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How are the Dangerous Children Raised

Attributions of how Enzo Sun became, dangerous, it’s partially, his parents’ faults, or so, the writer of this article believed, and maybe, he’s correct, in that his parents NEVER steered him to the right directions of beliefs, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

The son of Ying Di and Peng Sun, Enzo Sun threatened to open fire in school and was found by American police to have over a thousand bullets and a gun; this shocking amount, certainly, it wasn’t, normal for a high school student to possess. Compared to how the couple had talked about their son, and how they still stood behind him, clearly, they have NO clue what was going on in their son’s mind.

Undeniably, Ying Di and her husband really loved and cared a lot about their son; but, raising children doesn’t mean you give the children everything they will ever want and need. So, what would be the motive, for a child like Enzo Sun who came from a rich and loving family, that’d made him accumulated such an enormous amount of arms? If it was like the couple’s explanations of their son being an arms fanatic, it’s just, self-deceptions, there’s NO sense of persuasion in their statements.

An eighteen-year-old child kept buying up the arms or the weapons—even IF it was, legally obtained, it’s hard, to see the behaviors as “normal”, besides, Enzo had made threats. And still, the couple talked on the matter like it was nothing major, like everything can be, rationalized. In actuality, it was their ways of raising him that went wrong, that was what had, caused their son to stray. Think on it, if it were Enzo Sun’s classmate who’d threatened to blow everybody up at school, wouldn’t they fly into a panic too?

Nobody was born a dangerous child. But, if on the way to growing up, the children didn’t get the right sorts of disciplines or guidance, if their bad behaviors weren’t, corrected, but were, ignored, encouraged, they are going to turn into dangerous people. There are a lot of cases of “Second generation” of the rich and famous committing crimes, including drugs, driving off in famous cars to escape arrest, and, the majority of these were caused by parents’ spoiling. What sort of a love is this?

As children are growing up, do accompany them, help them become good people. And, the minds of parents should, grow too, with the coming of age of their children at the same time.

And so, the writer of this article attributed this young man’s bad behaviors to his parents’ spoiling him rotten, but, he’s already eighteen, and, should be FORCED to take responsibilities for what he does, but, no doubt, that his parents played a vital part in how he’d turned out, they’d, spoiled him, because they overlooked the warning signs that he was showing, the buying of arms in large amounts, the ammunitions, and how this young man had threatened the school, all of these, the couple had, overlooked…

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Leaving the Next Generation, a Life without Fears

From the lips of a college professor here, in Taiwan, from the Front Page Sections, translated…

Since someone who led the Sunflower Movements, who’d wanted to run for a seat in the legislatures was found, to have attacked a girl’s breast in his high school years, there were, several girls who’d come to me, told me, that they’d been sexually harassed before, a girl said, that the man who’d touched her inappropriately had a young child on the back of the bicycle, she just couldn’t believe, that a father would do something so atrocious in front of his own child.  They’d asked, how come after they’d gotten caught, and they still do it over and over again?  Is this an unpreventable behavior?  What do they do, when they faced a sexual predator such as these?

When we’d scanned the brains of the violent offenders, we clearly observed that there’s a lack of functioning in the prefrontal cortex, the area in charge of impulse control, the place where emotional function occurred.  The prefrontal cortex is where higher functioning occurs, in charge of controlling the arousals of our emotions and behaviors, the cingulate cortexes.  They are in charge of executive functioning: attention, impulse control, and working memories (the manipulations and storage of short-term memories), it’s the key to the success and failures of one’s academic performances and performances at work.

Research found, that the mother or the caretakers’ sensitivity level of attention to the infant’s emotional and biological needs is the key to development of executive functioning, and the mother’s sensitivity to the two-month old infant’s needs will affect the child’s ability to control impulses and working memories when the child reaches age two and four.  The mother who scored low in this ability is going to impact the child’s life even more, because the feedback of the emotions from the mother to the child, is the “environment” where the brain matures in, and, in the higher socioeconomic status families, the children may find alternative ways to compensate for the lacking in this area.

After we’d learned a lot about the brains, we’re more and more worried about the conditions of this world, because children learn through modeling, and, there’s an influx of inappropriate behaviors from the media, which causes children to act outrageously and spoke in disrespect toward their adult counterparts.  And, the children’s talking back to the adults, will cause the adults to react more negatively, and, the parents reacting more negatively to the children will also cause the children to behave more badly, and thus, a vicious cycle is formed.

And so, giving the children a proper environment to grow up in is the responsibilities of the society, and, having a public childcare system is the second line of defense.  If the government can spend more money on education, then, it would be able to save a lot of the costs that comes later on.  This attack on a female is only the tip of the iceberg, and, we don’t know how many PSYCHOS are hiding in the dark places, ready, to pounce onto yours, and my daughters still.

It’s our responsibility and duty, to give our next generations, a freedom from fear.

And so, with this world still going PSYCHO, how, can you possibly be sure, that these bad things won’t happen to your loved ones?  You can, you can only hope and pray for the best, there’s NOTHING much that you can do, and, this is still violence against the opposite sex that’s raised an alarm here.

 

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Similar Beginnings, Different Ends

The “contributing factor” of this huge difference would be???  Nurture, mostly…

Similar beginnings, different ends, do you ever wander, why, exactly, it is that those scientists loved twin studies so very much?  It’s because they’re interested to see the effects of nurture, of course.

Similar beginnings, different ends, like how the stories go, not everybody who began the same end the same way, because we must factor in the individual differences of how people experience events differently from one another.

Similar beginnings, different ends, that, is what had happened, we grew up, being exposed to similar things, and yet, look at, how different we’d become, look at where you are, and where I am, that’s odd, isn’t it?  Especially when we were raised, by identical parents!

Similar beginnings, different ends, and that, is how it will go, there’s NO arguments there, and now, I can only, accept the consequences, of this life that’s not of my choosing still………

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With the Encouragement of His Foster Parents, Chou, Who Rebelled Hard, Had Returned to School Again

A story of H-O-P-E, of how someone changed his life, with the love and supports of his foster parents, from the Newspapers, translated…

The twenty-two-year-old college student, Chou’s father was unknown, his mother was sent to jail over ten years ago, the grandparents who looked after him had passed, and, all of these factors, had made him more than rebellious, pessimistic, he’d studied in the first year of high school twice, and had almost quit school, but gladly, his foster parents, Wu and Tsai had given him some stability, gave him a home, that, was how he was able to get into college, to continue his higher education.  He said that he was thankful to his “mom and dad”, to help him gain control over his own life again.

The Taiwan Fund for Children & Families, along with the local government in Changhwa yesterday held a call for foster families, and Chou rushed back to Changhwa to participate in the events, to massage his foster parents, and told him how grateful he was of their love.

Chou said, that his mother raised him on her own, that even though he didn’t know who his birth father was, but he’d been optimistic as he was growing up, but, a series of tragedies struck, in his third grade year, his mother was sent to jail, by the sixth grade, his grandmother passed, the next year, his grandfather died, his aunt could NOT look after him, he was placed into the system, and he felt that “the world had become too dark”, and he “had nothing to live for!”

After he’d started high school, Chou became even MORE rebellious, didn’t take to his studies, that he’d repeated his first year twice, and almost didn’t graduate, but gladly, with the help of the Taiwan Fund of Children & Families, the Wu couple took him home, and loved him like he was their own flesh-and-blood.

He said, as he’d arrived in the home of the Wu’s, Daddy Wu only asked him if “he’d gotten into fights and used drugs”, he’d answered an affirming “no”, and the man took him to the bedroom, and had a long conversation with him, it made him feel cared for and loved, and since then, he’d worked really hard, to get good grades, and to get into college, that he’d owed everything to his “Mom” and “Dad”.

The second-in-command of the county government, Ke said, that most kids came from broken homes, and, the foster homes offered the children the needed care and love that they’d needed, to prevent them from going down the wrong roads.

He’d stated, that the children without the good families, they’d needed more love, but, there is only forty-eight foster families in Changwha, and that there are a TON of children who’d needed to be placed into foster care, hoping that more of the local families can be sponsors to more children.

And this, is how a child’s life was changed, because of the kindness of a couple, who offered their hand in assistance, and, the article’s right in that we need MORE families who can offer this sort of love, care, and concern, to the children who are from those not-so-good backgrounds, after all, “nurture” plays a BIGGER part, in shaping people’s personalities.

 

 

 

 

 

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Raised by Mean

I was, raised by mean, and so, naturally, I am, a “meanie” myself!!!  Raised by mean, you’d turned out to be just as, or even, MEANER than your “previous owners”, because you need to survive.

Raised by mean, a lot of kids are today, and, because they couldn’t take it out on their parents, they’d PICKED on someone their own sizes (as the parents are a HELL of a LOT bigger than they are), that, is why you’d see kids, pushing and shoving one another on the playgrounds during recess.

Raised by mean, you were, as was I, and, the kind of mean I was raised by is JUST as awful as the one they’d raised you by, and so, how come we turned out so totally opposite?  Oh yeah, because I GOT the resilience, and you didn’t, and I will NOT allow anybody, to be mean to me, OR anybody ELSE again, because I HATED being raised by mean.

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