So this, is what the parents have to cope with, with a way-too-sensitive child at home, huh??? Translated…
“Your daughter is so very quiet—have you ever considered, taking her to the doctors?”
“Jody is so easily hurt. If she sees that other children were picked on, she’d cried too. When she’d heard sad stories, she’d cry. We don’t know what to do with her.”
“Everybody in the kindergarten is eager to participate in group activities, but, your son just refused. Is he also this stubborn at home too?”
Do these lines sound familiar? Of course, these words can get to you, as if, your kid’s the one with the problems, but, your child has a keen sense of observation, shows a lot of care and concerns toward others, and is very sensitive. You knew real well, that if you heed these words, forced him to get socialized, the child would be in a whole lot of pain. And, if you go with the flow of your child’s personality characteristics, s/he might be well-off. And still, as the same words keep coming up, you’d started doubting, whether or not you’re fitting as a parent, and that you might be responsible, for your child, behaving the way s/he does.
How to Education Children Who are Too Sensitive?
You feared, that you may be doing things wrong, worried that no one can help you. You might have already realized, that most of the parenting books all talked about “behavioral problems”, such as getting agitated easily, distracted, rough, attacking. From this angle, there’s NOTHING wrong with your child. There were NO mentions of the problems you’d encountered, eating problems, being too shy, nightmares, worries, and, strong emotional outburst, for no apparent reasons at all. And, you couldn’t discipline your child using normal methods, even IF you’d just criticized her/him lightly, your child would have a complete meltdown.
The Words of Advice from the Experts:
When people tell you, that something IS wrong with your child, don’t believe them, and don’t LET your child believe them either. Your child is UNIQUE, that, is not your fault. Naturally, there would be room for improvement in parent-child interaction techniques, but, don’t ever believe that something IS wrong with you, or your offspring.
Based off of studies, fifteen to twenty percent of the children in the population are born naturally sensitive. And, with this great number, it’s hardly “abnormal”. Besides, in ALL the species that’s been studied, there are JUST as high records of individuals in the population that are this sensitive. And, IF that, is the result of evolution, then, there MUST be a reason for it, we just can’t see it is all.
There are many evidence that suggests, that people who are highly sensitive are NOT necessarily shy, nor are they all neurotic OR anxious all the time, or even, depressed. For some of the more sensitive members of the population, these emotional responses are caused by environmental stimuli, NOT inborn traits.
What, is a Heightened Level of Sensitivity?
People who have a heightened level of sensitivity are more aware of the details in their surrounding environment, and, before they acted, they’d think, thoroughly first before they took the actions. Whether it be adults or children, those who are sensitive usually have a higher level of empathy, more intelligent, has strong instincts, with creativity, more careful, with a lot of conscience.
They understood better, the result of their own actions, and so, they’re less willing, to do the wrong things. They couldn’t cope well with higher volumes of sounds, or an influx of information coming to them at any given time. They would avoid these stimuli, which makes them appear shy or distant from others. If they couldn’t avoid the circumstances of being under too many stimuli, then, they’d become “difficult to deal with”, or “way too sensitive”.
Although those who are deemed more sensitive pay attention to the details more, but, they may not have a better sense of sight, hearing, taste, or smell. But, there are those with a better ability in one of their sensory organs. The key point here, is that when their brains processed the information, they do it more thoroughly. Not just their brains, those who are deemed more sensitive also have a stronger spinal reflex too. Their immune systems are more active, they are prone to develop allergic reactions to things. Which means, that their bodies are designed, to understand and observe this world even MORE thoroughly.
So, just because your kid cries a lot, or wouldn’t play in groups, PARENTS and TEACHERS, that still doesn’t mean that there IS something wrong with the kid, something IS wrong, with Y-O-U, stupid adult, who work so totally FUCKING (oopsy!!!) hard, to FIT all those little ones, inside just ONE square, but hey, some of us are rectangles, triangles, rhombi, circles, along with an ASSORTMENT of shapes AND sizes, and, we still DON’T just FIT properly to the “norm” (whatever THAT is!!!), so STOP trying to FIT your young INTO certain boxes, and just love them for the way that they are, after all, they still did NOT ask to be BROUGHT to the “outside world”, you two ADULTS are the ones to have FUCKED, and, out still popped??? Oh yeah, those “pretty little MISTAKES” of yours, remember? Uh, YEAH, and, D-U-H!!!