Child rearing practices, translated…
Hsiu-Jen Huang had volunteered, for multiple years for Tzu-Chi Foundation, she and her husband are both very much into the nonprofit work, they didn’t plan to have children, they wanted to spend more time, helping others. Until before Huang’s mother died, Huang didn’t want to part with her, plus the elder’s belief of it’s embarrassing that her married daughter never had an offspring, and, she had a thought, wanting her mother, to “become my child”.
Burned on Both Ends by the Difficulties and Life
A year after Huang’s mother passed on, at the séance, her son, Dzi-Cheng Wang was born. Huang and her husband had never expected that this “reincarnation” of her mother, was an extremely difficult hardship that’s given to them by the gods.
As her son was young, Huang would often receive complaints from all around about her son, sometimes, the schools would tell how he’d picked on someone in his class, etc., etc., etc……………
Back then, she didn’t understand it all, she’d chosen to believe the instructors words, and after her son came home from school, she’d beaten him, as discipline. Until later on, her son acted up even more, until two years later, when they took him to the doctors, and that, was when the diagnosis of ADHD was assigned to her son.
Huang said, from how she didn’t want to have children and just volunteered to help others, to having a child who’s diagnosed with ADHD, it’s hard for her to accept. Every day, she’d burned on both ends, she’d sunk down into the defeat. Even, in order to take care of their son, the couple had given up on multiple opportunities to go on help trips with the foundation, which was, totally the OPPOSITE of her life goals.
Awhile ago, there’s the case where the student, Jie Cheng started randomly shooting on the MRT, a lot of the public are cussing Jie Cheng and her families out, and still, for Huang, who has son with A.D.H.D., she was shocked.
Understanding, Using Love, to Change Him
Huang said, when her son couldn’t be controlled, he would often say nasty things to her, or mutilate himself. And, whether to medicate their son, she and her husband argued about this matter too, and, the insurmountable number of trials had caused the family to start cracking.
Until later on, one of her son’s school teachers told Huang, “Treating your child as if he were treasure, he will be a treasure; if you treated him like trash, then, he will behave like trash”. That, was the moment of truth for her, and she’d started using an alternative way, to treat her own son.
Help Her Son Develop Interests to Burn Out His Excess Energy
In order to help drain out her son’s never-spent energy, Huang closely observed what her son was into, and signed him up for Lego class, have him joining the soccer team of their community, every weekend, she’d even taken him to horseback riding therapy, to have her son do multiple balance activities on the horseback, to help him focus him attention longer, so he will NOT allow his emotions to run wild.
And now, even though, the son would still interrupt the adults from time to time, but, Huang had slowly, let go of the negative emotions she carried because of it.
With a thick file, with documentations of how her son had changed, Huang hoped that her son, who was cultivated by love, will eventually, live under his own great big skies.
And so, this, is how this mother learned to deal with her son, with A.D.H.D., and, DO remember, that A.D.H.D. is merely a label, for YOU, fucking adults, because you stupid adults want an EASIER way, to classify us, child, and, so what IF the kid acts up in school? That could mean a great deal of things: the material that the teacher’s teaching isn’t challenging enough, the classes are way too boring, to keep the kid STIMULATED, and so, naturally, as the kid gets bored, he would start to interrupt, and, this mother changed her mindset about her son, and so, the child changed too, so, the changes still starts with ALL of you, PARENTS, and so, STOP blaming everything on those god DAMN medical diagnoses, all it takes, to help a child grow up strong and better IS nothing more than a little MORE patience!