Tag Archives: family dynamics

Brought Up that Way

“You can’t blame him”, she’d told, all her friends, as they all showed their condolences toward how she got that shiner on her eye, along with those bruised cheeks, again!

Brought up that way, that, was the sorry excuse that she’d used, to rationalize why he would take the downs of his life out on her!  Brought up that way, excusing his bad behaviors, how long, can you keep on, lying to yourself?  I know how much you wanted to believe in his FALSE promises of how he’ll change, how he will NEVER lay a hand on you, but, by NOT taking actions against HIS abuse, you’re only, getting yourself deeper…

Brought up that way, you’d been, using that, to EXCUSE his bad behaviors, and how many times had he hit you?  Gosh, I dunno, let me C-O-U-N-T………Brought up that way, yeah, so, let’s, examine the situations, shall we?  So, based off of that way of logic, shouldn’t ALL men who were raised under abuse, BE abusive?  But, NOT all MEN raised by abuse are abusive to their spouses (although the occurrences of abuse is higher, than the occurrences of not!).

Brought up that way?  So, I can BEAT the SHIT out of someone, when I feel awful about me, if I saw my father, beating on my mother every single night of my childhood?  Or, can I say those “accidental” hurtful words to you, because I heard daddy, yelling those mean things to mommy, and, they actually thought, that I was, already, asleep, as their arguments occurred, LATE in the nights?

Stop making excuses already, brought up that way?  Yeah, I too, WAS raised up by VERBAL, EMOTIONAL/PSYCHOLOGICAL abuses, as well as SEXUAL molestations, and for that, I’d taken it all out, on my D-O-L-L-S, ‘cuz they can’t fight BACK, so, don’t tell me I don’t know SHIT ‘bout scapegoating here!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

20 Comments

Filed under Abuse, Awareness, Being Exposed, Cost of Living, Early Exposures, Excuses, Family Dynamics, Lives Lost, Loss, Properties of Life, Vicious Cycle, Wake Up Calls

Trying to Patch Up an Already Broken Relationship

This, just H-I-T me, way after my child had grown up, and flown the N-E-S-T.  Trying to patch up an already broken relationship with your child?  What makes you think that that kid that you’d abandoned, or felt abandoned by you would want you back into her/his life, NOW that s/he is all grown up?

Trying to patch up an already broken relationship with your child, this, is a next-to-impossible feat.  Trying to patch up an already broken relationship, there’s NO way you can do it, because, once a relationship gets broken, it WILL be beyond anybody’s

R-E-P-A-I-R!!!

Trying to patch up an already broken relationship, because you wanted it all back, because after you’d lost it, you’d come to your senses about how wonderful your older loves were, and, you wanted it all back again, but, CAN you?  I mean, have it all back again?

Or, could it be, that as you aged, you’re losing more, more and MORE of your abilities, that you all of a sudden realized, that you N-E-E-D to find someone to CLING on to…………

 

 

 

 

 

Leave a comment

Filed under Carelessness of Adults, Childhood, Family Matters