I’d been a single mother for five years, my son went with his father, and I have custody over my daughter. After I’d had several honest to heart conversations with both our parents, as well as my children’s father, my ex-husband finally agreed, mid last year, that the older brother and younger sister could have four days out of the month to spend together. And so, the very last weekend of the month, my daughter would head over to her father’s, and, these two days became my “single days”.
I’d gotten used to life with my daughter by my side, and, suddenly, from Friday evenings to Sunday evenings, I no longer had her company, her voice no longer resonated through the house, the bed became so spacious, it was, really hard, for me to adapt, I’d missed her so. In order, to keep myself from missing her too much, I’d headed over to the office on Saturdays to work, buried myself in work; and on Sundays, I’d slept in, and take my leisure breakfasts, then, headed out, to ride, to hike, or to meet up with my friends. And, all of a sudden, it came time, to pick my daughter up again.
During the two days my daughter was away, it was like an early onset of my empty nest, at first, I had troubles, filling up this void, but now, I’d gotten used to it. And, life is just like so, when there came varied situations, we must all, make adjustments, to work, to transfer our attention elsewhere.
Recently I’d read the activities of the volunteers on the United Daily News, I’m going to sign up as a volunteer too. I believe, that when my empty nest comes, or when I’m about to retire, I can already live this life I’d already planned out well.
So, your daughter going to spend the weekend with her father became your trial-run for your own empty nest, and, it is important, to have multiple hobbies, established, WAY before you’re retiring, or your empty nests really actually HIT you, because if you’d waited until then, to start planning it, well, it’ll be, too late then.