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Chew Toy…

That, is what, you’ll, become, after I’m done, RIPPING you, to S-H-R-E-D-S!!!

How would you like, a brand new, chew toy???  She’d, asked, then, without hearing the replies back yes or no, she’d, tossed that cheating boyfriend of her, into, the kennels…

Chew toy, that, is what you’ll become to me already, and, I play ROUGH!  I don’t play gentle with my toys, in fact, I’m, more of a cat that plays, with its food (and we all know, how we’d been taught, to, NEVER play with OUR foods here, haven’t we???), before I, gobble it up whole.

like this…

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what you’d, become! Photo from online

Chew toy, that, is what you’ll become, by the time I’m done with you, and I still eat everything, without, spitting out the bone fragments here.  Chew toy, see how you no longer, “squeaked” (that’s what chew toys do, they, S-Q-U-E-A-K!!!), when I, GNASH you down, and, you become, no fun to “play” with, so yeah, I, DROP you, and no, I’m still NOT inclined, to pick up the toys I played with, oh no, I left everything, on the floors, ‘cuz that, is how I, the spoiled BRAT do it!

Chew toy, do you want to become my chew toy?  Well, not that I’m, “hiring” one, I mean, buying me one would be, way, way, way easier, skipping all those, unnecessary, formalities of, interviewing the “applicants”, yada, yada, yada……………

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The Wills are, Good, of Course

Taiwan is still that, DUMB bat, in the war of the mammals, and the birds here, and it’s all the head of chair of Mainland Affairs, Council, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Tai-San Chiu, is an odd duck, a, “pigeon” of Tsai’s government, always spoken mildly, but, his words, were, mostly, pointless.  And, as China heard, maybe, they take his words, as a joke, or maybe, they would, roll their, eyes.  Like these past couple of days he’d suddenly, commended China and Taiwan, as best in the defenses against MERS-CoV outbreaks, and stated that the “five rules of Xi” of the head of Chinese Communist Government’s “Xi’s Five”, was of goodwill.  It’d, made people confused, as to, where he found the evidence to claim such!

with Chiu, as the “bat” in the, “production” here, video from YouTube.com

The Bat, the Beast, and the Bird | Aesop’s Fables | PINKFONG Story Time for Children – YouTube

(and yes, the link works!!!)

These words, sounded, pleasant enough to the ears sure, but, it’d, sounded, not quite right.  For instance, take that first line, the Chinese government, would never agree on.  As in China, as soon as there’s a local case of contraction, the general scans were performed, without a second word, and, the total number of administered vaccines was up to two billion to date already.  While Taiwan still relied on the donations of another country, so, who is Chiu sucking up to, stating that “both sides of the straits are, best!”?

The second line, even more, classic.  Chiu stated that the five rules of Xi were originally intended goodwill, hoping, that both sides will unify in peace one day; but two years ago, Tsai talked it down, to worthless, and equated the agreements of “the unofficial agreement between Taiwan & China through Hong Kong”, told the people NEVER to speak of it again, then, stepped on it, as a stepping stone, to her becoming the re-elected president.  Now, Chiu said that it was, goodwill, and made it looked like, Taiwan is willing with the peaceful, unification; is he giving commend to Xi, or, is it, in opposition to Tsai?

And, his ambiguous words, only he knew, that he wasn’t, directing his speech to those in Beijing, but Biden instead.  Last time he’d spoken of how the two sides are to, interact amicably with each other, right after New Year’s Eve after the long phone call Biden had with Xi;; and this time, he’d, placed Xi on that, high pedestal, perhaps, he saw Biden and Xi, talking through the nights, under the candle  lights again.

The Five of Xi is goodwill it’s no lie, the words of Xi, turned Tsai from losing, to winning instantly, of course, Xi’s words, are, beneficial to the party in power.  Chiu may be, only, using the signal words in politics, to say “thank you!”

And so, this still just showed, of how Taiwan is now, caught in the middle, like that BAT in Aesop’s fable (I think it was), was the bat a mammal or an avian?  It tried playing both sides, but in the end, after the avian and the mammals decided on hey, let’s have peace, the bat got, cast out, because it tried to “play both sides” for fools, and finally, both of the sides, wake up and see that, and that, is how this country will end too!

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Drawing Out Monsters

Monsters, they started, spilling out from the ink of the artist’s pen…

He’d, taken out that sketchpad, and then, his hand took on a life of, its own, and, the monsters, they came out, one by one, faster, than the, speed of life, he’d, sketched, page after page, after page, after page, and his monsters are still, nowhere NEAR, done with him, not by, a long, long, shot!

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like this…found online

Drawing out monsters, she started, coloring up those pages, of her childhood life, and, the monsters, made scary noises, thrilled her, she thought Teddy was her, best mate, until, the monsters, took him away, and she was, left, without, the protections of him (the Teddy bear???).  Drawing out monsters, it seemed, that there are, always, more monsters that, longed to, come out, onto the pages, that she will, NEVER be done, like those princesses that danced, through the nights, and, it’d, made her, so tired…

Drawing out monsters, she’s, finally, finished, she’s, now an adult, and, became a mother, to her own, lost, child, and, as those monsters, started, getting restless again, in her memories of her childhood, she’d, told them, to be quiet, baby needs to sleep, and, sometimes, the monsters, they became, better behaved, listened, but sometimes, they still, acted up, every now and then, and that, is where, those, anti-depressants, anti-anxiety medications came in……………

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The Government LIES, What is the Priorities of We, the People’s, Health?

How the government is, ABUSING all of us, who lives in, this god damn, @#$%ING country here!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Instead of Encouraging “Mixing of Moderna with BioNTech”, the Government Opened up a Backdoor for Medigenvac, Disappointing the Public

The sixth round of Astra-Zeneca vaccines started yesterday, the second doses, but there are still, 600,000 members of the public who are insistent on Moderna, but the Moderna vaccines are, near, extinction.  The Command Center told us often, “we can choose our desired vaccines and get it”, but it’d already known, that Moderna vaccines in the supplies, and the shipment time frames, couldn’t match up to our expectations, but refused to tell us the truths, just kept changing the rules of the games, over, over, and over, disappointment the members of the public, repeatedly.

As the platform for vaccine registry came online this July, the solid fans of Moderna got disappointed repeatedly, the CDC kept using the claims of, “we will allot as the shipments arrive”, a gift of 2.5 million doses from the U.S., were like the rain that finally came on time, allowing the over three million of the public to receive their first vaccines, and allowed some of the people got their second doses; but, the Moderna vaccines the country bought on its own weren’t quite enough, and the deliver dates were dragged out repeatedly, the command center that already had the information of the dates of delivery dates knew how many are able to receive, but the command center would rather let the solid fans of Moderna wait, and not opened up the information to the public, to the point of ignoring the already suggested by the experts, to mix the vaccines of Moderna with BioNTech to help reduce the short supplies of the vaccines.

Until yesterday, the command center sent out its, ultimatum, that the solid fans of Moderna, if they don’t add the choice of BioNTech by the seventeenth, they may have to wait until the end of the year before they get their mRNA vaccines, how do you think this made the solid fans feel, didn’t they government tell us, that we “Get to choose which vaccines we are getting”?

What’s even odder to the outside world, was that at this same time, N.T.U. will be conducting the “mixing of vaccines of Medigenvac with Moderna”, the clinical trials, and, the data will start to come in as soon as next week, and this made us think, did the command center want to, try to, sell off more Medigenvac vaccines again.  It’s only passed the EUA in Taiwan, and it is supposedly to be used, as a backup, unless there are, no other vaccines available to us, then, we must, get it, but, Medigenvac, with the president’s backing it up, drove fast all the way, lost the measures that a real drug or vaccine trials should have, and the commander of the C.D.C. even boasted, “the related drug trials don’t need to be conducted externally, otherwise, how can Taiwan, get ahead.”

But in actuality, we can expect that for the next few months, the BioNTech vaccines are due to arrive in time, and the people are more confident of this vaccine, if the government really wanted to up the second-dose coverage rate, it should be encouraging “Moderna with BioNTech” clinical trials; but instead, it’s, opening up that tiny door to Medigenvac, and called out to the members of the public who had already had their first Moderna vaccinations, to “give Medigenvac a chance”, this sort of a CDC, where does it place the people’s health welfare, wellbeing, on the scales?

And, this still just showed, how FUCKED (don’t pardon me!) up this government is, it’d been, trying, to SELL the people the “homegrown” vaccines, pushing forth its EUA, when it hadn’t even gone past the stage three trials yet, and, now, due to the shortages of Moderna vaccines, they’re, advocating, that it’s okay to mix and match Moderna with the country’s own, Medigenvac vaccines, but, who’s buying it?  The members, the followers, of the DDP, maybe, but NOT the rest of us!

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Waiting Hard on My Second Dose of Moderna, I’d Not Dared Consider the Option of Mix-and-Match with Medigenvac Vaccines

The heart of a member of the community, who’d already, gotten her/his, first vaccination of Moderna, and is now, waiting hard, on that second dose, and, these who’d already had their very first Moderna shots are more than likely, to become, the LABRATS of the government’s Medigenvac human trials, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

There are currently, more than three million members of the public who are, waiting hard, for their, second doses of Moderna vaccines, which caused the local communities to concern.

Those who’d gotten their first vaccinations of Moderna is currently already at week ten, or approaching week ten since their first, and now, they’re all, faced with not knowing where their second doses are.  Looking now, at the second type government officials locally, and central, the rate of their vaccination is as high as sixty-five percent, look at, this, sharp, contrast!

what those older generations are, waiting on…

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The impotence of the department overseeing the vaccines, made the elderly populations wait hard on their second doses of Moderna.  The news yesterday printed, that the clinical trials of Moderna vaccines with the country’s own Medigenvac vaccines had passed the moral committee’s signing off, and it’s now, in motion, and, the government will take in more than two hundred volunteers who’d already had their first Moderna vaccines, to conduct the double-blind experiment, and the results of the trials is due by the end of October soonest.

Wow!  Not only did the country’s own vaccines start off fast, the blind reveal is also, supersonic in speed, it’s quite, an attention-getter all right.  Moderna mixed with Medigenvac, the world’s one and only, clinical trial; but, Medigenvac had conducted its stage three experiments, and the effects of the vaccine for the human body still unknow, can it, be used as a mixed vaccine option?

The government told, that we’d bought over five million doses of Moderna ourselves.  To date, we’d received around 1.5 million doses, less than, thirty-percent!  Korea sent its government officials to the headquarters of Moderna in the U.S. to get their vaccines quicker, and in two short weeks, they’d received, over eight million doses provided to them.  Why can the Korean government press for the deliveries, and we can’t?  If our country can get over eight million doses like Korea had, then, we wouldn’t need to be, mixing the vaccines with Medigenvac anymore.

and are, more than likely, to become, this…

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My wife and I both had our first dose of Moderna in July, and we’re both, waiting on our second.  The country’s own, not-yet conducted stage three trial experimental vaccines, we don’t want, nor do we dare, become, the “testing subjects” for!

And so, this was, the government’s plans all along, to make all those who’d received their first Moderna vaccines, to get injected with the country’s own, and this is still just, bullshit, this government does NOT care about the wellbeing of we the people, it just, cared about, its gains: printing out those, bullshitting vouchers, spending billions of our, the taxpayers money, dollars, keep on, delaying the deliveries of the vaccines, and, pushing through the passing of the country’s own vaccines, without a stage three trial, and there’s, nothing WE the people (we are, the people, are we not???), can do about it!

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Is Green the Color of Democracy?

Green is the color of, COMMUNISM, or, DICTATORSHIP, shall I say, seeing how the DDP is, screwing this country over still!  Commentaries off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

This year, the celebration of National Day, the visuals, just as expected, the colors of our flag “red, white and blue” are, taken off, once again.  Since Tsai’s party took office, the colors on the celebration of National Day had always been different, with the set color green, and this year, they called it “Democracy Green” too.  Green is assigned to springtime, earth, biodomes, peace, it’s also, the traditional colors of the Islamic religion too; but, Tsai is a first, to connect the color green with democracy.

Tsai government avoided the colors of our flag in its uses of colors in celebration of National Day, in the name of becoming more creative, but, the government’s selecting the color green gave it away.  Green is the color representing the DDP, meaning, that they wanted green to be our national color; adding the title, “Democracy Green”, hinting, that only the DDP, ruling this country will, make this country “free”.

But, does the DDP really, stand for democracy?  The government called out “democracy”, but, its actions marched, leaned towards an authoritarian kind of ruling.  Using the claims of “changing the system”, going after the party not in power; using the name of “national security”, and, demolishing all other beliefs, not in line, with the party’s own; using the excuses of fighting off false news, to take away our rights to free speech; and, turning all the independently operating facilities, into their own, and they’d even, locked that public voting session, back inside, the bird cages too, all of this showed, “using the claims of democracy, and going against what democracy entailed!”

the colors of the party in power of this country currently…

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found online

Rather than calling it “democracy green”, it’s the DDP who has the ultimate right, to define, WHAT democracy IS.  During the rule of the DDP, democracy is only a false front, to fend for one’s power of office, instead of something the government should fight hard to achieve.  The “Green Fears” had taken place of the “White Fear” since the over thirty year long democratizing of Taiwan; and, the “Democracy Green” became, its, biggest, irony!

The colors aren’t right or wrong, but the government used an assortment of manipulative measures, to add that positive overtone to the party’s colors; it’s just, that even if the adjectives stacked up, it won’t change a fact, that the DDP did NOT make the color green into the color of democracy, it’d made the color green, into, a huge, joke of, democracy instead.

And so, this, is how hard the government is, trying, to turn the country’s people, by, feeding them all the party-related news, by brainwashing us, and we got no choice, as the freedom of the press is already slashed (from the T.V. news station getting pulled off the air awhile ago!), the news media is now, one solitary color: green, and there’s, nothing that we the people can do about it, because the government is growing too powerful, and we the people, gave up our right to free speech, right to free press, to the government here.

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The Distance-Education Classes are Burning Money, with the Students from Lower Economic Statuses, Fighting Hard, to Stay Alive, the Taiwan Fund for Family & Children Stepped in to Help Out

Call this, the, schooling, GAP if you will!  How the students from not-well-enough economically backgrounds are, suffering because of the outbreaks here!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Distance education had become the primary means to teach and learn due to the outbreaks now, comparing to how the children in the elementary and middle school years in the lower end of the socioeconomic statuses, the government helps out, giving them the giving them the technologies, but for the college students from the lesser m the lesser backgrounds, they can only, rely on themselves.  The Taiwan Fund for Children & Families found, that for over a year, a lot of the students in the college levels receiving the sponsorship told, that the original laptop they were using for their papers, are growing old, and couldn’t handle the means of online education classes, and now, they’d had to, come up with the money they needed, for the new laptops, to up the charges on their cell phone plans too.

The college student, Chang told, that the laptop he used from before, was okay for the research papers he had for university, but, as the classes, the lectures are all online, the webcam, the typing of his papers, multiple functions at the same time, causing his laptop to freeze up a lot often, making it hard for him to get caught up with the classes, and, all the money he’d earned from his part-time jobs, already went to pay for his living and school costs, there’s, not that much that he has left.

The manager of Taipei’s Taiwan Fund for Children & Families, Hsieh told, that based off of statistics, there are about eighty-percent of college level students who received the help, for paying their tuitions, their fees of living, started part-timing, but since the outbreaks, a lot of the classes went online, and it’d, caused the digital difference to become ever the more apparent, a lot of the students who are receiving the foundation’s help are troubled, because their laptops are, too old to function.

Hsieh said, that “education is the best means of getting out of poverty”, but for over a year since the outbreaks occurred, the college students from lower end of the socioeconomic statuses are, having it, harder than ever, especially in times of the epidemic, learning online became what’s trending now, it’d, added to the economic burdens of the students from lesser backgrounds, she’d called out to the public, to help support these kids on their, last mile of education, to help them, get on the starting lines, evenly with the rest of the students.

And so, this, is how the epidemic, tries people on all levels, because, there are those students from lesser backgrounds, who are, in school, and, with their laptops being, used for, five, six years on end the systems bound to, run slower, and, they can’t, catch up, because they don’t have the extra money, to get a new laptop, they’re, having it hard enough as is, making their own tuition payments, their rents, utilities, etc., etc., etc., etc.

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Uncle Sam’s “Getting Ahead Program”

How after the U.S. left the Middle East in a HUGE mess, and, ran!  Commentaries off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

In less than two weeks, more than 120,000 military personnel departed the airports of Kabul, left a record in transportation by air in history.

American’s abandonment of Afghanistan left the country in a mess, chaos.  Earlier, Biden announced: the American military services plans to retreat out of Afghanistan completely on September 11th of this year, on the twentieth anniversary of the attacks on New York World Trade Center, symbolizing, that the mission of stopping terrorist actions had been completed.  The press asked, “can the local Afghani government fight off the Taliban on their own after the American armed services and N.A.T.O. withdraw the troops completely?

Biden’s answer was affirmative: the U.S. set up the foundations of democracy, with the popularly voted president and the congress; setting up the three hundred thousand modern military supplies from the U.S., it’s more than enough to fight off the Taliban.  Before he finished, the news of the major cities in Afghanistan, fallen to the terrorists, even the capital of Kabul too.  The places of gathering for the members of the public, is the ideal places of terrorists for the attacks; the members of ISIS-K guarded the gates of the airports locally, and, a suicide bomber detonated, killing thirteen of the American servicepeople, with fifteen injured, and, the locals who died outside of the airport numbed up to ninety, then, the number was, recounted, and reported to 175.

the foreign policies of Uncle Sam…found online

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The death and injuries of American citizens on foreign soils is something major, and Biden went under the bus by the American public for it; the pregnant wife of a deceased military serviceman, on Fox, cussed the president she’d voted for out; the congressmen of the Democratic Party started up the petition to impeach.  And yet, no U.S. president had been, successfully, impeached in history.

To get out of Afghanistan as soon as possible, setting up a sturdy foundation for democracy.  During Obama’s term, he’d set up the plans to withdraw the military services out, Trump set up a contract with the Taliban, by this May, all armed services stationed in Afghanistan came back home.  Biden was the one, seeing everything through, it’s, a good thing.

But, the “getting ahead” of the withdrawal of the military services was too awful to witness!  Estimating the conditions incorrectly, false intel, leaving in a hurry, leaving massive amounts of weapons behind, in and out of the airports of Kabul, a huge chaos, with deaths, and those who got, severely, injured; then, run away, with the tail between the legs.

Uncle Sam had trained the armies in Afghanistan for many years, setting up a democracy, claimed the human rights beliefs; the Taliban destroyed all of that, in an, instant.  The U.S. spent a total of two hundred billion dollars in Afghanistan, it’s, a loss from the very start.  The capitalists are good in keeping the books, and, if they can’t afford the costs, then, they quickly, abandons ship, and the promises, the pacts, the agreements for peace, all left behind, like they’re, nothing.

Biden stated, “the war the Afghani soldiers wouldn’t even fight, why do we sent the American armed forces to die!  The U.S. will NOT bleed for the cowards!” so, who else are, cowards?  Taiwan?  South Korea?  My good friend in Korean worried, that how would Uncle Sam handle it, if the stubborn, just as poor Korean armed forces like the Taliban came over to fight?

The U.S. advised Taiwan, to: buy massive amounts of weapons, torpedoes, drones, the grenade launchers, and other forms of weapons with great precisions, to train the armed services to fight guerrilla in the jungles, the cities, and the mountains here.  Guerrilla warfare was the “getting ahead program” that Uncle Sam designed for Taiwan?  But, with this younger generation who are focused on the tiny blessings of life, I’m afraid, none of them are willing to, engage, in guerrilla warfare, are they, cowards too?

No, we just, want to, keep our selves alive, after all, that is, what it’s, all about, isn’t it?  SURVIVAL!  And with the U.S.’s constantly, making ITS, empty promises to protect the rest of the world from terrorist attacks, yada, yada, yada, look how scattered, it’d, left, abandoned the “ship” called Afghanistan, not to mention, Iraq, Vietnam, from the sixties, and, history is still, repeating itself, it’s just, that the players are not the exact same, there are, the newly entered into the ring: Taiwan, China, etc., etc., etc., etc., and yeah, it’s still, a total, circus scene all right!!!

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The Five-Times Voucher, is Five-Times Environmentally, Unfriendly

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the guy, getting his, however many minutes under the SPOTLIGHT! Photo from online

The STUPIDITY of this government of ours, still waiting our (I PAID my taxes too here, you know???) money!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The head of legislation, Su introduced to the people, the blown up copied version of the five-times voucher: where the glow-in-the-dark fibers are used, where are the watermarks, etc., etc., etc., and the places where the color-changing prints were used.  He was really, enthusiastic, which showed, exactly, why the five-times vouchers are, impractical; and, there are, a lot of the vouchers that won’t even, touch our hands yet, and get sent into, the shredders.

The three-times vouchers, and the five-times vouchers, are all short-lived products that can only be used once, and tossed out, totally against the environmentally-friendly claims.  The more pretty the printing looked, the more costly, which goes to show, how the government is, waste even more of the taxpayers, money.  The printed bills by the Central bank on average, gets twenty-two exchanges of hands per bill, the thousand dollar bills about two and a half years.  But, the five-times, and the three-times vouchers are all used, only once, for some, they don’t even get touched by our hands, and, get send into the shredders.

and, here are, what those, costly, environmentally, UNfriendly, cash vouchers look like…

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in the amounts of $200 and $500 N.T.s

For two consecutive years, Su pushed for the vouchers program, it doesn’t mean that he cared a bit about the economy, what he enjoyed, was being under that spotlight, gaining everybody’s, attention.  It’s the preshow advertisements now, and, as the vouchers get passed out, another round, watching how we have to, stand in the line, to get the vouchers, it make him, ecstatic, how many shows of getting him self onstage, how could he possibly be willing to, just WIRE the five-thousand dollars CASH into our accounts?

The Five-Times Vouchers are printed on the high-end papers imported from Europe, the printing on each sheet is three dollars, and the cost of the entire program is over $20 billion N.T.s.  And although, it wasn’t our trees that were being chopped down, but Taiwan is chopping the trees from the rest of the world, on EARTH, and, as the Taiwanese only used the vouchers once, they get sent to the shredders, isn’t it, completely, insane?  What’s ironic is, the printing and the shredding of the vouchers are done by ONE single agency, one hand, in life, and death.

Su does NOT have the concepts of sustainability, and environmentalism, and, who will, appreciate his means?

And yeah, this is, the STUPIDITY of this, god damn, FUCKING (don’t pardon me this time!) government of ours, and there’s, NOTHING we the people CAN do about it, because we are, ENSLAVED here, hello, hello, hello???  Am I the ONLY one who gets this???

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Showing the Precise Amount of Care & Concerns Your Children Need

A lesson, on how to interact with your children, now that, they’re, grown, for M-E-N!!!  Translated…

After reading, “It’s Not that I’m Too Aloof, it’s Because, I Never Felt, the Passions” on July 31st, my head bobbed up and down repeatedly through her article, this was, the exact replica of my own, family.

“Your son is out of school now?  What’s he been up to?  When will your daughter be home?  Will she buy the milk?………”, he sat on the couch, in the living room, watching T.V., and inquired, and heaven only knows, how many times, he’d, repeated these, same questions, at first, I’d told him, “I’ll call and check”, then in the end, it really, got to me, and I’d, barked back, “you can call the kids up too, why do I always have to be the middleman?”

As a father, he’d had it easy since the start, while I am on the clock, twenty-four seven, year round, a nanny slash secretary, without pays, for close to, three decades already, never went on strike, nor gotten lackluster over my duties of work.  But, with the kids growing up, leaving home, it became more and more difficult to know where they are at any moment of day, and my husband would, yap, yap, yap, wanted the answers to his inquiries, and I find it, harder, and harder, to satisfy his, inquiries.

When the children are still younger, he’d poured everything he had into work, no days, no nights, nor vacations either, and his schedules were completely opposite from us, mother and children’s, and it’s next to impossible when the kids want to see their dad, and when we go out to eat, or to travel, he’d, vanished, and so, if there are things that they wanted each other to know, I am the bridge, the phonelines, and after awhile, this became, the way we’d, interacted in the family, and now, even as they were only, steps apart, or separated by the walls of the different rooms of the house, my husband still used ME as a telephone, and I’m, having it too hard now.

illustration from UDN.com

愛呀,得恰到好處。圖/豆寶

“Why don’t you ask them yourself?  You always complained how the kids don’t get closer to you, and the connections are established through interactions, if you don’t start reaching out, and the kids are, reactive, how can you get close?”

He was silent from not knowing what to respond, patted his own nose, turned, and walked to my daughter’s bedroom door, and asked, in a, hesitant voice, “I’m making some noodles, do you want some too?”

My daughter who was working on her papers, was a bit, shocked at first, then, replied back, sure, waited until she was finished with what she was doing, she’d, gone into the kitchens, helped with the chopping of the vegetables, and the plating too…………the two of them started with that awkward silence transpiring between them, to laughing and talking, it’s such a moving scene for a “bystander” like me, I’d, started, secretly, filming this, such a precious shot of gentle father and wonderful daughter, worth me, saving.

“See, I knew you could do it, your giving to them actively, they will, feel it, and will, reciprocate too, like how when we’d gone to the supermarkets yesterday, she’d gotten reminded that you wanted milk and grabbed a carton for you, ‘giving’ and ‘receiving’ love, it’s, both ways, and, this heat between the two of you you’d, established, will need work.”

As he’d heard my analysis, and my console, he’d, started, stopped ordering people around, and, often used LINE to ask our daughter how she was doing, gone to her bedroom, to see if there’s something our daughter needed…………I’m glad, that the man of the house if BACK!  But recently, my daughter asked me to convey to her father, ‘don’t knock on my door so often and call, I’m in a business conference call, I can’t reply.’”

Well, think it’s time, that I teach my husband, how to, take back that constant show of care and concerns, so the love he expresses to our daughter, is just right, not too much, just, enough.

And so, this is how, men all need to get, TRAINED, to interact with their families, because at work, they may be the hotshot bosses, barking out all the orders to their employees, and back at home, they carried that same mode to interacting with their loved ones, and that can be, problematic, and in this particular case, the wife is still, the middleman, unfortunately…

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