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Getting Out from Postpartum Depression

Translated…

Upon hearing recently, that a woman committed suicide due to postpartum depression, after work, my husband inquired, if I’d felt okay lately?  If something’s up, I needed to let him know.

Compared to three years ago when my firstborn got here, my husband had metamorphosed from that self-centered big boy, into a man who puts his family first.  That year, my first child came, my husband’s “living life his way” made me feel so very helpless and alone, the “active participations” from my in-laws made me feel even MORE pressures; plus the economical burdens, I’d washed my face with my tears every single day.

Even after my month long recuperation is up, the anxieties, the self-mutilations, even the thought of taking my child with me to suicide, still circled around my mind again and again.  I’d told my husband of it, and, he’d blamed me for being too anal.  What’s most impressive was, when I’d told him I’d wanted to get professional medical help, he’d replied, “You should go to Africa instead, fighting to survive there every single day, that’ll keep your mind away from feeling depressed!”

Whether or not it was a joke, I’d still can’t believe, that someone who’d educated as he, a dentist, graduated from a public university, can say something so awful.  And, if my husband, who had medical trainings behaved as such, then, what trials must the other women who are also dealing with postpartum depression be faced with, would they be able to, receive the understandings of their separate families?

Thankfully, I have a supportive group of church friends, they’d helped take care of my child, took me to the free counseling sessions offered by the church; the counselor, after knowing my situation, encouraged me to see a professional.  In the seeing of the psychiatrist, I’d found, that other than the medications, the national health insurances also covered the talk therapy sessions as well.

Through the talking therapy session, I’d slowly felt better, learned to introspect and gotten some techniques to help me get along better with my husband.  From the three to four times fight a day, to one fight every three to four months, and now, we have two babies, and are expecting a third.  My friends joked about how intimate I must be getting with my husband, driving us to have so many children.  Yeah, certainly, compared to the postpartum depression experiences, we are now, interacting, so much better.  Postpartum depression may be a crisis of a marriage, but it can also be a chance, to better your interactions with your partners too.

And so, this woman worked, very hard, to get herself OUT of her own postpartum troubles, and, postpartum depression is still NOT a myth, you LOSERS, it’s real, and so, the next time your separate ladies start showing signs after they gave birth to YOUR young, DO show us some kindness!

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The Infant Girl Had a Fractured Skull & Hematoma, the Police Suspecting the Mother

From the Front Page Sections, translated…

A short while ago, a two-months old baby girl was sent to the emergency room by her father, the paramedics found, that she had a skull fracture, and was bleeding internally, she’s still in a coma right now.  The police discovered, that on the day of the incident, the child was placed in her mother’s care, the mother was seemingly drunk, emotionally unstable, and, the police is checking to see if the infant had been abused.

The McKay Memorial Hospital that took the child into their care stated, that the girl is in a status three comatose, and is being resuscitated currently.  The child’s skull hadn’t formed properly yet, it still hadn’t closed completely either, that the subdural hematoma should be caused by trauma.

The pediatrician told, that a two-month old baby, the skull hadn’t harden yet or formed completely, that once subdural hematomas was discovered, so long as the bleeding is stopped quickly, it shouldn’t cause the infant into a comatose, nor is it like the adult cases where the blood clots’ pressuring the brain, causing visible after effects.  But this infant is in a stage three comatose, clearly, there’s a massive amount of blood, that she’d been physically, traumatized.

The police stated, that last month at ten o’clock, on the evening of the 25th, the infant’s father returned home, found that the baby was snoring as she slept, felt that it was not normal, took her to the doctors, and that, was when he was told, of how she was bleeding internally.

The police said, that before the infant’s mother married, she had been hospitalized for mental difficulties; and on the day of the incident, as the police went to her house, they’d found her, emotionally unstable, she’d stumbled around, was seemingly drunk.  Asked her why the child was injured?  The mother didn’t answer, and she’d become very emotionally unstable; the police will wait for the mother to feel better, then, take her statements.

And so, perhaps, the child just wouldn’t stop crying, and this mother that’s stuck with staying at home to care for her went NUTS, who knows, plus, it’s only been two months after the child was born, and, it is, right around this time, that those postpartum symptoms start to show, I’m thinkin’………

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When Motherly Love Fails a Mother, on Postpartum Depression

Here comes those baby blues, from The New York Times that came with today’s Chinese papers, written by P. Belluck.

Postpartum depression isn’t always postpartum.  It isn’t even always depression.  A fast-growing body of research is changing the very definition of maternal mental illness, showing that it is more common and varied than previously thought.

Scientists say new findings contradict the longstanding view that symptoms begin only within a few months after childbirth.  In fact, depression often begins during pregnancy, researchers say, and can develop any time in the first year after a baby is born.

Recent studies also show that the range of disorders women face is wider than previously thought.  In the year after giving birth, studies suggest, at least one in eight and as many as one in five women develop symptoms of depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, or a combination.  In addition, predicting who might develop these illnesses is difficult, scientists say.  While studies are revealing clues as to who is most vulnerable, there are often cases that appear to come out of nowhere.

But a large analysis of thirty studies estimated that about a fifth of women had an episode of depression in the year after giving birth, about half of them with serious symptoms.

Jeanne Marie Johnson, 35, of Portland, Oregon, had a happy pregnancy, but she began having visions right after her daughter, Pearl, was born.  She said she imagined suffocating her while breast-feeding, throwing her in front of a bus or “slamming her against the wall.”

She said she was horrified at the idea of hurting her baby, and did not carry out the acts she envisioned.  Yet while overlooking a shopping mall skating rink, “I pictured myself leaning over the bridge and letting her fall and bust like a watermelon,” she said.

Most women experience such “intrusive thoughts,” as experts call them, never hurt their children.  Some take extreme measures to protect their babies.  One woman “scooched downstairs on her butt for months because she’d imagined throwing her baby downstairs,” said Wendy N. Davis, the executive director of Postpartum Support International.

But studies indicate that maternal stress may undermine women’s ability to bond with or care for their children, and that children’s emotional and cognitive health may suffer.

A complex interplay of genes, stress and hormones cause maternal mental illness, scientists say.  “Hormones go up a more than a hundredfold,” said Dr. Margaret Spinelli, the director of Women’s Program at Columbia University in New York.  After birth, hormones plummet, a roller coaster that can “disrupt brain chemistry,” she said.

Some women are genetically predisposed to react intensely to hormone changes.  And some are more sensitive to stresses like difficulties with family, finances, childbirth or parenting.

Maternal mental illness was recognized as early as the fifth century B.C., when Hippocrates proposed that fluid from the uterus could flow to the head after childbirth and cause delirium.

The latest version of Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the established reference for psychiatric illnesses, said symptoms often include “severe anxiety and even panic attacks,” and estimated that half of what is considered major postpartum depression actually begins during pregnancy.

In a 2013 study, the largest screening of women for postpartum depression to date, Dr. Katherine L. Wisner of Northwestern University in Illinois and colleagues found that fourteen percent of ten thousand women had depression four to six weeks after birth, but that for a third of them it started during pregnancy.

Other research indicated that symptoms could emerge any time in the first year.

Another 2013 study assessed 461 women at two weeks and six months postpartum, and it found each time that eleven percent had obsessive compulsive symptoms, about four times the rate for the general population of women.  But it was “not the same eleven percent,” said an author, Dr. Dana Gossett, the chief of gynecology and obstetrics at Northwestern.  “Half got better by six months, and another half developed O.C.D.”

Emily Guillermo, 23, of Horizon City, Texas, had a smooth experience with her first child, even though her husband was deployed with the Army in Iraq and watched Christopher’s birth on Skype.  Then, despite using contraception, she conceived again.  She said she and her husband agreed to abort but considered after learning she was 20 weeks pregnant.  She said she descended into depression, feeling “like my body had been invaded.”  When Benjamin was born, Ms. Guillermo recalled thinking, “You were not supposed to be made.”

During several baths, “I held the water over his face until he started to flail, he could not breathe,” she said, “I was hearing a voice saying, ‘Do it and he will stop crying.  He’s not going to wake Christopher from his nap.’”

Something would make her stop.  But for a few seconds, she could not remember “if I had killed him, or if he had drowned, or what I had done,” she said.

Benjamin became frightened.  “When I’d walked into his troom, he’d burst into tears.”

Ms. Guillermo once tried to jump from a car as her husband drove but she said he stopped her, telling her: “You will love Benjamin.  We just need to get you on the right medication.”

Finally, a combination of drugs, plus the help of Postpartum Support International, worked when Benjamin was nine month old.

In Ms. Johnson’s case, she said she felt suicidal and escaped emotionally by drinking.  She finally agreed to take medication.  That, combined with a support group, helped.  Now, he relationship with two-year-old Pearl is loving an untroubled, said Ms. Johnson, who sees a therapist, but no longer takes medication.

She said: “There are still times at the end of the day where I don’t have energy left.  But even at really big stressful times, I haven’t felt panicky feelings or intrusive thoughts.  It’s just a whole world of difference.”

And so, Postpartum Depression AND Postpartum Psychosis is NOT something that we women make up at all, it’s how our hormone ran out of whack after we give birth, and, so, dudes, DO show some kindness to your wives (one at a time), after all, we are still the ones, carrying YOUR babies, and, do NOT call us crazy if we get in a bad mood either!!!

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Getting Over Postpartum Depression

How do I get rid of those baby blues??? Translated…

After twenty hours’ WORTH of intensive labor, after I’d gone all out, having my child, I felt completely spent.

And still, while I was trying to catch my breaths, I’m faced with the next task, breastfeeding. The three days I was in the hospital after my child was born, I had been working hard to learn how to breastfeed my child, and how to pump the milk out. And the nurses in the nursery kept reminding me of how I need to breastfeed and to pump often, otherwise, I wouldn’t have enough milk in me.

And, with the four-hours of sporadic rests I’d gotten, I felt exhausted, and I’d cried every single day. I’d hold my child, and he would cry, I’d put him down, he still cried, when I couldn’t breastfeed him right, he’d cry; when he’d cried for no reasons at all, I’d followed his lead too.

In this situation, my husband had fallen into a deeper state of depression than I had. He’d watched me getting spent all day long by the baby, felt that he was being neglected, although he would take care of my needs, but within the third sentence of our conversations, we’d start to spat again, “I’d gained a child but lost a wife, you no longer treat me like you used to anymore!”, and hearing him say that, it made me feel even MORE helpless.

Thankfully, there are people at the nursing center who are professionals in taking care of me and my child, and all the ladies that brought the meals and picked up after me were extremely kind to me, they’d told me jokes, and how they had gone through the child-rearing processes, reminded me to go to the Yoga course, offered by the nursing center, to get to know other mothers, to exchange our experiences on how to take care of the children. When my friends came to visit me, they’d give me courage to face my own child.

The first month after I’d returned home from the afterbirth center, I was still unconfident about breastfeeding, I’d made a TON of “S.O.S. calls” back to the center, and they were very patient in explaining what to do. Later when I’d gone back to the hospital to get my follow-up, I met a senior nurse in the nursery, turns out she remembered me, asked me how I had been, and told me that if I didn’t have enough milk, what kind of things I should do, this made me extremely grateful.

The time flies, and I can now, face my child on my own, and my husband’s “postpartum depression” had also subsided.

And now, my child is already one, and I’d gotten a firsthand experience of the joys of motherhood. Thinking back to that period of my life, I still feel extremely lucky, because had I not had the supports of all of those people, my husband and I would’ve had more difficulties facing the birth of my son.

So, postpartum depression is NOT a myth then? And the reason W-H-Y we women may have postpartum depression would be because??? Oh yeah, it’s that H-O-R-M-O-N-E “thing” again, and think what we would face, I mean, the kid was inside of us, relying on us for her/his survival, and now, all of a sudden, s/he came out, and can breathe on her/his own, and we’d feel loss, because our kid had “separated” from us, and that, is only the beginning, and, many of us still have to deal with our separate high competitive occupations AFTER we gave birth, and we still have to keep our husbands’ (1 @ a time) DICKS in check, are you kidding me?

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