From the workforce, translated…
After graduating from school, the classmates all split up, and, started working in our separate fields, but, we’d all missed the times we’d shared.
A friend said, that the time for us to make a TON of friends had passed, that all that remained, are the BEST of friends. Sure! Cherish, along with feeling lucky, about having these friendships, and allowing these moments to become treasured by others as well.
When everybody met back up again, the values, with the differences in occupation and aging, had all differed. I, working in the travel agencies, because I’m working with a group of people who are about to fly out, plus the company trained us to advertise the trips that has the best options, and the colleagues and I all shared our secret hangouts, and what we saw there, and so, we’d spent most of our earnings, on traveling too.
My classmate who works in the insurance industry is a career-centered woman, she’d accumulated and made MORE money than the rest of us, within ten years of graduation, she’d already bought a house and a car; with her investment goals, planned up to her old age, and her own values also affected her clientele.
And my friends who works in a hospital, in their work environment, they’d bore witness to death and illness, and the speed to which these things occurred was super fast, and so, he’d worked hard, to give back to the world. He holds a great deal of mercy, a great deal of kindness, and he’d radiated of this Buddhist “scent”, it’d made him “shine”
The work environment DOES affect how we act and interact with the external environments, and because of how this group of friends shared with me, it’d allowed me to broaden my horizons, to change my points of view, to find a pace that’s right for me, to learn to live happily in the moment, to help me plan a better future.
And so, this, is the benefits of having different kinds of friends, they’d offered you a TON of different views, and given you a LOT of perspectives, and they’d offer an alternative view to a problem you’re having, and help you find a way to resolve your own problems too.
Allowing the Elders to Have Fun on Their Travels
Because we only have a small amount of time with them, and so, it’s all we can do, translated…
Awhile ago, I’d thumbed across the article, “My Mother-in-Law’s Fast-Forward Life”, sharing how the daughter-in-law took the parents-in-law out, but the mother-in-law hurried along, that she couldn’t adapt, and had the feelings of “I’m never going out traveling with them again”.
Actually, I can really connect with that, but, taking the elderly, along with children on outings, you MUST use the methods that they’d enjoy, to let the elderly enjoy, and to really do your filial piety duties toward them.
I wanted to share my own experiences, recently, my husband bought a car, to let me chauffeur my kids to and from school, and, during my spare time, I’d taken my parents out to sightsee. From our regular conversations, I’d learned that my father wanted to go to the New Year’s Street, that he never took the high speed trains, and so, I’d taken them to the north of Hsinchu by the high speed trains, to the New Year’s shopping street, to shop around, to go watch people, to have some of the specialty foods there. In just a short day’s time, this, is fitting, for elderly people who are NOT with that much energy.
After this experience, I’d always planned the trip for just half the day: after the kids left for school in the morn, we’d gone to the memorial home of the past presidents, to go and see the water dam, to stroll the old streets of Sanxia, after we’d dined, I’d taken them home, so they could get their naps in; or to go to visit the temples in the morn, and, head home to rest in the afternoons.
Normally when I’d gone out with people from my age, we’d go to coffee shops, to botanical gardens, to shop in the malls, and I know that the elderly are NOT at all interested in this, I’d once taken them to a namely café, but they liked teas more, and seeing how a cup of coffee cost close to two hundred dollars, they’d felt it to be too extravagant, and so, we’d come to know, that this, is NOT a good place to take them visiting, and if we take him there, he’d only just stroll, with an empty mind, and he’d felt bored, and would hurry us to leave; or maybe when we’d wanted to go a little bit far, even IF he wanted to go there, but it’s a long distance, and he’d get tired before we go there and wanted to go home to sleep.
The elderly has a different preference to what the younger generations liked, and their energy level is not as high as ours, if you wanted to take the elderly out, DO remember to respect what they wanted to do, plus, to plan a trip that fits both the generations, that way, all of you would have a grand time.
So, this, is especially important, because the elderly don’t have that much zest, that much energy, and, they’re NOT as interested in the stuff we, the younger generations are interested in, and so, when you go out with the elders, DO make sure that you recall the purpose of your trips, to make them happy.