Spoiled the Men Rotten

Why we should NOT do EVERYTHING for the M-E-N we’re, MARRIED, to, because that spoiled them all, rotten, because they will all, become, overly, reliant on us, because they will, SUCK all of us DRY, because we allow them to!  Translated…

On the weekend holidays, I’d gone back to the midstrip of the island for a reunion, afterwards, my good friend gave me a lift home, on the way, she’s suddenly started up, “originally, my uncle had asked me to go to Northern Vietnam with him for eight days!”, I’d asked her, “then why aren’t you going?”, she’d skillfully worked the steering wheel, answered me, “because I’m worried that my husband would have to eat eight days’ worth of instant noodles straight, I can’t let him do that!”

I’d baldly told her that there was a way to resolve this, prepare eight different flavors of instant noodles for him, a different flavor a day, and, as he’d finished his last bowl, his wife would be, home, maybe, her husband would think that this was interesting, but, unfortunately, she’d not, taken, my advice.

and here’s the RESULT, of waiting on them hand and foot, the BIRTHS of ENORMOUS, BABIES, that can’t stand up on their own! Photo from online

For a very long time, my good friend who’s quite gentle, mild-mannered, took good care of her in-laws, when her father-in-law was in the hospital for his stay, she’d brought him the foods, fed them to him, assisted him in bathing, changing in and out of his clothes, solely because her husband worked, and she’d not wanted to burden him with the care of his own father, because camping out at the hospital was way too gruesome for him.  Although, she’d owned and operated a small manufacturing plant for the facial masks, she’d still made the meals for her families, she believed that it was within her responsibilities to do so.

And now, her in-laws are gone, the kids had all grown, she was no longer required to care for the young and the old in her families, but, because of her husband’s not being able to get the foods, it’d, kept her tied up at home, unable to travel away for a long period of time.

I’d told her in a, serious manner, “I’d read an article, that the wife in the article was too able-bodied, after she married, she’d given to her families completely, and even when she’d returned back to her own parents, she’d only stayed for the lunch, then, rushed back to her husband’s household, because she believed, that without her, her children and her husband couldn’t look after themselves.  Later, she’d died after falling ill, her good friend thought about her worries, and paid her husband and her children a visit; but, the house was, just as tidy as she’d left it, the kids were, fed nutritiously every meal, there was, also, a brand new, car in the garage, while her husband, was spirited, as he’d, welcomed her into their home.”

As she’d heard me, she’d started, laughing, actually, this wasn’t a joke at all, what’s untold that came afterwards, was that in a version, the husband hired a maid, in another, he’d remarried a younger, beautiful wife to take care of the house for him, it’s just, that the younger new wife, did NOT have to work her hands to the bones.

Women really need to love themselves well, and stop calling your husbands, “head of the house”, because if you do, then, you will always and forever get STUCK in being, their, MAIDS!”

My good friend told me, “but, my husband called me, “the master”, then, I’d said to her, “so, your husband is the eunuch character that stays and serve the empress dowager, and, the eunuch in these tales only need to keep the empress dowagers happy, there’s NO cases of the shows that’s portrayed the eunuchs for having to do the chores?”, after that, we’d both, burst out in laughter in the car.  “Then, what do you call your, husband?”, she’d inquired, of course I’d called him, “honey!”, because, my dear honey will always, cherish and love his own, wife, and fought over the household chores, wouldn’t feel right, if his dearly beloved wife, need to do the chores!

And so, this is, the case of two different women, and how they’d viewed serving the husbands differently, one, the friend is used to being, the MOMMY, the HOUSEHOLD MAID for her husband, due to socialization, the other, takes it easy from time to time, she’d done her share of the chores, but, leaving the rest to her husband to manage, after all, a marriage is a partnership, and if one of you does too much, then the other doesn’t need to do that much, and, if this unbalanced relationship keeps on going, the scale will one day, tilt and tip over, then, boom!  Heading for the BIG D…would be the end of that, unhappily ever, after.

So, STOP spoiling your men, don’t do ALL the chores around the house, and wait on them, hand and, feet!  After all, all those stupid men had already been, SPOILED ROTTEN by their mamas, and, if you, as their wives, keeps on, spoiling them rotten, then, you’d only be, slaving yourselves, and for what?  NOTHING!

The Drug Addict Nephew Couldn’t Get His Aunt to Give Him the Cash, Stabbed Her Three Times, Murdering Her

How the aunt had fed to his habit, of allowing him to get money from him all the times before, and this time, she’d told him, no, and he’d, snapped, and, committed, murder!  Crimes in progress here, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The thirty-seven-year-old man, Chu had been arrested on drug charges, he was kicked out of his home for arson last year, he’d asked for money to live off from his seventy-six year-old aunt, Tang many times, yesterday morning, he’d taken a knife, and ambushed close to Tang’s home, stopped her in her path, after they got into argument, he’d stabbed her three times, Tang was rushed to the hospital, but died; after Chu committed the murder, he was caught by the locals, and arrested, claimed that his act of murder was from upset for his aunt not giving him money after he’d asked her for it, but, he’d taken the knife with him, and, stabbed her in the three places that injured her vital organs, the police aren’t ruling out premeditation, and is working the case as a murder.

The police investigated and found, that the deceased was the aunt of the perpetrator, the two families originally live in the same building on Huanshan Road in Neihu District; Tang on the third floor, Chu on the second; Chu had been an addict a long time, was long-term emotionally unstable, had gotten into a ton of trouble, a headache for his families, he’d set a fire to his own home, charged with arson by the police, and the parents gave up on him since, chased him out.

At around ten in the morn yesterday, Chu headed out from a hotel in Songshan District, took a cab to an alley nearby to Tan’s residence, and ambushed there, the place was the man entrance and exit of the community where Tan lives, as Tan passed by, Chu blocked her path, an altercation broke out, shortly afterwards, Chu took out the fruit knife he’d stashed away, and attacked Tan, Tan sustained three stabs in her chest, the locals heard the commotion, came out, and immediately notified the police, Tan was rushed to the hospital, but her injuries were too severe, she’d, died.

The witnesses recalled, after Chu committed the murder, everybody recognized him, after the local residents called the cops, they’d, encircled him, hollered “don’t go anywhere!  Wait for the police!”, Chu found no place to run to to escape, sat by the curb, started smoking, and mumbled to himself, “I’m sorry!”; the patrol officers arrived, cuffed him, Chu told them that he’d needed some cash, “I’d wanted my aunt to give me $50,000 N.T. to $60,000N.T., so I can turn my life around, she’d refused, that’s why I’d, stabbed her!”

The patrol officer told, that Tan and her husband were both retired school instructors, as they saw Chu had been kicked out, they’d pulled money out of their own pockets to help him out, and Chu had stabbed Tan to death; Chu refused to talk anymore late last night, and the precise motive will be cleared in the interview today.

And so, this is what you get, for feeding that bloodsucking LEECH, you think you’re, helping him, because everybody had, abandoned him, so you were, kind, to give him money, without knowing, that this had, fed to his, habits, and, he’d come back, again, and again, until you’d told him no this time, and he got furious, and stabbed you to death.  And there’s still, NO victim here, only abuser and enabler, you were, feeding to his, bad habits, and now, you pay for it, with your, life.

Father’s Day is Here Again, Waited for Twenty Whole Years, Never Letting Go, and Finally, the Prodigal Son Had, Returned

What the fathers are, giving to their young, what they thought was, unconditional love, endless support, but is it, really, helpful, to their young???  Not, necessarily, but thankfully, the writer’s son, finally, SAW his own father’s, heart toward him, and turned over, that new leaf!  And this is still an abuser/enabler interaction style, that the father was formerly, DEADLOCKED with his own alcoholic son in!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

There are, a lot of fathers like Mr. Wang that was on the news, who’d given everything to their, young, it’s just, that their children amounted to, naught, they couldn’t be listed as “model fathers”, but, the thought of endlessly giving to their young is, just the same as those who were, voted, as “model fathers” too.

My eldest son, since he was out of the services, became an alcoholic, half of the time when he was awake, he’d, drunk, and as he got drunk, he’d, passed out, when he woke, he’d, drunk again, with the passing of the days, the bottle had a tight grip on him, in his two whole decades of “drinking career”, he’d lost his jobs, his girlfriend left him, all of this, former best friends, cut off, contact with him, it’d made me feel bad, and I feel the pains, and I’d, panicked, and blamed myself, that he’d gone down the wrong roads, because of, me.

But, for twenty whole years, I’d, only, carried the thought of, I wanted to, get him back, that if I’d let him go, he would be, ruined, for the rest of his, life, and so, I’d gone to pay for all of the fines he got for his drunk driving, including appearing in court on his, behalf.  The pains, the trials I’d endured, nobody can know.  And, six years ago, I’d carried the mindset of I needed the help to get him back, and, sent in my article of “I can’t pull my drunk son back up any longer!”, to the discussion forums here, and, it’d gotten, a ton of, responses after my S.O.S. was, posted.

Of them, The Morning Light Christian Church, the Psychiatric Department of MacKay Memorial, the local A.A. all offered to help, gave counseling, assisted me in hospitalizing him, put him in rehab, then, with the faith in God, and my own son’s determination, he’d finally, gotten back up, from the mud and the muck of his own, alcohol addiction, it took him five whole years, to become, completely, sober, and now, his life is, back to, normal.

And there are, a ton of “good fathers” in the lower end of the socioeconomic layers, I hope the related agencies can show these fathers the warmth, to help them relieve the stresses in life every now and then, they may not make the list, but, staying close by their young, helping to get their children back on the right tracks of life, they too are, making contributions.

And so, this is, how this father, allowed his own son, to SUCK him dry, and thankfully, this, ADULT baby finally realized that bad path he’d gone down, and decided, to, let the programs help him get sober, and, sometimes, we think we’re, helping our young, but instead, we’re, hurting them, like how this man had, gone to court, appearing on his own son’s behave, to apologize for his own ADULT son’s drunk driving, who do you think that helps, huh???  Nobody, and, guess what this ADULT male still in DIAPERS learned?  Oh yeah, daddy will always help me, wipe MY sorry ASS, but thankfully, after a bit, this man finally got himself, sobered up, and it took this father, TWENTY years of his life, and that, is the endless giving of a father…

The Air, My Friend

The column by Jimmi Liao, on the effects of spoiling your young, translated by, me…

This is the LAST Time I Take You Flying

You Will, Fly on Your Own Next Time.

I Really Don’t Like

That Tone of, Voice, You’re Speaking to Me in…

the artwork of Jimmi Liao, courtesy of UDN.com

And, as you still may have guessed, this is still, an ABUSER/ENABLER interaction, as the one who’d taken the individual on her/his back to fly, got used to being, SAT on (‘cuz s/he is the bird???), and the SPOILED BRAT got used to having everything provided to her/him by the bird, why the @$#% would s/he need to stand on her/his own, I mean, you got someone, covering YOUR sorry ASS, and therefore, you NEVER, learn to wipe up your own messes, and so, this shit is still NOT, good at ALL!

My Husband’s Agent

Giant B-A-B-Y, and the wife’s hovering over her husband like he is her son still don’t do SHIT to help this LOSER to stand up on his own!  Translated…

After my husband retired, most of time, he’d stayed at home.  He’d loved fixing things up, patching things around the house, but there’s not that much in our own that needed his handiwork.

I’d found, that as he saw me going out for my part-time work, he seemed a bit, envious.  I’d worked for two days of the week at an internet shop, based off of what the customers ordered, I’d find the items, packed them up, stuck on that label for delivery on.  I’d told him that work was like a treasure hunt to me, with a bit challenge, that it’s quite fun.  He’d wanted me to ask my boss if he could work there also, I’d told my boss, “my husband is more like a woman than I in personality, he’s agile with his hands, really good at packaging, and he would make the recipients of the packages feel they were receiving presents.”, but unfortunately, my boss only wanted to hire women.

I’d turned to the internet to search in the find-a-job websites, to skim through all the want ads, filtered out the ones that weren’t fitting, and I’d thought about whether or not I should, sent my husband’s résumé in.  Sorted through the listings page by page, and after a long while, an opening for a job popped up, as I’d read what the work entailed, I’d asked my husband, “the place hiring is close to home, and it’s what you do best, do you want to try it?”

I’d texted the employer, told that my husband did NOT have an account with the jobseekers website, that I will inquire on his behalf, told that he was very responsible, and very careful in his work, just retired a while ago, he’d appeared only fifty, but I’d not gotten a response back.

illustration from UDN.com

Three days later, I’d told my husband to call the employer on his own, he’d told him, that it didn’t matter if he found work again, and said that the office listed isn’t far from where we live, why not just go and check it out in person.  He got dressed, readied to go out, I’d, found, that the employer already left a message early in the morn.  My husband inquired, “go with me……”

I rode the scooter, he sat on the back, as we arrived, I’d, observed a bit outside the building, told him to be courteous, to not talk out of turn.  Not long afterwards, the gates rolled up right on time, and a honest looking man exited out of the place, introduced the work environment to my husband, explained to him what his work would be.  It’d sounded like he would have to squat for long hours at a time on the floor, I’d worried that it might hurt his back, and asked, “can he try it first?”, after the business owner gave the response that it would be okay, I’d, left him there.

I’d gone to pick him up after work, he’d told me, “sorting through the camping tents is like playing, I get to exercise my body, make some extra cash, not tiring at all.”, as I’d heard him told me, the worries of my entire day, vanished.  I’d asked the man, “does my husband look like he’s only in his fifties?”, he’d responded, “he looked less than!”, we’d asked him, if he needed the help, do think of my husband.

A few days later, no response, and I could only text the owner of the shop privately.  Waited for another day, message not read still.  I’d picked up my cell phone, called, “hello, is there no more work these few days?  My husband………” then suddenly, my daughter’s word hit me, that when her boss see the high school age interns, interviewing with their mothers accompanying, the boss didn’t have good impressions.  I’d immediately hung up the phones, told my husband, “you want to look for work, you need to go on your own, if I go with you, you are less likely to get hired.”  He’d told me, “my wife helps me finding work, people would feel, that we are relating well to one another, it would make me look better.”  “those around would think that you are a giant baby!”  “This is NOTHING like how the younger generations becoming independent, you are, my agent, of course, it’s your job, to help me find the work!”

Yeah, can’t get through to him.

Using his own wife as a, crutch here, maybe?  Or, he’s just, too shy to ask, and, this will, damage this man’s opportunity to find work, even IF he had all the skills required for the job, and, don’t know what’s going on in the mind of this husband, is he, too clingy to his wife, or is he, naturally, too, “shy”, or is it, something else, entirely, different???  Nobody knows, save for his own wife!

Sponsors of a Concert, Blamed for Allowing Her to Drink & Drive…

This is, for someone who was, legally allowed to, drink…

The sponsors of a concert, blamed for allowing her to drink and drive, and this is still, SCAPEGOATING, that the woman is just, too, irresponsible, I mean, she is, already considered, legally an, ADULT already, and, who can control her, if she wanted to get behind the wheels after she’d had, one too, many?

And yet, the sponsors of a concert, are blamed, for allowing her to drink and drive, what the @#$%?  And, this would, open up the doors, to all those who got killed by drugs or alcohol, because, it wouldn’t be the abusers, the users of these, substances who are, responsible for what they’re doing to their, bodies (putting poisons in themselves, and, getting too high to function, rationally!).

The sponsors of a concert, blamed for allowing her to drink and drive, for starters, it wasn’t the sponsors of that concert who’d pointed a gun to her head, told her to, down how many shots of vodka, how many cans of beer, how many glasses of whiskey or whatever to get her plastered, was it?  NO!  She is an adult, who CAN (or you’d think that she would be able to!) make the decisions to drink or to not on her own.

And yet, as she crashed the vehicle, the sponsors of that concert where she’d attended previously, where alcohol was available for, consumption, was, BLAMED. 

Tell me, how’s, THAT, just???

The Parents’ Not Letting Go Expert Found: Children Can Easily Become, Unprepared for Life

Uh…ya THINK???  And this is what the experts here, only started, figuring out too, wow, are they, slow here or what???  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

With the eighteen-year-olds as adults citizenship rights, the dropping out of school of college and university students no longer needed consents from the parents.  But, for most, parents are the ones, paying the tuitions still, and they believed that they should have the right to know if their own children are dropping out, and why.  The education groups stated, that the parents should let the children try the schools out first, and co-own the responsibilities of the rights and benefits, otherwise, the children entering into the world will get hurt too easily, and the parents who are all-powerful may end up having incompetent children.

The many professors of the colleges and universities called the parents who don’t let go “helicopter parents”, keep on, spinning around the children.  A professor from Poli-Sci University stated, that some of the parents are too forceful, believed that “we’re the ones paying for your tuition”, therefore, we have the rights to know, and disregarded that their children are all eighteen-year-old adults, and, their actions are painted over as “being understanding of how their young couldn’t afford their own tuitions yet”, but the students would more than likely, interpret the parents as “meddling in their lives”.

and, this would be what that, looked, like!

and it’s, NOT, “pretty”…photo from online

The Taiwanese Youth Democracy Foundation’s Vice President, He told, that as the students make any major decisions, the parents will be notified after these decisions are made and the school told.  But, the students also need to know, that being “adults” means that they’re, shouldering more responsibilities, for instance, if they’re involved in a fender-bender, the parents are no longer responsible as collaterals that needed to pay on their children’s, behalf.

The secretary of the Taiwanese Youth League, Lin pointed out, dropping out of the schools, is the decisions of the children, the parents should respect it, after all, “the all-knowing parents may have incompetent children”, the schools are relatively safe as is, that it’s best that the students can trip and fall in front of the professors and parents, but they should not be ill-prepared for the world after they graduate, and get hurt.

And so, this is just how, Asian parents, covered for their own kids’ asses, I mean, it’s ETCHED into these Asian parents’ belief, that WE must be responsible for our own “young”, no matter how old they are, even if they’re all, in their, twenties, thirties, forties, fifties, sixties, seventies, as LONG as we’re still living, we will, keep them safe, like they were all, babies, because, they are, our babies, no matter how OLD they get!

And this is EXACTLY the attitude that’s, preventing all of your adult babies from manning UP, taking responsibilities for what they can’t do (i.e. keep a job, make their own marriages work, extramarital affairs, yada, yada, yada), because, all of these adult BABIES need to do is, WAH-WAH-WAH and you, FUCKING (don’t pardon me here!) would run on over, and kiss all those adult sons-of-bitches, and adult ladies on their, BOO-BOOS!

Are the Parents Helping, or are They, Hurting Their Own Young?

When your children who are growing up started wailing when they can’t handle things in their own lives, what, will you, parents, do???  The results of spoiling your own ADULT children, R-O-T-T-E-N, translated…

I’m an English instructor, I’d assigned my students a page of terms to look up once for their homework assignments, for them to write the meanings of the terms in Chinese, and the pronunciations out.  As the assignments were picked up, I’d discovered, that a student who’d, not paid ANY attention in the class before turned in a perfect assignment this time, just as I was about to, praise him, I’d found, that his page of words had been wrinkled up, stained, and that there was a word with the different handwriting compared to the students next to a term.  As I inquired, the student told me, that it was his mother who’d looked up the words for him, and written the definitions down for him, all he had to do, was to copy what she’d put down, then, erase his own mom’s work.  Such a shame, that there was, just that one term that wasn’t, erased completely, that busted him.

this is what you, MOTHERS are, “making”!

and they’d stopped being “cute”, a long, long, L-O-N-G time, ago! Photo from online

I’m well aware of the hearts of the parents in the world, sure, but, there should be a boundary to the responsibilities.  The children can’t be well-studied in English, can’t write the essays well enough, doesn’t that mean, that they need more, practice on it?  There was a college professor who was a friend of mine who’d mentioned, that she had a third-year student, that when he needed an absence, he had his own mother come to school, to file one for him.  The Asian parents are, too responsible here, took care of their own young too much, to the point of doing their homework assignments FOR them, to even applying for their children’s university applications too.

But, rather than doing everything FOR the children, why not, train them instead, to get the children to learn to take responsibilities for themselves, this would be way more helpful, for doing their assignments FOR them for over TEN years.  Helping the children micromanaging their lives, in the long run, it’s going to do more damage than good!

And, this, is, a PERFECT example of how these, Asian parents “made” their own adult children incapable of, handling their own lives, because, these ADULTS in their, baby DIAPERS are in need of their mamas to, continue to WIPE their sorry asses, and, as we already know how all you ladies, hovered over your own, ADULT baby B-O-Y-S, they will, NEVER grow up, which is going to, create more troubles for the society that we live in.

And you god damn mothers still foolishly believed that that’s L-O-V-E you’re “giving” endlessly, to your own baby BOYS in them, adult-sized diapers?  Yeah, right.

Do remember, that we (other women unrelated to Y-O-U!!!), will end up with those, two-hundred pound infants, in pacifiers, diapers, going goo-goo-ga-ga here!

No Longer Driven by Working Hard…it’s a Wonder They Were, Fooled & Sold

Wanting the easy way to make the big cash, and not the hard labors of working, that, is the commonality of the mindset of the younger generations these days here, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Recently, my wooden door was, damaged, I’d needed it replaced desperately, several times, I’d called up the factory, and can’t find the master to fix it for me, and so, I’d gone to the shop to wait for the owner, and finally, I caught him, he shook his head, and sighed, “nowadays, no younger generation wanted to learn the skills of carpentry, I’m in desperate need for workers in my shop right now, all the workers all had a ton of work to manage, and can’t even finish their own separate work load, I can’t find a person to help you fix up your door.”

In the corner of the shop, there was an older worker, with his head close to the work counters, focused on measuring, and, used the electric saw to cut off the pieces of wood, and, sawing off the pieces swiftly, and precisely, doing the complex work.  The older master saw me standing there, looking odd, with that helplessness about me, walked over to the owner and started whispering to him.  Later, the owner finally agreed, to send the masters who didn’t mind working the overtime, to use their weekends off to help me fix my doors up.  Before I’d left the shop, I’d especially gone to the older master of the trade, and thanked me, for his willingness to work the overtime, to give up his weekend, to help me fix my home up.  Although the man was covered in saw dust and sweat, but he was, the most admirable laborer that this country lacked the most off, the skilled workers.

Comparing to the busyness of the shop, I saw a ton of college kids, doing nothing all day long, getting addicted to the internet, and as they needed the extra spending cash, they’d gone to the 24-hour stores to part-time, or gone to the restaurants to work as waiters and waitresses, to make the deliveries, they seemed not want to learn a set of viable skills at all.  Their goals in life seemed to be just to become a “lain-flat”, dreamed of making money easily, and pursuit the lifestyle that pleased them.

The recent news of the younger generations getting tricked to Cambodia, the unreasonable asking, like working in the casinos locally, no experiences needed, easy work, with the wages of anywhere from $50,000N.T.s to $80,000N.T.s monthly, with the bonuses, eight days off per month, with the couples’ suites offered for them to stay………and it’d, tricked many of the younger generations to go.

Although, none of the victims were of the “lain-flat” group, but, the con artists only used the means of “no need to work hard” as the bait, and, the trap had caught many of those who are into, laying flat, not working, and making the top dollars.

The writer, Hong mentioned in her book, “finding something, do it for the entire life, benefiting the world, that’s, the source of true, happiness.”, reminding the generation of lain-flats, that they should use the example of the carpentry shop owner, to find the meanings to ones’ own existences, learn the skills that is necessary, to NOT get tricked into the scams, to live your lives, fully.

And so, this just showed, how the younger generations all wanted an easy way out, they do NOT want to work hard, but, expected that they can still make the cash, without realizing, that it’s a positive correlation (hello, hello, hello!), the amount of work you put in, with what you get out of it, they all want the easy way out, that’s why, so many of these younger generations had, fallen prey to these schemes of the human traffickers.

Although He’d Abused His Mother, He Still Got His Share of His Father’s Inheritance

The importance to document everything, otherwise, it would be a he-say-she-say, and it won’t be evidence in cases of fighting over the inheritances, the parents’ right to disinherit a bad offspring who wasn’t kind enough to them, off of the Newspapers, translated…

The civil laws stated, that if the children abused or severely insulted the parents, they will lose their rights to inherit, but awhile ago, the judge found that the youngest son was abusive toward his mother, but still maintained his right to inherit his father’s assets; the legal realms stated, that there’s another key, that’s needed.

Lu passed away last June, originally, his assets should split between his wife, and his four offspring, but his wife, his eldest son, his second son, and his eldest daughter felt, that the youngest son had severely abused the father before he passed, that he should lose the right to inherit; the four claimed to the judge, that the youngest son had had his mind set on getting the assets for long, suspected that while their father was still living he’d given $3.5 million N.T.s, to the eldest son, he’d called and had a serious altercation with his own father about it.

The four also claimed that the youngest suspected that their mother had signed over the fishery the family owned in Pingdong to their eldest brother, forced the parents to go to the land offices to review the papers, while Lu had stated multiple times, that he didn’t want the youngest son to have any of his assets, that if he tried to take it by force, the families should notify the police to resolve it in the legal setting, refused to give him a cent.

The youngest rebutted, that the mother and his older siblings were defaming him, he’d gone to visit his ailing parents, and had a run-in with his two older brothers, and his older brothers threatened that they will beat him to death, that was why he’d, stopped visiting his parents.

The judge investigated and found, that on the inheritance of $3.5 million N.T.s and how the claims that he’d forced his parents to sign over the papers, the four siblings can’t produce the physical evidence for it, as for how Lu had multiple times said he was going to cut his youngest out of his will, although all four of the families all produced the voice recordings, but, they were all by words of mouth, and the courts didn’t take it as valid.

The legal realm told, if people encounter something similar, for instance, the parents had stated multiple times they wanted to cut a child out of their inheritance, the rest of the siblings must keep the evidence, the proofs of the parents’ saying so, voice recording or video recording, or to written it into document, and found a notary public to verify, then, it fitted as the evidence that the courts needed to affirm this.

And so, this is the importance of getting things in WRITING, because, the word of mouth, are inadmissible in court, I mean, anybody can say that so-and-so said something, and if you don’t have the voice, the video, or even, written forms of proof, then, the claims won’t stand up in court, as this case suggested, and, as for whether or not this bad son was bad, we can’t really judge, because, we’re not members of that family, and we weren’t there when the confrontation, the conflicts happened.