The Reference Values of Dislikes

How we shouldn’t allow those “dislikes” to get inside of us, but it is hard, because we all care about others’ comments about us…translated…

While I was in high school in the U.S., there was a Taiwanese girl who was hostile toward, me for no reasons at all, and as I’d realized she was hostile, I couldn’t wrap my head around why: we didn’t have the same classes, we barely run into each other, there’s almost no chance I could possibly get on her, bad, side, and this source unknown of her animosity, it’d kept, bothering me.

To now, after so many years had, passed, as I’d begun, working, and met up with the best friend of the girl who disliked me, because we were assigned to work together, it was amicable, and we worked well together.  This woman, who’s intelligent and able-bodied, mentioned to me the girl who saw me as her, enemies, and after we’d exchanged notes, I was shocked to realize, that the girl only actually heard my cousin who went to the same school as we had spreading bad rumors about my own parents, and became prejudiced toward me, and, ignored my gestures of friendship toward, her.  While her show of dislike toward me, it’d, affected all of those whom we were, interacting, with.

I never take lightly how bad news travel too fast, believed, that the misunderstood things about each other falls under the category of “bad news”.  The negative comments were like that seed of hate, you would have no clue, of whoever’s hearts it falls into, will grow into what.

And, if it’s the unchecked prejudices, you can’t offer your side, and it will attach itself to the negative emotions from what the person imagined.

And surely, we all also believed, that the misunderstandings were from how young we all, were.  At our age back then, we are in pursue of being someone who is liked and accepted by all, with zero negative comments on, us.  And this, will slowly get adjusted, with more experiences we have with those whom we interact with in the world.

what the world socializes us to cared too much about…image from online

And ultimately we will realize, in the rule of the adult world, someone may have left a negative imprint in someone due to a negative comment; and some of the negative comments are actually, lifesavers, like untrustworthy, liar, to even, the rumor mill, editing what others say—when you “shared your experiences”, talk trash about these people, is it giving yourself the bad karma, or, are you, reminding others to be careful when they interact with the individuals?  It’s all reliant on the individual, which shouldn’t be considered as a collective whole.

And, the line in the comment under a video, it may help spare us from going to see a boring movie; or, it can, help us realize, that it was because we’d believed in those rumors, that’s caused us to, miss out on the best of, shows, and we are filled with, regrets.

The connections we make with one another, even the bad ones, may have the positive that’s hidden.  It’s a test of our wisdoms, seeing the negative comments as sound advices or, something that, hurt us.  If we can get away from assigning the positive or negative values to these, then, we may be able to get closer to what the truth actually, is.

Negative comments are an angle of observation, not completely trustworthy, and not to be disregarded completely either.  Like one day, we will finally understand, that there is nobody with NO negative ratings assigned to her/him; when we learn to differentiate between a prejudice and a reminder, emotions and facts, the negative comments will then, become, what help us to correctly evaluate someone on.

And so, this is why, we should not care too much about the kudos, the likes or the, dislikes, and there’s no need to, explain ourselves to the person who gives us that, awful rating, because, we can’t possibly be liked and positively received by everybody in this world, just like there are, some people we get along with, some that we, don’t, and by forcing ourselves to fit into these, tiny boxes of what we expect ourselves to be based off of others’ opinions of us, that’s just, a too awful way to, live, life!