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More Beautiful as She Ages

Elderly are just soooooooooo adorable, aren’t they???  Translated…

If we’re older, can we no longer pursue beauty anymore?  I saw in my neighbor, Mrs. Hsu what it looks, to become more beautiful as one ages.

Mrs. Hsu is already eighty-five years old, she’d put her makeup on in the morning, with lipsticks so very red, with her long white trousers, her purple top, with a beige colored scarf around her neck, with a ton of energy, as she headed to the temples to offer her incense to the gods.  In the afternoons, she’d worn a fitting dress, showed up in the old folks’ activities center of the community, and sang those old tunes with a group of her friends.  In the early evenings, she’d gone strolling close to her home, and her bright-colored cotton workout outfits made her look as if she’s only sixty-something.

Mrs. Hsu once told me, “Getting dressed up is to encourage myself, a reminder of how blessed I am, to be living to this age, and so, I must keep myself active, radiant, every single day to not waste this gift from the heavens above; and as my offspring saw how energetic I am, they’d feel that I’m a cute elderly person too.”

She’s absolutely right, with the right amount of makeup not only make oneself look energetic, but also presentable to the outside world as well, the elderly need this especially.  Who doesn’t want to age gracefully?

So, keeping that positive attitude about life is still a MUST for aging gracefully, because this elderly person maintained her activeness, her involvement with the world around, that, is why she’s not among those in the elderly population that just stayed in their own darkened living rooms, with the televisions, turned on, get ACTIVE, that way, you’ll age gracefully too.

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It’s Great to be Older

Positive attitude toward getting older here, translated…

All of a sudden, I’d felt, it’s GREAT to be elderly!  The elderly has NO one to tie her/him down, free to go as one pleases, without any wants or desires, no sadness or sorrows, no happiness, it’s such an amazing feeling.

The alarm clock had lost its purpose now, I’d gotten to sleep until I wake every single day, if I don’t want to get up yet, I simply, flip over, and fall back into dreams, and I get to sleep, until the sun is high up in the skies, I mean, it’s not like I have anything to get to that’s so urgent, even if I needed to go to the hospitals for my appointments, if it’s a small ailment, then, I can set up a good time, there’s NO need for me, to hurry to the hospitals now.

Only when we’re old, we’d understand what it means for things to flow along slowly and smoothly, life is the same too, no longer would I be rushed to do this or that, everything is done, at my liking, taking things slow and a step at a time, and I wouldn’t miss a step here or there, and, without missing a step here or there, I wouldn’t beat myself up then.

I no longer needed to rush to work, am my own “master”, the bosses, the superior officers, no longer will I work, for the sake of keeping my stomach full, no longer will I need to constantly keep an eye on other people’s moods, to not long for those looks of admirations either; I have an old friend, who too, worked as a reporter, after he’d retired, he’d decorated his study into an office, and had his wife deliver the menus, and he’d write off on it, to satisfy his own need to be a boss, that, is one way to do it all right!

Actually starting on the day of retirement, I’d felt the bliss from not putting on my tie or dress shirt in the morn; the elderly needed not to watch what one wears, so long as it’s clean and comfortable, and, walking with our casual shoes, very leisurely.

When we get to that age, why must we give a DAMN about cholesterol or triglyceride levels?  Just eat whatever pleases you, from time to time, let yourselves go, don’t be too stingy toward yourselves.  The movie Haute Cuisine after the famous chef left the private kitchens of the French president, he’d said something worth noting: living life is not about giving up on gourmet for the sake of health, the elderly, you might want to listen to her.

The elderly ride the busses for free, and gets discounts for the MRT along with the high-speed train fares too, if you want to go someplace, just pick yourselves up and go, go street shopping, go to the park, to see if the flowers are in bloom, and if the birds sitting on the nest eggs became a mom yet, play with those babies in the baby carriages, no matter if you’re going or coming, there would be priority seats for you, and nobody tries to get the seats from you, so comfortable.

Flipping through the papers, look up at the television screen, it’s actually just out of habit, you’d passed through a TON of ups and downs, maybe, there would be NO more news that can get you worked up, the weather’s changing to bad, typhoon is coming, it doesn’t make a difference to your daily living schedules, it’s just another change, and, with all those varieties as spices of life, it isn’t so boring at all.

Finally, I’d gotten all the time, to go to the libraries to read, and now, I will NEVER need to spend a cent on buying books; making a trip to the libraries, check out a few books I’m interested in reading, this can help me pass the time, and add to my knowledge base.  When it’s getting hot, might as well just stay in the air-conditioned libraries, and read books that fits my interests, in the cities, is just like in the oasis of a desert.

When I’m alone at home, I’d put on the operas from the fifties or the sixties, chased away the loneliness, if I’m in the mood, I can sing along too, and, it wouldn’t matter if I’m totally out of tune, the important thing is not to remain silent throughout the entire day.

Didn’t someone say, that the elderly should eat more fruits?  I’d changed into my going out clothes, to the marketplace, to shop for fruits and other types of groceries, picked a few bananas, a few kiwis and apples, a papaya, and a few oranges, after I’d paid, and was about to haul it home, the stand owner said to me, Mr. the fruits are too heavy for you, my husband will drop it off at your place a bit later.  I’m so spoiled, being watched out for and looked after.

The elderly should treat oneself kindly indeed, with a little less of those strict disciplines, laugh and cry as one pleases, I’m the only one that matter in my world, so, what if I get a bit stubborn at one time or the next?

The elderly would always forget things, the memories are deteriorating by the day, but, there are things in life, that you don’t need to recall so precisely, it’s okay to forget them, when one is about to leave this world, just take the good memories with you.

There’s nothing bad about being among the “gray-haired bunch”, there are a lot of people who don’t even make it, to see the day their hair become white, so, we must be even MORE optimistic, to not waste any of the days we have remaining, without worries of the future, and enjoy life in the moment.

After I’d retired I’d returned to Taiwan, and rented a place in the noisy streets of Taipei, the house is not only cramped, old, and it would leak too, but, I’m still living here with great pleasures.

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Reviewing over my whole life, to this age, I can still receive this much respect and care and concerns from the world around, I’m truly thankful to the heavens above, but maybe, I should give more thanks to those kindhearted individuals.

This person has a positive view on aging, because he is still quite healthy, without problems of dementia or serious ailments, and, that, is a blessing, at old age, and, everybody wants to age like this person here, don’t we all???

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The Retired Actor Doesn’t Fear Being Elderly and is Enjoying the Love from the Interactions with His Family Members

How to age gracefully, with the right kind of attitude and everything too!  Translated…

Note from the editor: the moment this article was published, Uncle Yueh Sun’s old time friend, COPD paid him a visit once more, the uncertainties of life would always create a discussion for Yueh Sun and his families abruptly, then, returned that much-needed serenity back to the family, and, leaving behind, the realizations, the understandings, in Mr. Sun’s systems.

As one ages, one must establish stable relations, this, is not the relationships that ended with the termination of his life, it’s something that will continue on, the filial closeness, the brotherly loves, the love for one’s offspring, we normally set up this good way of interactions, and to affect them, to allow them to get along well with each other too, this, is my responsibility.

With the Company of His Wife, They’d Found Life to Be More Interesting

You may have your plans in life, but, whether or not those plans follow through, it may not be up to you to decide.

This year, my children scheduled two family outings, on the day we set to depart for the first trip, my COPD acted up, a cold turned into pneumonia, I got hospitalized; on the eve of the second trip, the same thing happened.  But, it never affected me, my wife was right there, next to me, imagine, flying the business class to Europe, getting on the Love Cruises, how amazing IS that!

I’d asked myself: if at this moment, my life suddenly came to an end, would I accept the finality of it?  The answer is: I do.  Who’s to guarantee that the floods from the typhoons wouldn’t happen, or the events of September 11th, you can’t possibly prepare yourselves for what you don’t know would happen, and, these tragedies may fall on you any instant, and so, you must take advantage of the days before today, and live them all, to the fullest you can.

I’d watched movies, news with my wife normally, or when thoughts just invaded my mind, I’d discussed my tomorrows with my family, or maybe, there wouldn’t even BE a tomorrow, but, we’d held an open attitude on these discussions, filling this serious matter with a lighter note, and, in the seriousness, there stemmed this scent of warmth.

Using LINE, to Show His Daughter His Love

Life, won’t allow you to do as you please, at its varied stages, when you can no longer do as you pleased, review what you have left behind, and, know, what it is, you’re supposed to do in the stage of life you’re currently on.

I’d started preparing for my old age at the age of forty-one, after that age, I’d started adapting my life of the elderly, during the process, I saw some things that I didn’t like, eliminated them. Back then, I’d thought, I may not have an old age to get to, or that, even if I lived that long, all of my old friends would leave me, or maybe, the time would have changed, a lot of unpredictabilities are there, and so, I’d used a more interesting approach, to get honed with the technologies.

For instance, I’d proclaimed my love to my daughter using LINE, “It’s only been two days, and I’m already filled with this sentiment of missing you already!”, and my daughter would return with a smiley face.

We often treated the elderly as filled with a ton of dignity, and all we could do, was show our filial piety toward them, without interacting with them at all.  But, the elderly CAN admit to wrongdoing to one’s own children, they can also joke, can tell the kids what they’re thinking of, and this sort of interactions can change a lot of the things, and the elderly persons won’t feel so isolated either.

Showing Concerns to His Old Friends, Helping Them Get Closure

Life is like the seasons, all the seasons can be beautiful in their own ways.

In midlife, you can’t understand the grace that comes at old age, only through the accumulations of the years, and when you finally reached maturity, eureka!  You’d get to enjoy the things in your lives, when you recalled an old friend, give her/him a call, when you recalled the painful pasts, you can come up with ways to reach closure, I’d done it all already.

I don’t want to be happy by myself, I want someone else to be happy alongside me, the wisdom from the older years can not only help one find closure, but also show some care and concerns to the other person, return to the beginning, recall, what made your love so worthwhile, so wonderful.

I’m currently spending my elderly years, it’s an enjoyment to me, even though, I’d treated each and every day, as if it were my very last, but, this made me more active, in taking advantage of today, today doesn’t just mean today, it also meant the past years, how one can improve the relationships with one’s own families, to utilize the times, to make the best of it.

Younger generations, the middle generations don’t necessarily understand us, but, if we can empathize with them on what they’d gone through in their lives, what their needs are, and interact with one another with love, I believe, that the elderly years would be very wonderful for all.

The prerequisite for this sort of interactions is that NOTHING had gone wrong, like there is NO abuse or neglect, and, it’s easy for this man to say this, because he’d devoted his life to charitable purpose, he’d given everything to others, and, because he has a good heart, that, is why he has it so easy in his elderly years.

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The Mother of Terminal Care: You Must Think Positively at Old Age

Keys to aging gracefully, can you do it???  From the Front Page Sections, translated…

The Priority Reports on Population pointed out, that on average, women in Taiwan live longer than men, but they don’t age as healthily as men.

The analysis from the Statistic Department led by Professor Lin from Dong-Hai University stated, that on average, the healthy years of men after age sixty-five between male and female have eight percent differences, and that there are 2.25 years of extra unhealthy years for women than for men.  He’d stated, that even though, women are found to live longer than men, they’re not necessarily healthier, because their husbands died before they do, women who ended up alone at old age are increasing.

Entering into a publicly owned nursing home in the city of Taipei, those who were there are mostly females, and the manager of this home said, that women who stayed there stayed longer than the men, and, those women who were there, their husbands had died, and they can only rely on the company of their offspring.

And, most researches had discovered, that in order to live long and happy, other than a healthy body, one must also get involved in more social activities, but, based off of the national health institute, over sixty percent of elderly don’t like going outdoors regularly.

And so, how do we, age properly, and age well?  By remaining active through our elderly years, but, how many can actually do that?  Not very many is still my guess!

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Four Ways to Say Your Farewells Gracefully

Let’s see how THIS is done!!!  Translated…

The setting sun gave off some pink shades, radiated through the mirror, and, walking into terminal ward of the Chenggong University Hospital, there’s the pastel theme going on.  Based off of the studies of colors, pink can give people a sense of peace.  Pearl, who was lying in bed, is relaxed and calm physically, but, there was a movie, playing in her mind, in reverse, her own life.

She’d Worked for Her Husband’s Spare Wheel, Simply, to Be There for Her Own Children

At age over seventy, Pearl is a terminal patient with lung cancer, she’d hoped to die with dignity, and checked herself into the terminal ward, she’d become a wife at a very young age, gave him four children, and yet, her husband is a habitual cheat, and, when she was in her thirties, right after when her youngest son was born, her husband had taken his whore, and moved into HER house, she was, replaced; she signed the divorce papers out of desperation, and left the custody of her four kids to the husband’s side of the family.

And what’s worse was that the whore had even asked the husband to hire Pearl as a maid, and back then, in order to be around her kids as they grow up, she’d agreed to it; other than taking care of her four kids, she must serve her ex and his whore, waited on them, hand and foot, cleaned, cooked for them, she couldn’t eat at the same table at dinnertime, must wait until everybody’s done, and then, she picked up their leftovers.

Until all four of her children had grown up, left home for college, did Pearl end her life as a maid, and the four children are extremely kind to Pearl, even AFTER they’d all grown up and left home, the five of them, mother and children, CUT off ALL contact with the husband’s side of the family.

Before She’d Died, She’d Said “Thanks”, The Ex Finally Cried Those Tears of Sorrow and Remorse

On her sick bed, Pearl asked the kids to arrange a meeting with her ex-husband whom she hadn’t seen for over a decade, and, the ex took along an unsettling mind, to see Pearl, one last time; he’d expected to get grilled, and yet, Pearl told him, sensibly, “Thank you, thank you, for giving me four wonderful kids, to allow me to keep the motivation, to keep going through my hard life.”

Letting Go, and, You Can Say Your Farewells without Sadness

Chiao, the professor of the nursing department from Chenggong University said, that spiritual growth is all too important, during the last stages of one’s life, through recalling the past, you will be able to better understand your purpose on earth, and to know if there are any unfulfilled dreams, and carry the satisfactions of the mind, to meet your end, and, the family can say goodbye to you with ease too.

And so, this, is how you CAN age, gracefully, by letting go, by forgiving, by making amends, by not fearing death, and yet, NOT very many people knows how to do this, and this, is one of the MOST important lessons we have, in our separate lives on this planet, and, we only have a couple of decades, to learn all of this fully, and properly, now, the question is: had you learned all the lessons yet?  I KNOW I already H-A-D!!!

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