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The Beginning of the Pursuit of Dreams, from the Workforce


As my eldest graduated college last year, because he was overweight, he’d skipped his draft calls, and went straight into the workforce.  He’d sent in over ten résumés, but, only one company called him for an interview, but unfortunately, he didn’t get the job.  My son told me he was sad, I’d told him not to worry, that the most important thing now for him, was to lose weight, because after he’d gotten his health in check, he can then, face up to the challenges in his life.

And so, my son went on his diets, and looked for work, but, he just couldn’t get the chance to get interviews, I’d asked him why these corporation had not given him a chance?  He’d told me, that he was with NO work experiences, NO certifications.  I’d recalled how I’d once gone through my job search with the employment center, and told him to go to the center to get registered.  He’d gone, and filled out the application for a worker, but the people at the office told him, that he was part-timing, and with a college degree, that it’d be a waste, the worker suggested that he’d apply for job trainings hosted by the government: encouraging those who are fresh in the workforce, to up their abilities; it’d offered youths from ages eighteen to twenty-nine, who had served their army terms, or exempt from serving, money, for training, up to $120,000N.T.

For this training, you could pay a fee, to take the courses, and, after you’d finished the courses, you can take the receipts to the government, to ask for tuition supplementing.  After my son learned of this, he’d immediately signed up, and, was prepared to get his certification in six months.  I’d recalled how he’d wanted to own a computer shop when he was younger, and now, he’s marching towards his dreams.  The assistance of $120,000N.T., gave way to the start of a young man’s dreams, it’s enough!  We saw how our son was willing to take this first step out, we feel very proud of him.

My son told us, that among his classmates, who’d looked for a job in a hurry, and ended up working for a falsified company, and in the end, not only did he not earn anything, he’d also gotten sued, and must pay fines; and, there was one, who’d crushed his pinky at work.  I felt so awful for them after I’d heard, I’d told my son, that he needed not worry about our finances, just go for his dreams, and not care how much wages his boss paid him, and ask himself, how many Ks am I worth?

A certain entrepreneur said, that entering the workforce at the age of twenty-three is simply too cruel, but, I think otherwise.  Because you’re young, and you can withstand your failed attempts, after several failures, my twenty-three year-old son would know, what his goals in life are, and what skills he needed to hone up on.

And so, this, is a great way, to encourage the younger generations, but, most parents are pressing their young, to GO find work, after graduation, after all, the parents are worried about their offspring’s futures, but hey, your children’s futures are already SET, and, you parents, worrying over what their plans are for the future is not going to help their transitions into adulthood easier, so, just let go already, because, everything HAS its time, just like the above had proven!

Is the Degree Really Useless?

Views on life, translated…

My students told me something odd; he’d wanted to take the government position exams, and, after he’d passed, he’d planned to drop out of school and start working, then, used his time being employed, to study, and finish up his college education, and work on the level examinations, then, work at government post until he retires.

What I was shocking was, that this student was originally, the most outstanding student of the class, he’d originally planned to take the judgeship examinations after he graduated from college, so, where did this huge change in him come from?

Turns out, other than the influences from his family, the society also had a huge impact on him, changing his mind.  How was he supposed to live off of just 20K a month?  Plus, if he wants to finish his college education, he still had to pay up his student loans for the four years, and so, he was hurried, to get himself into the workforce, so he could lessen the economic strains on his own family, as well as himself too.  I wanted to ask him, that if this, was actually what he wanted to do, or, was he pressed, by the economics?

Actually, his decision had made me feel, recalling how back in my twenties, I was, a carefree college student, although I’d nickeled and dimed my way through school, at least, I had no worries for my future, believed, that after I’d graduated, I should be able to find a job, I need to enjoy living, as a college student for the moment!

And still, with the changes that comes, the environment is no longer the same, and, the thoughts changed too, and, this current generation is filled with the uncertainties of the future.  I’d wanted to tell him, that college is for discoveries, and to contemplate one’s own future, it shouldn’t be a stepping stone to a job; there’s a lot of experiences to be had, and one must take advantage of it.  The early onset of being pressured by the economic burdens can cause one to forget about the passions one once held, and, end up, missing out, on this beautiful time of learning altogether.

And so, this student is focused on getting himself into a government post, as having a government post means that you’re SET for life, and that, would be the direction where a lot of the students now are working towards, and, they FAILED to realize, that college is a time for exploration, your last year of learning, after all, once you’re out of college, you’ll be, bombarded with the demands of the adulthood years, and, if you didn’t take full advantage of those schooling years, then, you will, end up regretting it.

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The Unexpected Empty Nest

Here comes, that emptiness, and, it’s finally, hittin’ ya, isn’t it???  Translated…

My eldest is a junior in university, is already prepping for the internship that he’d signed on for; my second child is in her last year of high school, and because she’s about to take the college entrance exams, she’s working hard, to study, and heads out early and comes home late; as for my youngest, is a first-year high school student, is still, trying to adapt to the new scheduling of the high school, busying in the extracurricular activities.

With my children growing up one by one, I’d finally have my own space, they no longer needed me to pick them up, it’d made me feel loss, and I’m having some minor difficulties, adjusting to this.

One day, I felt the spare times creeping up on me again, I was flipping the channels, aimlessly, using the remote, and I’d seen the ads for “Certifications of Hakka Dialect Abilities”, and I’d thought, now that I have all this spare time, and I’m of that descent, why not give it a try.  And so, I’d signed on, to take the tests, and, gladly, I was able to sail through the most basic level, to the most advanced without any difficulty, I’m really glad of this, because it proves that I still have the abilities.

With this brand new beautiful beginning, it’d increased my confidence level, and, ever since, I’d gotten really into taking examinations.  One day, my friend came over to hang out, and, in our casual conversations, she’d said, “the county governments would hold the extra exams for teachers, and, there’s the item of dialects, why don’t you try it, maybe, you can add one more identity to you.”

On that very night, I couldn’t wait to tell this news to my husband, after he’d heard, he supported me, he said, “honey, you’d worked really hard for this family for over two decades, and now, the kids are all grown, it’s time, that you started living for yourself, if you want to try, then, go on ahead, I will be behind you all the way.”, with his words, my heart felt settled, I wasn’t afraid of anything anymore.

On the day of the examinations, as I’d taken the forms I’d filed, entered into the testing place, “Wow, so many people!”, all of sudden, the courage it took, for me to sign up for the examinations came crumbling down.

My husband saw my unsettlement, held tightly to my hands, whispered lightly into my ears, “hon, you can totally do this!”

Thanks for the blessings, Lady Luck came to bless me once more, I’d gotten in.  As I was picking up my examination grades, I couldn’t believe my eyes, I can be a teacher now, I was so overjoyed.

And now, I’m busy, and fulfilled, other than working at the school, in my spare time, I’d also written articles, to earn the money for my submissions, and I’d published some Hakka children’s verses, wrote Hakka play scripts, and had taken my students to countless Hakka competitions, my life is really colorful, and fulfilled, and when my kids wanted to ask me out, they’d had to make appointments.

Thinking back, the empty nest isn’t as empty as we thought it would be, so long as you planned ahead, face it with courage, welcome it, then, you can have a fulfilled life during this period of your life too.

And so, this woman’s stresses was seen from the beginning, but, she’d decided, to NOT allow her empty nest get to her, she’d started fulfilling her dreams, and with the support of her husband, she’d managed her empty nest relatively well.

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Don’t Underestimate Your Own Potentials

Family DO matter here, translated…

My good friend, Ling has a great interest in the areas of parenting and the monitoring of children’s emotions, she’d taken a recreational course on “The Certifications of Afterschool Programs for Children in the Elementary Years”, along with related courses.  Finally, after she’d gone through 180 hours of theoretical ideals, along with hands-on trainings, she’d finally received her certificate of completion.

She told me, she’s very grateful toward her husband, for her being able to achieve her dreams, along with her two wonderful girls.  And, it was because of the family’s tolerance of her and continued support, that, was how she was able to complete the classes, to pursue her own dreams.

After I heard, I’d told her, “Your husband’s love for you surely IS heartfelt, not only does he encourage you to take the classes, he’d switched roles with you, so you can focus in your studies, such a wonderful man who respected his wife, who works hard for your marriage.”

Ling smiled and said, “earning this certificate of completion allowed me to understand, that I should NEVER underestimate my own abilities, and at the same time, I want to thank those who showed me the support, the close friends, the coworkers, my families, they gave me the strength, to move forward.”

And now, Ling spent half of the day in an elementary school close to her house, and worked as an instructor, for the writing club.  She felt, that teaching the kids can increase her own attentiveness, along with help her become more patient; at the same time, she was awed at the vivid imagination that the kids have, it’d made her more open when she teaches her own two daughters, she doesn’t spoil them, and treats them the same.

Seeing how Ling was able to find the direction in her life, not getting bogged down by the reality, as her good friend, other than being proud of her, I’m moved by the entire family’s willingness to compromise.  And, it’s also because she had this strong support from her family, she could make a brand new beautiful scene in her career.

And so, this woman owed her success to her family, because, if they didn’t support her dreams, she would’ve had it even HARDER, in achieving what she had done.  This just shows, how important supporting each other’s decisions is in the family.


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Work Hard, and Your Dreams Shall Come True, on Education of Children


I’m a last year middle school instructor, I’m also the parent of a examination taker, toward the parents of my students, along with my own child too, I’d had a very different testing season.

After the major tests were done, after the first scores were noted, a TON of the kids in my class said that they don’t want to go for another test anymore, that they’re only young once, they don’t want to waste their youths away, cramming, but, they seemed to be dissatisfied with the schools they’d gotten into.  I’d asked how they felt, a lot of them believed that they should party hard first.  There are, however, three or four kids that told me, that they wanted to take the specialty exams, to give themselves another shot.

As I’d returned home, my only baby girl too, was crying, she seemed dissatisfied at the school she’d been accepted to, she told me, that she wanted to take the specialty examinations and was ready to buckle down and study.  I asked her, if there’s anything I can do, to help her out?  She hoped to take extra sessions at cram school.

And so, she started focusing on her plans of beating it, and, every day before seven I’d taken her to San-Chong MRT Station, where she got on, to go to cram school on her own; and at eleven in the night, we’d picked her up at the MRT stations.  My wife felt bad, seeing how my child would drag her tired body, she’d felt her heart ache, but I’d told my daughter clearly, that going to school is the easy part, that there are more challenges in her future up ahead, and that she should treat this time of her life, as the most hard-working time of her career as a middle school student then!

And so, some chose to party, other, to give oneself another chance.  Because of the typhoon, the grades were posted early, and my daughter got into the top three schools she’d hoped for, and those students who’d given themselves another chance, all performed relatively well too, some had even gotten accept to their first choice.  But, I’d seen on Facebook, “It must be easy for you, who’d taken the specialized examinations, so easily, you’d scored so high, had I known, I would’ve signed up too…”, without realizing, that on this road, those kids who walked it, had already worked real hard, to get to where they currently are.

In the depth of the night, I saw an article I’d saved after I’d retaken the entrance for my technical college, it wrote: “This, is probably how we all grew up/when we were younger, the meaning of life/existed only in July of the year/and so we worked hard/and studied underneath the early morning bus stops/to the lamplights of late nights…………”

Then, I wanted to cry, working hard, and, you will achieve your dreams!  Recalling my students, my own daughter, and I’d also gotten reminded of how I’d retaken my exams too, how much stamina I’d had back then.

And so, this, just shows you, how you need to set a good example for your kid to follow, like the writer of this article, he too, retook his entrance, because he didn’t get the desired grades the first time, and, because of his hard-working, never-quitting attitude, he’d gotten where he was.

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A Deadline for Yourselves

Did you set one yet?  I mean, if you don’t, how will you know how FAR you’d gone, or how far you should’ve gone, or even, how far you could’ve gone in life?

A deadline for yourselves, this, is all too important, because if you got NONE, then, you’re basically, wasting your life away, indefinitely, because you will wander, aimlessly, NOT knowing what you want out of your lives, and, by the time you’d realized this, a TON (and no, that’s still NOT an exaggeration) of years would’ve gone by, and, you’d be left with???  Nothing but that huge river of regret, growing wilder, as the flood water came UP to the “banks”, threatening your lives.

A deadline for yourselves, SET it, quickly, and, don’t squander your years away like your parents did.  A deadline for yourselves, you MUST have, because, how ELSE will you know if you’d achieved what you were supposed to in life if you don’t have one???



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My Daughter Who’s Insistent on Attending College


After thumbing across “My Daughter Who is Insistent on Going to Art School”, I felt a connection, because my daughter, in the process of her academic career, had met up with a TON of forks in the road too.

The test grades from her final year in middle school came out, and we’d sweated cold sweats for her, back then, she’d insisted on going to a regular high school, to fulfill her dreams of being a geography teacher, without knowing, that she didn’t score high enough on her examinations.  After rounds of discussions, we’d advised her to go to a technical high school with a pretty good reputation, and, with her abilities, we believe, that she is surely, to do very well.

On her second year, her counselor called me up, wanted me to come by, turns out, that my daughter still hung on to the dreams of attending college.  But, she’s already a second year student in high school, isn’t it too late, to change tracks?  Plus, my daughter’s grades isn’t at all bad in her school, she should have NO problems, getting into a public technical university that’s for sure.

And, after this had occurred, other than blaming ourselves, there wasn’t much else we could say, to change her mind, we could only warn her, that it would be fine, if she wanted to go take the college entrance exams, but the rule was that she needed to get a good grade, so she could get her graduation from technical high school, since then, she’d started finding cram schools, and started burning on both ends, and, as a result, her grades suffered in school, and, the support she’d received from her school instructors became reduced, bit by bit.  After all, it was, hard enough, to get into a public technical university, but, my daughter doesn’t seem to be satisfied with what she has.

Finally, she’d gotten through her college entrance exams, even though, the grades were NOT as she’d expected, but, for my daughter who wasn’t taught in the academia, she’d done okay.  And now, she’ll have to face the application processes and the interviews, for us, this, is completely foreign, and so, we couldn’t give her any sort of a guidance on it.  And still, she’d passed through one difficulty right after the next, and, out of our expectations, she’d gotten in to a public university, and, the major she’d gotten in, she was the FIRST person in a graduating technical high school to get into that major.

And now, as a college student, my daughter enjoyed her life right now.  She knew that she’d started half way, and still worked like crazy to catch up, and, when she’d thumbed across cases of how college students are slacking off, she’d told me with full confidence, “This, is the passage of my choosing, don’t worry, I won’t let you down!”

So long as she’s happy, as parents, who are we to argue with her?

And so, this young woman’s determination, and her hard work, because she’d set a goal for herself, and she insisted on making it, so, she’d worked hard toward her goal, and now, she has, and she knew, that compare to the rest of the classmen, she must work hard, because she’d studied in a technical high school, and that the academic track was not hers to follow originally, but now that she’d chosen this path on HER own, she needed to be responsible to herself.

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