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Behind a Successful Woman, the Story of a Marriage

There’s NOT a man, rolling HIS eyes, I’m sure, because we can ALL self-manage, better than Y-O-U!!!  Translated…

Hsieh, who came from Xikou, Chiayi, was the only one who’d graduated from a university, out of his five brothers, and he’d gone to a teacher’s university that’s a public school too.  And because of his honest and easy-going personality, and how well he’d learned, after he’d graduated out of the phys ed department, the dean put him up to a well-known all girls’ high school to work, and so, he’d started his teaching career.

Hsieh is dutiful, after he’d served his army terms, the principal of the school asked him to work as the physical education department head.  His good performances at work, had gotten him the commends of his other coworkers, and, in the introduction of his coworkers, he’d met Ms. Lin, who works in a hospital, after six months of dating, they were wed.  The two of them would often drink teas and converse about the goings-on of their days after work, and make future plans.  Hsieh smiled and said, “My wife is very intelligent, she would be excellent in working outside, and so, I took over the house, along with raising my kids, so she didn’t have to worry, and kept going in her career.”

Lin who’d graduated from a medicine major in college, in Hsieh’s support, took five more years, part-timed, and earned her own bachelor’s and then, a master’s, then, she’d switched tracks went back to her alma mater, as a lecturer. Other than working hard teaching, she’d also took on multiple research projects. And Hsieh, never had a word of complaints, worked as her cheerleader, took care of their house, and shouldered the responsibilities of the education of their two sons.

In her husband’s selfless giving, Mrs. Hsieh had excellent performances in school, and gotten noted by the schools, and the school encouraged her to keep going in her studies.  Three years later, she’d gotten into the doctor’s program in Taiwan Teacher’s University in Taipei, and would come to Taipei every week for her classes twice, the hardships are beyond imagination.  Other than the mandatory courses, she’d needed to go to the hospitals, the other research facilities, to collect her data.  Other than her persistence and her abilities, the endless giving of Hsieh to his wife, maybe, that, was what had helped her through it all.

After five years’ worth of studious days, at age forty-eight, Mrs. Hsieh finally earned her doctorate, and their two sons, in Hsieh’s working hard to raise them, had also gotten their graduate degrees too, now, the older son is doing research in NTU, the second son teaches in a high school, and they’re a model family.

In a private gathering, Hsieh said, “I’m now, the least educated of my house.”  “But, you’d given up on your studies, so your family can have theirs!  I’m sure, that Professor Hsieh would be grateful to you too!”  I smiled and replied, thinking, behind a successful woman, there is a supportive husband, and the Hsiehs are the best example of this!

And so, the man didn’t mind, taking over the duties of the wife, he took care of the house, while his wife worked hard, to become achieved in her career, and, he’d managed to raise his sons up well too, and, that, is the face of a good father, a good husband, a generally good man!

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A Great Companion that Helped Me Through the Hardest Part of My Life, a Story on Marriage

Translated…

Thirty years ago, in order to get pregnant, I’d gone to see an assortment of doctors, western, eastern medicines, gone through endless examinations too.  And, my heart was between expectancy, uncertainty and disappointment.  After many years of trying, I’d even failed in the in-vitro too, it’d caused me to get tired in the mind, body and the heart.  Gladly though, I had my husband there with me, every step of the way, he’d optimistically told me, “It’s okay, it’ll be fine.”

When we’d decided to adopt, the noises came from all over.  My mother-in-law phoned us almost everyday, and blamed us, why won’t we pick a son from my husband’s eldest, second oldest, and third oldest brother’s son, and register him in our household, why must we adopt someone else’s child, are we planning on leaving ALL our assets to an “outsider” when we die………

This sort of never-ending grilling, I was on the verge of breaking down, I was about to give in, but my husband insisted, “It wouldn’t be fair who we choose from, the eldest, the second oldest, the older brothers, what?  Are we supposed to take a son from each of them?”

Later on, every six months, my husband would take me, and my mother-in-law abroad.  My mother-in-law had never given up on her suggestions, but she was NO longer as pushy, but, every now and then, we’d heard her complained.

When my son was seventeen, my mother-in-law died at the age of eighty-three.  Now, my son is twenty-three, I now have to withstand the cruel treatment from my own sisters.

My husband and I started from scratch, I’m a penny-saver, and my husband knew how to keep himself in check too.  Originally, my sisters who are better off than we were, in the changes of the two decades, maybe, they’d run out on their lucks, but, every time they’d asked, we’d never told them no.

Last year, my mother died at the age of eighty-six, left about four million dollars in cash.  My husband told me that I must give up on my inheritance rights, that the money should be left, to be divided among my sisters, and I’m all too thankful to his generosity and kindness.

It’s just that the ease didn’t last long at all, awhile ago, I’d heard the phones, and I’d started to fret again.  The once-forgotten sense of helplessness and panic came right back up again, when my cell showed that it was my sisters, I’d gotten so pissed off, so disappointed, and my heart went completely coldc.

They wanted me to go to a notary public, to register one of their own kids under my house, and the reasons are all too familiar, and too sharp for my ears, “What, you gonna let some outside take over your assets when you die…”, I’m truly heartbroken, the scar that just won’t heal back up, got tore, wide open by my sisters, and on top of that, they’d dumped SALT on it too.

But gladly, my husband was right beside me all the way, as I got through this sadness in life, with an amazing man by my side, it’s more than enough for this life.

And from this, you can see, how important it is, to have a spouse who’ll stand BY your side, who will give you the EMOTIONAL supports as you need, and yet, how many of you ladies can say, that you truly have that?  And, how many of you, guys can honestly say, that you are by your wives’ (1 @ a time!!!)sides, all the way, standing next to them?  Not very many, and, a good man like this, is still, very hard to find…

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