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The issues that comes with aging, examples of how people age, growing old, and coming to acceptance of losing control over one’s own life

Visiting Great Grandma

The perfect example of how to age gracefully, translated…

“Great grandma lives too far away now!”, my son told.  My daughter great grandmother moved in with my aunt in Kaohsiung now, to the adults, it isn’t, that far away, but, to my daughter, who easily gets heat strokes, in a wheelchair, it’s nothing easy, going to Kaohsiung, where the sun shines constantly during the day, the temperatures, too high, and so, the winters became the only season we are able to, travel as a family.

At the start of the year, we’d taken the two kids to Kaohsiung to visit their great grandmother, and for a road trip too.  We’d first arrived at the pineapple factory, where the tour guide explained the process of manufacturing of pineapples, the history of the industry, then, we’d, headed to that old ironclad hang bridge, out of my expectation there were, the people standing on the bridge; standing on that old bridge, we watched the trains speed past, hearing the noises from all around, but, what entered into my ears, were the laughter of my own children.

As their ninety-nine-year-old great grandmother saw the great grandchildren, she’d smiled that long-time-no-see smile of hers, slowly got up, walked slowly next to my daughter’s wheelchair to a stool, sat herself down, and asked, “Wen-Wen, are you tired?”, she was still very gentle and kind as I’d, remembered that she’d been to me, in the past when I’d taken my daughter to physical therapy, great grandma would come out from her house opposite to where we used to live, to hold the umbrella to cover my daughter up, compared to how aloof their grandfather who lives with us had been, my great grandmother’s show of care and concerns to our family, I was, touched by, and, felt, ever the more, grateful for.

As I’d asked about my great grandmother’s life after she’d moved to Kaohsiung with my aunt and uncle, she could still eat her favorite, pork’s feet and the crabapples too, and, she’s, just as agile as the rest of us!  She’s probably, the healthiest, the most special elder I’d known, in her eighties, she would get up in the middle of the nights to watch the American Major Leagues games, in her nineties, she’d, walked herself out to buy the fried chickens she wanted to eat, and told the shop owner to not slice it to pieces, because she’d wanted to experience how the younger generations, grabbed the chickens, and started chewing them down……………

As we carried on in our conversations, the fatigue I’d felt from the trip, disappeared, little by little, as we’d, visited, my grandmother.

And so, this, is how you can, age, gracefully, like how this, elderly woman stayed active, by continue to socialize with her external environment, by having that optimism of life, by enjoying every day she has, like it was her final day on earth.

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Unwilling

On death and dying, based off of the Buddhist belief systems, translated…

After the Passing of My Father, in 2009, I’d, Become a Monk with the Fagu Mountain Foundations, Taking Care of My Father in His Aging, Demented Years, was that Gem that Remained in My Memories, But, it’d Made the Me Ten Years Later, Start This, Conversations that’s, Transcendental of, Time…………………

The Travel Bag I’d Packed for Dad

Tired from reading my books, so I’d, shifted my gaze to the photo of my father in that Christmas hat, his round face had a feeding tube into his nose, and that look of a child made my heart ached, smiled at me lightly, and I’d, replied back to him with a similar smile.

Before dad I always acted crazy, wanted him to laugh with me, to play, to finish EVERY single item to care for him.  I have NO clue how he would interpret his crazy daughter, but as I see my cherished old baby, I can’t help, but smile on, wanted to hug him, to kiss him every single day.  Looking at his face, asleep soundly like an infant, I can’t bear to leave his side, worried that if he didn’t see me when he woke, he’ll, cry again.  And, even though it was hard for me to let go, I must, if that day will come, I can only hope, that my depending-on-me-too-much dear old pops can, follow the steps of Buddha closely, to not get lost.  I kept on worrying, just continued, worrying…………………

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In a corner of my home, there was a small travel pack, that was prepared by me for my dad, the whole family knows it too.  There’s the quilt we will pull over his body, the Buddhist verses chanting machines, the phone number of the funeral home, a pair of his dress shoes that he’d worn regularly, for the sake of when that day comes, he can, leave it all behind, with nothing, holding him back.  Every time we were told he needed to get placed in the I.C.U., I’d always, take this small pack with me, or, as the phone rang during the middle of the nights, my eyes would, automatically, shift to where the travel pack was.

I was born too late, knew things a bit too late, and, all I could do for my father, is just, this.

I’d often thought, that if that day comes, for my father’s sake, I can’t cry, I can’t, have him leave this world with his worries of me, and he couldn’t hear that music that’s, guiding him toward nirvana, that I needed to, see him off, in smiles.  I have to, make myself stronger, learn to, hold back my own, tears—and yet, as I’d thought of all of this, tears, they came, out.

Where Can I Go, to Find Him

I wasn’t willing, if one day, I’m, never to see my father again, what shall I do?  There’s no place, where, can I go, to find him?  I think, I shall, cry at the end, I’m, a crybaby, just like dear old dad.  Even though, everybody says that illness is trying, the end is the release from the bodily tortures, but, it’s also, the start of a, hard and trying time of missing the ones we lost too much.

Time came and went like the flash floods, we became, so tiny, like those, sediment.  Turning around, everything is, no longer, as it once, had been, how many lifetime’s worth of affinity must there be, for us, to meet up in this, current life?  If we want to meet up, then, we will keep on, walking on those, eggshells, without a second thought, along with the mercies of all the gods, then, we will be given the chance, to be together, in one, lifetime.

Life is a journey, we are on that same train together, some get on early, get off early, everybody has a different time; husband and wife, father and daughter, siblings, no matter how deeply we’re all connected, no matter how much we love one another, everything will be gone, like a flash of, lightning, but everything we’d gone through, will settle in, inside that field of our own cognition, like those, Buddhist beads.  We should, cherish what time we have on the ride, to use the time we’re given, to give to others, to cherish those around us, then, we wouldn’t, let what we’d been given, the kindness, the mercies that we received in life, waste, away.

Everlight Thinks

In the endless karmic cycles, how many times we parted already?  The Buddhist verses told us, that the tears we’d shed in the karmic cycle from hate, love, overflowed the four seas, the bones we’d accumulated, already, surpassed the tallest of peaks.  I will, use the body my parents had endowed me, to follow the Buddhist path, to give to the world in all my lifetimes, to give back to, all on earth.

Yeah, this, is this woman’s will, she’d, lost her father, and, it’d made her realized, that life is, filled with, the uncertainties, and that drove her to want to give back to the people in the world, not just those whom she cared for, she has a grander kind of love, which grew out of the love for her own, families.

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Where Do We Find the Money for the Provisions of Long-Term Care in the Coming of the Super Elderly Era

It’s still all, a pay-as-you-go, with the younger generations of workers, paying into the accounts, to go into helping the elderly in the population, and as these younger generations are ready for retirement, the money’s, run, out!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Starting last year, the birthrate in Taiwan is less than the number of deaths.  Based off of the statistical measures conducted by the Offices of Internal Affairs, the average age of people is 81.3 years, with the male at 78.1 years, and females at 84.7 years, both were at record highs.  The reductions in birth rate, the advances in medicine, causing the problem of the aging population, by 2026, there would be more than twenty-percent of the total population which is made up by elderly sixty-five and up, exceeding, and we’d, entered into the super elderly society.

Started back in 2017, Taiwan had started the “Long-Term Care 2.0 ten-year-plan”, other than expanding the original long-term care provisions, the breather programs, the homecare, a total of eight service provisions, it’s also added the Alzheimer’s care, the primary caretaker support, and pushed forth the community-oriented care programs; and, the increases in the contents of these had, helped the families, which is to be, commended.

We hope that in the future, the systems of long-term care will be more complete, and continual, and so, there’s this need to get to understand where the source of money comes from for the syst4ems.  Based off of the fifteenth of the “Long-Term Care Regulations”: the central unit (the Department of Sanitation & Welfare) need to set aside a fund, to ensure the stability of the funds in the system.  The fund’s sources may include: increases of inheritance taxes, the taxes of endowment, cigarette taxes; the government with enough in the budgets, the donations of health taxes from cigarette sales, the donated incomes, the interests from the various foundations, and other extra incomes.

And all of these funding, may be enough for now, but would it be a stable source, it’s still, worth our time to look into.  Like the inheritance taxes, the cigarette taxes, the taxes on the endowments of assets, they will change with the economics of the society, less stable.  If the long-term-care is fueled by taxes, then, the more ideal would be taxing the incomes.

If we don’t add in the extra long-term care tax in the income taxes, then, social insurances can also be a direction to consider.  There’s a forced policy of social insurances, that can ensure the nonstop flow of funding.  Comparing to the source of long-term care being funded by the taxes, it’s more fitting to the long-term need of the programs.

I’m not advising that the taxes get changed to social insurances in sum, but to provide the current provisions of long-term care to those who are not as economically well-to-do, as the basis for the citizens long-term care.  As for the rest of the population, then, the social insurances programs can be, employed, with the people, the workplace, and government, paying for the insurances.

Naturally, as the insurance programs of long-term care provision gets implemented, there are still going to be the lacking.  The members of the public who needed the more delicate cares, would have to buy the specialized insurance plans.  The government should encourage the insurance agencies to add more long-term care insurances that of a business type, especially the pay-and-receive, that, is what the people needed most in their long-term care needs.  The provisions of long-term care by the government, if some of it turns into the social security programs, I’m sure, it would elevate the awareness of the members of the public on the risks of long-term care, and, through the private insurance companies in long-term care.  That way, government would have a lighter burden to shoulder.

So, this is on a program of combination of publicly funded and privatized insurance policy or elderly care provisions, and, it’s still, workable in theory, but, not in reality, because you’re asking the younger generations of workers, to pay into an account, that’s keeping the retired population now in good care, and, who’s to guarantee, that as this next generation of younger workers age, and became elderly, the money won’t run out?  There’s no guarantees of it, and government funded social security program is pay-as-you-go, and that only means, that you will get cared for (we hope!), as you’d paid into your insurance programs right now, but there’s no guarantees of that there would be enough money WHEN you’re actually, ready, to retire, so this is still workable, only in theory, but NOWHERE near, realistic, it’s way too, ideal.

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Elders Whom Everybody Likes Being Close to

How these two elderly women are role models for us all, not just in their abilities to stay health, but on the positive attitude they take, toward growing older, and living, their lives, to the fullest…translated…

With the advancements of medicine, becoming an elderly person, is the future for us all, but, it’s a lesson, to learn how, to be, a cute elderly person.

There were two role models, of what elderly persons should be like.  Grandma Wang, I’d met through the volunteer program at school, at age seventy-six, she’s, graceful, and, dressed in a way, that’s, visually, appeasing.  After her move from her old home in Chiayi to Taipei, she’d gone to the local elementary school, to inquire if there’s a need for volunteer, and she’d started working, as a “story grandma”.

Some of the stories that Grandma Wang told the students are from the illustrated books, children’s books, and, some stories, were from her own travels, that she’d, changed the parts to.  With the lessons, Grandma Wang would bring her own homemade props, for instance, on the story of the Pygmalion, she’d started, playing the role of the female lead, handed the flowers one by one to the children, with the rise and falls of her voice, it’d, captured the children’s, attention.  Every time she’d walked down the streets, the children would greet her eagerly, “Grandma Wang!”

She also volunteers as the morning homework helper, four days a week, she’d, tutored two children who needed the extra help time.  Other than volunteering, she’s also, actively involved in the community choir too, doing yoga at the gym, to train her muscles, she’d managed to keep her body fit.

staying active in the elderly years…

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Another Grandma Lee, was an elder I’d met when I volunteered to the home visits, Grandma Lee was with a straight back, and you can’t see that she’s, already, ninety.  Her son lives out of country, her daughter lives in Kaohsiung, and often comes up north to visit her.  Grandma Lee had been volunteering at the hospital for thirty years on end, and recently, she’d, stepped down.  She’d gone to the parks early in the morn every day for tai-chi, and had brunches with her fellow martial artists, and, once a week, she’d gone to volunteer at the local borough’s office, and would arrange her time once a year, to go to the hospitals or the nursing homes with the Tai-Chi instructor to teach everybody some simple moves the residents can do to keep up with their physical wellbeing.

And, these two beautiful elderly women had a couple of things in common: first, they’re very physically healthy, with the regular routines for their workouts.  Secondly, both are involved in volunteer work, the embodiments of happy in helping others.  Thirdly, they’re, actively, interactive with their external social environments, not fallen off the connections with society.  I want to take after them, to become, a warm, an elder whom everybody wants to be close to.

And so, these two elderly women are, amazing role models indeed, they are very active, they kept up with their health, exercised regularly, and, found the time, to give back to the community, which is what probably helped them stay youthful, and they’re, role models for all of us indeed!

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A Man a Letter to the President, the Caretaking Groups Begged for the Reliefs, the Lift on the Bans of Gathering to the Government

The families here, with the long-term care needs, with the pressures of caretaking growing greater by the day, they’re all, about, to CRASH, and, this, is their asking of the president here!!!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

A Total of 24,000 Families in Taiwan with Long-Term Care Needs about to CRASH, Chen: We’ll be Discussing Loosening the Procedures of the Matter on Wednesday

Starting in July 13th, the country is loosening the restrictions on lockdown, the command center announced that the facilities can reopen, with the restrictions, but the daycare centers, the Alzheimer’s centers isn’t a part of those, a ton of caretakers screamed out: “We can’t take it anymore!”, the four major caretaking groups started up the “one man one letter to the president” act, hoping, that the ban of the daycare locations can be lifted sooner.  Yesterday, the commanding center stated, that they’re, discussing the loosening of the rules with the experts on Wednesday (the fourteenth).

The Family Caretaker Foundation, the Taiwanese Alzheimer’s Association, the Elderly Welfare League, the Homecare Policy League of Taiwan started up the movement of one-man-one-letter to the president: the families are about to crash, from having the elderly locked in the home!  Open up the daycare locations” movement, stressed that the 547 long-term care 2.0 locations the 494 dementia chapters, had been locked down for close to two months since the outbreak, with the 24,000 families with the needs, about to, crash, and they’d called out to the government, to see it as a huge problem.

before the outbreaks…

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The secretary of the Homecare Organization, Chen stated, that the micro reopening, tailored to the other needs of the businesses, but had, forgotten the needs of the group that needed it the most, based off of experiences from other countries, cutting off the services provisions to the Alzheimer’s, the demented population, is a primary factor for domestic violence, and tragedies.

The foundation had been receiving calls for the past two months, every day, with the family members in despair, that’s why they’re, speaking up now, and decided to start up the movement of “a letter a person” to the president, and up to last night, the foundation had received a total of 268 messages, all hoping the government lift up the bans on the service locations soon.

Chen pointed out, that there are, 800,000 families in Taiwan in need of long-term care provisions, with five-percent of them from the lower end of the socioeconomic statuses, most others were of middle class, they believed the government, and utilized the Long-Term Care 2.0 care locations, in the daytime, they’d sent their elders to the locations, and go to work, and now, as the outbreaks occurred, this service was no longer provided, a lot of the individuals had to look after their elderly, and work at the same time, which is too difficult, the pressures from caretaking, plus the pressures of economics, it’s, too cruel for the families.

The secretary of Taiwan Alzheimer’s Foundation, Tang believe, that the elderly with dementia would deteriorate even more quickly, if the government does NOT reopen the service locations.  The locations provided more than 10,000 elders their needed activities, the government needs to encourage the elders to get vaccinated, to reopen the activities centers soon, to give the elders the motivations to get their vaccines.

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the elderly, being, ever the more, isolated, because they couldn’t go out, interact with others…photo from online

Chen stated, that he’d considered that by the fifteenth, the elderly over sixty-five, who’d been vaccinated, already had the immunities, and so, on the fourteenth, he will be holding a expert discussion on the matter, to discuss how to reopen the activities centers.  He’d stressed, that the elderly are weaker in their immunity against the illnesses, but the caretakers needed to watch out for their own psychological wellbeing too, that the command center already planned, that as the vaccination rates reached a certain point, the daycare centers will be, reopened.

Yeah uh, that’s still, BULLSHIT, from the government, I mean, hello, if you’d provided us with enough vaccines, then, none of us would be locked in now, and now, finally, this group of caretakers of elderly population with Alzheimer’s couldn’t take it anymore, and they’d, told the government their needs, that’s when this head of defense against MERS-CoV came out, and stated some bullshitting FACT we already know, wow, isn’t that, something???

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A Lovable Elderly Person

An elderly who refused to get beaten by old age, staying independent, and optimistic through life, an example for all of us, younger generations, translated…

Grandma Wang is 106 this year, she is my mother’s best fri4end, watched me from when I was a toddler, to becoming, a grandmother myself, after my mother passed, every once in a while, I’d, gone to visit her.  The neighbors who grew up with me from way back would also, go visit her as well, to comfort her, who didn’t have any children.

At first, I think we were visiting Grandma Wang because of transference.  Because our own mothers passed, and we don’t have any sense of belonging any more, and Grandma Wang was my mother’s, best friend, and being around her, it’d made me feel like I was with my mother again.

But, why would I, get motivated, comfortably, without any pressures, to go visit with her?  Or maybe, it was, the lack of the pressures, that sense of gratitude, catching on with the times, that’s, made her, very amicable.

She’d not, pressured us to go visit her more, and, not thought of, how long ago was it since we’d, last come, nor would she just, sit at home, and wait for us to visit; as we’d, visited, and when we are going off, she’d not let me feel guilty about not spending enough time with her.  And, no matter if we’d brought her clothing, daily necessities, or run the errands for her from time to time, she’d, taken our acts graciously, and, thanked us verbally repeatedly.

And, even though, in my minds, she wasn’t, lucky enough, because her husband died young, she didn’t have any children, and can only live off of the government’s low income sustenance, but she’d always told, of how blessed she was.

Or maybe she’d known, that she couldn’t rely on anyone, it’d, helped her become, the more, independent.

She has failing sight, couldn’t watch T.V. or read the books or the papers, and so, she’d, listened to the radio, no matter if it’s the topics on politics, finance, or social matters, she could carry on in conversation with us.  She can’t stand too long, couldn’t go out for strolls, and she’d, used the tables and chairs to steady herself, and, exercised inside her house, or did the exercises with her arms, and she’d, told us, to move around more if we want to live well.  Everything she could do on her own, she’d not requested anybody to help her, and she’d always, found things to do on her own too, that it helped her pass the time.  Sometimes, as I’d gone to visit, she was, chopping up the fillings of the dumplings.

It no wonder, that other than us, the man in charge of the local borough also loved paying her visits, as well as the personnel of the social welfare programs too, to carry on in conversations with her.  While my husband and I would often remind each other, that we need to follow her lead in our old age.  Becoming an independent, self-made, gracious, grateful, elderly whom others loved being around.

And so, what helped this elderly person to be loved by others around her in life is her temperament, how despite how she had the conditions that came with her elderly years, she’d still, worked hard, to live her life to the fullest, not relying on anyone, staying, as independent as she possibly can, and, it’s her means to living her life, that’s, drawn all the members of the younger generations to her.

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The Hired Nurse’s Aide Displeased of Her Treatment by Her Employer, Fed the Person She Cared for in a Vegetative State Urine, Got Indicted

Taking it out on the individual whom she was supposed to care for, because this migrant worker felt displeased of the treatment from her employer, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The female nurse’s aide from Indonesia felt displeased at how her boss didn’t give her three daily meals, she’d taken her anger out on the completely paralyzed, in a vegetative state elderly man, Chang, she’d urinated into the stainless steel cup and made Chang drink, causing Chang to choke, run a high fever, and in critical condition, and as she was caught, she’d excused her bad behavior as “some evil spirit entered into my body and made me do it!”; the D.A. believed that this was the social tragedy of the “lesser abusing the weak”, and recently, the nurse’s aide was indicted on attempted murder, and the D.A. is asking for five years in prison for her.

Based off of investigation, “Di” (age 37) the hired nurse’s aid started working as Chang’s caretaker last September, knew that Chang who’s bedridden needed around-the-clock care, that he relied on the feeding tubes, and had gotten corrected by Chang’s two daughters for not feeding the formulas in.

Di was displeased at the treatment of her employers, starting on October 1st of last year, for three days, she’d taken the stainless steel cup, bottle, and urinated into the containers, then, force fed it to the elderly man, causing Chang to vomit severely, to choke, with his face covered up in urine and fecal matters and vomit, and in the end, she’d, wiped the elderly man’s face off, pretended that it was, nothing.

Because of this, Chang ran a high fever, and was rushed to the hospital, and the medics found that he had the inhalation sort of pneumonia, and urinary tract infections, and his life was spared after the emergency resuscitation measures were done on hi, the family found something suspicious, reviewed the surveillance, and found what the female nurse was doing to the elderly man.

During the interrogation of the district attorneys, Di admitted to being trained as a nurse’s aide, that Chang’s daughter showed her how to draw the phlegm out, knew that the formulas should be injected in through the feeding tubes slowly too, and new from the forms in Indonesian, Chang’s conditions, and because the families didn’t allow her to have her three meals a day, that was why “she’d taken her anger out on the elderly man”.

The D.A. found her to have an unsure motive for murder, that she’d not shown any remorse after what she’d done, and it’d caused the families psychological pains too.

The district attorneys considered how the migrant workers are far from home, that they had to deal with the unequal treatment of their status quos, that the workload had caused the nurse’s aide emotional, physical fatigue, which caused her to develop the feelings of being mistreated by the individuals who’d hired her, which led her to make the wrong decisions, and this case is no doubt, a “lesser abusing lesser” tragedy of the society.

And so, this, is what’s happening, and yes, there are these cases, because there are those who’d hired these foreign nurse’s aide who viewed them as nothing MORE than hired help, because we’re PAYING your wages, therefore, we can, ABUSE you, MISTREAT you, and in turn, these hired help to watch over our elderly, our young, take their angers out on the ones they are looking after, and the problem still won’t be solved, because there’s always a party in that, higher up, status quo (the employers) and those on the bottom, the hired nurses, the migrant workers.  And to think that all of this could be prevented, had the family treated the hired help kindly…

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Karaoke Sing-Off of the Elderly

A common activity, a hobby of sorts, shared by this group of, elderly in the community, translated…

The afternoon sun felt, warmed, I took the white poodle that belonged to the elderly woman downstairs out for a walk at the park.  As I strolled, I’d heard the voices singing.  Taiwanese, Hakka, Japanese, Mandarin.

I’d followed the voices curiously, found that there was a blue pickup parked under the tree at the entrance of the park, with the karaoke machine on it.  And there were, many elderly accompanied by their nurses in wheelchairs there, extending their necks, longing to have a good karaoke session.  They’d started blurting aloud the titles of the songs, and the young owner of the truck made the selections for them, each song costs only, ten-dollars, with everybody taking turns.

like this…

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All the elders were smiling and grinning from ear to ear, with the mic to their lips, and one of them, half way through the song, stated, “oops, forgot the lyrics!”, and one sang for two lines, then, “the key is too high, I can’t get up there!”, an elderly gent ordered a classic Taiwanese tune, “Pillows of Two”, and after a few lines, he’d sighed, “the pillow fell to the floors!”

And, even though, there were, the multitudes of actions, everybody still laughed and got along joyously.  Thinking about how these elders were, immobile, they have only limited place to hang out, the karaoke set up on the truck allowed them to get their voices heard, to get what they feel out, and clearly, this was, worth, more than, any materials.  As for whether or not they were excellent as singers, it wouldn’t, matter.  After all, they are not, professional singers, at their age, willing to open up their mouths to sing, it’s, worth, a lot, isn’t it?

And so, this, is the hobby that’s, shared by this, group of, elderly, and it’s, a very important, socialization forum for them, because these elderly are in wheelchairs, or immobilized, and they’re mostly kept indoors, but, there’s this service provided for them, to hang out together, to sing along together, it’s something wonderful, that the older generations can share.

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Forever Accompanying You

A developmentally delayed child that contributes to her family in her own way, translated…

My daughter in developmentally delayed, and a companion for the families, she’d accompanied the three generations.  The years changed, she will always be, a white sheet of paper, with the words of gratitude out of her lips, smiling.

Before the birth of my daughter, she’d been blessed upon by my grandmother.  My grandmother became a widow at twenty-eight, lonely her whole life, toward this baby great granddaughter, she’d felt that she was a grace from God, that she needed to love her very much.

After my daughter was born, we saw that she was limp in her limbs, with diminishing capacity, after a long road of treatment from the physicians, nothing worked.  During that age there’s no early intervention programs, and I had to work, can’t stay home to look after her, so I can only, move in with my own grandmother, and she’d, welcomed us with her arms wide open.

“Dear, come, a hug!”, grandma opened up her arms, my daughter ran toward her, like she was a pet that my grandmother kept, she’d slept with my grandmother too at night.  My daughter accompanied my grandmother for a whole of twelve years.

After grandmother passed, I’d placed her in an institution, on Monday I’d sent her into boarding, on Saturday, I’d taken her home.  This was a difficult period for her, as she came home happy on Saturdays, but when Monday came around, she’d started crying hard, throwing her tantrums, rolled on the ground, refused to get taken away, she was only fourteen then.

My mother moved in with me at her old age, I’d taken my daughter home so my mother could have company, during the daytime, my daughter went to daycare, and arrives home at four in the afternoon, and my mother looked after her with great care, they’d loved and cherished one another so, until my mother too had, passed away, my daughter had accompanied my mother for a whole of ten years.

After I retired, I’d taken her to a ton of group outings, to help socialize her into life of the community, my life, is her life too.  Companionship is the BEST gift of life, companionship doesn’t cost anything to hire someone from the outside, with the families there, keeping each other warm.  Although my daughter is not intelligent, but putting her in the right place, she’s still, a contributor.

And now, she’s, in her fifties, and as I got older, I’d found how wonderful she truly is, she’d had a ton of love from home, very spirited every day, it’s like the Holy Bible said, “everything works together, everyone benefitted.”

And so, this, is the “use” of this developmentally delayed child to the family, she’s great companionship for the elders, and now, her mother realized this finally, and now, the mother and daughter will live together, until the end.

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Finding Joys in Helping Others in Need

Helping someone in need!  Translated…

Early in the morn, I’d rushed off with my daughter to work, as we alighted the buss, we saw a bunch of ladies, looking over an elderly man, the elderly man’s socks were, soaked in blood, and, the tissue that covered the wound in the tibia, seemed to continue to bleed.

Thankfully, two more stations more, there’s the VMH in Shihpai, as he got off the bus, I saw him, sat waiting with hardship at the bus stop, the blood still, flowed out, he seemed to be calling someone for assistance; and I’d not cared that it was time for me to get to work then, I’d, gone up to him, told him I worked in the hospital, and had him call his families to meet him in the E.R., while I’d gone to the hospital, to get a wheelchair to get him in.  Then came, the running fast, pushing the wheelchair in supersonic speed, to the E.R., to when his loved one rushed in, the man was taken into the surgical ward to get sutured up, and that was when that huge rock finally got dropped inside my heart.  Later, I’d learned from his family, that the elder had cancer, and he was on anticoagulants regularly, had his hospitalization been delayed, the results would be, dire.

查看來源圖片the random act of kindness from a stranger here!  Photo from online

I’d recalled how as I rushed the elderly man into the E.R., he kept telling me thank you, said that he’d met someone amazing who’d, helped him out.  I’d told him, he was my parents’ age, that if something like this were to happen to them, I’d wanted someone to lend them a helping hand too, and, this hour-long interlude, although it was, thrilling, but, in the end, it all, ended, well, other than knowing the meaning of helping other is bliss, I’m, also proud for being, that tiny screw inside that giant white tower!

And so, because your empathy kicked in, seeing the elderly man injured because you’d wanted someone to help your own elderly parents, and because it’s in your line of work, to offer assistance to people, being a medical care worker, and you’d, ended up, helping this elderly man get to the hospital on time, and saved his life.

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