pretended to be a doctor, and asked the little boy for directions, asked him to lead the way, and after he’d enticed the child onto his motorcycle, he’d taken the child to his resident to rape, then, dropped him off close to the school afterwards.

The D.A. realized that Hsu was a multiple offender, and that there may have been other victims, and were considering sending him to get evaluated, and they’re chasing the leads to see if there had been other victims as well.

Yeah, and so, apparently that first time he got caught, the punishment wasn’t severe enough at all, and this time, something AWFUL happened to another little boy, and the police had zoomed in, and, there will be MORE pedophiles who are released, back into the “wild”, and, they will continue to DO damages into the world, because you CANNOT reform a sexual predator, a predator will always be a predator, just like in the animal world, the hunter will always be the hunter, and the preys, will always and forever BE the preys!

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He Only Wanted a Bed Buddy

As do MOST L-O-S-E-R-S, a Q&A, translated…

The man Ms. EP is dating is really causing a lot of confusions for her…

This man is already married, and, at the start of their relationship, he’d told her that bluntly, that he has a wife and kids.  The man is fifty-three years old, his wife, fifty-two, didn’t like having sex, said it was uncomfortable.  At first, the man had set up a line of defense with EP, “the protectiveness boundary for his family”, stressed that he was in love with his wife, his family, that he is never going to consider divorcing, that he’d only wanted a girlfriend he can have sex with, so, the purpose of him being with EP is quite clear, a bed buddy.

At first, EP’s morality struggled a bit, but later on, she’d gotten so used to his body, and, she’d fallen.

The man matched well with EP in sex, at the start of their relationship, they’d gone out on weekday evenings, after she’d fought hard, then, she’d have him for a weekend, when they’re out, he’d carried her luggage, and would save her some leftovers from his dinners, and would give her allowances for spending each and every month; he’d LINED her a picture a day, and, would reply to her messages too.

When they first had sex, he’d told her, she is all he wanted, and swear that he is saved, for just her.  It’d moved her, she’d asked him, “Do you love me?”, the boyfriend answered honestly, “I might infect you with something!”, and EP mistook it for his kindness toward her, so that, is why she’s confused, and she wanted to know, “is my boyfriend really in love with me, or, am I just his fuck buddy?”

A My Opinion

Sometimes, when the sex is amazing, it’d mislead the woman into believing, that there’s something more.  I’m thinking, that EP is well-matched in sex with the guy, up to now, EP didn’t ask for an alternative role other than his bed buddy, and, this, is precisely why the man is still very enjoying their time together, why he is still so gentle and kind toward her.

But, EP is already letting her mind take over, and thought that she’s deserving of his love.  And, when she starts to ask more than she has right now, maybe, they will have a spat, and, if his wife learned about her, and decides to sue, what can she do? Saving her happiness on a man who only wanted her as a fuck buddy, is like building a castle in the sand, it will be destroyed, relatively quick, go find another man who’s suitable for marriage, who can treat you like his real lover!

And so, this woman is trapped, by the AMAZING sex, and, she still doesn’t see the man’s words as excuses, and that, is how B-L-I-N-D infatuated people can and WILL be, but, after that infatuation wears off, what are you left with?  A TON of regrets, a big and empty bed, without that man that you thought loved you…

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Price for Keeping Her Youth Intact

What’s it gonna cost me this time, an arm, AND a leg???  The “price” we pay for wanting to be young AND beautiful, translated…

After the long holidays, my book club started meeting again, the owner of a bakery, Huei asked me mysteriously, “What do you think has changed on the boss’s wife?”

Because there’s a TON of different people in our book club, we’re used to call on one another, based off of our husband’s jobs, “Is there something different about her?”

Huei answered right away, “Sure, her face looked firmer, whereas from before, it was very loose.”  I closely observed the boss’s wife, her skin does look more delicate, she DID look younger.  Turns out, she’d had work done on her, but she didn’t dare talk about it with the rest of the group, fearing that we might make fun of her.

There was once that the two of us walked together, we’d gotten into conversation, she’d told me that she’d had some “work” done on herself.  She said, that her family is in business, and when everybody got together, they’d always judge one another based off of each other’s looks, what sort of moisturizer they’re all using, which plastic surgeon they went to to get work done; or whose husband was having affairs, because the wives let their bodies slide.  At first, she didn’t take their talks seriously, but, after a short while, every time she looked at her own reflections, she’d felt that she’s NO longer young, and that the years had left their tracks on her face, and so, she’d thought about plastic surgery.  Right after work was done, she did feel a bit guilty, but slowly, she saw that all around her, people she knew are getting work done, and so, she worked up the courage, and marched into the plastic surgery clinic herself too.

“After you looked younger, do you feel happier?”  I asked her, curiously.  “Looking at how young I am now, I’d feel somewhat a sense of vanity, like I was, returned to my past.  But I also know, that the cost of keeping up with youth is huge, not only in the monetary sense, but also, the adjustments on the inside, and facing the ever-changing futures too,” she’d told me.

Based off of understanding, a year later, she’d still gone into the clinics, to get the same work done, because she’s already used to seeing her own flawless face, and, if there’s a small wrinkle, a laugh line, a blemish, she’d feel awkward, and she kept getting addicted to being young.

There IS a huge price for maintaining youth, because it is, addictive.

And, all of this, is still due to VANITY and OUT of fear, fear of being old, of looking UGLY, wrinkled and everything like that, and, vanity, because once you’d done it, you’d felt great about yourself, and, you WILL keep on doing what makes you feel good about yourself, and, before you know it, you are constantly looking into that VAIN mirror, trying to see if there are blemishes, dark sunspots, and, if there is one, then, you’d start wanting to get it removed, lasered or whatever’d, and, you don’t even KNOW it, but, you ARE, addicted!

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