Because let’s FACE it, you ASSHOLES (not name-calling here!!!), we women still RUN ALL our households here, translated…
Some twenty odd years ago, I, as an only daughter, married into a family with parents-in-law and an older and a younger sister-in-law, and I’d had a very long time of maladjustment there.
Every time I’d gone back to my parents’ and complained to them, my mother would make delicious foods for me, to make me feel, that I have a safe harbor no matter what. Then, the way that my mother “stood behind me” is by telling me the right ways of acting. My mother didn’t even finish elementary school, but she’d known the values of “When the mother and daughter-in-law get along well, then, the family is well”, “We must have a great stance, put up with everything, that way, luck would be ours”, “When your in-laws are healthy, then, as the younger generations, you ARE blessed”, along with other great sayings. And she’d constantly reminded me that if I felt my mother-in-law used words that sounded too harsh to me, to recall that “older adults are like children”, and, since it’s the words of a child, there’s NO need to take them seriously, is there?
I’m a working mom, my mother understood how I’m burning on both ends, and would prepare the foods for me to take back to my husband’s household, and told me, “The foods, you MUST take out, and serve them to your in-laws first, then, serve it to your husband who works hard, and then, get some for you and the kids”. My mother’s kind heart, how can I NOT be moved and submit?
My mother would also tell me often, that I must thank my older and younger sisters-in-law, because my husband’s house is a farming family, and, since they were younger, they’d handled a TON of the issues regarding the planting and harvesting, and, my husband’s family is so well to do, they are given a LOT of the credits.
For multiple years, I could live under the same roof as my in-laws, and kept a wonderful interaction style with my older and younger sisters-in-law, I owe it all to my mother’s teachings.
And so, that still just shows, the IMPORTANCE of the role of the woman in a family, because we women ARE the ones running OUR separate houses, and, DO remember, that there’s only O-N-E female HEAD of the household PER house, and, when you, the mothers-in-law come over to OUR places to visit, DO remember, that you’re the visitor, you’re NOT the owners, and so, STOP meddling into OUR affairs, after all, you’d already HAD your chances, in raising Y-O-U-R offspring, so, let US, the younger generations, do OUR jobs too!!!