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The Ambassador of Peace on LINE

Trying to keep the peace, when members in your group are at each other’s throats, when they get on each other’s nerves, what can you do?  Try to mediate, in a round-and-about sort of a way, so you don’t end up, as the common enemies, but it’s, not that easy!  Translated…

My daughter-in-law one day, chimed excitedly, to the Family LINE group, how there’s, a night market close to her home, and the photo she’d sent to the group was a street, lit up with the lights during the nights, with a world of fried food stands, the arcades, I’d immediately replied back, “be careful as you don’t know the quality of oils the owners used to fry the foods, and the kids shouldn’t be allowed to play those arcades, as they may be easily addicted to these games…………”

As soon as I’d typed all of that, my daughter who’s away on another continent immediately added on, “it’s fine that you go and take that stroll every now and then.”  I was shocked, I’d, immediately recycled my message back.  Thinking about this calmly, if someone rained on my parade, it naturally would, make me feel, awful, and it wouldn’t matter if the words that someone was saying to me was right!  I’d, contemplated, and felt grateful for my daughter’s round-and-about-way of reminding me, so I slammed on the brakes before damages are done.

My friend was once the head of a certain club, he’d shared things on LINE quite a lot.  He’d told, that often, as a subject of discussion was opened for debate, some of the group had started, firing those cannons, some, quite stubborn, to one’s own beliefs, some swayed with how the winds were blowing, some agreed to others’ words, and the words were sharpened, ready for war.  The most often was the fight for the parties in the politics, some debated on the policies, some toward the incumbents, and, it’d, made it difficult, for my friend, who wanted to try and mediate between those who are then, engaged, and, he’d, spoken of his “New Year’s Resolution” aloud via LINE.

He’d said, “from here on out, no talks of politics, no personal attacks.  When we have a difference of opinions, DO delete those emotional words, to keep the conversation flowing smoothly, rationally”, and, for the six months that followed, there’s, more harmony within the group of LINE.

getting into an argument on LINE

illustration found online

With the inventions of the high-tech gadgets, it’d, made people leap into an alternative world, the parents are, disregarding the needs of their children more now, and the problems between the couples, the parents and children, worsened, as our heads, lowered to our high-tech gadgets these days.

But, think on it, it’s not the gadgets that are awful, it’s the mindsets of the users, and the timing.  If one can use the gadgets, and not let these high-tech devices control us, then, we won’t become, slaves.  Like how those who’d retired who don’t live with their children, sliding on their tablets or cell phones, sending the messages, their emotions found a viable outlet, and they’re, able to get some news and new information from everywhere around.  Sometimes, they’re even, having a webcam conference with the children and grandchildren who don’t live close by, the comfort from interaction with one’s own loved ones, although they’re, separated physically, but they’d become, more than, connected psychologically.  To the point when there’s an emergency, the high-tech devices are, very good for sounding off the alarms.

illustration from UDN.com

圖/Tai Pera

My friend’s older sister-in-law didn’t get along with her parents, although one live up north, the other, south, they’d still gotten on each other’s bad side over miniscule matters, and, as the two sides were getting heated on the group on LINE, she’d, privately texted her youngest nephew, told him to commend his mother on her cooing, how he’s, looked after so well, so the grandparents who lived faraway, in the southern parts of the island know, that they have a good daughter-in-law.  And, other than posting the messages on how to live well, my friend told her older sister-in-law that her parents had, commended her in their circles of friends, how they’re, so proud of her.  And naturally, the problems between this mother and daughter-in-law pair, slowly, resolved on their own.

Working hard, being the middleman of peace, at first, you may feel, tried, because you couldn’t make the results of the changes you want to see happen faster, but, after awhile, the results will, show.  The communications apps are of various sorts and kinds, with the members numerous, and, it certainly isn’t by chance, that we’d, found each other, in the vastness of the ocean-full of people.  If you can cherish this affinity, and, work hard, as a connector in every group you’re involved in, keeping the peace, for everybody’s sake, as you turn on the apps, it can only bring you joys in the days.

This is on, being, THE middleman, and, this woman has some valid points, but, I don’t, necessarily agree with her on everything.  I mean, it’s important, that you want to keep the peaceful flow of conversations on your LINE accounts, sure, but sometimes, you just, can’t ignore how someone’s words made you flare up, and, if you don’t find a valid way to get the angers you feel out, then, it will surely, damage you, and not just your relationship with that other person.  And yeah, a middleman who will help, diffuse this, lit up bomb, may be necessary in these cases, but not always.

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The Holiday to DUMP the High-Tech Products, Returning to the Better Times Before


<The Kidnappers of Our Lives>

My colleague showed off her brand new cell phone to me, told me how the moment her last contract expired, she’d taken her cell phone numbers, switched to another provider.  “This company has better receptions.  The company I was with last year, I couldn’t even manage to send out one single text message on New Year’s Eve, it’s so infuriating.”

Meeting up with the girlfriends, naturally, a group photo is a must, normally, the cell phones would do the trick, but, not today, my girlfriends mysterious flashed the brand new camera, “this one has amazing photoshop abilities, you wouldn’t need the computer program if you have this one!”, then, they’d photographed all the dishes served, because “there’s the ‘gourmet’ mode!  The foods photographed using this mode will look even more savory.”

A former class member from my college days posted photos of his entertainment systems at home, “it’s so fun, playing the video games right now!”

All of these, had been done over and over again, but, we’re all, truly, kidnapped, by the high-tech products here.

Meeting up with the friends for an outing; headed out to hang out, photographs always preceded taking in the scenes; as the weather gets hot, we must have the AC blasting on all night long, everybody has a laptop in her/his lap.

“I’m finding it harder and harder to recall how we’d managed to live so long.”  On a certain day, my friend smiled and told me.  “One day, I forgot my cell.  To tell you the truth, the moment I’d discovered that I’d left it at home, I was sweating out cold sweats.  But, later on, I’d thought, I never had any cell phones from way, way, way back when, my very first cell was a gift for my eighteenth birthday, the year I’d gone to college!  And, from before, I’d lived on fine, didn’t I?”

Yeah sure, recalling how fifteen, twenty years ago, when there aren’t that many channels on television, there’s only a few programs on, and, we only had landlines; compared to now, there are a ton of films online, series, for us to choose from, and, there are more than a million functions on the cell phones………such a great difference, and we are, quickly, being kidnapped too.

Can we set up a day, to ditch all these “kidnappers”?

<Turn Off ALL High-Tech Products>

Turn off the cell phones, or, just, “forget” to bring it, underneath your pillows at home, don’t take it with you!  Allowing yourselves, to not feel guilty for not picking up, you will find, that there’s this leisure feeling that will overcome you, you no longer needed to get agitated with the ringtones from your cell, nor do you need to stare at the screens of the cell phones, and, fret about whether or not you should pick up on these annoying calls.

On this day, turn off your televisions, your computers, forget about the cameras too, just head outdoors, to get in tune with nature.  How long was it, since you were able to, enjoy the sun?  Going for a picnic sounds quite nice, doesn’t it?  Living a life of leisure is the simplest kind of bliss.  And, you wouldn’t need to read too much into how beneficial to your health going on this outing is, just, step out of the house, and, get all of your friends who’d started to interact with you from just online out too, to see one another in person, to catch up on the old times.

Actually, before photographing the foods and the scenes, the most important thing is, did you manage, to record the images of these gourmet foods, these scenes into the memory disks of your minds?  On this day without your digital camera, the best way to remember is by savoring it, by feeling it, from the outside, and, take it all in.

If you’re really not wanting the troubles of heading out, then, how ‘bout cracking open a book?  Or maybe, just stare into space and daydream a bit, rolling around on your bed sounds nice too, huh?  How long’s it since you’d put your focus back on yourself?

There are too many additives to our lives.  Those inventions are originally made to make our lives better, but, after a long time, it’d become the culprit, to losing our lives.

From all of these new and interesting high-tech products, sure, we’d gotten a ton of enjoyments, created more conversation topics, our times are marching forward because of them too.  But, we’d still need to have time, to remind us of what we once had, what’s disappearing slowly right now.

So, set up a date, allow ourselves, to take a break away, from the fast pace of the world.  After we’d gotten a breather, we will be able to, return, back to our lives, with a big old grin!

And so, maybe, it’s time, to take a mini break, away from the high-tech products, after all, our lives are being kidnapped by these modern day inventions, how long has it been, since you actually engaged in an in-depth human conversation, where the two of you just sat at a café or something, enjoying one another’s company?  Exactly, so, turn off those cell phones, I-Pads, laptops or whatever, and, ENJOY yourselves for a short bit, ‘cuz work ain’t goin’ NOWHERE, it’ll still be here when you get back!

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