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The Teddy Bear at My House

Translated…

My daughter had always wanted a cat for a pet, but, because neither one of us wanted to, she’d let that thought go.  Back in high school, one day, she saw a Rilakkuma, she’d bought it, with glee, it was, about eighty centimeters in height, with light brown coat, a square head, short and fat limbs, very cute, my daughter called it “Bear”, the three of us all loved it so.  The bear would usually stay in my daughter’s room, and accompanied my daughter to dreams at night; during the cold winter nights, my daughter would make sure, that her bear is warm, but when she wakes in the morn, the bear would usually have made its escape out, and would be on its side or with its head into the bed, making my daughter laugh.

At meal time, my daughter would carry the bear to the tables and sat with us, it’d stood, on the long chair, with its two, short arms on the table, like a kid, standing up, to eat at the table.  After meal, my daughter would carry her Teddy bear back into her bedroom, and would from time to time, nag it, out of fun, “Everybody’s finished already, only you, still here, you glutton.”

The rest time before bedtime, we’d all lain on the bed, sharing conversations, naturally, the bear would also, be there too.

The bear is naturally, my daughter’s number one fan when she plays the piano, whenever my daughter would practice, she’d placed the bear close by; and from time to time, she would have me, hold on to the bear, and listen to her play, after she’s done performing, I would pull the bear’s hands together, to give her the applause, and hollered, “Encore!  Encore!”, and my daughter would be filled with glee.  Whenever my daughter felt off, she’d told her sorrows to her bear too, she felt, that the bear had great healing powers.

Whenever it’s sunny, my daughter would put the bear onto the couch in the living room, to give it a sunbath, and, after the bear was warmed, she’d then, carry it back into her bedroom, and stated, “the bear had already gotten the essence of the sun and the moon now, it’d become, an energy bear!”

Sometimes, when my daughter heads off abroad to travel or to perform, she’d lain her bear on her bed, pull the covers over her, told it, “You must behave yourself, and wait, for my return.”

What’s more classic was, when she’d started grad school, and was going to her orientation, she’d brought the bear with her to her dorm; and when she’d called home regularly, she’d told me of how the bear was doing; and, waited until the summer or winter vacations, she’d bring the bear home with her.

Being an only daughter is really lonely, but, with her bear accompanying her, as parents, we feel, better about her not having a sibling.

And so, this, is how FAR someone’s attachment objects can go, this young woman didn’t have ANY siblings, as she’s an only child, and so, she’d found herself an attachment object, in this case, a Teddy bear, to accompany her, now, I’m not saying, that having an attachment object is a bad thing, but, this, is just, going WAY too far here, in MY opinion, that is.

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The Plans of a Birthday Party Didn’t Fall Through

On the education of the young, translated…

One day, as I’d picked my sixth grade daughter up from school, she’d told me happily, that a classmate was having a birthday party, that he’s taking everybody in the class out for steaks next Wednesday.

I thought, which parents have the money, to take out an entire class, the cost must run up high.  A few of the parents from the same community, after learning about this, started discussing, whether or not to shop for presents, and whether or not they should allow their children to go.

The birthday party came quick, on Tuesday, I’d gone to pick out a present, and picked my daughter up afterschool, she’d told me in disappointment, that the birthday party was delayed until after mid-terms, because the parents were sending her older sister to France to study, it was canceled.

After I’d heard, I started wondering, that the dates for sending the daughter aboard should’ve already been set, plus, can you cancel the reservations at the restaurant instantaneously?

After the mid-terms, the kids started discussing when they’re going out for steak again, the teacher called the parents who were supposedly throwing this party, and the parents said, that the child didn’t have an older sister, that he wasn’t going to France, nor was the throwing of the birthday party discussed.  Turns out, that the child made the whole thing up, and he managed to trick the rest of his classmates, his teachers, along with the other kids’ parents as well.

Later on, one day, this student who’d lied to everybody had an early leave, the teacher asked around the class, to see how many of the classmates had been in the same class as the child, and, a few of them raised their hands, and told everybody else, that this, was not the first time that this kid had done something like this.  The entire class got mad at the few of them, “Why didn’t you tell us?  Allowing us to get tricked like that.”  Actually, nobody lost any money, it’s just that all the kids’ expectations fell out.  And, some of the parents claimed that it’s great that the party wasn’t thrown, due to the recent food crises.

My daughter couldn’t believe, that she was scammed in school, that her expectations fell out.  I’d reminded her, that school is a microcosm of the world, that after she goes out into the world, there would be, more scams like this, that she must have a good heart, and to not want anything that doesn’t belong to her, and maybe, she could, reduce the chances of getting scammed.

And so, it’s still the parents’ fault, perhaps, the parents spoiled the kid, made him think that he could get away with murder, and so, he blurted out that promise, got the whole class going, and he became the center of everybody’s attention, and that made him feel special, who knows, but, it’s this bad behavior that the parents overlooked that will, end up, screwing this kid over in the future, and the parents doesn’t seem to pay any heed to their son’s bad behaviors.

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