The column by Jimmi Liao, on the effects of spoiling your young, translated by, me…
This is the LAST Time I Take You Flying
You Will, Fly on Your Own Next Time.
I Really Don’t Like
That Tone of, Voice, You’re Speaking to Me in…
the artwork of Jimmi Liao, courtesy of UDN.com
And, as you still may have guessed, this is still, an ABUSER/ENABLER interaction, as the one who’d taken the individual on her/his back to fly, got used to being, SAT on (‘cuz s/he is the bird???), and the SPOILED BRAT got used to having everything provided to her/him by the bird, why the @$#% would s/he need to stand on her/his own, I mean, you got someone, covering YOUR sorry ASS, and therefore, you NEVER, learn to wipe up your own messes, and so, this shit is still NOT, good at ALL!
Giant B-A-B-Y, and the wife’s hovering over her husband like he is her son still don’t do SHIT to help this LOSER to stand up on his own! Translated…
After my husband retired, most of time, he’d stayed at home. He’d loved fixing things up, patching things around the house, but there’s not that much in our own that needed his handiwork.
I’d found, that as he saw me going out for my part-time work, he seemed a bit, envious. I’d worked for two days of the week at an internet shop, based off of what the customers ordered, I’d find the items, packed them up, stuck on that label for delivery on. I’d told him that work was like a treasure hunt to me, with a bit challenge, that it’s quite fun. He’d wanted me to ask my boss if he could work there also, I’d told my boss, “my husband is more like a woman than I in personality, he’s agile with his hands, really good at packaging, and he would make the recipients of the packages feel they were receiving presents.”, but unfortunately, my boss only wanted to hire women.
I’d turned to the internet to search in the find-a-job websites, to skim through all the want ads, filtered out the ones that weren’t fitting, and I’d thought about whether or not I should, sent my husband’s résumé in. Sorted through the listings page by page, and after a long while, an opening for a job popped up, as I’d read what the work entailed, I’d asked my husband, “the place hiring is close to home, and it’s what you do best, do you want to try it?”
I’d texted the employer, told that my husband did NOT have an account with the jobseekers website, that I will inquire on his behalf, told that he was very responsible, and very careful in his work, just retired a while ago, he’d appeared only fifty, but I’d not gotten a response back.
illustration from UDN.com
Three days later, I’d told my husband to call the employer on his own, he’d told him, that it didn’t matter if he found work again, and said that the office listed isn’t far from where we live, why not just go and check it out in person. He got dressed, readied to go out, I’d, found, that the employer already left a message early in the morn. My husband inquired, “go with me……”
I rode the scooter, he sat on the back, as we arrived, I’d, observed a bit outside the building, told him to be courteous, to not talk out of turn. Not long afterwards, the gates rolled up right on time, and a honest looking man exited out of the place, introduced the work environment to my husband, explained to him what his work would be. It’d sounded like he would have to squat for long hours at a time on the floor, I’d worried that it might hurt his back, and asked, “can he try it first?”, after the business owner gave the response that it would be okay, I’d, left him there.
I’d gone to pick him up after work, he’d told me, “sorting through the camping tents is like playing, I get to exercise my body, make some extra cash, not tiring at all.”, as I’d heard him told me, the worries of my entire day, vanished. I’d asked the man, “does my husband look like he’s only in his fifties?”, he’d responded, “he looked less than!”, we’d asked him, if he needed the help, do think of my husband.
A few days later, no response, and I could only text the owner of the shop privately. Waited for another day, message not read still. I’d picked up my cell phone, called, “hello, is there no more work these few days? My husband………” then suddenly, my daughter’s word hit me, that when her boss see the high school age interns, interviewing with their mothers accompanying, the boss didn’t have good impressions. I’d immediately hung up the phones, told my husband, “you want to look for work, you need to go on your own, if I go with you, you are less likely to get hired.” He’d told me, “my wife helps me finding work, people would feel, that we are relating well to one another, it would make me look better.” “those around would think that you are a giant baby!” “This is NOTHING like how the younger generations becoming independent, you are, my agent, of course, it’s your job, to help me find the work!”
Yeah, can’t get through to him.
Using his own wife as a, crutch here, maybe? Or, he’s just, too shy to ask, and, this will, damage this man’s opportunity to find work, even IF he had all the skills required for the job, and, don’t know what’s going on in the mind of this husband, is he, too clingy to his wife, or is he, naturally, too, “shy”, or is it, something else, entirely, different??? Nobody knows, save for his own wife!
This is, for someone who was, legally allowed to, drink…
The sponsors of a concert, blamed for allowing her to drink and drive, and this is still, SCAPEGOATING, that the woman is just, too, irresponsible, I mean, she is, already considered, legally an, ADULT already, and, who can control her, if she wanted to get behind the wheels after she’d had, one too, many?
And yet, the sponsors of a concert, are blamed, for allowing her to drink and drive, what the @#$%? And, this would, open up the doors, to all those who got killed by drugs or alcohol, because, it wouldn’t be the abusers, the users of these, substances who are, responsible for what they’re doing to their, bodies (putting poisons in themselves, and, getting too high to function, rationally!).
The sponsors of a concert, blamed for allowing her to drink and drive, for starters, it wasn’t the sponsors of that concert who’d pointed a gun to her head, told her to, down how many shots of vodka, how many cans of beer, how many glasses of whiskey or whatever to get her plastered, was it? NO! She is an adult, who CAN (or you’d think that she would be able to!) make the decisions to drink or to not on her own.
And yet, as she crashed the vehicle, the sponsors of that concert where she’d attended previously, where alcohol was available for, consumption, was, BLAMED.
Uh…ya THINK??? And this is what the experts here, only started, figuring out too, wow, are they, slow here or what??? Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
With the eighteen-year-olds as adults citizenship rights, the dropping out of school of college and university students no longer needed consents from the parents. But, for most, parents are the ones, paying the tuitions still, and they believed that they should have the right to know if their own children are dropping out, and why. The education groups stated, that the parents should let the children try the schools out first, and co-own the responsibilities of the rights and benefits, otherwise, the children entering into the world will get hurt too easily, and the parents who are all-powerful may end up having incompetent children.
The many professors of the colleges and universities called the parents who don’t let go “helicopter parents”, keep on, spinning around the children. A professor from Poli-Sci University stated, that some of the parents are too forceful, believed that “we’re the ones paying for your tuition”, therefore, we have the rights to know, and disregarded that their children are all eighteen-year-old adults, and, their actions are painted over as “being understanding of how their young couldn’t afford their own tuitions yet”, but the students would more than likely, interpret the parents as “meddling in their lives”.
and, this would be what that, looked, like!
and it’s, NOT, “pretty”…photo from online
The Taiwanese Youth Democracy Foundation’s Vice President, He told, that as the students make any major decisions, the parents will be notified after these decisions are made and the school told. But, the students also need to know, that being “adults” means that they’re, shouldering more responsibilities, for instance, if they’re involved in a fender-bender, the parents are no longer responsible as collaterals that needed to pay on their children’s, behalf.
The secretary of the Taiwanese Youth League, Lin pointed out, dropping out of the schools, is the decisions of the children, the parents should respect it, after all, “the all-knowing parents may have incompetent children”, the schools are relatively safe as is, that it’s best that the students can trip and fall in front of the professors and parents, but they should not be ill-prepared for the world after they graduate, and get hurt.
And so, this is just how, Asian parents, covered for their own kids’ asses, I mean, it’s ETCHED into these Asian parents’ belief, that WE must be responsible for our own “young”, no matter how old they are, even if they’re all, in their, twenties, thirties, forties, fifties, sixties, seventies, as LONG as we’re still living, we will, keep them safe, like they were all, babies, because, they are, our babies, no matter how OLD they get!
And this is EXACTLY the attitude that’s, preventing all of your adult babies from manning UP, taking responsibilities for what they can’t do (i.e. keep a job, make their own marriages work, extramarital affairs, yada, yada, yada), because, all of these adult BABIES need to do is, WAH-WAH-WAH and you, FUCKING (don’t pardon me here!) would run on over, and kiss all those adult sons-of-bitches, and adult ladies on their, BOO-BOOS!
When your children who are growing up started wailing when they can’t handle things in their own lives, what, will you, parents, do??? The results of spoiling your own ADULT children, R-O-T-T-E-N, translated…
I’m an English instructor, I’d assigned my students a page of terms to look up once for their homework assignments, for them to write the meanings of the terms in Chinese, and the pronunciations out. As the assignments were picked up, I’d discovered, that a student who’d, not paid ANY attention in the class before turned in a perfect assignment this time, just as I was about to, praise him, I’d found, that his page of words had been wrinkled up, stained, and that there was a word with the different handwriting compared to the students next to a term. As I inquired, the student told me, that it was his mother who’d looked up the words for him, and written the definitions down for him, all he had to do, was to copy what she’d put down, then, erase his own mom’s work. Such a shame, that there was, just that one term that wasn’t, erased completely, that busted him.
this is what you, MOTHERS are, “making”!
and they’d stopped being “cute”, a long, long, L-O-N-G time, ago! Photo from online
I’m well aware of the hearts of the parents in the world, sure, but, there should be a boundary to the responsibilities. The children can’t be well-studied in English, can’t write the essays well enough, doesn’t that mean, that they need more, practice on it? There was a college professor who was a friend of mine who’d mentioned, that she had a third-year student, that when he needed an absence, he had his own mother come to school, to file one for him. The Asian parents are, too responsible here, took care of their own young too much, to the point of doing their homework assignments FOR them, to even applying for their children’s university applications too.
But, rather than doing everything FOR the children, why not, train them instead, to get the children to learn to take responsibilities for themselves, this would be way more helpful, for doing their assignments FOR them for over TEN years. Helping the children micromanaging their lives, in the long run, it’s going to do more damage than good!
And, this, is, a PERFECT example of how these, Asian parents “made” their own adult children incapable of, handling their own lives, because, these ADULTS in their, baby DIAPERS are in need of their mamas to, continue to WIPE their sorry asses, and, as we already know how all you ladies, hovered over your own, ADULT baby B-O-Y-S, they will, NEVER grow up, which is going to, create more troubles for the society that we live in.
And you god damn mothers still foolishly believed that that’s L-O-V-E you’re “giving” endlessly, to your own baby BOYS in them, adult-sized diapers? Yeah, right.
Do remember, that we (other women unrelated to Y-O-U!!!), will end up with those, two-hundred pound infants, in pacifiers, diapers, going goo-goo-ga-ga here!
Wanting the easy way to make the big cash, and not the hard labors of working, that, is the commonality of the mindset of the younger generations these days here, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
Recently, my wooden door was, damaged, I’d needed it replaced desperately, several times, I’d called up the factory, and can’t find the master to fix it for me, and so, I’d gone to the shop to wait for the owner, and finally, I caught him, he shook his head, and sighed, “nowadays, no younger generation wanted to learn the skills of carpentry, I’m in desperate need for workers in my shop right now, all the workers all had a ton of work to manage, and can’t even finish their own separate work load, I can’t find a person to help you fix up your door.”
In the corner of the shop, there was an older worker, with his head close to the work counters, focused on measuring, and, used the electric saw to cut off the pieces of wood, and, sawing off the pieces swiftly, and precisely, doing the complex work. The older master saw me standing there, looking odd, with that helplessness about me, walked over to the owner and started whispering to him. Later, the owner finally agreed, to send the masters who didn’t mind working the overtime, to use their weekends off to help me fix my doors up. Before I’d left the shop, I’d especially gone to the older master of the trade, and thanked me, for his willingness to work the overtime, to give up his weekend, to help me fix my home up. Although the man was covered in saw dust and sweat, but he was, the most admirable laborer that this country lacked the most off, the skilled workers.
Comparing to the busyness of the shop, I saw a ton of college kids, doing nothing all day long, getting addicted to the internet, and as they needed the extra spending cash, they’d gone to the 24-hour stores to part-time, or gone to the restaurants to work as waiters and waitresses, to make the deliveries, they seemed not want to learn a set of viable skills at all. Their goals in life seemed to be just to become a “lain-flat”, dreamed of making money easily, and pursuit the lifestyle that pleased them.
The recent news of the younger generations getting tricked to Cambodia, the unreasonable asking, like working in the casinos locally, no experiences needed, easy work, with the wages of anywhere from $50,000N.T.s to $80,000N.T.s monthly, with the bonuses, eight days off per month, with the couples’ suites offered for them to stay………and it’d, tricked many of the younger generations to go.
Although, none of the victims were of the “lain-flat” group, but, the con artists only used the means of “no need to work hard” as the bait, and, the trap had caught many of those who are into, laying flat, not working, and making the top dollars.
The writer, Hong mentioned in her book, “finding something, do it for the entire life, benefiting the world, that’s, the source of true, happiness.”, reminding the generation of lain-flats, that they should use the example of the carpentry shop owner, to find the meanings to ones’ own existences, learn the skills that is necessary, to NOT get tricked into the scams, to live your lives, fully.
And so, this just showed, how the younger generations all wanted an easy way out, they do NOT want to work hard, but, expected that they can still make the cash, without realizing, that it’s a positive correlation (hello, hello, hello!), the amount of work you put in, with what you get out of it, they all want the easy way out, that’s why, so many of these younger generations had, fallen prey to these schemes of the human traffickers.
The importance to document everything, otherwise, it would be a he-say-she-say, and it won’t be evidence in cases of fighting over the inheritances, the parents’ right to disinherit a bad offspring who wasn’t kind enough to them, off of the Newspapers, translated…
The civil laws stated, that if the children abused or severely insulted the parents, they will lose their rights to inherit, but awhile ago, the judge found that the youngest son was abusive toward his mother, but still maintained his right to inherit his father’s assets; the legal realms stated, that there’s another key, that’s needed.
Lu passed away last June, originally, his assets should split between his wife, and his four offspring, but his wife, his eldest son, his second son, and his eldest daughter felt, that the youngest son had severely abused the father before he passed, that he should lose the right to inherit; the four claimed to the judge, that the youngest son had had his mind set on getting the assets for long, suspected that while their father was still living he’d given $3.5 million N.T.s, to the eldest son, he’d called and had a serious altercation with his own father about it.
The four also claimed that the youngest suspected that their mother had signed over the fishery the family owned in Pingdong to their eldest brother, forced the parents to go to the land offices to review the papers, while Lu had stated multiple times, that he didn’t want the youngest son to have any of his assets, that if he tried to take it by force, the families should notify the police to resolve it in the legal setting, refused to give him a cent.
The youngest rebutted, that the mother and his older siblings were defaming him, he’d gone to visit his ailing parents, and had a run-in with his two older brothers, and his older brothers threatened that they will beat him to death, that was why he’d, stopped visiting his parents.
The judge investigated and found, that on the inheritance of $3.5 million N.T.s and how the claims that he’d forced his parents to sign over the papers, the four siblings can’t produce the physical evidence for it, as for how Lu had multiple times said he was going to cut his youngest out of his will, although all four of the families all produced the voice recordings, but, they were all by words of mouth, and the courts didn’t take it as valid.
The legal realm told, if people encounter something similar, for instance, the parents had stated multiple times they wanted to cut a child out of their inheritance, the rest of the siblings must keep the evidence, the proofs of the parents’ saying so, voice recording or video recording, or to written it into document, and found a notary public to verify, then, it fitted as the evidence that the courts needed to affirm this.
And so, this is the importance of getting things in WRITING, because, the word of mouth, are inadmissible in court, I mean, anybody can say that so-and-so said something, and if you don’t have the voice, the video, or even, written forms of proof, then, the claims won’t stand up in court, as this case suggested, and, as for whether or not this bad son was bad, we can’t really judge, because, we’re not members of that family, and we weren’t there when the confrontation, the conflicts happened.
Until ALL of our demands had been met, we will NOT, return, back to work, see how y’all can live without us…
The era of, STRIKES had now, arrived, and it’s still all due to that precedence (you MOTHER @#$%ING, spoiled rotten BRATS!), of success from before, leading the rest into believing, wow, if we cried as loud, we too, will get, our undeserved, CANDIES.
The era of, STRIKES, it was first, those, airline pilots, who can’t cope with those, long hours of working their, continuous shifts, then, the flight attendants too, and now, it’s the, post office employees.
The era of, STRIKES, we’re, striking, because we feel that we are, underpaid (how’s six-digits annually “underpaid”???), with not enough benefits (what, workers’ comp, health insurance, and your quarantine hotel charges are, reimbursed a bit too!), but it’s, still, NOT quite enough, because WE demand more, because once you’d given us something, we want more of something else, and we won’t stop, because that, is human nature.
So, welcome, bosses, ‘cuz all your workers are gonna be, upset over the work schedules, the pays, the health benefits of your individual, companies, and, they will, STRIKE!!!
And, there’s NOTHING you, as the big shot bosses can, do about it, ‘cuz, it’s the workers’ rights to strike, and if you stop them from striking, then, you get your sorry ASSES, S-U-E-D.
So, do you all, want that, class actions suit on your hands??? Yeah, wouldn’t imagine so.
Stabbing the woman who’d raised him as her own to DEATH, for money, and he still didn’t get the DEATH penalty! On crime and punishment, and the judge’s considerations, which allowed this individual to escape DEATH, and no, the punishment here still, does NOT fit the crime, nowhere NEAR the vicinity of it! Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
The Elderly Woman Took Care of Him, Raised Him for Sixteen Years, He Saw Her Money, and Murdered Her, But Admitted to What He’d Done, the Judge Considered that He was Young, that He’d Not Considered the Consequences of His Actions, Didn’t Give Him the Death Penalty
Last year in October, the man, Lee couldn’t successfully get money from the seventy-eight year-old elderly woman, Jiang who’d raised him for sixteen years, stabbed her twenty-two times, murdering her, took away $11,200,000N.T. in cash the woman had on her, went to the sex massage parlors to spend the amount, then, ran to hid out in Hualien, and then he was caught. The Hsinbei District Courts charged him on murder and robbery, sentenced him to life, stripped him of the government post for life, this can still be appealed.
As the suspect had been caught, he’d stayed in police custody to date. The judge found, hat the victim wasn’t related to Lee, but loved him like he was her grandson, that Lee wanted money to spend, and couldn’t get it from her, and took to murder, there’s NO means of sentence reduction for him; but considered how he’d admitted to what he’d done, and how he was only nineteen at the time when he’d murdered the woman, at the age of prefrontal cortex not yet fully developed, based off of the two pacts “not a crime of the most severities”, gave him life sentence.
The verdict stated, that when Lee was born, because his father was at large from committing a crime, his mother had a psychological disorder, his own grandmother couldn’t care for him, when he was only six months of age, he was left in the care of the deceased, who was his family’s neighbor; the deceased felt awful for Lee, took him in, treated him like he was her own, cared for him, raised him until he was sixteen; but Lee started running with the bad crowds back in high school, he was sent back home to live with his uncle.
But Lee would steal from his uncle too often, his uncle couldn’t put up with it, to the point that his uncle and aunt almost got divorced because of him, changing the locks on their doors, to the ultimate, chasing Lee out; Lee became homeless and wandered in the local parks, he’d turned to the deceased for help, her heart went soft for him, and would give him the money he’d asked her for, and last year in September, she’d even had her youngest son to apprentice at the plastic factory he’d owned.
Many times, as Lee had asked the woman for money, she’d agreed, and he’d taken the money out of her own pockets, and he took it to be norm. On October 20th of last, the factory paid the fees for the construction work, the woman’s youngest son withdrew the $360,000N.T. out, Lee started having the bad thoughts, before work on the following day, he’d gone to the woman’s house to ask for the money, and on the way to the woman’s house, he’d gone and bought a fruit knife too; and because the woman refused to give him the money he’d asked for, he’d stabbed her a total of twenty-two times on her head, her back ferociously.
After Lee murdered the woman who’d raised him so brutally, he’d robbed away the $112,000N.T. in cash, left the murder weapon on the staircase of the first floor of the place where Yang-Jiang lived, went back to his rental place in a cab, changed out of the blood stained clothes, headed to the sex massage parlor to spend the money, then, hired a cab to escape to Hualien, and hid in the friend he’d met online, who had no clue what he’d done. The police chased the leads of his whereabout, and he was arrested as he’d gone out to get the midnight snacks, and, turned over the $99,300N.T. that he hadn’t the chance to spent up yet that’s stained with the blood from the murder.
And so, how is this not a death penalty case? I mean, this LOSER murdered the woman who raised him up as her own so brutally, because she’d decided to cut him off, because she didn’t want to give him any more money, and this is the end result of spoiling someone rotten, because this loser got away with asking the elder who’d raised him for whatever he’d wanted as a child, which was why he supposed that it was okay for him to get more money from her, and when she’d refused to “feed” him any longer, he’d snapped, and, murdered her, so, brutally, and yet, he still didn’t get death penalty for what he’d done.
The customers aren’t, ALWAYS right, because, we all had, encountered, MORE than, our shares of, unreasonable, customers, right??? Am I right, (everybody, high-five me!!!), off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
In a local grocery store in Minnesota, recently, there was a man in his sixties, who’d wanted to buy the Campbell imported cheeses. He was at home, staying out of the outbreaks for too long, and, it was a rare occasion that he’d made it out for a shopping trip, he’d gone around the grocery store, didn’t find it, had the store clerks look for it, which the store clerks didn’t find; and he’d, demanded that the clerk go to the warehouse to see if there are any, and, the store clerk checked for the stock on the computer in the storage, none. Then, the customer raged out of control, started making a huge scene. This was, the frequent encounters of the employees of the service industries in the past two years in the U.S., the consumers had become, more and more, difficult to handle by the days.
The store clerk, Loona told of the experience, that the atmosphere at the grocery shop was anger, confusion, and fear. She’d believed, that as everybody watched the man go off, people must be thinking, that the outrage the man was acting out on, probably, had, NOTHING to do with the imported cheese.
What’s before us, is, a weird era, with the outbreaks continuing on. As people are in the shops, on the airplanes, and talking with the customers’ service reps, there were the outbursts of angers from the consumers: “I want to speak with your manager”.
And, these maliciousness made the owners of the business rethink the prime principle of “the customers are always right!” in the service industries. If those working in the service industries have to play the role of calming therapists to the customers, then, their superiors, managers, became the bodyguards who must, keep the safety and wellbeing of their, workers. And, every single time, as these “bodyguards” showed up, they should not tell the workers, “you’re fired”, instead, to the customers, “you are on the blacklist, don’t come here again!”
what the modern day consumers got, spoiled into
But yeah, that’s never going to happen, because, we all want our businesses to be flourishing, don’t we? And so, even IF the consumers are acting up and out, for unjustified reasons, we can’t do anything about it, we can only, blame those cashers, store clerks, for not calming their customers down, after all, this is an industry where, we are, solely, reliant on our customers happiness, their satisfactions at our shops, to make a living, as for the rights, the wellbeing of those workers hired by our companies, yeah, let them deal with it on their own.
And so, this, is still, how messed up, the values are, and it’s all because, of how the businesses are, spoiling the consumers, rotten, telling them, that they’re, ALWAYS, right, when they’re, not!
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